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The Heauxliloquy Podcast is a bi-weekly sex-positive podcast that discusses the variability of sexual expression. It provides a safe space for conversations related to sexuality. We dive deep into our individual perspectives and occasionally debate our differences. It is a space for understanding that we all have a different understanding of sexual expression and this is normal. The podcast places consent, empathy, and personal autonomy at the forefront of our conversations. Part of the mission of the show is to shift the perspective of sexuality to help others embrace themselves more intimately. Additionally, the show has a mission to fight against rape culture and uplift conversations about consent within our daily lives. The host of the show is Dr. Vernon T. Scott. His doctorate is in education - leadership and professional practice. His dissertation is related to systemic rape culture. He is currently working on a master's degree in marriage and family therapy with a systemic sex therapy specialization and earning a certification as a sex coach.   Follow and Support the Podcast Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/heauxliloquy Twitter: @Heauxliloquy (https://www.twitter.com/heauxliloquy) Website: https://www.heauxliloquy.com Vernon's book: https://amzn.to/3vsZDm5 Vernon's IG: UrFavHeauxst (https://www.instagram.com/UrFavHeauxst/) Therapy w/ Vernon: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/vernon-t-scott-decatur-ga/1201103 Subscribe to the Viberator In My Pod - https://linktr.ee/heauxliloquy   Crisis and Psychological Resources Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network https://www.rainn.org 800-656-HOPE (4673) National Suicide Prevention Lifeline https://www.988lifeline.org 800-273-TALK (8255) Text or call 988 National Domestic Violence Hotline https://www.thehotline.org 800-799-7233 Text START to 88788 Find A Therapist American Psychological Association (https://www.apa.org/topics/crisis-hotlines) Psychology Today (https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/family-marital) Therapist Locator (https://www.therapistlocator.net/) Access additional resources on Open Counseling (https://blog.opencounseling.com/hotlines-us/) Open Counseling also has a list of International Hotlines (https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlines/)   Slaytor's Playhouse on the Web Slaytor's Playhouse: https://slaytorsplayhouse.com SP Linktree: https://linktr.ee/slaytorsplayhouse SP YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCfS8UcvYHLtiDsfqQqTLJeg Coaching services available through Slaytor's Playhouse (https://bit.ly/3Deizss) Donate to Slaytor's Playhouse (https://bit.ly/3qDGUTF)   Referrals and Affiliates If you are interested in signing up for Episodic Sound and accessing their list of royalty free music, please use my affiliate link (https://www.epidemicsound.com/referral/2mj5fk).   If you are interested in joining the podcasting world and creating your own podcast, check out PodBean (https://www.podbean.com/topheauxpod). Sign up today and get one month free.   Sponsorship Looking to sponsor the podcast? Email Slaytor's Playhouse at info@slaytorsplayhouse.com.   The Heuaxliloquy Podcast Media Kit (https://bit.ly/35U78Kg)   If you are an advertiser trying to reach a new market, check out PodBean Advertising (https://sponsorship.podbean.com/topheauxpod). Use the link to get up to $100 credits for running your first ad on PodBean.

Most of us live our lives on a stage, constantly performing for an invisible audience of parents, peers, or society, terrified of hearing silence instead of applause. But what if the curtain came down, the lights went out, and there was no one left to impress but yourself? In this episode, we will explore the radical freedom of taking off the mask and discovering the life you were actually meant to live, not the one you were told to perform. New Episode of the Happiness Podcast with Dr. Robert Puff, Ph.D.

Most of us know about the “fight, flight, freeze” responses to trauma. But there is another concept that has been steadily gaining awareness over the last several years, in large part due to pop psychology on social media: Fawning.You might have heard it described as akin to extreme people-pleasing, over-accommodating, over-functioning, and fundamentally a problem in the person doing the fawning. But as my guest today illuminates for us, it's not a personal failing, or even always a conscious choice. It is human nature to prioritize safety and connection, and fawning is a means of keeping ourselves safe. But when fawning runs the show, self-leadership diminishes and quietly drifts toward conflict-avoiding, blurred boundaries, and self-abandonment.Waking up to your fawning response takes courage. You will meet resistance from some as you shift the dynamics of your relationships. But it also unlocks deeper intimacy, more honest connection, and the joy that comes from trusting yourself and letting others meet the real you.This conversation invites you to consider where and with whom you fawn, and how you might want to respond in the future. Fawning has a real purpose when safety is on the line, but the more we are aware of it, the more we can be intentional about how we show up in our relationships.Ingrid Clayton is a licensed clinical psychologist with a master's degree in transpersonal psychology and a Ph.D. in clinical psychology. In her private practice in Los Angeles she supports individuals in healing trauma, reclaiming agency, and reconnecting to their authentic selves.She is a regular contributor to Psychology Today, and her work has been featured in Oprah Daily, The New York Times, Women's Health, Forbes, 10% Happier with Dan Harris, Girls Gotta Eat, and NPR's On Point with Meghna Chakrabarti. Ingrid's latest book, Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves and How to Find Our Way Back, explores the often-overlooked fawn response to trauma.Listen to the full episode to hear:Why fawning shows up as an unconscious response to ongoing relational traumaHow understanding fawning helped Ingrid understand and heal from her own complex traumaHow our culture demands and reinforces fawning for women and marginalized peopleThe often very real bind of choosing safety over self and the feedback loop it createsAccessible practices to build a sense of internal safety and self-trustHow chronic fawning and self-abandonment contribute to burnoutLearn more about Ingrid Clayton, PhD:WebsiteInstagram: @ingridclaytonphdFacebook: @ingridclaytonphdYouTube: @ingridclaytonphdUnfawning on SubstackFawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves–and How to Find Our Way BackBelieving Me: Healing from Narcissistic Abuse and Complex TraumaLearn more about Rebecca:rebeccaching.comWork With RebeccaThe Unburdened Leader on SubstackSign up for the weekly Unburdened Leader EmailResources:What Is the Fawning Trauma Response? | Psychology TodayPeter LevineThe Greatest Showman Cast - This Is MeThe Traitors

In this episode, Niall speaks with Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman, a cognitive scientist, humanistic psychologist, and author of “Rise Above”. Scott has spent his career redefining human potential and helping people overcome limiting beliefs. Despite being placed in special education as a child due to an auditory learning disability, he earned his PhD and is now one of the most cited psychologists in the world. In this conversation, they explore: — The difference between being a victim and having a victim mindset — Why vulnerable narcissism can block self-actualisation — How the stories we tell ourselves shape our potential — The value of shifting from “why” questions to “what” questions — Scott's approach to self-actualisation coaching and connecting to your core self And more. You can learn more about Scott's work at https://scottbarrykaufman.com. --- Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman is a psychologist, coach, professor, keynote speaker, and best-selling author who is passionate about helping all kinds of minds live a creative, fulfilling, and self-actualized life. His early educational experiences made him realize the deep reservoir of untapped potential of students, including bright and creative children who have been diagnosed with a learning disability. Dr. Kaufman is among the top 1% most cited scientists in the world for his research on intelligence and creativity. Dr. Kaufman is a professor of psychology at Columbia University and director of the Center for Human Potential. He hosts The Psychology Podcast which has received over 30 million downloads and is widely considered among the top psychology podcasts in the world. He is also a regular keynote speaker. If you'd like him to speak at one of your events, you can make a request here. Dr. Kaufman's writing has appeared in The Atlantic, Scientific American, Psychology Today, and Harvard Business Review, and he is the author and editor of 11 books. In his most recent book Rise Above: Overcome a Victim Mindset, Empower Yourself, and Realize Your Full Potential, his explores the limiting beliefs and widespread anxiety that puts us in boxes, lowers our expectations, and holds us back in our lives. In addition to teaching at Columbia, Dr. Kaufman has also been a professor at the University of Pennsylvania and NYU. Dr. Kaufman received a B.S. in psychology and human computer interaction from Carnegie Mellon, an M. Phil in experimental psychology from the University of Cambridge under a Gates Cambridge Scholarship, and a Ph.D. in cognitive psychology from Yale University (see his dissertation Beyond General Intelligence: The Dual-Process Theory of Human Intelligence). He is founder of Self-Actualization Coaching, receiving his formal coaching training from Positive Acorn. He is also an Honorary Principal Fellow at the University of Melbourne's Centre for Wellbeing Science. --- Interview Links: — Dr. Kaufman's website: https://scottbarrykaufman.com/ — Dr. Kaufman's book: https://amzn.to/4rvXC4C

Learn more about Michael Wenderoth, Executive Coach: www.changwenderoth.comMost women have lived as the side dish – supporting everyone else while putting themselves last. When I shared that line with my wife, she didn't hesitate: “That's me.” In this episode of 97% Effective, I speak with Deborah Grayson Riegel — executive coach, leadership communications expert, and co‑creator of TheMeMenu, a new personal growth platform designed for women over 50 who are ready to reclaim agency, imagination, and momentum in their lives. Deb shares how she teamed up with celebrity chef Carla Hall to build something that blends coaching, creativity, and AI — all through the metaphor of cooking and their Six Flavor framework. We discuss what's different for women 50+, how AI can democratize coaching (and where humans still matter most), and what partners can actually do — practically — to support the women they love. I also share what surprised me most in this conversation — including what I learned after asking my own wife what actually helps (hint: “How can I help?” isn't always it). By the end of this episode, you'll see cooking as a powerful lens for work and life. While The ME Menu is designed for women over 50, the key message — navigating obligation and agency — applies to anyone ready to write their next chapter.SHOW NOTESTheMeMenu storyWhy so many women spend decades as the “side dish,” what it means to reclaim main-dish energy – and why that mattersHow Deb connected with Carla Hall, celebrity chef, and why the collaboration clicked so wellWhat TheMeMenu actually is: A way of thinking and being + 6-week self-paced coaching program + An AI-powered “Sous Chef” for spot-coachingWhat makes TheMeMenu unique: Built by women over 50 for women over 50, Carla Hall's “secret sauce”, and a mission to democratize access to coachingWhy Deb sees AI as a complement to human coaching, not a replacementInside the CollaborationDeb, Carla, and Kirsten: three women, three strengthsTheir creative process: cooking vs bakingWhy “nothing works if the raw ingredients aren't good”The importance of creating their “mise en place”Over 100 iterations – and why “there's no such thing as done”Building a product while the technology was still emerging Practical TakeawaysWhat partners, spouses, kids, and friends can most do to support the women in their livesTwo powerful questions to ask – and 1 micro-behavior that mattersWhy “How can I help?' can be taxing – and why it's often better to just make offersThinking in terms of a lifelong conversation, not a one-time check-inLightning Round laser insights: Deb on the hard truth about personal change, the key to collaboration, the power of her summer in Spain, and the focus of her new book, Aim High and Bounce Back: A Successful Woman's Guide to Rethinking and Rising Up from Failure BIO AND LINKSDeborah Grayson Riegel, MSW, PCC is a keynote speaker, leadership communications expert, executive coach, and author. She is the co-creator of TheMeMenu.com, a self-paced coaching platform designed to help women reclaim purpose and momentum in midlife and beyond. Deb is a regular contributor for Harvard Business Review, Inc., Psychology Today, Forbes, and Fast Company – and author of multiple books include Go to Help, Overcoming Overthinking, and her newest book, Aim High and Bounce Back (2026), which explores how women experience failure differently — and how to rise after setbacks. She is a certified executive coach (ICF PCC) and holds a BA from University of Michigan and MSW from Columbia University. Connect with DebTheMeMenu: https://www.thememenu.com/aboutDeb's website: https://deborahgraysonriegel.com/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/deborahgraysonriegel/Deb's new book, with Fiona Macaulay – Aim High and Bounce Back: A Successful Woman's Guide to Rethinking and Rising Up from Failure https://a.co/d/05NJJNcn People and Things referencedCarla Hall, celebrity chef: https://carlahall.comStanford Business School WIM groups: https://tinyurl.com/yc6zssc2Halle Barry at the DealBook Summit: https://tinyurl.com/ymmcuk54What exclaiming “poo-poo-poo” means (Jewish expression): https://tinyurl.com/yn6ny9t3Hybrid Intelligence: 2025 Columbia University Coaching Conference https://tinyurl.com/4ss3s2cr“Mise en place” (French culinary phrase for “putting in place”): https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mise_en_place More from 97% EffectiveMichael's Award-winning Book: Get Promoted: What You're Really Missing at Work That's Holding You Back: https://tinyurl.com/453txk74Watch this episode on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@97PercentEffectiveAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Dr. Jennifer Fraser is the author of The Bullied Brain and The Gaslit Brain. It is her mission to educate people on how to recognize and name these behaviors and stay safe when they show up. Mentioned on the ShowDr. Jennifer Fraser's website: https://bulliedbrain.com/Read The Gaslit Brain: https://a.co/d/0fupTc7KGet Dr. Fraser's book The Bullied Brain: https://a.co/d/09JvZBgoJennifer Fraser, PhD is a regular contributor to Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/contributors/jennifer-fraser-phdLearn more about BrainHQ training: https://www.brainhq.com/Timestamps(00:00:00) - Jennifer Fraser, PhD joins People Business with O'Brien McMahon(00:02:24) - Workplace dynamics: Personal agendas vs. Organizational agendas(00:06:09) - Denial: why do we think “this could never happen”?(00:11:48) - What does gaslighting look like and what is manipulative communication?(00:17:46) - What is happening in our brains when we are being gaslit?(00:23:25) - What is healthy self-esteem and status and what is unhealthy ego?(00:25:55) - Is “true” psychopathy a spectrum?(00:29:40) - DARVO: Denial; attack; reverse; victim; offender(00:35:30) - When is appropriate to terminate and when should a second chance be offered?(00:37:46) - How can workplace gaslighting be recognized earlier?(00:48:08) - What happens in the brain after gaslighting and bullying?(00:53:20) - How we should think about high status people in positions of power?(01:00:38) - Final thoughts from Jennifer Fraser, PhD

Marly Brodsky is an international healthcare expert, licensed health educator, and CEO of Med Companion—a groundbreaking virtual patient advocacy service designed to bring humanity back into healthcare. After losing her grandmother to cancer due to gaps in the system, Marly left a high-level corporate healthcare role (where she led 15,000+ employees) to build a solution that helps patients navigate appointments, insurance, billing errors, and life-changing diagnoses. Recognized by Forbes and Psychology Today, Marly is on a mission to become the “human prescription” patients desperately need. On this episode we talk about: The broken gaps in the healthcare system—and why they cost patients time, money, and even lives Why Marly quit her corporate job overnight to start her company How patient advocacy can save thousands in medical billing mistakes The emotional toll of navigating cancer diagnoses and complex care Building awareness for a service people don't know they need—until it's too late Top 3 Takeaways Time is everything in healthcare. Delays, missed appointments, and insurance red tape can drastically impact outcomes—especially with serious diagnoses like cancer. Medical bills are often negotiable or incorrect. Having an advocate can save you thousands simply by catching coding errors or fighting improper charges. Entrepreneurship requires courage. Marly “burned the boats,” left a comfortable executive role, and built a mission-driven company despite uncertainty and fear. Notable Quotes “When you're sick and not feeling well, that's the most dangerous place to be navigating the system alone.” “Time is everything—especially for cancer patients.” “Healthcare shouldn't be stressful. Go enjoy your life and let us handle the in-betweens.” Connect with Marly Brodsky: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/marlybrodsky/ Instagram (Marlee): https://www.instagram.com/marly_brodsky/ Instagram (Company): https://www.instagram.com/medcompanion.co/ Website: https://medcompanion.com Travis Makes Money is made possible by High Level – the All-In-One Sales & Marketing Platform built for agencies, by an agency. Capture leads, nurture them, and close more deals—all from one powerful platform. Get an extended free trial at gohighlevel.com/travis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever tried to hold onto water or a handful of sand? The tighter you squeeze your fist, the faster it slips through your fingers, yet when you open your hand, it rests there effortlessly. In this episode, we will explore the profound spiritual paradox that true abundance and love can only enter an open hand, and discover how to deeply enjoy the world without the suffocating grip of attachment. New Episode of the Happiness Podcast with Dr. Robert Puff, Ph.D.

Dr. Reid is a clinical assistant professor at University of Pennsylvania and an associate professor at Cooper Medical School of Rowan University.  She attended medical school at Columbia University College of Physicians and Surgeons and completed her psychiatry residency at UCLA. This podcast will focus on her new book, Guilt Free:  Reclaiming Your Life from Unreasonable Expectations.  Dr. Reid also writes and podcasts on Substack at A Mind of Her Own focused on helping individuals nurture a deep and lasting self-trust.  She is also a regular contributor to Psychology Today with her blog "Think like a Shrink."  Her writing has also been featured on KevinMD and Doximity.  For more information, please see:  https://www.jenniferreidmd.com/ This podcast is available on your favorite podcast platform, or here:https://endoftheroad.libsyn.com/episode-334-dr-jennifer-reid-guilt-free-reclaiming-your-life-from-unreasonable-expectations Have a blessed weekend!

Send us an email @ info@parentcoachesunleashed.com SummaryIn this episode of Parent Coaches Unleashed, Carrie Wiesenfeld and Jessica Anger engage in a heartfelt conversation with Paige, a mother of a transgender daughter named Chloe. They explore the journey of recognizing Chloe's gender identity from a young age, the importance of support systems, medical guidance, and the challenges faced in social transition, sports participation, and dating. Paige shares her experiences, insights, and resources for parents navigating similar paths, emphasizing the need for open communication, understanding, and community support.TakeawaysIt's essential to recognize and support a child's gender identity early on.Language around gender identity is evolving, and parents should be open to learning.Building a network of allies is crucial for a transgender child's acceptance.Medical guidance should come from competent professionals familiar with transgender issues.Social transition should be approached methodically and with preparation.Coming out can be a significant event for transgender children and their families.Medical interventions like puberty blockers should be discussed with a knowledgeable team.Participation in sports can present unique challenges for transgender youth.Safety concerns for transgender individuals, especially in dating, are paramount.Community support, such as camps for transgender youth, can be life-changing.Resources1. www.genderspectrum.org   Many downloadable resources General, Family, Educational, Faith, Medical and Mental Health, Allyship, Book list. You can also get speakers and speak to professionals 2. www.thetrevorproject.orgNon profit LGBTQ plus youth   They have a suicide hotline and so many resources3. Local PFLAG  and LGBTQ Centers  in your city   Just google it   Many have support groups, activities, advocacy opportunities, groups for parents and grandparents as well4. Psychologytoday.com to find a therapist using the therapist finder. You can enter your location, issues, insurance, preferences and other criteria and it will give you names, specialties, and contact information5. For specialists in medical care, go to WPATH Provider Directory, and https://lgbtqhealthcaredirectory.org6. https://harborcamps.orgBooks 1. My Princess Boy by Cheryl Kilodavis2. Raising my Rainbow by Lori Duron3. The Transgender Child (and Teen ) by Stephanie Brill and Rachel Pepper4. Raising The Transgender Child by Michele Angello  

Send a textToday we learn about Canadian child actor Ryan Grantham who, in 2020, killed his mother Barbara Waite at the start of what was to be a cross-country crime spree.E-mail me at Pugmomof1@gmail.com; visit me on Instagram as True Crime University_ or join our Facebook group, True Crime University Discussion GroupTrue Crime University is part of the Debauchery Media Network. Visit all our podcasts at welcometothedebauchery.comResources: Wikipedia, iZombie.fandom.com, imdb.com, Psychology Today, findagrave.com, themoviedb.org, CBC, BBC News, The Mirror, thedefenselawyer.com, People magazine, eonline.com, clevelandclinic.org, simplypsychology.orgJoin our Patreon for only $2 a month! Patreon.com/TrueCrimeUni... Teacher's Pet tierJoin our Patreon for only $2 a month! Patreon.com/TrueCrimeUni... Teacher's Pet tier

Dr. Tim Elmore is founder of Growing Leaders (GrowingLeaders.com), an Atlanta‐based non‐profit organization created to develop emerging leaders. His work grew out of 20 years of serving alongside Dr. John C. Maxwell. Elmore has appeared in The Wall Street Journal, the Washington Post, USA Today, Psychology Today, and he's been featured on CNN's Headline News, Fox Business, Newsmax TV and Fox and Friends to talk about leading multiple generations in the marketplace. He has written over 35 books, including Habitudes: Images That Form Leadership Habits and Attitudes, Eight Paradoxes of Great Leadership, and A New Kind of Diversity: Making the Different Generations on Your Team a Competitive Advantage. His latest book, The Future Begins with Z: Nine Strategies to Lead Generation Z As They Upset the Workplace, releases fall of 2025. You can find his work at: TimElmore.com.

Tonya Lester, LCSW, is the author of Push Back: Live, Love, and Work with Others Without Losing Yourself and a Brooklyn-based psychotherapist and writer known for her work with relationships and communication. Her essay “Couples Therapist, Heal Thyself” was published in the Modern Love column in The New York Times, and she has been writing the popular Staying Sane Inside Insanity blog for Psychology Today since 2020. She has been featured as an expert in The Guardian, Newsweek, Well+Good, HuffPo, Fatherly, and the Bumble site The Buzz.   Here she and Dawson cover:   Conflict aversion  Assertiveness Jealousy  Question: “Where do I have resentment and the other person would be surprised?” Value of a script Reciprocity, reliability, and communication  Should partners do therapy together or separately? We don't need to process absolutely everything, we can let some things go Core vulnerabilities: incompetence, unloveable, unworthy Noticing where you overreact A “dread list” of things  If your emotions are getting above a 5, take a break Speaking for your feelings not from your feelings Reframe conflict from what divides us to what brings us closer    For more information about Tonya and her work: https://www.tonyalester.com/   Find host Dr. Dawson Church at: http://dawsongift.com/   To purchase Dawson's latest book, Spiritual Intelligence:  https://www.amazon.com/Spiritual-Intelligence-Activating-Circuits-Awakened/dp/160415294X/   #mindtomatter #blissbrain #spiritualintelligence #eft #meditation #highenergyhealth #sq #relationships #communication   

In this first installment of my series, "Where Are They Now?", I'll be interviewing past Canadian therapists that I've had on the show to see how their private practice is doing. Today, I'm checking in with Christina Page! Tune in to gain extra insight into where she was when we first spoke, and see the progress she has made!  We discuss the surprising discoveries she has made along the way, the discomfort she has overcome, and the wonderful lessons that she has learned from both. Join our conversation, and see if you can pick up an informative gem to help you on your path in Canadian private practice! MEET CHRISTINA Christina Page is a Certified Perinatal Therapist and the owner of Whole Family Psychotherapy - a collective of heart-centered perinatal specialists offering virtual counselling services across Ontario to parents and parents-to-be. Christina's team offers individual therapy, couples therapy, family therapy, group therapy, and parenting support sessions for folks through pre-conception journeys, during pregnancy, postpartum, and beyond into later stages of family life. The team at Whole Family understands that when parents feel whole, family systems thrive.  Learn more about Christina on her practice website, Psychology Today, and LinkedIn profiles.  In this episode:  A quick recap  Christina's group practice update to today  Stepping fully into the CEO role  The importance of having an emergency savings fund Christina's goals for the future A quick recap Christina re-listened to her first appearance on the Fearless Practice Podcast as well, and she discusses how much it brought back for her.  At the beginning of her group private practice journey, Christina wore most of the hats. She was the clinical director, admin, and saw a full caseload of clients, all while being a mother to young children. While she loved it too, she knew that it wasn't sustainable.  Therefore, over the year and a half since our first podcast episode, she has smoothed and straightened out her practice to the extent that she can take a step back and enjoy it more, rather than just running from task to task.  Christina's group practice update to today Her practice has grown! They are now a team of seven therapists, including an intern. She has full admin support, which Christina explains has been one of the biggest benefits to date.  As Christina explains, the most crucial element for success that she has seen in her private practice over the months is to support its flexibility.  The businesses needed to handle an increased number of clients coming in, admin requests, and paperwork, which meant the business's foundation needed to be broadened, strengthened, and made as autonomous as possible so that Christina herself didn't become the bottleneck.  Secondly, Christina's next biggest lesson was learning how helpful it can be to slow down. Not everything needs to be treated as a crisis, and not everything needs your response right away.  Stepping fully into the CEO role Another big change that Christina hadn't ever thought would happen is that she has stopped seeing clients herself! She has since stepped fully into the role of being the practice CEO, the leader of her team, and the business entity.  Christina took a leap of faith and trusted the process. She was able to work through the initial discomfort of not knowing what might happen and navigating uncertain financial situations, and while things are still not yet where she wants them to be financially, they are improving.  All this was made possible by her recognizing that it would be good for her practice to take a step back from seeing clients and step forward into a more leadership role.  The importance of having an emergency savings fund Having an emergency fund is crucial, and specifically for two reasons:  1 - To give you leeway to make changes in your practice, such as Christina going from a full caseload of clients to being the full-time boss only, and having some financial cushioning can help you make these transitions easier  2 - To make it through uncertain times in the economy or when client conversion rates dip, which is common in private practice  Take good care of yourself and your nervous system, because tolerating the uncertainty of business in private practice, in our world today, requires you to have a sense of groundedness.  Christina's goals for the future Now, Christina's goals for the future are to create stability for the practice to support and nurture what they are currently doing well. She's going to remain open and flexible in terms of what's to come!  Connect with me: Instagram Website  Resources mentioned and useful links: Tina Bells: Balancing Non-Profit and Private Practice | EP 189 Learn more about the tools and deals that I love and use for my Canadian private practice Sign up for my free e-course on How to Start an Online Canadian Private Practice Jane App (use code FEARLESS2MO for two months free) Get started with Hushmail here and get one month for free! Learn more about Christina on her practice website, Psychology Today, and LinkedIn profiles  Listen to the previous episode with Christina Page here!  Rate, review, and subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Amazon, and TuneIn  

If you struggle with people-pleasing and losing yourself in relationships, this episode with Ingrid Clayton, a licensed clinical psychologist and expert in relational trauma, about her book Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves and How to Find Our Way Back, is a conversation that can help you understand and transform patterns holding you back. Exploring fawning, which is a lesser-known trauma response shaped by caretaking, appeasement, and self-abandonment, you'll learn how it often shows up as anxiety and hypervigilance. And, through personal and client stories, you'll gain insights on reclaiming authenticity, navigating backlash, and starting the process of “unfawning.”Listen and Learn:Why do some people cope with relational trauma by becoming overly accommodating or pleasing?How people-pleasing might actually be your nervous system choosing safety in ways that once protected you, but could now be quietly shaping your identity and relationships without you realizing it, and what it actually takes to reconnect with who you areHow chronic fawning can look like emotional strength on the outside while quietly disconnecting you from your own anxiety and bodyHow what looks like dishonesty can actually be a survival response that once kept you safe, and what it takes to notice when it starts keeping you stuckHow tuning into what you notice in your body can be the first uncomfortable but powerful step to breaking people-pleasing patterns and building more authentic relationshipsWhy red flags can feel like home after emotional abuse and how learning to trust your own resentment might be the first step toward building a truly safe relationshipResources:Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves and How to Find Our Way Back https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9798217045327 Ingrid's Website: https://www.ingridclayton.com/ Connect with Ingrid on Social Media:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ingridclaytonphd Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/IngridClaytonPhD LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ingridclaytonphd/ Substack: https://substack.com/@ingridclaytonphd YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3PvWTgJMirURfgHWj3h28g About Ingrid ClaytonDr. Ingrid Clayton is a licensed clinical psychologist with a master's in transpersonal psychology and a Ph.D. in clinical psychology. She's had a thriving private practice for more than sixteen years and is a regular contributor to Psychology Today, where her blog “Emotional Sobriety” has had more than a million views. She lives in Los Angeles, California. Book: Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves--and How to Find Our Way Back: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9798217045327Related Episodes:305. The Power of Saying No with Vanessa Patrick186. Set Boundaries Find Peace with Nedra Tawwab 276. Assertive Communication Skills with Randy Paterson 308. Identifying and Surviving Gaslighting with Robin Stern 263. Relationships with Emotionally Immature People with Lindsay Gibson 383. What My Bones Know: C-PTSD with Stephanie Foo417. Busting Trauma Treatment Myths with Emi Nietfeld416. Trauma and PTSD Treatment with Robyn WalserSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Send us a text to say hello!What's the best kind of carrier to choose for your cat? We get a veterinarian's perspective from Dr. Mansum Yau, author of The Ins and Outs of Cat Carriers: A Veterinarian's Guide to Cat Carriers.We talk about:why, as a vet, Dr. Mansum is interested in cat carrierswhat kind of carrier is the best one to choosehow to help cats be more comfortable at the vethow she became a stand-up comedian on top of being a vet, and how humour can help at the vetwhy toothbrushing is so important for cats and how a video of Dr. Mansum brushing her cat's teeth went viralthe best carriers for adventure cats, and what happened one time with her catwhat it was like illustrating her bookand finally, she tells us about a book she's readingThe book Dr. Mansum picked is Bony Legs and Other Stories by Pat Edwards.Also mentioned in this episode, the cat toothbrushing episode that went viral: https://www.instagram.com/p/DGW-oi1xPSC/ Dr. Mansum Yau graduated from the Ontario Veterinary College in 2010 and earned her certificate in canine massage from the Royal Canadian College of Massage Therapy in 2025. She is Human Animal Bond and Fear Free Level 3 certified and passionate about preventative care and client education. When she is not caring for cats and dogs, she enjoys reading, writing, painting, drawing, performing clean stand-up comedy, raising awareness for endangered animals, and exploring nature with her one-eyed dog, Penny, and adventure cat, Boo. She is the author and illustrator of The Ins and Outs of Cat Carriers: A Veterinarian's Guide to Cat Carriers, available wherever cat lovers read. She also shares tips for cats and dogs at pet events and on Instagram and YouTube.Dr. Mansum Yau is on:Instagram https://www.instagram.com/drmansum/ Youtube https://www.youtube.com/@drmansumLinkedIn https://ca.linkedin.com/in/drmansum Support the showAbout the co-hosts: Kristi Benson is an honours graduate of, and now on staff with, the prestigious Academy for Dog Trainers and has her PCBC-A from the Pet Professional Accreditation Board. She lives in beautiful northern British Columbia, where she helps dog guardians through online classes. She is also a northern anthropologist. Kristi Benson's website Facebook Zazie Todd, PhD, is the award-winning author of Bark! The Science of Helping Your Anxious, Fearful, or Reactive Dog, Wag: The Science of Making Your Dog Happy and Purr: The Science of Making Your Cat Happy. She is the creator of the popular blog, Companion Animal Psychology, and has a column at Psychology Today. She lives in Maple Ridge, BC, with her husband, a dog and a cat. Instagram BlueSky

Scott Kaufman is a psychologist, coach, professor, keynote speaker, and best-selling author. He is a professor of psychology at Columbia University and director of the Center for Human Potential. He also hosts The Psychology Podcast which has received over 30 million downloads and is widely considered among the top  psychology podcasts in the world. Scott's writing has appeared in The Atlantic, Scientific American, Psychology Today, and Harvard Business Review, and he is the author and editor of 11 books. In his most recent book Rise Above: Overcome a Victim Mindset, Empower Yourself, and Realize Your Full Potential, he explores the limiting beliefs and widespread anxiety that puts people in boxes, lowers expectations, and holds them back. In addition to teaching at Columbia, Scott has also been a professor at the University of Pennsylvania and NYU. Scott received a B.S. in psychology and human computer interaction from Carnegie Mellon, an M. Phil in experimental psychology from the University of Cambridge under a Gates Cambridge Scholarship, and a Ph.D. in cognitive psychology from Yale University. In this episode we discuss the following: Scott's definition of intelligence: the dynamic interplay of engagement and abilities in the pursuit of goals. When we give people a chance to go deep into an area that they love, over a long period of time, they can develop expertise and brain structures that can override some of our IQ limitations. The thing that surprised Scott most as he researched intelligence was just how predictive IQ is. Scott thought he was going to be on a vendetta against IQ but ended up falling in love with the science of IQ, intelligence, and the brain. Differences in ability are both natural and valuable, and recognizing them—rather than denying them—creates better paths for growth and contribution. Unlocking our potential requires intellectual honesty, patience, and environments that allow passion and skill to reinforce one another over time.  

If your team can't move without you, you don't have leadership; you have dependence. Kendall Berg sits down with Leah Marone to unpack the Support, Don't Solve leadership model. This is the shift that stops constant interruption. It also builds real ownership. Leah explains why leaders often jump in too quickly, how this creates a dependency loop, and what to do instead. You will hear the first move that changes everything: validation first. Then questions. Then space. This episode is for the manager who is always on call. It is also for the high performer who wants to advance without carrying the whole team. You will walk away with a clear reframe, simple boundaries that still feel human, and language you can use the next time someone brings you a problem. In this episode, we discuss: Why does my team rely on me for every decision at work? How do I stop being the problem solver without sounding cold? What does "support, don't solve" look like in real leadership conversations? How do I set boundaries at work while still leading with empathy? What should I say first when someone brings me a problem? What's one "corporate game" rule you've learned the hard way?

We sat down with Lisa Broderick, CEO of Marshall Goldsmith Advisors and co-author of a new book Permanence: Become the Person You Want to Be and Stay That Way, to unpack a 2-minute practice that helps high-achievers, leaders and teams start compounding wins into lasting change. We walk through the Daily Questions Method and the crucial shift from outcome obsession to effort tracking. Lisa explains why willpower collapses under stress, how comparison culture hijacks identity, and how a tight feedback loop builds lasting habits using your brain's reward system. Beyond the core ritual, we dive into other practical tools you can use immediately to grow and improve permanently.Feedforward replaces backward-looking critiques with future-focused guidance you'll actually act on. The hero exercise turns admired qualities into your personal North Star. The wheel of change helps you decide what to keep, what to let go, and what to accept—so your motivation stops leaking into unwinnable fights.For teams, we outline a simple rollout: lightweight 360s to pick 3 behaviors, a shared cadence, and leaders modeling effort scores.Expect a clear, repeatable framework for personal growth and culture change, one that takes minutes, not meetings, and scales from individual habits to organizational norms.Ready to trade resets for lasting results?Subscribe, share this with a friend who wants to grow, and tell us: which 3 behaviors will you track this week?Short BIO:Lisa Broderick is a seasoned C-suite executive, corporate board member, and nonprofit founder with three decades of leadership experience across diverse industries, blending science with personal transformation.Author of the international bestseller All the Time in the World, which was translated into dozens of languages, and a frequent contributor to Psychology Today, Lisa distills human behavior, science, and systems thinking into complex organizational and behavioral insights.Her books deliver practical, results-driven strategies that empower individuals and organizations to achieve lasting success. Learn more about Lisa and get the book: https://permanencebook.com/Text Me Your Thoughts and IdeasSupport the showBrought to you by Angela Shurina Behavior-First, Executive, Leadership and Optimal Performance Coach 360, Change Leadership & Culture Transformation Consultant

This episode covers: • Mic-628 Could Reset Your Body Clock and Cut Jet Lag in Half A new circadian drug candidate, Mic-628, has demonstrated the ability to shift the body's internal clock and significantly reduce jet-lag recovery time in early human studies. In controlled simulations, participants experienced faster realignment of their sleep-wake cycles and improved daytime performance compared to standard approaches like melatonin and light timing alone. Dave explains how this compound targets a core clock pathway, why eastbound travel is biologically harder than westbound, and how pharmacologic chronotherapy could become a serious performance tool for frequent travelers and shift workers. He also connects circadian alignment to obesity, insulin resistance, cardiovascular risk, and cognitive decline, outlining what this breakthrough could mean if safety data continues to hold. • Source: https://www.sciencedaily.com/news/top/ • Late-Life Depression May Signal Parkinson's or Dementia New research from Shanghai Jiao Tong University found that new-onset depression in older adults is strongly associated with increased risk of Parkinson's disease and dementia. Dave reframes this finding as a brain health signal rather than a purely psychiatric issue, explaining how inflammation, microglial activation, vascular health, and neurodegeneration intersect with mood changes. He breaks down why sudden depression in someone with no prior history may warrant deeper cognitive testing, sleep evaluation, and metabolic screening instead of simply prescribing an antidepressant and moving on. This story highlights the importance of treating mood shifts as early biological data in a longevity framework. • Source: https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2026/02/260210040623.htm • Speed-Training Brain Games Reduced Dementia Risk by 25 Percent The long-running NIH-funded ACTIVE trial found that a specific speed-of-processing training program reduced dementia incidence by roughly 25 percent over two decades. Unlike memory or reasoning exercises, this visual processing speed protocol produced measurable long-term protection. Dave explains why reaction time and processing speed may be core capacities tied to cognitive resilience, and how structured brain-training programs descended from this research can be treated like strength training for the mind. Instead of vague advice to “stay mentally active,” this data supports building deliberate, trackable cognitive training into a midlife longevity plan. • Sources: – NPR summary: https://www.npr.org/2026/02/09/nx-s1-5702423/modest-mental-exercise-can-reduce-risk-of-dementia-for-decades-study-finds – Psychology Today analysis: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/build-your-brain/202602/new-study-means-the-age-of-dementia-prevention-begins-now • Moderate Coffee Intake Linked to Slower Brain Aging A large analysis of roughly 130,000 participants found that moderate coffee consumption, about one to three cups daily, was associated with markers of slower brain aging and lower dementia risk. Dave explains why moderate, morning-weighted caffeine intake may align acute performance benefits with potential long-term brain protection. He breaks down the dose curve, why more is not necessarily better, and how to use coffee strategically without compromising sleep or circadian rhythm. Rather than framing caffeine as either a miracle or a villain, this study supports intelligent, personalized dosing as part of a broader brain-health stack. • Source: https://www.nature.com/articles/d41586-026-00409-y • Kratom Crackdowns and the Future of Supplement Freedom Regulators are tightening restrictions on high-potency kratom derivatives such as 7-hydroxymitragynine, with new bans and stricter warning requirements emerging at the state level. The FDA continues to treat kratom and its concentrated derivatives as unapproved drugs with opioid-like effects, while local jurisdictions are targeting specific formulations linked to adverse events. Dave breaks down how this represents a broader shift in how edge-case compounds are regulated, why supply volatility and underground markets can increase risk, and what this means for biohackers who experiment with gray-area tools. He also explains how evolving enforcement strategies could shape future access to peptides, nootropics, and other advanced compounds. • Sources: – Kansas City coverage: https://www.kshb.com/news/local-news/strong-high-weak-laws-7-oh-ban-kratom-regulation-moves-forward-in-kansas-city-missouri – Florida policy coverage: https://www.wgcu.org/health/2026-02-04/kratom-advocates-tout-its-properties-but-legislators-want-strict-warnings-about-the-herbal-supplement – Legal landscape analysis: https://www.lumalexlaw.com/2025/10/09/kratoms-legal-future-how-states-and-the-federal-government-are-responding/ – FDA background: https://www.fda.gov/news-events/public-health-focus/fda-and-kratom All source links are provided for direct access to the original reporting and research. This episode is designed for biohackers, longevity seekers, and high-performance listeners who want mechanism-level clarity on circadian biology, neurodegeneration signals, cognitive training, caffeine strategy, and supplement regulation. Host Dave Asprey connects emerging science, behavioral data, and policy shifts into practical frameworks you can use to build a resilient, adaptable health stack. New episodes every Tuesday, Thursday, Friday, and Sunday. Keywords: Mic-628 circadian drug, jet lag recovery science, chronotherapy biohacking, late life depression dementia risk, Parkinson's prodromal symptoms, ACTIVE trial dementia prevention, speed of processing training, brain aging coffee study, moderate caffeine longevity, kratom regulation 7-OH, supplement law biohacking, neurodegeneration early signals, cognitive performance training, circadian rhythm optimization, metabolic brain health, biohacking news Thank you to our sponsors! - Antarctica Trip | Join me in Antarctica from March 8–17, 2026. Visit https://www.insiderexpeditions.com/future and use code DAVE for $1,000 off.- TRU KAVA | Go to https://trukava.com/ and use code DAVE10 for 10% off.Resources: • Get My 2026 Biohacking Trends Report: https://daveasprey.com/2026-biohacking-trends-report/ • Dave Asprey's Latest News | Go to https://daveasprey.com/ to join Inside Track today. • Danger Coffee: https://dangercoffee.com/discount/dave15 • My Daily Supplements: SuppGrade Labs (15% Off) • Favorite Blue Light Blocking Glasses: TrueDark (15% Off) • Dave Asprey's BEYOND Conference: https://beyondconference.com • Dave Asprey's New Book – Heavily Meditated: https://daveasprey.com/heavily-meditated • Join My Substack (Live Access To Podcast Recordings): https://substack.daveasprey.com/ • Upgrade Labs: https://upgradelabs.com Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction 0:18 - Story #1: Circadian Drug for Jet Lag 2:00 - Story #2: Depression as Early Warning Sign 3:30 - Story #3: Brain Processing Speed Training 4:56 - Story #4: Coffee and Brain Health 6:24 - Story #5: Kratom Regulation 8:21 - Weekly Roundup 9:25 - Closing See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The French philosopher Blaise Pascal once famously said, 'All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone.' We often treat boredom as a minor annoyance, but modern psychology tells us it is actually a powerful drive that can push us toward addiction, unnecessary drama, and destructive risks just to feel alive. In this episode, we will explore why your brain hates the quiet, and how to turn that restless energy into creativity instead of chaos. New Episode of the Happiness Podcast with Dr. Robert Puff, Ph.D.

Welcome solo and group practice owners! We are Liath Dalton and Evan Dumas, your co-hosts of Group Practice Tech. In our latest episode, we offer actionable tips for practice owners regarding the rapidly changing landscape of online referral sources. We discuss: How online referral sources have changed over the last year Why Psychology Today is no longer the dominant referral pathway Emphasizing community based referrals How clients are using AI to find therapists How AI tools prioritize results Practical do's and don'ts for being findable via AI Listen here: https://personcenteredtech.com/group/podcast/ For more, visit our website. PCT Resources Free companion resource: Being Findable in an AI-Shaped Referral World: A Therapist's Do's & Don'ts Guide We've created a practical, no-hype Do's & Don'ts checklist to help you strengthen your discoverability without chasing trends or gaming AI. It walks you through exactly what to focus on — and what to ignore — so your practice stays clear, ethical, and resilient in a changing referral landscape. On-Demand CE Course: Marketing in Mental Health: The Legal and Ethical Do's and Don'ts You Need to Know Join AMHCA ethics committee member, therapist and HIPAA lawyer, Eric Ström, JD PhD LMHC, as he unpacks what it means to do marketing as a mental health clinician. With so much advice being shared online and between colleagues about how to grow your mental health practice and business, he's here to set clear boundaries around what is appropriate ethically and legally when trying to bring in new clients. 3 Legal-Ethical CE Credit Hours Group Practice Care Premium weekly (live & recorded) direct support & consultation service, Group Practice Office Hours — including monthly session with therapist attorney Eric Ström, JD PhD LMHC + assignable staff HIPAA Security Awareness: Bring Your Own Device training + access to Device Security Center with step-by-step device-specific tutorials & registration forms for securing and documenting all personally owned & practice-provided devices (for *all* team members at no per-person cost) + assignable staff HIPAA Security Awareness: Remote Workspaces training for all team members + access to Remote Workspace Center with step-by-step tutorials & registration forms for securing and documenting Remote Workspaces (for *all* team members at no per-person cost) + more Resources Article from Clear Health Costs: Therapist forums buzzing over drop in Psychology Today referrals Article from Clear Health Costs: Therapists say Psychology Today referrals have dried up, and express concern

Join the conversation by letting us know what you think about the episode!According to Psychology Today, parasocial relationships are "one-sided relationships in which a person develops a strong sense of connection, intimacy, or familiarity with someone they don't know, most often celebrities or media personalities. These relationships exist only in the mind of the individual, who experiences a bond despite the lack of reciprocity. The term was coined by psychologists Donald Horton and R. Richard Wohl in 1956 when televisions became widely available, they noted that TV viewers began to develop the 'illusion of intimacy' with the characters on the screen.”In our increasingly digital and online world, parasocial relationships can develop with YouTubers, content creators on social media, podcasters, celebrities - the list is practically endless. Tune in to hear about our parasocial relationships and our feelings about the phenomenon. Don't forget to share whether you have any parasocial relationships and with whom?Support the showBe part of the conversation by sharing your thoughts about this episode, what you may have learned, how the conversation affected you. You can reach Raquel and Jennifer on IG @madnesscafepodcast or by email at madnesscafepodcast@gmail.com.Share the episode with a friend and have your own conversation. And don't forget to rate and review the show wherever you listen!Thanks!

Behind the scenes of everyday family life is a mental workload many of us carry without even realizing it, and that's exactly what Debbie Sorensen explores in her interview with sociologist Allison Daminger about her book, What's on Her Mind: The Mental Workload of Family Life. Allison defines cognitive labor as the invisible work of managing family needs and obligations, and walks us through its importance for individual well-being and relationship satisfaction. The discussion also touches on how these tasks are often unrecognized in statistics, the gender dynamics in cognitive labor, and the implications for families and workplaces. You'll also get a look at insights from her research involving both different-sex and same-sex couples, and she suggests ways to address gender imbalances through individual, cultural, and systemic changes.Listen and Learn: How cognitive household labor silently shapes family lifeHow mental load secretly drains energy in daily life and why the invisible tasks of keeping a household running can be more exhausting than anyone realizesWhy the small, everyday decisions parents make reveal hidden patterns in family life that most people never noticeWhy women often carry the mental load at home even when they out-earn or out-work their partnersHow couples explain unequal household labor reveals that what seems like personality differences is actually shaped by deeply ingrained social and cultural expectations around genderThe surprising ways “superhuman” and “bumbler” roles shape relationships and what small changes can help partners share the load more freelyInsights from same-sex couples on sharing mental load and the lessons they offer for balancing household responsibilitiesResources: What's on Her Mind: The Mental Workload of Family Life https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780691245386Allison's Website: https://www.allisondaminger.com/Allison's Substack: https://allisondaminger.substack.com/Connect with Allison on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/allisondaminger/ About Allison DamingerAllison Daminger is an assistant professor of sociology at UW-Madison and the author of the new book What's on Her Mind: The Mental Workload of Family Life. Daminger's research is focused on how and why gender shapes family dynamics, particularly the division of work and power in couples. Her award-winning scholarship has been published in top academic journals and featured in outlets including The Atlantic, The New York Times, and Psychology Today. Daminger holds a Ph.D. in Sociology and Social Policy from Harvard University and lives with her family in Madison, Wisconsin. Related Episodes:176. Fair Play with Eve Rodsky 206. Fair Play Part 2 with Eve Rodsky275. Work, Parent, Thrive with Yael Schonbrun386. Parents Are Stressed: What Do We Do About It? with Emily, Debbie, and our dear friend Yael Schonbrun306. Screaming on the Inside: The Challenges of American Motherhood with Jessica Grose146. Parental Burnout with Lisa Coyne441. Having It All with Corinne Low137. The Complexities of Motherhood with Daphne de Marneffe104. You're Doing It Wrong with Bethany Johnson and Margaret Quinlan33. Couples with Young Children: Relationship Challenges and Strategies with Yael Schonbrun See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

As the navigator for her daughter's rare disease and a Yale-trained physician, Dr. Maggie Kang, uses her personal and professional training to guide other parents through the healthcare system, helping them turn health challenges into leadership. She is a passionate advocate, TEDx speaker, and contributor to HuffPost and Psychology Today.  In this episode, we explore how caregivers can reclaim agency for themselves and their loved ones, move beyond cycles of suffering or self-comfort, and take meaningful action—especially within the rare disease community. We also discuss the grief that accompanies losing our pre-caregiving life and how to intentionally create a vibrant, empowered “new normal.” And, you'll learn why fresh parsley is one of Maggie's go-to self-care strategies. Show notes with product and resource links: https://bit.ly/HHCPod221 Receive the podcast in your email here: http://bit.ly/2G4qvBv Order a copy of Elizabeth's book Just for You: a Daily Self Care Journal: http://bit.ly/HHCjournal For podcast sponsorship opportunities contact Elizabeth: https://happyhealthycaregiver.com/contact-us/ The Happy Healthy Caregiver podcast is part of the Whole Care Network. Rate and Review the podcast: https://bit.ly/HHCPODREVIEW

Have you ever felt the need to choose between non-profit and private practice? Is it possible to do both? My guest today, Tina, has found a way to do so! She believes in sustainability, both in business and her personal life. For Tina, being able to offer her services in the non-profit sector helps her to make sure her expertise is available to people who need the support but can't easily afford it, and seeing private clients in her solo practice helps her to support herself!   By combining both approaches, Tina can make sure she utilizes both her passion and her skills, and live while working in a way that feels fully integrated with her values. If you want to learn more, come join our conversation!  MEET TINA Tina Bells is a Registered Psychotherapist and EMDR therapist based in Toronto, where she also serves as the Grief and Bereavement Coordinator for a local hospice. She is the owner of Grounded Voice Psychotherapy, her Private Practice, where she supports individuals experiencing loss and Spiritual abuse. With a Master's in Spiritual Care and Psychotherapy and over a decade of experience in non-profits, including those such as shelters and correctional services, all of which inform her holistic, compassionate approach. Learn more about Tina on her practice website, Psychology Today, and LinkedIn profiles.  In this episode:  What motivated Tina to become a therapist  Going into private practice  Managing a diverse schedule  Tina's goals for 2026 Tina's advice to listeners  What motivated Tina to become a therapist There was no big, sudden moment of realization that Tina had to know she wanted to become a therapist. Instead, pursuing therapy came from a lifetime of interest in other people. 'I think it was a series of small things over time. I always knew I wanted to support people, that's what led to the Master's in Spiritual Care and Psychotherapy, and then into the non-profit work that I have been doing for the last two decades.' - Tina Bells  Initially, Tina worked mostly with people who were struggling with addictions, but with time, her passions shifted, things changed, and she began to focus on grief. That pulled her in and encouraged her to pivot her career.  Going into private practice  While Tina continues to work in the non-profit sector, she has begun her own Canadian private practice to prevent burnout.  'I think sustainability is an ethical issue, and that private practice allows me to do both [non-profit and private practice work], and allows me to have meaningful work in non-profit and provide for clients in a way that you can't when you're in the system.' - Tina Bells  For Tina, having one foot in both the non-profit sector and private practice enables her to find a clear, sustainable balance between serving her community and her passions while still being able to earn a stable income to support herself.  'It's really amazing to serve in that way, and to meet the needs of people who wouldn't be able to access mental healthcare otherwise. [And] when you're in private practice, you're able to meet a need in a different way, so you get more time with people. You get to see some of that long-term [change].' - Tina Bells Therefore, Tina can give support and care to people who need assistance through non-profit sectors, and also continue seeing her private practice clients.  Managing a diverse schedule  Since Tina works in both non-profit and private practice, she needs to be strategic with her time.  At the moment, she works for three days in a non-profit and two days in her private practice. With this split, she's able to work with both groups of people and still afford her lifestyle.  Additionally, her private practice is completely virtual, which helps her manage her work from home on her dedicated practice days.  Tina's goals for 2026 For 2026, Tina's main goal is to get groups up and running in her Canadian private practice.  'I'm trying to generate some interest in that. I would really love to do a group that focuses on the grief around losing a spiritual community. I think that's a really big piece, and it's not something that's often talked about, so that's my goal … To get a group going.' - Tina Bells She has added this option to her Psychology Today profile just to start the process. While she hasn't gotten any clients for the groups yet, the year has just begun! And Tina knows it will take some time to develop.  Additionally, Tina has goals to expand her marketing efforts, especially when it comes to networking and meeting new people in the community. If you are a non-profit or private practice owner, reach out to Tina and connect.  Tina's advice to listeners Don't underestimate the importance (and power!) of good supervision. Working with an expert and compassionate mentor can help you cover so much ground, especially if you are feeling unsure, nervous, or unsure how to begin this journey into therapy.  Connect with me: Instagram Website  Resources mentioned and useful links: Nadia and Debora D'Luso: A Sister-Team in Private Practice | EP 188 Learn more about the tools and deals that I love and use for my Canadian private practice Sign up for my free e-course on How to Start an Online Canadian Private Practice Jane App (use code FEARLESS2MO for two months free) Get started with Hushmail here and get one month for free! Learn more about Tina on her practice website, Psychology Today, and LinkedIn profiles Rate, review, and subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Amazon, and TuneIn  

Is your child struggling with your separation or divorce? Wondering if they need professional help? Licensed play therapist Jenny Hornby joins Lisa to discuss the critical signs that children need therapeutic support during high-conflict divorce - and why getting help for yourself might be even more important.In this essential conversation, you'll discover when therapy becomes necessary, what different therapeutic approaches can offer, and how to find the right mental health professional for your family's specific situation. Jenny shares expert insights on play therapy, EMDR for trauma processing, and why the "oxygen mask principle" applies to parents navigating custody battles.Whether you're just starting separation proceedings or deep into a custody battle, this conversation provides the guidance you need to support your child's emotional wellbeing while taking care of yourself too.

The first episode of the Neurodiverse Love Docuseries will be released on February 14, 2026. Through this four part series, you will meet four Neurodiverse couples who share some of their lived experiences, lessons learned and the strengths, challenges and differences they've had in their marriages. None of the couples knew they were in a mixed neurotype relationship when they married and each shares some of the experiences that have led to more connection, understanding and acceptance of each other's differences.In addition, you will hear from three coaches/therapists who work with Neurodiverse couples. They share their perspective on why challenges may be occurring and also provide strategies and tools for increasing connection.To contribute to this very important project or to learn more about the docuseries click here.—————————————————————————- This episode is another wonderful presentation from the 2025 Neurodiverse Love Conference. During this session you will discover the unique strengths, strategies, and insights that successful neurodiverse couples use to navigate their relationships. Eva A. Mendes explores practical tools and must-know tips that real couples have shared to help their relationships grow and endure.More specifically you will learn:✨ Proven techniques to enhance connection and communication✨ Creative solutions for managing sensory and emotional differences✨ A roadmap to build your own relationship toolkitIn addition, you will learn actionable exercises and discussion prompts to apply these best-kept secrets in your own relationship while also being inspired by real stories and empowered to create lasting love!Eva A. Mendes is a world-renowned therapist, author, and couples counselor specializing in autism, ADHD, and neurodiverse relationships. With a focus on autistic adults, individuals with ADHD, gifted individuals, and LGBTQ clients, she helps diverse clients navigate the complexities of neurodiversity. Eva trained extensively at AANE and has authored several influential books, including Marriage and Lasting Relationships with Asperger's Syndrome, Gender, Sexuality, and Autism and her most recent book Conversations on Love and Autism. Her Heart of Autism blog on Psychology Today offers practical advice for neurodiverse individuals and couples. Learn more at www.eva-mendes.com or contact her at eva@eva-mendes.com.—————————————————————————-To learn more about the resources and services Mona offers you can check out her website at: www.neurodiverselove.comIf you would like to buy unlimited access to all 30+ video sessions from the 2025 Neurodiverse Love Conference click here and use code Podcast50 to get $50 off. With your purchase you will also get these FREE BONUSES: unlimited access to the 27 video sessions from the 2023 Neurodiverse Love Conference, the Neurodiverse Love Conversation Cards and Workbook. If you have any questions or need additional information please email: neurodiverselove4u@gmail.com

Many men over 40 take their health seriously but feel confused, frustrated, or quietly concerned about changes in their sex life.   In this episode, Ted speaks with human sexuality expert Dr. Nicole McNichols about how stress, sleep, anxiety, body image, and relationship dynamics shape sexual health. They explore why common explanations like testosterone or blood flow often miss the bigger picture, and how unrealistic expectations fueled by culture and pornography can undermine confidence and desire.   This conversation reframes sex as an essential part of overall health and longevity, offering a more grounded, evidence-based way to think about intimacy, performance, and connection. Listen now.    Today's Guest  Dr. Nicole McNichols  Dr. Nicole McNichols is an internationally recognized professor of human sexuality, author, and speaker at the University of Washington, where her course The Diversity of Human Sexuality is the most popular in the school's history.  She is the coauthor of Human Sexuality in a Diverse Society and the author of You Could Be Having Better Sex: The Definitive Guide to a Happier, Healthier, and Hotter Sex Life. She writes for Psychology Today, The Seattle Times, and The Conversation, and lives in the Seattle area with her family.  Connect to Dr. Nicole McNichols  LinkedIn: Nicole McNichols  Website: nicolethesexprofessor.com   Book: You Could Be Having Better Sex: The Definitive Guide to a Happier, Healthier, and Hotter Sex Life    You'll learn:   Why sexual health is a powerful but overlooked marker of overall wellbeing and longevity  How stress, poor sleep, anxiety, and body image issues quietly reduce desire and performance  Why pornography myths create unrealistic expectations that fuel insecurity and pressure  How emotional connection, self-growth, and planned intimacy support a healthier sex life    What Ted and Julie discuss:  (00:00) Introduction  (01:30) Meet Dr. Nicole McNichols  (02:30) The Connection Between Health and Sex  (05:30) Understanding the Pleasure Cycle  (12:47) The Impact of Pornography on Sexual Health  (24:31) Addressing Porn Use and Relationship Dynamics  (31:51) The Importance of Planning Intimacy  (36:07) Addressing the Root Causes of Sexual Issues  (37:47) The Role of Therapy in Sexual Health  (39:14) Final Thoughts and Upcoming Episodes  (39:37) The Importance of Self-Growth in Relationships  (59:27) Planning Intimacy and Pleasure  (63:19) Conclusion and Final Thoughts 

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Are you feeling overwhelmed, anxious, stuck in old patterns, or unsure how to take the next step toward emotional well-being? You're not alone — and the first step toward lasting change often begins with understanding, connection, and support.Tatiana Grant, LPC, NCC & Professional therapy can help you:Navigate anxiety, depression, stress, or life transitions with clarity and confidence.Develop practical tools to manage thoughts, emotions, and relationships.Break unhelpful patterns and build habits that support long-term mental health.Feel truly heard and understood in a safe, confidential space.Whether you're just beginning to explore therapy or are seeking deeper insight and growth, finding a qualified clinician who understands your struggle is essential. Writing a strong therapist profile — like those you'll find on Psychology Today — shows how clinicians connect with ideal clients and invite people to take that brave first step toward healing.

This episode is a raw, unscripted deep dive into men's mental health, toxic masculinity myths, anxiety, depression, fatherhood, money stress, and why modern mental health systems continue to miss men entirely. Using recent Psychology Today articles and peer reviewed research, the conversation breaks down what toxic masculinity actually is, how rare it truly is, and why buzzwords without clear definitions are doing more harm than good. You'll hear real talk on why most men are not toxic, how anxiety often shows up as anger or withdrawal, and why many men feel misunderstood or dismissed by traditional therapy models. You can expect honest commentary on male vulnerability, financial pressure, provider identity, SSRIs, plant medicine, trauma, fatherhood, and why men struggle in silence until things fall apart. This episode challenges pop psychology, questions mainstream narratives, and opens up a much needed conversation about what men actually need to heal, lead, and stay present for their families. If you care about men's mental health, masculinity, relationships, fatherhood, purpose, or breaking generational patterns, this video will hit hard and make you think long after it endsDisclaimer: We are not professionals. This podcast is opinioned based and from life experience. This is for entertainment purposes only. Opinions helped by our guests may not reflect our own. But we love a good conversation.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/2-be-better--5828421/support.

You can be 100% right about the facts, but if you are wrong in your internal state, you still lose the battle for your own happiness. This episode uncovers the hidden cost of 'psychological violence' and proves that true power comes from a calm mind, not a hateful one. Let's explore how to protect your heart from the poison of resentment so you can remain strong, clear, and truly free. New Episode of the Happiness Podcast with Dr. Robert Puff, Ph.D.

New Year's resolutions promise hope, but for many people, they quietly deliver shame, stress, and self-blame instead. If resolutions leave you feeling worse about yourself every January, this episode explains why — and what actually works. Host Gabe Howard is joined by returning favorite Jodi Wellman to unpack why traditional goal-setting often backfires, especially when it comes to mental health. They explore the psychology behind the “fresh start effect,” how all-or-nothing thinking sets us up to fail, and why massive lifestyle overhauls rarely stick. More importantly, they offer practical, compassionate alternatives; Like shifting from rigid goals to identity-based habits, process-focused wins, and restarting without guilt when things go off track. Listener Takeaways The mental health cost of setting outcome-based goals Why smaller, process-focused goals actually create lasting change How to restart a goal without guilt or self-punishment Whether you've already ditched your New Year's resolutions or never believed in them to begin with, this episode explores a healthier, more realistic way to create change—without harming your mental well-being. “What is really common, which is set a goal. Don't get there. Feel bad about it. So net net it's not a good experience. For many of us, that's problematic because we feel badly about ourselves [. . .] And maybe that's your version of self-compassion is to let that goal gracefully go.” ~Jodi Wellman, MAPP Our guest, Jodi Wellman, MAPP is a speaker, author, and facilitator on living lives worth living. She founded Four Thousand Mondays to help people make the most of the time they are lucky to be above ground.  With 25 years of corporate leadership experience (most recently as Senior Vice President of Operations at a leading health and lifestyle organization), Jodi has led private CEO advisory boards and coaches teams to work well and live even better. Jodi has a Master's of Applied Positive Psychology from the University of Pennsylvania, where she is also an Assistant Instructor and facilitator in the Penn Resilience Program. She is an ICF Professional Certified Coach. Her book, "You Only Die Once: How to Make It to the End with No Regrets," made Adam Grant's Summer Reading List and was a “Top 3 Psychology Book of 2024” by the Next Big Idea Club (curated by Malcolm Gladwell, Susan Cain, Adam Grant, and Dan Pink). Jodi has been featured in The New York Times, Oprah Daily, Fast Company, CNBC, Forbes, Psychology Today, The Los Angeles Times, and more. Jodi's TEDx talk is called How Death Can Bring You Back to Life; with over 1.3 million views, it is the 14th most-watched TEDx talk released in 2022, out of 15,900! Our host, Gabe Howard, is an award-winning writer and speaker who lives with bipolar disorder. He is the author of the popular book, "Mental Illness is an Asshole and other Observations," available from Amazon; signed copies are also available directly from the author. Gabe is also the host of the "Inside Bipolar" podcast with Dr. Nicole Washington. Gabe makes his home in the suburbs of Columbus, Ohio. He lives with his supportive wife, Kendall, and a Miniature Schnauzer dog that he never wanted, but now can't imagine life without. To book Gabe for your next event or learn more about him, please visit gabehoward.com. Please share the show -- it's how we grow! Thank you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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In this special series kickoff, Lesley Logan opens an honest conversation about burnout and how it can quietly build around the things you love doing—often without you realizing it. She explores the irony of burning out from the things we are passionate about, the three key signs defined by the WHO, and why high achievers are most at risk of losing their “muchness.” If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast https://lesleylogan.co/podcast/. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co mailto:beit@lesleylogan.co. And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe https://lesleylogan.co/podcast/#follow-subscribe-free.In this episode you will learn about:The three parts of burnout as defined by the World Health Organization.Why chronic stress can quietly build even when you love your work.What makes burnout show up differently for women than men.How emotional labor and always-on expectations contribute to burnout.What burnout can actually look like before it is clearly recognized.Episode References/Links:Submit your wins or questions - https://beitpod.com/questionsBurn-Out an “Occupational Phenomenon” – https://beitpod.com/burnoutWhy Ambitious Women Burn Out - https://beitpod.com/burnout2 If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox. https://lovethepodcast.com/BITYSIDEALS! DEALS! DEALS! 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I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started.Lesley Logan 0:50  Hello, Be It babe. How are you? Oh my gosh. Welcome back to the Be It Till You See It Podcast. You know, normally we do interviews on Tuesdays and recaps on Thursdays and FYFs on Fridays, and everyone's well, I just want to do like a topic, because we've had some amazing guests on it, and I want to revisit that with you, right? I think it'd be a lot of fun. So in doing that, I want us to discuss burnout. We've have a self-love series, we have a habit series. And you know, something that I get a lot from the women that listen this podcast and we work with is just like, the difficulty in preventing burnout, and also, just like, are they ever not burned out and all that good stuff? Because in being it until you see it, it's really easy for y'all to be just overachievers at it, and just like, go harder than one needs to, right? And so I want to just give us. I want us to be on. I want us to have the tools to be it until we see it. And that means understanding burnout and how to prevent it. So this episode will be, what is burnout, so we can be really clear about what it is. I think it's important to be able to name something versus like, what's depression, what's overwhelm, things like that. And then also the second episode, beyond like preventions, like things you can actually do, because you guys are action takers, and I love that so much. Lesley Logan 2:05  So what is burnout? Why do we have burnout? What does it look like? That's what this episode is. If you're like Lesley, I've got it. Well, you can wait till Thursday. But just in case, you know, I think it's important to go over this. And I saw this quote, yeah, as I was preparing for this episode, and it said from the Mad Hatter, and it said, you've lost your muchness. You used to be much, muchier. And I think that, like that can be a sign of burnout, if you, like, lost your muchness, right? But get this the World Health Organization (WHO), actually has defined what burnout is. And so I think that's great. I think, like, let's go with the science. The burnout is a syndrome tied to unsuccessfully managed workplace stress. Like, obviously it can be personal stuff too, so well. But like, WHO is doing this from this part. So it's made up of three parts, exhaustion, feeling distant or cynical towards your job and reduced performance at work. Dr. Ashley, who has since become an expert on this topic, and is a self-proclaimed burnout doctor, she said, I think you can get burnout from any chronic stress situation. So I think that that is helpful, because, like, the simpler sentence, what WHO was trying to say, is any chronic stress situation that can provide burnout. And this is interesting you guys, because it's so easy for us to love what we're doing, but create chronic, chronic stress around it, and so then we burn out from the thing we love doing. And we'll talk about why that happens. So burnout is serious. In severe cases, it can cause premature aging of the brain. This is, this is insanity to me, because, like, oh my God, we cannot let our brains age sooner than they need to, and if you're under 45 your chance of dying from all causes goes up. I mean, let that just sink in, and it's indicated by a study they did a scientific journal, PLO S1, Dr. Ashley estimates it can take one to three years to recover from burnout. You know, as a kid, I remember like, my mom had a job that, like, was really stressful for her, and she slept the whole summer. And I remember my dad having to, like, leave work on stress leave like these it can take one to three years recover, and I do believe it did for both of them. So it's really, really important that we don't just go, oh, this is the busy season I'm in, you know, and dismiss it like we should be stronger and we shouldn't be feeling this way. Lesley Logan 4:25  Why is burnout happening more often? So, increase caregiver and emotional labor. So obviously, this episode, this podcast, is really designed for women. We have few good men who listen. Thank you so much. And it is so we've mostly women listeners. So I'm just going to talk about the women's aspect of burnout. So women often carry the mental load for their households. And this is so true. I see it in a lot of my friends who are moms, you know, like they remember everything. They're coordinating the childcare, they're managing family needs and often caring for aging parents. They also frequently are expected to manage the emotions of those around them at both at work and at home. Home, which is why, like it's possible to have a stressful job, but then if your home life is also demanding of you, then it like you don't have a refuge, right? And so that can be really, really difficult. Cultural expectations, the style norms, can pressure women to be nurturers, always available and have to have it all, creating unrealistic standards and feelings of inadequacy when these expectations aren't met. And this is also something that I've seen because, to be honest, I have a I have some friends, I've like, friends in air quotes that I've known from groups that we have been in, and I'm watching their posts on Instagram, and they're just like, so beautiful all the time, so put together. Even when they're like, I'm not put together, they're so put together. Like, their background is so beautiful, their house is so well decorated, and they're showing like, oh, I can be this, like, person who, like, makes sourdough, and I also am a badass in the workplace. That's amazing. That's wonderful. I hope they're so happy, but also, like, it can set up an expectation that we should all be feeling the same way as them, in the same place of our life. And like, that's just not the case, right? We don't all have the same 24 hours in a day. So the always on culture, a sense of constant responsibility, combined with social media pressure to maintain a perfect image contributes to a feeling of being always on and unable to truly rest. Lesley Logan 6:13  This is something I have really had to grapple with in the last five years, because a lot of the work that I do is on camera, you know? And I always was like, Oh, my God, maybe I have to, like, I have to, like, get ready. I have to do my makeup. I didn't even finish it today. If you're watching this on the YouTube channel, like, I, like, I started this recording, like, oh, we have no mascara on. Like, I got really good at going, you know what? I have to put out this content. I have to do all this stuff for the work that we do, that I that I that I created because I love this podcast, I love the memberships that I have, but I cannot also expect myself to be, in air quotes, on all the time. And so first of all, since day one, I've always just been myself online. I don't really know how to be anything else. And two, that means I don't match I don't always have my hair done, I don't always have these things. And so by just being myself, it has really helped me overcome the Always On pressures that can be out there. But if you are feeling that like that is a real pressure that is out there. And I understand that, and I it's difficult, but I hope that you can truly allow yourself to be yourself and everywhere you are and and you're allowed to have feelings and things like that. But if your workplace doesn't allow that, if, if the standards you set for yourself don't allow for that, if the people in your life don't allow for that, that can that means that you're always on, and that can be a pressure that's causing burnout in your life. Lesley Logan 7:26  So there are also some workplace factors that I think are really important to go over. Obviously, some of you who are listening don't have the opportunity to control the workplace. Some of you have created your own workplace. And so if any of these factors are in your workplace you created, we definitely want to, you know, unravel that if you have these factors in the workplace that you are in, then I definitely think it's worth going okay, at least I can pinpoint part of where this burnout is coming from. So inequitable workloads, women may face additional work outside of their formal roles, such as supporting colleagues, and have less flexibility in their jobs. We had an FYF of a few weeks back where I actually discussed, like, how men are given workplace reviews and women are given workplace reviews, and it's really annoying, because women's workplace reviews are often on, like, their personality versus like, the actual job that they did. So this is this can create chronic stress in the situation at your work. Couple that with like, what you've got going on at home, and you have a recipe for burnout, right? Gender pay and inequality. The gender wage gap and workplace discrimination creates stress, while limited career advancement opportunities and a lack of recognition for contributions exacerbate burnout. I mean, we all are aware that women are not paid the same amount as men, and then you add in race, and that is, it makes it even more of a pay gap. So if you happen to be a woman of a of color, you all you already are probably experiencing more factors towards your burnout. And so if you're feeling it like it's real, right? And I hate that for you, but I also think it's important that we don't deny that that's what's going on. And then lack of support. In professional environments, a lack of support from senior leaders and gender biases can make burnout more likely in this, yeah, lack of support in general, in life, can create burnout like it's so I have ADHD, so it's not easy for me to ask for help. I have to like practice. And the reality is is like, we all need it. We all need help. No one is supposed to do life alone. Lesley Logan 9:18  And then I just want to add this from Psychology Today, because in my research for this, I found a couple things that made me think of you. So y'all are high achievers. There's nothing wrong being a high achiever, right? Overachieving is exhausting. High achieving, nothing wrong with it, but high achieving women are at a greater risk of burnout and identity erosion due to chronic self-neglect. And you know, on this podcast, we talk a lot about prioritizing yourself first, so that that could be something that is actually causing the burnout. You could love what you do. You could love the family you have, but if you're and you probably do, but if you are lacking that prioritization of self and neglecting you, then you're going to, even with all the things you love, create burnout experience and then burnout why it's so, so important to pay attention to is that burnout can lead to anxiety, depression and a loss of personal meaning, connection. That's a big deal. It's a big deal. Not only are you not able to even have anything to be it till you see, but it can cause you to have missed experiences and relationships that that you probably care so much about, partners, family members, children, things like that. So it's really, really important that we address burnout and that we discuss, like, what it looks like, so that we can prevent it, and we'll talk about that in the next episode. Lesley Logan 10:28  But some common signs, just in case you're like, okay, I don't have it. So signs of burnout in women may include chronic fatigue, decreased motivation, feelings of inefficiency, increased irritability, disrupted sleep patterns, withdraw from social activities. So obviously these things can also look like perimenopause. They can look like depression. But you know, we had, we had somebody on the pod who is like, I'm not depressed, right? Not depressed, but I'm not fulfilled. So it, I think that it's important to be like, wow, if I know I'm not depressed, if I don't feel that way, but I have increased irritability, and I'm withdrawing from social activities. You know, if I'm decreasing motivation, I'm usually a very motivated person, there's something going on. And instead of thinking there's something wrong with you, we can look around what's going on in my world that is causing these things that are not normal for me. So with all that, you know, I definitely have had burnout in my life, you know, like we talk not much in recent past, because I'm because I've gotten so good at spotting what it looks like in my body and in my life and how I'm reacting to things. But I remember back in probably right before our wedding, I was, it was my day off, and I was driving to the mall to go buy something for myself. I were going to a party. I was like, I'm gonna go buy this thing. Like, it should be so exciting. It should be so fun. And I saw an email pop up, you know, those like little notifications on this email pop up, and it just sent me into having a total anxiety. I don't have anxiety, sent me to total anxiety attack. I had to pull over, had to call Brad, you know. And what we discovered is that, like, you just sit down and like, actually look at what's going on. And my workplace experience was just so stressful, even though I loved what I did, I love the people I worked with. I love teaching. I love being a teacher. I loved all of it, but the truth is, is that the people around me were creating a chronic stress experience. And so we got really clear on the numbers that I needed to make in my personal business, and we made a plan, and I worked that plan, and I was able to get out of that job, and I was able to notice, oh, oh, here are the things I am creating chronic stress in my own situation that I created myself. And so you're not going to be perfect at stopping before burnout, but if you can notice what it feels like in your body and how it how it is presenting itself, it makes it easier. Lesley Logan 12:54  So I'm gonna wrap up the episode here, because I know you're really busy, and I don't want this podcast to be part of the chronic stress that you have in your life. So thank you so much for listening to this series, all the series. If you are enjoying the series we're doing, I would love to know the topic you want us to like, do a little more research on, have a little more talk about it. Or if there's guests that you want to like us to have on the pod, you can definitely send those in. Mean the world to me if you leave a review and share this with a friend who needs to hear it, maybe you have a friend who's like, exhibiting all these signs, and it would just be helpful for them to be like, oh, nothing wrong with me. I'm just in a really crappy situation that is causing this kind of feeling and behavior in my body, in my life, and I there's that means we, once we know that, once we're aware, that we can make changes. We can't make changes if we're not aware, right? So thank you so much. And until next time, Be It Till You See It. Lesley Logan 13:40  That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It Podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review and follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcast. Also, make sure to introduce yourself over at the Be It Pod on Instagram. I would love to know more about you. Share this episode with whoever you think needs to hear it. Help us and others Be It Till You See It. Have an awesome day. Be It Till You See It is a production of The Bloom Podcast Network. If you want to leave us a message or a question that we might read on another episode, you can text us at +1-310-905-5534 or send a DM on Instagram @BeItPod. Brad Crowell 14:23  It's written, filmed, and recorded by your host, Lesley Logan, and me, Brad Crowell.Lesley Logan 14:29  It is transcribed, produced and edited by the epic team at Disenyo.co.Brad Crowell 14:33  Our theme music is by Ali at Apex Production Music and our branding by designer and artist, Gianfranco Cioffi.Lesley Logan 14:40  Special thanks to Melissa Solomon for creating our visuals.Brad Crowell 14:43  Also to Angelina Herico for adding all of our content to our website. And finally to Meridith Root for keeping us all on point and on time.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/be-it-till-you-see-it/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

When you're in a high-conflict divorce, the behaviors often feel indistinguishable. Gaslighting. Manipulation. Control. Chaos. Emotional whiplash. It's why so many people fixate on one question: Is my spouse a narcissist? In this episode, I'm joined by licensed psychotherapist and narcissistic abuse expert Chelsey Brooke Cole to explore a deeper truth—when the impact on you feels the same, does the label actually matter? We unpack what narcissistic abuse truly is, how it overlaps with other forms of emotional and psychological abuse, and why abusers and narcissists often behave in nearly identical ways during divorce. Especially when they're losing control. Especially when the legal process becomes another tool for domination, punishment, and destabilization. This conversation is not about diagnosing your ex. It's about understanding patterns so you can stop internalizing blame, stop doubting your reality, and stop negotiating from fear. We talk about the internal experience of these dynamics—the fog, the shame, the fragmentation, the nervous system overload—and how those symptoms affect your ability to think clearly, make decisions, and advocate for yourself and your children. Most importantly, we focus on what actually helps. How to protect yourself emotionally and strategically during a high-conflict divorce. How to anticipate predictable escalations. How to step out of reactivity and into steadiness. And how to begin rebuilding your sense of identity, self-worth, and agency after prolonged psychological control. If you're divorcing someone who feels impossible, unpredictable, or emotionally dangerous, this episode offers clarity, validation, and a path forward rooted in reality—not labels. Chelsey Brooke Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, certified partner trauma therapist, bestselling author of If Only I'd Known!, and a nationally recognized expert in narcissistic abuse and complex trauma. She has been featured in USA Today, Psychology Today, HuffPost, WKRN News 2, and FOX 26 Houston, and supports thousands of survivors through her clinical work, education, and trauma-informed programs. This episode is for anyone navigating a high-conflict divorce who needs to understand what's happening, why it's so destabilizing, and how to move forward without losing themselves in the process. Connect with Chelsey: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chelseybrookecole Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/chelseybrookecole Website: https://www.chelseybrookecole.com/ Free ebook version of bestselling book, If Only I'd Known! How to Outsmart Narcissists, Set Guilt-Free Boundaries, and Create Unshakeable Self-Worth: https://us14.list-manage.com/survey?u=b1c7f3139f2ce732f0176d8e5&id=5e960f8627&attribution=false Resources Mentioned in this Episode: Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com Free Divorce Support Network Gift: https://divorcesupportnetwork.com/jbdpod

Away to Me is Patricia McConnell PhD's first mystery novel, and it's gorgeous. Zazie and Kristi chat with Patricia to learn more about the book and why she decided to write fiction set in the dog world.We talk about:What made Patricia decide to write a mystery novelThe main character, Maddie McGowanWhether it was fun to be writing dogs as charactersHow she wrote about the dogs as real characters & without turning the interactions into negative/aversive ones. The many different dog training cases that appear as secondary characters in the bookPatricia has previously written many wonderful non-fiction books, including her memoir, The Education of Will. What's different about writing fiction? The power and importance of friendships and how dogs are one of the ways that many people can find a community?What motivates her to write, and will we see more of Maddie after this? Away to Me will be published on Feb 24th and is available for pre-order wherever books are sold.Also mentioned:What the Dog Knows by Cat WarrenPatricia's blog post on finding grace https://www.patriciamcconnell.com/theotherendoftheleash/natl-dog-training-month-or-you-and-54/Susanna Daniel and Madison Writers' Studio https://madisonwriters.com/Patricia McConnell at Bark! Fest https://www.buzzsprout.com/2183505/episodes/16149739The book Patricia recommend is The Salt Stones by Helen Whybrow.Learn more about Patricia and her book, Away to Me, on her website: https://www.patriciamcconnell.com/Send us a text to say hello!Support the showAbout the co-hosts: Kristi Benson is an honours graduate of, and now on staff with, the prestigious Academy for Dog Trainers and has her PCBC-A from the Pet Professional Accreditation Board. She lives in beautiful northern British Columbia, where she helps dog guardians through online classes. She is also a northern anthropologist. Kristi Benson's website Facebook Zazie Todd, PhD, is the award-winning author of Bark! The Science of Helping Your Anxious, Fearful, or Reactive Dog, Wag: The Science of Making Your Dog Happy and Purr: The Science of Making Your Cat Happy. She is the creator of the popular blog, Companion Animal Psychology, and has a column at Psychology Today. She lives in Maple Ridge, BC, with her husband, a dog and a cat. Instagram BlueSky

In this heartfelt episode, host Amanda Bauner candidly shares her personal struggles amid political turmoil in the U.S. She discusses the impact of current events on her travel plans and explores why finding joy is especially important during challenging times. Amanda offers practical tips for cultivating joy in daily life and travel, emphasizing the value of community, resilience, and meaningful connections.  Resources from This Episode February 2025 Psychology Today article: "The Importance of Joy in the Darkest of Times" authored by F. Diane Barth, LCSW. HelpGuide.org's article: "Finding Joy During Difficult Times" authored by Stephanie Mihalas, PhD, and ABPP. Me and the Magic Episode 124: Microadventures for the Solo Traveler. Me and the Magic Episode 159: Why Your Travel Plans and Goals May Change. Join the Me and the Magic Community Join the Me and the Magic Facebook community to share your love of solo travel, cruises, Disney travel, and more with new friends. Plus, share your thoughts and questions on this episode with the community! Connect with Amanda Is there a topic you'd like us to discuss? Email Amanda at amanda@meandthemagic.com.   Subscribe to the Me and the Magic weekly newsletter for exclusive content, including solo travel tips! Me and the Magic has voicemail! Leave a voicemail or text to 1-347-74MAGIC (1-347-746-2442). Share your thoughts about this episode, a future episode topic idea, or just say hi! Podcast Subscribe to this podcast so you will be the first to hear new episodes!  If you are enjoying the podcast, I'd greatly appreciate it if you could rate and review it on Apple Podcasts. The reviews help other people find this podcast.  Online Shop Buy some fun travel and pop culture shirts and more, at our online shop!

Kyle Austin Young is an award-winning strategy consultant for high achievers, entrepreneurs, and leaders in a wide range of fields. This work has given him the opportunity to develop and refine a powerful system for accomplishing big, meaningful goals that focuses on understanding and changing your odds of success. Kyle is a popular writer for Harvard Business Review, Fast Company, The Boston Globe, CNBC, Psychology Today, Forbes, and Business Insider. He is also the author of Success is a Numbers Game: Achieve Bigger Goals by Changing the Odds. When he's not writing, consulting, or spending time with family, you'll usually find him fishing. Click here to connect with Kyle on LinkedIn.

Tonya Lester, LCSW, is the author of Push Back: Live, Love, and Work with Others Without Losing Yourself and a Brooklyn-based psychotherapist and writer. Her essay, "Couples Therapist, Heal Thyself" was published in the Modern Love column in The New York Times, and she has been writing the popular Staying Sane Inside Insanity blog for Psychology Today since 2020. Tonya is a well known couples therapist, so it's particularly juicy and important that we're going to talk about struggles Tonya faced in her own marriage, and how she and her husband worked through them in couples therapy. Here's some of what we talked about: The conflict that landed them in couples therapy Being challenged by their couples therapist How Tonya and her husband changed their pattern The difference between a deal-breaker issue and a grappling issue Tonya's thoughts on secure attachment and attachment bonds How her own work as a couples therapist changed after being a client Show notes at https://anniezam.com/podcast/255  

We spend our lives climbing mountains—chasing the perfect relationship, the higher salary, or the dream home—convinced that the view from the top will finally make us feel complete. But all too often, we arrive at the summit only to find that the feeling of emptiness has followed us up the trail. In this episode, we will dismantle the illusion that 'more' is the answer and explore why true fulfillment can never be found in things that can be lost. New Episode of the Happiness Podcast with Dr. Robert Puff, Ph.D.

Welcome to The Mental Breakdown and Psychreg Podcast! Today, Dr. Berney and Dr. Marshall discuss the importance of remaining calm when trying to manage our children's behavior. Read the article from Psychology Today here. You can now follow Dr. Marshall on twitter, as well! Dr. Berney and Dr. Marshall are happy to announce the release of their new parenting e-book, Handbook for Raising an Emotionally Healthy Child Part 2: Attention. You can get your copy from Amazon here. We hope that you will join us each morning so that we can help you make your day the best it can be! See you tomorrow. Become a patron and support our work at http://www.Patreon.com/thementalbreakdown. Visit Psychreg for blog posts covering a variety of topics within the fields of mental health and psychology. The Parenting Your ADHD Child course is now on YouTube! Check it out at the Paedeia YouTube Channel. The Handbook for Raising an Emotionally Health Child Part 1: Behavior Management is now available on kindle! Get your copy today! The Elimination Diet Manual is now available on kindle and nook! Get your copy today! Follow us on Twitter and Facebook and subscribe to our YouTube Channels, Paedeia and The Mental Breakdown. Please leave us a review on iTunes so that others might find our podcast and join in on the conversation!

Ever felt like no matter how much you prepare for an important conversation with your partner, you still end up missing each other entirely? In the heat of tough conversations, even the best intentions can get lost as tension rises and defenses go up. It's all too easy for moments of misunderstanding to snowball, leaving both people feeling disconnected and unsure how to find their way back to each other. In this episode, you'll discover a radically simple approach to transforming those tense moments into opportunities for true connection. Looking through the lens of openness, which the conversation calls the "aperture effect," you'll learn why slowing down, becoming mindful, and attuning to each other's emotional states can help you break free from unhelpful patterns. Explore practical techniques to foster emotional safety, collaboration, and presence so you can turn even challenging interactions into pathways for deeper understanding and closeness. Kathryn Ford, M.D., is a psychiatrist, couples therapist, and author. Her work is a unique integration of mindfulness, psychotherapy, and neuroscience. After receiving her M.D. degree from Brown School of Medicine, Dr. Ford completed a residency in psychiatry at Stanford University School of Medicine. Her meditation practice and studies developed her understanding of the power of mindfulness for building deeper, more resilient relationships. She has taught at Stanford Continuing Studies, Stanford Medical School, and  Santa Clara University, and publishes regularly online in Psychology Today.   Episode Highlights 04:02 The Aperture Effect—an exploration at the intersection of psychiatry, mindfulness, and neuroscience. 09:40 What happens when openness shuts down in conversation? 11:26 The brain's role in relationship dynamics and mindful self-awareness. 15:23 Recognizing and responding to real-time emotional signals. 17:14 How our openness fluctuates moment to moment: Practical awareness skills. 21:08 Why slowing down changes everything: Strategies for connection over resolution. 26:06 Openness on a continuum: Tracking your state in challenging conversations. 29:16 Regrouping when things get rocky: Navigating pauses and timeouts. 33:53 Moving between vulnerability and defensiveness. 38:13 Vulnerability as the pathway to connection. 42:18 The power of naming your emotional state. 43:30 Learning and practicing aperture awareness and mindfulness.   Your Checklist of Actions to Take Practice mindful pausing: When you notice tension or confusion in conversations with your partner, pause for a deep breath to ground yourself and slow the interaction. Regularly check in with yourself during discussions. Ask, "Am I open or closed right now?" and observe your body for cues like warmth (open) or tension (closed). Use the "Two Sentences" exercise by limiting your speaking turns to one or two sentences and then pausing, giving both you and your partner time to process before responding. Be explicit about your emotional state, for example, saying, "I'm feeling a bit vulnerable discussing this," to invite empathy and understanding. When things get heated, intentionally slow down the dialogue. Avoid rapid-fire responses and give space for reflection. Call a timeout if needed: If either partner rates their openness as a 4 or lower (on a 1-10 scale), suggest a short break to allow both people to regroup and prevent escalation. Reassure and regroup: Offer reassurance like, "I didn't mean to sound harsh," and check if both partners feel ready to continue before moving forward. Acknowledge the need for ongoing conversations: Accept that not every topic needs a final resolution. Focus on maintaining connection, trust, and openness even when issues remain unresolved.   Mentioned The Aperture Effect (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Polyvagal Theory (website) Gottman Institute (website) Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) (*Psychology Today) (link) ERP 340: The Essential Skill Of Tracking Openness in Relationship — An Interview With Dr. Kathryn Ford 12 Relationship Principles to Strengthen Your Love (free guide)   Connect with Kathryn Ford M.D. Websites: kathrynfordmd.com Facebook: facebook.com/KathrynFordMD Instagram: instagram.com/KathrynFordMD LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kathryn-ford-m-d-1a675b2b Substack: substack.com/@kathrynfordmd   Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com  

Sarah Allen Benton is an Advanced Alcohol and Drug Counselor and Licensed Mental Health Counselor. She is Chief Clinical Officer and co-owner of Waterview Behavioral Health. She is also the co-owner of Benton Behavioral Health Consulting, LLC, offering clinical and business support services to innovative addiction and mental health companies. She holds a Master of Science in Counseling Psychology with an emphasis in Health Psychology. She is also author of Understanding the High-Functioning Alcoholic and writes a blog for Psychology Today. Her newest book is Parents in Recovery: Navigating a Sober Family Lifestyle AND Understanding the High-Functioning Alcoholic. Click here for a list of resources that Sarah provides.

We often think of our emotions like a light switch—that we can be a rage monster on the freeway or rude to a chatbot, and then instantly flip the switch to 'Saint' when we walk through the front door to see our family. But neuroscience tells us a different story. Every time we practice impatience—even when we think it's harmless—we are literally wiring our brains to be unkind. Today, we're discussing the ripple effects of our private words, and how the 'neural grooves' we carve in secret eventually bleed over into the lives of the people we love most. New Episode of the Happiness Podcast with Dr. Robert Puff, Ph.D.

Change is the only constant, yet our first reaction to it is often fear. Whether it is a shift in the economy, a change in our health, or the rise of new technology like AI, the "unknown" triggers our defenses. In this episode, we explore the choice between Fear and Acceptance. We look at historical figures like Dorothy Vaughan (who embraced the first computers) and the Impressionist painters (who embraced the camera) to see how successful people don't fight the future—they evolve with it. Learn how to treat the changes in our world not as threats, but as a "gym" where we practice expanding our hearts, quieting our egos, and moving from anxiety to curiosity. New Episode of the Happiness Podcast with Dr. Robert Puff, Ph.D.

There's a reason hearing your mother's voice can feel different from hearing anyone else's — even when it's just a phone call. This episode opens with the surprising effects researchers have discovered. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-psychology-of-relationships/202104/two-key-reasons-why-you-should-call-your-mom Guilt feels terrible — and that's exactly what makes it so effective. While we tend to see guilt as something to avoid, it may actually play an essential role in helping us learn, repair relationships, and behave more ethically. Christopher Moore explains why guilt exists, how it evolved, and why feeling guilty can sometimes be a very good thing. Christopher is a professor of psychology and former dean of science at Dalhousie University, whose work has been cited in Psychology Today, Today's Parent, and The New York Times. He is author of The Power of Guilt: Why We Feel It and Its Surprising Ability to Heal (https://amzn.to/3Nrt051). Plagiarism seems like a clear-cut wrongdoing — but the reality is far more complicated. People plagiarize more often than you might think, sometimes without even realizing it. And in some cases, you can be accused of plagiarism even if you've never seen the original work. With only so many ways to tell a story or write a song, where does coincidence end and plagiarism begin? Roger Kreuz joins me to explore this fascinating gray area. He is Associate Dean and professor of psychology at the University of Memphis, a columnist for Psychology Today, and author of Strikingly Similar: Plagiarism and Appropriation from Chaucer to Chatbots. (https://amzn.to/4soVFaS). And finally, there's a widespread belief that dark roast coffee has more caffeine than light roast — or that espresso packs far more caffeine than a regular cup of coffee. Both ideas sound logical, but they're not quite right. We wrap up by explaining what actually determines caffeine content and why these myths persist. https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/light-vs-dark-roast-coffee Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this solo episode, Darin breaks down one of the most misunderstood drivers of behavior change: environment. We've been taught that success comes down to discipline, motivation, and willpower, but neuroscience tells a very different story. Darin explains how modern environments hijack the brain's reward system, override conscious choice, and quietly shape habits before we even realize it. This episode is a practical, science-backed roadmap for redesigning your surroundings so healthy behaviors become automatic and self-sabotaging patterns lose their grip.     What You'll Learn Why willpower is a weak and unreliable backup system How your environment shapes behavior before conscious choice The neuroscience behind cues, habits, and automatic behavior Why modern food and tech are engineered to hijack dopamine How stress amplifies cravings and impulsive behavior The link between cortisol, dopamine, and habit formation Why changing your environment works better than "trying harder" How visual cues influence food choices and cravings Why phones, notifications, and color overstimulate the brain Simple ways to design a SuperLife environment that supports your goals     Chapters 00:00:03 – Welcome to SuperLife and the mission of sovereignty 00:00:33 – Sponsor: TruNiagen NAD⁺ supplements and why verification matters 00:02:18 – Introducing today's topic: environment vs willpower 00:02:42 – Why willpower has been misunderstood 00:03:18 – Willpower as a weak backup system 00:03:32 – How surroundings shape habits automatically 00:03:53 – The neuroscience of behavior change 00:04:01 – Dopamine hijacking in modern life 00:04:14 – Designing environments that make good habits automatic 00:05:06 – Why this topic matters more than ever 00:05:46 – External cues and automatic brain responses 00:06:18 – Hippocampus, basal ganglia, and habit loops 00:06:55 – Nudge theory and environmental design 00:07:31 – Why willpower shouldn't lead behavior change 00:07:55 – Food cues, stress, and cravings 00:08:20 – Phones, notifications, and dopamine overload 00:09:05 – Reward prediction and cue-driven behavior 00:10:02 – Redesigning environments to reduce addiction 00:10:34 – Stress hormones and habit reinforcement 00:11:30 – Sponsor: Our Place non-toxic cookware 00:13:34 – Stress, scrolling, and lost time 00:14:26 – Junk food, stress, and compulsive eating 00:15:12 – How environmental cues shift food desire 00:15:28 – Engineered foods and reward circuits 00:16:09 – Tech cues, stress, and attention hijacking 00:17:06 – Practical solutions: designing a SuperLife environment 00:17:48 – Kitchen setup and visual food cues 00:18:41 – Workspace design and single-purpose zones 00:19:08 – Reducing digital dopamine triggers 00:19:32 – Using grayscale mode on your phone 00:20:32 – Social environment and behavior modeling 00:21:21 – Community, support, and the SuperLife Patreon 00:22:18 – Bringing nature into your home 00:23:19 – Environment influences habits more than willpower 00:23:52 – Why inaction keeps you stuck 00:24:13 – Changing your environment to change your life 00:24:26 – Closing thoughts and call to action     Thank You to Our Sponsors: Our Place: Non-toxic cookware that keeps harmful chemicals out of your food. Get 10% off at fromourplace.com with code DARIN. Tru Niagen: Boost NAD+ levels for cellular health and longevity. Get 20% off with code DARIN20 at truniagen.com.     Find More From Darin: Website: darinolien.com Instagram: @darinolien Book: Fatal Conveniences     Key Takeaway If you don't change your environment, something else will keep making choices for you.     Bibliography/Sources Clear, J. (2018). Atomic habits: An easy & proven way to build good habits & break bad ones. Avery. (Reference for Environment > Willpower). https://jamesclear.com/atomic-habits Laran, J., & Salerno, A. (2013). Life-history strategy, food choice, and caloric consumption. Psychological Science, 24(2), 167–173. (Reference for harsh environment cues increasing desire for energy-dense foods). https://doi.org/10.1177/0956797612450031 Mullainathan, S., & Shafir, E. (2013). Scarcity: Why having so little means so much. Times Books. 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Today we're digging into executive function — what it really is, why it matters so much for neurodivergent kids (and adults!), and how we can better support these skills without judgment or overwhelm. Sarah and I talk about how awareness around executive function has evolved, why self-regulation is foundational, and how different skills — emotional, cognitive, and behavioral — are all interconnected. She shares her supportive, nonjudgmental coaching philosophy, along with practical ideas for helping kids with lagging executive function skills and navigating resistance when it shows up. Most importantly, Sarah reminds us that there is so much hope here: executive function skills can grow, and there are concrete steps we can take to help our kids thrive. About Sarah Kesty  Sarah Kesty helps amazing neurodivergent people create strategies to thrive! She is an executive function, autism, and ADHD coach and host of the Executive Function Podcast. A 4-time teacher of the year, Sarah's Brain Tools School coaching and learning programs support high schoolers, college students, adults, and coaches in developing executive function skills to smooth out life. Sarah specializes in translating research into real-life, actionable strategies. She regularly writes and presents for international groups and publications, including The Humane Society, State Departments of Education, Psychology Today, and Edutopia. Sarah's trainings teach businesses and schools to create environments and systems that support executive function. Her mission is to make the world brain-friendly, inclusive, and a little more fun. An avid birder and local Trail Guide, she and her family live in San Diego, surrounded by nature. Her book for teachers, Growing Executive Function, was released September 2025 (Solution Tree). Things you'll learn from this episode  How executive function serves as a foundation for success and why self-regulation is central to these skills Why “living in hard mode” can hinder executive functioning and how environmental factors play a major role How executive function skills can be taught, supported, and improved over time Why non-judgmental, supportive coaching helps children build confidence and reduce avoidance How visual aids and small, structured supports can make time management more accessible Why recognizing and celebrating small wins reinforces progress and builds hope for continued growth Resources mentioned Sarah Kesty's website Growing Executive Function: Empowering Secondary Students With Skills for Lifelong Success (Executive function made easy for teachers) by Sarah Kesty Stop Playing in Hard Mode (Psychology Today) Sarah Kesty on Psychology Today Sarah Kesty on Instagram Sarah Kesty on YouTube Sarah Kesty on Edutopia Sarah Kesty on Facebook Seth Perler (executive function coach) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices