Podcasts about self regulation

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Modern motherhood isn't exhausting because you're doing it wrong. It's exhausting because you're carrying a load that previous generations weren't aware of.In this episode, I am joined by Psychologist and author Dr. Amber Thornton to talk about the emotional load of parenting and why so many moms feel overwhelmed, overstimulated, and depleted despite caring deeply about their families.We explore how parenting has shifted from focusing primarily on survival and stability to prioritizing emotional awareness, emotional intelligence, and connection. While this shift creates incredible opportunities for our children, it also places a significant emotional burden on parents who are often learning these skills in real time.In this episode, we discuss:• What the emotional load of parenting actually is• Why modern parenting feels so different from previous generations• The "living room kid" phenomenon and why many parents feel like they're always on• How self care directly impacts your ability to parent effectively• Why emotions aren't the problem and what they're actually trying to tell you• What emotional regulation really meansIf you've ever felt guilty for needing a break, frustrated by your reactions, or overwhelmed by the emotional demands of parenting, this conversation will help you feel seen, understood, and supported.Resources Mentioned• A Parent's Guide to Self-Regulation by Dr. Amber ThorntonConnect with Dr. Amber!Website - www.dramberthornton.comInstagram - @dramberthorntonYouTube - @dramberthorntonLinkedIn - @dramberthorntonThanks for listening!Connect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoachingIf you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Support the show

On this episode of the Awaken Your Wise Woman podcast, host Elizabeth Cush welcomes Annaliese Oatman, a multi-disciplinary artist and psychedelic somatic therapist, for a conversation about psychedelic-assisted therapy.“I like the idea that self-regulation is not one little practice that we engage in the moment that we're dysregulated, but it's a lifestyle.”  — Annalise OatmanYou're doing the work. You're moving forward, but you feel like something is standing in the way of your progress. You're reaching for something but feel like it's out of your grasp. Your energy feels stuck. Maybe you could benefit by shaking up your nervous system. Throughout the ages, in cultures around the world, spiritual seekers have used psychedelics to enhance their exploration and attain new insights. In this episode of Awaken Your Wise Woman, host Elizabeth “Biz” Cush, LCPC, a licensed professional therapist, founder of Progression Counseling in Maryland and Delaware, and a soul support for highly sensitive women, welcomes Annalise Oatman, LCSW, a multi-disciplinary artist and a psychedelic-somatic therapist, for a discussion of amplifying the therapeutic process through the use of psychedelics. They talk about psychedelic-assisted therapy and how it is best used, and how highly sensitive women might find it to be a useful tool. You can find the full show notes and resources for all the episodes here.Support the showI hope you enjoyed the show!You can also follow me here:InstagramYouTubeFacebook

Send us Fan MailWhat if everything you've been told about change, motivation, and stress is missing the most important piece — your brain?This week I'm joined by Lisa Riegel, educator by training, strategist by practice, and someone who has dedicated her career to translating brain science into language and tools that actually help people feel more self-aware, regulated, and in control. Lisa is the creator of the NeuroWell Framework and the Aspirations to Operations Commitment Framework, and whether she's working with Fortune 500 leaders, school systems, or individuals navigating their own lives, her message is the same: real change starts in the brain.In this conversation we cover so much ground, and I think you're going to find it as accessible and practical as I did. We talk about:Why 80% of the thinking happening in your brain right now is unconscious — and what that means for your behavior, your reactions, and your relationshipsMeet Bob and Harold — Lisa's brilliant, accessible way of explaining how your amygdala and thalamus work together to filter reality and trigger your stress responseThe four states of wakefulness (calm, alert, alarm, fear) and exactly what happens neurologically when you burn outWhy change is so hard — and why most change initiatives, in organizations and in our personal lives, fail before they even beginThe difference between outcome goals and action goals, and why that distinction is everythingWhy we don't know what our body feels like when we're happy — and a simple morning practice to start changing thatThe power of identifying not just what stresses you out, but why — and how uncovering the underlying fear gives you genuine self-controlWhy celebration is the most underused and misunderstood tool in leadership, parenting, and self-developmentHow to create your own resilient inner bubble in a world that feels increasingly out of controlLisa brings so much warmth and wisdom to this conversation, and her ability to take complex brain science and make it feel immediately usable is truly a gift. This one is for the leaders, the parents, the burnout survivors, and anyone who has ever wondered why they keep reacting in ways they don't intend to.Resources:Free Masterclass:  The Alchemy of the Perimenopause PortalAyurvedic Dosha Quick Reference GuideAbhyanga Self Massage GuideWeekend Nervous System ResetNourished For Resilience Workbook Find me at www.nourishednervoussystem.comand @nourishednervoussytem on Instagram

In early May 2026, transport vans rolled out of Ridglan Farms in Blue Mounds, Wisconsin, carrying beagles toward new lives—grass under their paws, sunlight on their faces, and homes instead of stacked wire cages. Nearly 1,500 beagles were purchased by rescue organizations like Big Dog Ranch Rescue and the Beagle Freedom Project after years of documented suffering at one of the nation's largest commercial beagle breeders for biomedical research. This outcome marks a rare, tangible win for animal advocates. But it came only after daring direct-action raids, mass protests met with tear gas and rubber bullets, a special prosecutor's investigation, and persistent legal pressure. Even now, roughly 500 dogs may remain behind as Ridglan winds down its commercial breeding operations by July 1, 2026. The Ridglan story is not just about one facility. It exposes deep, systemic failures in U.S. law that leave millions of animals in laboratories with minimal protections—and even those “covered” by federal rules often receive little meaningful relief. The Raids That Forced Change On March 15, 2026, activists from groups linked to the Coalition to Save the Ridglan Dogs breached fences and buildings at Ridglan Farms. They removed around 22–30 beagles. Some were successfully rehomed; others were recovered by police. However, an estimated 2000 beagles remained in captivity, potentially subject to additional horrific experimentation. Our guest, Dean Guzman Wyrzykowski, was one of these activists. A second, larger action on April 18 drew roughly 1,000 protesters to rescue the remaining beagles. Law enforcement responded with tear gas, pepper spray, and rubber bullets. No additional dogs could be rescued that day. Dozens of protesters were arrested, including our guest on The Breggin Hour, Dean Guzman Wyrzykowski, a San Francisco Bay Area-based animal rights activist and political organizer. He is co-founder of The Simple Heart Initiative—a nonprofit dedicated to advancing species equality through open rescue, impact litigation, undercover investigations, and activist training. With over eight years in nonprofit advocacy, Dean has recruited and trained hundreds of activists and is one of the lead organizers of the Ridglan campaign. He now faces serious felony burglary charges—potentially up to 12 years in prison—along with several co-defendants for the first March 15, 2026, rescue effort. Further charges may be pending. As a top priority, we urge that the charges be reduced or dropped to reflect the vastly important ethical basis of the actions of these animal advocates. How to Help Dean Dean reports that the best way to assist him with legal costs is to become a paid subscriber to his Substack at Urbananimal.substack.com. To support ending the breeding of dogs for lab testing, go to Save the Dogs, make a donation, and join over 111,581 others who have already signed the petition to end breeding of dogs for laboratory use. These weren't the first efforts to expose and stop the abuses of these dogs. Ridglan had faced scrutiny for years, including earlier investigations. The raids amplified public outrage and accelerated negotiations between rescuers and Ridglan Farms. In late April, rescue groups announced they had reached a deal to acquire ~1,500 dogs. Transports began in early May, with many “frosted face” seniors (older dogs with graying muzzles) now adjusting to life outside the facility—initially flinching at touch but quickly learning to wag tails and play. Decades of Alleged Cruelty at Ridglan — and Why It Is Winding Down Ridglan Farms operated for decades as a major supplier of beagles for testing. Former employees and state inspections described windowless warehouses, stacked cages over waste pits, high ammonia levels, rusted wires causing injuries, and routine surgeries (including eye procedures and devocalizations) performed without anesthesia or proper pain relief—sometimes by non-veterinarians. In 2025, Wisconsin's Department of Agriculture, Trade and Consumer Protection (DATCP) cited Ridglan for hundreds of violations. A judge found probable cause for animal cruelty. Special Prosecutor Tim Gruenke was appointed to investigate. Rather than face criminal charges, Ridglan chose to wind down. In a negotiated settlement in late 2025, the company agreed to surrender its Wisconsin commercial dog-breeding license by July 1, 2026. This effectively ends its large-scale commercial breeding and sales of beagles to external laboratories. In exchange, the state dropped the threat of felony animal cruelty prosecutions. This agreement was driven by years of accumulated citations, whistleblower testimony, undercover investigations, and intense public and activist pressure. While Ridglan can still conduct limited on-site research under its federal USDA licenses, its days as a major commercial beagle supplier are over. Parallels with Envigo and Other Scandals Ridglan is far from isolated. In 2022, a major scandal erupted at Envigo's breeding facility in Cumberland, Virginia. PETA's undercover investigation revealed severe neglect: inadequate food, veterinary care, housing, and staffing; dead puppies were left among litters; and unqualified staff performed invasive procedures. The U.S. Department of Justice intervened, leading to the rescue of over 4,000 beagles—the largest such seizure in U.S. history. Envigo (and its parent company Inotiv) later pleaded guilty to conspiring to violate the Animal Welfare Act and the Clean Water Act, agreeing to pay a record $35 million+ in fines and shutting down the breeding operation. From the Beagles to the Breggins, Senator Bill Stanley Sought Justice for the Underdog At a state level, key Virginia state legislators were involved in advocating for stronger animal welfare regulations in response to documented Animal Welfare Act violations, poor conditions, and high puppy mortality in the facility. Sen. Bill Stanley (R-Franklin County) was a leading champion at the state level. He visited the facility multiple times, co-sponsored several “Beagle Bills” in 2022 (e.g., SB 87, SB 88, SB 90, SB 604) to increase oversight, close loopholes for research animals, require adoption offers before euthanasia, and penalize repeat violators. He adopted two Envigo beagles (Daisy and Dixie) and worked on adoptions/rescues. We are especially happy to acknowledge Sen. Stanley's contributions because, among several attorneys we contacted to defend us against Robert Malone's lawfare defamation suit against us for $25 million, Bill was the first attorney willing to seriously pursue our case, which ended in the presiding judge throwing Malone's case out of court. From the beagles to the Breggins, Senator Stanley has sought justice for the underdog. The Sand Fly Experiments and High-Profile Scandals Public outrage over government-funded beagle suffering peaked in the early 2020s with revelations about NIH-funded experiments under Dr. Anthony Fauci's National Institute of Allergy and Infectious Diseases (NIAID). One widely criticized study involved beagle puppies in Tunisia exposed to sand flies carrying parasites (to study leishmaniasis). Reports described dogs having their heads locked in mesh cages filled with infected sand flies, being used as live bait in desert cages overnight, and in some cases undergoing cordectomies (vocal cord removal) to silence barking. The experiments sparked bipartisan congressional criticism and intense media coverage. The Nonhuman Rights Project (NhRP) and partners filed habeas corpus petitions seeking court recognition of the Ridglan dogs' right to freedom from cruelty and immediate remedies. While initial petitions faced dismissal, appeals continue for the remaining animals. Why U.S. Law Fails Experimental Animals The core federal statute is the Animal Welfare Act (AWA) of 1966 (and its amendments), enforced by the USDA's Animal and Plant Health Inspection Service (APHIS). It sets minimum standards for housing, feeding, veterinary care, and handling of certain animals. Critical Limitations Include: Massive Species Exclusions: Rats, mice, and birds bred for research—accounting for roughly 95% of lab animals—are explicitly excluded. Cold-blooded animals and others also fall outside coverage. Weak Standards for Covered Species: Even for dogs, cats, primates, etc., the AWA permits painful procedures if deemed “scientifically necessary.” There is no outright ban on specific types of experiments. Self-Regulation via IACUCs: Institutional Animal Care and Use Committees—dominated by researchers at the institutions they oversee—review protocols. Approval rates hover near 98%, with limited external oversight. Enforcement Gaps: Under-resourced inspections, reliance on self-reporting, and modest penalties limit impact. Ridglan itself had passed many USDA inspections despite state-level findings of serious issues. Property Status: Animals remain legal property. Novel habeas efforts like the Nonhuman Rights Project (NhRP) challenge this but face significant judicial hurdles, as courts have historically rejected animal “personhood” claims. For those of us who learned in childhood about unconditional love from our dogs, they are not only of equal value to people, but they seem on a higher spiritual level in the love they have given to us. Other frameworks, such as the Public Health Service Policy, apply only to federally funded research and offer even less robust enforcement. The 2022 FDA Modernization Act opened doors to non-animal alternatives, but broader statutory mandates for the “3Rs” (Replacement, Reduction, Refinement) remain limited. Reform efforts often stall due to powerful research lobbies, congressional agriculture committees' oversight, and public support for medical research that can overshadow welfare concerns. Broader Context and the Path Forward Ridglan and Envigo show that systemic problems persist despite occasional rescues and fines. Millions of animals continue to be used annually in U.S. labs, yet positive developments exist: growing adoption of alternatives (organ-on-chip, AI modeling, human cell cultures), increased rehoming programs, and shifting public opinion favoring stronger protections. The Ridglan victory shows that sustained pressure—investigations, lawsuits, public protest, and direct rescue—can force change where law falls short. Yet relying on activists risking felony charges is not sustainable. Meaningful reform requires: Expanding Animal Welfare Act coverage to all vertebrates. Stronger, independent oversight and enforcement with real penalties. Mandatory consideration and funding for non-animal methods. Judicial tools (like effective habeas relief) to address cruelty in licensed facilities promptly. A Call to Readers The beagles now tasting freedom represent hope—but hundreds may still face uncertainty, and systemic issues persist for countless others. Share their stories. Support reputable rescues and organizations like The Simple Heart Initiative, the Nonhuman Rights Project, Beagle Freedom Project, and others working on legal and legislative fronts. Contact your representatives and demand real modernization of the Animal Welfare Act. Persistence works. Now we must translate outrage into lasting legal change—so no more facilities like this exist in the first place. What are your thoughts on balancing research needs with animal welfare? Have you followed the Ridglan story, the Envigo case, Dean's work, or the earlier sand fly scandals? Drop a comment or share this post. References / Endnotes Wisconsin Examiner / Milwaukee Journal Sentinel coverage of Ridglan rescues and settlement (2026). Nonhuman Rights Project – Ridglan Beagles case page. U.S. Department of Justice – Envigo sentencing and $35M+ resolution (2024). Bipartisan congressional letters on NIAID/Tunisia sand fly experiments (2021). Dean Guzman Wyrzykowski / The Simple Heart Initiative statements (2026). USDA Animal Welfare Act overview and limitations. Additional reporting from WPR, Right to Rescue, and related investigations.   ______   Learn more about Dr. Peter Breggin's work: https://breggin.com/   See more from Dr. Breggin's long history of being a reformer in psychiatry: https://breggin.com/Psychiatry-as-an-Instrument-of-Social-and-Political-Control   Psychiatric Drug Withdrawal, the how-to manual @ https://breggin.com/a-guide-for-prescribers-therapists-patients-and-their-families/   Get a copy of Dr. Breggin's latest book: WHO ARE THE “THEY” - THESE GLOBAL PREDATORS? WHAT ARE THEIR MOTIVES AND THEIR PLANS FOR US? HOW CAN WE DEFEND AGAINST THEM? Covid-19 and the Global Predators: We are the Prey Get a copy: https://www.wearetheprey.com/   “No other book so comprehensively covers the details of COVID-19 criminal conduct as well as its origins in a network of global predators seeking wealth and power at the expense of human freedom and prosperity, under cover of false public health policies.”   ~ Robert F Kennedy, Jr Author of #1 bestseller The Real Anthony Fauci and Founder, Chairman and Chief Legal Counsel for Children's Health Defense.

When our nervous system is in hyper reactivity everything feels harder…small things seem big, fears and doubts set in, thinking is scrambled and our temper is on a hair trigger.Join us as we explore how self-regulation gives us the ability to pause before reacting so that the choices we make align with the best version of ourselves.

Theramex is the third UK pharma company to leave PMCPA jurisdiction in three years (Sandoz 2023, Evolus 2024, Theramex 2026). Does that reflect increasing rules, companies avoiding audit, or self-regulation management of issues? Rina & Jean discuss how we got here and what it means for the future of self-regulation.

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In this third episode of the Mindful in May series, Heidi Hadley explores one of the most important skills you can develop in today's world:The ability to create calm, even when life feels chaotic.So often, we wait for life to settle before we allow ourselves to feel calm.But the truth is: Life may not always feel predictable  External uncertainty may continue  Challenges will come and go Yet,Your internal state is something you can influence.Your nervous system can be supported.Your body can learn how to return to a place of steadiness.In this episode, Heidi guides you through a simple yet powerful shift:Calm is not something you wait for. It is something you practise.

In this episode, Robin and Nina explore one of the most common — and costly — habits in human relationships: making someone else wrong. They discuss: — How labels like "narcissist" and "psychopath" become shortcuts that shut down empathy — The psychological payoffs of demonizing someone you love — Nina's story of staying curious and connected with a politically passionate family member — Robin's personal experience of being demonized — and what it feels like to have the door shut on you — Self-regulation and why it's the foundation of every good conversation — Questions to ask yourself when you notice the pattern What conversation is worth your courage? — People Skillz: pplskillz.com  — Free Open Loops Tool: closetheloopsnow.com/tool —  — Book: Stop Stealing From Yourself — coming summer 2026 Join our 5 Day Detox Your To-Do List Challenge coming soon! More details to follow!  If this episode resonated with you, you might enjoy our free People Skillz community — a structured space to practice steadier, more intentional communication. We also created a short Communication Patterns Quiz to help you identify how you respond under pressure. You'll find both here.

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In this second episode of the Mindful in May series, Heidi Hadley takes you deeper into one of the most essential yet often overlooked aspects of wellbeing:Nervous system regulation.When life feels overwhelming, when your thoughts are racing, or when your body feels unsettled, you are not simply dealing with stress.You are experiencing a dysregulated nervous system.And the solution is not to think your way out of it.The solution is to regulate your way through it.In this episode, Heidi introduces a simple yet highly effective approach using: Breath awareness  Gentle eye movements  Slow, controlled pacing These tools work directly with your nervous system to help shift you out of a heightened stress response and into a state of: Calm  Clarity  Emotional balance  Physiological regulation 

In this episode, Elle and Vee sit down with Genevieve Lejeune, founder of Skirt Club, to explore what really happens when women gather without the male gaze. From all female play parties and bisexual awakening to sex magic, nervous system regulation, and erotic sisterhood, this conversation dives deep into the emotional and psychological layers of female desire. Genevieve opens up about building a global community for bi curious women, the healing power of feminine spaces, and why so many women are starving for permission to finally choose themselves. The result is raw and deeply validating for any woman craving more pleasure, freedom, and connection.Liberating Women: The Power of Female Spaces. (00:00)Exploring Bisexuality and Female Empowerment. (03:08)Not Just a Sex Club: Community and Connection. (09:04)The Role of Sex Magic in Personal Empowerment. (14:50)Why are retreats so powerful? The Importance of Energy and Environment. (18:00)Self-Regulation and Wellness, Navigating Burnout and Embracing Feminine Energy. (25:07)Creating Safe Spaces for Pleasure. (33:24)How to get out of your head into your body at a play party! (41:12)Diverse Event Themes to Unleash Women. (46:13)Tips for your first time at an all-femme play party. (53:20)Pheromones, Smelling and Tasting Yourself. (59:14)____________

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In an industry with high turnover and lots of workers fresh out of school, on-the-job education is par for the course. But even for experienced owners and managers, the skills needed to handle personal and performance issues that come up in the salon are often not fully developed. That's why were so lucky to have a conversation with today's guest, Araceli Castañeda. Araceli is a leadership trainer in Summit Salon Business Center's Leadership and Wellness Training division. She's also COO, General Manager and an owner at The Fixx Hair Studio in New Braunfels, Texas. Araceli has a bachelors degree in psychology and a masters in Marriage and Family Therapy.   As Araceli shares with host Blake Reed Evans, managers should go into conversations with employees with an attitude of curiosity. You'll get a lot from this conversation with two seasoned salon leaders including: What kind of questions to ask How to listen Understanding generational shifts in expections of reward and disapointment Advice for checking internal biases Self-regulation mini-skills for leaders Legal and ethical limitations of managment-employee conversations RESOURCES Learn more about Araceli and schedule a 30 minute discovery call. You can also email her at acastaneda@summitsalon.com. Sign up for Araceli's Summit leadership subscription series.  Take the Summit Owner Burnout Diagnostic, a research-backed self-assessment to help salon owners identify burnout patterns and receive personalized recommendations for sustainable wellness. Find more information about burnout and the diagnostic tool here.  Follow Summit Salon Business Center on Instagram @SummitSalon, and on TikTok at SummitSalon. SUMM IT UP is now on YouTube! Watch extended cuts of our interviews at www.youtube.com/@summitunlockedFind host Blake Reed Evans on Instagram @BlakeReedEvans and on TikTok at blakereedevans. His DM's are always open! You can email Blake at bevans@summitsalon.com. Visit us at SummitSalon.com to connect with others in the industry. SUMM IT UP is produced and edited by Andrea Muraskin. The executive producer is Tim Fisk.

In this enlightening episode, Oliver speaks with Parm, a seasoned yoga instructor, about the importance of self-regulation, listening to your body, and finding inner balance in a world increasingly overwhelmed by external stimuli. Together, they dive deep into the detrimental effects of constant social media consumption, the wisdom our bodies hold, and the transformative power of self-care practices like meditation, yoga, and breathwork.They explore the societal impact of stress, the need for generational healing, and the individual responsibility we each have to foster positive change. This episode also emphasizes the importance of questioning societal norms and finding personal stability in chaotic times.Key Topics: The limitations of the mind's desires vs. the body's capacity and wisdom  The negative effects of social media and constant stimulation on our nervous system Detoxing from external noise and tuning into your body's natural signals  Practical strategies for self-regulation, including breathwork, yoga, and meditation The link between stress, societal aggression, and the need for generational healing The role of whistleblowers and individual responsibility in creating a healthier society  The power of leading by example and creating local change Respecting personal boundaries and learning to say no How to address perfectionism and other emotional patterns through self-awareness The impact of societal figures and the importance of internal stability in the face of external pressure Episode Highlights: [00:00:00] - Intro: The power of self-regulation in today's world  [00:00:26] - Taking responsibility for emotions and actions  [00:04:42] - The role of mental noise in self-regulation [00:07:07] - Emotional overload and its impact on the body  [00:11:54] - Practical self-regulation practices: Yoga, meditation, breathwork  [00:16:12] - The youth's role in social change and activism  [00:19:11] - The impact of online culture on mental health  [00:24:29] - Whistleblowers and accountability in society  [00:30:31] - Breaking generational cycles of stress and trauma  [00:39:30] - The importance of internal stability amidst external chaos  [00:42:21] - Free stress management guide for listeners Send us Fan MailSupport the showRaw, unedited conversations exploring healing, self-awareness, trauma, and personal growth.Hosted by Oliver, who overcame Tourette's, ADHD, and OCD through lifestyle changes and nervous system regulation, this podcast focuses on real, practical healing — not theory.Each episode covers topics like emotional triggers, inner child healing, mindfulness, identity, and building resilience through honest, lived experience.For anyone seeking clarity, emotional freedom, and deeper self-understanding.Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/yeskingoliverInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/yeskingoliverDownload my FREE PDF — Take Control: http://www.talkwitholiver.comCommunity for healers, lightworkers & conscious travellers:Connect, exchange services, plan journeys, list retreats, discover festivals, and share your work:https://www.findmytribe.org

S2 Finale｜你不需要更多改變，你需要的是整合 為什麼「接下來的一年」，你不會再用舊方式活著▷ 本集定位｜這一集寫給誰如果你最近開始出現這些感覺——你沒有更激進，但你更清楚：有些活法回不去了你不再想用消耗換安全，不再想用撐住證明價值你對「再調整自己一點」開始感到疲乏，甚至覺得哪裡不對勁你感覺自己站在一個門口：不是要更努力，而是要換一套活法那這一集就是寫給你的。這一集不是教新工具、不是加新方法。Season Finale 的意義只有一個：

EP:190 In this episode of Thrive Like a Parent, I'm getting really honest about something so many couples quietly struggle with: that heavy cycle of resentment, anger, and disconnection with your partner. I share why I don't always believe traditional couples counseling is the most effective route and why I choose to work with partners individually instead. When each person learns to regulate their own nervous system—instead of trying to fix, manage, or control the other—you naturally begin to release codependency, reduce resentment, and rebuild real connection. I open up about my own experiences in partnership and parenting and walk you through: How over-functioning and constantly “doing everything” leads to burnout, anger, and keeping score Why trying to fix your partner's dysregulation never works (and only drains you) The difference between truly supporting your partner vs. carrying them How to have hard conversations about mood, energy, snapping, and behavior without blame, shame, or name-calling How dysregulation and disconnection quietly shut down intimacy What it looks like when both partners become self-regulated, self-responsible, and emotionally available If you've ever thought: “I'm doing everything and it's still not enough.” “My partner has no idea what I carry.” “We feel more like roommates than partners.” …then this episode is for you. I'll give you a new lens on your relationship so you can stop trying to fix each other and instead regulate yourselves, communicate clearly, and rebuild intimacy from a grounded, healthy place. You'll walk away with practical language you can start using today to shift the energy in your home—without another screaming match or weeks of walking on eggshells.  Ready for the next step? If this episode speaks to you, share it with your partner and use it as a starting point for an honest, loving conversation about what's really going on beneath the surface. If you're ready to learn how to regulate your own nervous system so you can show up differently in your relationship, parenting, and everyday life, join my sensory and emotional regulation program. This is the work that has transformed hundreds of partnerships from the inside out.  Subscribe for more episodes on regulation, relationships, and parenting.  If this helped you, like the video, leave a comment telling me your biggest takeaway, and share it with a friend who needs to hear they're not alone. Links & Resources:  Check out more episodes of Thrive Like a Parent - https://drbrookeweinstein.com/thrive-podcast/  Follow Dr. B on Instagram -   https://bit.ly/48VZI5e    Visit our website for more resources on self-care and well-being - https://drbrookeweinstein.com #ThriveLikeAParent #SelfRegulation #EmotionalRegulation #Relationships #MarriageAdvice #Codependency #NervousSystemRegulation #Intimacy #Parenting #ConsciousParenting #MarriageHealth #MentalHealth #PartnershipGoals

Send us Fan MailNo student ever was successful without developing self-regulation skills, which is harder than ever for students to develop. In this conversation, Danielle Larsen shares how she teaches yoga in the classroom specifically to promote and develop self-regulation within students. We discuss how she approaches her work and Danielle shares some tips for teachers.Rise Yoga-Danielle Larsen's website

If you've ever had a rough morning throw off your entire day, it's time to build the self-regulation skills that keep you steady no matter what.In this episode, Steph dives into the art of quick self-regulation and why it's one of the most important skills for personal development and leadership. She shares practical strategies for resetting your energy after setbacks, building resilience and emotional maturity, and developing the mental toughness to bounce back like a buoyant cork. Whether it's a bad morning or a stressful evening, Steph describes the importance of reclaiming your focus and staying high-performing throughout the day.In this episode you'll discover:The importance of quick self-regulationPracticing resilience and emotional maturityStrategies for rapid resetting after setbacksYour takeaways:Practice your quick reset to stay high-performingGet skilled at self-regulation to manage daily challengesReset your energy quickly after a bad morning or eveningChapters00:00 The Importance of Self-Regulation02:47 Practicing Quick Resets for Emotional Resilience

Dr. Kathy Wu, author of The Self-Regulation Handbook for Teens & Young Adults, shares self-regulation skills to help teens and young folks manage stress, emotions, and everyday chaos.

為什麼世界開始用不同方式回應你？當你走到這個人生階段，穩定本身就會改變整個場域The Field Effect｜Presence-Based Feminine Leadership & Embodied Stability▷ 本集定位｜這一集寫給誰如果你最近發現——世界變得比較安靜，但不是退場有些合作自然淡掉，有些機會卻不用爭取就出現人們開始等你說完話，而不是急著接話你不再被默認為「一定會補位、一定會配合的人」你可能會困惑：我沒有刻意改變什麼，但整個場域好像不一樣了你不是變得比較強，也不是進入某種境界，你只是走到一個階段：穩定本身，開始影響世界▷ 本集核心洞見這一集要談的，不是吸引力，也不是顯化 ; 而是一個很實際、卻很少被說清楚的現象：

You've learned about the nervous system, you're trying to co-regulate, you're thinking about felt safety and connection — and the behavior is still happening! WHY?!?! This episode is a troubleshooting guide for exactly that moment. Instead of going back to the drawing board, we're going deeper into the same map: getting curious about regulation, felt safety, connection, and skills to figure out what the nervous system actually needs.In this episode you'll learn:Why the question is never "what consequence haven't I tried yet?" — and what to ask insteadHow to troubleshoot each of the four conditions that need to be in place for behavior to be okay: regulation, felt safety, connection, and skillsWhy a child can "know" a skill and still not be able to access it — and what scaffolding that skill actually looks likeResources mentioned in this podcast:Podcast EpisodesEp 198: All Behavior Makes Sense — deep dive into the moment the behavioral impulse firesEp. 9: Building the Tower of Self Regulation — very early episode about trust and what it means for kids with vulnerable nervous systems; link to go in show notesStarts at Ep. 161: Felt Safety series — multiple episodes: one on iCalling all professionals who work with the families of kids with dysregulated and big, baffling behaviors!I'm hosting my annual, FREE audio-training the week of May 4th!Head to RobynGobbel.com/BafflingBehaviors NOW to register so the moment the audios go live on May 4th, you'll have access right here in your podcast app!*** Let's hang out this summer at two different trainings for professionals!Therapy with Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors- June 1 & 2 in Syracuse, NY RobynGobbel.com/NYPresence in Practice- July 15, 16, & 17 in Rockford, MI (outside Grand Rapids) RobynGobbel.com/Michigan2026 :::The All-About-Me workbook will help your child grow their owl brain and develop ways to calm their watchdog and possum brain. 24 page, full-color, instant download at RobynGobbel.com/store :::Grab a copy of USA Today Best Selling book Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors robyngobbel.com/bookJoin us in The Club for more support! robyngobbel.com/TheClubSign up on the waiting list for the 2027 Cohorts of the Baffling Behavior Training Institute's Immersion Program for Professionals robyngobbel.com/ImmersionFollow Me On:FacebookInstagramOver on my website you can find:Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)LOTS & LOTS of FREE ResourcesOngoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The ClubYear-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute's (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)

Welcome back to the Restoring the Soul podcast with Michael John Cusick. In this episode, Michael sits down with licensed therapist, author, and researcher Jay Stringer for a deep and vulnerable conversation exploring the core desires that shape our lives. Together, they unpack themes from Jay Stringer's latest book, Desire: The Longings Inside of Us and the New Science of How We Love, Heal, and Grow.Over the course of their dialogue, Michael and Jay examine the five core desires: wholeness, personal growth, pleasure, intimacy, and meaning. They candidly discuss the traps of mastery and control, the importance of radical self-hospitality, and the crucial role of self-acceptance in loving others well. You will hear stories from Jay's clinical experience, thoughtful reflections on the nature of shame and transformation, and an honest look at how pleasure and intimacy can be both revealing and redemptive.Support the showENGAGE THE RESTORING THE SOUL PODCAST:- Follow us on YouTube - Tweet us at @michaeljcusick and @PodcastRTS- Like us on Facebook- Follow us on Instagram & Twitter- Follow Michael on Twitter- Email us at info@restoringthesoul.com Thanks for listening!

你準備好進入下一層人生了嗎？當 Alignment 改變，決策品質會先於結果發生Presence Advantage｜可持續的成功，長什麼樣子？▷ 本集定位｜這一集寫給誰如果你正在經歷這些狀態——你依然能產出結果，但某些決定開始「不那麼準」你做的事情看似正確，卻越來越需要用意志力撐住你明明成熟、有資源、有能力，但行動開始「消耗多於回報」你不是倦怠，也不是低潮，只是常出現一種很安靜的訊號： 「我現在的位置，已經不適合再用舊方式前進。」你不是走不動。你可能只是走到：你的 alignment 落後於你的人生層級 的階段。▷ 本集核心洞見這一集要回答的不是「怎麼更努力」，而是：當 alignment 不再匹配人生層級，努力型成功會開始失效。你會需要的不是更多策略，而是更底層的能力：Self-Attunement —— 你能不能在每個決策前，先知道自己此刻的神經系統在哪裡。因為： 

Professor Dr. Jason Shields on Jiu Jitsu, Meditation, Trauma, and Competition   Host Pete Deeley welcomes Professor Dr. Jason Shields to The Jiu Jitsu Mindset. Dr. Shields describes how Jiu Jitsu uniquely taught him resilience through losing, regaining control, and finding a "home" community, plus the tap as maximal threat with maximal safety. He explains his hyperfocus was cultivated through long-term inner work after severe childhood trauma from his Vietnam-veteran father's PTSD and his mother's healing path via transcendental meditation and supportive communities; he shares a key lesson of finding a thought-free witnessing space to self-regulate. Dr. Shields recounts discovering Jiu-Jitsu on YouTube, starting a club in Norway, and approaching training as a sport with physical preparation. He argues competition can be a powerful mirror and growth catalyst, shares a memorable Italy tournament after his mother's death, and tells how coaching Marit Gabrielsen helped her overcome a trauma-based freeze response through jiu-jitsu.   00:00 Welcome and Sponsor Plug 00:49 Meet Dr. Jason Shields 02:18 What Jujitsu Gave Me 04:39 Hyperfocus and Presence 06:01 Childhood Trauma Origins 08:42 Meditation and Self-Regulation 14:01 Trauma Perspective and Growth 17:20 Discovering Jujitsu on YouTube 20:22 Starting a Club in Norway 22:08 Training Like an Athlete 25:36 Jiu Jitsu as Chaos Partner 27:14 Size Mismatch Realities 28:12 Competition Mindset 29:40 Why Compete at All 31:28 Belts by Winning Worlds 33:55 Tournament Stress Benefits 36:55 Rome Tribute Tournament 42:13 Healing Trauma Through Jiu Jitsu 49:13 Love You Man Persona 50:02 Where to Find Him 50:55 Gratitude and Closing

Beginning the Discussion on Praying for Others: The group shifted topics to "A Course in Miracles," specifically "The Song of Prayer," and began reading the section "Praying for Others". The reading established that prayer is always for oneself, and prayer for others, when rightly understood, helps the individual release projections of guilt from their sibling. Jevon Perra noted that the idea of praying for others is sometimes approached with a "scarcity mentality," believing that giving prayer diminishes one's own benefit.The Projection of Guilt and the Creation of Enemies: Jevon Perra discussed how the perception of an enemy is a self-creation, similar to the placebo effect, where one creates an experience of "enemy" instead of "friend". They shared a story of a town guru who was saddened by the death of the town's antagonist, stating the "a-hole" was their best friend and teacher for revealing the guru's remaining judgments. Jevon Perra concluded that the world is a projection, suggesting that sickness and wellness are experiences created from within.The Fear of Annihilation and Cherishing Guilt: The conversation returned to the idea that people "cherish our guilt" because the world is projected from this guilt, which is tied to the fear of annihilation or the end of a separate, special self. Jevon Perra explained that wishing hell on another means that the state of wishing hell must come through oneself first, so freeing one's sibling also brings salvation to themself. Brian Genovese connected this to the ego-building competition often seen in churches regarding who has "saved" the most people.Prayer and Vengeful God: Soo Kim read that the lowest forms of prayer are fueled by envy and malice, calling for vengeance, and asking upon a "vengeful God" who seems to answer them. Jevon Perra noted that those who are in hell can ask for help, but those who have accepted forgiveness could never make such a prayer. The group also discussed how religious systems often create a multi-level marketing scheme, where the highest levels of spiritual attainment are always just out of reach.The Internal Source of Love and Experience: Denise Darlene emphasized that feelings of love, compassion, and kindness come through the individual, not from outside sources. Jevon Perra agreed that assigning an external source to determine one's love is the flaw in romantic notions. Denise Darlene used the analogy of a person smoking in front of a mirror and telling the reflection to quit, illustrating that the reflection (external reality) will not change until the person (internal state) changes first.Self-Regulation and External Judgment: Soo Kim asked about the feeling of seeing someone else doing what one self-regulates against, such as having an emotional meltdown that derails a class discussion. Jevon Perra identified this as basic projection, where one's own unallowed behavior is projected onto others. Denise Darlene suggested Soo Kim research the Enneagram type one, the "reformer," to understand the patterns of the ego that limit their experience and struggles with justice.The Enneagram and Temperament: Soo Kim acknowledged that their results on the Enneagram test had been inconsistent in the past, unlike their consistent Myers-Briggs results. Jevon Perra explained that the Enneagram identifies dominant "go-to" temperaments that are helpful for framing one's behavior without the heaviness of being identified *as* the anger. Jevon Perra further discussed three ways the "Course" can be used: as magic to get what is wanted, for personality development, and ultimately, to realize that one is "none of it".The Value of the "Don't Know Mind": The conversation shifted to the importance of approaching life with an "innocent mind" and avoiding the assignment of meaning or judgment. Brian Genovese related this to the biblical story of Adam and Eve, who were innocent until they ate the apple, which represented the knowledge of judgment. Denise Darlene suggested the practice of being a "witness" to the "movie" of life, where everything is neutral until one places meaning upon it.Innocence, Wonder, and Social Constructs: Denise Darlene spoke about the innocence and wonder of a baby's mind, which operates in a state of hypnosis and curiosity before being programmed by the world. Jevon Perra noted that societal constructs force people to adhere to predetermined agreements to be "a little bit miserable" all the time, preventing expressions of love and joy with strangers. Soo Kim related the concept of the "don't know mind" to the relief experienced during travel or intense practices like Bufo, which cause temporary identity loss.The Ego's Security and the Invitation to Trust: Denise Darlene stated that the ego bases its security on the belief that it knows, and acknowledging "I don't know" raises the fear of the unknown. This fear of the unknown is described as an invitation to trust and merge with the "I am". Soo Kim recounted a negative classroom experience of a classmate screaming and accusing others of racism, which Denise Darlene reframed as potentially the "best thing for them to do" as a teacher, setting up a lesson.Experiences of Childhood Conditioning and Attachment: Denise Darlene recounted an experience with a 70-year-old participant in their women's spiritual group who had a difficult childhood, which included a cruel mother and an attempted killing by their father at age three. This individual, who is an atheist, had never trusted anyone and believed that opening up for a friendship would inevitably lead to loss, resulting in non-attachment to any human or animal. Denise Darlene contrasted this with their own similar experience that led them toward love, suggesting that they both required the specific teachers they had, possibly chosen before birth, for their soul's mission.The Metaphorical Story of the Angel and Forgiveness: Jevon Perra shared an incomplete story about two angels, one of whom wanted to experience forgiveness. The story outlines that in order to experience forgiveness, one must have something to forgive, which requires the cooperation of a second angel who must commit an act worthy of forgiveness. The second angel agrees to play this necessary role, but the first angel is cautioned that the second angel will forget they are an angel and that the first angel must remember that the second angel is a friend and an angel there to love them.Alternative Perspective on Adversity and Roles: The story's gist is that people, including those perceived as "assholes" or attackers, are playing a crucial role by accepting a large personal cost to provide others with a necessary experience. Denise Darlene agreed that this perspective is sacrificial and supported the idea of adopting perspectives that are empowering rather than limiting, regardless of their literal truth. They suggested that these alternative viewpoints allow for a happier or better experience concerning the idea of love.

What happens when you come home from war… but your mind doesn't? Sean Martin didn't just serve in the military, he went searching for meaning, purpose, and truth at the highest level. What he found came with a cost. After his service, he was left navigating PTSD, disillusionment, and a reality that no longer felt like home. This conversation goes beyond the surface of "life after service." It explores what it actually feels like to carry those experiences, the internal battles that follow, and the long road back to clarity. Sean shares how he moved from self-medication and breakdown to self-awareness and intentional healing, not by avoiding the pain, but by confronting it head-on. Today, he channels that journey into music, using his project The Quarantined to express what many people can't put into words: trauma, anger, truth, and ultimately, growth. Guest Bio Sean Martin is the creative force behind The Quarantined, a grunge/punk/metal project known for blending aggressive sound with socially conscious themes around trauma, addiction, politics, and modern life. After early success in Southern California's live music scene and international recognition for releases like Point the Finger and Antiquate Hate, Sean expanded the project into a solo-driven vision, leading to the 2025 album Aversion to Normalcy, which has accumulated over 900,000 streams on Spotify. A U.S. Army Airborne Infantry veteran and Musicians Institute–trained artist, Sean brings lived experience into his music, with a strong focus on mental health awareness, particularly for veterans navigating life after service. You'll hear About Why Sean chose the military and what he was really searching for The unseen cost of service and life after combat How PTSD impacts identity, perception, and everyday life The turning point that shifted him toward real healing How music became a tool for expression, processing, and purposeh Chapters 00:00 Welcome and Introduction 02:00 Why Sean Chose the Military 07:00 Searching for Purpose and Identity 11:30 The Reality of Service vs Expectations 15:00 Life After the Military and PTSD 19:30 Self-Medication and Hitting a Breaking Point 23:00 The Psych Ward and a New Perspective 27:00 Facing the Root Cause of Trauma 31:00 Rebuilding Identity and Emotional Awareness 35:00 Tools for Healing and Self-Regulation 39:00 Translating Experience Into Music 42:30 Building an Independent Creative Path 45:30 Perspective, Gratitude, and Moving Forward Chuck's Challenge This week, take a moment to pause and examine your perspective. When something feels overwhelming, ask yourself, "Am I seeing this clearly, or just reacting to it?" Shifting your perspective, even slightly, can change how you move forwar Connect with Sean Website: https://www.thequarantined.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thequarantined/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheQuarantined/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@TheQuarantined YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@thequarantined LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sean-martin-42912361/ Connect with Chuck Check out the website: https://www.thecompassionateconnection.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chuck-thuss-a9aa044/ Follow on Instagram: @warriorsunmasked Join the Warriors Unmasked community by subscribing to the show. Together, we're breaking stigmas and shining a light on mental health, one story at a time.

In this episode, I sit down with Virginia to explore the idea of theoregulation and why coaching and psychology alone may not be enough to support real human wellbeing. We unpack the four types of regulation—self, co, eco, and theo—and look at how modern life has left many people disconnected from community, nature, and a deeper sense of meaning. We discuss how faith, tradition, and shared values can provide structure, resilience, and a way to relate to suffering that goes beyond quick fixes. Along the way, we explore topics like attachment, purpose, beauty, and the role of ritual in human life. This is a grounded conversation about restoring connection, finding meaning in difficulty, and expanding the foundations of what truly supports a healthy, integrated life. ---------------------------------------------- Become a certified embodiment coach. Coach beyond mere words and support clients to transform their lives: https://embodimentunlimited.com/cec/ ----------------------------------------------- Check out our YouTube channel for more coaching tips and our Podcast channel for full episode videos Uplevel your coaching with a free copy of Mark's latest eBook, The Top 12 Embodiment Coaching Techniques  Join Mark for those juicy in-person workshops and events Fancy some free coaching demo sessions with Mark?  Connect with Mark Walsh on Instagram 

In the second installment of this essential Q&A, Producer Mary and Layci delve deeper into the dynamic world of 2026 leadership. This session moves beyond surface-level trends, focusing instead on the critical inner work required for effective leadership. They explore the nuanced art of managing human energy in the workplace, the necessity of understanding systemic complexity, and why radical authenticity and robust self-regulation are no longer optional—but vital anchors for navigating today's uncertain and rapidly changing environment.Key Topics:Leadership shift from managing performance to managing human energyImpact of AI on leadership identity and decision-makingImportance of self-awareness and self-regulation for leadersThe role of authenticity and transparency in leadershipUnderstanding complexity and culture in leadershipTakeaways:Leadership is shifting from performance management to managing human energy.AI collaboration is disrupting traditional leadership identities.Self-awareness and self-regulation are crucial for navigating uncertainty.Authenticity and transparency build trust and improve team dynamics.Leaders need to develop a deeper understanding of complexity and culture. Chapters00:00 Introduction to Leadership Confessions01:16 Recap of Previous Leadership Trends01:53 Current Market Observations and Divergence from Trends02:50 Leadership Shifts in 2026: From Performance to Human Energy04:02 Impact of AI on Leadership Identity and Decision-Making05:17 Developing Leadership in a Complex, Disconnected World07:05 Advice for Leaders Under Pressure08:09 Internal Strategies: Self-Regulation and Nervous System Awareness11:27 External Strategies: Authenticity and Transparency12:41 Practical Steps for Leaders: Small Changes for Big Impact13:58 Future of Leadership Development: Blending Mainstream and Cutting Edge14:54 Starting Points for Leadership Growth15:47 Conclusion and Resources for LeadersWATCH ON YOUTUBE!EPISODE LINKS:Transcend Leadership Collective - https://transcendleadershipcollective.com/Harvard Business Review - https://hbr.org/Deloitte Insights - https://www2.deloitte.com/us/en/insights.html 

當神經系統還停在高警戒，所有努力都會被抵銷 Adrenal Fatigue, Trauma Memory & Somatic Regulation for High-Performing Women▷ 本集定位｜這一集寫給誰如果你正在經歷這些狀態——乾淨飲食、規律運動，但身體「不再改變」腹部、下背、骨盆周圍更容易留住重量經期、荷爾蒙、睡眠或能量節律開始不穩明明更成熟、更有意識，卻覺得「身體不配合」你不是懶、不是退化、也不是做錯了什麼。你可能只是走到：身體不願意再用消耗換結果的階段。▷ 本集核心洞見這一集要回答的不是「怎麼再瘦一點」，而是：當神經系統還停在高警戒，再多努力都會被抵銷。身材、荷爾蒙、代謝、能量感，很多時候不是意志力或熱量問題。它們更像是一個指標：你的系統是否覺得安全到可以放下防禦。▷ 你會在這一集聽到為什麼高端女性會「不再相信熱量論」：不是理論錯，而是你已走到下一層為什麼身材有時會成為身體的「最後一道防線」創傷不是回憶，而是神經系統仍在用舊設定值運作壓力反應長期在線時，身體如何用「保留、收縮、備戰」來保護你為什麼顯化/策略/努力在這一層會失效：兩套系統同時在線（追求 vs 保命）一個溫和但深層的 somatic 練習：讓身體知道「現在不一樣了」▷ 身體不是失控，它在保護你（解除羞愧你以為它在「卡住你」。但更深的真相可能是：你的身體終於不願意再替你承受不屬於它的壓力。不是背叛，是保護。只是這份保護，還停在「那個年代」。▷ Somatic Practice｜時間校準（把系統從「那時候」帶回「現在」）把一隻手放在下腹，吐氣比吸氣長一點。 然後對身體說兩句話：「我知道你那時候很努力。」「但現在不一樣了。」不需要立刻相信，只要讓它被聽見。這不是正向思考，而是神經系統的時間更新。▷ 為什麼做到這裡，反而更需要「容器」你可能已經懂很多、也做很多。但系統的更新，靠的不是一次理解，而是：節律重複安全的身體環境當神經系統開始降檔，你就不需要再用力。▷ Work with Lola如果你在聽這一集時，心裡浮現一句話：「我其實很想，不用再一個人守著一切。」Apply for The Lola System™ 90https://lolalinocean.com/apply這是一個邀請制的入口，為「準備好真正改變，但不想再撐」的女性而設。這不是讓你更努力的系統，而是一個讓身體終於敢交出控制權的容器。▷ Connect with LolaWebsite｜https://lolalinocean.comInstagram｜https://www.instagram.com/lolalolalinLinkedIn｜https://www.linkedin.com/in/lolalin

Ever feel like you're constantly running on empty… snapping when you don't mean to… or wishing you could just hit “reset” on your day?In this episode of the Secrets of Supermom Show, I'm joined by Layne Burkette—mom of four, author, licensed professional counselor, and yoga psychology and meditation teacher—to talk about simple, powerful ways to regulate your nervous system in real life.Because here's the truth: You can't think your way out of stress—but you can support your body through it.For over 20 years, Layne has helped moms, families, and caregivers reconnect with calm, connection, and emotional balance through somatic practices, breathwork, yoga, meditation, and counseling tools. Her approach blends science, psychology, and embodied healing—while keeping everything simple and accessible for real life.In this conversation, she shares practical, bite-sized tools (what she calls “micro-pauses”) that help you move from overwhelm to calm in as little as 30–90 seconds—no extra time required.We also walk through several guided exercises you can try right along with us to feel calmer, more grounded, and more in control—fast.✨ In this episode, you'll learn: Why your nervous system is the key to patience and calm  The difference between reacting vs. responding  Simple breath and movement techniques you can use anywhere  How your state impacts your kids (and how to shift it)  Easy ways to build calm into your daily routine If you've been feeling overwhelmed, overstimulated, or just “on edge”… this episode will give you tools you can use today.Text us your feedback or questions!Stay connected!Join us in The Supermom Society! Get all the details at thesupermomsociety.com!Get all our show notes, buy the book Secrets of Supermom, and more at our website: www.secretsofsupermom.comSecrets of Supermom on FacebookSecrets of Supermom on Instagram

Whatever your message, the manner in which you deliver it is just as important.You found the right words. You picked the right time to say them. You even tailored them to your audience. Why did your message fall flat? “It's your tone,” says Jefferson Fisher.Fisher is a trial attorney, New York Times bestselling author, podcast host, and one of the most-followed experts in communication today. From handling high-stakes communication in the courtroom to navigating everyday conversations, he says successful messaging isn't just about what you say, but how you say it. “It's not your words, it's your tone,” he says, “The words might be right, but the way you [say them] — that's what ends up controlling the day. Tone controls everything.”In this episode of Think Fast, Talk Smart, Fisher and host Matt Abrahams explore how to set the right tone in all kinds of communication. Whether you're navigating conflict, giving and receiving feedback, or just trying to connect, Fisher offers practical techniques for ensuring the manner of your communication matches what you mean.Episode Reference Links:Jefferson FisherJefferson's Book: The Next Conversation WorkbookJefferson's Podcast: The Jefferson Fisher PodcastEp.228 Negotiate Your Way to Success: Empathy, Mirroring, and Labeling Connect:Premium Signup >>>> Think Fast Talk Smart PremiumEmail Questions & Feedback >>> hello@fastersmarter.ioEpisode Transcripts >>> Think Fast Talk Smart WebsiteNewsletter Signup + English Language Learning >>> FasterSmarter.ioThink Fast Talk Smart >>> LinkedIn, Instagram, YouTubeMatt Abrahams >>> LinkedInChapters:(00:00) - Introduction (02:28) - Stop Winning Arguments (04:02) - Ask, Don't Persuade (04:33) - Defuse Tension Fast (05:40) - Read the Room (07:36) - Observing vs. Absorbing (09:08) - Framing Conversations (11:21) - Fix Digital Communication (13:01) - Improve Your Tone (15:53) - Break People-Pleasing (17:18) - Setting Clear Boundaries (20:54) - The Final Three Questions (23:55) - Conclusion  ********Thank you to our sponsors.  These partnerships support the ongoing production of the podcast, allowing us to bring it to you at no cost.This episode is sponsored by Grammarly. Let Grammarly take the busywork off your plate so you can focus on high-impact work. Download Grammarly for free today Join our Think Fast Talk Smart Learning Community and become the communicator you want to be. 

Your breath is a bridge between your nervous system, your body, and your brain.In this solo episode of We Didn't Plan For This, Adrienne talks about one of the simplest and most powerful tools we have — our breath.Breathing isn't just something we do in yoga class. It's something we use to cope, recover, and sometimes just get through the day. Breathing is interesting because it's automatic and you can control it.In Episode #172, Nora shared how she didn't plan on being diagnosed with breast cancer. She did everything possible in her life to prevent it. Yet, cancer doesn't discriminate. Doctors and physical therapists focus on breath after major surgery, because breathing helps the body recover, calms the nervous system, and helps regulate stress and pain.So to help prepare her, Adrienne shares why breathing matters, why it can be hard to focus on, and even a few techniques you can use in real life. This episode is for Nora.And for anyone else who is in a season they didn't plan for.If you don't know what to do, start with the breath.Send us Fan MailWe Didn't Plan For This Special SeriesSend Us Your Story!This series exists because so many of you reached out and said, “I didn't plan for this either.”If you've gone through a diagnosis, a loss, a life change, a career shift, a divorce, becoming a caregiver, moving, starting over — we want to hear your story.You don't have to have it figured out. You just have to be willing to share honestly.How Yoga Changed My Life a PodcastSend Us Your Stories!If you have a story about how yoga, meditation, breath work, journaling, or movement changed your life, we want to hear from you! These podcasts are really about the same thing — how people move through the seasons of life they didn't plan for, and what helps them along the way.If you'd like to be on the show or share your story:  Fill out our guest form or email us at yogachanged@gmail.com Follow us on TikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@yogachangedFollow us on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/yogachanged/For more, go to https://howyoga...

▷ 本集定位｜這一集寫給誰這一集，寫給那些 ——白天很能撐、很能扛、很清楚該怎麼做，但一到夜裡，身體卻始終無法真正關機的女性。你不是不累。你是 —— 還在值班。▷ 本集核心洞見如果你睡不著，問題很少在於技巧或方法。真正的原因是：你的身體，還不敢交出控制權。在高責任、高承載的人生裡，你的神經系統學會了一件事： 「只要我還醒著，一切就不會失控。」於是，失眠不是失敗，而是一個成熟系統，正在保護你。✨ 延伸閱讀｜Episode References如果這一集讓你開始重新理解「內耗」與「穩定」，  我在 LinkedIn 也寫過兩篇延伸文章，從不同角度談到同一個核心問題：Women Don't Need More Discipline — They Need a System Designed for Their Biologyhttps://www.linkedin.com/pulse/women-dont-need-more-discipline-system-designed-biology-lola-lin-2bsxcWhy AI Will Replace Hustle — But It Will Never Replace The Lola System™https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/why-ai-replace-hustle-never-lola-system-lola-lin-cfmkc/這兩篇文章會幫你更完整理解： 為什麼「努力」與「理性」常常無法真正解決高壓下的內耗。▷ 你會在這一集聽到為什麼失眠不是累，而是「夜間值班」為什麼越有能力、越負責任的人，越難睡睡眠其實是「主權交付」的結果，而不是放鬆程度為什麼休假、冥想、技巧，無法真正解決睡眠問題一個溫和但精準的 somatic 覺察：你在夜裡守著什麼？▷ 睡眠，在 The Lola System™ 裡的真正定義睡眠不是休息問題。它是一個指標：你的身體，是否信任你現在的人生結構。當責任有承載、節奏有結構、主權不再只靠你一個人撐，睡眠會自然回來。不是被逼出來的。而是身體終於願意說：「好，現在可以交出來了。」▷ Somatic Awareness｜夜裡的覺察當你躺在床上，問自己一個問題就好：「我現在，還在替誰守著？」不是事情。是角色。這個辨識，本身就是神經系統第一次被理解的時刻。▷ 為什麼這一集，是 S3 的入口當睡眠開始穩定 —— 界線不需要用力設，節奏自然會對齊，行動會變得剛剛好。因為一個能睡著的身體，才有能力分辨：什麼值得，什麼不必。▷ Work with Lola如果你在聽這一集時，心裡浮現一句話：「我其實很想，不用再一個人守著一切。」Apply for The Lola System™ 90https://lolalinocean.com/apply這是一個邀請制的入口，為「準備好真正改變，但不想再撐」的女性而設。這不是讓你更努力的系統，而是一個讓身體終於敢交出控制權的容器。▷ Connect with LolaWebsite｜https://lolalinocean.comInstagram｜https://www.instagram.com/lolalolalinLinkedIn｜https://www.linkedin.com/in/lolalin

#322: Safeguarding in the Age of AI: Who's Responsible? In this engaging conversation, Sponsored by Hachette Learning Academy, Laura Knight discusses her extensive experience in education and her focus on integrating technology effectively within the classroom. She emphasizes the importance of a holistic approach to EdTech, addressing not only the pedagogical aspects but also the emotional and social well-being of students. The discussion delves into the challenges of safeguarding in the digital age, the significance of scenario-based learning, and the ongoing debate surrounding screen time and digital engagement. Laura advocates for a shift in educational practices to better prepare students for the complexities of the digital world, highlighting the need for self-regulation, digital literacy, and a collaborative effort between parents and educators. The conversation concludes with insights from Laura's white paper, which outlines three key pillars for fostering digital responsibility in children: capability, conscience, and courage. Key Takeaways Laura Knight emphasizes the importance of a holistic approach to EdTech. Safeguarding in the digital age is a shared responsibility among educators and parents. Screens themselves are neutral; the focus should be on the content accessed. Teaching self-regulation and digital literacy is crucial for young people. Generational differences impact how technology is perceived and used. The need for change in educational approaches is urgent and necessary. Digital ecosystems significantly influence children's learning and relationships. Peer support among parents can enhance digital literacy discussions. The three pillars of digital literacy are capability, conscience, and courage. Education must prepare children to thrive in a digital world with integrity.   Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Laura Knight and Her Work 02:55 The Holistic Approach to EdTech 06:12 Navigating Safeguarding in the Digital Age 09:04 The Reality of Cyber Attacks in Schools 12:03 The Debate on Screen Time and Digital Engagement 17:49 The Importance of Self-Regulation in Digital Spaces 25:04 Generational Perspectives on Technology and Parenting 28:01 The Generational Gap and Digital Disempowerment 30:12 Addressing the Digital Divide: Strategies for Change 36:54 Early Conversations: Building Foundations for Digital Literacy 37:51 Synthetic Intimacy: The Dangers of AI Relationships 45:22 Educating for Digital Life: The Three Pillars of Capability, Conscience, and Courage Laura Knight Linkedin Hachette Learning and Professional Development  Overview Hachette Learning Professional Development combines an established and expansive suite of books, guides, courses, and community opportunities that empower educators to take ownership of their teaching practice. The Professional Development includes Teaching WalkThrus, Hachette Learning Academy, Teacher Training Webinars, and, as of July 2025, Hachette Learning Professional Development Publications, formerly John Catt. For more than 60 years, John Catt has established itself as a highly regarded professional development publisher, earning the trust and loyalty of thousands of teachers around the world. Bringing all Hachette Learning Professional Development under one umbrella is a testament to our evolving mission to serve educators worldwide.

When your partner is in shutdown, you're not just watching it happen—you're in it too. This episode is for the partners who feel like they're losing their person, who don't understand what's happening, and who wonder if they're making it worse. In this episode, I break down:What shutdown actually looks like (and why it's not a choice)What you CAN'T control (and why that matters)4 concrete ways to influence the situation without trying to fix them The myth of co-regulation and what it actually means How to regulate yourself so you can show up differently Why healthy boundaries aren't selfish—they're essentialWhat your real job is as a partner in shutdownThe invisible pain on both sides is real. You're not failing. You're not weak. And you're not alone.

Why don't we choose the things we know are good for us? It's usually because we're struggling with self-regulation, one of the most important (and most misunderstood) skills out there. In today's episode, Forrest talks with Eric Zimmer about what healthy self-regulation actually looks like,  the gap between insight and action, how shame can derail us, and why most change comes down to small steps taken consistently. They discuss how to figure out what actually matters to you vs. what you want right now, the tension between acceptance and change, and how to get back on track after a slip without making it worse. About our Guest: Eric Zimmer is the creator of The One You Feed, an award-winning podcast with over 50 million downloads. He's also the author of the new book, How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life. Key Topics:  0:00: Intro: Why is self-regulation so important? 4:32: Moving from insight to action 8:14: Values versus desires 14:25: Eric's sobriety journey 20:57: Changing our relationship to shame 32:05: When to accept things as they are, and when to move from acceptance to change  38:17: Choosing the more useful meaning 42:51: How to get over self-doubt 46:41: Having a backup plan for when things go sideways 53:54: Balancing striving with non-craving 1:06:16: Recap Support the Podcast: We're on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Sleep Reset is offering a free 7-day trial, available only at thesleepreset.com/podcast. Start your first week of real, clinician-designed insomnia treatment tonight.Visit https://carawayhome.com/BEINGWELL to take an additional 10% off your next purchase of non-toxic cookware made modern. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

真正可持續的女性領導力，從這裡開始 Pelvis & Spine — Where Capacity, Authority, and Alignment Live▷ 如果你正在經歷這些狀態，這一集是為你而錄的已經不再硬撐，卻還是很疲憊情緒穩了，但身體沒有真的鬆做的事情都對，卻感覺「穩定很花力氣」明明坐著休息，身體卻像還在工作你不是退步，也不是不會放鬆。你只是走到了一個 需要身體承載力升級的階段。

The prediction market platform Kalshi announces new rules this week. Plus, the Department of Labor introduces an AI literacy course. But first, a jury in Los Angeles this week found that Meta and YouTube were negligent in what's being called a landmark case.The social media companies were accused of intentionally designing their platforms to be addictive, which caused harm to a young user's mental health. The companies were ordered to pay $6 million in damages — and they've told media outlets they disagree with the verdict and are exploring their legal options.Marketplace's Stephanie Hughes spoke with Maria Curi, tech policy reporter at Axios, about all these headlines for this week's “Tech Bytes: Week in Review.”

The prediction market platform Kalshi announces new rules this week. Plus, the Department of Labor introduces an AI literacy course. But first, a jury in Los Angeles this week found that Meta and YouTube were negligent in what's being called a landmark case.The social media companies were accused of intentionally designing their platforms to be addictive, which caused harm to a young user's mental health. The companies were ordered to pay $6 million in damages — and they've told media outlets they disagree with the verdict and are exploring their legal options.Marketplace's Stephanie Hughes spoke with Maria Curi, tech policy reporter at Axios, about all these headlines for this week's “Tech Bytes: Week in Review.”

You can listen wherever you get your podcasts or check out the fully edited transcript of our interview at the bottom of this post.In this episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, I interview Kahlila Robinson and Sarah Gerstenzang about self-regulation, co-regulation, repair, and what realistic emotional expectations look like for children ages five to eight. We discuss why parent self-regulation matters so much, how to support kids through big feelings, and practical strategies families can use together.Know someone who might appreciate this episode? Share it with them!And if you love the podcast, FREE ways to help us out: 1- Rate and review the podcast in your podcast player app 2- “Like” this post by tapping the heart icon ♥️ 3- Share this with a friend. THANK YOU!We talk about:* 00:00 — Meet Kahlila Robinson and Sarah Gerstenzang* 03:00 — The book and self-regulation. What self-regulation is and why it starts with parents* 06:00 — What's realistic for kids (ages 5–8) and why big emotions are normal at this age* 11:00 — Co-regulation: What it is and how parents support it* 15:00 — Supporting kids through big feelings: Why feelings shouldn't be rushed or shut down* 20:00 — Revisiting hard moments and why conversations after the fact matter* 23:00 — Repair: How and why to repair after conflict* 29:00 — Practical tools and simple regulation strategies* 35:00 — When strategies don't work: Why practice and flexibility matter* 38:00 — Where to find the guests* 39:00 — Final reflections: Advice to their younger parenting selvesResources mentioned in this episode:* The Self-Regulation Workbook for Ages 5-8* Kahlila's website and IG @kahlilarobinson* Sarah G's website * Yoto Screen Free Audio Book Player* The Peaceful Parenting Membership* Evelyn & Bobbie bras* Strong-Willed Kids WorkshopConnect with Sarah Rosensweet:* Instagram* Facebook Group* YouTube* Website* Join us on Substack* Newsletter* Book a short consult or coaching session callxx Sarah and CoreyYour peaceful parenting team- click here for a free short consult or a coaching sessionVisit our website for free resources, podcast, coaching, membership and more!>> Please support us!!! Please consider becoming a supporter to help support our free content, including The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, our free parenting support Facebook group, and our weekly parenting emails, “Weekend Reflections” and “Weekend Support” - plus our Flourish With Your Complex Child Summit (coming back in the summer for the 3rd year!) All of this free support for you takes a lot of time and energy from me and my team. If it has been helpful or meaningful for you, your support would help us to continue to provide support for free, for you and for others.In addition to knowing you are supporting our mission to support parents and children, you get the podcast ad free and access to a monthly ‘ask me anything' session.Our sponsors:YOTO: YOTO is a screen free audio book player that lets your kids listen to audiobooks, music, podcasts and more without screens, and without being connected to the internet. No one listening or watching and they can't go where you don't want them to go and they aren't watching screens. BUT they are being entertained or kept company with audio that you can buy from YOTO or create yourself on one of their blank cards. Check them out HEREEvelyn & Bobbie bras: If underwires make you want to rip your bra off by noon, Evelyn & Bobbie is for you. These bras are wire-free, ultra-soft, and seriously supportive—designed to hold you comfortably all day without pinching, poking, or constant adjusting. Check them out HEREWelcome back to another episode of the Peaceful Parenting Podcast. Today's guests are Kahlila Robinson and Sarah Gerstenzang, who wrote The Self-Regulation Handbook for Kids ages five through eight. Although their book is aimed at parents of kids these ages, the truth is that so much of what we discussed applies to parents of kids of all ages, toddlers to teens.A lot of the themes we discuss today will be familiar to you as listeners because you've heard me talk a lot about self-regulation, co-regulation, and repair. Listen into our conversation to learn why these are important for us as parents and why they are so crucial for teaching kids self-regulation no matter what age they are.Let's meet Kahlila and Sarah.Sarah R: Hi, Kahlila. Hi, Sarah. Welcome to the podcast.Kahlila: Thank you so much, Sarah. Thank you for having us.Sarah R: Yeah. We're going to be talking about your book, The Self-Regulation Workbook for Children Ages Five to Eight. But before we dive in, maybe if you could each introduce yourselves and tell us a little bit about who you are and what you do.Kahlila: Sure. I'm Kahlila Robinson. I'm a licensed clinical psychologist based in New York City. I have a private practice where I see kids, families, and adults. I'm also a mom myself of two kids, and I'm very happy to be here talking about the book and sharing more about our process and some of the highlights from the book.Sarah G.: Yeah. Thank you. So I'm Sarah Gerstenzang. I'm a licensed clinical social worker here in Brooklyn, New York. I also have a private practice, which focuses on adoptive families and complex developmental trauma. I'm also the board chair of the Adoptive and Foster Family Coalition of New York, and the parent of three children, two by birth and one who we adopted through foster care.Sarah R: Welcome. Yesterday, when I was doing my preparation for this podcast, I came across an online copy of your book, Another Mother: Co-Parenting with the Foster Care System, and I started reading it, and I kept having to go, stop, stop, go back to the—it seems to—I kept it open on my laptop. I'm really looking forward to getting back to it. It seems really interesting. I grew up with some foster kids in my house when I was really young.Okay, so back to the book that we are here to talk about. Maybe just tell us a little bit about your book and, just while we're all on the same page, what's your definition of self-regulation?Kahlila: Our book is written for parents of kids age five through eight. So it's called The Self-Regulation Workbook for Children, but it's a slight misnomer. It's more directly written for parents and focuses on the importance of parents being able to self-regulate so that they can be calm on behalf of their kids, and really teaching parents strategies for how to do that through really stormy times with their kids.Because what we've seen, time and time again, is when parents are able to remain calm, for the most part, it benefits the child. It provides a model for the child. It supports a child's own self-regulation. So there's a lot in there in terms of parent guidance on how to support themselves when their child is having a hard time or when they're having a hard time. And then there's also a lot of strategies in the book for kids and parents to use together to support self-regulation in both of them.So that's the overview of the book.Sarah R: Yeah, it's a really helpful book. I notice that just in my practice of coaching parents, parents always come with this idea of, in short, “fix my kid,” right? So we kind of talk about that as the inroad, but then after a session or two, parents always say to me, “This isn't even about my kid. This is about me.” And I think that's—yeah. Nobody, though, wants to come into it thinking that. They always want to come into it thinking, “Fix my kid.”Kahlila: Yeah.Sarah G.: It's kind of confusing for them also, because most parents parent the way that they've been parented, and they can't really take that bird's-eye view and see, often, how they are impacting their own child's sense of safety and calm and capacity to be in charge of their own emotions. So yeah, it's confusing.Sarah R: So self-regulation—just give us a definition, what you think of as self-regulation, so we're all on the same page.Kahlila: Yeah.Sarah G.: Throwing yourself.Kahlila: Yes. In short, yeah. It's the ability to identify feelings that you have within yourself in terms of how they come through. They could come through physically, they can come through as thoughts and as emotions. So, being able to identify those feelings and then find ways to contain them within yourself so that they don't end up spilling out and creating more disruptive experiences for yourself or others. So: identifying, managing, and containing your own emotions.Sarah R: Yeah. And that's hard for kids, though. I guess that's, you know—hence the book, right? It's hard for kids, and it's hard for adults too sometimes. I think that's why you spent so much time on different—we're going to get to that—but strategies for parents to use themselves for their own emotional self-regulation.Before we talk about sort of what we're working toward, what do you think typical self-regulation in kids looks like? Because what I find is that the parents I work with have higher expectations than kids are capable of, you know, sort of—we'll talk about the under-eight set—in terms of what is a realistic expectation for how kids can manage their feelings?Kahlila: Yeah. I think there can be a slight range, right, in terms of variability, as human beings. Five- through eight-year-olds are going to be expressing emotion. A lot of times it's a full-body experience for them, right? So they're sad, they're mad—they're going to feel the charge in their system, in their full physical system. It could come out in ways that are more physical than it would be for an adult. They actually feel the emotion physically in a way that I think is more powerful than adults.They also, like we were saying earlier, don't necessarily have that perspective on what's a big deal, what's not a big deal, what can be fixed, what can't be fixed, how to solve certain problems. Things can feel much more overwhelming to kids because they don't have that experience and perspective on how to solve problems, why certain things are certain ways, much less of an understanding around things like time and how things function and all of that. So a lot less information on how things run. And because of that, they can have bigger, stronger reactions to things than adults.Sarah G.: And I would add to that, actually, that most children live in environments that are not very natural anymore. Kids five to eight—humans were meant to spend many, many hours, most of the day, outside in a natural environment, which is calming: walking, exercising, playing, learning from adults just by watching. So, number one, that would help their regulation. And if they did become dysregulated, I don't know if you've ever been outside with a 6-year-old screaming, but it's not nearly so terrible as it is with one in the grocery store.So, yeah, I think that also contributes to the misalignment of expectations and capacity.Sarah R: That makes sense. And I think it's a tricky age too because, in my experience, both as a parent and a coach, I remember with all three of my kids, I think the hardest time for my husband with them was when they were around six. It was because they were so capable in so many other ways. They could learn how to play chess, they could talk to you about the stars, they could—you know, in some ways, intellectually, they've made a big leap and they seem so mature in some ways, but they also could have a meltdown where they're a crying mess on the floor because they wanted to press the elevator button and you pressed it instead, right?So there's, I find, especially in this five- to eight-year-old set, a real asynchronicity between how developed they are in some areas and how emotional regulation is still super tricky for them in other areas. And I find that hard for parents. It does raise their expectations for how regulated it's possible for their child to be in those difficult moments.Sarah G.: Especially when HALT—hungry, angry, lonely, and tired—comes into play. I remember getting so annoyed at my husband. I had one child who's super vulnerable to being hungry, and I'd be like, “What? You forgot the snack?” So they don't have the capacity to overcome those things yet.Sarah R: Yeah, and I love how you brought that acronym in, and you talked about the “L” as being—the “L” for an adult might be lonely, but for kids as seeking connection or feeling a lack of connection. I think that is really important to think about.We've already talked a little bit about parental self-regulation. I want to just touch on that again, and also co-regulation. So self-regulation—when we can manage our own big feelings—can you talk about what co-regulation is? Listeners to this podcast hear me talk about it all the time, but because you do talk about that a lot in your book, if you could just talk about what co-regulation is, and also why parental self-regulation and co-regulation are so important in the context of kids' self-regulation.Kahlila: Yeah. So co-regulation happens in infancy, right? When we are an infant and we are hungry or sleepy or need soothing of some kind, ideally a calm, available, consistent parent will meet that need for us, and we have a way of calming our body down. So that's when we first learn that a high-arousal, really active, really uncomfortable bodily state can actually shift. It can actually shift to something calmer. We figure that out. We learn that over time as infants, and that's our first experience of co-regulation. It comes from outside of us, and then we learn that's something that our bodies and minds can actually do.Sarah R: So that's like soothing a baby. That movement, holding them, making those calming noises. That's something we do, I mean, a lot of us do that intuitively with babies. Maybe that's not fair to say, but we're—it's easier for us, I think, to do it with an upset baby, a lot of the time, than it is with an upset five- to eight-year-old. Why do you think that is?Kahlila: I think it has a lot to do with what you just said, Sarah, about the asynchronous development, which is typical, right? We're supposed to be asynchronous at five through eight, but I think it's that false sense of, like, “They've got it.” They have these capacities. They are in school. They're on a sports team. They're learning how to read. They're making friends. They're doing all these things that you're amazed by and that show this type of emotional maturity and growth and development. So maybe there's a false security there around, “Well, they can do it themselves.” And so it can be frustrating, right?Sarah G.: Also, they can talk and babies can't talk. There's a great documentary called The Dark Matter of Love about some kids who are coming in from an orphanage into a family. Early in the film, there's a lot of chaos, the kids acting out, but the dad can't understand because they're speaking in Russian. And you stay so calm—these kids are shouting—and they have the translation at the bottom of the film.And I think when you have a five- to eight-year-old, they seem bratty sometimes because of what they're saying and the way they're saying it.Sarah R: Mm-hmm.Sarah G.: Whereas a baby—we're biologically programmed, I think, to have that—it makes the back of your neck feel uncomfortable when you hear a shrieking infant, right? “Somebody pick that baby up.” But with a five-, six-, seven-, or eight-year-old, it's more like, “What's that kid sounding so bratty?” Obviously they need stuff too. They need to be co-regulated, but—Sarah R: Yeah.Sarah G.: That's part of our natural need to, as Kahlila was saying—it's totally natural—our need to get these kids in order so they can be functional adults someday. But they also need to learn.Sarah R: I think that's one of the reasons why every day I teach, “Kids are doing the best they can.” And I think it's hard—it's easy to remember that with a baby, but it's harder to remember that with a five- to eight-year-old.So what does co-regulation look like for a five- to eight-year-old with a parent? What would you do to co-regulate with a kiddo? Because that's how they also learn self-regulation, right? Through co-regulating with us.Kahlila: Yeah. So in our book, we talk about co-regulation starting with the ability to self-regulate as a parent. So if you notice yourself getting activated in relation to your kid, that's fine. That happens. An awareness of that is really helpful—like, “I notice myself getting kind of frustrated right now,” or just a tightening of my chest right now, or a furrowed brow. Just being able to have some awareness of where you're at, what your baseline is, is a good place to start so that then you can take care of yourself a little bit and keep yourself contained.That can be saying something to yourself like, “Okay, here we go. This is not a big deal. This is something we can do.” Or, “My only goal right now is to keep calm myself. Let me see if I can do that.” Or, “This is temporary. We'll get through this.” So a little bit of self-talk you can do with yourself if you notice yourself getting a little bit heated and wanting to co-regulate.If you need something a little more than that in terms of self-regulation as a parent, you could do a little bit of deep breathing. If you practice breathing when you're not upset, when you're calm, it can be really helpful in those moments that are more intense. It can be a strategy that's actually really effective if you take a couple nice deep breaths in.And if you have more time and you can do something else to calm yourself down in the moment, you can do many, many other things. Sarah talks a lot about strategies to use in the kitchen, right? Like washing dishes. If you have a window in your kitchen, or a window somewhere, staring outside—something sensory-based. Smelling something calm. We like to talk about sticking your head in the freezer, getting that blast of cool air, chewing on a piece of ice. Anything that you can do if you notice yourself getting a little too agitated to then engage with your child.Because if you're trying to calm your child—think of a conversation you have with an adult when you're upset, right? If you're upset and you're talking to an adult that's annoyed with you for being upset, or that is upset themselves, that doesn't tend to help calm you down. So you want to use that same model and idea for yourself: see if you can calm yourself down, make yourself feel as present and emotionally contained as possible on behalf of your child. So that's kind of step one.After that—Sarah, do you want to add in anything about co-regulating?Sarah G.: Yeah. So step two would be really a variation on what we do with infants. It could be patting on the back: “Hey, what's going on?” Or, “You need a minute? Do you want to go get your stuffy? Do you want to…” Just kind of calm down—what's going on? But using that same body, as Kahlila said. You need to be in a calm place. No child's going to calm down with their parent very agitated.Then I think just using your words. I make a lot of eye contact with my child who had the hardest time—I actually had two kids who had a very hard time regulating—so I'd say, “Look at me. Look at me.” And I'd start deep breathing and look in their eyes. I wasn't angry, just like, “Let's calm down together.” Around those ages, that was super effective for them.Sarah R: I love that. “Look at me” as a grounding technique, not as a “pay attention to me while I'm talking to you” sort of “look at me.”Sarah G.: Yeah, no. It was like, “Let's get back together here.”Sarah R: Yeah.Kahlila: I think you also want to frame it a little bit—maybe we'll talk more about this—the idea of co-regulation is to prevent as much as you can and contain a more disruptive, explosive thing. But it's okay for the child to feel upset about something, right? It's not like you want to say, “Stop, let me co-regulate this child so they can stop being upset because this is so annoying to me.” Maybe this is a very legitimate, healthy emotional expression that they're having, and you're just there to contain it and guide them and help them ride that wave of emotion.So I think that's the other thing that gets a little tricky sometimes for parents. Co-regulation is not necessarily about stopping the child from feeling what they're feeling and stopping the emotional expression. It's more about containing it and supporting it so that it can actually flow out of the child, right? If there's a legitimate hurt or upset feeling that the child's feeling, you don't want to co-regulate so that it goes away. You want to co-regulate so the child can actually have their full wave of feeling without it being super disruptive or overwhelming.Sarah R: Yeah, that's a great point. Sorry, Sarah, did you want to say something?Sarah G.: I was just going to say what our point is—what I remember saying to my kids many times—is, “I want to hear what you have to say, but I can't do that right now because of this.” There's too much emotion going on.Exactly what Kahlila is saying. And I think we can use our words to co-regulate too. “Wow, you're so angry right now, and I'm really sorry you're so angry. I want to hear what you have to say. Let's take a few minutes.” So acknowledging what they're feeling—your words really do matter. “I want to hear what you have to say, but I can't in this situation that we're in.”Sarah R: Yeah, in Peaceful Parenting we call it welcoming feelings. You talk in the book about how that's a really important part of kids learning self-regulation. Maybe you just mentioned it, but can you expand on that a little bit?Kahlila: Yeah. I think it's very important to understand that in order for kids to learn self-regulation, they actually have to feel the full extent of their feelings. Kids age five through eight pretty much don't have a chance—they don't have a choice—but to feel their feelings fully, for the most part. And as parents, we can unintentionally sometimes cut them off from the full extent and breadth of their feeling because it's annoying or disruptive or we don't want to deal with it.In that way, they don't necessarily get to learn how to fully contain it and understand it themselves. If they're getting prematurely kind of cut off by a parent saying, “Stop,” or even just a parent that's trying to use distraction—sometimes distraction is effective, but sometimes a parent that's just like, “Look over here. Stop feeling what you're feeling”—then it cuts off a little bit of learning for the child to say, “Oh, this is how deep the feeling goes. This is how long it lasts. Okay, this is what it starts to feel like when it starts to go down.”They get more of an internal knowing and understanding around what the intensity of the feeling feels like. So if you cut that off prematurely, then they don't get the full extent of that kind of learning.Sarah R: Yeah. I think sometimes we don't have the bandwidth for it as parents necessarily every single time they're upset, but I always talk about thinking of that as an intention. Your intention is to always welcome the feelings, but sometimes you do have to distract because you've got to get out the door for work and you don't have 15 minutes—or 45, or whatever—to sit with them while they go through the feelings. So I think it's just, over time, our intention is to welcome feelings whenever possible.Sarah G.: And I think one thing we talk about in the book that I think is just crucial is revisiting. I always say to parents, Saturday morning's a perfect time. You have pancake breakfast, whatever, if you can. Then you say, “Hey, on Wednesday, when you got so upset and we did get to school, but I was wondering—why were you so angry?” And just revisiting that time so you can understand what happened and then make different plans.I think that matters. It's great if you can do it in the moment. That's often very challenging. I have the same thought as you, Sarah. Time these days for parents is really, really rough. The pressures on them. But to actually go back and touch on that moment, that really matters.Sarah R: I love what you say about—you don't have to address it in the moment. You can address it later. I often tell parents, you don't have to address it in the moment, and often it's not even as effective because kids are not in their learning brains or their thinking brains, and they can't learn when you're trying to address whatever the situation is.Another thing you talk about is repair, and that goes on the heels of what we were saying—addressing something that's happened that's difficult for you or for them or for both of you. Can you just talk a little bit about repair? Whether you've kind of messed up or you've had some conflict with your kids, why is it important? And what are some best practices around repair?Kahlila: Yeah. I think this is probably one of the most essential places to go as a parent. It's such an important parenting tool, actually.And I think it can be foreign to a lot of parents, the idea of repairing with your child, because that wasn't how you were raised. You didn't have a mom or dad come to you after yelling or losing their temper and say, “Hey, you know what? I think I lost my cool.” So it's kind of like, how do I do this? This doesn't seem right, to apologize to your kid. There's all this discomfort that parents can have around it.But I think it's so powerful, and one of the reasons it's so powerful is because we really have to acknowledge that our children are some of our most important attachment relationships, right? There's a huge importance to how we are feeling about ourselves depending on how our relationship is going with our kids. So repairing is not only healthy and good for the relationship and for the child, but it's also healthy and important and good for the parent to feel like, “I've done the best I could in repairing a situation with a child.”So we've all been there. We've lost our cool, overreacted, done something that we regret with our kids. And so when we talk about repair, the first thing that we suggest is just taking some moments of reflection for yourself and repairing with yourself. So that means whatever the shame or the guilt or embarrassment or sadness that you have around what happened, be with that. Be gentle with yourself. See if you can self-soothe a little bit. Parenting is a really hard job. I do the best that I can. Even good parents make mistakes. So really, again, that self-regulation around calming yourself down, trying to contain your emotions before you engage with your child.So the first repair is really with yourself.Then you want to be the, in terms of secure attachment, bigger, wiser model of things emotionally for your child. So you go to your child and you talk about it as simply and directly as you can. “Hey, I apologize for yelling. I actually think I overreacted. And I'm sorry that my voice got so loud.” And that's pretty much it.Then you see how receptive your child is to that. If they're open to a hug or a high five, that's another way to affirm the repair. And then you see what it's like to move on. But you try to handle it pretty directly.Again, in terms of the timing of things, it's nice if you can handle it kind of the same day that it happened, shortly after the event happened. If that's too hard for some reason, I think there's no wrong time. There's never too late to say, “Hey, I've been thinking about what happened to us last week, last month. It's been on my mind, and I want to let you know that I apologize.”Sarah G.: Yeah. And I think then on the other side of that is that children make mistakes as well, right? And that we can give them—some kids are very natural, “Oh, I'm sorry, Mommy,” and explain whatever happened. But at this age, it's also unusual for them to do that. And so what one can do is give them an opportunity.If they spilled, “Get the sponge.” Or say they had a big fit and the juice went everywhere—“Let's get this cleaned up. You can help me by wiping up the floor.” Because we don't want them to be stuck in that shame state of, “I've made this big mistake and my parent's mad at me.” Even if you're not yelling, you can be silently really angry. So you can just give them an opportunity to repair. If they've hurt another child, “Take this ice pack and go…” You can apologize by bringing over the ice pack, or drawing a picture, or something. I think it's really helpful too to help them do it. It's not like we just wait until they're old enough to do it.Sarah R: Mm-hmm. I always say repair helps the kid—when you invite them to make a repair, it helps them feel like a good person again.And it's an invitation because we've all heard that, “Say you're sorry,” and then the kid's just like, “Sorry,” and runs away. That's not actually a repair. I always say, ask them, “What do you think you could do to help your brother feel better?” Which somehow is easier for kids, I think, than “Apologize” or “Tell them you're sorry.”But I love that you highlighted that it makes the person doing the repair feel better too.And I just want to go back to what Kahlila said about doing your own repair with yourself first, because I think it's really important that a parent making repair doesn't turn into asking the child for forgiveness. That's really what we have to do for ourselves first, because it's not their job to say, “It's okay, Mommy,” or whatever.Someone in my life, who shall remain nameless, still has a hard time with doing repair because his mother did the “I'm seeking forgiveness” kind of repairs, and he just feels they're empty because of that.Kahlila: Yeah, yeah.Sarah R: So you talk about tools. A lot of your book is really practical. You share a lot of self-regulation strategies for both parents and kids. So maybe you've mentioned a few already, but what's your favorite strategy for parents from the book—one that you haven't mentioned yet?Kahlila: Yeah. I think my favorite strategy for parents—and this is kind of in the first half of the book, not in the strategies part, but you can think of it as a strategy—is actually playing with your kids most days when you can. It doesn't have to be for a long time, but kids five through eight love to play, and it brings them so much joy and feels so good to them. I think it can be very regulating for kids, and I think it can be really supportive of the relationship.Even with my older child, yesterday we had a day where it was parent-teacher conferences, he had a half day from school, and afterwards we did errands and it was kind of more relaxed and we had more time to hang out and chat. We just had an easier time with each other and enjoyed each other's company. The evening routine was really smooth, and there was a lot of goodness between us and connection. The rapport was made even more solid between us.I see that happen all the time when parents are able to devote even five minutes of undivided, no-screen, no-phone attention with their kid—playing with them, talking with them. It really builds this ease to the connection such that giving directives or following the routine just makes things smoother. So for me, an effective strategy is having a bit of play and fun connection time with your kid once a day, even if it's only for five minutes. It really lubricates the whole system and makes things easier. It makes kids more motivated to keep that good feeling with you. So that's one of my favorites.Sarah R: Your book is really practical, and you do have strategies that parents can teach kids—things they can use in the moment. So what's your favorite strategy? We'll just call one out for the podcast here.Sarah G.: Yeah, I would say, actually, taking a walk. Doing it with your child when—it's a great way to regulate. Often once you're calmer, you're walking, you can repair. And it's also something kids can really do themselves as they get older. It's so simple. If things are really chaotic, it's just like, let's just start walking. Let's walk around the—Sarah R: I love that.Sarah G.: Walk. Love that.Sarah R: And that calls back to your “getting outside.” Everything feels better outside.Sarah G.: Yes, exactly. And it's funny—I just saw an article in the newspaper this morning about how now, having the phones that we have compared to not very long ago, landlines, people are actually spending so much more time on the phone. So if you can turn off that phone and take a walk—it's really interrupting the parent-child relationship in a lot of ways. So we have to be very conscientious about doing that. So: a walk with no phone, I should say.Sarah R: Yeah. I'm so glad that we didn't have phones when my kids were little because I think about those hours and hours spent at the playground where, frankly, it can get a little bit boring sometimes. And there was nothing to do but interact with the other people or watch your kids. There were no phones to pull out and see what's going on on Facebook or whatever.Kahlila: Yeah. Can I have one more?Sarah R: Oh, sorry. Yes.Kahlila: Maybe for, you know, it's a little harder for five-year-olds, but more for seven- or eight-year-olds: the idea of the child asking for a compromise when they are frustrated about something. You're setting a limit and they're not happy with the limit, and their response is frustration or anger.To really help kids practice this as a strategy—it's like a parent-child strategy—they can feel a lot more empowered when they say, “Okay, well this is the limit, but may I have a compromise?” And you can have a conversation with your parent that often gets you more into the thinking and speaking part of your brain versus the emotional part of your brain. You're engaging and you're trying to collaborate with your parent. That in itself calms things down a little bit. Again, it can be empowering for kids to say, “Wait a minute, I have a right to speak here and see if I can ask for a compromise here and work with my mom or dad and talk it through.”So I really like that one too.And then it's not exactly a strategy, but we have this section in our book where we have, I think, about eight kids talking about a time that was hard for them and how they dealt with it emotionally. Kids seeing other kids deal with big emotions and learning from how other kids do it is actually really helpful too. I've seen kids really want to absorb that and use it for themselves when they see another kid using a breathing exercise or pretending to blow bubbles or doing something. A lot of kids are learning calming strategies at their school, and so a parent could also say, “Well, what have you been learning at school that helps with you feeling calm at school?” and have the child teach the parent what that strategy is—another nice way of integrating self-regulation practices for kids.Sarah R: Yeah. I love that you brought up those calming strategies, like the ones that they've often learned at school these days, which is great—like blowing on a cup of hot chocolate, or pretending you're doing that to do the deep breathing.I love that your book is really more focused on the parents and what the parents can do in terms of self-regulation and co-regulation, because what I hear over and over from parents is, “Yeah, my kid can tell me five calm-down strategies that they've learned at school, but in the heat of the moment, they're not interested in using it.”So are there things that you suggest for parents when you have a kid who is resistant to those strategies that they know, maybe when they're calm, they know they can use, but then when they're upset they are refusing?Sarah G.: Practice. They need to practice ahead of time. Then the parents have to catch them doing it, even a small amount. Like, “Oh, I saw you started the breathing, but then I guess you got so overwhelmed. That was amazing.” And so—but also, you know, the stop, drop, and roll that they do in schools for fire—you need to do the same thing with these strategies.Sarah R: Mm-hmm.Sarah G.: Practice ahead of time. Talk about, “This is going to be a really hard day for you. You're so tired and we have these events, and what are you going to do when you're feeling so overwhelmed? What do you think is going to work for you?” So forth.Sarah R: Yeah, so prep ahead of time. And even afterwards, like, “Oh, that was so tough. You know, maybe next time we can try to do that calming strategy X that you learned at school when you're feeling that way.” I think that probably reinforces some of the patterns too, just even talking about it later.Kahlila: Yeah. And if you feel like there's something that's not working for your child and it—don't use it, right? Think outside of the box. Try new things. Do some trial and error. Every kid is unique, and something that may work for one child may not work for another. So discover that over the years and kind of accept the reality of what works for your child and what doesn't.Some children may want a very tight bear hug. Other children might want to chew on a piece of gum or something like that, or take a walk. So be attuned to what is happening for your child and believe them when they say, “This doesn't help.”Sarah R: Yeah. Love that.Thank you so much. This is really—I think your book is really great, and we'll put a link to it in the show notes. Any place you want to send our listeners before we let you go? Any best place to learn more about you and what you do?Kahlila: I have a website. It's kahlilarobinsonphd.com. So that's my website. I have an Instagram account with the same name, Kahlila Robinson PhD. So you can find a little bit more about me and my practice there. We'd be excited to get feedback from people on the book and see how they're using it and what's been helpful. So we are so open to hearing back from people.Sarah R: Awesome. What about you, Sarah?Sarah G.: Yeah, so anyone can find me at sarahgerstenzang.com. And I echo Kahlila's request. If people find something useful in the workbook, we just love to—we're proud of the work, and we'd love to know how it feels to actually use it.Sarah R: Wonderful. We'll put those links in the show notes.Before I let you go, there's a question that I ask every guest at the end of the podcast. So maybe, Kahlila, you go first, and then I'll ask you to answer the same question, Sarah. Which is: if you could give some advice to your younger parent self—go back in time and give yourself advice—what advice would you give yourself?Kahlila: I would probably say: enjoy it more. There's something about the intensity and the demands of scheduling and routines and pressure and all that kind of stuff. See if you can not sweat the small stuff as much and be a little bit more relaxed about things and enjoy it more.Sarah R: I love that. That's so important.Sarah G.: So we used to have very long dinner hours, and I was just thinking as we were talking about repair today: I should have done more repairs after some of those dinners didn't go—sort of erupted. We had a nephew living with us for a while, so had four teenagers at a table. Anyway, lots of it was fabulous and wonderful, but also sometimes things happen. So yeah, I think, “Oh, I should have done more repairs after those dinners.”Sarah R: Well, take your own advice. It's never too late.Kahlila: That's right. That's right.Sarah R: Let me know.Sarah G.: I've apologized for everything. Don't worry.Sarah R: Oh, good, good.Well, thank you both so much for coming on. It was a pleasure to meet you, and thanks for all the support you're giving parents out in the world.Kahlila: Thank you so much, Sarah. Thank you for having us. 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Panic Attack Help: Nervous System Mastery & Deeper Clarity (Part 3)You have traveled through the storm, and now the clouds are beginning to part. While Part 1 focused on finding the switch to quiet the noise and Part 2 prioritized repairing the stress loop, today is your ascent. We are no longer just managing or coping; we are stepping into true Nervous System Mastery.In this final chapter of our series, clinical hypnotherapist Martin guides you to plant a mental flag at your "peak of peace". From this new vantage point, you will learn to shift your perspective so that old worries, frantic thoughts, and the shadows of panic appear like tiny ants in the valley below. You are moving from the heavy weight of survival mode into the soaring freedom of absolute clarity.In This Episode, You Will Experience:Victory Breathing: A sharp, energized inhale designed to anchor your power and flood your system with emotional strength.The Mental Flag Visualization: A hypnotic process to plant an emotional anchor at the summit of your progress.Triumphant Release: Using a 6-second controlled exhale to let go of the last remnants of doubt.3 Daily Caring Tips for Absolute Clarity:The "I Have Arrived" Anchor: Use a physical touch-point (pressing thumb and forefinger) to instantly recall this state of peak calm.Strategic Stillness: Give yourself 60 seconds of internal, absolute silence to reset the decision-making brain and preserve vagal tone.The Gratitude Circuit: Before opening your eyes, name three things you are grateful for to flood your system with dopamine and oxytocin.Affirmations for Mastery:"I have arrived in a place of total peace." "I am the master of my internal environment." "My clarity is my strength, and I carry it with me everywhere." Complete your journey. If you are ready to fully commit to the journey of trauma-informed brain rewiring, come and join our community and explore the full Anxiety Breaker Course.Your support matters. This show is a grass-roots effort—just Martin, a microphone, and a laptop in a van. If this series helped you, please rate, review, and subscribe to help us reach those still searching for their own peak of peace.Smile often, walk with your head held high, and to your beautiful self... be kind.

If you feel like you've been living on autopilot in a constant state of high alert, your body is likely stuck in a stress loop. In part two of our series on finding deeper clarity, we move beyond simple relaxation to initiate a full nervous system reset. We are shifting from "fight-or-flight" survival mode into the parasympathetic activation mode—the essential space for rest and repair.Host Martin, a clinical hypnotherapist and former paramedic, guides you through a powerful session designed to stop the "digital spiral" and give your vagus nerve the signal it needs to heal. This episode features a modified NSDR (Non-Sleep Deep Rest) protocol combined with vagal tone stimulation, providing the missing link in long-term anxiety recovery.In This Episode, You Will Experience:The 4-2-6 Breathing Rhythm: A biological lever to lower cortisol and activate the vagus nerve.Modified NSDR & Hypnosis: A guided visualization to create a "silent sanctuary" and a safe place for permanent positive change.Somatic Rewiring: Techniques to release tension in the jaw, shoulders, and neck while building a new sense of "felt safety".3 Daily Caring Tips for Vagus Nerve Health:The Cold Water Splash: A 30-second splash to the face to trigger the diving reflex and reset your heart rate.Peripheral Gaze: Shifting your vision to the farthest point in the room to signal to your brain that there is no immediate threat.Vocal Vibration: Humming or chanting to stimulate the vagus nerve directly through the back of the throat.Affirmations for Balance:"I am safe to inhabit my body." "My nervous system is returning to a state of balance and peace." "I trust my body's ability to heal and regulate." Ready for deeper healing? Explore our full Anxiety Breaker Course and trauma-informed brain rewiring tools at calminganxiety.fm.If this session helped you, please rate, review, and subscribe on Apple Podcasts. Sharing this episode with friends and family helps us reach more people in their time of need.Be kind to your beautiful self.

Most people think their relationship problems are about the other person. They're not — they're about an 18-month-old version of you who learned the only way to survive. In this episode, psychotherapist Jessica Baum breaks down why your nervous system is still running a programme it wrote in infancy. Attachment styles — secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganised — aren't personality quirks. They're adaptive strategies your brain built when connection was a matter of survival. The anxious person who chases, the avoidant who disappears, the couple stuck in a loop they can't explain — it all traces back to the same source: early experiences that taught your body what to expect from closeness. Understanding that isn't just interesting. It's the beginning of actually changing it. Your attachment style isn't fixed — it shifts depending on who you're with Co-regulation isn't neediness — it's how the nervous system was designed to heal The goal isn't independence. It's interdependence — being whole and connected If your relationships keep following the same painful script, this episode is where you start rewriting it. SPONSORS

In this episode, I sit down with Emotional Intelligence expert Jess Cameron to explore a skill many of us were never taught - how to understand and regulate our emotions.Most of us were taught how to achieve, perform and push through discomfort. But very few of us were taught emotional awareness, emotional regulation or how to communicate what we're actually feeling. Jess breaks down what emotional intelligence really means in practical terms. It's not about being overly emotional or “soft.” It's about self-awareness, nervous system regulation, and developing the ability to respond intentionally instead of reacting from old patterns.We also explore intuition - that quiet inner voice that often gets drowned out by mental noise, stress and overthinking. Jess shares a pivotal year in her life where she chose to follow her intuition in every decision, even when it defied logic. That experiment reshaped her career and became the foundation of her work as a mindset and emotional intelligence coach.This conversation goes deep into modern relationship dynamics, including masculine and feminine energy, emotional suppression in men and the desire for emotional depth in women. We discuss how emotional safety impacts intimacy, communication and connection - and why emotional regulation is essential for healthy relationships, effective leadership and personal growth.Jess shares practical insights on: • EQ vs IQ • How to regulate emotions in high-pressure situations • The role of intuition in decision making • Masculine and feminine dynamics in modern relationships • Parenting with emotional awareness • Why anger is not bad - but mismanaged anger isAt its core, this episode is about building emotional resilience and self-trust. Because you cannot regulate what you refuse to acknowledge. And when you develop the skill of emotional regulation, everything shifts - your leadership, your relationships, your confidence and your sense of self.If you want to strengthen your emotional intelligence, build better relationships, and respond with clarity instead of reacting from habit, this conversation will meet you exactly where you are.Inside this podcast:- Why emotional intelligence is more than a soft skill- How intuition gets drowned out by mental noise- Why you cannot regulate emotions you avoid- The tension between masculinity, femininity and emotional depth- How awareness allows you to respond instead of reactConnect with Jess:Instagram  → ⁠https://bit.ly/3ZGbKMv⁠ Website → ⁠jesscameron.com⁠ Connect with Steve:Instagram → ⁠https://bit.ly/3KARQhR⁠ LinkedIn  → ⁠https://bit.ly/48sw8Vj⁠ Episode Highlights00:00:00 - Episode Trailer00:02:30 - Emotional intelligence beyond buzzwords00:05:00 - Observing thoughts and separating identity from mind00:07:00 - Fine tuning intuition like a radio frequency00:10:00 - Listen to the whisper or face the sledgehammer00:12:00 - The career defining moment of saying no00:15:00 - Following intuition despite fear00:18:00 - IQ versus EQ and the limits of logic00:20:00 - Judging intentions versus judging actions00:24:00 - Emotional intelligence in conflict00:28:00 - Masculine and feminine energy explained00:32:00 - Why emotions were labeled as weakness00:35:00 - Regulation versus suppression00:38:00 - Invalidation disguised as positivity00:41:00 - How men shut down in relationships00:45:00 - Creating safe emotional space00:49:00 - Awareness as the key to personal growthABOUT THE PODCAST SHOWThe Noise of Life is a podcast that shares real stories, raw truths, and remarkable growth. Hosted by Steve Hodgson a coach, facilitator, speaker, and Mental Health First Aid Instructor. This podcast dives deep into the “noise” we all face, the distractions, doubts and challenges that can pull us away from who we truly are.