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With a PhD in Education, Dr. Kelly Cagle is the founder of the IQ network. Which includes Mom IQ Community and Coaching the Parenting IQ Podcast, where she helps parents use the little daily moments as big learning opportunities. Fun fact, she was born in Brazil, married her husband at 19, homeschools her three sons and daily seeks to create a world where families find freedom from the negativity of an ADHD label. And live with intentionality, connection and legacy driven purpose.   Follow her passionate work on ⁠Instagram  Subscribe to the IQ Parenting Podcast and explore her resources at Dr. Kelly Cagle. We were thrilled to have this important conversation full of good practical ideas for supporting kids around learning and ADHD with our new friend, Dr. Kelly Cagle. And you all hang on to the end when she will walk us through the 8 different ways that kids learn and you're going to find your kids somewhere there.    . . . . .  ⁠Owen Learns He Has What it Takes: A Lesson in Resilience⁠ ⁠Lucy Learns to Be Brave: A Lesson in Courage⁠⁠ Grab your tickets today for the⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Raising Capable Kids Conference⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with David Thomas, Sissy Goff and special guests! Sign up to receive the⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠monthly newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to keep up to date with where David and Sissy are speaking, where they are taco'ing, PLUS conversation starters for you and your family to share! Connect with David, Sissy, and Melissa at⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠raisingboysandgirls.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . . . . .  If you would like to partner with Raising Boys and Girls as a podcast sponsor, fill out our⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Advertise with us⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ form. A special thank you to our sponsors: DOSE: Save 30% on your first month of subscription by going to ⁠dosedaily.co/RBG ⁠or entering RBG at checkout.  QUINCE: Give your summer closet an upgrade—with Quince. Go to ⁠Quince.com/rbg⁠ for free shipping on your order and three hundred and sixty-five -day returns.  THRIVE MARKET: Skip the junk without overspending. Head over to ⁠ThriveMarket.com/rbg⁠ to get 30% off your first order and a FREE $60 gift.  NIV APPLICATION BIBLE: Save an additional 10% on any NIV Application Bible and NIV Application Commentary Resources by visiting FAITHGATEWAY.COM/NIVAB and using promo code RBG.  BOLL & BRANCH: Feel the difference an extraordinary night's sleep can make with Boll & Branch. Get 15% off plus free shipping on your first set of sheets at BollAndBranch dot com slash RAISING. That's Boll and Branch, b-o-l-l-a-n-d branch dot com slash RAISING to save 15% and unlock free shipping. Exclusions apply. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

n this episode, we welcome J.M. Shaw, author of the thrilling Callum Walker fantasy series. Shaw takes us deep into her imaginative world where magic, necromancy, and prophecy collide in an epic battle that tests the limits of courage, friendship, and destiny.From The Ascension to Forsaken Souls, Shaw's novels weave together adventure, supernatural battles, and powerful human themes—exploring mental health, resilience, and the bonds that hold us together in times of chaos. Drawing from her own experiences as a writer, martial artist, and advocate for autism and ADHD representation, Shaw offers a unique perspective on both the creative process and the deeper truths her characters embody.The inspiration behind the Callum Walker seriesHow J.M. Shaw balances epic fantasy with real-world themes like PTSD, anxiety, and isolationInsights into her creative process and how her background in psychology and martial arts shapes her storytellingWhy representation of neurodiversity matters in literature and how she incorporates it into her workA glimpse at what's next for the Callum Walker universeWhether you're a longtime fantasy reader or just discovering the series, this episode will open the door to a world of magic, struggle, and hope.

What happens when we stop talking about kids with learning differences — and start listening to them? Kids are the experts in their own experience. When we truly listen, we all learn.Today we're joined by 15-year-old Caris, a smart and determined teen with dyslexia, and her dad, Kevin. In this honest conversation, they talk about the everyday challenges and small wins of growing up with a learning difference. Caris shares what she wishes more people understood about dyslexia and how she's found confidence in unexpected places. And she introduces “Through My Eyes,” a new digital experience from Understood.org that lets you step into her world.Want to learn more about her story? Explore Through My Eyes at Understood.org and help others see your child the way you do.For more on this topicSigns of dyslexia in high schoolSigns of dyslexia in grade schoolPodcast: What if I think my child might have dyslexia?Timestamps(01:50) Growing up with dyslexia(06:19) Facing stigma around learning disabilities(11:17) How “Through My Eyes” reframed their experience(13:06) Telling friends about her diagnosisFor a transcript and more resources, visit the In It show page on Understood.org. We love hearing from our listeners! Email us at init@understood.org. Explore Through My Eyes today. Step into the world of three kids with ADHD, dyslexia, and dyscalculia — helping you see differently so you can act differently.Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give

Skye Waterson's journey as an ADHD strategist and coach highlights the transformative power of understanding one's unique cognitive processes. Diagnosed with ADHD during her PhD studies, Skye realized that traditional productivity methods often fell short for individuals like her. This realization propelled her into extensive research and experimentation, leading to the development of tailored strategies that empower entrepreneurs and business owners to escape distraction loops and focus on what truly matters in their work. At the helm of Unconventional Organisation, Skye has created a multi-six-figure business dedicated to helping others build ADHD-friendly systems that promote consistency and sustainable growth. Her approach emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and personal empowerment, enabling clients to step confidently into leadership roles while managing their time and energy effectively. By fostering an environment that accommodates the unique needs of those with ADHD, Skye equips her clients with the tools necessary to thrive in their entrepreneurial journeys without succumbing to burnout. If you're looking to enhance your focus and productivity, Skye offers a valuable resource: the two-minute focus formula. This simple yet effective strategy can help individuals prioritize their tasks and regain control over their time. To download this formula, simply DM them on Instagram with the message brand. For more information and resources, visit her website here. Take the first step towards a more focused and productive life today! For the accessible version of the podcast, go to our Ziotag gallery.We're happy you're here! Like the pod?Support the podcast and receive discounts from our sponsors: https://yourbrandamplified.codeadx.me/Leave a rating and review on your favorite platformFollow @yourbrandamplified on the socialsTalk to my digital avatar

You're listening to Burnt Toast! Today, my guest is Ash Brandin of Screen Time Strategies, also know as The Gamer Educator on Instagram. Ash is also the author of a fantastic new book, Power On: Managing Screen Time to Benefit the Whole Family. Ash joined us last year to talk about how our attitudes towards screen time can be…diet-adjacent. I asked them to come back on the podcast this week because a lot of us are heading into back-to-school mode, which in my experience can mean feelingsss about screen routines. There are A LOT of really powerful reframings in this episode that might blow your mind—and make your parenting just a little bit easier. So give this one a listen and share it with anyone in your life who's also struggling with kids and screen time.Today's episode is free but if you value this conversation, please consider supporting our work with a paid subscription. Burnt Toast is 100% reader- and listener-supported. We literally can't do this without you! PS. You can take 10 percent off Power On, or any book we talk about on the podcast, if you order it from the Burnt Toast Bookshop, along with a copy of Fat Talk! (This also applies if you've previously bought Fat Talk from them. Just use the code FATTALK at checkout.)Episode 208 TranscriptVirginiaFor anyone who missed your last episode, can you just quickly tell us who you are and what you do?AshI'm Ash Brandin. I use they/them pronouns.I am a middle school teacher by day, and then with my online presence, I help families and caregivers better understand and manage all things technology—screen time, screens. My goal is to reframe the way that we look at them as caregivers, to find a balance between freaking out about them and allowing total access. To find a way that works for us. VirginiaWe are here today to talk about your brilliant new book, which is called Power On: Managing Screen Time to Benefit the Whole Family. I can't underscore enough how much everybody needs a copy of this book. I have already turned back to it multiple times since reading it a few months ago. It just really helps ground us in so many aspects of this conversation that we don't usually have.AshI'm so glad to hear that it's helpful! If people are new to who I am, I have sort of three central tenets of the work that I do: * Screen time is a social inequity issue. * Screens can be part of our lives without being the center of our lives. * Screens and screen time should benefit whole families.Especially in the last few years, we have seen a trend toward panic around technology and screens and smartphones and social media. I think that there are many reasons to be concerned around technology and its influence, especially with kids. But what's missing in a lot of those conversations is a sense of empowerment about what families can reasonably do. When we focus solely on the fear, it ends up just putting caregivers in a place of feeling bad.VirginiaYou feel like you're getting it wrong all the time.AshShame isn't empowering. No one is like, “Well, I feel terrible about myself, so now I feel equipped to go make a change,” right?Empowerment is what's missing in so many of those conversations and other books and things that have come out, because it's way harder. It's so much harder to talk about what you can really do and reasonably control in a sustainable way. But I'm an educator, and I really firmly believe that if anyone's in this sort of advice type space, be it online or elsewhere, that they need to be trying to empower and help families instead of just capitalizing on fear.VirginiaWhat I found most powerful is that you really give us permission to say: What need is screen time meeting right now? And this includes caregivers' needs. So not just “what need is this meeting for my child,” but what need is this meeting for me? I am here recording with you right now because iPads are meeting the need of children have a day off school on a day when I need to work. We won't be interrupted unless I have to approve a screen time request, which I might in 20 minutes.I got divorced a couple years ago, and my kids get a lot more screen time now. Because they move back and forth between two homes, and each only has one adult in it. Giving myself permission to recognize that I have needs really got me through a lot of adjusting to this new rhythm of our family.AshAbsolutely. And when we're thinking about what the need is, we also need to know that it's going to change. So often in parenting, it feels like we have to come up with one set of rules and they have to work for everything in perpetuity without adjustment. That just sets us up for a sense of failure if we're like, well, I had this magical plan that someone told me was going to work, and it didn't. So I must be the problem, right? It all comes back to that “well, it's my fault” place.VirginiaWhich is screens as diet culture.AshAll over again. We're back at it. It's just not helpful. If instead, we're thinking about what is my need right now? Sometimes it's “I have to work.” And sometimes it's “my kid is sick and they just need to relax.” Sometimes it's, as you were alluding to earlier, it's we've all just had a day, right? We've been run ragged, and we just need a break, and that need is going to dictate very different things. If my kid is laid up on the couch and throwing up, then what screen time is going to be doing for them is very different than If I'm trying to work and I want them to be reasonably engaged in content and trying to maybe learn something. And that's fine. Being able to center “this is what I need right now,” or “this is what we need right now,” puts us in a place of feeling like we're making it work for us. Instead of feeling like we're always coming up against some rule that we're not going to quite live up to.VirginiaI'd love to talk about the inequity piece a little more too. As I said, going from a two parent household to a one parent household, which is still a highly privileged environment—but even just that small shift made me realize, wait a second. I think all the screen time guidance is just for typical American nuclear families. Ideally, with a stay at home parent.So can you talk about why so much of the standard guidance doesn't apply to most of our families?AshIt's not even just a stay at home parent. It's assuming that there is always at least one caregiver who is fully able to be present. Mom, default parent, is making dinner, and Dad is relaxing after work and is monitoring what the kids are doing, right? And it's one of those times where I'm like, have you met a family?VirginiaPeople are seven different places at once. It's just not that simple.AshIt's not that simple, right? It's like, have you spent five minutes in a typical household in the last 10 years? This is not how it's going, right?So the beginning of the book helps people unlearn and relearn what we may have heard around screens, including what research really does or doesn't say around screens, and this social inequity piece. Because especially since the onset of COVID, screens are filling in systemic gaps for the vast majority of families.I'm a family with two caregivers in the home. We both work, but we're both very present caregivers. So we're definitely kind of a rarity, that we're very privileged. We're both around a lot of the time. And we are still using screens to fill some of those gaps.So whether it's we don't really have a backyard, or people are in a neighborhood where they can't send their kids outside, or they don't have a park or a playground. They don't have other kids in the neighborhood, or it's not a safe climate. Or you live in an apartment and you can't have your neighbors complain for the fifth time that your kids are stomping around and being loud. Whatever it is—a lack of daycare, affordable after school care —those are all gaps. They all have to be filled. And we used to have different ways of filling those gaps, and they've slowly become less accessible or less available. So something has to fill them. What ends up often filling them is screens. And I'm not saying that that's necessarily a good thing. I'd rather live in a world in which everyone is having their needs met accessibly and equitably. But that's a much harder conversation, and is one that we don't have very much say in. We participate in that, and we might vote for certain people, but that's about all we can really do reasonably. So, in the meantime, we have to fill that in with something and so screens are often going to fill that in.Especially if you look at caregivers who have less privilege, who are maybe single caregivers, caregivers of color, people living in poverty—all of those aspects of scarcity impacts their bandwidth. Their capacity as a caregiver is less and spread thinner, and all of that takes away from a caregiver's ability to be present. And there were some really interesting studies that were done around just the way that having less capacity affects you as a caregiver.And when I saw that data, I thought, well, of course. Of course people are turning to screens because they have nothing else to give from. And when we think of it that way, it's hard to see that as some sort of personal failure, right? When we see it instead as, oh, this is out of necessity. It reframes the question as “How do I make screens work for me,” as opposed to, “I'm bad for using screens.”VirginiaRight. How do I use screen time to meet these needs and to hopefully build up my capacity so that I can be more present with my kids? I think people think if you're using a lot of screens, you're really never present. It's that stereotype of the parent on the playground staring at their phone, instead of watching the kid play. When maybe the reason we're at the playground is so my kid can play and I can answer some work emails. That doesn't mean I'm not present at other points of the day.AshOf course. You're seeing one moment. I always find that so frustrating. It just really feels like you you cannot win. If I were sitting there staring at my child's every move in the park, someone would be like, “you're being a helicopter,” right? And if I look at my phone because I'm trying to make the grocery pickup order—because I would rather my child have time at the playground than we spend our only free hour in the grocery store and having to manage a kid in the grocery store and not having fun together, right? Instead I'm placing a pickup order and they're getting to run around on the playground. Now also somehow I'm failing because I'm looking at my phone instead of my kid. But also, we want kids to have independent time, and not need constant input. It really feels like you just can't win sometimes. And being able to take a step back and really focus on what need is this meeting? And if it's ours, and if it is helping me be more present and connected, that's a win. When I make dinner in the evening, my kid is often having screen time, and I will put in an AirPod and listen to a podcast, often Burnt Toast, and that's my decompression. Because I come home straight from work and other things. I'm not getting much time to really decompress.VirginiaYou need that airlock time, where you can decompress and then be ready to be present at dinner.I'm sure I've told you this before, but I reported a piece on screen time for Parents Magazine, probably almost 10 years ago at this point, because I think my older child was three or four. And I interviewed this Harvard researcher, this older white man, and I gave him this the dinner time example. I said, I'm cooking dinner. My kid is watching Peppa Pig so that I can cook dinner, and take a breath. And then we eat dinner together. And he said, “Why don't you involve her in cooking dinner? Why don't you give her a bag of flour to play with while you cook dinner?”AshOf all the things!VirginiaAnd I said to him: Because it's 5pm on a Wednesday and who's coming to clean the flour off the ceiling?AshA bag of flour. Of all the things to go to! VirginiaHe was like, “kids love to make a happy mess in the kitchen!” I was like, well I don't love that. And it was just exactly that. My need didn't matter to him at all. He was like, “h, well, if you just want to pacify your children…” I was like, I do, yes, in that moment.AshWell, and I think that's another part of it is that someone says it to us like that, and we're like, “well, I can't say yes,” right? But in the moment, yeah, there are times where it's like, I need you to be quiet. And as hard as this can be to think, sometimes it's like right now, I need you to be quiet and convenient because of the situation we're in. And that doesn't mean we're constantly expecting that of them, and hopefully that's not something we're doing all the time. But if the need is, oh my God, we're all melting down, and if we don't eat in the next 15 minutes, we're going to have a two hour DEFCON1 emergency on our hands, then, yeah, I'm gonna throw Peppa Pig on so that we can all become better regulated humans in the next 15 minutes and not have a hungry meltdown. And that sounds like a much better alternative to me!VirginiaThan flour all over my kitchen on a Wednesday, right? I mean, I'll never not be mad about it. It's truly the worst parenting advice I've ever received. So thank you for giving us all more space as caregivers to be able to articulate our own needs and articulate what we need to be present. It's what we can do in the face of gaps in the care system that leave us holding so much.That said: I think there are some nitty gritty aspects of this that we all struggle wit, so I want to talk about some of the nuts and bolts pieces. One of my biggest struggles is still the question of how much time is too much time? But you argue that time really isn't the measure we should be using. As you're saying, that need is going to vary day to day, and all the guidance that's been telling us, like, 30 minutes at this age, an hour at this age, all of that is not particularly germane to our lives. So can you explain both why time is less what we should fixate on? And then how do I release myself? How do I divest from the screen time diet culture?AshOh man, I wish I had a magic bullet for that one. We'll see what I can do.When I was writing this and thinking about it and making content about it, I kept thinking about you. Because the original time guidelines that everyone speaks back to—they're from the AAP. And they have not actually been used in about 10 years, but people still bring them up all the time. The “no time under two” and “up to an hour up to age five” and “one to two hours, five to 12.” And if you really dig in, I was following footnote after footnote for a while, trying to really find where did this actually come from? It's not based on some study that found that that's the ideal amount of time. It really came from a desire to find this middle ground of time spent being physically idle. These guidelines are about wanting to avoid childhood obesity.VirginiaOf course.AshIt all comes back, right?VirginiaI should have guessed it.AshAnd so in their original recommendations, the AAP note that partially this is to encourage a balance with physical movement. Which, of course, assumes that if you are not sitting watching TV or using an iPad, that you will be playing volleyball or something.VirginiaYou'll automatically be outside running around.AshExactly, of course, those are the only options.VirginiaIt also assumes that screen time is never physical. But a lot of kids are very physical when they're watching screens.AshExactly. And it, of course, immediately also imposes a morality of one of these things is better—moving your body is always better than a screen, which is not always going to be true, right? All these things have nuance in them. But I thought that was so interesting, and it shouldn't have surprised me, and yet somehow it still did. And of course it is good to find movement that is helpful for you and to give your kids an enjoyment of being outside or moving their bodies, or playing a sport. And putting all of that in opposition to something else they may enjoy, like a screen, really quickly goes to that diet culture piece of “well, how many minutes have you been doing that?” Because now we have to offset it with however many minutes you should be running laps or whatever.So those original recommendations are coming from a place of already trying to mitigate the negatives of sitting and doing something sort of passively leisurely. And in the last 10 years, they've moved away from that, and they now recommend what's called making a family media plan. Which actually I think is way better, because it is much more prioritizing what are you using this for? Can you be doing it together? What can you do? It's much more reasonable, I think. But many people still go back to those original recommendations, because like you said, it's a number. It's simple. Just tell me.VirginiaWe love to grab onto a number and grade ourselves.AshJust tell me how much time so that I can tell myself I'm I'm doing a good job, right? But you know, time is just one piece of information. It can be so specific with what am I using that time to do? If I'm sitting on my computer and doing work for an hour and a half, technically, that is screen time, but it is going to affect me a lot differently than if I'm watching Netflix or scrolling my phone for an hour and a half. I will feel very different after those things. And I think it's really important to be aware of that, and to make our kids aware of that from an early age, so that they are thinking about more than just, oh, it's been X amount of minutes. And therefore this is okay or not okay.Because all brains and all screens are different. And so one kid can watch 20 minutes of Paw Patrol, and they're going to be bouncing off the walls, because, for whatever reason, that's just a show that's really stimulating for them. And somebody else can sit and watch an hour and a half of something, and they'll be completely fine. So if you have a kid that is the first kid, and after 20 minutes, you're like, oh my god, it's not even half an hour. This is supposed to be an okay amount. This is how they're acting. We're right back to that “something's wrong. I'm wrong. They're bad,” as opposed to, “What is this telling me? What's something we could do differently? Could we try a different show? Could we try maybe having some physical movement before or after, see if that makes a difference?” It just puts us more in a place of being curious to figure out again, how do I make this work for me? What is my need? How do I make it work for us?And not to rattle on too long, but there was a big study done in the UK, involving over 120,000 kids. And they were trying to find what they called “the Goldilocks amount of time.”VirginiaYes. This is fascinating.AshSo it's the amount of time where benefit starts to wane. Where we are in that “just right”amount. Before that, might still be okay, but after that we're going to start seeing some negative impacts, particularly when it comes to behavior, for example.What they found in general was that the Goldilocks number tended to be around, I think, an hour and 40 minutes a day. Something around an hour and a half a day. But if you looked at certain types of screens, for computers or TV, it was much higher than that. It was closer to three hours a day before you started seeing some negative impacts. And even for things like smartphones, it was over an hour a day. But what I found so so interesting, is that they looked at both statistical significance, but also what they called “minimally important difference,” which was when you would actually notice these negative changes, subjectively, as a caregiver.So this meant how much would a kid have to be on a screen for their adult at home to actually notice “this is having an impact on you,” regularly. And that amount was over four and a half hours a day on screens.VirginiaBefore caregivers were like, “Okay, this is too much!” And the fact that the statistically significant findings for the minutia of what the researchers looking at is so different from what you as a caregiver are going to actually be thrown by. That was really mind blowing to me.AshRight, And that doesn't mean that statistical significance isn't important, necessarily. But we're talking about real minutiae. And that doesn't always mean that you will notice any difference in your actual life.Of course, some people are going to hear this and go, “But I don't want my kid on a screen for four and a half hours.” Sure. That's completely reasonable. And if your kid is having a hard time after an hour, still reasonable, still important. That's why we can think less about how many minutes has it been exactly, and more, what am I noticing? Because if I'm coming back to the need and you're like, okay, I have a meeting and I need an hour, right? If you know, “I cannot have them use their iPad for an hour, because they tend to become a dysregulated mess in 25 minutes,” that's much more useful information than “Well, it says they're allowed to have an hour of screen time per day so this should be fine because it's an hour.”VirginiaRight.AshIt sets you up for more success.VirginiaAnd if you know your kid can handle that hour fine and can, in fact, handle more fine, it doesn't mean, “well you had an hour of screen time while I was in a meeting so now we can't watch a show together later to relax together.” You don't have to take away and be that granular with the math of the screens. You can be like, yeah, we needed an extra hour for this meeting, and we'll still be able to watch our show later. Because that's what I notice with my kids. If I start to try to take away from some other screen time, then it's like, “Oh, god, wait, but that's the routine I'm used to!” You can't change it, and that's fair.AshYes, absolutely. And I would feel that way too, right? If someone were giving me something extra because it was a convenience to them, but then later was like, “oh, well, I have to take that from somewhere.” But they didn't tell me that. I would be like, Excuse me, that's weird. That's not how that works, right? This was a favor to you, right?VirginiaYeah, exactly. I didn't interrupt your meeting. You're welcome, Mom.Where the time anxiety does tend to kick in, though, is that so often it's hard for kids to transition off screens. So then parents think, “Well, it was too much time,” or, “The screen is bad.” This is another very powerful reframing in your work. So walk us through why just because a kid is having a hard time getting off screens doesn't mean it was too much and it doesn't mean that screens are evil? AshSo an example I use many times that you can tweak to be whatever thing would come up for your kid is bath time. I think especially when kids are in that sort of toddler, three, four age. When my kid was that age, we had a phase where transitioning to and from the bathtub was very hard. Getting into it was hard. But then getting out of it was hard.VirginiaThey don't ever want to get in. And then they never want to leave.AshThey never want to get out, right? And in those moments when my kid was really struggling to get out of the bathtub, imagine how it would sound if I was like, “Well, it it's the bathtub's fault.” Like it's the bath's fault that they are having such a hard time, it's because of the bubbles, and it smells too good, and I've made it too appealing and the water's too warm. Like, I mean, I sound unhinged, right?Virginia“We're going to stop bathing you.”AshExactly. We would not say, “Well, we can't have baths anymore.” Or when we go to the fun playground, and it's really hard to leave the fun playground, we don't blame the playground. When we're in the grocery store and they don't want to leave whichever aisle, we don't blame the grocery store. And we also don't stop taking them to the grocery store. We don't stop going to playgrounds. We don't stop having baths. Instead, we make different decisions, right? We try different things. We start a timer. We have a different transition. We talk about it beforehand. We strategize, we try things.VirginiaGive a “Hey, we're leaving in a few minutes!” so they're not caught off guard.AshExactly. We talk about it. Hey, last time it was really hard to leave here, we kind of let them know ahead of time, or we race them to the car. We find some way to make it more fun, to make the transition easier, right? We get creative, because we know that, hey, they're going to have to leave the grocery store. They're going to have to take baths in a reasonable amount of time as they grow up into their lives. We recognize the skill that's happening underneath it.And I think with screens, we don't always see those underlying skills, because we see it as this sort of superfluous thing, right? It's not needed. It's not necessary. Well, neither is going to a playground, technically.A lot of what we do is not technically required, but the skill underneath is still there. So when they are struggling with ending screen time, is it really the screen, or is it that it's hard to stop doing something fun. It's hard to stop in the middle of something. It's hard to stop if you have been playing for 20 minutes and you've lost every single race and you don't want to stop when you've just felt like you've lost over and over again, right? You want one more shot to one more shot, right?People are going to think, “Well, but screens are so much different than those other things.” Yes, a screen is designed differently than a playground or a bath. But we are going to have kids who are navigating a technological and digital world that we are struggle to even imagine, right? We're seeing glimpses of it, but it's going to be different than what we're experiencing now, and we want our kids to be able to navigate that with success. And that comes back to seeing the skills underneath. So when they're struggling with something like that, taking the screen out of it, and asking yourself, how would I handle this if it were anything else. How would I handle this if it were they're struggling to leave a friend's house? I probably wouldn't blame the friend, and I wouldn't blame their house, and I wouldn't blame their boys.VirginiaWe're never seeing that child again! Ash I would validate and I would tell them, it's hard. And I would still tell them “we're ending,” and we would talk about strategies to make it easier next time. And we would get curious and try something, and we would be showing our kids that, “hey, it's it's okay to have a hard time doing that thing. It's okay to have feelings about it. And we're still gonna do it. We're still going to end that thing.”Most of the time, the things that we are struggling with when it comes to screens actually boil down to one of three things, I call them the ABCs. It's either Access, which could be time, or when they're having it, or how much. Behavior, which you're kind of bringing up here. And Content, what's on the screen, what they're playing, what they what they have access to.And so sometimes we might think that the problem we're seeing in front of us is a behavior problem, right? I told them to put the screen away. They're not putting the screen away. That's a behavior problem. But sometimes it actually could be because it's an access issue, right? It's more time than they can really handle at that given moment. Or it could be content, because it's content that makes it harder to start and stop. So a big part of the book is really figuring out, how do I know what problem I'm even really dealing with here? And then what are some potential things that I can do about it? To try to problem solve, try to make changes and see if this helps, and if it helps, great, keep it. And if not, I can get curious and try something else. And so a lot of it is strategies to try and ways to kind of, you know, backwards engineer what might be going on, to figure out how to make it work for you, how to make it better.VirginiaIt's so helpful to feel like, okay, there's always one more thing I can tweak and adjust. Versus “it's all a failure. We have to throw it out.” That kind of all or nothing thinking that really is never productive. The reason I think it's so helpful that you draw that parallel with the bath or the play date is it reminds us that there are some kids for whom transitions are just always very difficult—like across the board. So you're not just seeing a screen time problem. You're being reminded “My kid is really building skills around transitions. We don't have them yet.” We hope we will have them at some point. But this is actually an opportunity to work on that, as opposed to a problem. We can actually practice some of these transition skills.AshAnd I really like coming back to the skill, because if we're thinking of it as a skill, then we're probably more likely to tell our kids that it's a skill, too. Because if we're just thinking of it as like, well, it's a screen. It's the screen's fault, it's the screen's fault. Then we might not say those literal words to our kids, but we might say, like, it's always so hard to turn off the TV. Why is that, right? We're talking about it as if it's this sort of amorphous, like it's only about the television, or it's only about the iPad, and we're missing the part of making it clear to our kids that, hey, this is a skill that you're working on, and we work on this skill in different ways.VirginiaI did some good repair with my kids after reading your book. Because I was definitely falling into the trap of talking about screen addiction. I thought I was saying to them, “It's not your fault. The screens are programmed to be bad for us in this way” So I thought, I was like at least not blaming them, but being like, we need less screens because they're so dangerous.But then I read your book, and I was like, oh, that's not helpful either. And I did have one of my kids saying, “Am I bad because I want to watch screens all the time?” And I was like, oh, that's too concrete and scary.And again, to draw the parallel with diet culture: It's just like telling kids sugar is bad, and then they think they're bad because they like sugar. So I did do some repair. I was like, “I read this book and now I've learned that that was not right.” They were like, oh, okay. We're healing in my house from that, so thank you.AshOh, you're very welcome, and I'm glad to hear that!I think about those parallels with food all the time, because sometimes it just helps me think, like, wait, would I be wanting to send this message about food or exercise or whatever? And if the answer is no, then how can I tweak it so that I'm sending a message I'd be okay with applying to other things. And I like being able to make those parallels with my kid. In my household right now, we're practicing flexibility. Flexibility is a skill that we're working on in so many parts of our lives. And when I say we, I do mean we. Me, everybody is working on this.VirginiaParents can use more flexibility, for sure.AshAbsolutely. And so like, when those moments are coming up, you know, I'm trying to say, like, hey, like, what skill is this right now? Who's having to be flexible right now? Flexible can be a good thing, right? We might be flexible by saying yes to eating dinner on the couch and watching a TV show. That's flexibility. Flexibility isn't just adjust your plans to be more convenient to me, child, so that I can go do something as an adult. And coming back to those skills so they can see, oh, okay, this isn't actually just about screens. This applies to every part of these of my life, or these different parts of my life, and if I'm working on it here, oh, wow, it feels easier over there. And so they can see that this applies throughout their life, and kind of feel more of that buy in of like, oh, I'm getting better at that. Or that was easier. That was harder. We want them to see that across the board.VirginiaOh, my God, absolutely.Let's talk about screens and neurodivergence a little bit. So one of my kiddos is neurodivergent, and I can both see how screens are wonderful for them at the end of a school day, when they come home and they're really depleted. Screen time is the thing they need to rest and regulate. And they love the world building games, which gives them this whole world to control and explore. And there's so much there that's wonderful.And, they definitely struggle more than their sibling with this transition piece, with getting off it. One kid will naturally put down the iPad at some point and go outside for a bit, and this kid will not. And it creates more anxiety for parents. Because neurodivergent kids may both need screens—in ways that maybe we're not totally comfortable with, but need to get comfortable with—and then struggle with the transition piece. So how do you think about this question differently with neurodivergence? Or or is it really the same thing you're just having to drill in differently?AshI think it is ultimately the same thing, but it certainly is going to feel quite more heightened. And I think especially for certain aspects of neurodivergence, especially, I think it feels really heightened because of some of the ways that they might be discussed, particularly online, when it comes to how they relate to technology. I think about ADHD, we'll see that a lot. Where I'll see many things online about, like, “kids with ADHD should never be on a screen. They should never be on a device, because they are so dopamine-seeking.” And I have to just say that I find that to be such an ableist framing. Because with ADHD, we're talking about a dopamine deficient brain. And I don't think that we would be having that same conversation about someone needing insulin, right? Like, we wouldn't be saying, like, oh yeah, nope, they can't take that insulin. VirginiaThey're just craving that insulin they need to stay alive.AshA kid seeking a thing that they're that they are somehow deficient in—that's not some sort of defiant behavior. VirginiaNo, it's a pretty adaptive strategy.AshAbsolutely, it is. And we want kids to know that nobody's brain is good or bad, right? There's not a good brain or a bad brain. There are all brains are going to have things that are easier or harder. And it's about learning the brain that you're in, and what works or doesn't work for the brain that you're in.And all brains are different, right? Neurotypical brains and neurodivergent brains within those categories are obviously going to be vastly different. What works for one won't work for another, and being able to figure out what works for them, instead of just, “because you have this kind of brain, you shouldn't ever do this thing,” that's going to set them up for more success. And I think it's great that you mentioned both how a screen can be so regulating, particularly for neurodivergent brains, and then the double-edged sword of that is that then you have to stop. VirginiaTransition off back into the world.AshSo if the pain point is a transition, what is it really coming from? Is it coming from the executive function piece of “I don't know how to find a place to stop?” A lot of people, particularly kids ADHD, they often like games that are more open-ended. So they might like something like a Minecraft or an Animal Crossing or the Sims where you can hyperfocus and deep dive into something. But what's difficult about that is that, you know, if I play Mario Kart, the level ends, it's a very obvious ending.VirginiaRight? And you can say, “One more level, and we're done.”AshExactly. We've reached the end of the championship. I'm on the podium. I quit now, right?But there's a never ending series of of tasks with a more open-ended game. And especially if I'm in my hyper focus zone, right? I can just be thinking, like, well, then I can do this and this and this and this and this, right?And I'm adding on to my list, and the last thing I want to do in that moment is get pulled out of it when I'm really feeling like I'm in the zone. So if that's the kind of transition that's difficult. And it's much less about games and more about “how do I stop in the middle of a project?” Because that's essentially what that is.And that would apply if I'm at school and I'm in the middle of an essay and we're finishing it up tomorrow. Or I'm trying to decorate a cake, and we're trying to walk out the door and I have to stop what I'm doing and come back later. So one of the tricks that I have found really helpful is to ask the question of, “How will you know when you're done?” Or how will you know you're at a stopping point? What would a stopping point be today? And getting them to sort of even visualize it, or say it out loud, so that they can think about, “Oh, here's how I basically break down a giant task into smaller pieces,” because that's essentially what that is.VirginiaThat's a great tip. Ash“Okay, you have five minutes. What is the last thing you're going to do today?” Because then it's concrete in terms of, like, I'm not asking the last thing, and it will take you half an hour, right? I'm at, we have five minutes. What's the last thing you're wrapping up? What are you going to do?Then, if it's someone who's very focused in this world, and they're very into that world, then that last thing can also be our transition out of it. As they're turning it off, the very first thing we're saying to them is, “So what was that last thing you were doing?”VirginiaOh, that's nice.AshThen they're telling it to us, and then we can get curious. We can ask questions. We can get a little into their world to help them transition out of that world. That doesn't mean that we have to understand what they're telling us, frankly. It doesn't mean we have to know all the nuance. But we can show that interest. I think this is also really, really important, because then we are showing them it's not us versus the screen. We're not opposing the screen, like it's the enemy or something. And we're showing them, “Hey, I can tell you're interested in this, so I'm interested in it because you are.” Like, I care about you, so I want to know more.VirginiaAnd then they can invite you into their world, which what a lot of neurodivergent kids need. We're asking them to be part of the larger world all the time. And how nice we can meet them where they are a little more.AshAbsolutely. The other thing I would say is that something I think people don't always realize, especially if they don't play games as much, or if they are not neurodivergent and playing games, is they might miss that video games actually are extremely well-accommodated worlds, in terms of accommodating neurodivergence.So thinking about something like ADHD, to go back to that example, it's like, okay, some really common classroom accommodations for ADHD, from the educator perspective, the accommodations I see a lot are frequent check ins, having a checklist, breaking down a large task into smaller chunks, objectives, having a visual organizer.Well, I think about a video game, and it's like, okay, if I want to know what I have available to me, I can press the pause menu and see my inventory at any time. If I want to know what I should be doing, because I have forgotten, I can look at a menu and see, like, what's my objective right now? Or I can bring up the map and it will show me where I supposed to be going. If I start to deviate from what I'm supposed to be doing, the game will often be like, “Hey, don't forget, you're supposed to be going over there!” It'll get me back on task. If I'm trying to make a potion that has eight ingredients, the game will list them all out for me, and it will check them off as I go, so I can visually see how I'm how I'm achieving this task. It does a lot of that accommodation for me. And those accommodations are not as common in the real world, or at least not as easily achieved.And so a lot of neurodivergent kids will succeed easily in these game worlds. And we might think “oh because it's addicting, or the algorithm, or it's just because they love it” But there are often these structural design differences that actually make it more accessible to them.And if we notice, oh, wow, they have no problem knowing what to do when they're playing Zelda, because they just keep checking their objective list all the time or whatever—that's great information.VirginiaAnd helps us think, how can we do that in real life? AshExactly. We can go to them and say, hey, I noticed you, you seem to check your inventory a lot when you're playing that game. How do we make it so that when you look in your closet, you can just as easily see what shirts you own. Whatever the thing may be, so that we're showing them, “hey, bring that into the rest of your world that works for you here.” Let's make it work for you elsewhere, instead of thinking of it as a reason they're obsessed with screens, and now we resent the screens for that. Bring that in so that it can benefit the rest of their lives.VirginiaI'm now like, okay, that just reframes something else very important for me. You have such a helpful way of helping us divest from the guilt and the shame and actually look at this in a positive and empowering way for us and our kids. And I'm just so grateful for it. It really is a game changer for me.AshOh, thank you so much. I'm so glad to hear that it was helpful and empowering for you, and I just hope that it can be that for others as well.ButterAshSo my family and I have been lucky enough to spend quite a lot of time in Japan. And one of the wonderful things about Japan is they have a very huge bike culture. I think people think of the Netherlands as Bike cCentral, but Japan kind of rivals them.And they have a particular kind of bike that you cannot get in the United States. It's called a Mamachari, which is like a portmanteau of mom and chariot. And it's sort of like a cargo bike, but they are constructed a little differently and have some features that I love. And so when I've been in Japan, we are on those bikes. I'm always like, I love this kind of bike. I want this kind of bike for me forever. And my recent Butter has been trying to find something like that that I can have in my day to day life. And I found something recently, and got a lovely step through bike on Facebook Marketplace. VirginiaSo cool! That's exciting to find on marketplace, too.AshOh yes, having a bike that like I actually enjoy riding, I had my old bike from being a teenager, and it just was not functional. I was like, “This is not fun.” And now having one that I enjoy, I'm like, oh yes. I feel like a kid again. It's lovely.VirginiaThat's a great Butter. My Butter is something both my kids and my pets and I are all really enjoying. I'm gonna drop a link in the chat for you. It is called a floof, and it is basically a human-sized dog bed that I found on Etsy. It's like, lined with fake fur.AshMy God. I'm looking at it right now.VirginiaIsn't it hilarious?AshWow. I'm so glad you sent a picture, because that is not what I was picturing?Virginia I can't describe it accurately. It's like a cross between a human-sized dog bed and a shopping bag? Sort of? AshYes, yes, wow. It's like a hot tub.VirginiaIt's like a hot tub, but no water. You just sit in it. I think they call it a cuddle cave. I don't understand how to explain it, but it's the floof. And it's in our family room. And it's not inexpensive, but it does basically replace a chair. So if you think of it as a furniture purchase, it's not so bad. There's always at least a cat or a dog sleeping in it. Frequently a child is in it. My boyfriend likes to be in it. Everyone gravitates towards it. And you can put pillows in it or a blanket.Neurodivergent people, in particular, really love it, because I think it provides a lot of sensory feedback? And it's very enclosed and cozy. It's great for the day we're having today, which is a very laid back, low demand, watch as much screen as you want, kind of day. So I've got one kid bundled into the floof right now with a bunch of blankets in her iPad, and she's so happy. AshOh my gosh. Also, it kind of looks like the person is sitting in a giant pita, which I also love.VirginiaThat's what it is! It's like a giant pita, but soft and cozy. It's like being in a pita pocket. And I'm sure there are less expensive versions, this was like, 300 something dollars, so it is an investment. But they're handmade by some delightful person in the Netherlands.Whenever we have play dates, there are always two or three kids, snuggled up in it together. There's something extremely addictive about it. I don't know. I don't really know how to explain why it's great, but it's great.AshOh, that is lovely.VirginiaAll right, well tell obviously, everyone needs to go to their bookstore and get Power On: Managing Screen Time to Benefit the Whole Family. Where else can we find you, Ash? How can we support your work?AshYou can find me on Instagram at the gamer educator, and I also cross post my Instagram posts to Substack, and I'm on Substack as Screen Time Strategies. It's all the same content, just that way you're getting it in your inbox without, without having to go to Instagram. So if that's something that you are trying to maybe move away from, get it via Substack. And my book Power On: Managing Screen Time to Benefit the Whole Family is available starting August 26 is when it fully releases.VirginiaAmazing. Thank you so much. This was really great.AshThank you so much for having me back.The Burnt Toast Podcast is produced and hosted by Virginia Sole-Smith (follow me on Instagram) and Corinne Fay, who runs @SellTradePlus, and Big Undies.The Burnt Toast logo is by Deanna Lowe.Our theme music is by Farideh.Tommy Harron is our audio engineer.Thanks for listening and for supporting anti-diet, body liberation journalism! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit virginiasolesmith.substack.com/subscribe

In this episode, I'm joined by Dr. Storage, a board-certified psychiatrist specializing in both adult and child/adolescent psychiatry. We explore how SPECT brain scans can reveal hidden strengths and weaknesses, the different subtypes of ADHD and their unique treatment approaches, and why nutrition, sleep, and movement are so essential for supporting children's mental health. Dr. Storage also offers his perspective on when medication may be the right choice, how metabolic and mental health are connected, and the simple lifestyle strategies families can start using today to support brain health.→Leave Us A Voice Message!Topics Discussed: → How do SPECT scans help with ADHD?→ What are the types of ADHD?→ How does nutrition support brain health?→ When is ADHD medication needed?→ How are metabolic and mental health linked?Sponsored By: → Be Well By Kelly Protein Powder & Essentials | Get $10 off your order with PODCAST10 at bewellbykelly.com→ LMNT | Get a free 8-count Sample Pack of LMNT's most popular drink mix flavors with any purchase at DrinkLMNT.com/Kelly → Hiya Health | Get 50% off your first order at HiyaHealth.com/Kelly and give your kids the full-body nourishment they need to grow into healthy, happy adults.→ Manukora | Head to manukora.com/kelly to save up to 31% & $25 worth of free gifts in the Starter Kit, which comes with an MGO 850+ Manuka Honey jar.Timestamps: → 00:00:00 - Introduction→ 00:02:21 - Path to Functional Medicine→ 00:04:34 - SPECT Scan Overview→ 00:08:58 - Improving Your Brain Scan→ 00:12:37 - Understanding Strengths & Weaknesses→ 00:14:09 - ADHD Superpower→ 00:18:40 - ADHD & IQ→ 00:21:09 - Treating Different Types of ADHD→ 00:26:07 - Deciding When to Medicate→ 00:29:54 - Adderall→ 00:32:12 - Nutrition & Brain Health→ 00:33:44 - Lifestyle Interventions→ 00:38:10 - Lunchbox Ideas & Children's Nutrition→ 00:40:09 - Exercise Recommendations→ 00:43:06 - Children's Sleep Routine→ 00:47:12 - Supplementation→ 00:50:17 - Caffeine & ADHD→ 00:54:23 - Improving Brain Health→ 00:56:37 - Mental Health & Metabolic Health→ 00:58:01 - Spiritual Health→ 00:58:53 - Types of Depression→ 01:00:46 - Misdiagnosing Bipolar Disorder→ 01:02:10 - Processing Trauma & Neuroplasticity→ 01:06:41 - The Future of Psychiatry & Mental HealthCheck Out Dr. Steven: → Website→ Instagram: @drstevenstorage ; @amen_clinics→ YouTubeCheck Out Kelly:→ Instagram→ Youtube→ Facebook

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In this week's episode of the podcast, we dive deep into the tricky tightrope walk of balancing structure and flexibility at home—because let's be honest, parenting (and homeschooling) neurodivergent kids isn't for the faint of heart! This episode is your breathe-and-hit-reset permission slip. Here's a peek at what we covered:   Structure is Comforting… Until It Isn't Structure helps our kids (and us!) feel safe. Predictable routines can seriously reduce anxiety, especially for those with executive functioning challenges, ADHD, autism, or sensory processing issues. But too much rigidity? It can spark rebellion, burnout, and meltdowns—especially with creative, passionate, gifted kids.   What Does Flexibility Really Mean? Flexibility doesn't mean winging it! It means responsive teaching—letting your child's needs, interests, and even energy levels guide your day. I share my own family's rhythm, from color-coded calendars to built-in time for unexpected appointments and sibling support.   Practical Strategies to Try Now Here are some actionable takeaways to help you find your family's sweet spot: Start with Your “Must Do's”: Define your “minimum viable day”—the simplest version of what needs to happen (e.g., a little reading, writing, and math). Ease into your routine and build up slowly. Anchors, Not Timetables: Instead of strict schedules, anchor your day around meals, read-alouds, or physical routines. Visual Tools & Ownership: Use checklists, whiteboards, or color-coded calendars so your kids know what's on deck. Support Executive Function: Scaffold routines gently and model breaking big tasks into small steps. Embrace Interest-Led Learning: Let your child's passions drive parts of the curriculum for greater engagement. Built-in Downtime: Everyone—including you!—needs breaks to recharge.   You're Not Alone (Even When It Feels Like It) If your Instagram doesn't look like those homeschool highlight reels, that's normal. Messy days aren't failures—they're feedback.   Looking for More Support? If you want ongoing resources, coaching, or community, check out the Learner's Lab or subscribe to our email list for info on upcoming small group cohorts for middle/high schoolers and executive function workshops. You're the perfect parent for your child—just as you are. Give yourself grace, celebrate the small wins, and remember: structure and flexibility are both just tools.   Links and Resources from Today's Episode Thank you to our sponsors: CTC Math – Flexible, affordable math for the whole family! Night Zookeeper – Fun, comprehensive language arts for ages 6-12 Why Create a Schedule Command Center? Setting Up a Homeschool Schedule Executive Function Struggles in Homeschooling: Why Smart Kids Can't Find Their Shoes (and What to Do About It) Beating Homeschool Overwhelm With Heart and Flexibility Understanding Executive Function Skills in Gifted and Twice-Exceptional Children Strengthening Bonds | Building Family Routines and Rituals Changing Rhythms | Homeschooling in Sync with the Seasons A Thriving Homeschool | Strategies for Setting Boundaries

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This week I talk with Beverly, a Feldenkrais practitioner from Southern California. Beverly reflects on growing up as the youngest of five in a loud Midwestern household, and how misophonia shaped her early experiences of family dynamics, school, and self-image. We explore her struggles in open workspaces—especially during her years at Facebook—and the breaking point that led her to discover the Feldenkrais method as a powerful tool to regulate her nervous system. Beverly shares how this practice transformed her ability to cope, eventually inspiring her to train as a practitioner and launch her own app designed to help others. Along the way, we discuss ADHD, resilience, and the idea of becoming “our own scientists” in finding what works for us. It's a thoughtful conversation about sensitivity, self-discovery, and creating supportive practices for living with misophonia. Pauseture website  -----Web: https://misophoniapodcast.comOrder "Sounds like Misophonia" - by Dr. Jane Gregory and IEmail: hello@misophoniapodcast.comSend me any feedback! Also, if you want some beautiful podcast stickers shoot over your address.YouTube channel (with caption transcriptions)Social:Instagram - @misophoniapodcastFacebook - misophoniapodcastTwitter/X - @misophoniashowSoQuiet - Misophonia Advocacyhttps://soquiet.orgSupport the show

A Rooted Approach to Modern Medicine: The Vision Forward My emerging and chronically iterating philosophy of medicine is a rising structural entity rooted between ancient healing wisdom and modern scientific insight. It is layered with root cause immunometabolomic thinking and built upon anthropological foundations. As a pediatrician, educator, and onion peeling thinker, I believe that a medical approach grounded in compassion, prevention, and the pursuit of root causes is the way forward. Medicine is not just about treating disease but about reshaping the very terrain in which illness arises. This can and must start with our women and children. At the heart of this vision is a belief in the power of systems biology and our deep interconnectedness. The human body cannot be understood or healed through isolated parts or siloed provider experiences. We must move beyond symptom suppression and toward an understanding of the why behind disease. Why does a child struggle with allergies, ADHD, or autoimmune illness? What factors in the environment, diet, stress response, or microbial ecosystem have altered their trajectory? Why are the governmental and NGO leaders not guiding us towards a benevolent goal of whole child health? These are the questions that shape and guide our practice....and a literature review. Dr. M

- Get NordVPN with a special discount - https://www.nordvpn.com/goodareas- Get an exclusive 15% discount on Saily data plans! Use code 'goodareas' at checkout. Download Saily app or go to:https://saily.com/goodareas-This week on Red Inker we talk about one of the most interesting bowlers of all time, Neil Wagner. To do that we get on the man himself. We talk about ADHD, flushing pills, Affies, Faf, money, quotas, mental health, New Zealand's issues, the WTC and bouncers.Just a warning, there is some heavy mental health and self harm in this episode.-You can buy my new book 'The Art of Batting' here:India: https://amzn.in/d/8nt6RU1UK: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1399416545-To support the podcast please go to our Patreon page. https://www.patreon.com/user?u=32090121. Jarrod also now has a Buy Me A Coffee link, for those who would prefer to support the shows there: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jarrodkimber.Each week, Jarrod Kimber hosts a live talk show on a Youtube live stream, where you can pop in and ask Jarrod a question live on air. Find Jarrod on Youtube here: https://www.youtube.com/c/JarrodKimberYT.To check out my video podcasts on Youtube : https://youtube.com/@JarrodKimberPodcasts-This podcast is edited and mixed by Ishit Kuberkar, he's at https://instagram.com/soundpotionstudio & https://twitter.com/ishitkMukunda Bandreddi is in charge of our video side.

In this engaging conversation, Stephen Martin and Darren Clark explore the multifaceted experiences of neurodivergent individuals, particularly in the context of entrepreneurship and personal growth. They discuss the challenges and triumphs of navigating business as dyslexics, the importance of collaboration, and the value of community support. The conversation emphasizes the need for self-care, realistic goal-setting, and the power of sharing personal stories to foster connection and understanding within the neurodiverse community.TakeawaysSocial media helps maintain connections in the neurodiversity community.Dyslexics often excel in entrepreneurship due to their unique perspectives.Collaboration is key to overcoming personal limitations in business.Sustainable growth is more valuable than instant success.Self-care is essential for long-term success and well-being.Setting realistic goals can prevent burnout and disappointment.Personal branding is crucial for building trust and credibility.Community support can alleviate feelings of isolation.Creativity thrives when individuals take time for themselves.Finding purpose in business can lead to greater fulfillment.Keywordsneurodiversity, dyslexia, entrepreneurship, self-confidence, personal branding, collaboration, community support, business challenges, creative solutions, self-care, ADHD, adults with dyslexia, support for adults.If you want to find out more visit:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠truthaboutdyslexia.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join our Facebook Group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠facebook.com/groups/adultdyslexia⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow the RightSiders Supplement Journeyhttps://addednutrition.com

Your gut health could be shaping your mood, focus, and emotions more than you think.On this week's Summer ADHD Women's Wellbeing Toolkit Episode, we dive into the fascinating gut-brain connection with IBS specialist, Cara Wheatley-McGrain, to talk about the small, everyday changes that can transform your mood, focus, and emotional wellbeing.This episode is packed with insights on the gut-microbiome and practical strategies to help you eat in a way that nourishes both your brain and your gut, with tips on the three stars of the show: fibre, prebiotics and probiotics. My new book, The ADHD Women's Wellbeing Toolkit, is now available, grab your copy here!What You'll Learn:How what you eat impacts your gut, mood and overall health The link between gut health, immune system, stress, and anxietyHow processed foods and additives affect the microbiomeThe role of fibre and fermented foods in reducing stressWhy inflammation and malabsorption matter for ADHDSimple strategies to improve your gut health The role of prebiotics and probiotics, and where to find themHow to make small, sustainable changes to protect your gutTimestamps02:00 – The Role of Nutrition in Brain and Gut Health03:30 – Understanding the Gut Microbiome05:16 – ADHD Bloods: Ferritin, Iron, and Absorption08:30 – Tracking Symptoms and Responses to Food11:55 – Healthy Gut Microbiome and Serotonin17:49 – Modern Diets vs Evolutionary Gut Needs18:29 – Eating Tips to Optimise Your Gut Microbiome21:27 – The Role of Prebiotics and Probiotics in Gut HealthStress can have a huge impact on your gut microbiome, so while it's brilliant to eat in ways that support your gut, your diet doesn't need to be "perfect"! It's about finding what works for you and your lifestyle so your body and mind can thrive.Links and Resources:Join the Waitlist for my new ADHD community-first membership launching in September! Get exclusive founding offers [here].Find my popular ADHD workshops and resources on my website [here].Follow the podcast on Instagram: @adhd_womenswellbeing_pod Connect with Cara via her website or find her on Instagram. Kate Moryoussef is a women's ADHD lifestyle and wellbeing coach and EFT practitioner who helps overwhelmed and unfulfilled newly diagnosed ADHD women find more calm, balance, hope, health, compassion, creativity and clarity.

Could your child's ADHD, fatigue, or delayed growth actually be low thyroid? In this episode, Dr. Steven Hotze reveals why hypothyroidism isn't just an adult health issue. It can affect children as young as two! He explains how conventional medicine often overlooks thyroid problems by relying too heavily on blood tests and prescribing pharmaceuticals that mask symptoms without addressing the root cause.   Dr. Hotze breaks down how thyroid hormones regulate metabolism, brain function, mood, and overall vitality, and why imbalances can lead to a host of issues, including behavioral changes, poor school performance, menstrual irregularities, and stunted development. He discusses how natural desiccated thyroid, prescribed based on clinical symptoms rather than lab averages, can help restore energy, focus, growth, and quality of life, without resorting to psychotropic drugs or stimulants.   If your child has been diagnosed with ADHD, depression, or anxiety, or simply isn't thriving, there may be an underlying hormonal imbalance. Learn how evaluating and restoring healthy thyroid function can change the course of their health and future!   Watch now and subscribe to our podcasts at www.HotzePodcast.com.   To receive a FREE copy of Dr. Hotze's best-selling book, “Hormones, Health, and Happiness,” call 281-698-8698 and mention this podcast. Includes free shipping!

In today’s era of self-diagnosis, Wippa’s jumping on the bandwagon too, after watching a TikTok about ADHD he couldn’t help but relate.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this twenty-second episode of  'THE ND THRIVE GUIDE' we have the returning Charlotte Crawford. Charlotte is a Neurodivergent Coach. She helps people with resilience for anxiety and empowers people to follow their dreams. We explore how we can live a steady and controlled way of life when it comes to our emotions.    Owen and Char discuss how emotional intensity shows up and what it can lead to in our behavior. We explore how we can live a steady and controlled way of life when it comes to our emotions. Thank you Char.  WHAT IS THE ND THRIVE GUIDE 'ND Thrive Guide' Series, we will explore how to live a full, thriving and authentic life with our Neurodivergent Brain. A show all about hope and growth. Tips, advice and ideas from coaches, therapists and experts. Thank you to all our experts. MORE ON Charlotte Check out Charlortte links -  Linktree - https://linktr.ee/Charlotte.Crawford Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/neuroroost/ Website - https://sites.google.com/view/neuroroost/bio   ND & Free is in partnership with Ankhway Mushroom Gummies. A tasty supplement with 10 functional mushrooms bundled in a gummy. They can help with gaining shaper focus, a clearer mind, a more balanced mood, a natural energy boost and so much more. Enjoy 15% of your order at checkout with code 'OWEN15'. Find out more about the gummies at www.ankhway.com    More about The ND & FREE Podcast series Welcome back to the ND & FREE podcast brought to you by the Awareness Space Network. A podcast and social media platform that explores how ND'ers can live their truth and feel free in their lives. We hear from inspiring COACHES, THERAPISTS, EXPERTS AND FELLOW ND'ers from all over the world, who sit down with me Owen Morgan to share their wisdom with us.  Our mission is to explore how the human spirit and understanding our whole self can bring us a life full of possibilities Check out our website https://www.ndandfree.com/ Follow our instagram and TikTok for information, facts and useful content in and around Adhd, Autism and AuDHD. - Instagram https://www.instagram.com/nd_and_free/  TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@nd_and_free?_t=8scJhGZ4Sp6&_r=1  These conversations are not a substitute for professional medical or therapeutic support. Please seek support from professionals trained within Neurodiversity support. Listen to episodes with care. Keep up to date with our latest posts on Instagram. Thank you for supporting the show,  Owen

Dr. Carole Keim welcomes Dr. Jason Bronstein, a pediatric pulmonologist and sleep medicine specialist at Mount Sinai Hospital in New York City, to The Baby Manual. Dr. Bronstein shares his journey from general pediatrics to specializing in childhood asthma, sleep apnea in children, and other pediatric breathing issues. He explains the types of cases referred to a pulmonologist, such as persistent chronic cough, difficulty breathing, or repeated respiratory infections. Dr. Keim and Dr. Bronstein discuss how conditions like asthma or congenital lung disorders are diagnosed, and Dr. Bronstein also highlights how environmental asthma triggers, such as smoke, mould, and allergens, can affect a child's lung health. Dr. Keim and Dr. Bronstein explore how pediatric sleep studies are used to evaluate children for obstructive sleep apnea, especially those with snoring, ADHD-like symptoms, or conditions like Down syndrome or autism. Dr. Bronstein describes what to expect during a sleep study and outlines when it's appropriate. They also cover safe and effective cough remedies for children, including honey for cough, saline nebulizers, and tips for using humidifiers without causing mould exposure. This episode is all about actionable advice for parents concerned about their child's breathing, sleep quality, or lung function. Dr. Jason Bronstein, MD:Jason Bronstein, MD, is the Medical Director of the Mount Sinai Pediatric Sleep Medicine Program and Director of the Mount Sinai Children's Integrative Sleep Center.He received his medical degree from New York University School of Medicine and he completed his Pediatrics Residency at Northwell Health, Cohen Children's Medical Center. Dr. Bronstein completed his Pediatric Pulmonology Fellowship at Nemours, Alfred I. duPont Hospital for Children. He completed fellowship in Sleep Medicine at the Children's Hospital of Philadelphia and jointly at the University of Pennsylvania.He treats sleep disorders across the age spectrum, including obstructive sleep apnea, narcolepsy, insomnia, and other pulmonary, neurologic, and behavioral conditions of sleep. He performs advanced interpretation of polysomnography and associated sleep study testing.Dr. Bronstein is dedicated to improving the diagnosis and management of sleep disorders in infants, children, and adolescents. His professional activities include clinical care, graduate medical education, and research. He also treats general respiratory disorders in children in the Division of Pediatric Pulmonology, delivers multidisciplinary care of children with complex medical disorders via various special programs, and works with the adult sleep medicine and adult sleep laboratory programs in the Department of Medicine.__ Resources discussed in this episode:The Holistic Mamas Handbook is available on AmazonThe Baby Manual is also available on Amazon__Contact Dr. Carole Keim MDlinktree | tiktok | instagramContact Dr. Jason Bronstein, MDwebsite

If you've ever screamed “I TOOK MY MEDICINE!” just to remember you actually took it—then you're in good company with today's episode. Today on Laugh Lines, Penn and I share some of the most unhinged (and surprisingly brilliant) ADHD hacks from our listeners, the internet, and our own chaotic household. We also sit down with Dr. Amelia Kelley, author of Powered by ADHD, who helps us untangle why ADHD so often hides in plain sight—especially in women.I'll be honest: parts of this conversation got personal for me. I found myself recognizing symptoms I've always chalked up to hormones or “just anxiety,” and it was emotional to wonder if maybe I've been missing something all along. (Do Penn and I both have ADHD?) We talk about how ADHD can present as anxiety and all the masking women do that hinders their diagnosis. Sometimes the most important thing isn't having all the answers—it's realizing you're not alone in how you feel.So come laugh with us about apron-tight cooking hacks and stick around while we unpack under-diagnosed ADHD in women. We also take some great Laugh Line calls and define a Gen Z slang from a listener suggestion. We love to hear from you, leave us a message at 323-364-3929 or write the show at podcast@theholdernessfamily.com. You can also watch our podcast on YouTube.Learn more about Dr. Kelley's book, Powered By ADHDPre-order our new book, All You Can Be With ADHDVisit Our ShopJoin Our NewsletterFind us on SubstackFollow us on InstagramFollow us on TikTok Follow us on FacebookLaugh Lines with Kim & Penn Holderness is an evolution of The Holderness Family Podcast, which began in 2018. Kim and Penn Holderness are award-winning online content creators known for their original music, song parodies, comedy sketches, and weekly podcasts. Their videos have resulted in over two billion views and over nine million followers since 2013. Penn and Kim are also authors of the New York Times Bestselling Book, ADHD Is Awesome: A Guide To (Mostly) Thriving With ADHD and winners on The Amazing Race (Season 33) on CBS. Laugh Lines is hosted and executive produced by Kim Holderness and Penn Holderness, with original music by Penn Holderness. Laugh Lines is also written and produced by Ann Marie Taepke, and edited and produced by Sam Allen. It is hosted by Acast. Thanks for listening! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Think ADHD meds are “basically meth”? Afraid they'll turn you into a zombie? Wondering if you really need them—or if they're even safe during pregnancy?In this episode, I'm busting through the most common (and most damaging) myths about ADHD medication—fast. No fluff, just clarity. If you've ever felt confused, judged, or pressured when it comes to treatment, this one's a must-listen.By the end, you'll know what's fact, what's fiction, and what might actually change your life.This Episodes Recourses:The Clinical Pharmacokinetics of Amphetamines Utilized in the Treatment of Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder Drug Fact Sheet: Methamphetamine  ADHD Medication and the "Zombie Effect" Stimulant ADHD medication and risk for substance abuseMethylphenidate and Atomoxetine in Pregnancy and Possible Adverse Fetal Outcomes Long-Term Outcomes of ADHD: Academic Achievement and PerformanceWatch this episode on YouTubeWant help with your ADHD? Join FOCUSED!Have questions for Kristen? Call 1.833.281.2343Hang out with Kristen on Instagram and TikTokCozy Earth

What if you've been misdiagnosed or mismedicated for your symptoms, and it took until reaching midlife to figure it out? That's exactly what happened with today's podcast guest, ADHD expert Shanna Pearson, so she's here to shed light on the real reasons so many women are misdiagnosed for so much of their lives.   We dive into how ADHD symptoms can mimic other mental health conditions like anxiety and depression, making it even harder for women to get the right diagnosis and support.  Together, we explore why we as women don't always “fit the mold” of ADHD and how cultural expectations have kept our symptoms invisible for too long. Plus, you'll get top tips for managing symptoms of overwhelm and hyperactivity at any stage of life.  Tune in to make the most of your midlife, and to ensure you're getting the care and support you need to thrive! Shanna Pearson Shanna Pearson is Founder and Director of Expert ADHD Coaching, the world's largest one-on-one ADHD coaching company, which has administered successful coaching sessions for tens of thousands of clients. Shanna struggled with her own ADHD without realizing it for most of her life, so she now helps others navigate their ADHD diagnoses with ease and confidence. Her new book, Invisible ADHD, offers over 100 proven tools uniquely tailored for the ADHD brain that have transformed thousands of lives over 20+ years.  IN THIS EPISODE Helping women prioritize taking care of their mental health  Addressing the lack of research on women with ADHD  Gaining agency over your symptoms and tips on advocating to your doctor to get what you deserve Telltale signs you may have ADHD and have been misdiagnosed  Setting boundaries and staying in alignment with your values  Why so many women realize they have ADHD in midlife  Recommendations for navigating a new ADHD diagnosis  Top tools that help make your life easier when dealing with overwhelm, hyperactivity, or other common symptoms of ADHD  QUOTES “A lot of women with ADHD and other challenges, even if it's just major hormonal shifts, are being diagnosed or misdiagnosed with depression and anxiety, and then they're being mismedicated.” “They're doing different things for women–a lot of that is internal. So they could be sitting there staring right at you and thinking about something completely different than what you're talking about. It's more about an internal hyperactivity versus an external hyperactivity.” “Now we're going through a phase of our life where there's even less dopamine in an already dopamine-deficient brain. So whatever you've been able to manage is now basically feeling like it's falling apart. And it happens quickly.” RESOURCES MENTIONED PRE-ORDER Invisible ADHD HERE TO ACCESS EXCLUSIVE BONUSES & Enter to win FREE COACHING! 

What if your “creative brain” feels like 42 browser tabs open—none playing music you like? Kimberley chats with Skye Waterson, founder of Unconventional Organisation, about why ADHD-style thinking is so common among entrepreneurs and designers. They dive into why traditional productivity advice often fails creative minds, and how understanding your brain (diagnosis or not) can help you finally get things done. Expect science-backed tips, relatable laughs, and real strategies for working with your brain, not against it—plus, why rewards like ice cream should come before the work. In this episode we learn: - ADHD strategies benefit everyone—especially creative entrepreneurs. - Start with a brain dump, then narrow down to what's truly urgent. - Reward yourself first to create momentum (yes, treats count). - Break big tasks into micro-steps with clear, easy instructions. - Use dopamine wisely—your playlist or workspace matters. - You're not lazy, your system might just be broken. - Give yourself permission to work differently—your brain's not wrong, it's wired for creativity.

You know that wild rush when a new idea lands in your lap and suddenly you're reinventing your entire business model? You're not self-sabotaging - that's your ADHD doing exactly what it's supposed to do—chasing novelty and that sweet dopamine hit. In this episode, I expose the pattern of idea infatuation, break down what I call “The Soulmate Phenomenon” for solopreneurs with ADHD, and hand you a set of scrappy, real-world frameworks for sorting out which ideas deserve your effort and which ones are just quick idea flings.ABOUT THE HOSTDiann Wingert (she/her) is a former psychotherapist turned ADHD entrepreneur coach and business strategist, as well as the insightful host of ADHD-ish. With both lived experience and deep professional expertise in ADHD, Diann guides neurodivergent entrepreneurs toward greater self-awareness, creativity, and sustainable success— with her signature blend of no-nonsense advice, compassionate understanding, and a dash of sass.WHAT TO LISTEN FOR:How the "Soulmate Phenomenon” shows up for entrepreneurs with ADHDRomancing the Idea: attraction, infatuation, honeymoon, and realityWhy falling for new ideas isn't about lack of commitment or follow-throughHow dopamine cravings and novelty-seeking drive this cycleConcrete examples: coaching, consulting, and creative service businessesKey questions to ask yourself when a new idea landsWhy the honeymoon phase is creative gold and how to use it intentionallyFour actionable frameworks for managing new ideas:The "dating period" (test ideas before big changes)The side project approach (explore without derailing your main business)Integration (fold new ideas into what you already do)Relationship maintenance (recommit and work through boredom and obstacles) How to distinguish between ideas worth a long-term run vs. a temporary highTIMESTAMPS 00:00 — Getting Obsessed: The Soul Mate Phenomenon Hits Hard (Falling for the idea, dopamine rollercoaster, full rom-com montage)02:10 — Why This Happens: Dopamine, Novelty, and Hyperfocus (Science of ADHD meets daily business life, shiny object syndrome explained)05:15 — Pattern Recognition: Attraction, Infatuation, Honeymoon, Reality (Breaking down the idea romance step by step)09:40 — Classic ADHD Business Moves: Case Studies (Real-life business examples with coaches, consultants & service providers)14:35 — The Crash: When the Fizz Fades and the Next Idea Calls (Losing steam, misreading the end of infatuation, jumping ship too soon)17:50 — Deep Truth: The Real Problem Isn't Commitment (It's unrealistic expectations, not a lack of grit — and what to do instead)21:40 — The Gold in the Honeymoon Phase: How to Use It (Why that first burst of energy is actually your secret weapon)24:20 — Four Frameworks for Working With ADHD, Not Against It: The Dating Period The Side Project Approach The Integration Question Relationship Maintenance Plan32:10 — The End Game: Choosing Long-Term Commitment (Or Not) (Learning to spot quick dopamine hits versus real growth opportunities, radical self-acceptance)35:10 — Final Pep Talk and How to Get In Touch (Reminders, contact info, encouragement, closing thoughts)SHARE YOUR STORY:What's the big “soulmate idea” that got away? Did it deserve a second chance, or was it just a quick dopamine...

Dr. Hoffman continues his conversation with Dr. Leigh Richardson, a PhD leader in brain health and performance, and author of “Turn Your Brain On, Get Your Game On: The How, What, Why to Peak Performance.”

In this episode of the Intelligent Medicine podcast, Dr. Ronald Hoffman discusses enhancing brain performance naturally with Dr. Leigh Richardson, a PhD leader in brain health and performance, and author of “Turn Your Brain On, Get Your Game On.” They delve into various brain-related issues, highlighting natural alternatives to traditional medications for conditions like ADHD and Alzheimer's disease. Dr. Richardson shares her personal journey into brain health spurred by her son's traumatic brain injury and her own. They explore the benefits of neurofeedback, diet, lifestyle changes, and the impact of music on productivity. Dr. Richardson underscores the importance of cognitive, emotional, and social resilience, and elaborates on integrating traditional and digital ways to improve brain health and performance.

This episode is sponsored by: My Financial CoachYou trained to save lives—who's helping you save your financial future? My Financial Coach connects physicians with CFP® Professionals who specialize in your complex needs. Whether it's crushing student loans, optimizing investments, or planning for retirement, you'll get a personalized strategy built around your goals. Save for a vacation home, fund your child's education, or prepare for life's surprises—with unbiased, advice-only planning through a flat monthly fee. No commissions. No conflicts. Just clarity.Visit myfinancialcoach.com/physiciansguidetodoctoring to meet your financial coach and find out if concierge planning is right for you._____________In this episode, host Dr. Bradley Block welcomes Dr. Cheryl Chase, to discuss common challenges faced by high-achieving physicians, such as task overload, time management struggles, procrastination, and balancing demanding caseloads with home life. Dr. Chase shares evidence-based strategies like habit-building techniques from Atomic Habits, pairing tasks with rewards, breaking down large projects, and setting boundaries to minimize distractions. She emphasizes that these tools, originally for neurodiverse clients, can enhance efficiency for all professionals pushing their limits. Tune in for part 1, with more on self-monitoring and persistence in part 2 next week. This episode is essential for physicians seeking to sharpen focus, reduce guilt, and reclaim work-life balance.Three Actionable Takeaways:Build Habits Over Willpower – For boring tasks like charting, make cues visible (e.g., set up your workspace for easy access), pair them with rewards (e.g., a favorite tea after completion), and eliminate aversive elements (e.g., adjust your environment to avoid distractions) to increase compliance without relying on sheer grit.Break Down Large Tasks and Minimize Distractions – Tackle complex projects like mandatory modules or side gigs by dividing them into small steps, setting timers or task goals, and using techniques like tone tapes (variable alarms) to self-check focus; reward persistence to maintain motivation.Set Firm Boundaries for Work-Life Balance – Establish clear rules for interruptions (e.g., airplane mode during deep work), secure reliable childcare to close mental "browser tabs," and communicate availability with family and colleagues to stay present at work or home without guilt.About the Show:Succeed In Medicine covers patient interactions, burnout, career growth, personal finance, and more. If you're tired of dull medical lectures, tune in for real-world lessons we should have learned in med school!About the Guest:Dr. Cheryl Chase is a licensed clinical psychologist in Independence, Ohio, specializing in assessments and treatments for ADHD, learning disorders, and emotional challenges across the lifespan. She's an international speaker on executive functioning, dyslexia, co-regulation, and performance improvement in work and school settings. Her strategies help high-achievers, including physicians, enhance efficiency and balance.Website: https://chasingyourpotential.comAbout the host:Dr. Bradley Block – Dr. Bradley Block is a board-certified otolaryngologist at ENT and Allergy Associates in Garden City, NY. He specializes in adult and pediatric ENT, with interests in sinusitis and obstructive sleep apnea. Dr. Block also hosts The Succeed In Medicine  podcast, focusing on personal and professional development for physiciansWant to be a guest? Email Brad at brad@physiciansguidetodoctoring.com  or visit www.physiciansguidetodoctoring.com to learn more!Socials:@physiciansguidetodoctoring on Facebook@physicianguidetodoctoring on YouTube@physiciansguide on Instagram and Twitter This medical podcast is your physician mentor to fill the gaps in your medical education. We cover physician soft skills, charting, interpersonal skills, doctor finance, doctor mental health, medical decisions, physician parenting, physician executive skills, navigating your doctor career, and medical professional development. This is critical CME for physicians, but without the credits (yet). A proud founding member of the Doctor Podcast Network!Visit www.physiciansguidetodoctoring.com to connect, dive deeper, and keep the conversation going. Let's grow! Disclaimer:This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical, financial, or legal advice. Always consult a qualified professional for personalized guidance.

Tue, 26 Aug 2025 15:30:00 GMT http://relay.fm/focused/237 http://relay.fm/focused/237 David Sparks and Mike Schmitz Max Roberts is a podcaster, video editor, and technical writer who joins us to talk about using AI in the writing process, video games, and the importance of staying curious. Max Roberts is a podcaster, video editor, and technical writer who joins us to talk about using AI in the writing process, video games, and the importance of staying curious. clean 5025 Max Roberts is a podcaster, video editor, and technical writer who joins us to talk about using AI in the writing process, video games, and the importance of staying curious. This episode of Focused is sponsored by: Incogni: Take your personal data back with Incogni! Use code FOCUSED with this link and get 60% off an annual plan. Zocdoc: Find the right doctor, right now with Zocdoc. Sign up for free. Indeed: Join more than 3.5 million businesses worldwide using Indeed to hire great talent fast. 1Password: Discover SaaS applications, automate lifecycle management, and optimize SaaS spend. Guest Starring: Max Roberts Links and Show Notes: Deep Focus: Extended ad-free episodes with bonus deep dive content. Point of Curvature Max Frequency Max Roberts Video Essays Max's Podcasts Obsidian Field Guide (Plus Edition) Practical PKM Hybrid Cohort Google NotebookLM ChatGPT Grammarly Claude Lex.page ‎Singin' In the Bathtub by John Lithgow How to ADHD by Jessica McCabe How to ADHD | YouTube Failing at Normal: An ADHD Success Story | Jessica McCabe | TEDxBratislava - YouTube Business Made Simple Extra Focus by Jesse J. Anderson Field Notes | Memo Books, Notebooks, Journals & Planners The Library Community TaskForge | Obsidian Tasks Made Easy From Strength to Strength by Arthur Brooks Dark Age by Pierce Brown Somebody And The Three Blairs by Marilyn Tolhurst Lake of Souls by Ann Leckie

'It really weighs heavy. It's like puttingon lots of different cloaks.' Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is a topic many are talking about right now, and thankfully, we've movedbeyond the outdated stereotype that it only affects young boys. And with somuch noise on social media alongside lingering stereotypes, is all thisattention truly helping people recognise their symptoms and get a diagnosis?And how does it feel to receive an ADHD diagnosis in adulthood – does it bringrelief, clarity, present new challenges, or a combination of allthree?   This week, Dr Louise Newson sits down withJack Suddaby to explore his ADHD diagnosis journey, from a lightbulb momentduring the COVID-19 lockdown to launching his podcast, Distracted. Jack opensup about the moment his symptoms pushed him to seek answers and how simpleshifts in his daily routine have transformed his life in surprising ways.  Louise discusses the connection betweenADHD and hormonal changes, from PMDD to menopause, and how these shifts canimpact symptoms, especially as ADHD often presents differently in women.   Louise and Jack explore how menopause andADHD, topics that are still under-recognised, are being talked about moreopenly, and how getting a diagnosis can truly change people's lives by bringingunderstanding and clarity.  We're delighted to have been nominated inthe Listeners' Choice category for the British Podcast Awards. There's stilltime to vote - ⁠click here⁠  Email dlnpodcast@borkowski.co.uk with suggestions for newguests!    Disclaimer  The information provided in this podcastis for informational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute forprofessional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice ofyour physician or other qualified health providers with any questions you mayhave regarding a medical condition. The views expressed by guests are their ownand do not necessarily reflect the views of Dr Louise Newson or the NewsonHealth Group.       LET'S CONNECT   Website: Dr Louise Newson  Instagram: The Dr Louise Newson Podcast (@drlouisenewsonpodcast)• Instagram photos and videos   LinkedIn: Louise Newson | LinkedIn  Spotify: The Dr Louise Newson Podcast | Podcast on Spotify  YouTube: Dr Louise Newson - YouTube RELATED RESOURCESADHD and hormones in women‘Without perimenopause, I might not have realised Ihave ADHD' 

You speak to share or receive useful information.So when someone asks, “How was your weekend?” your brain looks for purpose.If there's no shared understanding, the exchange feels like noise.When you know your purpose in a conversation, you feel less drained and more confident.If you've ever shut down mid-chat or wondered why casual talk feels like wasted energy, this episode is for you.Want meaningful relationships? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.Grab your spot at the Social Connections Summit!It's a free, 2-day virtual event happening September 24 and 25.You'll hear from late-identified Autistic, AuDHD, and ADHD professionals who've lived your experience and from leaders and allies who are ready to learn with care, not guilt.There are short talks, real strategies, and honest stories that meet you where you are.There'll be giveaways, special bonuses for those who invite others, and full access to replays—so don't sweat it if you can't make it live.Join us at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.socialconnectionssummit.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.#smalltalk #latediagnosedautistic #relationships

You love your kids. You love summer. But right about now? You've had enough. The lack of structure, the endless snacks, the back-to-school forms piling up—it's a lot. And if you're feeling scattered, behind, or just plain wiped, you're not failing. You're human.In this episode (pulled from a Facebook Live), I'm talking about what this season actually feels like for SLPs, why it's so tricky for ADHD brains, and the mindset + systems shifts that can keep you afloat until routines return.Here's what we'll cover:Why this season feels so hard (hint: it's not just you)The power of naming what's happening out loud to defuse shameWhat it really means to be gentle with yourself—and how to build up to itMy go-to strategy for B- work: the Minimum Viable Product approachPractical cues, reminders, and supports that actually help when life is chaosA quick mindset reframe that puts you back in the driver's seatWhether you're trying to keep up with eval reports, school paperwork, or just laundry and snacks on repeat, this episode will help you feel less alone—and remind you that you do have options (none of which involve being perfect). To find out how I can help you improve your work-life balance, click here. Come join the SLP Support Group on Facebook for more tips and tricks!Follow me on Instagram! @theresamharpLearn more about Theresa Harp Coaching here.

Tue, 26 Aug 2025 15:30:00 GMT http://relay.fm/focused/237 http://relay.fm/focused/237 Everything is Figureoutable, with Max Roberts 237 David Sparks and Mike Schmitz Max Roberts is a podcaster, video editor, and technical writer who joins us to talk about using AI in the writing process, video games, and the importance of staying curious. Max Roberts is a podcaster, video editor, and technical writer who joins us to talk about using AI in the writing process, video games, and the importance of staying curious. clean 5025 Max Roberts is a podcaster, video editor, and technical writer who joins us to talk about using AI in the writing process, video games, and the importance of staying curious. This episode of Focused is sponsored by: Incogni: Take your personal data back with Incogni! Use code FOCUSED with this link and get 60% off an annual plan. Zocdoc: Find the right doctor, right now with Zocdoc. Sign up for free. Indeed: Join more than 3.5 million businesses worldwide using Indeed to hire great talent fast. 1Password: Discover SaaS applications, automate lifecycle management, and optimize SaaS spend. Guest Starring: Max Roberts Links and Show Notes: Deep Focus: Extended ad-free episodes with bonus deep dive content. Point of Curvature Max Frequency Max Roberts Video Essays Max's Podcasts Obsidian Field Guide (Plus Edition) Practical PKM Hybrid Cohort Google NotebookLM ChatGPT Grammarly Claude Lex.page ‎Singin' In the Bathtub by John Lithgow How to ADHD by Jessica McCabe How to ADHD | YouTube Failing at Normal: An ADHD Success Story | Jessica McCabe | TEDxBratislava - YouTube Business Made Simple Extra Focus by Jesse J. Anderson Field Notes | Memo Books, Notebooks, Journals & Planners The Library Community TaskForge | Obsidian Tasks Made Easy From Strength to Strength by Arthur Brooks Dark Age by Pierce Brown Somebody And The Three Blairs by Marilyn Tolhurst Lake of Souls by Ann Leckie

Have a comment or question? Click this sentence to send us a message, and we might answer it in a future episode.Welcome to Season 5, Episode 28 of Winning Isn't Easy. In this episode, we'll dive into the complicated topic of "Disability and Disputed Illnesses: Navigating Claims Without Full Medical Recognition."Some medical conditions cause symptoms so real and severe that they disrupt daily life, yet remain disputed or only partly recognized by mainstream medicine. For patients, it is not just a fight to be believed, it is also a fight to secure the disability benefits they need. With ERISA-governed Long-Term Disability insurance, the challenges are even greater. In this episode of Winning Isn't Easy, disability law expert Nancy L. Cavey examines one of the most difficult areas of disability claims: conditions the medical community has not fully accepted. From chronic Lyme disease, fibromyalgia, and chronic fatigue syndrome to mental health diagnoses such as dissociative identity disorder, adult ADHD, and PTSD outside of combat, Nancy explains why these claims are often denied and what you can do about it. You will learn how insurers view subjective symptoms like pain, fatigue, and cognitive fog, why strong documentation and physician support matter, and the strategies that can help prove the impact of these conditions on your ability to work. Nancy also shares a real case example that shows how persistence and preparation can turn the tide. If you are living with a condition the medical world questions but your symptoms are real, this episode will give you the tools to fight for the benefits you deserve. Winning is not easy, but with the right strategy, it is possible.In this episode, we'll cover the following topics:One - Disputed Physical ConditionsTwo - Disputed Mental ConditionsThree - Multiple Chemical Sensitivity (MCS)Whether you're a claimant, or simply seeking valuable insights into the disability claims landscape, this episode provides essential guidance to help you succeed in your journey. Don't miss it.Listen to Our Sister Podcast:We have a sister podcast - Winning Isn't Easy: Navigating Your Social Security Disability Claim. Give it a listen: https://wiessdpodcast.buzzsprout.com/Resources Mentioned in This Episode:LINK TO ROBBED OF YOUR PEACE OF MIND: https://mailchi.mp/caveylaw/ltd-robbed-of-your-piece-of-mindLINK TO THE DISABILITY INSURANCE CLAIM SURVIVAL GUIDE FOR PROFESSIONALS: https://mailchi.mp/caveylaw/professionals-guide-to-ltd-benefitsFREE CONSULT LINK: https://caveylaw.com/contact-us/Need Help Today?:Need help with your Long-Term Disability or ERISA claim? Have questions? Please feel welcome to reach out to use for a FREE consultation. Just mention you listened to our podcast.Review, like, and give us a thumbs up wherever you are listening to Winning Isn't Easy. We love to see your feedback about our podcast, and it helps us grow and improve.Please remember that the content shared is for informational purposes only, and should not replace personalized legal advice or guidance from qualified professionals. 

View the Show Notes Page for This Episode Become a Member to Receive Exclusive Content Sign Up to Receive Peter's Weekly Newsletter Josh Spitalnick is a clinical and research psychologist with expertise in treating a variety of anxiety conditions with cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) and other evidence-based approaches. In this episode, Josh unpacks the four layers of anxiety—psychological, emotional, cognitive, and behavioral—highlighting why avoidance is the key feature that transforms ordinary worry into disorder. He explains why he continues to treat OCD and PTSD as anxiety conditions despite their DSM-5 reclassification, and he draws important distinctions between worries versus worrying and thoughts versus thinking. The discussion explores health anxiety, illness anxiety, and the impact of modern contributors such as wearables, social media, and the COVID era, while weaving in real-world case studies and Josh's structured assessment approach. Josh also breaks down evidence-based treatments, from exposure therapy and cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) to acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), along with the role of medication, lifestyle factors, and how shifting from avoidance to committed action can build long-term resilience. We discuss: Josh's professional background and his holistic approach to treating anxiety [3:00]; Definition of anxiety and changes in the DSM-5 [5:00]; The psychological and cognitive aspects of anxiety [10:45]; Breaking down anxiety symptoms: triggers, fears, and hidden mental rituals [17:00]; Thoughts versus thinking and worries versus worrying: what constitutes dysfunction [20:15]; Health anxiety and the limits of medical reassurance: understanding illness anxiety and somatic symptom disorder [24:30]; Triggering events for health anxiety, symptom fixation, heritability, and the role of nature versus nurture [36:30]; Historical and modern shifts in health anxiety, from HIV/AIDS in the 1980s to today's heightened fears of cancer [45:30]; Modern factors and recent events that have amplified societal anxiety levels [47:15]; Josh's approach to patients with excessive health-related rituals and/or OCD using CBT and exposure therapy [54:30]; Hypothetical example of treating a person with a fear of flying: assessment, panic disorder, and the role of medication and exposure therapy [1:03:15]; The four types of exposure therapy and the shift from habituation to inhibitory learning [1:14:00]; Treating people with OCD that manifests in disturbing and intrusive thoughts, and why therapy focuses on values over reassurance [1:21:00]; Acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT): reorienting patients toward values-driven living rather than symptom elimination [1:31:45]; Mindfulness as a tool to cultivate presence, awareness, and healthy engagement with life [1:36:30]; Hallmarks of successful therapy and red-flags that therapy is not going well [1:38:15]; The relationship between anxiety and substance use, and the therapeutic challenges it creates [1:44:45]; Anxiety's overlap with ADHD, OCD, autism, and physical health conditions [1:49:45]; Debunking the harmful myth that health anxiety is a “made up” condition [1:51:30]; Prevalence, severity, and evolving treatments for health anxiety and OCD [1:54:45]; Treating health anxiety is about providing patients with skills to improve quality of life—a discussion on how to address symptoms often attributed to long COVID [2:01:30]; Balancing the benefits of abundant health information with the risks of fueling health anxiety [2:06:30]; Advice for finding a telehealth provider with expertise in health anxiety [2:11:00]; and More. Connect With Peter on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook and YouTube

Submit your question and we'll answer it in a future episode!Join our Patreon Community!https://www.patreon.com/badassbreastfeedingpodcastLatching. It's the basis of a good breastfeeding relationship. But how do youknow if your baby has a good latch? Listen in today as Dianne and Abby discusslatching, what constitutes a good latch and what is a bad latch.If you are a new listener, we would love to hear from you.  Please consider leavingus a review on iTunes or sending us an email with your suggestions and commentsto badassbreastfeedingpodcast@gmail.com. You can also add your email to ourlist and have episodes sent right to your inbox!Things we talked about:Latching is where it all begins [9:00]Painful latch [9:55]Position for a deep latch [13:27]Breast support [15:30]Babies need help [17:38]Wide open mouth [25:05]Tight muscles [26:42]Help with coordination [27:22]Helping a sleepy baby feed [30:30]Feeds take longer in the beginning [33:31]Links to information we discussed or episodes you should check out!https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/episode/043-babies-that-wont-dont-latch/https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/episode/latch-regression/Set up your consultation with Diannehttps://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.com/consultations/Check out Dianne's blog here:https://diannecassidyconsulting.com/milklytheblog/Follow our Podcast:https://badassbreastfeedingpodcast.comHere is how you can connect with Dianne and Abby:AbbyTheuring ,https://www.thebadassbreastfeeder.comDianne Cassidy @diannecassidyibclc, http://www.diannecassidyconsulting.comMusic we use:Music: Levels of Greatness from; We Used to Paint Stars in the Sky (2012)courtesy of Scott Holmes at freemusicarchive.org/music/Scott Holmes

Hey team! My guest this week is Dr. Ute Liersch, a Chartered Counselling and Coaching Psychologist with over a decade of clinical experience and author of A Minimalist's Guide to Becoming Resilient. Dr. Ute specializes in helping adults navigate anxiety, ADHD, and burnout. Her therapeutic approach is integrative, drawing from modalities such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), and mindfulness-based therapies. Beyond her clinical practice, Dr. Ute is an associate lecturer at Birkbeck, University of London, and holds a Fellowship in Higher Education. In our conversation, we explore the nervous system beyond the textbook fight-flight-freeze model, including how our nervous system shapes our mood, motivation, and even the way we see the world. Dr. Ute explains why so many of us with ADHD find that our sympathetic nervous system is permanently on edge and how we can work on rewiring that response. We also talk about perfectionism, attention types, and what resilience looks like in real life, breaking it down into actionable steps that fit into our schedules and ADHD brains. If you'd life to follow along on the show notes page you can find that at http://hackingyouradhd.com/240 YouTube: https://tinyurl.com/y835cnrk Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/HackingYourADHD This Episode's Top Tips 1. Our parasympathetic nervous system can get stuck in a permanent state of “go time.” To help move our PNS back to a relaxed state, Dr. Ute suggests progressive muscle relaxation, where you are tensing and then releasing muscle groups one at a time so you can physically feel the shift from tension to ease. 2. Many of us have internalized the idea that there's something fundamentally wrong with the way we work, think, or exist. Dr. Ute suggests replacing this assumption of personal defect with curiosity: “If I weren't wrong, what would I need to feel safe?” This slight shift can open up room to problem-solve and tailor strategies to your actual needs. 3. We often talk about resilience like it's a fixed trait—you either “have it” or you don't. But Dr. Ute points out that resilience is about what you do, not what you are. It's built in small, repeatable actions that teach your nervous system and your mind how to recover from stressors. Resilience isn't about holding it together forever; it's about giving yourself enough space and recovery so you can keep going when you need it the most.

In this enlightening episode of the Secret Life Podcast, host Brianne Davis-Gantt delves into the pervasive issue of perfectionism and its profound impact on mental and physical health. With her signature blend of humor and honesty, Brianne explores the pressures that drive individuals to seek perfection, revealing how these high expectations can lead to anxiety, depression, and burnout.Throughout the episode, Brianne outlines the five distinct types of perfectionism: classic, procrastinator, messy, intense, and Parisian. She shares personal anecdotes and observations, including her experiences with her own child, to illustrate how perfectionism can manifest in everyday life. Listeners will learn to identify the signs of perfectionism and how it can trap them in a cycle of self-criticism and dissatisfaction.Brianne offers practical strategies for breaking free from the constraints of perfectionism, emphasizing the importance of self-compassion, setting realistic goals, and celebrating progress over perfection. She encourages listeners to embrace their flaws and recognize that perfection is an unattainable ideal. This episode serves as a powerful reminder that the journey toward self-acceptance is far more rewarding than the pursuit of perfection.

This episode is a rebroadcast. Dusty has handpicked episodes from the archive to air while she and Ash are on their annual summer break. New episodes resume in September! Cam takes Ash and listeners on a field trip to the land of ADHD causation, introducing listeners to Cam's own Meaning Maker (MM). Veteran listeners will recall the challenge for ADHDers to get to causation from the Mt. Rainier Model introduced in episode 10. They will also recall Cam speaking about his Big Idea Generator (BIG). The Meaning Maker is first cousin to the BIG and is a part of everyone's belief system - the neural system that makes sense of the world and that rationalizes choices and actions. Confirmation bias is a result of selectively picking data to reinforce a position. ADHD can super-charge the MM by plugging into our contextual processor. Informed by urgency and ARC activity, we can infuse our belief systems with “what if!” scenarios that generate doubt and worry. This gives the MM a spotlight on the stage - and an undeniable big signal. Cam shares his own experience as a teacher more than 20 years ago when his Meaning Maker was very active, reinforcing a story that entrenched him in a perspective of one down. Ash explores this experience with Cam, extracting valuable understanding and perspective. When Cam understood the presence of the MM and what gave it its power, he was able to short circuit the system. The hosts leave listeners with steps to discover and observe their own Meaning Makers. Episode links + resources: Join the Community | Become a Patron Our Process: Understand, Own, Translate. About Asher, Dusty and Cam For more of the Translating ADHD podcast: Episode Transcripts: visit TranslatingADHD.com and click on the episode Follow us on Twitter: @TranslatingADHD Visit the Website: TranslatingADHD.com

In this episode of The Psychedelic Podcast, Paul F. Austin is joined by James Fadiman, PhD, and Jordan Gruber, JD, co-authors of the new book Microdosing for Health, Healing, and Enhanced Performance. Find full show notes and links here: https://thethirdwave.co/podcast/episode-318/?ref=278 Widely recognized as the father of modern microdosing, Jim returns alongside Jordan to challenge outdated pharmaceutical paradigms and share what a decade of real-world microdosing reports reveals about physical health, emotional wellbeing, and performance enhancement. James Fadiman, PhD, is a leading voice in psychedelic research, widely known as the “father of microdosing.” With a career spanning over 60 years, Jim has explored psychedelics' effects on creativity, mental health, and human potential. His landmark book, The Psychedelic Explorer's Guide, remains a foundational text in the field. In recent years, he's spearheaded citizen science efforts on microdosing, gathering thousands of real-world reports to better understand its therapeutic and performance-enhancing effects. Jordan Gruber, JD, MA, is a writer, editor, and former attorney whose work bridges psychology, spirituality, and personal development. Founder of Enlightenment.Com, Jordan has collaborated on books covering everything from finance to forensic audio to transformational healing. He co-authored Your Symphony of Selves with Fadiman in 2020 and now returns as co-author of their latest work. Together, their partnership blends rigorous inquiry with lived insight—shaping a new paradigm for how psychedelics can enhance everyday life. Highlights: Why microdosing works for both healing and performance The real-world shift from symptom-treatment to systemic wellbeing How citizen science is driving the microdosing movement Microdosing vs. psycholytic dosing: Key distinctions Why mainstream research may be missing the sweet spot Comparing protocols: Fadiman vs. Stamets vs. intuitive dosing The myth of the serotonin hypothesis and what comes next Heart risk debates and what the data actually says Microdosing for autism, ADHD, and chronic pain What an ideal regulatory future could look like Episode Links: Jim and Jordan's new book, Microdosing for Health, Healing, and Enhanced Performance Episode Sponsors Psychedelic Coacing Institute's Intensive for Psychedelic Professionals in Costa Rica - a transformative retreat for personal and professional growth. Golden Rule Mushrooms - Get a lifetime discount of 10% with code THIRDWAVE at checkout These show links contain affiliate links. Third Wave receives a small percentage of the product price if you purchase through the above affiliate links.

In Episode 317: How To Plan Your Work & Work Your Plan: Tips for ADHD Brains, You Will Discover: Why the traditional interpretation of "working your plan" can actually set ADHD brains up for failure A powerful metaphor that transforms how we approach planning How to adapt your approach when your executive functions decide to take an unscheduled vacation Work With Me:

We want to get therapy...great! Which type of therapy should we get?! Oh my gosh the mental health landscape is a giant pain in the ass. Here's a substack article I wrote about it.I got to meet Dr. Laurie Bruce and she agreed to come on the show to talk about the various modalities. Hopefully that helps us make a better choice about the kind of therapy to seek. For more information on Dr. Laurie Bruce, and to listen to her podcast "From Both Sides of the Couch", visit https://www.drlauriebruce.com/You can also search for "From Both Sides of the Couch" on your favorite podcast platform, and you'll find her! Dr. Laurie Bruce BioDr. Bruce is a clinical psychologist and mindfulness coach. She specializes in a type of therapy called Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), which is a treatment that combines both traditional cognitive and behavioral strategies with Eastern Mindfulness practices. She is also a Certified Psychedelic Assisted Psychotherapist. Dr. Bruce is passionate about reducing the stigma of mental illness and sharing resources to the public about mental health, resilience, emotional intelligence, healthy relationships and developing meaning and purpose in our lives. 

In this episode, Stephen Martin discusses the importance of nutrition for neurodiverse individuals, sharing his personal journey and insights into how specific nutritional strategies can enhance well-being. He introduces his new podcast, Added Nutrition, which will focus on practical nutritional advice tailored for those with ADHD, dyslexia, and autism. Key topics include the benefits of red light therapy, gut health, hydration, and the significance of gene testing in optimizing nutrition for neurodiverse brains.TakeawaysNutrition is crucial for neurodiverse individuals.Personal growth and learning are ongoing processes.Red light therapy can enhance cellular health.Gut health is linked to mental health challenges.Hydration is often overlooked in neurodiverse populations.Potassium and magnesium are essential minerals.Gene testing can personalize nutritional strategies.Supplements should be tailored to individual needs.Practical strategies can improve daily life for neurodiverse people.The new podcast will provide hands-on nutritional education.Keywordsnutrition, neurodiversity, ADHD, dyslexia, gut health, supplements, gene testing, red light therapy, hydration, mental health, adults with dyslexia, support for adults.If you want to find out more visit:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠truthaboutdyslexia.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join our Facebook Group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠facebook.com/groups/adultdyslexia⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow the RightSiders Supplement Journey⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠rightsiders.org/wait-list ⁠⁠ADDed Nutritionhttps://addednutrition.com

David & Sherie continue talking about addiction recovery and specifically how to be more focused doing recovery when struggling with ADHD or ADD, What things will help, and what is different? Listen to learn more!

How Morena Built Kodes Through Wholesale and In-Person Pitching   In this episode of Let's Talk Shop, I'm joined by Morena Fiore, the founder and designer-maker behind Kodes, a bold jewellery brand known for statement pieces, Art Deco influences, aromatherapy diffuser jewellery, and her popular glasses chains.   Morena shares her journey of turning a personal story into a thriving brand, how she rebranded with a strong “why,” and how wholesale has helped her grow in ways she never expected. From pitching in person to opticians, to standing out at 100% Optical with a bright and disruptive stand, Morena has taken a less traditional wholesale route and made it her own.   We also talk about how to push past discomfort when selling, managing business growth alongside ADHD, balancing two businesses, and why wholesale can provide both validation and resilience in a changing retail landscape.   If you have ever felt nervous about pitching in person or wondered if wholesale could work for your brand, this conversation is full of practical tips and encouragement. Time Stamps 00:00 Welcome and Introduction 00:52 Morena's Journey into Jewelry Making 02:09 The Importance of Personal Expression 04:15 Support and Community for Alopecia 05:31 Diving into Wholesale and Trade Shows 07:52 Overcoming Sales Challenges 11:39 Tips for Successful In-Person Sales 17:57 Staying Motivated and Inspired 18:40 Exciting Wholesale Opportunities 19:08 Turning Competitiveness into a Game 19:42 Mapping Success and Motivation 20:17 The Importance of Follow-Ups 22:11 Managing ADHD in Business 24:23 Balancing Two Businesses 26:37 Wholesale Growth and Challenges 33:09 Proudest Wholesale Moments 37:02 Where to Find Us Connect with Morena Website: kodes.me.uk Faire direct link: https://faire.com/direct/kodes?utm_source=widgetv2&widgetToken=bw_fj8t66jzfw Instagram: @kodes_accessories Website and SEO services: morenafiore.com   Resources mentioned Sales Growth Lab: smallbusinesscollaborative.co.uk/sales-growth-lab Elevate Your First Trade Show: smallbusinesscollaborative.co.uk/elevate-your-first-trade-show Free Resource for Listeners Want to send stronger, more confident wholesale emails? Download my Email Pitch Checklist: smallbusinesscollaborative.myflodesk.com/checklist Connect with me Website: smallbusinesscollaborative.co.uk Instagram: @small_business_collaborative   Subscribe to Let's Talk Shop on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen.

In this week's ADHD Women's Wellbeing Wisdom episode, we revisit eye-opening insights from Dr Jessica Eccles, a Clinical Senior Lecturer at Brighton and Sussex Medical School in the Department of Neuroscience. This conversation explores the fascinating connection between the brain and body in neurodivergent women. We talk about the links between ADHD, autism, hypermobility, fatigue, long COVID, and emotional regulation, and how these can impact our mental and physical health in ways that often go unseen or misunderstood.My new book, The ADHD Women's Wellbeing Toolkit, is now available, grab your copy here!What You'll Learn:The link between neurodivergence, hypermobility and long COVID.How dysautonomia connects ADHD to chronic fatigue and physical symptoms.The impact of proprioception issues and hypermobility on emotional regulation.Research exploring emotional regulation difficulties in ADHD and autism.The role of RSD in neurodivergent experiences of rejection and overwhelm.Research looking at the link between childhood neurodivergence, trauma and adult fatigue.The importance of early advocacy for neurodivergent children in schools and healthcare.Takeaways:01:32 - Hypermobility, Long COVID and Neurodivergence 02:15 - Abnormalities in the Autonomic Nervous System and Neurodivergence 03:24 - EUPD, ADHD and Autism Research 04:21 - Propioception, Emotion Regulation, Hypermobility and Neurodivergent Traits 08:00 - Hypermobility, Pain and Fatigue in Neurodivergent People09:43 - Supporting and Advocating for Neurodivergent Children15:19 - Advocating for Resources and SupportIf you've ever wondered how ADHD shows up in your body, or why you feel so exhausted despite resting, this conversation will give you insight, validation, and clarity into issues you may have never considered connected.Links and Resources:Join the Waitlist for my new ADHD community-first membership launching in September! Get exclusive founding offers [here].Find my popular ADHD workshops and resources on my website [here].Follow the podcast on Instagram: @adhd_womenswellbeing_pod Bendy Brain LinkTreeKate Moryoussef is a women's ADHD lifestyle and wellbeing coach and EFT practitioner who helps overwhelmed and unfulfilled newly diagnosed ADHD women find more calm, balance, hope, health, compassion, creativity and clarity.

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Tony sits down with his friend and Love, ADHD co-host, Julie De Jesus, to unpack her recent interview with Kevin Franke, ex-husband of Ruby Franke. Ruby, the former “8 Passengers” YouTuber, pled guilty in late 2023 to multiple counts of aggravated child abuse and, along with her business partner Jodi Hildebrandt, was sentenced in February 2024 to up to 30 years in prison under Utah law. While Tony originally planned to ask Julie about Kevin, the conversation took a different turn: the tidal wave of comments Julie received after posting her interview. With humor, honesty, and therapeutic insight, Tony and Julie read through some of those YouTube comments out loud, responding in real time. They explore why people are so quick to judge, why emotions often masquerade as facts, and how online criticism reveals more about the commenter than the person being critiqued. You'll hear candid reflections on: What Kevin's story stirs up in people (and why) How emotional immaturity shows up in the comment section (projection, black-and-white thinking, and mistaking feelings for truth) Why leaving abusive situations is never as simple as outsiders believe The concept of “whole object relations” — holding multiple emotions at once How Julie navigated negativity while staying grounded and authentic This episode is part deep dive into psychology, part raw behind-the-scenes of content creation, and part hilarious reading of unfiltered internet comments. If you've ever wondered why strangers online lash out—or how to handle criticism with both compassion and boundaries—this one's for you. 00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview 00:33 Julie De Jesus and Her Interview with Kevin Frankie 01:11 Handling Criticism and Emotional Reactions 02:40 Understanding Emotional Maturity 03:55 Navigating Online Criticism 07:40 Promoting the Upcoming Cruise 11:51 The Future of Love A DHD Podcast 12:24 Deep Dive into Kevin Frankie's Interview 21:04 Personal Reflections and Recognitions 31:30 Introduction to Kate's Family Dynamics 31:32 Exploring Religious Roles and Power Dynamics 32:23 Personal Reflections and Family Dynamics 35:00 Commentary on Interview Techniques 36:26 Debating Faith and Atheism 38:40 Addressing Online Criticism 42:20 Therapy and Personal Growth 53:05 Inner Child and Emotional Healing 01:00:02 Concluding Thoughts and Reflections Contact Tony at contact@tonyoverbay.com to learn more about his Emotional Architects men's group. And visit https://julie-dejesus.com/cruise to learn more about Tony and his friend Julie De Jesus's "I See You Living" cruise, a 5-night Western Caribbean Cruise from January 24-29, 2026 aboard the Royal Caribbean Cruise Line.

Welcome to Hacking Your ADHD. I'm your host William Curb and I have ADHD. On this podcast I dig into the tools, tactics and best practices to help you work with your ADHD brain.  And today I'm joined by Skye Waterson for our Research Recap series. In these episodes, we take a look at a single research paper and dive into what the paper says, how it was conducted, and try and find any practical takeaways. Today we're going to be discussing a paper called Time after time: Failure to identify and support females with ADHD – a Swedish population register study As this is a new series, we're going to be figuring out what works and what doesn't, and I'd love to hear what y'all think of it, so if you have thoughts, head on over to Hackingyouradhd.com/contact and let me know. I appreciate all the feedback I've already gotten and we're definitely going to work on making sure to get these episodes a little more organized and help you get the most out of every one. New episodes of research recap will be coming out every other Friday. All right, let's get on with the show. If you'd life to follow along on the show notes page you can find that at https://HackingYourADHD.com/239 https://tinyurl.com/56rvt9fr - Unconventional Organisation Affiliate link https://tinyurl.com/y835cnrk - YouTube https://www.patreon.com/HackingYourADHD - Patreon

Jess here! A while back, Sarina and KJ talked about how much they enjoyed Tess Gerritsen's novel, The Spy Coast, and Sarina reassured KJ she'd enjoy book two of the series even more. I had never read a Tess Gerritsen novel, and while I'd heard her name before and vaguely understood she wrote thrillers, I was starting from square one when I downloaded the audio version of The Spy Coast. Now, I'm not an international spy thriller kind of gal. In the abstract, I understand the allure of books like Tinker Tailor Soldier Spy or Six Days of the Condor. Spies! Intrigue! International [almost exclusively men] of mystery! But they have never really floated my proverbial boat. That said, I loved Tess Gerritsen's spies and the world they inhabit. There's a sense of place - nay, a downright LOVE of place - and a retiring, rural New England domesticity that spoke to this retiring, rural New England reader. Book two, The Summer Guests, is even more rooted in Maine, on its history and the social dynamics of its natives and its summer people. Once I tore through those first two books, I went back to Gerritsen's first book, The Surgeon, one of Time Magazine's top 100 thriller/mystery books of all time and the first in the Rizzoli & Isles series, consequently made into a long-running television series. Gerritsen has a fascinating career trajectory, lots to talk about regarding pantsing and plotting, where the ideas come from, and lots of other geeky details about the writing life. I hope you enjoy it as much as we did. Find Tess at Tessgerritsen.com, or on Bluesky, @TessGerritsen Transcript below!EPISODE 462 - TRANSCRIPTJennie NashHey everyone, it's Jennie Nash, founder and CEO of Author Accelerator, the company I started more than 10 years ago to lead the emerging book coaching industry. In October, we'll be enrolling a new cohort of certification students who will be going through programs in either fiction, nonfiction, or memoir, and learning the editorial, emotional, and entrepreneurial skills that you need to be a successful book coach. If you've been curious about book coaching and thinking that it might be something you want to do for your next career move, I'd love to teach you more about it, you can go to bookcoaches.com/waitlist to check out the free training I have—that's bookcoaches.com/waitlist. The training is all about how to make money, meaning, and joy out of serving writers. Fall is always a great time to start something new. So if you're feeling called to do this, go check out our training and see if this might be right for you. We'd love to have you join us.Multiple SpeakersIs it recording? Now it's recording, yay. Go ahead. This is the part where I stare blankly at the microphone. I don't remember what I'm supposed to be doing. All right, let's start over. Awkward pause. I'm going to rustle some papers. Okay, now—one, two, three.Jess LaheyHey, this is Jess Lahey, and this is the Hashtag AmWriting Podcast. This is the podcast about writing all the things—short things, long things, poetry, prose, narrative nonfiction, fiction, creative nonfiction, queries, proposals. This is the podcast about writing all the things. More than anything else, this is the podcast about the writing life and about getting the work done. I am Jess Lahey. I'm the author of The Gift of Failure and The Addiction Inoculation. And you can find my journalism at The Atlantic and The Washington Post, and my bi-weekly (formerly bi-weekly) column at The New York Times, The Parent-Teacher Conference, ran for about three years I am joined today by Sarina Bowen, who has written 50-odd books. She has written lots and lots of romance, and her most recent addition to the world of publishing has been her thrillers, Dying to Meet You and The Five Year Lie. And she has a book coming out this fall called Thrown for a Loop. The reason I am recording this intro on my own—which, as you may know if you've been listening, is highly unusual for us—is because I know myself. And I know when I'm really excited to talk to someone on the podcast; I'm going to flub the intro. I'm going to forget something. I'm going to forget to introduce them altogether. So today, I'm doing that first, so I don't mess it up. A while ago on the podcast, you may have heard Sarina and KJ read some books by an author named Tess Gerritsen. I had heard of Tess Gerritsen, but I had never read any of her books. I just hadn't yet. I haven't read Nora Roberts yet. I haven't read—there are lots of authors I haven't read yet. And sometimes you don't even know where to start. So when Sarina and KJ recommended Tess Gerritsen's new series set in Maine—the first one being The Spy Coast and the second one being The Summer Guests—I figured I had a good place to start. And you know, as a New Englander, I love a good book about New England, and that was the start of my interest in Tess Gerritsen's work. I have gone back to the beginning and started with her book The Surgeon, which was her first book in the series that became the Rizzoli and Isles Series, as well as a television show. Tess Gerritsen has a—she's written through 33 books at this point. And as I now know, she has also directed a documentary called Magnificent Beast about pigs, which I listened to this morning while I was vacuuming the house. I loved it. She also—she has a lot to say about genre, about publishing, about second careers, about a writing place, and about process. So let's just jump right into it. I am so excited to introduce to you today, Tess Gerritsen. So from the perspective of what our listeners love—this podcast, the Hashtag AmWriting Podcast —is super geek. People who love the nuts and bolts and the dorky details of the writing life. Sarina has a past life in finance, and so she tends to be, like, our “no, but let's talk about the numbers” kind of person. I'm just the research super dork, which is why I spent my morning watching your documentary about pigs.Tess GerritsenOh my god! (Laughing)Jess LaheyMagnificent Beast. I—I've joked in the past that if I could, I would probably just research things in—in, you know, maybe there'll be a book out there, maybe there won't, but I would research things and—and just learn as much as I could. And so I loved—loved—your Magnificent Beast documentary. I thought it was fantastic. But one of the reasons that we wanted to talk to you, just from the very beginning, is that we feel like you do some pretty incredible world-building and relationship-building with your places and your characters. And so I just—I would love to start there, mainly with the idea of starting with the real nuts and bolts stuff, which is, like, what does an average writing day look like for you? And how do you, sort of—how do you set that up? What does it look like, if you have an average writing day? Maybe you don't.Tess GerritsenWell, it's hard to describe an average writing day, because every day is—there are days when you sit at your desk and you just, you know, pull your hair. And there are days when you get distracted by the news. And there are many days when I just do not want to write. But when I'm writing, the good days are when my characters are alive and talking to me. And it's—it's—you talked about world-building and character-building. That is really key to me. What are they saying to me? Can I hear their voices? And it sounds a little—a little crazy, because I am hearing voices. But it's those voices that really make characters come alive.Jess LaheyI—You have said in other interviews that you are very much—sorry to those of you who hate the terms—that you are very much a pantser. And you are sitting on this interview with a consummate plotter. Sarina is our consummate plotter. So could you talk a little bit about how those character—how those voices—influence, you know, the pantsing of the—of the book, and—and how that works for you?Tess GerritsenWell, I mean, it is weird that I am a pantser. And it's funny—I think that people who are plotters tend to be people who are in finance or in law, because they're used to having their ducks lined up, you know. They—they want everything set up ahead of time, and it makes them feel comfortable. And I think a large part of becoming a pantser is learning to be comfortable with unpredictability. Learning to just let things happen, and know you're going to take wrong turns, know you're going to end up in blind alleys—and yet just keep on forging ahead and change direction. So I suppose that what helps me become a pantser, as I said, is hearing a character's voice. If, for instance, when I wrote The Spy Coast, the first thing I heard about that book was Maggie Bird's voice. And she just said, “I'm not the woman I used to be.” And that's an opening there, right? Because you want to find out, Maggie, who did you used to be? And why do you sound so sad? So a lot of it was just—just getting into her head and letting her talk about what a day-to-day life is, which is, you know, raising chickens and collecting eggs and becoming—and being—a farmer. And then she does something surprising in that very first chapter. There's a fox that's killing her chickens, so she grabs her rifle and kills it with one shot. And that opens up another thing, like—how are you, a 62-year-old woman, able to take out a rifle and kill a fox with one shot? So it's—it's those things. It's those revelations of character. When they come out and they tell you something, or they show you they—they have a skill that you weren't aware of, you want to dig deeper and find out, you know, where did they get that skill?Sarina BowenAnd that is a really fun way to show it. I mean, you're talking today with two people who have also kept chickens.Multiple Speakers(All laughing)Jess LaheyAnd had foxes take their chickens, actually.Sarina BowenOh yes, because the two go together.Tess GerritsenYes.Sarina BowenBut yes, I admit I have never shot a fox, and maybe wouldn't.Jess LaheyI have yelled very loudly at a fox, and he actually—I have to say—really mad respect for the fox, because he took one look at me—he did drop the chicken that I was yelling at him for grabbing—and then he went across the street, around the neighbor's house, around the back of the other neighbor's house, and came at the exact same chicken from the other side of the house, where I couldn't see him out the window.Tess GerritsenOh, they are so smart. They are so smart.Jess LaheySo smart. Sarina, it sounded like you had something— you had something you wanted to add, and I interrupted you when we were talking about pantsing and we were talking about world-building and characters speaking to you.Sarina BowenWell, I just had thought that it was a lovely moment to explain why I was so excited to read this book after I heard Tess speak at Thriller Fest 2024, in a packed room where there was nowhere to sit except on the floor. You told the audience a little bit of a story from your real life that—that made you want to write that book. And I wonder if you could tell us what that was, because for me—I mean, we were only five minutes into your talk, and I'm like, oh, I'm—I'm going to download that tonight.Tess GerritsenWell, yes, it was. A lot of my books come from ideas that I've been stewing over for years. I have a folder called the ideas folder. It's an actual physical manila folder. And if I see something in an article or a newspaper or a magazine, I'll just rip it out and stick it in there, and it sometimes takes a long time before I know how to turn this into a book. So the idea for The Spy Coast is a little bit of obscure knowledge that I learned 35 years ago, when I first moved to Maine. My husband is a medical doctor. He opened up a practice, and when he would bring in new patients, he would always get an occupational history. And he used to get this answer—this very strange answer—from his new patients. They would say, “I used to work for the government, but I can't talk about it.” And after he heard that three times, he thought, what town did we land in? And who are these people? And we later found out that on our very short street, on one side of us was a retired OSS person, and on the other side was retired CIA. A realtor told us that our town was full of CIA retirees. So, I mean, of course you want to ask, why did they get here? What are they doing here? What are their lives like? I knew there was a book in there, but I didn't know what that book was. I needed 35 years to come up with the idea. And what I really needed to do was become old and—and realize that as you get older, especially women, we become invisible. People don't pay attention to us. We are over the hill. You know, everybody looks at the young, pretty chicks, but once you start getting gray hair, you fade into the background. And with that experience myself; I began to think more and more about what it's like to be retired. What is it like to be retired from a job that was maybe dangerous, or exciting, or something that you really risked your life to—to achieve? So that was—that was the beginning of The Spy Coast. What happens to CIA retirees—especially women—who are now invisible? But that makes them the best spies of all.Jess LaheyYeah, and we have—we did this really cool thing, this really fun thing for us on the Hashtag AmWriting Podcast. It's like a supporter-only thing, where we call First Pages, where very brave authors—very brave writers—submit their first page to us, and we talk about it and decide whether or not we'd want to turn the page. And you have an incredible skill on your first pages. You're very, very good at first pages. And I was thinking about The Summer Guests, that you had this wonderful line that I'm going to read now:Purity, Maine, 1972. On the last day of his life, Purity police officer Randy Pelletier ordered a blueberry muffin and a cup of coffee at the Marigold Café,Which immediately reminded me of my very, very favorite line from all of literature—my very favorite first line—which is Irving's first line from A Prayer for Owen Meany, in which he ruins the story for you right there in the first line:I am doomed to remember a boy with a wrecked voice—not because of his voice, or because he was the smallest person I ever knew, or even because he was the instrument of my mother's death, but because he is the reason I believe in God.There is this incredible power to first lines. And I'm sort of wondering where—how first lines happen for you. Do they happen first? Do they happen last? Do they happen along the way?Tess GerritsenFirst lines usually happen last. I—it's—I will write the whole book, and I'll think, something's missing in that first chapter. How do I open this up? And, you know, there are things that make lines immediately hypnotic, and one of those things is an inherent contradiction—something that makes you think, wait, okay, you start off this way, but then all of a sudden, the meaning of that line switches. So, yeah, it starts off with, you know, this guy's going to die. But on that last day of his life, he does something very ordinary. He just orders coffee at the local café. So I think it's that contradiction that makes us want to read more. It's also a way to end chapters. I think that—that if you leave your reader with a sense of unease—something is about to go wrong, but they don't know what it is yet—or leave them with an unanswered question, or leave them with, as I said, a contradiction—that is what's page-turning. I think that a lot of thriller writers in particular mistake action for—for being—for being interesting. A car chase on the page is really very boring. But what's interesting is something that—you could feel that tension building, but you don't know why.Sarina BowenI have joked sometimes that when I get stuck on a plot, sometimes I will talk at my husband and—and say, “you know, I'm stuck here.” And he always says, “And then a giant squid attacked.” And it—of course I don't write books that take place where this is possible, so—but it never fails to remind me that, like, external action can sometimes be just, you know, totally pointless. And that if you're stuck, it's because one of your dominoes isn't leaning, you know, in the right spot. So...Tess GerritsenYeah, it's—it's not as much fun seeing that domino fall as seeing it go slowly tilting over. You know, I really learned this when I was watching a James Bond movie. And it starts off—you know, the usual James Bonds have their cold open to those action and chasing and death-defying acts. I found that—I find that really, in that movie anyway—I was like, Ho hum. Can we get to the story? And I found the time when I was leaning forward in my theater seat, watching every moment, was really a very quiet conversation aboard a train between him and this woman who was going to become his lover. That was fascinating to me. So I think that that transfers to book writing as well. Action is boring.Jess LaheyYou and Sarina do something that I feel, as a writer; I would probably not be very good at, which is creating that unease. I—Sarina in particular does this thing... I've read every one of Sarina's books, as a good friend is supposed to do. And I text her, and I say, Why don't they just talk about it and just deal? Get it out in the open! And she's like, you know, we just got to make these people uncomfortable. And you both have this incredible talent for helping—keeping the reader, uh, along with you, simply because there is this sense of unease. We're slightly off-kilter the whole time. And yet in me, as a people pleaser, that makes me very uncomfortable. I want people to be happy with each other. So how do you—if you get to a place where you feel like maybe things aren't off-kilter enough, or things aren't off-balance enough—how do you introduce a little bit of unease into your—into your story?Tess GerritsenWell, I think it comes down to very small points of conflict—little bits of tension. Like, we call it micro-tension. And I think those occur in everyday life all the time. For instance, you know, things that happen that really don't have any big consequence, but are still irritating. We will stew about those for—for a while. And, you know, I used to write romance as well, so I understand entirely what Sarina is doing, because romance is really about courtship and conflict. And it's the conflict that makes us keep reading. We just—we know this is the courtship. So there's always that sense of it's not quite there, because once the characters are happy, the story is over, right?Sarina BowenYeah.Multiple Speakers(All laughing)Sarina BowenAlso, writing the ends of romance novels is the least interesting part. Like, what...? Once the conflict is resolved, like, I cannot wait to get out of there.Tess GerritsenRight, exactly. You know, I—I pay attention to my feelings when I'm reading a book, and I've noticed that the books that I remember are not the books with happy endings, because happiness is so fleeting. You know, you can be happy one second, and then something terrible will happen. You'll be unhappy. What lasts for us is sadness, or the sense of bittersweet. So when I read a book that ends with a bittersweet ending—such as, you know, Larry McMurtry Lonesome Dove—I ended up crying at the end of that book, and I have never forgotten that ending. Now, if everybody had been happy and there had been nobody to drag all those miles at the end, I would have forgotten that book very quickly. So I think—I try—I always try to leave the end of the book either bittersweet—I mean, you want to resolve all the major plot points—but also leave that sense of unease, because people remember that. And it also helps you, if you have a sequel.Sarina BowenThat's so interesting you've just brought up a couple of really interesting points, because there is a thriller—I actually write suspense now—and one of the books that so captured my attention about five years ago was killing it on the charts. And I thought it was actually a terrible book, but it nailed the bittersweet ending. Like, the premise was solid, and then the bittersweet ending was perfect, and the everything between the first chapter and the last chapter was a hot mess, but—but—um, that ending really stuck with me. And I remember carrying it around with me, like, Wow, they really nailed that ending. You know, and—and maybe that has, like, legs in terms of, like, talking about it. And, you know, if it—if—if it's irritating enough, like, the tension is still there—enough to, like, make people talk about it—it could actually affect the performance of that book. But also, um, one thing that I really love about this series—you have—what is the series title for the...?Tess GerritsenMartini—The Martini Club.Sarina BowenThe Martini Club, right? So The Martini Club is two books now. I inhaled the first one last summer, and I inhaled the second one this summer. And The Martini Club refers to this group of friends—these retired spies. And of course, there are two completely different mysteries in book one and book two. And I noticed a couple of things about the difference between those mysteries that was really fun. So in the first case—or in one of the two cases, let's see—in one of them, the thing that happens in their town is actually, like, related to them. And in the other one, it's kind of not. So to me, that felt like a boundary expansion of your world and your system. But also, I just love the way you leaned into the relationship of these people and their town in such a way. And how did you know to do that? Like, how—what does your toolbox say about how to get that expansiveness in your character set? Like, you know, to—to find all the limits of it?Tess GerritsenThat—you know, so much is like—it's like asking a pole-vaulter how they do it. They just—they have just—I guess its muscle memory. You don't really know how you're doing it, but what I did know was—with age, and because I love these characters so much—it really became about them and about what is going to deepen their friendship? What kind of a challenge is going to make them lean into each other—lean on each other? That's really what I was writing about, I think, was this circle of friends, and—and what you will do, how much you will sacrifice, to make sure your friends are safe. No, you're right—the second book is much more of a classic mystery. Yeah—a girl disappears. I mean, there was—there were—there were CIA undertones in that, because that becomes an important part of the book. But I think that what people are—when people say they love this book—they really talk about the characters and that friendship. And we all want friends like this, where we can go and—and—and have martinis together, and then if we—one of us needs to—we'll go help them bury a body.Multiple Speakers(All laughing)Tess GerritsenThat's—they all have shovels, and they're willing to do it. That's the kind of friendship—friends—we want.Jess LaheyWell, and that's funny you mention that—I had an entire question—it wasn't even a question, it was a statement—in here about friendships and being grateful to you for the reminder about the importance of relationships. And this entire podcast was born out of the fact that we were talking writing all the time, and we just wanted an official way to sit down once a week and actually talk about the work. And your work is suffused with just these incredible relationships—whether that's the Rizzoli and Isles—you know, in your first—in the one of your other series—and I'm just—I'm very grateful for that, because we—especially—I think I re—I really crave books about female relationships, especially about older female relationships. And I have been loving your books, and I've—like, as I may have mentioned to you in my initial email—I had—I'm so sorry—never read your books before. And I admitted in the introduction that there are lots of very, very famous authors whose books I have never read. And it's always so exciting to me to dive into someone's series and realize, oh, this person really touches on themes that mean a lot to me, and I can already tell that I'm going to be enjoying a lot of their books to come forward. So thank you for all of the great descriptions of relationships and how we do rely on each other for various aspects of just how we get through all of this stuff.Tess GerritsenYeah—get through life. But you know what's funny about it is that it didn't start that way. For instance, let's go back to Rizzoli and Isles. The very first time they both appear in a book is in The Apprentice. And they don't start off being friends. They start off being—they're so different. As the TV producer once said, “you've really written about Captain Kirk and Mr. Spock.” That's okay—they are—in the books. They are not natural friends. But like real-life friendships, sometimes—just kind of develop slowly, and—and they have their ups and downs. So there are times when—when Jane and Maura are barely speaking to each other because of conflicts they have. But by the time book twelve comes around—or maybe book seven comes around—you know that they would risk their lives for each other. So I think that if you're writing a series like Rizzoli and Isles, or like The Martini Club, it really helps to develop the friendship on the fly and see how they react to certain stresses. The next book, which I just turned in, called The Shadow Friends—it even put—pushes them even further, and it really—it really strains a marriage, because it's—it's more about Ingrid, and an old lover comes back into her life. She used to—they were both spies—and he is, like, hot, hot, hot—Antonio Banderas kind of guy. And here's Ingrid, married to Lloyd, you know, who's just a sweet analyst who cooks dinner for her every night. And I—when I was coming up with that story, I thought, I want to write a book about their marriage. So it wasn't—the plot wasn't about, oh, you know, international assassinations, even though that does occur in the book. It's really about the story of a marriage.Jess LaheyAnd it gives you, it gives you added unease. You know, if you have your two characters not speaking to each other, and you know your readers love those characters and crave those characters to be getting along at some point, then that's just another reason that we're following along. I was just thinking about, uh, Michael Connelly, uh, book the other day, because I really, really like the series he did with Renée Ballard and her relationship with the Bosch character, and how that series is totally about crime, but yet it's also very much about the relationship. And I think I follow—I continue to read those because of the relationship between those two human beings, and less so because of the murder mystery sort of stuff.Tess GerritsenI think it really becomes important if you're dealing also with Hollywood television series. I still remember what the producer first said when he called me up about Rizzoli and Isles. He said, "I love your girls, and I think they belong on TV.” He didn't say, I love your plots. He didn't say, I love your mysteries, you know, all your intricate ups and downs. It was really about the girls. So if you hope to sell to a television series, really, it's about characters again.Jess LaheyAbsolutely.Sarina BowenI was going to ask about longevity, because you have so many books, and you're so obviously still invigorated by the process, or there wouldn't be a book three that you just turned in. So how have you been able to avoid just being sick to death of—of writing suspense novel after suspense novel?Tess GerritsenI refused. That's what it is. You know, I—I don't—I guess I could say that I have a little bit of ADHD when it comes to—to the books I write. I cannot—after 13 books of Rizzoli and Isles, I just had a different idea. And it takes—it takes a certain amount of backbone to say no to your publisher, to your editor, to people who are going, well, when's the next one in this series coming out? And to be able to say, I need a break. I need to do something completely different. So over—how many years I've been a writer—almost 40 now—I've written science fiction and historicals and a ghost story and romantic suspense and spy novels and medical thrillers and crime novels. I've been all over the place, but each one of those books that took me out of what I was expected to do was so invigorating. It was a book that I needed to write. As an example, I wrote a book called Playing with Fire. Nobody wanted that book. Nobody expected that book. It was a historical about World War II, and about music—about the power of music—and having to do with the death camps. I remember my publisher going, "What are you doing?" And, you know, it's—it's true—they're—they—they are marketers, and they understood that that book would not sell as well, and it didn't. But it still remains one of my favorite books. And when you want to write a book, you need to write that book. That's all—even—even if nobody wants it.Jess LaheyI actually was—I'm so pleased that this came up, because that was actually going to be my question, because both you and Sarina have done this—done, you know, 90 degrees—whether it's out of, you know, one genre into another—and that, to me, requires an enormous amount of courage. Because you know you have people expecting things from you. And you in particular, Tess, have people saying, "No, I want the next one. I love this relationship. I want the next one." And—and dealing—you're not just dealing with the disappointment of whether it's an agent or an editor, but the disappointment of fans. And that's a pressure as well. So when I used to do journalism, I remember a question I asked of another journalist was, "How do you continue to write without fear of the comment section?" And essentially, for us, that's our—you know, those are our readers. So how do you find that thing within yourself to say, no, this really is the thing that I need to be writing now?Tess GerritsenWell, that is a really—it's a really tough decision to buck the trend or buck what everybody's expecting, because there's a thing in publishing called the death spiral. And if your book does not sell well, they will print fewer copies for the next one. And then that won't sell well. So you start—your career starts to go down the drain. And that is a danger every time you step out of your tried and true series and do something out of—you know, completely out of the ordinary. I think the reason I did it was that I really didn't give a damn. It was—it was like, Okay, maybe this will kill my career, but I've got to write this book. And it was always with the idea that if my publisher did not want that, I would just self-publish. I would just, you know, find another way to get it out there. And I—I was warned, rightly so, that your sales will not be good for this book, and that will—it will hurt the next contract. And I understood that. But it was the only way I could keep my career going. Once you get bored, and you're—you're trapped in a drawer, I think it shows up in your writing.Jess LaheyI had this very conversation with my agent. The—my first book did well. And so then, you know, the expectation is, I'll write like part two of that, or I'll write something for that exact same audience again. And when I told my agent—I said, "You know, this book on substance use prevention and kids—I—it's—I have to write it. And I'm going to write it even, you know, if I have to go out there and sell it out of the trunk of my car." And she said, "Okay, then I guess we're doing this." And yes...Tess Gerritsen(Laughing) They had their best wishes at heart.Jess LaheyAnd honestly, I love—I loved my book that did well. But The Addiction Inoculation is the book I'm most proud of. And, you know, that's—yeah, that's been very important to me.Tess GerritsenI often hear from writers that the book that sold the fewest copies was one that was—were their favorites. Those are the ones that they took a risk on, that they—I mean, they put their heart and soul into it. And maybe those hurt their careers, but those are the ones that we end up being proud of.Jess LaheyI like to remind Sarina of that, because I do remember we text each other constantly. We have a little group, the three of us, a little group text all day long. And there was—I remember when she first wrote a male-male romance, she was scared. She was really scared that this was going to be too different for her readers. And it ended up being, I think, my favorite book that she's ever written, and also a very important book for her in terms of her career development and growth, and what she loves about the work that she does. And so I like to remind her every once in a while, remember when you said that really scared you and you weren't sure how your readers were going to handle it?Sarina BowenRight? Well, I also did that in the middle of a series, and I went looking for confirmation that that is a thing that people did sometimes, and it was not findable. You know, that was...Jess LaheyWhat? Change things up in terms of—change things up in the middle of a series?Sarina BowenIn the middle of a series. And anyway, that book still sells.Tess GerritsenThat is a great act of courage, but it's also an act of confidence in yourself as a writer. There are ways to do it. I think some writers will just adopt a different pen name for something that's way out there.Jess LaheyIt's funny you should say... it's funny you should say that.Sarina BowenWell, no, and I never have done that, but, um—but anyway, yeah, that's hard. I, uh...Jess LaheyYeah.Sarina BowenIt's hard to know. Sometimes...Jess LaheyWe entertain it all the time. We do talk about that as an option all the time. Shouldn't we just pick up and do something completely different? One of the things that I also—I mentioned at the top of the podcast about, you know, you went off—not only have you done lots of different things in terms of your writing—but you went off and you did an entire documentary about pigs. I have—I have to ask you where on earth that came from and why. And it is a total delight, as I mentioned, and I have already recommended it to two people that I know also love the topic. But, you know, to go off—and especially when you usually, as some of us have experienced—our agents saying, so when am I going to see more pages? or when am I going to see the next book? And you say, I'm really sorry, but I have to go off and film this documentary about pigs.Tess GerritsenYes. Well, you know, I was an anthropology major in college, and I've always been interested in the pig taboo. You know, back then, everybody just assumed it was because, yeah, it was disease or they're dirty animals—that's why they're forbidden food. It never quite convinced me, because I'm Chinese-American. Asia—you know, Asia loves pork. Why aren't they worried about all that? So I was in Istanbul for a book tour once, and I remember I really wanted bacon, and, you know, I couldn't get bacon. And then I thought, okay, I really need to find out why pork is forbidden. This is a—this is a cultural and historical mystery that never made sense to me. The explanations just never made sense to me. It cannot be trichinosis. So I told my son that—my son is—he does—he's a filmmaker as well. And he just said, "Well, let's do it. Let's—we will pose it as a mystery," because it is a mystery. So it took us probably two years to go and—you know, we interviewed anthropologists and pet pig owners and archaeologists, actually, just to find out, what do they say? What is the answer to this? And to us, the answer really just came down to this cultural desire for every—every tribe—to define us versus them. You know, they eat pigs. They're not us, so therefore they're the enemy. And it was fascinating because we—we ended up finding out more about pigs than I was expecting, and also finding out that people who have pet pigs can sometimes be a little unusual.Jess LaheyAnd the people who purchase the clothes for the pigs are also crazy.Tess GerritsenYes. Sew outfits for their pigs and sleep with their pigs. And there was—there was one woman who had—she slept on the second floor of her house, so she had an elevator for her pig who couldn't make it up the stairs, and, you know, ramps to get up onto the bed because they've gotten so fat—they've been overfed. But it was—for me, at the heart of it was a mystery.Jess LaheyAs a nonfiction author whose whole entire reason for being is, "I don't know—let's find out," I think that's just the most delightful thing. And I loved your framing as, "I don't know, we have this question, let's go out there and just ask people about it and find the experts." And that's—oh, I could just live on that stuff. So...Tess GerritsenSo could I. You know, research is so enticing. It's enticing. It is—it can get you into trouble because you never write your book. Some of us just love to do the research.Jess LaheySarina actually has taken skating lessons, done glass blowing—what else have you done? Yoga classes and all—all kinds of things in the pursuit of knowledge for her characters. And I think that's a delight.Sarina BowenYes. If you can sign up for a class as part of your research, like, that is just the best day. Like, you know, oh, I must take these ice skating lessons twice a day for five months, because—yeah—or twice a week, but still.Tess GerritsenYou must be a good ice skater then.Sarina BowenI'm getting better.Tess GerritsenSo you never gave them up, I see.Jess LaheyWell, it's fun because she usually writes about hockey, but she has a figure skater coming up in this book that's coming out this fall. And she's like, "Well, I guess I'm just going to have to learn how to figure skate."Tess GerritsenYeah.Sarina BowenI also—one time I went to see Rebecca Skloot speak about her big nonfiction The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks.Tess GerritsenOh, okay.Sarina BowenAnd she said that all her best ideas had come from moments in her life when she went, "Wait, what?!"Tess GerritsenYes. Yep.Sarina BowenIncluding for The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks. Like, she learned about the cells in high school—she was in high school biology class—and the teacher said, like, "This woman died in the '60s, but we're still using her cells," and she said, "Wait, what?!" And that's—that's what you made me think of with the pigs. Like, I think...Jess LaheyWell, and also your folder of ideas. I mean, I immediately texted Sarina after listening to a podcast where I heard an ad, and the ad made me go, "Oh that could be creepy." And then I'm like, "Okay, this is—this is a plot. This is going in the folder somewhere." And so you have to just think about how those things could unfold over time. And I love the idea of—and even in journalism—there are articles that I've written where I said, this just isn't their time. And then, like, five years later, I'll hear something out there, and I'm like, okay, finally, it's the time for this thing. And there's a reason you put that article in your idea—in your paper—manila folder of ideas.Tess GerritsenWell, I think writers are—we have to be curious. We have to be engaged in what's going on around us, because the ideas are everywhere. And I have this—I like to say I have a formula. It's called "two plus two equals five." And what that means is, sometimes you'll have a—you'll have a piece of information that, you know, there's a book here, but you haven't figured out what to do with it. And you wait for another piece of information from some completely different source, and you put them together, and they end up being like nuclear fusion—bigger than the…Sarina BowenYes!Jess LaheyYes!Tess GerritsenSome of the parts.Sarina BowenMost every book I've ever written works like that. Like, I have one idea that I drag around for, like, five years, and then I have this other idea, and one day I'm like, oh, those two things go together.Tess GerritsenYep.Jess LaheyYeah, absolutely. I think Stephen King mentioned that about Carrie. I think it was like, telekinesis, and that usually starts about the time of menstruation, and it was like, boom, there was Carrie. You know, those two things came together. I love that so much. So you mentioned that you have just handed in your next book, and we don't—we do not, as a rule, ask about what's next for an author, because I find that to be an incredibly intimidating and horrifying question to be asked. But I would love to hear; you know, is this—is this series one that you hope to continue working on? The main series, mainly because we have quite fallen in love with your little town in Maine—in Purity, Maine. Fantastic name for your town, by the way. It's really lovely. It creates such a nice dichotomy for these people who have seen and heard things during their careers that maybe are quite dark, and then they retire to a place called Purity. Is this a place where we can hopefully spend a little bit of time?Tess GerritsenWell, I am thinking about book number four now. I have an idea. You know, it always starts with—it starts with an idea and doodling around and trying to figure out what—you know, you start with this horrible situation, and then you have to explain it. So that's where I am now. I have this horrible situation, I have to explain it. So, yeah, I'm thinking about book four. I don't know how—you never know how long a series is going to go. It's a little tough because I have my characters who are internationally based—I mean, they've been around the world—but then I can't leave behind my local cop who is also a part of this group as well. So I have to keep an eye out on Maine being the center of most of the action.Sarina BowenRight, because how many international plots can you give Purity, Maine?Tess GerritsenThat's right, exactly. Well, luckily…Jess LaheyLook, Murder, She Wrote—how many things happened to that woman in that small town?Tess GerritsenExactly, exactly. Well, luckily, because I have so many CIA retirees up here, the international world comes to us. Like the next book, The Shadow Friends, is about a global security conference where one of the speakers gets murdered. And it turns out we have a global security conference right here in our town that was started by CIA 40 years ago. So I'm just—I'm just piggybacking on reality here. And—not that the spies up here think that's very amusing.Sarina BowenThat is fantastic, because, you know, the essential problem of writing a suspense novel is that you have to ground it in a reality that everyone is super familiar with, and you have to bring in this explosive bit of action that is unlikely to happen near any of us. And those two things have to fit together correctly. So by, um, by putting your retired spies in this tiny town, you have sort of, like, gifted yourself with that, you know, precise problem solver.Tess GerritsenYeah, reminding us.Sarina BowenYeah.Tess GerritsenBut there's only so far I can take that. I'm not sure what the limits... I think book four is going to take them all overseas, because my local cop, Jo, she's never been out of the country—except for Canada—and it's time for her dad to drag her over to Italy and say, "Your dead mom wanted to come to Italy, so I'm taking you." And, of course, things go wrong in Italy for Jo.Jess LaheyOf course, of course. Well, we're going to keep just banging on about how much we love these books. I think we've already mentioned it in three podcast episodes so far in our “What have you been reading lately that you've really loved?” So we're—we're big fans. And thank you so much for sitting down to talk with us and to—you know, one of the whole points of our podcast is to flatten the learning curve for other authors, so we hope that that's done a little bit of that for our listeners. And again, thank you so much. Where can people find you and your work if they want to learn a little bit more about Tess Gerritsen—her work?Tess GerritsenYou can go to TessGerritsen.com, and I try to post as much information there as I can. But I'm also at Bluesky, @TessGerritsen, and what is now called “X”—a legacy person on X—@TessGerritsen, yes.Jess LaheyThank you so, so much again. And for everyone out there listening, keep your butt in the chair and your head in the game.The Hashtag AmWriting Podcast is produced by Andrew Perella. Our intro music—aptly titled Unemployed Monday—was written and played by Max Cohen. Andrew and Max were paid for their time and their creative output, because everyone deserves to be paid for their work. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit amwriting.substack.com/subscribe