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These are clips highlighting some of the topics discussed in the full episode! Check it out if you want a bite-sized version of the full episode. Multiple award-winning hairstylist and educator @glam.breanne credits hair competitions in refining her skills as well as adding new ones to her skillset. We discuss the importance of creativity, persistence, and the emotional aspects of sharing art. She also talks about the investment required in the world of editorial work and the balance between artistic expression and commercial success. This Week's Topics: Transitioning from Salon to Education The Evolution of Editorial Work Challenges and Rewards of Competitions The Creative Process in Hair Artistry Investing in Your Craft The Importance of External Feedback Perfectionism and Vulnerability in Art The Impact of Criticism on Creatives Balancing Passion and Profession The Essence of Artistic Integrity Video versions of our episodes are on our YouTube channel for you to watch! Subscribe to our channel The Hair Game on YouTube and check out ‘The Hair Game Podcast' playlist. Our podcast thrives on the opinions of you, the listener... if you have a moment (and you are an Apple user), please leave us a rating & review on the Apple podcasts app or iTunes! Here's what you do: - Scroll down to 'Ratings & Reviews' - Click on the empty purple stars (5 is the best)! - Click on ‘Write a Review' and let us know what you love most! Each rating & review helps us reach more and more of your fellow hair loves, and our goal is to help as many hairdressers as we can find success. Thanks in advance! FOLLOW US http://www.instagram.com/thehairgamepodcast http://www.instagram.com/salonrepublic http://www.instagram.com/loveerictaylor
Multiple award-winning hairstylist and educator @glam.breanne credits hair competitions in refining her skills as well as adding new ones to her skillset. We discuss the importance of creativity, persistence, and the emotional aspects of sharing art. She also talks about the investment required in the world of editorial work and the balance between artistic expression and commercial success. This Week's Topics: Transitioning from Salon to Education The Evolution of Editorial Work Challenges and Rewards of Competitions The Creative Process in Hair Artistry Investing in Your Craft The Importance of External Feedback Perfectionism and Vulnerability in Art The Impact of Criticism on Creatives Balancing Passion and Profession The Essence of Artistic Integrity Video versions of our episodes are on our YouTube channel for you to watch! Subscribe to our channel The Hair Game on YouTube and check out ‘The Hair Game Podcast' playlist. Our podcast thrives on the opinions of you, the listener... if you have a moment (and you are an Apple user), please leave us a rating & review on the Apple podcasts app or iTunes! Here's what you do: - Scroll down to 'Ratings & Reviews' - Click on the empty purple stars (5 is the best)! - Click on ‘Write a Review' and let us know what you love most! Each rating & review helps us reach more and more of your fellow hair loves, and our goal is to help as many hairdressers as we can find success. Thanks in advance! FOLLOW US http://www.instagram.com/thehairgamepodcast http://www.instagram.com/salonrepublic http://www.instagram.com/loveerictaylor
In this powerful episode of Mindset Mastery Moments, host Dr. Alisa Whyte sits down with transformational speaker and bestselling author Melissa Osorio. Together, they explore the profound impact of trauma and the transformative journey to healing through resilience and innovative therapies like ayahuasca.Melissa opens up about her experiences overcoming childhood trauma, emotional detachment, and self-doubt—offering hope, honesty, and inspiration to anyone who has ever carried pain in silence. Through vulnerability and memory, Melissa reveals how we can reclaim our stories, rediscover purpose, and step into authentic healing.Whether you're navigating your own trauma or supporting someone on their journey, this episode reminds us all that resilience isn't just about surviving — it's about rising stronger and creating a life filled with meaning and peace.
“When your inner compass points toward your values, joy, and authenticity, then you win. Because beauty begins the moment you decide to be yourself.” This week on Universal Man, Grego and Pricey unpack the idea of your Success Avatar - that inner image or hero you measure yourself against. They explore what real success looks like when it's aligned with your values, how to avoid false idols and one-dimensional measures, and how to build a life that's authentically yours. http://universalman.org/podcast/your-success-avatar REGISTER FOR OUR NEXT CAMP IN YOUR AREA: universalman.org/camps In this episode we talk about: Redefining success through your own values, not borrowed ideals Spotting the danger of one-dimensional or superficial success Letting go of false heroes and building your authentic avatar Staying grounded and gentle with yourself when goals shift, and Evolving your definition of success across life's changing chapters. Stay legendary, Grego and Pricey Connect with Universal Man
We're kicking off a new series called "Songs of the Shepherd King" exploring the life and songs of David, the unlikely king, the vulnerable poet, and the one “after God's own heart.” In this message, Pastor Chris invites us into the honest and emotional world of the Psalms, a book that trains us in honest prayer, where nothing is off-limits before God.
In this deeply personal piece, Jon shares something raw and different ... a song born straight from his journaling practice.After years of living by duty, discipline, and performance, Jon found himself realizing he'd lost touch with the part of him that once felt fully alive.That reflection became a song called “Called Home to Yourself.”Through honest storytelling and emotional depth, Jon opens up about what it means to wake up after years on autopilot... to remember the child you once were, the fire you once carried, and the freedom of feeling seen again.This song isn't about perfection (nor is it perfect)... it's about presence.It's about rediscovering who you are beneath the roles, the ranks, and the noise of everyday life.If you've ever felt that quiet ache... that pull toward something real... this episode is for you.Because sometimes, the bravest thing we can do is stop running, listen, and come home.Listen to “Called Home to Yourself” — written and performed by... well, AI!!Hosted by Jon Macaskill | Men Talking MindfulnessHosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.
Most leaders think they're self-aware—but 87% are missing the critical skill that separates good leaders from exceptional ones. Dr. Joel Pérez, leadership development expert and author of "Dear White Leader," reveals how cultural humility and true self-awareness transform your leadership effectiveness.
Hello to you listening in Roseau, Capital of Dominica, Lesser Antilles!Coming to you from Whidbey Island, Washington this is Stories From Women Who Walk with 60 Seconds for Story Prompt Friday and your host, Diane Wyzga.Many people are under the impression that the Hero's Journey made famous by Joseph Campbell is about an external journey to vanquish foes and return with some Truth.In truth, the real journey is an internal one. The Hero is called to a task that is not at the surface of her being; rather, the task requires her to do what I have called for some 30 years now an “archeological dig on oneself.” It's serious stuff. No wonder the Hero resists.We think we can remain emotionally safe by hiding our vulnerability. The problem is that as long as we resist the call (and I know well how I resisted the call to leave behind my Voiceless Victim self) we will never be able to live our Truth, never experience our Essence.Yes, the Hero goes out on a quest; but that external journey is just the stage on which the story is played. Saying Yes! to the Hero's Journey begins the inner journey work, the transformation that allows us to move out of our fear to courage, from being stuck in our old identity to living alive and awake, realizing our true potential, fulfilling our destiny, or experiencing our longed-for heart's desire.Story Prompt: What are you finally ready to trade by saying Yes! to walking the Hero's Journey? Write that story! And tell it out loud! And, if you could use a hand with your transformation work, I'm here at Quarter Moon Story Arts! Contact me. You're always welcome: "Come for the stories - Stay for the magic!" Speaking of magic, I hope you'll subscribe, share a 5-star rating and nice review on your social media or podcast channel of choice, bring your friends and rellies, and join us! You will have wonderful company as we continue to walk our lives together. Be sure to stop by my Quarter Moon Story Arts website, check out the Services, arrange a no-obligation Discovery Call, and stay current with me as "Wyzga on Words" on Substack.Stories From Women Who Walk Production TeamPodcaster: Diane F Wyzga & Quarter Moon Story ArtsMusic: Mer's Waltz from Crossing the Waters by Steve Schuch & Night Heron MusicALL content and image © 2019 to Present Quarter Moon Story Arts. All rights reserved. If you found this podcast episode helpful, please consider sharing and attributing it to Diane Wyzga of Stories From Women Who Walk podcast with a link back to the original source.
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webctrl.cgi/Blue Angel Software Suite Exploit Attempts. Maybe CVE-2025-34033 Variant? Our honeypots detected attacks that appear to exploit CVE-2025-34033 or a similar vulnerability in the Blue Angle Software Suite. https://isc.sans.edu/diary/webctrlcgiBlue+Angel+Software+Suite+Exploit+Attempts+Maybe+CVE202534033+Variant/32410 Oracle Critical Patch Update Oracle released its quarterly critical patch update. The update includes patches for 374 vulnerabilities across all of Oracle s products. There are nine more patches for Oracle s e-Business Suite. https://www.oracle.com/security-alerts/cpuoct2025.html#AppendixEBS Rust TAR Library Vulnerability A vulnerability in the popular, but no longer maintained, async-tar vulnerability could lead to arbitrary code execution https://edera.dev/stories/tarmageddon
RESOURCES- Sign up for my inspirational newsletter for FREE at danettemay.com CONNECT WITH DANETTEInstagram: @thedanettemayFacebook: Danette MayTikTok: @thedanettemayNEW TV Show on Youtube: @TheDanetteMayListen to The Danette May ShowRead my book: danettemay.com/embraceabundancebookGet The Rise book: therisebook.comWork with Danette: danettemay.comIn this episode of The Danette May Show, I open up about the shadow parts of my unworthiness, shame, and the deep fear of not being liked or included. I share the real, raw truth about my struggles with vulnerability hangovers—the moments after social interactions when I question everything I said or did. Through my own healing journey, I explore how childhood wounds and experiences of rejection shaped my beliefs around friendship, loyalty, and self-worth. This conversation is an honest reflection on how unhealed fears can isolate us, and how shining light on our shadows can free us from old stories of not being enough.As I speak from my heart, I hope you feel inspired to look at your own patterns of self-doubt and unworthiness. This episode is for anyone doing the deep inner work of healing shame, reclaiming authentic connection, and learning to trust themselves again. Together, we explore how bringing awareness and compassion to our shadow parts can help us create more genuine relationships, self-acceptance, and emotional freedom. Tune in to this episode to join me in this vulnerable, soul-healing conversation about belonging, worthiness, and love.IN THIS EPISODE:(0:00) Introduction and vulnerability, why showing up authentically matters(1:11) Fear of rejection and friendship struggles, overcoming the barriers to real connection(3:04) Vulnerability hangover: how opening up can feel risky but rewarding(4:36) Deep-seated fears and self-realization(9:14) Childhood memories and isolation: how early experiences shape relationships(11:52) Practical tips to live and love authentically(15:07) Conclusion and call to action – turning vulnerability into strength and meaningful connection
We live in a culture that celebrates hustle, output, and the badge of being “always on.” But what happens when your body or relationships force you to pause? That pause can become the most important pivot of your life.In this powerful episode, I sit down with Melissa Gonzalez, entrepreneur, author, and strategist, to discuss her new book, The Purpose Pivot. After a medical emergency in early 2024 stopped her in her tracks, Melissa redefined what it means to lead, live, and prioritize what truly matters.Together, we unpack her transformation from Wall Street to entrepreneurship, the wake-up call that changed everything, and how she built a practical, human-centered framework for sustainable success. Melissa shares the lessons she learned from interviewing three dozen women about balancing ambition with well-being, and she breaks down how to integrate purpose and presence into every area of life.Key Topics We Cover:
In this deeply vulnerable episode, Dara explores why we resist the very tools that could transform our lives, using a client's confession about avoiding thought downloads as the starting point for understanding our patterns of self-sabotage. Key Topics Covered:
In this episode of Mommywood, host Emily talks with Beth Crosby, known as Garbage Mom on Instagram. They explore the chaotic yet beautiful world of motherhood, the challenges of aging, and the importance of honesty and humor in parenting. Beth shares her journey of creating a community through her comedic content, the realities of being a 'Garbage Mom', and her aspirations for future projects, including a unique music festival celebrating women in midlife. The conversation is raw, funny, and relatable, making it a must-listen for moms everywhere.Chapters00:00 Welcome to Mommy Wood03:15 The Birth of Garbage Mom12:54 Navigating Motherhood and Aging20:09 The Vulnerability of Sharing24:47 Acting and Motherhood: A Balancing Act30:25 Navigating Self-Taping Challenges33:11 Balancing Family and Public Life34:35 Advice to Pre-Mom Self38:47 The Reality of Parenting and Career40:16 Future Aspirations and Creative Projects43:58 Rapid Fire Parenting QuestionsTakeawaysBeth Crosby embraces the imperfections of motherhood.The term 'Garbage Mom' is a badge of honor for real moms.Comedy can be a powerful tool for connection among mothers.Navigating the transition from young mom to midlife is challenging.Honesty in parenting can create a supportive community.Social media can amplify the voices of mothers.It's important to share experiences while respecting children's privacy.The pressure to be funny can be overwhelming for content creators.Creating content can be a form of therapy for mothers.Future projects can stem from personal experiences and community needs.
Send us a textIn this heart-forward episode, Julie sits down with author and “rebel hugger” Melinda Lee Schmitt to explore the healing power of hugs, courageous boundaries, and how to follow your inner rebel—that calm, authentic voice inside that guides you toward truth. We talk about practicing 20-second hugs, reading energy and consent, loving ourselves first, and the surprising path that led Melinda to serve as a church “vibe keeper.” If you've been craving deeper connection without abandoning your own needs, this one's for you.
Get ready to laugh, cry, and go head-to-head with two of Australia's most loved comedians. Denise Scott and Matt Okine are Mother and Son (the remix). And as the second series comes to a close on ABC TV and ABC iview, I roped them in to Take 5.A bit out of the ordinary, but oh boy, they embraced it. This is beautiful and hilarious Take 5, and you're gonna walk away from it feeling all the richer.Denise Scott and Matt Okine's song choices:1.Neil Young - 'Only Love Can Break Your Heart'2.Bruce Springsteen - 'Thunder Road'3.Jordie Lane - 'New Normal'4.Radiohead - 'Paranoid Android'5.Bag Raiders - 'Shooting Stars'00:00 Introduction and Overview00:14 Denise Scott's Journey in Comedy00:37 Mother and Son Reboot00:55 Personal Stories and Reflections01:25 Behind the Scenes of Mother and Son03:16 The Origin of the Reboot Idea05:29 Musical Memories and Mix Tapes05:36 SONG 1: Neil Young - 'Only Love Can Break Your Heart'09:12 Heartbreak and Humor13:58 SONG 2: Bruce Springsteen - 'Thunder Road'18:19 Family Dynamics and Aging21:07 The Vulnerability of Performing21:36 Denise's Son Jordie Lane and His Music21:42 SONG 3: Jordie Lane - 'New Normal'24:58 Scotty's New Standup Show Tickety Boo27:18 SONG 4: Radiohead - 'Paranoid Android'28:46 The death of Matt's mother33:45 Judith Lucy and Denise's secret - The Power Weep36:16 SONG 5: Bag Raiders - 'Shooting Stars'39:28 Conclusion and Next Episode with Noel GallagherWatch Mother and Son on ABC iview:https://iview.abc.net.au/show/mother-and-son
Why are nurses a favorite target for horror movie villains? Why are nurses seen in movies as either sexy, satanic or dieties? In this spine-chilling episode of The Gritty Nurse, Amie Archibald-Varley and Guest Host Jordan Varley discuss the dark side of cinema's obsession with healthcare horror and nursing horror tropes. We cover everything from the psychological weight of nurse stereotypes and the real-world terror of nurse killers, to the unsettling history of asylums and our ingrained fears of medical procedures. Get ready for a thought-provoking analysis of horror film tropes and cultural perceptions of mental health. Tune in for expert commentary and find out which horror movies you must watch next. Ideal for fans of psychological thrillers and medical horror. Takeaways Horror films often reflect societal fears about vulnerability in healthcare. Nurses are frequently depicted as villainous in horror, which can perpetuate harmful stereotypes. Real-life cases of nurse killers highlight the darker side of the profession. The portrayal of asylums in horror films often exaggerates historical realities. Fear of medical procedures is a common theme in horror, tapping into real anxieties. Cultural perceptions of mental health are often shaped by horror narratives. The sexy nurse trope undermines the professionalism of nursing. Horror can serve as a lens to examine deeper psychological issues. The evolution of horror tropes reflects changing societal attitudes towards healthcare. Personal experiences with horror films can reveal underlying fears and anxieties. Chapters 00:00Exploring the Intersection of Healthcare and Horror 01:52Nurse Stereotypes in Horror Films 04:33The Villainous Nurse Archetype 06:59Real-Life Nurse Killers and Their Impact 09:56The Role of Asylums in Horror 12:26Psychological Fears and Vulnerability in Healthcare 15:11The Evolution of Horror Tropes 18:18The Fear of Medical Procedures 20:10Cultural Perceptions of Mental Health 23:06The Future of Horror in Healthcare 25:39Top Horror Movie Recommendations
Young women face unprecedented pressures about sexuality and relationships. On today's edition of Family Talk, Dr. James Dobson continues his insightful conversation with Dr. Joe McIlhaney and Dr. Freda McKissic-Bush about their book, Girls Uncovered. They share astonishing research on how sexual activity affects young women emotionally, physically, and spiritually. Discover how parents can protect their daughters and teach biblical truth about God's design for sexuality. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/707/29
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What time is it? Accuracy of pool.ntp.org. How accurate and reliable is pool.ntp.org? Turns out it is very good! https://isc.sans.edu/diary/What%20time%20is%20it%3F%20Accuracy%20of%20pool.ntp.org./32390 Xubuntu Compromise The Xubuntu website was compromised last weekend and served malware https://floss.social/@bluesabre/115401767635718361 Squid Proxy Vulnerability The Squid team fixed an information disclosure vulnerabilty that may leak authentication credentials. https://github.com/squid-cache/squid/security/advisories/GHSA-c8cc-phh7-xmxr Lanscope Endpoint Manager Vulnerablity https://jvn.jp/en/jp/JVN86318557/index.html
‘Drugs don't alter your boredom, a drug doesn't end your sorrow. You may escape for the time being, but there is still sorrow.' This episode on Drugs has six sections. The first extract (2:42) is from Krishnamurti's first talk in Amsterdam 1971, and is titled: Why Do You Take Drugs? The second extract (8:39) is from a discussion with students in Ojai 1966, and is titled: Taking Drugs Is Nothing New. The third extract (17:24) is from Krishnamurti's fourth talk at Brockwood Park in 1971, and is titled: Can Drugs Reveal the Whole of Consciousness? The fourth extract (28:32) is from Krishnamurti's fourth talk in Saanen 1971, and is titled: Dependency on Drugs. The fifth extract (38:49) is from Krishnamurti's fourth talk in Santa Monica 1971, and is titled: Drugs Are an Impediment to Inquiry. The final extract in this episode (55:49) is from the fourth talk in San Diego 1970, and is titled: Live a Beautiful Life Without Taking Drugs. The Krishnamurti Podcast features selected extracts from Krishnamurti's recorded talks. Each episode highlights his different approaches to universal and timeless themes that affect our everyday lives, the state of the world and the future of humanity. This episode's theme is Drugs. Upcoming themes are Goodness & Generosity, Civilisation and Vulnerability. This is a podcast from Krishnamurti Foundation Trust, based at Brockwood Park in the UK, which is also home to The Krishnamurti Centre. The Centre offers a variety of group retreats, including for young adults. There is also a volunteer programme. The atmosphere at the Centre is one of openness and friendliness, with a sense of freedom to inquire with others and alone. Please visit krishnamurticentre.org.uk for more information. You can also find our regular Krishnamurti quotes and videos on Instagram, TikTok and Facebook at Krishnamurti Foundation Trust. If you enjoy the podcast, please leave a review or rating on your podcast app.
Welcome back! This week I sit down with Ryan Miller James to unpack his mission to equip 3,000,000 men to become all God created them to be—radically following Christ, showing up as exceptional husbands and fathers, and thriving in business. We dig into why digitized “self-help” left men lonelier than ever, how real change happens in community, and the power of identity (moving from “I'm an addict” to I'm recovered). We also get practical: group work vs. solo work, breaking chaos addiction as entrepreneurs, using parts work (IFS) to love the old versions of ourselves, and choosing a simpler, more sovereign “king” energy that puts faith, family, health before everything else.Key Highlights:- The 3M Mission: Ryan shares a God-given vision to impact 3,000,000 men—and what “equipped” actually looks like at home, at work, and in faith.- Why courses weren't enough: Post-2020, digitizing growth often amplified isolation. Men don't just need more content; they need brothers.- Identity vs labels: The danger of living as “I am an addict / adulterer / 7-figure entrepreneur.” How to anchor identity in Christ and move forward.- Recovered vs. in recovery: Language matters. We talk about the shift from carrying a permanent label to embodying a new life—with vigilance.- Chaos addiction for entrepreneurs: When things finally get peaceful, we self-sabotage. How to spot it, stop it, and build stability without drama.- Parts work (IFS) in practice: You won't outrun old versions of you. Learn to see, love, and integrate them so you can become whole.- The palm-tree posture: Build inner strength so external storms don't snap you—they bend around you.- From prince to king: Setting boundaries, saying no, elevating standards, and leading from a sovereign heart.- The power of going first: Vulnerability gives other men permission to tell the truth and heal.- Community beats secrecy: Men's groups, in-person reps, and why simply showing up breaks the lie that you're alone.You're not behind—you're becoming. Drop the lone-wolf act, pick up brotherhood, and let your identity lead your habits. If this episode hit home, share it with a friend who needs a nudge back into community.
Dr. Krista Scott-Dixon is a trained counselor specializing in the psychology of behavior change, with certifications in motivational interviewing, solution-focused therapy, DBT, CBT, and trauma counseling.She's the author of numerous books and accredited nutrition, sleep, stress, and recovery courses. She is our go-to performance psych, working one-on-one with many of our clients to sharpen the mental and emotional skills needed to handle some of the toughest training courses in the world.In this episode, we're talking to KSD about the coaching work she does with active and aspiring operators, focusing on the central themes and patterns she often uses to help people excel in their careers and become more capable and resilient. Learn more about working with KSD: https://www.buildingtheelite.com/performance-psych-coaching/Follow KSD on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stumptuousTimestamps:00:23 Introduction to Dr. Krista Scott-Dixon01:12 Common Themes in Special Operations Selection03:42 Getting Distracted by Misconceptions08:11 Paradox of High Standards While Facing Setbacks13:36 The Vulnerability of Overthinking18:53 The Concept of Self-Compassion25:11 The Value of Coaching Yourself Positively30:25 The Concept of Fun - Do it Seriously, Don't Take it Seriously38:09 Weaving Fun into Intense Training43:07 Appreciation of Nature and Disasters 47:03 Training That's Too Strict Can Steal Joy from Life 49:58 The Concept of Competition54:43 What Does Neurodivergence Mean?1:00:46 Distinguishing Between Self-Deficits or Neurological Differences1:06:22 Behavioral Red Flags within Military Tactical Populations1:12:36 Strategies for Those that Fall into a Neurodivergent Category1:16:16 What is Stimming and What Does It Do?1:18:53 The Impact of Time Spent Alone Doing Something Meaningless1:24:44 Dr. Krista Scott-Dixon's Book Recommendations1:26:23 Outro
In this episode, host Marcus Aurelius Anderson sits down with Claude Silver, the world’s first Chief Heart Officer at VaynerX and author of "Be Yourself At Work." Together, they explore the power of authentic leadership, building resilient workplace cultures, and the importance of empathy and self-awareness in professional growth. Episode Highlights: [0:49] Introduction to Claude Silver and her role as Chief Heart Officer at VaynerX [13:14] Claude discusses fear, insecurity, and authenticity in the workplace [13:72] Shifting leadership paradigms: trust, vulnerability, and communication [14:26] Building resilience through adversity and the value of transparent feedback About Claude Silver:Claude Silver is the Chief Heart Officer at VaynerX, where she partners with CEO Gary Vaynerchuk to cultivate a people-first culture. With over a decade in her unique role, Claude is recognized for pioneering empathetic leadership and fostering environments where individuals can thrive by being their authentic selves. She is the author of "Be Yourself At Work," a book dedicated to empowering individuals and teams to lead with heart, courage, and vulnerability. Learn more about the gift of Adversity and my mission to help my fellow humans create a better world by heading to www.marcusaureliusanderson.com. There you can take action by joining my ANV inner circle to get exclusive content and information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Business runs on trust. And there is no real trust without vulnerability. So why is there so little appropriate vulnerability at work? In this episode, Chad shares the three big hindrances to vulnerability and how you can overcome them to create high performing teams. Audio Production by Podsworth Media - https://podsworth.com
Discover how AI is revolutionizing the world of security in this episode of GRC Chats! We discussed the "210% rise in vulnerability findings" uncovered in the latest Hacker Powered Security Report with Laurie Mercer, Senior Director of Solutions at HackerOne. Laurie shares exclusive insights into the dramatic growth of AI-powered systems, the evolving landscape of vulnerabilities, and the rise of AI-enabled hack bots. Learn how organizations can adapt to this rapidly changing environment to stay ahead in Risk Management, Cyber Security, and ethical hacking.
Today's culture has normalized teen sexual activity, but at what cost? On today's edition of Family Talk, Dr. James Dobson welcomes Dr. Joe McIlhaney and Dr. Freda McKissic-Bush to discuss their eye-opening book, Girls Uncovered. They reveal the hidden dangers of sexual promiscuity, and share critical medical evidence that every parent needs to protect their daughters from society's deception. To support this ministry financially, visit: https://www.oneplace.com/donate/707/29
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What does it actually look like to live your purpose while growing a business, being in the public eye, and staying true to yourself? In this episode, Sarah sits down with powerhouse entrepreneur and reality TV star Lateshia Pearson for a heart-opening conversation on empowerment, authenticity, and navigating life's curveballs with grace and grit. From the magic behind her Mingling Over Mimosas event to the raw realities of being vulnerable on reality TV, Lateshia shares how she built a brand from scratch, how she pushes past fear, and why living in her purpose is non-negotiable. What You'll Learn Lateshia's journey to building a brand – with zero blueprint Why fear of not getting back up is bigger than fear of failing Overcoming self-doubt with affirmations, clarity—and flow The story behind her networking brunch that sparked a movement Showing up authentically, even when the cameras are rolling Why creating safe, supportive spaces for women of color matters so much Whether you're deep in the grind or dreaming of your next pivot, this episode is full of wisdom, warmth, and real talk that every woman needs to hear. Let's talk purpose, power, and staying true—no matter what. Listen now wherever you get your podcasts. Related Episodes You Might Love Episode 287: Overcoming Fear in Business https://sarahwalton.com/wealth-transfer-women/ Episode 294: Building Authentic Brands That Sell https://sarahwalton.com/scale-business-without-burnout/ Episode 298: Work-Life Integration for Entrepreneurs https://sarahwalton.com/infinite-banking-women-entrepreneurs/ Connect with Lateshia Pearson here Instagram: @lateshiapearson_ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lateshianechelle/ Website: www.lateshiapearson.com About Lateshia Pearson Lateshia Pearson is changing the mindset of individuals across the globe. Lateshia is the founder of Women Brunch, a platform for female entrepreneurs and aspiring entrepreneurs. The CEO of Lateshia Pearson Enterprise, Inc., a luxury marketing and branding company, and the founder of Empower Me Sis, which is a mentorship program for women. Lateshia is a savvy businesswoman and has gained major acclaim and public notoriety as a force of empowerment, inspiration, and encouragement for others to start a business, practice self-care, and become the best version of themselves. Lateshia is also a TV Personality on the Oprah Winfrey Network - Belle Collective. "I am humbly grateful to have the opportunity and a platform that will allow me to inspire others." Through Lateshia's one-on-one coaching, empowerment sessions, and her life-changing events, she's able to get others to move outside of their comfort zone and believe in themselves by helping them to envision themselves at their highest level of success. Free gift from Sarah Book a free 15-minute call to explore working together: https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule/60d4f7f6/appointment/52999780/calendar/909961?appointmentTypelds%5B%5D=52999800 Ready to shift from chasing to receiving in your business? Book your call with Sarah today and discover how The Abundance Academy can help you scale with soul, strategy, and sanity. Work with Sarah Apply for The Abundance Academy group coaching program https://sarahwalton.com/abundance-academy/ Connect with Sarah Website: https://sarahwalton.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thesarahwalton/ You can check out our podcast interviews on YouTube, too! http://bit.ly/YouTubeSWalton Thank you so much for listening. I'm honored that you're here and would be grateful if you could leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, and clicking "Write a review." Then, we'll get to inspire even more people! (If you're not sure how to leave a review, you can watch this quick tutorial.) About Sarah Walton Sarah Walton is a business coach specializing in helping women entrepreneurs overcome internal barriers to success. With a background in trauma-informed coaching and nervous system regulation, she takes a holistic approach that addresses both mindset and tactical business skills. Featured on The Today Show and speaking at women's conferences worldwide, Sarah has helped hundreds of women build profitable, sustainable businesses aligned with their values while healing the deeper blocks that keep them playing small. She's the creator of The Money Mindset Course, The Abundance Academy, and Effortless Sales, and the host of the 5-star-rated Game On Girlfriend® Podcast, becoming the go-to source for women who want to build businesses that honor both their ambition and their nervous system's need for safety.
Suppressing emotions is at the heart of what drives people to escape reality - we call this fantasy...What if you could face reality with your Saviour? What if you had a grasp on your internal battles and let God fight for you?One of the greatest weapons against suppression is journalling. And one of the greatest weapons against distance from God is a heart that wants to be known This episode was inspired by a group call Shawn did where he had 15 men write their own psalm of lament... 4 Steps to writing a psalm:- Questioning- Complaint- Petition for Help- Statement of Confidence To learn more about Shawns porn recovery coaching, hop on this free MasterClassHelena was also moved by journalling in her journey. As a mom, a betrayed partner, one who went through pain and loss, this method of therapy was HUGE for her.In this episode, you'll learn about- How journalling helped us quit addiction, grow closer and move into new season- How to read the psalms - Vulnerability and trust- Why men are desperate for expression and safetyIf you're looking to get free from porn, its not a secret how to do that in the next 90 days. We have a very clear system and our new Inner Circle Brotherhood is only $2 a dayJoin Inner Circle
This conversation with Dee Scarano delves into the concept of psychological safety, emphasizing the importance of honesty and vulnerability in communication. Dee shares how fear of judgment can hinder open expression and explore practical strategies for creating an environment where individuals feel safe to share their thoughts. They highlight the significance of anonymity, comfort zones, and standardized formats in fostering inclusivity and collaboration. Honesty in communication fosters psychological safety. Psychological safety allows individuals to voice their thoughts without fear. Fear of judgment is a significant barrier to open communication. Anonymity is crucial for creating a safe space for sharing ideas. Building comfort zones is essential before encouraging risk-taking. Standardized formats help ensure equal contributions from all participants. Facilitators must create structures that promote psychological safety. Understanding human behavior is key to effective facilitation. Sharing knowledge within the facilitation community is vital. Vulnerability can lead to stronger connections and collaboration. Learn more about Dee - https://www.deescarano.com/ Dee on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/deescarano/ Support the podcast - www.verticalplaypen.org Music and sound effects - www.epidemicsound.com
⚠️ Content Warning. This episode contains discussions of childhood abuse, molestation, and suicidal ideation. Please take care of yourself while listening.So many women are living with trauma that no one ever sees. In this powerful episode, Lyndsay Soprano sits down with Alreen Haeggquist for a deeply honest conversation about what it means to carry the weight of abuse, and what it takes to finally set it down.Alreen shares her personal journey of surviving childhood sexual abuse and the complex path she's walked through relationships, anger, and healing. Together, she and Lyndsay talk about the role silence plays as both a shield and a cage, the rawness of vulnerability, and the life-changing power of speaking your truth—when you're ready.This isn't about perfection or tidy timelines. It's about learning to listen to your own story with compassion. They discuss the power of journaling, the importance of understanding triggers, and how practices like gratitude and connection can open doors you thought were permanently closed.Tune in if you've ever felt alone in your pain—or if you're ready to turn that pain into something stronger than silence.Find Alreen Haeggquist Online Here:Website: alreen.comInstagram: @alreenFacebook: Alreen HaeggquistLinkedIn: Alreen HaeggquistFind The Pain Game Podcast Online Here:Website: thepaingamepodcast.comInstagram: @thepaingamepodcastFacebook: The Pain Game PodcastLinkedIn: Lyndsay SopranoYouTube: The Pain Game PodcastEpisode Highlights:(00:00) Introduction to Chronic Pain and Trauma(00:34) The Impact of Anger and Trauma(03:41) Breaking the Silence: Personal Stories of Abuse(09:40) The Role of Culture in Abuse and Silence(13:36) Empowerment Through the Me Too Movement(19:08) The Healing Power of Writing and Journaling(26:28) Finding Gratitude Amidst Pain(30:10) Understanding Triggers and Emotional Responses(37:14) Building Supportive Relationships
In Episode 331 of Through a Therapist's Eyes, we tackle one of the hardest truths in recovery and wellness: how much control do we really have over our mental health and substance use? Building on Episodes 327 (The Value of Vulnerability), 328 (The Information Age Issues), and 330 (Willpower), this conversation digs into the neuroscience of control - how brain chemistry, stress, and trauma reshape our ability to self-regulate - and why sheer willpower often falls short. Guided by the wisdom of the Serenity Prayer, we explore practical, science-backed ways to strengthen control through structure, skill-building, and support. From habit design and mindfulness to medication-assisted treatment and integrated care, this episode reframes “control” not as a solo effort, but as a shared, sustainable path toward healing and balance. Tune in to see Control Through a Therapist's Eyes.
In this episode of LaidOPEN Podcast, host Charna Cassell sits down with award-winning playwright, performer, and teacher Ann Randolph, whose autobiographical solo shows blend comedy, storytelling, and profound transformation. Together they explore their long-held desire to collaborate — a journey guided by synchronicity, presence, and creative courage. Ann shares how her early days working the graveyard shift at a homeless shelter evolved into a celebrated career sharing the stage with icons like Mel Brooks and Alanis Morissette. She opens up about using comedy to approach trauma, the healing power of daily writing, and the importance of embodying your story rather than just telling it. Charna and Ann dive deep into the somatic roots of storytelling, the interplay between vulnerability and creative freedom, and the spiritual practices that sustain both art and healing. Whether you're a writer, performer, or simply someone seeking personal transformation, this conversation invites you to embrace failure, presence, and play as pathways to authentic expression and connection. Show Notes 00:00 – Introduction and Guest Introduction 02:11 – Charna's Journey to Meeting Ann 03:39 – The Power of Daily Writing 04:18 – Writing for Transformation 05:02 – Ann's Solo Shows and Comedy 09:18 – Victim, Hero, and Perpetrator Dynamics 12:22 – Somatic Practices in Storytelling 18:19 – Collaborations with Alanis Morissette 23:10 – Working with Mel Brooks 27:42 – Support and Validation 28:15 – Mentorship and High Stakes 29:16 – Opening in New York and Personal Loss 31:27 – Turning Grief into Art 41:26 – The Healing Power of Storytelling 45:29 – Spiritual Practices and Personal Growth 47:42 – Current Projects and Offerings 51:53 – Conclusion and Farewell
In Part 2 of our conversation with Chris Mills, SHRM-SCP, Chief Operating Officer and Partner at trueU, we move from her story of mental health and healing into practical wisdom on self-care, authenticity, and emotional balance. Chris shares how self-care saved her life—and why it's far more than bubble baths and rest days. Through what she calls the Self-Care Wheel, she walks listeners through physical, emotional, spiritual, mental, personal, and professional care, offering small, tangible practices that make a lasting impact. From gratitude journaling and laughter to grounding, asking for help, and setting healthy boundaries, Chris reminds us that caring for ourselves is essential to caring for others. Rooted in faith, her perspective encourages women to live by design, not by default, and to embrace the truth that we are each fearfully and wonderfully made. Content Warning: This episode includes brief mentions of suicide and abuse. Chris brings 30 years of leadership experience across manufacturing, healthcare, and business services. She's passionate about coaching leaders to align people and purpose, develop sustainable strategies, and build emotionally healthy workplaces. She also serves on the boards of Ignite Transform and Dove Recovery House for Women. Learn more about Chris's work at www.trueu.com Special Guest: Chris Mills.
When Amazon's cloud service crashed, it disrupted everything from social media sites and games to businesses and Blue Jays tickets. A cybersecurity expert tells us that's a downside of so few companies being in charge of so much. The host of one of Italy's top investigative journalism programs is targeted with an explosive device -- but his editor says the team will keep reporting on organized crime regardless. Officials at the Louvre are struggling to explain how thieves were able to stage a daytime heist with some basic tools -- and get away with irreplaceable, historic jewelry less than ten minutes.A new study suggests that telling parents to expose their babies to peanuts was good advice -- and may have lowered the rates of potentially lethal peanut allergies. Bangers from our adolescence still seem more significant than anything we've heard since -- and now, researchers have calculated the point in our teenage years they call the "reminiscence bump".As It Happens, the Monday Edition. Radio that knows some jams you can't get out of.
"When you have trust, sky's the limit. When you have trust, that's when you're gonna build resiliency."In this episode, Bradley Hamner sits down with Claude Silver, the world's first Chief Heart Officer and the number two executive at VaynerX to Gary Vaynerchuk. Claude shares her unconventional journey from New York to Santa Fe to San Francisco, London, and back to New York, and how these experiences shaped her approach to leadership and human-centered business culture.As the author of the forthcoming book "Be Yourself at Work: The Groundbreaking Power of Showing Up, Standing Out, and Leading from the Heart," Claude debunks the myth that authenticity is a weakness in the workplace and shares practical insights on building psychologically safe, high-performing teams.Key Topics Discussed:Claude's Origin Story.Building Authentic Workplace Culture.Leadership and Vulnerability.Hiring for Culture Fit.Performance and Empathy.Remote and Hybrid Work Considerations.Connect With Claude SilverGet your copy of Claude's new book, "Be Yourself At Work: The Groundbreaking Power of Showing Up, Standing Out, and Leading from the Heart" at https://beyourselfbook.com/Email: claude@claudesilver.comWebsite: ClaudeSilver.comConnect With UsGet the newsletter every Friday: https://BlueprintOS.com/assets Subscribe on YouTube for video episodes: https://www.youtube.com/@_abovethebusiness New episodes drop every Monday & Friday.If you found value in this episode, share it with just one other business owner who might benefit. Remember—building a community happens one person at a time. Subscribe, like, and comment with your biggest takeaway from this episode!Thanks to our sponsors...BlueprintOS equips business owners to design and install an operating system that runs like clockwork. Through BlueprintOS, you will grow and develop your leadership, clarify your culture and business game plan, align your operations with your KPIs, develop a team of A-Players, and execute your playbooks. Register to join us at an upcoming WebClass when you visit www.blueprintos.com!Coach P found great success as an insurance agent and agency owner. He leads a large, stable team of professionals who are at the top of their game year after year. Now he shares the systems, processes, delegation, and specialization he developed along the way. Gain access to weekly training calls and mentoring at www.coachpconsulting.com. Be sure to mention the Above The Business Podcast when you get in touch.Club Capital is the ultimate partner for financial management and marketing services, designed specifically for insurance agencies, fitness franchises, and youth soccer organizations. As the nation's largest accounting and financial advisory firm for insurance agencies, Club Capital proudly serves over 1,000 agency locations across the country—and we're just getting started. With Club Capital, you get more than just services; you get a dedicated account manager backed by a team of specialists committed to your success. From monthly accounting and tax preparation to CFO services and innovative digital marketing, we've got you covered. Ready to experience the transformative power of Club Capital? Schedule your free demo today at club.capital and see the difference firsthand. Make sure you mention you heard about us on the Above The Business podcast to get 50% off your one time onboarding fee!Autopilot Recruiting helps small business owners solve their staffing challenges by taking the stress out of hiring. Their dedicated recruiters work on your behalf every single business day - optimizing your applicant tracking system, posting job listings, and sourcing candidates through social media...
In this episode of Resilience Unravelled, host Russell interviews Darryl Stickel, an expert on trust building from Trust Unlimited. Darryl shares his personal journey from growing up in a small, isolated town in Canada to becoming a trust consultant and academic with a PhD from Duke University. He discusses the fundamentals of trust, explaining it as a willingness to make oneself vulnerable in uncertain situations and how it hinges on perceived uncertainty and perceived vulnerability. Darryl elaborates on three key levers to build trust—benevolence, integrity, and ability—highlighting the importance of context and emotional intelligence. He also touches upon the impact of diversity in teams and how trust can be fostered within diverse settings. The conversation concludes with practical advice on how to build and measure trust effectively, and information about his book 'Building Trust: Exceptional Leadership in an Uncertain World'.00:00 Introduction 00:34 Darryl's Early Life and Challenges02:11 Academic Journey and Career Beginnings03:37 Building Trust in Hostile Environments04:57 Founding Trust Unlimited and Consulting Success06:28 Defining Trust and Its Components14:10 The Role of Context in Trust16:31 Benevolence, Integrity, and Ability in Trust20:20 Understanding Benevolence in Trust20:59 Building Resilience Through Relationships21:13 Deepening Relationships with Benevolence24:28 The Role of Vulnerability in Trust25:04 Leveraging Ability to Build Trust26:51 Diversity, Conflict, and Trust33:09 Trust and Neurodiversity35:20 Resources and Contact InformationYou can contact us at info@qedod.comResources can be found online or link to our website https://resilienceunravelled.com
Be present and enhance the quality of your experiences. On this episode of Life Will Be, Lydia T. Blanco explores the theme of 'passing through' various experiences in life, emphasizing the importance of mindfulness, reflection, and being present. She discusses the significance of paying attention to details, packing light emotionally, and taking time to enjoy the journey. The conversation also touches on the feelings of loneliness that can accompany transitions and the impact one can leave behind as they navigate through different phases of life.Key TakeawaysPassing through can feel like an out-of-body experience.Mindfulness is crucial as you navigate your journey.Pay attention to the details around you.Packing light emotionally helps in moving forward.Take your time; there's no need for speed.Loneliness is a common feeling during transitions.Be intentional about the impact you leave behind.Flexibility and adaptability are key in your journey.Reflecting on experiences provides clarity and perspective.Engage with the joy around you during your journey.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Vulnerability and the Journey00:34 The Concept of Passing Through06:35 Mindfulness and Being Present12:22 Packing Light and Letting Go15:37 Flexibility and Adaptability in Life19:18 The Loneliness of the Journey21:17 Leaving a Lasting ImpactStay ConnectedWebsite: LydiaTBlanco.comSocial: @LifeWillBePod - @LydiaTBlanco
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In this conversation, Jaysum Hunter discusses the importance of advisory services and the strategies for effective delegation in a corporate environment. He emphasizes the need for advisors to focus on their strengths and delegate tasks that do not align with their expertise. Professional Real Estate Investors - How we can help you: Investor Fuel Mastermind: Learn more about the Investor Fuel Mastermind, including 100% deal financing, massive discounts from vendors and sponsors you're already using, our world class community of over 150 members, and SO much more here: http://www.investorfuel.com/apply Investor Machine Marketing Partnership: Are you looking for consistent, high quality lead generation? Investor Machine is America's #1 lead generation service professional investors. Investor Machine provides true ‘white glove' support to help you build the perfect marketing plan, then we'll execute it for you…talking and working together on an ongoing basis to help you hit YOUR goals! Learn more here: http://www.investormachine.com Coaching with Mike Hambright: Interested in 1 on 1 coaching with Mike Hambright? Mike coaches entrepreneurs looking to level up, build coaching or service based businesses (Mike runs multiple 7 and 8 figure a year businesses), building a coaching program and more. Learn more here: https://investorfuel.com/coachingwithmike Attend a Vacation/Mastermind Retreat with Mike Hambright: Interested in joining a “mini-mastermind” with Mike and his private clients on an upcoming “Retreat”, either at locations like Cabo San Lucas, Napa, Park City ski trip, Yellowstone, or even at Mike's East Texas “Big H Ranch”? Learn more here: http://www.investorfuel.com/retreat Property Insurance: Join the largest and most investor friendly property insurance provider in 2 minutes. Free to join, and insure all your flips and rentals within minutes! There is NO easier insurance provider on the planet (turn insurance on or off in 1 minute without talking to anyone!), and there's no 15-30% agent mark up through this platform! Register here: https://myinvestorinsurance.com/ New Real Estate Investors - How we can work together: Investor Fuel Club (Coaching and Deal Partner Community): Looking to kickstart your real estate investing career? Join our one of a kind Coaching Community, Investor Fuel Club, where you'll get trained by some of the best real estate investors in America, and partner with them on deals! You don't need $ for deals…we'll partner with you and hold your hand along the way! Learn More here: http://www.investorfuel.com/club —--------------------
Secret Thoughts of CEOS Ep. 145 The ROI of Inner Work: Why Conscious Leaders Outperform with Michael Brabant In this episode of 'Secret Thoughts of CEOs and Business Leaders,' host Chris Yonker delves into a profound conversation with Dr. Michael Brabant, a PhD, who specializes in leadership and personal development. They explore the future of leadership, emphasizing the importance of vulnerability, authenticity, and psychological safety within organizations. Dr. Brabant shares his personal journey, discussing his work on integrating higher states of consciousness into leadership and recounting his path from academia to leading meditation retreats and coaching top executives. The discussion also covers the interplay between individual and collective growth, the significance of nervous system regulation, and the transformational potential when leaders model true openness and humility. This episode offers valuable insights for leaders looking to deepen their impact and foster a more connected and empowered workplace. · 01:01 Exploring Leadership with Dr. Michael Brabant · 02:38 Michael's Journey and Insights · 07:46 The Importance of Vulnerability in Leadership · 15:52 Navigating Family Systems and Truth · 25:28 Codependency and Sovereignty in Leadership · 31:33 Inner and Outer Leadership Dynamics · 36:41 Emergent Leadership and Consciousness · 44:11 The ROI of Inner Work for Leaders · 48:46 Conclusion and Resources Quotes · ” I think that in a world of AI and spoken wisdom that's not lived. People can try to close the gap of who they want to be and who they actually are by rhetoric and by tactics, and by complexity.”[03:36] · ” Most people aren't vulnerable unless they have to be.”[11:40] · “ And if my sparkler is lit because I'm lit, I have a lit relationship with my wife. I have a healthy relationship with my body. I'm connected spiritually. When I'm in my leadership role, I'm catalytic. I'm spiritually contagious, and it helps to light people's sparklers.' [45:04] Websites: · fambizforum.com. · www.chrisyonker.com · candorandcoherence.com · Instagram: @candorandcoherence
Raymond is a former HR professional, an entrepreneur, a father, a podcast host, and an author. In our conversation we dive into receiving someone's vulnerability, staying away from fixing others, designing boundaries, how his dad's incarceration shaped him, pushing through fear, and finding his why, plus a few other things. Website: https://careerminds.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/raymondmlee/
Are your strongest, most energetic leaders secretly drowning? In this powerful episode of Connected Leadership Bytes, Andy goes into the archives for a conversation that is more relevant today than ever before. He revisits the very first episode of the podcast, featuring two senior corporate leaders who appeared to have it all—until they didn't. This isn't just another talk on mental health; it's a raw, honest look inside the minds of high-achievers who hit rock bottom. Discover why the "brighter the light, the darker the shadow," and why the people you least expect are often the most vulnerable. Our guests, Jeff McDonald, former Global VP of HR for Unilever, and Perry Burton, Head of People and Culture at Grant Thornton, share their deeply personal stories. They shatter the myth that leadership is about invincibility and expose the performative wellness trap—where "bananas in the canteen" and a single "wellbeing week" replace genuine, strategic investment in people's health. Listen to learn how to transform your organisation's culture from one that diminishes its people to one that enhances their lives, making health the ultimate driver of performance. Key Takeaways The Brightest Lights Cast the Darkest Shadows: High-performers and seemingly energetic, positive leaders are often exceptionally good at masking their internal struggles. Vulnerability is a Leadership Superpower: When leaders share their own struggles, it normalises the conversation, reduces stigma, and creates a culture where it's safe for others to ask for help. Health is a Performance Driver, Not a Perk: The energy of your people is your most critical asset. Asking for Help Isn't Giving Up; It's Refusing To: Seeking support is an act of strength and control, demonstrating a commitment to recovery and getting back on track. Actionable Insights Conduct a "Wellness Audit": As a leader, critically evaluate your company's efforts. Are you just offering perks (the "bananas in the canteen"), or are you actively changing workloads, management styles, and communication to genuinely reduce stress and enhance energy. Schedule Your Own "Self-Compassion" Block: You cannot pour from an empty glass. Block out 30 minutes in your calendar this week for a non-work activity you will not move (e.g., a walk without your phone, reading, listening to music). SELECTED LINKS FROM THE EPISODE Connect with Andy Lopata: Website | Instagram | LinkedIn | X/Twitter | YouTube Connect with Geoff McDonald : Website |LinkedIn | Connect with Perry Burton: Website |LinkedIn | The Financial Times Guide to Mentoring Connected Leadership Gold: Geoff McDonald and Perry Burton
Episode #1046 If you've ever been told to “open up more” but didn't know what that actually means or tried and felt it backfire, this episode is for you. Doug and Erin revisit one of the most important and misunderstood parts of any relationship: vulnerability. They break down why most men think they're being vulnerable when they're actually just offloading, and how that difference can either build trust or break it. You'll hear how real leadership at home isn't about hiding emotion, but about learning how to share it from a place of strength. Erin offers the woman's perspective on what emotional connection really looks like, how safety is built, and why it's not just about doing more. It's about how you show up. If your wife says she feels disconnected or distant, this conversation gets to the root of it. It also gives you clear, grounded ways to start repairing that gap without losing your edge or falling into people-pleasing. This is a revisit episode for a reason. It's one of those conversations that hits differently when you're actually ready to hear it. If you're ready to stop guessing and start leading in a way that actually rebuilds trust and connection, start with the free training at https://fixmarriage.thepowerfulman.com/scales.
We are living in a post-trust era. Trust is at an all-time low, and people are more on guard than ever. How does this impact the property management industry? In this episode of the #DoorGrowShow, property management growth expert Jason Hull sits down with Darryl Stickel of Trust Unlimited to talk all about building and maintaining trust. You'll Learn [01:30] The Foundations of Building Trust [06:51] Where Uncertainty Comes From and How to Eliminate it [11:37] The Golden Bridge Formula [21:27] The Role of Vulnerability in Building Trust [31:49] AI and the Post-Trust Era Quotables “Sales and deals happen at the speed of trust.” “Trust is the willingness to be vulnerable when you can't completely predict how someone else is going to behave.” “There's three levers within us as individuals, and those are benevolence, integrity, and ability.” Resources DoorGrow and Scale Mastermind DoorGrow Academy DoorGrow on YouTube DoorGrowClub DoorGrowLive Transcript Jason Hull (00:00) This is really what property managers sell. They sell trust. They don't really sell property management. Darryl (00:03) Yeah. Jason Hull (00:05) All right, I'm Jason Hull, the founder and CEO of DoorGrow, the world's leading and most comprehensive coaching and consulting firm for long-term residential property management entrepreneurs. For over a decade and a half, we have brought innovative strategies and optimization to the property management industry. At DoorGrow, we have spoken to thousands of property management business owners, coached, consulted, and cleaned up hundreds of businesses, helping them add doors, improve pricing, increase profit, simplify operations, and build and replace teams. We are like bar rescue for property managers. In fact, we've cleaned up and rebranded over 300 businesses. We run the leading property management mastermind with more video testimonials and reviews than any other coach or consultant in the industry. And at DoorGrow, we believe that good property managers can change the world and that property management is the ultimate high trust gateway to real estate deals, relationships, and residual income. We are on a mission to transform property management business owners and their businesses. We want to transform the industry, eliminate the BS, build awareness, change perception, expand the market, and help the best property management entrepreneurs win. Now, let's get into the show. And today, I am hanging out with Darryl Stickel of Trust Unlimited. Welcome, Darryl to the DoorGrow Show. Darryl (01:26) Thanks for having me, Jason. It's a pleasure to be here. Jason Hull (01:29) It's great to have you. So I'm really excited about the topic of trust because I talk about this all the time. In fact, one of my most common phrases that I say to clients when talking about sales is that sales and deals happen at the speed of trust. And so I'm excited to get into this. So give us a little bit of background on you and then we'll get into the topic at hand. So tell us a little bit about Darryl and how you sort of Darryl (01:45) They do, yeah. Jason Hull (01:56) arrived at Trust Unlimited. Darryl (01:59) Yeah. So I was born and raised in a small town in Northern British Columbia, Canada, fairly isolated community, harsh winter conditions. And so people learned that they had to pull together and it meant that you needed to look out for your neighbor and that if you could help someone, you should. And so growing up in that background, I had a sense of responsibility to others, desire to be helpful. When I was 17 years old, I was playing hockey in a neighboring community and I was attacked by a fan at the club. And he shattered my helmet, knocked me unconscious. I ended up with a severe concussion and I had a visual impairment. I knew that I was going to become legally blind, which I am now. So my plan had been to think for a living. Jason Hull (02:32) I ended up with a severe concussion. And I had a visual impairment. Hmm. ⁓ Darryl (02:46) And now all of a sudden I had the attention span of a fruit fly and I couldn't think. and so this experience promoted a sense of empathy for me because there were such feelings of, of helplessness and hopelessness. And fast forward a few years and I'm studying psychology and moving towards becoming a clinical psychologist. And people would just come up to me and. Jason Hull (02:52) And so this experience promoted a sense of empathy. I like... Yeah. Darryl (03:08) start telling me their problems. I'd be sitting on a bus and a complete stranger would sit down next to me and say, I'm really having a hard time. And so I wanted to understand why that was happening. And I went and did a master's degree in public administration, worked in native land claims in British Columbia. And they would ask me these sort of deep philosophical questions like, what is self-government or what will the problems look like 50 years after claims are settled? Jason Hull (03:15) So I went to understand why that was happening. And I went to do the master's degree in public administration. I worked in native land claims in British Columbia. They would ask me certain questions like what is self-government? What will the province look like 50 years after claims are settled? The last question they asked me was how do I condescend people who have shafted for over 100 years and should trust us? I thought man, that's Darryl (03:35) The last question they asked me was how do I convince a group of people who have shafted for over a hundred years, they should trust us? I thought, man, that's a good question. So I went to Duke, wrote my doctoral thesis on building trust in hostile environments. Um, had a couple of leading experts in the field of trust on my committee. And when I finished, they said, you know, when you first started, we first came to us, we had a conversation. We agreed too big, too complex. He never solves it. Jason Hull (03:43) So I went to Duke, wrote my doctoral thesis on building trust in hostile environments. Had a couple of leading experts in the field of trust on my committee. And when I finished, said, you know, when you first started, when you first came to us, we had a conversation. We agreed, too big, too complex, you never saw us. Darryl (04:03) We'll give him six months and then he'll come crawling back to us and we'll let him chisel off a little piece of this and that'll be his thesis. I said, six months in, you were so far beyond us, we couldn't help anymore. All we could do was sit and listen. And here we are years later, we think you've solved it. And so I went and worked for McKinsey and Company, a big management consulting firm, and got to start applying the concepts that I'd learned. Jason Hull (04:03) gave him six months to come from the back to us. we just left with a piece of this. would be the thesis. He said six months in, you were so far beyond us, couldn't help it. All we could do was send him us. And here we are years later, we're all sold. And so I went and worked for McKinsey Company, a big management consultant for him. Yeah. Darryl (04:25) And then on the way to a client side, was involved in a car accident, ended up with post-concussion syndrome again, and couldn't work those kinds of hours anymore. So I just started a small company called Trust Unlimited and started helping people better understand what trust was, what it is, how it works, and most importantly, how to build it. Jason Hull (04:36) started helping people better understand what trust was, what it is, how it works, and most importantly how it goes. And that's quite the journey. That's quite the story. And so now this is what your, this is your gig. This is what you focus on. You focus on helping people understand trust. Yeah. Darryl (04:52) Yeah, it's what I've devoted my career and my life to. And so for the last 20 years, I've been helping nonprofits, private sector, public sector, Canadian military got me to help them figure out how to try to build trust with the locals in Afghanistan. Yeah, so I've been trying to help solve problems. Jason Hull (05:10) Well, let's make this one of those opportunities for you to help some people that are listening figure out this challenge of trust. Because trust, really feel like, is fundamental and foundational to any relationship and to sales and to growing a business and all of that. Darryl (05:27) It is. It's so critical for your audience because they need the trust of the property owners, but they also need the trust of the tenants. They act as an intermediary and so they need to be experts at building relationships with others. Jason Hull (05:36) Yeah. Right. Yeah. So I'm sure this is, I don't know if this can be answered in a short time period, but give us an idea of how do we create trust from scratch? How do we make this work? What did you figure out? Darryl (05:56) Yeah, so we start with the definition, trust is the willingness to be vulnerable when you can't completely predict how someone else is going to behave. And that definition has two elements in it. It's got perceived uncertainty and perceived vulnerability. And those actually multiply together to give us a level of perceived risk. So we've got uncertainty times vulnerability gives us a level of perceived risk. We each have a threshold of risk that we can tolerate. Jason Hull (06:03) Okay. Darryl (06:21) If we go beyond that threshold, we don't trust. If we're beneath it, then we do. And so. If we want to understand trust, need to understand where does uncertainty come from? Where do perceptions of vulnerability come from? And how do we take steps to manage those? Because early in a relationship, uncertainty is really high. means we can only tolerate a small range of vulnerability and still fit beneath that threshold. As that relationship gets deeper, the uncertainty declines, the range of vulnerability we can tolerate starts to grow. Jason Hull (06:41) Right. that relationship gets deeper, the uncertainty declines, the range of vulnerability increases. And so really, for your audience, it's going to be about how do I take steps to understand somebody else's uncertainty. Darryl (06:51) And so really for your audience, it's going to be about how do I take steps to understand somebody else's uncertainty? How do I help reduce it? Jason Hull (07:00) What are some typical examples of uncertainty that people might have? Darryl (07:06) Yeah. So uncertainty comes from two places. comes from us as individuals and it comes from the context we're embedded in. And so for owners, their uncertainty is what are the tenants doing? How are they treating the property? Is it going to be well maintained? Are they going to pay on time? And so property managers can help manage that by helping them set up contracts, helping. Jason Hull (07:17) Hmm. Yeah. Darryl (07:31) by reviewing the property on an occasional basis, monitoring behavior patterns for tenants, understanding tenant behavior in a way that most property managers don't have the opportunity to, or property owners don't have the property, because you see a much broader swath of humanity than the typical property owner does. You're more engaged, you're on the ground. And so, Jason Hull (07:35) monitoring behavior patterns for tenants, understanding tenant behavior in way that most property managers... Because you see a much broader swath of humanity than the typical property of the country. You're more engaged, you're on the ground. And so if we start to think about how we reduce uncertainty, uncertainty comes from me and it comes from the context. Well, what are the things that I can do as a property manager to reduce some of this uncertainty? Darryl (07:59) If we start to think about how we reduce uncertainty, uncertainty comes from me and it comes from the context. Well, what are the things that I can do as a property manager to reduce somebody's uncertainty? There's three levers within us as individuals, and those are benevolence, integrity, and ability. Jason Hull (08:18) benevolence you said in integrity what was the last what was the third one ability ability yeah okay got it I got it okay Darryl (08:19) integrity and ability and benevolence is just ability, competence. Yeah. Can I do the job? And so Jason, we, all have the ability to build trust with others. Just some are better than others at it. Those who aren't very good have a lever that they pull and they pull that lever over and over again and just hope it lines up. Those who are better have multiple levers. Those who are really good have multiple levers and they know when to pull which one. And so. Jason Hull (08:37) This one. Hmm. ⁓ So what I do is I walk people through the different levers and help explain how to pull them. So benevolence is just the belief you got my best interest. Darryl (08:54) What I do is I walk people through the different levers and then help explain how to pull them. So benevolence is just the belief you've got my best interest at heart and that you'll act in my best interest. Jason Hull (09:03) Right. Darryl (09:06) So as a property manager, you're thinking about what does the property owner's best interest look like? What does success look like for them? How do I help them get there? Integrity is do I follow through on my promises and do my actions line up with the values that I express? Jason Hull (09:16) integrity is do I follow through on my promises? ⁓ Darryl (09:22) And so what are the both the explicit promises I'm making to people and the implied promises, the things that they're expecting from me. And then ability is, I actually have the competence to do the job? And a lot of times when we pull the ability lever, we make assumptions about what excellence looks like, but we don't include the other person in that conversation. Jason Hull (09:41) Hmm. Okay. Darryl (09:41) So as a property manager, you may think having the right forms in place and, you know, having a scheduled set of routines and you've got an idea of what excellence looks like. But if you actually included your stakeholders in that conversation, you might come up with a different list of things. And that's both the property owner and the tenant. Jason Hull (09:49) scheduled set of routines and you've got an idea of what essence of something. But if you actually included your stakeholders in that conversation, like both the property owner and tenant. Darryl (10:03) So including them in that conversation can be really eye-opening. Jason Hull (10:03) So including them in that conversation could be really helpful. Yeah. Yeah, just making sure you're both on the same page. Darryl (10:09) And then exactly. And we interpret the world through stories. one of the challenges that your audience faces is that they may have a story about what's going on with the property. The owner might have a different story and the tenant might have a third story. And that's where we run into conflict. Jason Hull (10:14) What are the challenges that your audience faces? they may have a story about what's going on. Yeah. Right. And so if we're not active, you know, a lot of times I'll talk to owners and senior executives and I'll tell them about those three levers and they'll say, well, I do all Darryl (10:29) And so if we're not active, you know, a lot of times I'll talk to owners and senior executives and I'll tell them about those three levers and they'll say, well, I do all those things. And my response will always be says who, because if it's me telling you I'm benevolent, Jason, it doesn't carry a lot of freight. You have to actually believe it. Right. So I need to include you in the conversation to understand. Jason Hull (10:42) And my response will always be, says who? Because if it's me telling you about the devil, Jason, going to carry a lot of freight. Right. I need to include you in the conversation to understand what are your best interests? How do I help you be successful? What are your best Darryl (10:56) What are your best interests? How do I help you be successful? What are your values? What are your, what's your understanding of my values and the actions I take? And can I tell a story about each decision I make and how it aligns with my values? Am I transparent about following through on my commitments? Do I say to you, I'm going to check the property every three months or every six months or once a year. Here's how I'm going to do that. Here's how I'm going to monitor. Jason Hull (11:11) Okay. Am I transparent and I follow through on my commitments? Do I say to you, I'm going to check the property every three months or every six months or once a year? Here's how I'm going to do that. Here's how I'm going to monitor it. And then do I follow up with the owner and say, Darryl (11:28) And then do I follow up with the owner and say, as per our agreement or as per my commitment, this is me following up on the promise that I made. Jason Hull (11:31) As for our Okay, so Darryl, I love this. This aligns a lot with a book that I'm writing right now called The Golden Bridge Formula. And this Golden Bridge Formula is something that I've used in creating trust quickly in order to facilitate sales. And it's a formula that I've taught my clients. And I think it aligns really well with this. And the basic formula is, Darryl (11:44) Okay. Okay. Jason Hull (12:00) It's based on the idea that everybody trusts others to follow their own motives, to do what's in their best self-interest. We generally can trust that. And so the Golden Bridge formula is basically in simple form is me sharing my personal why, what drives and motivates me, connecting it to the business and the business's why, and then connecting the business why to the prospects why, or your targets why, like what they want. Darryl (12:07) Okay. Jason Hull (12:26) which means you have to figure out their why first, right? You gotta figure out and ask questions first and then you can share and reveal. You know, once you figure out what they want, you can share and where they wanna go. You can share your motives. so, the more extended version of the formula is personal why, what that means, plus the business why, what that means, which is where we get into the values of the company, stuff like this. And then connect it to the prospects why and what that would mean for them. And this is... Darryl (12:47) right. Jason Hull (12:52) One of my greatest shortcuts for getting somebody that's terrible at sales to do sales in an authentic way and dramatically increase their close rate. Because any objection really always boils down to, I don't trust you. That's really the only true objection in sales. I don't trust your product or your service enough to believe that it's worth the price or that it's actually gonna work or it's gonna benefit me. The one thing people trust is for others to be selfish. Darryl (13:00) Nice. Right. Jason Hull (13:20) They trust people to do what's in their best interest. So if I can share my motivation, my golden bridge, and the actual bridge is the business. The business is this vehicle that gets me what I want and it gets my client what they want, right? And so if I can relate that, it creates this connection where we can both trust each other because if I'm selfish, I am able to help them and I get what I want. And so I'll give you my example. Darryl (13:34) Right. Jason Hull (13:46) personal why is to inspire others to love true principles. And so what that means is I love learning what works and sharing it with other people. I would do that for free for fun. I love paying for it. I take it coaches and mentors and door grow secretly not so secretly exist because I love being able to spend a lot of money on coaches, mentors, programs to be able to learn new stuff that I can turn around and then benefit and share with other entrepreneurs, with my clients. Darryl (14:12) Great. Jason Hull (14:13) And they can trust that if I continue to do that, I'm going to benefit them. DoorGrow exists because everyone on my team, our why at DoorGrow is to transform property management business owners and their businesses. And so everybody on my team buys into that. We want to see our clients win and we want to change their businesses. And so that's why they come to us. And so they know if they come to us that I'm going to continue to learn, I'm going to continue to share the best stuff that I can find. in hopes that we achieve this business goal because it selfishly feeds my addiction to learning and it's going to benefit them. It's a win-win-win for everybody that's involved. Darryl (14:46) Right. Yeah, that's a powerful approach, finding shared superordinate goals, right? Finding the overlap between wins for both of us. And partly that requires, you're right, the conversation with the other to find out what their goals and objectives are, how we help them be successful. It also requires an awareness on our part of what our goals and objectives are. Right. And I mean, for me, I'm trying to have a positive impact on the world. Jason Hull (14:55) Hmm. Yeah. It also requires an awareness on heart rate. And I mean, for me, I'm trying to have a positive impact on the world. I get a charge out of it. Trying to make the world a place. And so I'm trying to get the signal through the noise. There's a number of folks who've said I'm one of the world's leading experts on trust. There's a couple of well-placed people who said I'm the guy. I'm just really trying to have as much positive impact as I can. Darryl (15:15) I get a charge out of trying to make the world better place. And so I'm trying to get the signal through the noise. There's a number of folks who've said, I'm one of the world's leading experts on trust. There's a couple of well-placed people who've said I'm the guy. Um, and I'm just really trying to have as much positive impact as I can. And you're right. It's selfish. I've got two sons that are 24 and 21. I want the world to be a better place for them. And I like it when people are able to be successful and have powerful, productive relationships because I believe that that's one of the few things we actually control. It's how we show up in the world, how we engage with others. Jason Hull (15:49) I love it. Yeah, great stuff Let's pause there and I'll share a little word from our sponsor and then we'll get back into the topic of trust because I really love this topic. And I know that this is super beneficial because This is really what property managers sell. They sell trust. They don't really sell property management. All right. So our sponsor is CoverPest. CoverPest is the easy and seamless way to add on-demand pest control to your resident benefit package. Residents love the simplicity of submitting a service request. Darryl (16:18) Yeah. Jason Hull (16:33) and how affordable it is compared to traditional pest control options. Investors love knowing that their property is kept pest free and property managers love getting their time back and making more revenue per door. Simply put, CoverPest is the easiest way to handle pest control issues at all your properties. To learn more and to get special door grow pricing, visit coverpest.com/doorgrow. That's coverpest.com/doorgrow. All right, Darryl. back to trust. Cool. I love this idea. You talked about benevolence, integrity, and your ability, and figuring out how to relate those in a way that is believable to others. I shared a little bit about my Golden Bridge formula. I'm curious what you think of that because you're the expert on trust. Maybe I'll have to quote you in my book or something. Darryl (17:04) Yeah. Right. Yeah. that'd be awesome. Yeah. So I think part of the DoorGrow principle or part of the golden bridge principle is finding a way to be benevolent and have it be transparent. Right. Because what I, the conversation I convince, or I get my clients, my coaching clients to go through is find someone to practice with. Cause that's how we really learn and have the following conversation. Jason Hull (17:37) Yeah. Yes. Yeah. Darryl (17:52) I heard this guy, Darryl, he was talking about trust. He said that benevolence is really important, which is just a fancy word for having someone's best interest or having their back. And I think I do that, but it doesn't always seem to land that way. Have you ever experienced that? Jason Hull (18:00) Sure, yeah, Darryl (18:07) Yeah, and just what everyone has. And so... Now we get curious and we ask the other person, can you think of an example of when you tried to act on someone's behalf and it backfired or they had the wrong story? And it creates this conversation and it starts priming them. Then we narrow the funnel and we say, has someone ever really had your back? Have they ever really looked out for you? What did they do? How did it feel? Jason Hull (18:12) Now, we get curious and we ask the other person, can you think of an example of when you tried to act on someone's behalf and it backfired or they had the wrong story? And it creates this conversation and starts priming them. Then we narrow the funnel and we say, has someone ever really had your back? Have they ever really looked out for you? What did they do? How did it feel? Now we're priming them even more. Darryl (18:36) Now we're priming them even more and we're getting a chance to get some hints about what benevolence looks like for that person. So that when we do try to pull that lever, it really lands. Then we narrow the funnel further and we say, a success for you. How do I help you get there? What would it look like if I had your best interest at heart? And that's what you guys do every day when you're trying to help companies grow the number of doors that they sell. Jason Hull (18:38) And we're getting a chance to get some hints about what benevolence looks like to that person. So that when we do try to pull that lever, it really lands. Then we narrow the funnel further and say, what's success for you? How do I help you get there? What would it look like if I had your best interest and heart? And that's what you guys do every day when you're trying to help companies grow the number of doors that they sell. You're trying to help them be successful. Darryl (19:04) you're trying to help them be successful. And so. Jason Hull (19:08) Absolutely. It sounds like almost a variation of a common sales question that some call the crystal ball question, which is like, 12 months from now, if we were to work together, how would you know that this was a success? What would success look like? If this was a win for you, what would have been true for you to feel like this was really a great decision? Darryl (19:23) Right. Right. And then here's how I'm going to help you get there. And it opens up the opportunity for us to be transparent moving forward. Because we can say, you remember when you told me this is what mattered to you? This is what success looked like? This is me doing that. So there isn't room for misinterpretation or a crossing of the wires. Now context is the other element of uncertainty, right? It's the rules of the game. Jason Hull (19:41) This is me doing that. So there isn't room for misinterpretation or crossing the border. Now, context is the other element of uncertainty. Right? It's the rules of the game. And you just talked about pest cover. That's a way to change the context so that there's a structured system in place where people can respond more consistently. It reduces uncertainty. Darryl (19:55) and you just talked about CoverPest. that's a way to change the context so that there's a structured system in place where people can respond more consistently. It reduces uncertainty. Similar with the programs that you develop for your clients. was listening to one of your podcasts around leadership. You have offerings that help them change the context. So it becomes more automated, more consistent, which creates a greater consistency for property owners and for clients or tenants that you're interacting with. Jason Hull (20:09) Similar with the programs that you develop for your clients. was listening to one of your podcasts around leadership. You have offerings that help them change the context so it becomes more automated, more consistent, which creates a greater consistency for property owners and for clients or tenants that you're interacting with. And so you're taking steps to reduce uncertainty. Darryl (20:34) And so you're taking steps to reduce uncertainty. So how do we have a conversation with property managers about doing that same thing, about putting rules and regulations in place that govern their behavior, that push them towards a more consistent place? Jason Hull (20:38) So how do we have a conversation with property managers about doing that same thing? About putting rules and regulations in place that govern their behavior, that push them towards a Yeah, yeah, could be, I mean, it's a lot of factors go into this, right? Like their company core values certainly is how they might go about doing this. Their policies and procedures goes into more specific tactical implementation of those values. And then you're getting into like, what's the motive behind it? Which is where we maybe define like some sort of external focused client centric mission statement. Which. Darryl (20:57) Yep. and the incentive structures and the job descriptions, right? Jason Hull (21:16) relates to that benevolence. Yeah, so even with individual team members having really solid job descriptions where there's clear outcomes defined. Yeah. Darryl (21:27) Then we go to the vulnerability side of the equation. Sometimes a sale doesn't happen because people feel too vulnerable. They want to find a solution that's cheaper or easier. Think about ice cream stores that let you try a sampling of different flavors before you buy. Or retail outlets that have return policies that are very generous. These are all ways for them to reduce your perceived vulnerability. Jason Hull (21:27) And we could They want to find a solution that's cheaper or easier. Think about ice cream store. Yeah. Darryl (21:52) So if I'm trying to grow doors, partly I want to get referrals, but partly I also want to have an opportunity for people to try me out a little bit so that they can reduce that uncertainty so that we've got varying levels of vulnerability that they can experience with us so that our relationship with them can grow over time. And so does that mean that I'm having conversations with them, sharing information with them, giving things to them for free? Jason Hull (21:53) So if I'm trying to grow doors, partly I want to get referrals. But partly I also want to have an opportunity for people to try me out a little bit so that they can reduce that uncertainty so that we've got varying levels of vulnerability that they can experience with us. So that our relationship with them can grow over time. So does that mean that I'm having conversations with them, sharing information with them, giving things to them for free? Darryl (22:22) so that they start to get a better sense of who I am and what my why is, and they can see the consistency between my values that I've expressed and the actions I'm taking. Jason Hull (22:22) so that they start to get a better sense of who I am and what my line is. And they can see the consistency between the lines that I've expressed in the actual company. Darryl (22:32) Once we've made the trust decision, we have what I call perceived outcomes. So we can have exactly the same experience, but have dramatically different interpretation of what's just happened. And we, in the outcome section, we have two levers. There's was the outcome a success or a failure and who gets the credit, who gets the blame. And because we interpret the world through stories, if we're not active in the creation of the narrative, Jason Hull (22:32) Once we've made the trust decision, we have what I call perceived outcomes. So we can have exactly the same experience, but have dramatically different interpretation of what's just happened. And we, in the outcome section, we have two levers. There's, what is the outcome of success or failure? And who gets the credit? Who gets the blame? And because we interpret the world through stories, if we're not active in the creation of the narrative, Darryl (23:01) we run the risk of people coming up with a completely different story from ours. And that perceived outcome then feeds back into our next interaction with that same person. Jason Hull (23:02) we run the risk of people coming up with a completely different story from ours. And that perceived outcome that feeds back into our next day of rationing that same person. True. Yeah. In the middle of all this, Jason, is our emotional states. So 99 % of the trust research treats people like rational actors. You've met people, right? Darryl (23:13) In the middle of all this, Jason, is our emotional states. So 99 % of the trust research treats people like rational actors. You've met people, right? Jason Hull (23:24) Yeah, they're not rational actors. We're not. We're emotional actors. Yeah. Darryl (23:25) we're not always rational. And the more emotional, yeah, the more emotional we become, the less rational we are. Right? And so we, need to find a way to reset those emotional states before we pull these other levers because otherwise we're just wasting our time. Jason Hull (23:35) Yeah. Right. So we need to find a way to reset those emotions. Right, yeah. If we start trying to attack their story or start trying to attack when they're already preloaded or angry with logic, it's not generally gonna be super effective. Darryl (23:55) doesn't tend to work. And so the research that I do and the doctoral thesis that I wrote is different from most of the trust research in a few different ways. One is I include context, which the other work tends not to, which helps explain why we trust some people without knowing anything about them, right? Go to a doctor's office. Doctor says, off your clothes and, and you do, right? Jason Hull (24:11) Hmm. Yeah, they're kind of an earned authority in some people's minds. They've got the lab coat and they are the person we were shown to after we got through the lobby. And so we're like, I guess I will do what they tell me to do unless it gets weird. Yeah. So now take that and shift it from a doctor's office to a gas station restroom. Same two people, guys wearing the white lab coat. Darryl (24:20) Yeah. Yeah. So now take that and shift it from a doctor's office to a gas station restroom. Same two people, guys wearing the white lab coat. Same conversation, take off your clothes. goes from credible to creepy in a heartbeat, right? Jason Hull (24:42) Right, context is definitely going to have an impact. Darryl (24:46) And then I include vulnerability, which most of the trust research doesn't, which means that trust is a continuous variable, not a dichotomous one, right? Dichotomous variable means that it's like an old time light switch. It's either present or absent. Reality is we trust some people more than the others and the trust can grow and evolve over time. Yeah. And so what I do is I try to help people learn how to build deeper relationships. Jason Hull (24:51) which means that trust is a continuous forever. The conness variable means that it's like a Right. It's on or off. Yeah. Yeah. It's a spectrum. Darryl (25:15) so that they're more resilient. So that when something goes wrong, you don't lose clients. And when things go wrong, because they inevitably go wrong, right? Jason Hull (25:20) Right. Darryl (25:27) Our response is given the most positive story you can. Tenants who leave for one reason or another aren't bad mouthing our company or are less likely to. That's what trust buys us. Jason Hull (25:28) Our response is given the most positive story you can. Tendents to leave for one reason or another aren't bad. likely to, that's what trespassers. Yeah, yeah, absolutely. They give us the benefit of the doubt if we, and I think, you know, a lot of this is established even before the sale, during the sales process, that's how we get to the sale. And then afterwards, how we onboard them can have a massive impact so that they don't have buyer's remorse. And, you know, it's that beginning of the relationship because it's so fresh and new, it's where we're kind of establishing. Darryl (26:00) Yeah. Jason Hull (26:07) and showcasing benevolence, integrity, and ability, right? Darryl (26:11) That's right. And we're setting that story for the future interactions that we have so that they look for confirming evidence. Jason Hull (26:18) Yeah, because if we create some confirming strong evidence in the beginning and then something is out of congruence or there's something seems off to them, they may give us the benefit of the doubt. They may look at this and go, well, they've always been good to me in the past. So maybe something's off here. So they might be a little more open to having a conversation to understand why things went the way they did. Right. Darryl (26:39) Right, they might give you the opportunity to retain their business rather than just leave it. Jason Hull (26:44) Yeah, got it. Cool. Well, yeah, this is really fascinating. I really have enjoyed this. Is there anything in wrapping up that you feel would make a big impact for people that are wanting to increase this? Maybe how do they know how vulnerable to be without making themselves look like they're incompetent and hurt the ability thing? Yeah. Darryl (26:44) Yeah. Yeah. So share, don't scare, right? Yeah. ⁓ a lot of times when I talk about building trust, I talk about small dose of vulnerability, share, don't scare, you know, acknowledge that you're not perfect or that you don't know something or that you're curious about the other party. and heavy dose of benevolence. So Jason Hull (27:09) Yeah. Hmm. videos Darryl (27:26) really trying to find out what's in the best interest of the other party. ⁓ I think if we do it right, if we engage with a small dose of vulnerability to start, it triggers a natural response in the other party to want to respond the same way. Jason Hull (27:29) Right. I if we do it... gauge with a small dose Yeah. Well, I have a good example. So I have a client and I thought I was being benevolent. He felt he hadn't really utilized our services for a couple of months or a few months because he was focused on other things. So he was looking to cancel. So I said, hey, why don't we discount your monthly fee down to like a third and to take care of you and make sure you're getting the benefit. And Darryl (27:44) And yeah. Okay. Jason Hull (28:07) I got on a call with him and he hadn't really fulfilled his part of the deal, which was he was gonna work on adding another 25 units in outdoors and I was gonna sponsor him or lower our fee for two to three months. And he came back and he was like, well, I thought you were gonna let me continue this indefinitely until I got 100 doors. And I'm like, but you're not doing any work. So he's frustrated, I'm frustrated and he's wanting to cancel and... Darryl (28:30) Great. Jason Hull (28:35) I want to let him cancel because I feel like he's taking advantage of me and our team's goodwill. But I can see he feels that we'd sort of made some promise, even though we misunderstood it, that we would just help him indefinitely until he got to 100 doors, regardless of whether he's doing the work or not. Darryl (28:51) Right. Yeah, and sometimes being benevolent isn't being nice. Right. Jason Hull (28:52) Yeah, and sometimes you... Hmm. Yeah, yeah, sometimes people what people need is a punch in the face metaphorically. Yeah. Darryl (29:02) Right. Or a kick in the butt. Yeah. So my, my son wanted to get a baseball scholarship and he told me that. And I said, well, to do that, you need to have good grades. You need to work hard. You need to play well. You've got to be a good coach, a good assistant to the coach. Like the coach needs to like you to advocate on your behalf and you've got to be a good teammate. And so I, I said, I'm going to. Jason Hull (29:08) Hmm. Do that. Yeah. ⁓ on your behalf. And so I said, I'm going to ask you about all these things. so I'm like, are you eating right? you doing your homework? Are going to get good grades? Are you working hard? And so I'm asking him all the things that parents don't ask their kids, except that he perceives it as me having his back, not being on his back. so holding into a count in that moment, similarly, if we've got Darryl (29:29) ask you about all these things. And so I'm like, are you eating right? Are you doing your homework? Cause you gotta get good grades. Are you working hard? And so I'm asking him all the things that parents normally ask their kids, except that he perceives it as me having his back, not being on his back. And so holding him to account in that moment, you know, and similarly, if, if we've got people in our office who want promotions, well, Jason Hull (29:54) in our office who want promotion. Well, that means that you need to show up like that. Darryl (29:58) That means that you need to show up like that new role. Right? I need to be confident that you can handle that role before I give it to you. So that means I need to ask more of you. I need to hold you to a higher standard. Need to push you harder. And if your client says he's going to get 25 doors and he hasn't... Jason Hull (30:03) I need to be confident that you can handle that role before I give it to you. So that means I need to ask more of you. I need to hold you to a higher standard. I to push you harder. And if your client says he's gonna get 25 doors and he hasn't... Darryl (30:23) then the response may well be, want you to be successful, but right now I'm just enabling you to kind of coast. And I may not be the right solution for you at this moment. Jason Hull (30:23) then the response may well be, I want you to be successful, but right now I'm just unable to cut costs. And I may not be the right switch for you at this point. Yeah, yeah, it's true. Yeah, absolutely. Yeah, I don't need his money, so I generally wanna help him grow, but yeah, you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink, I guess. But you can't the roads, right? Darryl (30:43) Yeah. Right. Yeah. And so if you really want to have his best interests at heart, it starts to become a conversation of what's getting in the way. How do we help pull away some of those barriers that you're experiencing? And if, if we're just part of the noise, then we probably need to stop for awhile. Jason Hull (30:48) I don't know. Yeah, and so if you really want to have these best interests at heart hmm it starts to become a conversation of what's getting Yeah Right is there something else that would help you be more productive and if you Darryl (31:11) Is there something else that would help you be more productive? And if you really had his best interest at heart, you might have other solutions or suggestions that you could offer to him. Jason Hull (31:17) If you really have his best interest in art, you might have other solutions or suggestions that you can offer him. Yeah. And I have, yeah. He doesn't want to do the sales. So I said, you need to get a salesperson and you need to hire. Yeah. Yeah. So, Well, Darryl, I really appreciate this. This is really interesting. I'd like to stay connected. think, I think your, you know, your message and I would be very interested in reading your book. What's the name of your book if people are looking? Darryl (31:29) Yeah. Yeah. It's called building trust, exceptional leadership in the times of uncertainty. Jason Hull (31:48) That's good for today. Yeah, we're living what a lot are calling the post trust era. Darryl (31:49) Yeah. Trust levels are the lowest we've ever measured. And if you think about the model that I proposed, our vulnerability hasn't really gone down, but our uncertainty is bouncing all over the place. it makes asking people to trust us just a little more hard, a little more difficult than it has been in the past. Jason Hull (32:01) Yeah Yeah, I think one good final question is how do you perceive trust being impacted by AI? Because a lot of people are trying to leverage AI, use AI. They're pretending that it's them that did something and they're using AI. What do you see for the future of trust related to this AI revolution that we're going through right now? I think it's going to be an extreme challenge. think social media has caused problems to start with. Yeah. Darryl (32:29) I think it's going to be an extreme challenge. think social media has caused problems to start with. ⁓ Our relationships tend to be a mile wide and an inch deep now. They're not as resilient as they used to be. Jason, when I grew up, I could be an idiot multiple times in a row and people were stuck with me. And so I learned. Now people have this feeling that if I make one mistake, I'm done. Jason Hull (32:42) Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Disposable friendships and relationships. Darryl (32:56) And I'll just find somebody, some other group to hang out with on the internet. we need to be more right and isolated and lonely and talking to AI, like it's a real human being. And so I think we need to be more intentional than we've ever been about building trust. And that's, that's why I do the work I do. Jason Hull (33:00) And then we end up in these echo chambers for sure. Right. And isolated at moment, not in AI, like it's really easy to be. Okay, yeah. And so I think we need to be more intentional than we've ever been to build trust. Yeah, yeah. And that's why I do the work I do. Yes, I think it's more valuable than ever. more valuable than ever, yeah. Darryl (33:21) I try to teach people how to build stronger relationships. Yeah. Jason Hull (33:27) Yeah, and I think it'll become more valuable. I think that our failings and flaws as human will become more valuable because we're imperfect. And I think that humanity is going to be, or just our humanness is gonna be a premium. It's gonna be a premium experience to be able to be with a human. And so I think that relationships will matter even more and trust certainly. Darryl (33:50) Yeah. Jason Hull (33:52) And there's a lot of people that are trying to eliminate the need for trust. It's like forced blockchain stuff and tech and things are defined and there's no way they could steal, or lie. And like we force it so we can eliminate the need for trust. And maybe there's a little progress that can be made that way, but I think for sure trust will be a premium. Yeah, it's, it may eliminate. Darryl (33:58) Yeah. Yeah, it may eliminate our need for trust, it doesn't eliminate the need for us to be able to build trust with others. We still need to engage with other human beings. Jason Hull (34:18) Yeah. Yeah, well said. Well, Darryl, how can people get in touch with you or find out more about what you do? Tell us a little bit about what your offerings are and how they can get in touch. Darryl (34:23) Yeah. Right. So I offer executive coaching, consulting, uh, training and development, uh, workshops, those kinds of things. Uh, the book was written because I don't want what I know to go away if I do. and they can find me on my website at trust unlimited.com. Uh, there's a blog section there with plenty of articles and topics like rebuilding trust with the police or. Jason Hull (34:45) because I don't And they can find me on my website at trustunlimited.com. There's a blog section there with plenty of articles and topics like rebuilding trust with the police or Darryl (35:01) Trust in parenting or trust in leadership. ⁓ I have a podcast called the imperfect cafe. ⁓ Jason Hull (35:02) trusting parenting or trusting leadership. I have a podcast called The Uperca Cafe. Darryl (35:09) and they can reach out to me directly by email at Darryl at trust unlimited.com. Jason Hull (35:09) and they can reach out to me directly by email, darryl.trusthumbln.com. Perfect. Darryl, it's been a pleasure. Appreciate you coming on the show. Thanks for being here. Thanks for the opportunity. Absolutely. All right. So for those of you that enjoyed the show and you maybe have felt stuck or stagnant and you want to take your property management business to the next level, you can reach out to us at doorgrow.com. Darryl (35:22) Thanks for the opportunity, Jason. 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Renee Troughton: From Lower-Order to Higher-Order Values in Scrum Read the full Show Notes and search through the world's largest audio library on Agile and Scrum directly on the Scrum Master Toolbox Podcast website: http://bit.ly/SMTP_ShowNotes. "If you, as a senior leader, demonstrate vulnerability, it creates real magic in an organization where others can open up and be their authentic self." Renee defines success for Scrum Masters through deeply human values: integrity, holding her truth, being compassionately authentic, caring, open, honest, listening, and vulnerable. She emphasizes that vulnerability as a senior leader creates transformative magic in organizations, allowing others to bring their authentic selves to work. Drawing on Byron Katie's "Loving What Is" and Frederick Laloux's "Reinventing Organizations," Renee explains that many corporate organizations focus on lower-order values like results and performance, while more autonomous organizations prioritize higher-order values rooted in the heart. When having conversations with people, Renee connects with them as human beings first—not rushing to business if someone is struggling personally. Success means seeing people completely for who they are, not as resources to be changed or leveraged. The foundation for collaboration, empowerment, and autonomy is trust, respect, and safety. Renee emphasizes that without these fundamental values in place, everything else implodes. She demonstrates how vulnerability, active listening, and accepting people where they are creates the fertile ground for successful teams and organizations. Self-reflection Question: Do you demonstrate vulnerability as a leader, creating space for others to bring their authentic selves to work, or do you hide behind a professional facade that prevents genuine human connection? Featured Retrospective Format for the Week: Themed Retrospectives (Monopoly, Sports, Current Events) "It gave a freshness to it. And it gave almost like a livelihood or a joyfulness to it as an activity as well." Renee recommends themed retrospectives like the Monopoly Retro or sports-themed formats that use current events or cultural references (aka metaphor retrospectives). While working at a consultancy, they would theme retrospectives every week around different topics—football, news events, or various scenarios—using collages of pictures showing different emotions (upset, angry, happy). Team members would identify with feelings and reframe their week within the theme's context, such as "it was a rough game" or "we didn't score enough goals." The brilliance of this approach is covering the same retrospective questions while bringing freshness, creativity, and joyfulness to the activity. These metaphorical formats allow teams to verbalize things that aren't easily expressible in structured formats, triggering different perspectives and creative thinking. The format stays consistent while feeling completely new, maintaining engagement while avoiding retrospective fatigue. [The Scrum Master Toolbox Podcast Recommends]
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The Vulnerability of Mycenaeans and Minoans: Internal Decay and Collapse AUTHOR NAME: Eric Cline BOOK TITLE: After 1177 BC, The Survival of Civilizations The Minoans and Mycenaeans are considered examples of societies that failed to survive the catastrophe. Though seemingly vibrant, they may have been vulnerable and rotted internally, collapsing when stressors hit, possibly due to overextension on ambitious construction projects. Writing from the era (Linear B) is purely administrative, providing no records of the reasons for their demise or leadership quality. Their societies vanish completely by the 11th century BC.
The Vulnerability of Mycenaeans and Minoans: Internal Decay and Collapse (Redux) AUTHOR NAME: Eric Cline BOOK TITLE: After 1177 BC, The Survival of Civilizations This discussion reiterates that the Minoans and Mycenaeans exemplify societies that did not survive the Bronze Age collapse, ranking them low on resilience. They are thought to have been fragile internally, collapsing under stress, potentially due to overextended ambitious construction projects. Their administrative writing (Linear B) offers no explanations for their demise, but names of their gods continued into the Iron Age.