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Kim is a 61 year old mother of three who was diagnosed with MS in 2013 and decided to ignore her doctor's advice and muscle her way back to a happy life. Last year she became European Champion in Masters Weightlifting in her age and weight category. Her journey inspired her to leave her career in journalism in her 50s and become a health coach for middle aged women - with a big focus on reactivating and rebuilding muscle. Today, she helps women tap into an abundant source of vitality. It works by reactivating and maintaining muscle mass.   http://kimrahir.com   How to get in touch with Kim   You can access a free assessment tool about your health and strength at   https://fab15.me   You can also follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook and Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kim.rahir/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/kim-rahir/ https://www.facebook.com/kim.rahir/   If you want to get in touch directly, you can email Kim at   kim@kimrahir.com     About The Flare Up Show Find Chrissy Cordingley at ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.risethrive.ca⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow the Flare Up Show on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join the Rise and Thrive Wholeness Community on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠ Welcome to The Flare Up Show with Chrissy Cordingley. We tackle tough health topics with humor, share epic comeback stories, and explore ways to boost your mind and body. Whether you're feeling meh or need a laugh, join us for expert tips, inspiring chats, and a dash of fun to help you flare up to your best self. Ready to rise and thrive? Tune in and let's set your journey on fire! #TheFlareUpShow #RiseAndThrivePodcast #WholenessCoaching #WholeBeing #WellBeing #ReAlign #ReAlive #ElevateYourLife VIDEO MUSIC Credit; Happy Place Courtesy of ClipChamp Audio version Music Credit: Y2K by Lunareh

Kim Rahir is a 60-year-old mother of three who was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis (MS) ten years ago and decided to ignore her doctor's advice and muscle her way back to a happy life. She did not want to have the identity of a sick person and undergo lifelong treatment for her MS. Instead, after one year of exercising, she felt "normal" again. She continued to train and worked her way to become European Champion in Masters Weightlifting in her age and weight category last year. She started exercising in earnest six years ago and has had no relapses or treatment for her MS. Her journey inspired her to leave her career in journalism in her 50s and become a health coach for middle aged women, with a focus on reactivating and rebuilding muscle. Today, she helps women tap into an abundant source of vitality by reactivating and maintaining their muscles, while ditching diet culture conditioning in favor of eating to nourish and flourish. Kim helps middle aged women drop weight, get strong and boost energy by leveraging muscle mass and mindset work. Kim offers inspiration and insight for all of us in this episode. "I literally muscled my way out of illness and I now help midlife women deal with a host of health symptoms by building muscle and strength," Kim says. "My story made me change my career from journalism to coaching and I'm on an empowering muscle mission to help women claim their place and their happiness in midlife. I think that focusing on muscle (beyond just training and eating) can be a powerful driver of self-care and empowerment." Her mission is to "help women embrace muscle and strength as the one-stop-shop solution for a host of health problems often from our thirties onwards." Her approach is to turn scientific knowledge about human health into actionable tool kits for everyday life. Kim works with women in person and online. Her clients can reach out to her 24/7 via an app and can feel supported by her all the time. After only two weeks of training with Kim, her clients report that they "feel different." Kim's “Fabulous In 15” program--requiring only 15 minutes a day-- is a holistic coaching approach that helps women implement lifestyle changes that are sustainable with a step-by-step build-up of small habits and mindset techniques that help them stay the distance. "With a routine tailored to where they are at, they can start strength training safely immediately and eating intentionally to improve their quality of life without getting derailed when life gets in the way," Kim maintains. After feeling betrayed by her physical body, Kim now believes in the "simplicity of physical strength." Kim is the mother of three grown children. She is German, speaks languages and lives in sunny Spain. She strives each day to learn something new, connect and to give back to others. How to get in touch with Kim: You can access a free assessment tool about your health and strength at https://kimrahir.com  You can also follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook and Instagram: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kim-rahir/ https://www.facebook.com/kim.rahir/ https://www.instagram.com/kim.rahir/ If you want to get in touch directly, you can email Kim at kim@kimrahir.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/maria-leonard-olsen/support

In this episode, I interview  Kim Rahir, a health a fitness coach for women over 40, about her inspiring personal story of overcoming illness and taking control of her life through strength training and physical fitness.  Kim shares how getting strong physically and mentally transformed her life after a devastating multiple sclerosis (MS) diagnosis.  We discuss the importance of trusting your body, making informed decisions, and the mental health benefits of strength training. Kim emphasizes the importance of physical strength for overall health and quality of life and encourages listeners to see beyond their physical limitations and challenge societal norms around age and capability.    Takeaways Health and fitness is about more than just losing weight or fitting a beauty ideal; it's about being mentally, physically, and emotionally strong. Trusting your body and listening to its signals is crucial in making informed decisions about your health. Strength training has numerous mental health benefits, including reducing anxiety and depression. Building strength can empower women and challenge societal expectations of aging and femininity. It's never too late to start strength training and improve your overall health and well-being. _______ Kim is a 60 year old mother of three who was diagnosed with MS 10 years ago and decided to ignore her then doctor's advice and muscle her way back to a happy life. This year she became European Champion in Masters Weightlifting in her age and weight category. Her journey inspired her to leave her career in journalism in her 50s and become a health coach for middle aged women - with a big focus on reactivating and rebuilding muscle. Today, she helps women tap into an abundant source of vitality by reactivating and maintaining their muscles, while ditching diet culture conditioning to actually eat to nourish and flourish.   How to get in touch with Kim You can have a free Lifestyle Review with Kim at https://kimrahir.com where you will assess your health and fitness together. You can also follow her on LinkedIn, Facebook and Instagram: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kim-rahir/ https://www.facebook.com/kim.rahir/ https://www.instagram.com/kim.rahir/ If you want to get in touch directly, you can email Kim at kim@kimrahir.com  

Welcome to COFFEE with Kim with Host Kim Crabill and Special Guest Joey Canyon. Topic:  Joey Canyon - Meet the Man Behind Canyon Star TV Meet Joey Canyon, the man behind the singing of the multiple top ten hits, the movie acting and the new network, Canyon Star TV on the next "COFFEE with Kim" You'll no doubt be inspired as Joey speaks about his journey in a very real, genuine, down-to-earth nature.  Enjoying the Conversation?  Visit the COFFEE with Kim Show Page at www.up2meradio.com to learn more about the show, Host Kim Crabill, guests, to leave us a comment and subscribe to the show! This show is a production of Up2Me Radio in coordination with the Media Team of the Roses and Rainbows Ministry.  Visit the ministry at www.rosesandrainbows.org You can find, like and share us on Facebook at Up2Me Radio and on Instagram at Up2Me.Radio

Rounding Up Season 2 | Episode 9 – Instructional & Assessment Practices Guest: Dr. Kim Morrow-Leong Mike Wallus: What are the habits of mind that educators can adopt to be more responsive to our students' thinking? And how can we turn these habits of mind into practical steps that we can take on a regular basis? Dr. Kim Morrow-Leong has some thoughts on this topic. Today, Kim joins the podcast, and we'll talk with her about three mental shifts that can profoundly impact educators instructional and assessment practices.  Mike: Kim Morrow-Leong, welcome to the podcast. We're excited to have you. Kim Morrow-Leong: Thank you, Mike. It's nice to be here. Mike: I'm really excited to talk about the shifts educators can make to foster responsive interpretations of student thinking. This is an idea that for me has been near and dear for a long time, and it's fun to be able to have this conversation with you because I think there are some things we're going to get into that are shifts in how people think. But they're also practical. You introduced the shift that you proposed with a series of questions that you suggested that teachers might ask themselves or ask their colleagues, and the first question that you posed was, “What is right?” And I'm wondering what do you mean when you suggest that teachers might ask themselves or their colleagues this question when they're interpreting student thinking? Kim: So, I'm going to rephrase your question a little bit and change the emphasis to say, “What is right?” And the reason I want to change the emphasis of that is because we often talk about what is wrong, and so rather than talking about what is wrong, let's talk about what's right. When we look at student work, it's a picture. It's a snapshot of where they are at that particular moment. And the greater honesty that we can bring to that situation to understand what their thinking is, the better off we're going to be. So, there's a lot of talk lately about asset-based instruction, asset-based assessment, and I think it's a great initiative and it really gets us thinking about how we can think about what students are good at and what they bring to the table or what they bring to the classroom culture. But we don't often talk a lot about how we do that, how we break the mold. Because many of our metaphors and our language about learning are linear, and they indicate that students are moving from somewhere to achieve a goal somewhere down the path, somewhere down the line. Kim: How do you switch that around? Well, rather than looking at what they're missing and what part of the path they haven't achieved yet, we can look at where they are at the moment because that reflects everything they've learned up to that moment. So, one of the ways we can do this is to unpack our standards a little more carefully, and I think a lot of people are very good at looking at what the skills are and what our students need to be able to do by the end of the year. But a lot of what's behind a standard are concepts. What are some big ideas that must be in place for students to be successful with the skills? So, I'm going to give a very specific example. This one happens to be about a fourth-grade question that we've asked before in a district I used to work at. The task is to sketch as many rectangles as you can that are 48 square units. Kim: There's some skills behind this, but understanding what the concepts are is going to give us a little more insight into student thinking. So, one of the skills is to understand that there are many ways to make 48: to take two factors and multiply them together and only two factors, and to make a product of 48 or to get the area. But a concept behind that is that 48 is the product of two numbers. It's what happens when you multiply one dimension by the other dimension. It's not the measure of one of the dimensions. That's a huge conceptual idea for students to sort out what area is and what perimeter is, and we want to look for evidence of what they understand about the differences between what the answer to an area problem is and what the answer to, for example, a perimeter problem is. Another concept is that area indicates that a space is covered by squares. Kim: The other big concept here is that this particular question is going to have more than one answer. You're going to have 48 as a product, but you could have six times eight and four times 12 and many others. So that's a lot of things going into this one, admittedly very rich, task for students to take in. One of the things I've been thinking a lot about lately is this idea of a listening stance. So, a listening stance describes what you're listening for. It describes how you're listening. Are you listening for the right answer? Are you listening to understand students' thinking? Are you listening to respond or are you listening to hear more—and asking for more information from your student or really from any listener? So, one of the ways we could think about that, and perhaps this sounds familiar to you, is you could have what we call an evaluative listening stance. Kim: An evaluative listening stance is listening for the right answer. As you listen to what students say, you're listening for the student who gives you the answer that you're looking for. So, here's an example of something you might see. Perhaps a student covers their space and has dimensions for the rectangle of seven times six, and they tell you that this is a space that has an area of 48 square units. There's something right about that. They are really close. Because you can look at their paper and you can see squares on their paper and they're arranged in an array and you can see the dimensions on this side and the dimensions on that side, and you can see that there's almost 48 square units. I know we all can see what's wrong about that answer, but that's not what we're thinking about right now. We're thinking about what's right. And what's right is they covered that space with an area that is something by six. This is a great place to start with this student to figure out where they got that answer. If you're listening evaluatively, that's a wrong answer and there's nowhere else to go. So, when we look at what is right in student work, we're looking for the starting point. We're looking for what they know so that we can begin there and make a plan to move forward with them. You can't change where students are unless you meet them where they are and help them move forward. Mike: So, the second question that you posed was, “Can you cite evidence for what you're saying?” So again, talk us through what you're asking, when you ask teachers to pose this question to themselves or to their colleagues. Kim: Think about ways that you might be listening to a student's answer and very quickly say, “Oh, they got it,” and you move on. And you grab the next student's paper or the next student comes up to your desk and you take their work and you say, “Tell me what you're thinking.” And they tell you something. You say, “That's good,” and you move to the next one. Sometimes you can take the time to linger and listen and ask for more and ask for more and ask for more information. Teachers are very good at gathering information, at a glance. We can look at a stack of papers and in 30 seconds get a good snapshot of what's happening in that classroom. But in that efficiency we lose some details. We lose information about specifics, about what students understand, that we can only get by digging in and asking more questions. Kim: Someone once told me that every time a student gives an answer, you should follow it with, “How do you know?” And somebody raised their hand and said, “Well, what if it's the right answer?” And the presenter said, “Oh, you still ask it. As a matter of fact, that's the best one to ask. When you ask, ‘How do you know?' you don't know what you're going to hear, you have no idea what's going to happen.” And sometimes those are the most delightful surprises, is to hear some fantastical creative way to solve a problem that you never would've thought about. Unless you ask, you won't hear these wonderful things. Sometimes you find out that a correct answer has some flawed reasoning behind it. Maybe it's reasoning that only works for that particular problem, but it won't work for something else in the future. You definitely want to know that information so that you can help that student rethink their reasoning so that the next time it always works. Kim: Sometimes you find out the wrong answers are accidents. They're just a wrong computation. Everything was perfect up until the last moment and they said three times two is five, and then they have a wrong answer. If you don't ask more either in writing or verbally, you have incorrect information about that student's progress, their understandings, their conceptual development and even their skills. That kind of thing happens to everyone because we're human. By asking for more information, you're really getting at what is important in terms of student errors and what is not important, what is just easily fixable. I worked with a group of teachers once to create some open-ended tasks that require extended answers, and we sat down one time to create rubrics. And we did this with student work, so we laid them all out and someone held up a paper and said, “This is it!” Kim: “This student gets it.” And so, we all took a copy of this work and we looked at it. And we were trying to figure out what exactly does this answer communicate that makes sense to us? That seems to be an exemplar. And so, what we did was we focused on exactly what the students said. We focused on the evidence in front of us. This one was placing decimal numbers on a number line. We noted that the representation was accurate, that the position of the point on the number line was correct. We noticed that the label on the point matched the numbers in the problem, so that made sense. But then all of a sudden somebody said, “Well, wait a minute. There's an answer here, but I don't know how this answer got here.” Something happened, and there's no evidence on the page that this student added this or subtracted this, but magically the right answer was there. And it really drove home for this group—and for me, it really stuck with me—the idea that you can see a correct answer but not know the thinking behind it. Kim: And so, we learned from that point on to always focus on the evidence in front of us and to make declarative statements about what we saw, what we observed, and to hold off on making inferences. We saved our inferences for the end. After I had this experience with the rubric grading and with this group of teachers and coaches, I read something about over attribution and under attribution. And it really resonated with me. Over attribution is when you make the claim that a student understands something when there really isn't enough evidence to make that statement. It doesn't mean that's true or not true, it means that you don't have enough information in front of you. You don't have enough evidence to make that statement. You over attribute what it is they understand based on what's in front of you. Similarly, you get under attribution. You have a student who brings to you a drawing or a sketch or a representation of some sort that you don't understand because you've never seen anybody solve a problem this way before. Kim: You might come to the assumption that this student doesn't understand the math task at hand. That could be under attribution. It could be that you have never seen this before and you have not yet made sense of it. And so, focusing on evidence really gets us to stop short of making broad, general claims about what students understand, making broad inferences about what we see. It asks us to cite evidence to be grounded in what the student actually put on the paper. For some students, this is challenging because they mechanically have difficulties putting things on paper. But we call a student up to our desk and say, “Can you tell me more about what you've done here? I'm not following your logic.” And that's really the solution is to ask more questions. I know, you can't do this all the time. But you can do it once in a while, and you can check yourself if you are assigning too much credit for understanding to a student without evidence. And you can also check yourself and say, “Hmm, am I not asking enough questions of this student? Is there something here that I don't understand that I need to ask more about?” Mike: This is really an interesting point because what I'm finding myself thinking about is my own practice. What I feel like you're offering is this caution, which says, “You may have a set of cumulative experiences with children that have led you to a set of beliefs about their understanding or how they come to understanding. But if we're not careful—and even sometimes even if we are careful—we can bring that in a way that's actually less helpful, less productive,” right? It's important to look at things and actually say, “What's the evidence?” Rather than, “What's the body of my memory of this child's previous work?” It's not to say that that might not have value, but at this particular point in time, “What's the evidence that I see in front of me?” Kim: That's a good point, and it reminds me of a practice that we used to have when we got together and assessed these open-ended tasks. The first thing we would do is we put them all in the middle of the table and we would not look at our own students' work. That's a good strategy if you work with a team of people, to use these extended assessments or extended tasks to understand student thinking, is to share the load. You put them all out there. And the other thing we would do is we would take the papers, turn them over and put a Post-it note on the back. And we would take our own notes on what we saw, the evidence that we saw. We put them on a Post-it note, turn them over and then stick the Post-it note to the back of the work. There are benefits to looking at work fresh without any preconceived notions that you bring to this work. There are other times when you want all that background knowledge. My suggestion is that you try it differently, that you look at students' work for students you don't know and that you not share what you're seeing with your colleagues immediately, is that you hold your opinions on a Post-it to yourself, and then you can share it afterwards. You can bring the whole conversation to the whole table and look at the data in front of you and discuss it as a team afterwards. But to take your initial look as an individual with an unknown student. Mike: Hmm. I'm going to jump to the third shift that you suggest, which is less of a question and more of a challenge. You talk about the idea of moving from anticipating to targeting a learning trajectory, and I'm wondering if you could talk about what that means and why you think it's important. Kim: Earlier we talked about how important it is to understand and unpack our standards that we're teaching so that we know what to look for. And I think the thing that's often missed, particularly in standards in the older grades, is that there are a lot of developmental steps between, for example, a third-grade standard and a fourth-grade standard. There are skills and concepts that need to grow and develop, but we don't talk about those as much as perhaps we should. Each one of those conceptual ideas we talked about with the area problem we discussed may come at different times. It may not come during the unit where you are teaching area versus perimeter versus multiplication. That student may not come to all of those conceptual understandings or acquire all of the skills they need at the same time, even though we are diligently teaching it at the same time. Kim: So, it helps to look at third grade to understand, what are these pieces that make up this particular skill? What are the pieces that make up the standard that you're trying to unpack and to understand? So, the third shift in our thinking is to let go of the standard as our goal, but to break apart the standard into manageable pieces that are trackable because really our standards mean by the end of the year. They don't mean by December, they mean by the end of the year. So that gives you the opportunity to make choices. What are you going to do with the information you gather? You've asked what is right about student work. You've gathered evidence about what they understand. What are you going to do with that information? That perhaps is the hardest part. There's something out there called a learning trajectory that you've mentioned. Kim: A learning trajectory comes out of people who really dig in and understand student thinking on a fine-grain level, how students will learn … developmentally, what are some ideas they will develop before they develop other ideas? That's the nature of a learning trajectory. And sometimes those are reflected in our standards. The way that kindergartners are asked to rote count before they're asked to really understand one-to-one correspondence. We only expect one-to-one correspondence up to 20 in kindergarten, but we expect counting up to a hundred because we acknowledge that that doesn't come at the same time. So, a learning trajectory to some degree is built into your standards. But as we talked about earlier, there are pieces and parts that aren't outlined in your standards. One of the things we know about students and their interactions with grids and arrays is that a student might be able to recognize an array that is six by eight, but they may not yet be able to draw it. Kim: The spatial structuring that's required to create a certain number of lines going vertically and a certain number of lines going horizontally may not be in place. At the same time, they are reading a arrays and understanding what they mean. So, the skill of structuring the space around you takes time. The task where we ask them to draw these arrays is asking something that some kids may not yet be able to do, to draw these grids out. If we know that we can give them practice making arrays, we can give them tools to make arrays, we can give them blocks to make arrays, and we can scaffold this and help them move forward. What we don't want to assume is that a student who cannot yet make a six by eight array can't do any of it because that's not true. There's parts they can do. So, our job as teachers is to look at what they do, look carefully at the evidence of what they do, and then make a plan. Use all of that skill and experience that's on our teams. Even if you're a new teacher, all those people on your teams know a lot more than they're letting on, and then you can make a plan to move forward and help that student make these smaller steps so they can reach the standard. Mike: When we talked earlier, one of the things that you really shifted for me was some of the language that I found myself using. So, I know I have been in the habit of using the word “misconception” when we're talking about student work. And the part of the conversation that we had that really has never left me is this idea of, what do we actually mean when we say “misconception”? Because I found that the more I reflected on it, I used that language to describe a whole array of things that kids were doing, and not all of them were what I think a misconception actually is. Can you just talk about this language of misconception and how we use it and perhaps what we might use instead to be a little bit more precise? Kim: I have stopped using the word misconception myself. Students understand what they understand. It's our job to figure out what they do understand. And if it's not at that mature level we need it to be for them to understand the concept, what disequilibrium do I need to introduce to them? I'm borrowing from Piaget there. You have to introduce some sort of challenge so that they have the opportunity to restructure what it is they understand. They need to take their current conception, change it with new learning to become a new conception. That's our teaching opportunity right there. That's where I have to start. Mike: Before we close, I have to say one of the big takeaways from this conversation is the extent to which the language that I use, and I mean literally what I say to myself internally or what I say to my colleagues when we're interpreting student work or student thinking, that that language has major implications for my instruction and that the language that surrounds my assessing, my interpreting and my planning habits really matters. Kim: It does. You are what you practice. You are what you put forth into the world. And to see a truly student-centered point of view requires a degree of empathy that we have to learn. Mike: So, before you go, Kim, I'm wondering, can you share two or three resources that have really shaped your thinking on the interpretation of student learning? Kim: Yes, I could. And one of them is the book, “Children's Mathematics.” There's a lot of information in this book, and if you've ever engaged with the work of cognitively guided instruction, you're familiar with the work in this book. There's plenty of content knowledge, there's plenty of pedagogical content knowledge in this book. But the message that I think is the most important is that everything they learn, they learn by listening. They listen to what students were saying. And the second piece is called “Warning Signs!” And this one is one of my favorites. And in this book, they give three warning signs that you as a teacher are taking over students' learning. And one example that comes to mind for me is you take the pencil from the student. It's such a simple thing that we would just take it into quickly get something out, but to them, they expressed that that's a warning sign that you're about to take over their thinking. So, I highly recommend that one. And there's another one that I always recommend. It was published in Mathematics Teaching in the Middle School. It's called “Never Say Anything a Kid Can Say!” That's a classic. I highly recommend it if you've never read it. Mike: Kim Morrow-Leong, thank you for joining us. It's really been a pleasure. Kim: Mike, thank you for having me. This has been delightful. Mike: This podcast is brought to you by The Math Learning Center and the Maier Math Foundation, dedicated to inspiring and enabling individuals to discover and develop their mathematical confidence and ability. © 2024 The Math Learning Center | www.mathlearningcenter.org

Kim Shapira discusses How to Improve Your Health and Lose Weight with Dr. Ben Weitz. [If you enjoy this podcast, please give us a rating and review on Apple Podcasts, so more people will find The Rational Wellness Podcast. Also check out the video version on my WeitzChiro YouTube page.]    Podcast Highlights       Kim Shapira is a dietician with a BA in Kinesiology from Tulane and a Masters degree in Human Metabolism and Clinical Nutrition from Boston University and author of This is What You're Really Hungry For: Six Simple Rules to Transform Your Relationship with Food to Become your Healthiest Self.   Her website is KimShapiraMethod.com.   Dr. Ben Weitz is available for Functional Nutrition consultations specializing in Functional Gastrointestinal Disorders like IBS/SIBO and Reflux and also Cardiometabolic Risk Factors like elevated lipids, high blood sugar, and high blood pressure.  Dr. Weitz has also successfully helped many patients with managing their weight and improving their athletic performance, as well as sports chiropractic work by calling his Santa Monica office 310-395-3111. Dr. Weitz is also available for video or phone consultations.     Podcast Transcript Dr. Weitz:            Hey, this is Dr. Ben Weitz, host of the Rational Wellness Podcast. I talk to the leading health and nutrition experts and researchers in the field to bring you the latest in cutting edge health information. Subscribe to the Rational Wellness Podcast for weekly updates and to learn more, check out my website, drweitz.com. Thanks for joining me, and let's jump into the podcast.                                 Hello, Rational Wellness Podcasters. Today we will be speaking with Kim Shapira, who is a celebrity dietician and nutritional therapist about how to improve your health and lose weight. Kim Shapira has a BA in Kinesiology from Tulane and a Master's degree in Human Metabolism and Clinical Nutrition from Boston University, and she's the author of This Is What You're Really Hungry For: Six Simple Rules to Transform Your Relationship With Food to Become Your Healthiest Self. Kim does not believe in fad diets, vegetarian, carnivore, gluten-free, dairy-free tend to make you satisfaction-free. Replace these fad diets with a sustainable method that encourages you to eat what you love and empowers you to be the authority in your own body. Kim, thank you so much for joining us. Kim:                     Thanks for having me. Excited to get into this. Dr. Weitz:            Good. So what are some of the biggest challenges that clients have when they're trying to lose weight? Kim:                     The noise, I would say, in the rest of the world, outside of themselves. I think most people forget to listen to what's going on with their own body, and there's so much confusion with what everyone else is doing. Dr. Weitz:            But how do you know what your body's really saying? Kim:                     You got to be mindful, you got to be grounded. And most people are walking around emotionally triggered and they don't even recognize it. I mean our rational mind knows that food is fuel. Our irrational mind thinks food is comfort, joy, entertainment, the enemy, fun. And so, if you think food is anything other than fuel, it's time to check in with what's going on. Take some deep breaths and figure out where the discomfort is in your body or in your life that could be causing your mind to seek some pleasure from something that is outside of yourself. Dr. Weitz:            Now, you say that we should think of food as fuel, which is what I have always done, but a lot of people criticize me and say, "Well, you don't really enjoy your food, but yet one of your six principles is to eat what you love." Kim:                     Yeah. So, I understand what people are saying when they say that to you, and I think you do too, right?

The Cello Sherpa Podcast Host, Joel Dallow, interviews cellist Ray Kim, who is one of the newest members of the Atlanta Symphony Orchestra cello section. They talk about Ray's path from a childhood in South Korea through Atlanta for High School. When a global pandemic affected his ability to stay in the U.S., Ray returned to South Korea for mandatory military service, taught himself to play the trombone and still managed to find his way back to the Atlanta Symphony to land a job in the cello section. For more information on Ray, visit: https://www.aso.org/artists/detail/ray-kimYou can also find Ray on Facebook and Instagram: @hyugraykimFor more information on our sponsor: www.CLEAResources.com If you are looking for in person/virtual cello lessons, or orchestral repertoire audition coachings, check out www.theCelloSherpa.comFollow us on Instagram and Threads @theCelloSherpa

When I was still at my 9-to-5 corporate job, struggling, wanting to leave, knowing I needed to start a business, there was one key person who helped me make my dreams of being an entrepreneur come true. That was Kim Argetsinger. Today, I am so excited to have her on the podcast! Kim was my very first coach who helped me build the foundation and confidence that I needed to thrive and succeed as an entrepreneur.   Here's the craziest thing, Kim is now alcohol-free. In this episode, we have a full-circle, serendipitous conversation on our journeys to being alcohol-free, Kim's nuanced relationship with alcohol, its impact on her professional and personal life, and how this shift has led her to deeper self-awareness and success.   

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Two adult and one teenage man friends gather around to bash Mojo Discord server - https://discord.gg/X94h4XWKMQ Timestamps 00:00:00 Intro 00:05:10 Rishat's American Dream 00:10:30 Somethings from episode 142 00:21:05 Showering and eating pineapple are the same thing 00:29:45 "Mojo is bang for buck" 00:37:30 Abaro aanarosh 00:52:30 Things we hate corner 00:59:00 Outro Things mentioned Chainsaw Man (Anime) - https://myanimelist.net/anime/44511/Chainsaw_Man Jojo's Bizarre Adventure (Anime) - https://myanimelist.net/anime/14719/JoJo_no_Kimyou_na_Bouken_TV?cat=anime Death Note (Anime) - https://myanimelist.net/anime/1535/Death_Note?q=Death%20note&cat=anime Vinland Saga (Anime) - https://myanimelist.net/anime/37521/Vinland_Saga?q=Vinland%20saga&cat=anime Neon Genesis Evangelion (Anime) - https://myanimelist.net/anime/30/Neon_Genesis_Evangelion?q=Neon%20Genesis%20Evangelion&cat=anime Attack on Titan (Anime) - https://myanimelist.net/anime/16498/Shingeki_no_Kyojin?q=Attack%20on%20titan&cat=anime Game of Thrones (TV series) - https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Game_of_Thrones Listening to the show on iTunes/Spotify/Google Podcasts/YouTube really helps the podcast gain exposure iTunes - http://bit.ly/DUHonApplePodcasts Spotify - http://bit.ly/DUHonSpotify Google Podcasts - http://bit.ly/DUHonGooglePodcasts Saavn - https://bit.ly/DUHonSaavn YouTube - http://bit.ly/DUHonYouTube 2nd channel - http://bit.ly/DUHBoysOnYouTube Support the podcast through Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/duhabp or bKash or Nagad +8801943914563 DUH on social medias: Facebook page - https://bit.ly/DUHonFacebook Instagram - https://bit.ly/DUHonInstagram Twitter - https://bit.ly/DUHonTwitter TikTok - http://bit.ly/DUHonTikTok Apurbo YouTube - http://bit.ly/ApurbosYouTube Instagram - http://bit.ly/ApurbosInstagram Twitter - http://bit.ly/ApurbosTwitter MyAnimeList - https://myanimelist.net/profile/ApurboTheA1 Grouvee - https://www.grouvee.com/user/105735-ApurboTheA1/ Rishat YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFwHfBWsOZEW3cKFh_BWZaw YouTube - https://youtube.com/channel/UCJ2S-k0MBh3Pn5Jhdq_s1OA Ishmum Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCssbWLyz9JYIbGGGxxknnOg Instagram - https://instagram.com/kuddus.mia.42069?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y= Twitter - https://twitter.com/Beeg_Nontu MyAnimeList - https://myanimelist.net/profile/BeegNontu Grouvee - https://www.grouvee.com/user/123182-Dipjolfan42069/ Thumbnail from - https://www.google.com/amp/s/nypost.com/2023/05/04/i-get-paid-to-eat-food-in-the-shower-with-millions-of-people-watching/amp/ Bangladesh, Bangladeshi, Bangladeshi podcasts, Podcasts in Bangladesh, Bangla podcast, Bengali podcast, Podcast Bangla, Podcast, Bengal podcast, What is podcast Bangla, DUHABP, Ashrafuzzaman Apurbo, eatabrick, Some retard, duhabp #DUHABP #BengaliPodcast #BangladeshiPodcast #BanglaPodcast --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/duhabp/message

Brace yourself for this heartening conversation between Lesley and Kim Hamer as they unpack the nuances of cancer, loss, and empathy. The episode spotlights the transformative power of little acts of kindness in lifting our loved ones, the critical need for a supportive work culture, and the journey towards uncovering our own silver linings. This engaging dialogue is a resourceful guide, infusing strength and hope into the lives of individuals and communities coping with such challenging situations.If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co . And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe.In this episode you will learn about:The profound toll of cancer on individuals and their relationships.How your superpower can make a powerful impact for loved ones facing cancer or death.Creating a compassionate workplace environment for employees navigating loss.How Kim's book highlights the importance of genuine empathy and simple gestures.How Kim became a consultant in grief management. Letting others find their own silver linings.Episode References/Links:100 Acts of Love WebsiteGet Kim's 100 Acts of Love book hereFollow Kim InstagramFollow Kim on LinkedInDownload Five Phrases Never to Say to Anyone with Cancer and What to Say Instead! https://www.100actsoflove.com/whatnottosay  If you enjoyed this episode, make sure and give us a five star rating and leave us a review on iTunes, Podcast Addict, Podchaser or Castbox.Get your 15% discount for Toe Sox – use coupon code LESLEY15Be It Till You See It Podcast SurveyBe in the know with all the workshops at OPCBe a part of Lesley's Pilates Mentorshiphttps:// Join us at our West Coast Summer Pop Up Tour - Aug. 8-20, 2023Join us at Agency Mini - Sept. 10-16, 2023Join us at our Cambodia Retreat - Oct. 8-13, 2023FREE Ditching Busy WebinarAmy Ledin - Episode 5: "How to take fast action against limiting beliefs" ResourcesWatch the Be It Till You See It podcast on YouTube!Lesley Logan websiteBe It Till You See It PodcastOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley LoganOnline Pilates Classes by Lesley Logan on YouTubeProfitable PilatesSocial MediaInstagramFacebookLinkedInEpisode Transcript:Kim Hamer 0:05  I'm going to talk about a silver lining that I got from my husband's death. I want to make it really clear to everybody that it is not your job to point out other persons silver lining. So many people were like, well, you know, you have so much going for you like they were trying to put silver linings around. One of my friends said, Kim, you know, don't worry, you're young, you're beautiful, you can get married again. And I was like, Oh, well, then I don't need to be so sad. Because you can replace my husband.Lesley Logan 0:05  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started.All right, Be It babe. So today's guest on the topic is going to be something that makes you pretty uncomfortable. And I'm hoping to make some of these topics more comfortable. Because we kind of get over it, y'all, we got to start talking about grief, we got to start understanding how to help each other. And today's guest not only shares her story about how she lost her husband, but also what she's doing today to make workplaces a better place when it comes to grief. And, and I, I truly hope that you take some time to listen to this. I know you might be thinking, oh my gosh, Lesley, it's Tuesday. And I want like, all the happiness in the world. But today's guest is actually you know, what she's doing is she wrote a book called 100 Acts of Love. So it's actually quite a positive talk around a subject that we all want to avoid. And she's actually going to tell you the exact things not to say. So I promise you, you're gonna want to stick around because I know all of us don't want to say the wrong thing. We only want to do the things that can be helpful, and you're gonna get a lot of helpful tips. And also, you know, someday we're all going to be in a place where we are in grief. There's different kinds of grief, of course, but we're humans, we're going to lose each other in our lives. And so being able to hear other people's stories, I think is really important to understanding how, how every, how you're feeling is normal. And I know when you listen to this, that it's easy to put a lot of pressure on yourself to like, get it together and and be okay. And what I hope you hear from this is that it's okay not to be okay. So Kim Hamer is our guest today. She's beautiful, inside and out. And this is one of my most favorite interviews to do. So thank you, Kim, and thank you for being here to listen to this. And I can't wait to hear what your takeaways are.All right, Be It babe. I'm so excited to have you back with us today listening in because our guest today honestly, like, I'm so glad this woman came across my like my feed and thing of people I should interview because I definitely the topic we're talking about today. I definitely feel like I've been the person who fucked up and didn't do the thing and didn't say the thing and didn't help out. And everyone's like what and Kim's laughing. So Kim Hamer is our guest today. And she is an incredible person who is helping people actually do 100 Acts of Love and actually give steps and it's because she went through something traumatic and people weren't able to help out and then she saw herself in that so I'ma let her tell her own story. So Kim will you tell everyone who you are, and what brought you here today?Kim Hamer 2:50  Sure. So what brought me here today is my husband's death at the age of 44. He was six foot six tall about 230. So you know, good size man, not a skinny six foot six. And very healthy. We were like the typical LA couple, you know, like working out together and trying to make our way in the world with our three kids, making sure that they're good students, eating organic food, you know, exercising. And, and that didn't help. He was diagnosed with cancer. It was very surprising for both of us, I can't imagine someone says when they get diagnosed with cancer, Oh, yeah, I thought that was gonna happen. It's always surprising.Lesley Logan 3:36  But also, like, when someone is 60 Plus, you're like, Well, you know, It's a numbers game, right? Like, that sounds terrible. But like, 40, you don't go back to be diagnosed with something like that.Kim Hamer 3:49  This is very true. And it was really surprising to us. And what I learned in that first part of the journey, you know, that day that we found out it was literally like a mother's, you know, Hallmark movies that, you know, my husband had been having trouble breathing. And for some reason, when he said, I'm gonna call the doctor, I said to him, I want to come with you. And he right on the heels of that. He said, I want you to come with me like we knew something wasn't right. And I don't want to go into details of what the symptoms were because nobody needs, no one needs to be going oh my god, I can't breathe. I might have cancer. (...) Exactly. But we were sitting in the doctor's office and we had had he already had had an x ray and an exam and the doctor came in and we're sitting at the exam table on one side of the exam table. The doctor came in and wove his hands together and put them on the exam table and said to my husband, I think you have cancer. And the only reason he couldn't confirm it is because it was inside and we needed to do you need to confirm it with tests. So we kind of fell into this was very serious early on. It was stage four and had we not taken like immediate action that next week. He probably would not have lasted for the end of the month. It was really very, very well, we didn't know. So we didn't know it was that serious because the first doctor we were with was very kind of lackadaisical kind of like, well, we'll get this test started. And so anyway, what happened was, I needed a lot of help. I had three, we have three young kids at this time, I was trying to make a living as trying to help my house where he was working, and I was making living as a freelance writer. And I knew right off the bat that I was in way over my head, like I was absolutely positive. But I didn't know how people can help other than bring a meal, which is the one thing that everyone does. And that actually, sometimes I was like, no more like, Stop bringing us any more food. So through that process, what I realized was that some people knew exactly how to be helpful, and most people didn't know. And for those who didn't know, it was always this awkward place of like, well, what do you need, and I'm like, I don't know, I can't think of anything until 2am when Art's vomiting, and I realize I'm running out of paper towel, right, or, until the morning when I go to pour cereal, I gotta pour milk into the cereal from the bowl for the kids, and there's no milk. So there was a sense of like, there's just this big disconnect. I was on one side of this cliff, and everyone else is on the other side of the cliff, and everybody wanted to help but there was just we needed a bridge. So it, it was, it was my husband's job and we went into this, went into these roles without even discussing it. His job was to beat the cancer, he put blinders on, he focused on nothing but that, and it was serious enough that he couldn't work. So he did not have anything else to think about, but making it through every single day. And then my job became everything else. And the thing about our relationship is we definitely co parented so all of a sudden, I was parenting by myself, he would come you know, he would come out of chemo for a couple days, and then they'd slam with chemo again, and he disappear. And then he come out of chemo for a couple of days, and they slam with chemo again. So it was it was a very harrowing experience. And then we got the all clear. So which is a fantastic thing, you know, you get the all clear. And I thought, which is I think what everyone else thinks is you're gonna have a party and celebrate and you look at life brand new, and you're gonna go do all those things you've been scared to do before. That is not what happened. What happened was we spent, Can I swear? ...(Lesley: you can.) Okay, we spent months looking, we would get into bed and look at each other and go, What the fuck just happened? Like, like, literally like, and then we spent months wondering if we want to remain married. Because something like that really, it brings out the best in your marriage, and it brings out the worst in your marriage. So did we want to remain together? What was that about? I was pissed. Because my husband was...Lesley Logan 7:58  I could just imagine like, I've just spent all this time making sure you could just focus on living. And now you're thinking and I'm now I'm rethinking.Kim Hamer 8:07  No, I'm rethinking, Should I've made that effort?Lesley Logan 8:11  Oh my God. That's so much emotions.Kim Hamer 8:14  Yes. It's a lot of emotions. You know, I was pissed. I took on the role of taking on all this stuff. But I also took on the role of being a martyr. So there was part of that play in there. I was pissed because he never thanked me. I mean, just crazy stuff, crazy, crazy stuff. We go through our lives, we decide that we do like each other. And we do want to remain married, we go into couples therapy, which is very, very helpful. On top of all this, there's still side effects from the chemo that we're dealing with eight months later. So I think that's another thing that people don't understand is the chemo doesn't just kind of disappear out of your system. So we remain married, we're going to make a go of it. Were kind of like getting our feet back into life and going out and helping the kids do all these other things. My husband does his first triathlon. I've been doing them for years, it was sort of my domain, but I was like, go for it. It was his first triathlon, we go away for Thanksgiving, and he starts to have symptoms again, but he's not really focusing on the fact that there are symptoms. He's just saying he doesn't feel well. And then and then at the end of December was clear, you know, you look back at photos, you can see that he lost a lot of weight, but when you're with them day to day, you just don't notice. And then he, you know, we caught it, cancer came back less than two years later, it was stage four again. And then four months after that he died. So it was just sort of this whirlwind again. Of, Okay, we're gonna jump into the roles like I knew I was familiar with this role. He was familiar with this role. After he died, of course, you know, he was 44. So very young, and our kids were 12, 9 and 7, they were also young. And there was the sort of, I again, I saw how so many people knew what to do. And so many people didn't know what to do. How friends who we thought would step in, stepped back, and how other people who we didn't really even know that well became our friends. So I became in and stepped in and became my friend, became my husband's friend. And it was about that point that I started to get really resentful of people. I'm going to tell you all this is the honest truth.Lesley Logan 10:24  That's what we want because I think that like, like I said, at the beginning of this, y'all like, I was reading what you wrote. And I was like, oh, yeah, like, I know, like, when a friend has that kid, I'm like, Oh, I don't have a kid. So like, should like, what do you need? Do you need toilet paper? Like, but but they need more clothes? Do you need diapers? What? Yeah, exactly. Like, Hey, how's it going? Exactly. Exactly. I feel like, I feel like it's I love that you're sharing all of this, because I think I think one, then when someone in our lives is going through it, we can kind of like glean from this whole moment and learn from it. Also, like, we may be in your same shoes someday. And, gosh, we don't want to feel like we're alone. And like we're the crazy person who's like, yeah, you know, like I'm over the food.Kim Hamer 11:08  Exactly. I will tell you this, my kids went on a lasagna strike after my husband died because people kept bringing us lasagna. And you know, there's 100 million ways to make lasagna. So we were getting, so the kids would love one lasagna who I can never remember who bought it for us, you know, who brought it over. And then we have that one, then they have another one. And they were like this one sucks. A month into it, my oldest was like Mom, no more lasagna. We don't want any more lasagna. So I had to tell our friends like no more lasagna, y'all because we were lasagnaed out. So back to the resentment, you know, I just began to feel really angry. I was like, you know, my husband died. And you can't find the courage to come up and talk to me like what the hell's wrong with you? And then as the years go on, I start to have a lot of empathy, sympathy first, and then empathy. And what I realize is, I'm really mad, which is often the case, we get really mad because they're doing something that we have done in the past, or that we would do. And what I realized is I didn't know what to say, I would not have known how to help me if I had been my friend,. I wouldn't know what to say, I would have been the person who said, If you need anything, let me know. And we'll talk about why that's the least helpful thing later. So I wanted to, there's a lot of books out there, if you have cancer, a ton, you know, and it's never enough information, there can always be more, but if one in three of us is going to get a cancer, the other two need to know what to do. And that's why I wrote my book, so that people could quickly like just open it up in a panic like, Oh my God, what do I do, and they open up and, you know, tip number 48, is stock the bathroom, like, make sure that they have, you mentioned toilet paper, make sure they have toilet paper and toothpaste and soap and clean towels and you put your number on the, on a, tape it to the bathroom cupboard door so that when they run out of those things, they don't have to try to remember between them between that moment and getting to write into a piece of paper or getting to their phone to write it down, whatever. So I really want people to be able to take very simple actions, I think the thing that I realized, I think, the thing that I saw, the things that people did the most that were most helpful, were really simple things, you didn't need to sign up to bring food every single Monday for 365 days. Right? It didn't need that, you know, it was helpful for sure. But my idea of helping before my husband got sick would have been like, I need to take this whole thing on because I'm gonna make a difference. And, and you don't need to do that. A lot of the tips in the book were from simple things that people did, and they did them once. But they were really powerful. So that's sort of my story. And then I go into HR, I go back into HR. So I go back to work after not being, after not being in an office for over 12 years. I stumble a little bit and then I decide I need to go back into HR. And my very first job in HR was working for a president of a company whose wife had cancer and then died.Oh my gosh, like what a divine appointment. I hate, like not wanting to go through that. But like lucky him to have someone in his world who could just look at him and like see him.Yes, exactly. And I ended up helping the CEO, work with him because the CEO didn't have a clue what to do. I ended up helping his team work with them. And then the back of my mind, that's sort of where the idea came. And then last year, I just decided to go ahead and launch a consultancy. And right now my focus is on employee death. How are managers managing a grieving team? And I think I just spoke to someone yesterday who was like, oh, no, our managers are fine. And I'm like, oh, managers are not. They are scared. They are feeling a ton of pressure because they've got these, they've got these goals they have to meet. And then they've got a grieving team. So all of a sudden Tom, Mr. Nice Guy, Tom been around been nice the whole time, all of a sudden really mean in short and bitchy, and you know, but the manager is like, I need you to do this Tom. And now the manager is afraid to talk to Tom. But the managers feeling afraid because grief makes us feel insignificant and small and scared and afraid. So the managers feeling afraid, doesn't want approach Tom, who's now you know, Tom is off the charts crazy. And it's all because of grief. Yeah. And then Tom, all of a sudden decides to leave the company a year later. And no one, no one really puts those two together that the reason Tom's leaving, is because he wasn't given the space and wasn't told how the grief is going to affect his work. He feels disconnected and disenchanted. His boss is kind of being a jerk, the way Tom sees it. And they can't recover. Because no one's had that conversation with them about, hey, you guys are grieving. And this is what's going on. And this is what's happening. And let's, let's let's talk about how we can work around it. So that's, that's my focus now.Lesley Logan 16:05  I mean, what a journey like, gosh, thank goodness for you, and your awareness for this. Because I feel like, you know, there's a lot of people who are out there in the world who are working for themselves. And like, there's some beauty around that, but the most, most people are employee somewhere. And, you know, I would imagine that every owner of a company would like to say, hey, when our employees are going through something, of course, we're there for them. But the problem is, is you're correct. Doesn't matter what happened to the workplace or in life, none of us are really good at grief. None of us are really aware of like, because someone dying makes us think about if that person died in our lives, and when we like, get a little obsessed about that. And then we start to freak out and then we shut down and we're like, can't be, we just can't we don't we also don't want to make a mistake, because we don't want to say the wrong thing. So then we say the wrong thing, which is, let me know if you need anything.Kim Hamer 16:59  Yeah, exactly. Exactly. Lesley Logan 17:02  And we say that because we're like, I don't want to overstep. I don't want to overwhelm I don't, I don't, I don't want to make them cry. I don't want to make them mad. I don't want to like they seem to be doing well. So maybe I shouldn't bring it up.Kim Hamer 17:15  Yes, exactly. Exactly. I just got engaged and really want to share with her, but her husband just died. And I want to talk to her about it. Lesley Logan 17:20  Yeah, and that makes him feel even more alone. Because of course, of course, they want to be happy as well. Maybe they won't be as happy as they want to be. But they also don't want to be left out of your life.Kim Hamer 17:32  Yes, yes, you are exactly right. I think what happens is we make it about us and not about them. And I think there's two specific reasons we do this, one because we feel out of control. We don't know what to do. So when we're in fear, we step back, we just kind of take a step back. The other, the other reason is because when we're, we don't want to touch on it. It hurts, you know, I, I became aware of how difficult the loss of my husband was for my in laws several years later, like, because it was all about my loss at that point. But all of a sudden, I mean, you know, occasionally, during the last, during the first couple of years, I would look at and think, Holy shit, they lost a son. You know, so we're unable, we don't want to put ourselves in those shoes, because it doesn't feel good to think about the fact that yeah, we are all going to die. We're all gonna die. Yeah, you know what, we don't want to talk about it. We don't want to discuss it. We just kind of hope and pray that today is not the day.Lesley Logan 18:28  Yeah, I mean, it's and like, you know, literally today, we had a call with our financial advisor, she's like, Well, how do you guys feel about life insurance policies? And I was like, so I want to make sure that I am taking care of if he, guys, first, because I actually would need to hire a whole new him (...) like, he works with me, I'd have to hire an actual CEO, right? So I need to have money for that, and to be taken care of, because I probably won't be able to get off the carpet for a while. So we need that. And then if I go first, he has to find a new person to take over the company. Like we need to take that like that doesn't even cover grief. That's just like the numbers, right? So like, and even for some people, that's hard enough. So what I mean, you know, obviously like you have your own experience, but like what are some things that you have found like for people co workers and, you know, what are those things that people can recognize are signs of grief because I think we think they're always gonna be crying but also could be Bob's now short tempered, you know, like that's grief.Kim Hamer 19:32  Yes, yes, absolutely. First of all, please get the life insurance and double whatever you're thinking about, we can talk offline. Just double whatever you're thinking about. So I think the first thing is, yes, people tend to be short tempered. I always liken it to given birth and you know, you see the funny the funny outtakes when the woman's in labor and the husband like pats her brow and she just screams at him, right? She loses her mind. Well, that actually does happen. And sometimes in birth, because our bodies, our female bodies are so focused on doing this one thing. So anything that distracts us, pisses us off, because it's distracting us from the process. And so, when that happens, when grief happens to somebody, whether it's a colleague or a friend or a partner, you have these blinders on, because you were just trying to figure out what your next move is your brain is, you have now lost track of the person in your life, you can't find them anymore. Like they're not you, you can't fly to see them. They're not around the corner, or they're not in bed. So you're not showing up for work. So your brain is trying to adjust to this, this different time, space reality. And it's really working hard. And when it's really working hard, it doesn't like to be distracted. So grief can show up. Like all of a sudden, you could be talking about rainbows, and this person could burst out crying. So I think sometimes we think, Oh, no, let's not talk about that person, because I'll make them cry. That sometimes has nothing to do with it. It's just sometimes, it's just this random thought pops it and they cry. Short temperedness is a really great one, sadness, we don't do sadness well, we're so quick to call sadness, depression. But sometimes it's just sad. And so you feel lethargic, you don't want to go to work. Disinterest is another huge one that happens a lot. Is all of a sudden, that job that you loved. What's the point? Why am I going to work? Why am I showing up? This is really dumb. Right? And that can lead to that short temperedness. Right? Because someone's, someone who's not as close to the person who has died is at a meeting with you. And they're talking about this type of thing. And they're getting mad about it. And you're like, are you serious right now? Joe just died three weeks ago, and you're in here yelling about this number that doesn't make a rap of difference. So it's, I think those are some of the things that people need to look at. Another one that people often don't look at is the opposite, that high energy, high positivity, everything's going to be alright. It was purpose. You know, I'm really grateful I got to know this person, she was really great. Just that kind of high energy like, that is someone who's really working hard to protect that and that incredible anger, sadness, resentment. Another one is guilt. And guilt, of course, can't be seen. But sometimes when we're guilty, we turned to anger to protect it. Anger, I always consider anger as a cover emotion. Usually when you're angry, there's other feelings below that that are causing the anger come up. So guilt is another one I last words I exchanged with them wasn't good, I should have been nicer, or they were doing this meeting I didn't, you know, we can come up with all sorts of reasons we should, should have (...) and that can also drive a lot of a lot of feelings at work. So I think those are sort of the top ones when you, when you ask.Lesley Logan 22:49  Yeah, thank you. I mean, like, it is interesting how anger can be the cover for a lot of things, I think, the fear of all of it, right? So you know, and so you wrote a book. And what was that? Was that almost like therapeutic for you? Was it helpful to kind of like organize all the things that were helpful was it for you? So when a friend or family member is in the same situation, you can go okay, I have to remember this? Like, what prompted that? because a book is a big deal. It takes a lot of time and effort. So what prompted that?Kim Hamer 23:23  It was like a fight between me and spirit or me, whatever you want to call it, me, God, Buddha, spirit, whatever. Because there's like, you need to write this and I was like, yeah, no. I'm not ready. No, you really need it. No, no, no, no, no, you. I'm not a writer, I kept telling myself, I'm not a writer. And I finally decided, I wrote it and 17 minutes a day, every day I would go to work at a company, I would sit down at my desk. And I would set a timer and I'd write for 17 minutes. 15 felt to clean like it didn't feel like enough and 20 felt way too long. So 17 was what I found. And it just I would just kind of keep going and 17 minutes, 17 minutes, 17 minutes, sometimes I would end up writing for an hour. Other times, it was just all I could do to write for 17 minutes. And as it started to come out of me, that's when I started to organize it. So I realized that the book is organized in sections, helping with a car, right? And we don't think about that when someone's dealing with cancer, we're always going to food. But a car needs to run, a car needs to have gas in it, a car needs to be registered, right? All those things, a car needs to be washed, all those things around a car, then we have help around food, but it's not the typical Hey, bring over lasagna. It's things like put a cooler by the front door. So the person doesn't have to answer the door every single time a meal is delivered. That's a pretty important one. It gives the power back to the person who's receiving the support. Whether or not they want to put out the energy to talk to you at that moment or not you personally but talk to whoever's at the door. Yeah, I'm helping with kids because I had kids at the time and so helping, I still have children. They're just not children. I said that once, people go, My God, did they die? And I was like, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.Yeah it was just the size of them.Yes. And then work and helping from a distance. So that's how it became to be organized. But it was, it was very scary for me. But once I started organizing, I had a vision of it. I really kind of wanted it to be sort of like a coffee table book, the kind of book that people can leave out and people go, what is this? and open it up. I really wanted it to be easy to read. Because I don't like I mean, I'm all, I read a lot. But I hate, I'm a bullet point, underlying kind of gal, you know, and so I don't want to read when I'm in a hurry to help my friend who's dealing with cancer or loss or anything else. I don't want to have to read five pages to get to that one nugget. So it's, it really is sort of a flip open book. And you can just kind of open it up and like, oh, here give her cash. Okay, wait, it was say, give her cash and then run away? Okay, great. I'll do that. Yeah. So these kind of really simple tips. And so that's how it came to be. But I had friends, I, you know, took a chance. And I had friends come over a couple Sundays in a row. And they read through it with me, and they asked for clarity and area. So getting that feedback was really hard. It was not a painless process.Lesley Logan 26:17  No. But I love that you brought people in to help you with that feedback. As you were saying that I was like, Oh my gosh, it should be on like the guest bathroom toilet. Like, just, you know what I mean? Like, because like people are always in the guest bathroom. And they if they're, then they're a little longer than that. They could like repaint, like a just flip it open and go, Oh, yes, you could like pass on these little nuggets, so that, you know if they ever need it. And then maybe they have it, I think I think that, especially for what the whole book is, like, the way you put it together. And those bullet points. What I love about that is it's like we're so not, we're still not good at talking about grief. And so having a bullet point of I can do this. And also for the perfectionists and overachievers who are like I need it, I don't want to, I don't want to screw it up. It's like, just do this one thing and you don't have to do it every Tuesday, you could just do it this Tuesday. And like, that's it, you know, I mean, it's, we forget that those small acts really do mean a lot. And you don't have to be all or nothing, I think we can really take the pressure off of ourselves to do that because, you know, the other person may not need that same thing next week. So you don't have to sign up or the not sign up because you've told yourself a story is going to be for the next nine months.Kim Hamer 27:30  Right. Exactly, exactly. And I think that is a really good point. It really is. It's hard because we don't feel like it's enough, right? Our friend or colleague or employee is going through hell, and really what enough is, is if we could just take it away from them. And I think sometimes we just we don't define what enough is in our heads. And so we keep thinking, There's got to be something more there's got to be something I can do or be or say. And you know it you know, the book also includes what not to say and what to say. So even if you can get to the point where you read them what not to say and then you take one thing about to say and just do that. That's enough. We all want to be witnessed, right? That's what, I mean, that's what Facebook and Tik Tok and all mean, they just took what we wanted. And, you know, I used to be, I wanted to be in the school newspaper, or you know, in my hometown newspaper that was being witnessed. But now it's taken like national stage, right? So, so we all want to be witnessed, including when we're going through a difficult time. But that witnessing doesn't have to be like let's put, let's put together a prayer circle and circle around or when there's a full moon and, you know, howl to the wolves or something. It just has to be me. I'm so sorry, this is happening to you. Like it just, it just breaks my heart. Right? you just expressing that moment of touching in. And I think that's what we, I think that's what we're most afraid of. Lesley Logan 28:59  Yeah. I mean, my goodness, our fear keeps us from doing so many things in our own lives, let alone, let alone like being there for those when they need it. And so, okay, so I want to know how you became this consultant. How do you start? How did you start doing that? Like, was that something that you knew you could do? Is it because you've been an HR so you had an idea of like, how to start doing that like, because that's, that's like, that's a, there's a difference being like, Okay, I like wrote a book, okay, I have a job and now you're like, Okay, now I'm going to talk about grief all the time with everybody all the time. You know, like that's a big deal, and then you're also having, then you also relive your story all the time. So I just wonder, like, what, like, what allowed you to make this decision and like, how did you go about doing it?Kim Hamer 29:47  I think again, it was one of those tugs where there it's hard. I mean, it's hard. I just right before this call, I just sent out 15 LinkedIn messages, I videoed, a video them with the name, saying this's what I do, this is how I can help. And this is also how I can help and I sent them out. And, and the title of it says, let's talk about death, not yours, but your employee. And you get this message that says, let's talk about death with a link, and then they get a video. And, and it's, it's crazy making, I literally, I mean, there are days right before this morning, I was like, this isn't gonna work, I can't do this, I'm only gonna have one or two clients, you know, it is, every day, it is just deciding that I'm going to make some type of step by step, some type of goal for myself, and then I add a little bit more to it to make it a stretch goal to make it uncomfortable. And then I just have to hit the ground running. As far as process. You know, I've been in HR for so long. So what I've done is taken some of really basic kind of management one on one, and interwoven that with, with what it's like to deal with a grieving team. So it's not like I pulled this out of thin air. You know, I've been, I've been studying and taking classes and you know, I have my PHR, which is a certificate. So I've been enveloped in the HR world, and it was just sort of like, oh, well, this piece would fit nicely right here and this piece goes right here, oh, that piece goes right here. And so now all of a sudden, I have a process. So it's, I think, I think that's it really is sort of following your gut. And I hate when people say, I just have to tell you I'm so sorry, everyone who's listening, because you're like what if your guts wrong? And believe me, I just have that all the time. I'm like, what if I'm doing it wrong? It really is. It's, it's it is trusting, it is believing so much in what I'm doing that I can't not do it. And I've tried. I've tried to say you know what, I'm just going to do HR, I like it. It's an exciting field, no, two days are the same. That's where I want to go. And I try that road. And then in the back of my mind as always as okay, but write this one blog post about this thing. Oh, then you should probably do another blog post about that thing. And so it's just, it's always, it's always present. And so I can't ignore it anymore. I just can't. And it's scary as hell. I mean, it's, it's scary as hell.Lesley Logan 32:12  Yeah. I think you anyone listening can insert whatever their goal is. Yeah. And put that there because I think like you said, like, there's a tug. And I think like, that is a really like, it's like, it's an idea that just never leaves you like It's like Hello, knock, knock, knock. You should do this. Exactly. And so I think like, you know, thank you for sharing that in a way that we can all go. Yep, been there. I was talking with a friend earlier today. And I was like, yeah, sometimes I'm like, why am I like working so hard on this thing that I'm like, so passionate about because like, I make really good money, just teaching. Just teaching, I could just teach and like, that was it, right? And then as I was saying that I was like, and I would be so bored. Cuz I clearly like this. What I'm doing stretches me in a way that like challenges me makes no two days the same. I know it's making a bigger impact. So it's just this really funny thing. Like it's pretty hard. Eventually that voice gets so loud, you can't not listen to it. So I love it. Thank you for sharing that process. You know, I think it's really cool. What you're doing, there's, it's so needed. And I, like, as you're talking about, like three people, I hope she'll just (...). Like, I just I don't know why I've been so interested in this topic lately. Because it's not like I've had any loss in my life. And a lot recently or that are close to me. But I do see how it affects, I coach a lot of Pilates instructors, a client passes away. And it's like, that's your, every Sunday at 9am. That was your client, like, that's, you don't just go and put someone else in there. It's not like the person goes, thanks so much Less, I'm not coming anymore. Not renewing my package like that. It's like...Kim Hamer 33:59  But even that's a loss. I mean, you know, you know, I just broke up with a guy. It wasn't like, we did like five dates. And I texted him and said, Hey, I don't think this is a fit. And then last week, I'm thinking about him. I'm like, Ah, maybe, maybe he was so sweet. He was so nice this way. And you know, like, because I realize I'm grieving, not the kind of grief that is when you're, when your person dies, but even losing a client, someone who you like is grief. And I think that and I think you're questioning it, your kind of curiosity about it right now really speaks to the fact that there is, there's loss almost, especially in if when you're an entrepreneur, there's loss of pretty much every weekLesley Logan 34:45  (...)Kim Hamer 34:47  some dreams, something that you have to give up and sometimes it's, sometimes it's bigger and better but I also think this is what makes life amazing. And,you know, we hear people talk about the stories and about how, I think, I don't remember, wasn't Brene Brown, it was someone else who just talked about how to use terrible things to really make your life sweeter. And I hate to say that I want I do want to say something, I'm going to talk about a silver lining that I got from my husband's death. I want to make it really clear to everybody that it is not your job to point out other persons silver lining. So many people were like, well, you know, you have so much going for you like they were trying to put silver linings around. One of my friends said, Kim, you know, don't worry, you're young, you're beautiful, you can get married again. And I was like, Oh, well, then I don't need to be so sad. Because you can replace my husband.Lesley Logan 35:43  You know, you know that they don't mean it that way. But, like, yeah, I love that. We don't need to find other people silver lining, they get to do that in their own story.Kim Hamer 35:55  Exactly. And, you know, the silver lining for me is, I mean, there's been a ton of them, you know, I, I hadn't experienced with my youngest son, I was, I applied to speak at this event. And I needed to have my application reread, like, I just knew I wasn't quite gotten it. And my daughter does a lot of it for me. And I just called my youngest son because we've been working together on some writing stuff for him. And so I said, Hey, can you take a look at this? And he's like, yeah, and took a look at it. And he said, I don't understand this. And what about that, and, and it got, it got clear, I got clarity. And my application got accepted. And I thought, I said to him, Oh, I said to him, you know, your father would be so proud that you did this. And then I thought, Oh, if Art were here, I would have never gone to Ezra, I would have never asked my youngest son for support, right? And that we now have a bond on a different level because my husband's dead. And there's no trade off. I can't say I wish my husband was alive. And I wish I didn't have this bond. And I'm glad my husband's dead. And I'm grateful for the bond. There's no, there's no either or it's just this kind of combination. So I have this incredible bond with my children, where I ask them for support in a way that most mothers when you're married to someone, you don't ask your kids for support in that way. And it was so beautiful, and so sweet and so wonderful. And it's because my husband died. So there's this, there's always this juxtaposition of my life. I really like my life. I really do. And I still think about my husband every single day. Not always in tears, a lot of times in laughter. But I still think about him every single day when my life is really sweet, and wonderful and open and kind and I love more openly because he died. I can't trade that, there's no trade off.Lesley Logan 37:51  Oh my gosh, Kim, you're amazing. I hope we get to connect more in the future. I just, I'm grateful that you're doing what you're doing. We're gonna take a brief break everyone. And then we're gonna find out how people can work with you and your Be It action items. All right, Kim. Well, you have been just wonderful sharing everything that you've learned. And I've learned so much from you already. Where can people find you, follow you, work with you? I know you hang out on the LinkedIn. Kim Hamer 38:21  I do. Hang out on LinkedIn. Uncool professional platform.Lesley Logan 38:27  I know (...) is trying to get me over there. And IKim Hamer 38:31  We'll talk afterwards. Get some pluses. So yeah, so find me on LinkedIn, I'm @Kim Hamer on LinkedIn, you can just Google my name and it comes up on LinkedIn. I also spent a lot of time on Instagram @100actsoflove. So I'm also there, you can find my stories about my kids and more personal stories about my life as a widow there. So those are the two best places. If, I know, we talked about this really quick and is it okay, if I talk really quick about what's the number one thing not to say?...(Lesley: Yeah, yes.) Okay. Because I wanted to make sure I touched on that. So the number one thing not to say, If you need anything, let me know. There are four reasons you should never say that. One, is because it doesn't connect you we talked a lot about just sitting in the yuck with the person who is going through this horrible time and it's really important that you just take a moment to go, Oh, you know, to say, My heart hurts or I don't know what to say, to acknowledge what's happening and that phrase doesn't acknowledge it. Two, you're gonna like this one. But Lesley, what is anything? like anything, like, did anything mean that you're gonna go pick up my vomiting four year old toddler and the car you just cleaned? Or did anything mean you just be happy to drop off a bottle of wine? Anything is too big for anybody to get their head around. It's just too much. The third reason it's not helpful, now you put the pressure on the person you're trying to help to come up with something. Right? And so their brains already like I like to say they already don't have 52 decks, 52 cards in the deck right now, they may be down to 26 and maybe they have 47. We don't know. But they're not thinking straight. And so you're now putting the extra pressure on them to figure out what anything is and figure out that one thing that you might be willing to do. And the fourth reason it's not helpful is because y'all none of us are really good at asking for help. And now you've put the pressure on someone who is extremely vulnerable with their life right now, their life has ups that like the floor has become the sidewall, and they don't know what they're doing. And now you're asking them in this extremely vulnerable state, to ask you to do something that you may not want to do that they just figured maybe this is the thing that you want to do and risk rejection. And nobody is going to do that. And we all think I don't want to bother them, they're too busy. This puts a burden on them. That's where our heads go. So the person is, is unless they're like your bestest friend in the whole wide world, they're not going to come back and ask you to do something. So that's why it's the least helpful. Instead, be specific and offer more than once. Now, there are four other things I recommend that you don't say. And a great way to find those four other things is to go to my website, did you like the segue there?...(Lesley: I love it. I love a good transition.) You go to my website at 100. That's the number 100actsoflove.com. Backslash what not to say. So you'll download, it'll say for cancer, it applies for everything, you will learn the four other things not to say, why they're not helpful to say, because I think that's really important that people start to, there aren't there's an anatomy of an unhelpful thing to say. So people start to kind of understand, oh, when I'm in fear, I tend to say things that are less helpful. And then they'll also find other phrases to say instead of those four bad phrases, so that's what I wanted to share.Lesley Logan 41:47  Oh, my goodness, okay. Well, thank you. That is, I'll be going there, we'll put the link in the show notes. You know, I mean, it's just, it's terrible that we all are and it's 2023 when we're recording this and like, we still don't know these things. They're not being taught these things in school, you know, you've given us so much and so honestly, if that is the bold, executable, intrinsic, target step to Be It Till You See It, I'll take it. But if you had anything else to add to that, you know, let us know because, you're so, you're so informative, and it's really easy for people to understand. So...Kim Hamer 42:26  Thank you, I think that I have sort of three. The first one is feeling feelings, it sucks that this person who you like or care about, or really love is going through what they're going through. And I recommend, you know, crying in a car, just put some sad music on a car, just go for a drive and have a really good cry, maybe not drive and cry at the same time. Depends how coordinated you are. Larger crying, but you know, get those feelings out of you, right? Pissed off letter to the higher power about how this isn't fair. But whatever it is, get those feelings out of you. Because once they're out of you, when they do a lot less damage out on paper or in the air than they do in your head. And when they're in their head, when they're in your head, they leak out of you, no matter how hard you try to not have them leak out of you, they will leak out of you. And the person you're trying to help will feel them, they may be completely unable to articulate what they're feeling but they're going to feel them. And that's what you don't want to do. I think the second actionable thing is think about your, what your specific offer is, you know, we all have helping superpowers. Mine happened to be I love a clean kitchen, you need me to come in and clean your kitchen, I'm happy to do it. And I will find whatever you need from the grocery store, I will meet that truck at 5am in the morning to make sure that I get that item off that off that truck. So those happen to be two of my favorites. But there things that we're really good at, maybe it's Excel, maybe it's putting together a pivot table, right at work, maybe it's putting together a project report, maybe it's corralling children, maybe it's maybe it's driving or fixing cars, or you have a really good mechanic, we all have specific things that we're really good at. And that we like to do. And we don't find value in them, because they're so easy for us. But that's your helping superpower. So offer that and offer more than once because again, the person that you're dealing with, is not dealing with a full deck of cards. So make sure that you're just, you know, just reminding them every now and then that you're there. And then the last thing is, this is sort of hard, but don't make it about yourself. If they don't call you. It's not because you're an ass or they're mad at you or whatever. It's because I think that I guess maybe the third thing is put yourself in their shoes. Yeah, for just a moment. Right? They're not really concerned about calling you because they're pissed at you because you didn't offer the right way. They got so many bigger things to deal with. That is like 1027 on their list right now. So don't make it about you just send them a lot of love. So I think those are the three things. Lesley Logan 44:51  Yeah, those are beautiful. And actually just like, I'm so glad I just like went through them. I can't wait for Brad to hear this because I'm like, Oh, we're really going to help him out with dogs. We can walk people's dogs. And whenever I ordered chewy, I can go and figure out what their order is. And just place that thing like, you know what I mean? Like we can all find different things that we can whenever I'm going to order dog food, I can just you know, so like, there's ways we can make it so that it's helpful. And you don't have to feel like you had to like, you don't feel like you're burdening yourself with it as well. So continue just putting more pressure on yourself and you do nothing. Yeah. Oh my gosh, thank you, Kim, for being here. Y'all...(Kim: You're very welcome.) How are you going to use these tools in your life? How are you going to use these tips? I really hope that this is one of those episodes you can save and re listen to if you need or share with a friend who's like oh my gosh, my friend at work went through this thing. It's like oh, hey, listen to this because this is, here, you know, I mean, like that's why I hope that this episode can be for you. Tag Kim Hamer, tag the Be It pod with your takeaways and until next time, Be It Till You See It.That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It Podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review and follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcast. 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168. The 4 C's of Home Management Series - 3. Cleaning | Routines, Schedules, Time Blocking, Home Organization, Productivity, Mom Life, Parenting, Kids, Family, Back to School, Systems, Home, Cleaning The 4 C's of Home Management Series - The Third "C" - Cleaning: A. Kid's Chore System B. Cleaning Schedule C. Clutter Control D. The 2 Beasts - Dishes & Laundry Want to know more on how to create these four systems, what they are and how to start implementing them in your home and family? Then pop those air buds in, grab a pen and paper, and let's dive right into today's episode! Happy Listening Friend! XO, Kim You can view our current content - from lots of FREE printables, to our blog, from Pinterest to Etsy, and more! Need the link to our PLANNER SALE for July - click here now! https://linktr.ee/highfivemotherhood?utm_source=linktree_profile_share<sid=4ab650b3-67d0-4ca5-84cb-f2c8b7dfd2f1

Well it has been a minute since we had a chance to catch up and record a podcast but in this episode Tamara shares her insights and experience from her recent family trip to Japan. Kim and Tamara also share their love for Scottsdale, Arizona and some of the things they did on a girls' trip together. Read more at: Scottsdale girls weekend Reasons to visit Scottsdale in summer Best Scottsdale Arizona resorts for girlfriends trips Scottsdale weekend itinerary Tamara also talked about her time in Paso Robles, California. You can read her Paso Robles itinerary to get inspired to visit this wine region. Kim attended conferences in Walt Disney World (read her tips for using DVC points to save money on a Disney World vacation), Disney Land, and San Antonio. She also took a family cruise to Alaska aboard the Norwegian Bliss, which was different from her Alaska cruise on Holland America last summer. Kim also took a quick press trip to Iceland, where she was able to explore Reykjavik and visit the Sky Lagoon. We really dug into Tamara's 2-week trip to Japan which included: 5 Days in Tokyo 5 Days in Kyoto 3 Days in Osaka If you are planning a trip, be sure to read Tamara's Japan travel tips! When talking about how great Google Maps can be to figure out transportation in Japan, Kim also mentioned her post about using Google Maps to plan a trip. Tamara was also just back from a short press trip to Waterton and Glacier National Parks. We will be traveling a lot over the summer so expect to hear another episode in the late summer. Then you will hear about Tamara's trip to Scotland & Wales, her river and barge cruises in France, and Kim's amazing trip to Kenya. Full Episode Transcript [00:00:00.000] - Kim Today, we're journeying to the land of the rising sun.   [00:00:14.520] - Tamara Welcome to Vacation Mavens a family travel podcast with ideas for your next vacation and tips to get you out the door. Here are your hosts, Kim from Stuffed Suicase and Tamara from We Three Travel.   [00:00:29.740] - Tamara Kim, I can't believe the last time I really talked to you was when we were together in Scottsdale in April.   [00:00:34.670] - Kim I know. It's been a crazy travel season for us. Good. I love that travel's back and everything, but it's also crazy because I thought we would be talking more and we've seen each other so much at the beginning of the year. And then all of a sudden it's like, Oh, summer is almost over.   [00:00:47.920] - Tamara Not quite. That was our intent was to have this monthly. We're struggling, guys. So if anyone is still listening and subscribe to us, which I hope that they are, we're going to do a quick little rundown of some of our recent travels. Now you'll see why we haven't been able to connect and record an episode.   [00:01:07.600] - Kim Yeah, exactly. It's been insane. The last time you guys heard from us, we were headed to Scottsdale, which was middle of April, and we both, I think, had an amazing trip there. We both published our articles, so you can always head to Wee 3 Travel and Stuff Suitcase and see the stuff that we covered. But I loved Scottsdale. It was great.   [00:01:25.720] - Tamara Yeah. I think Scottsdale just continues to be a place I want to go back to because there's so many beautiful resorts and hotels, so there's always some place new to check out. There's amazing spas. Then this time, we did a lot of really cool activities.   [00:01:41.370] - Kim I loved how it was really I think Scottsdale is a great destination a combination for being able to do outdoorsy things. We did hot air balloons, horseback riding, a few different things. But we also did wine tasting and shopping and went to some museums. Then, like you said, went to an amazing spot, the Phoenixion. Scottsdale, if you are a spa person, that's where you want to go.   [00:02:03.230] - Tamara I've been watching our friend, Colleen, that lives out in Scottsdale. She seems to be hopping around another spa every day. I'm like, Wow, I want to come be your friend right now.   [00:02:12.830] - Kim I think everyone's been saying that, I want your job.   [00:02:15.790] - Tamara I'm sure. I would definitely say romantic getaway, girlfriend get away. Scottsdale is amazing for that. There's plenty to do with the family as well because of all those outdoor activities. But definitely check out. I know I have an itinerary. You have some great suggestions on things to do in the summer and how to manage the heat out there. D efinitely check those out on our websites to see more.   [00:02:39.620] - Kim So where did you head after Scottsdale?   [00:02:41.800] - Tamara I went right from Scottsdale to T uson to see Hannah for a little bit. And then the following week, I went to Paso Robles, which I'd learned.   [00:02:51.090] - Kim I always said it was Paso Robles. Oh, it's Robles.   [00:02:52.980] - Tamara Yeah. And it's actually Robles. And I'm like, I feel silly saying Robles.   [00:02:57.270] - Kim Yeah, it sounds like Marbles.   [00:02:58.630] - Tamara But that is a wine region in central California near San Louis Biscoe. I just love it. I was there, I think it was nine or eight years ago with the family, and we were checking out some family friendly wineries there. But it has just exploded in terms of the number of wineries, but also really good food now. The downtown has expanded. I stayed in a new boutique hotel that was just I loved it, which was so cool. It has a rooftop bar. It had a wine, actually a champagne vending machine in the lobby. Oh, I saw that. I saw your story on that. Yeah. So I had a great time out there. And I definitely think anyone that's into wine, put that on your radar as a region to visit. You can easily spill a long weekend. I had a couple of really wonderful spots that I went for wine tasting, just those perfect, incredible views, great food, wonderful wine. I think where many, many years ago it was newer to the scene or it was well known for J. L oor, some of the bigger names. There's just so much going on out there.   [00:04:02.940] - Tamara Where did you go next? Because I know you were really busy right after our.   [00:04:06.130] - Kim Scottsdale trip, too. I had three trips back to back. I did go to Disney World for a conference and I got to ride the new Tron ride. I also checked out a new hotel, which was the Contemporary Hotel, which I had never been to. I loved that. I really do love the splurging on those Disney World hotels that have the monorail access and the ones we've been at Revere too with the Skyliner because, man, it's amazing how much easier it is just to get into and not have to deal with the bus system because then whenever I have to wait for a bus to one of the parks and it's like, inevitably I get there and I'm the last one, I've got to wait for 20.   [00:04:39.400] - Tamara Minutes or something. I will say that's what I liked the most about Disneyland because I've never stayed on park at Disney World. I've only stayed at partner hotels and by hotels.   [00:04:50.150] - Kim Yeah, it is a big splurge for sure. I have a great article about that, though, because we splurged and used... We rented DVC points to be able to stay, and it's still not cheap. It was for the graduation trip and stuff, and this one does a conference hotel rate. I'm definitely not saying it's cheap, affordable, but if you do want to splurge, renting DVC points, and I have a link, so if anyone wants it, or you can look up the how I saved $2,000 plus dollars at Disney World. I have how we did that in there. I actually just tried to do it for Disneyland, but they didn't have any availability because Disneyland only has one property, almost two. Anyways, I did that. But then right after that, I also went on another Alaskan cruise, which you and I have talked about a few times. I'll soon have a couple of articles updated, but this was more of just a family cruise, so I didn't actually treat it like a work trip, which was nice to.   [00:05:39.930] - Tamara Just relax. Which cruise were you on this time, though? Because I feel like was it last summer that you did celebrity?   [00:05:44.310] - Kim Holland last August, which I absolutely loved. I loved Holland. I haven't done celebrity in Alaska yet, but Holland America was awesome. This time we did Norwegian because my family has status with there, and so they like to book Norwegian. We did the bliss, which we have been on the bliss before for a little media sailing when they started it.   [00:06:02.560] - Tamara That's the one that we took.   [00:06:03.920] - Kim To Alaska. Yeah, exactly. Family trip. Yeah. Anyway, so that was that. Then I had one other conference, then back to Disneyland. I hit both the parks within about three weeks of each other, but that was a lot of fun and just...   [00:06:17.460] - Tamara You should have really had a Disney.   [00:06:19.000] - Kim Cruise in the middle. I should have. That would have been perfect. Yeah, exactly. But anyways, that was a wrap up for me. My final trip that I did was I went at the end of May and went to San Antonio for another conference. It feels like most of mine were conferences. I was just conference out. But San Antonio is a cool city. It's been a while since I've been there. I went there for one day when I went to school in Texas for a little while. It was fun checking out San Antonio. But I know you've done a lot of other travels that did not involve conferences.   [00:06:51.170] - Tamara Yeah, I'm like, Have I? I guess. You forget by now. Yeah, that's for sure. Well, I went back to T uson a week and a half later to pick up Hannah and bring her back from school. Then we were home for a week. Then we did our two week trip to Japan. Then I was home for, I don't know, two weeks. Then I just did a real quicky trip to Glacier National Park area.   [00:07:14.290] - Kim Right. I forgot you went to glacier and I went to Iceland. I forgot to mention that. Oh, yeah. I'm blanking on June. I forgot June even existed. Sorry, I was just focusing on up to May, but yeah, definitely. I didn't get to experience the Iceland you got to experience because we stuck around Reykjavik and just explored a couple of attractions that were around there. So it was a quick, quick trip. But Mia is quite the little outdoor lover and cultured lover, so I definitely want to go back to Iceland with her because I know she'll just love to do some of the exploration that you've done.   [00:07:48.850] - Tamara I was going to say, I'll meet you there. Yeah, definitely. I'm always ready to go back there. Yeah, well, I'll definitely put all of these links to articles in our show notes so you guys can read more. But I think.   [00:08:00.800] - Kim That's a good way to do it. But I think we should dive into Japan because it is a very hot destination. I'm still so sad because ours was canceled. We were supposed to be going in April 2020, so we switched off and now you got to finally live the vacation that I was dreaming about back then. I think we should give everyone just a really quick rundown because I know that you have done an amazing job of writing a whole bunch of articles that are really going to be useful for people who are planning a trip to Japan. Let's just start off and give you an idea of how many days were you there and how maybe did you break up your itinerary?   [00:08:36.480] - Tamara Yeah, absolutely. We took two weeks because especially coming from the East Coast, it's just such a long trip. Honestly, it's been on the top of our bucket list for so long, but we just haven't had two weeks where we felt comfortable to go that far knowing we're going to deal with jet lag on the way back. And then the flights are just always so expensive. But at least I was able to use points for one of our flights. So we took two weeks. I flew out on a Saturday morning. Yes, I got there on a Sunday, and then we were supposed to come back on Saturday, but we came back on Sunday because of a weather delay. But anyway, so I did five days in Tokyo, five days in Kyoto, and then three nights in Osaka. When I first started planning the trip, a lot of people told me that I would only need two or three days in Tokyo. But as I was looking at everything that we wanted to do, I was like, I really feel like I could easily spend a week here. It's just a fascinating city. There's just the ultra modern, and then there's the more traditional and each neighborhood is so huge.   [00:09:42.570] - Tamara I think what many people don't realize is just how large the cities are. It's funny, I was talking to my mom before I left, and I don't think she's kept up on modern times as much. There's no way she's listening to this podcast, so I can say it. But she was like, Oh, I showed a picture when we went. She's like, Sky scrapers? I wasn't expecting that. I'm like, What do you think? It's rural villages. But this is the biggest city in the world.   [00:10:09.310] - Kim Yeah, for sure.   [00:10:11.080] - Tamara So it's so huge. And I'm used to going to Europe where even though the cities can be really large, we always stay in that historic, more central area where you're mostly walking. You're taking the metro, but you're primarily walking around a lot. And you may pick a neighborhood, I think about Paris. You pick a neighborhood each day. But in Tokyo, to get to a certain neighborhood, it might be 45 minutes on the couple of connections with the subway and stuff. So I'm glad that we did five days. That's crazy. I could end that was within without doing the Disney stuff, which I know many people like to do when they go there.   [00:10:49.630] - Kim I do know that as a Disney person, it would be hard for me to go to Tokyo and not do Disney, at least Disney Sea, because it's considered a really unique park.   [00:11:00.330] - Tamara Yeah, that's what everyone says. It's unlike any of the others. I get it. But we're not as.   [00:11:06.430] - Kim Into the.   [00:11:06.990] - Tamara Theme parks. Glenn was like, I am not going around the world to go to theme parks.   [00:11:11.590] - Kim Exactly. When you have limited, yes, it's totally valid. I mean, it's very hard to figure out. I agree. I get what he's saying, but I also have that side of me that's like, Oh, but how can you be this close and not do it? So it's very hard to balance that. So, yeah, it sounds good. So you were saying, I know you guys... So I'm picturing Tokyo for my own planning. So you guys were in the Northwestern side of where you look at the downtown to the...   [00:11:38.990] - Tamara Right. The Shizuku neighborhood, which some people were like, oh, do you want to stay there? It's like Times Square. And the area right around the train station is lots of neon, lots of crazy, especially at night. But we were honestly within a 10 minute walk to that, but where we were was more like, business, like government buildings, things like that. So it was really quiet, peaceful. It was great. And we stayed at the Hilton, Tokyo, and it was basically on top of... You could go just down an escalator and connect to two different subway stations. Plus they had a free shuttle if you wanted to the Shinkoku train station. So it was really very accessible. It felt very convenient. And there was plenty of restaurants and things around, but it wasn't super expensive. I don't know how expensive, really, but the Ginza area is much more high end. And then the Shiboya would be nice. But it totally.   [00:12:43.620] - Kim Worked for us. We were happy with it. Nice. That's perfect. Yeah. I had looked at staying in the ginza area because of a few... I was also liked that it was closer to the Disney side, so it was a little easier to get out there. For those of you planning Genza area is basically opposite, diagonal across from where tomorrow states. I've heard the same thing from my research. You really have to allow a lot of time to transfer if you're going to different sides of what you consider the downtown center, 45 minutes to get across sometimes. Kind of crazy. Great. Well, what were some of the highlights then that you guys did when you were in Tokyo?   [00:13:17.970] - Tamara We did a sushi making workshop with True Japan, and we really enjoyed it. The ladies were just really friendly and funny and nice. And so it was fun to see what goes into making sushi. And you probably know that I'm not a sushi eater, really. And we can talk about food later because it worked out better than I expected, except for a couple of times. But it was just fun. It's such a huge part of the culture. So I enjoyed that. We didn't do a whole lot of tours and things. We did a lot of exploring on our own. But the one thing that everybody has to do, which was as amazing as you would think, was the team lab planets, which is that immersive art experience where there's water and flowers and reflections. It's just unlike anything else. And it's really cool. And we've done the traveling, like van go immersive experience. But this was turning that up times 10 or more. And Hannah really loved it. It was really cool. The thing about it is you definitely have to book your tickets well in advance because just one of those things you have a timed entry.   [00:14:30.970] - Tamara It's super popular. And honestly, when it comes to planning Japan, you really need to plan really far in advance. I mean, if you want to get restaurant reservations, some of them book up a month in advance. I think because some of them are so small that if they could take reservations, it might be for eight seats. And so they just go really quickly. And we weren't even there during cherry blossom season or golden week in early May when it's extra busy. difficult to do that. It was amazing. But I would say those are definitely highlights. I just loved exploring different areas. We did go, surprisingly, I liked this, but we went to a sumo wrestling tournament. Yeah, I wonder if I saw that. Which sometimes when people are there, they can see a practice. But there was actually a tournament going on while we were there. So that was something that I had figured out ahead of time. And when the tickets went on sale, I was able to book those the day that they were released. And it was a very cool thing. You don't want to spend hours and hours there because you don't know who the guys are.   [00:15:33.160] - Tamara But just like you could see how excited everyone was to cheer for their favorite, the local person or whatever. And it's just such a dramatic theatrical type of sport. It was interesting. Yeah, for sure. Those are some of my highlights.   [00:15:48.770] - Kim That's awesome. Because I know I saw some of the restaurant experiences you had. It seemed like sometimes you guys went simple and basic, but other times you went really over the top. Anything in Tokyo that you think somebody should splurge on or any savings tips for food or eating in Tokyo other than the restaurants making the reservations?   [00:16:08.160] - Tamara Yeah, we did mostly the casual places in Tokyo. What I was trying to do, because I'm not a sushi eater, is have a variety of foods. And in Japan, all the restaurants really specialize in one thing. They do ramen, they do tempura, they do soba noodles, different things like that. So there's so many different styles of food to try within Japanese cuisine that we just booked a different style of food each night. And honestly, in some of them, we had to line up for the first night that we got there, we went to a place where it opened up five, and we got there at 445, and there was already probably 40 people in line for a 10 seat little place. And you basically you would wait till there was enough space in line. There was people sitting at the counter eating and then people standing behind them waiting for the second that they got up to sit in.   [00:16:56.790] - Kim Their seat. Oh, my goodness.   [00:16:57.810] - Tamara Oh, wow. And you had a vending machine, which is typical. Yeah, a vending machine to order from. So it's typical in a lot of ramen shops. So there's pictures and you just hit the button of what you want. You put in the money, you get a ticket and you hand.   [00:17:11.650] - Kim The person the ticket. That's like McDonald's.   [00:17:13.780] - Tamara Yeah. I'm just kidding. Those.   [00:17:16.820] - Kim Screams in the middle. They have one at Tim Horton's as well. So of.   [00:17:20.940] - Tamara Course, I made a mistake the first time because I saw people with a broth, which I thought was a ramen, and then a bowl of noodles. And I'm like, oh, that's so I saw on the machine that they had dipping noodles and they had ramen. And then you could add extra things, but only if you could tell what the picture was because it was otherwise in Japanese. And so I ordered dipping noodles because it looked really good and ramen because I thought that that's what people had. And then when I handed the girl the ticket, she was like, for one person?   [00:17:51.710] - Kim Oh, no. And she was like, you.   [00:17:53.890] - Tamara Want small or large? Because I was like, oh, is that not what they have? And she was like, no, they have. Because the dipping noodles come with a broth, so I thought it was that they had two.   [00:18:02.980] - Kim Different things in front of them. Oh, and bologna.   [00:18:04.650] - Tamara Yeah. Okay, got you. But I'm really glad that I did it because both were delicious. So I'm happy to sample both. But then Glenn ordered on his ramen, Scallions, and it was covered. It was like a mountain of Scallions because I was like extra. But it was like, if you get extra cheese on a pizza, it's like extra.   [00:18:23.110] - Kim Extra extra. Oh, my goodness. Crazy. I mean, I love Scallions, but I don't know if I could handle the mountain of them.   [00:18:27.560] - Tamara It was crazy. So you make those little mistakes. But we did a lot of the more casual things. And the hard thing is that honestly, I kept saying this, but there's very little in between. So there are the places where you... First of all, Japanese people love to line up, which is really hard when you're visiting and you're tired and you want to be able to eat with a certain time. People wait for two hours to get into this little ramen place or whatever. Oh, my goodness. Yeah, because you're like, I'm tired. I've been running all day. We were running like 5 to 9 miles. We were doing a lot of walking every day. So I'm like, I just want to sit down. So that's why we tried to do some reservations. But there were the really casual, inexpensive, really inexpensive places. And then there's the crazy, crazy high end... Some of the Sushi places, I'm like, there's no way. Because some of them charge up to like $500.   [00:19:19.820] - Kim A person. Oh, my goodness.   [00:19:21.930] - Tamara Insane. That's crazy. So there's just not a lot of middle ground is what I found. Okay, good to know. But the low end, not low end, but the inexpensive stuff is really good.   [00:19:31.970] - Kim Yeah, of course. You just have to go on to wait for it.   [00:19:35.440] - Tamara Yeah, exactly. And honestly, one day... So we had a bit of a rough start because Glenn had a stomach bug the day before we left. So the whole flight over and everything, he basically didn't eat for a couple of days. And then I had a really bad cold the day before we left. And for two days, I was so nervous, I'm testing. I'm like, Please.   [00:19:57.490] - Kim Don't let it be.   [00:19:58.350] - Tamara And it was. And it was just a cold, but I was still super congested, so it was just hard. And in Japanese society, you can't blow.   [00:20:06.290] - Kim Your nose.   [00:20:06.970] - Tamara In public. So I'm trying to be so discreet, going outside and blowing my nose and sanitizing and tucking it into my pocket know, like very... Like trying to be really conscious of that and trying to be super sanitary. But Hannah did end up getting a cold also. One day she was just not feeling up to going out and doing a tour and stuff. So we're like, just stay here and sleep. It was going to be the day that we toured one neighborhood and then we went to the sumo wrestling, and she wasn't super into that anyway. So we're just sleep. And then she went out on her own and she found a 7 11 because just like everybody says, 7 11 has amazing convenience food. So you can buy these really good sandwiches and all that stuff. So there's definitely plenty of ways that you can eat cheap there.   [00:20:56.090] - Kim That's good to know. So then from Tokyo, you went to Kyoto? Yes. Kyoto is such a different vibe. Yeah, the bullet train, right?   [00:21:05.570] - Tamara Yeah. So a couple of things to know about the bullet train is that we had gotten the JR pass, which allows you to use all the JR trains. We got the national ones, so you could use bullet trains as well, except the super fast ones weren't included. And we had gotten one that allows us to make seat reservations. And you also, if you're bringing luggage on the train, you now need to make a reservation for the luggage. And this is for more of a checked bag size luggage, not the carry on size. But we were there for two weeks, so we had checked bags. So you can make a reservation for the last row of seats where the luggage can go behind you, or there's a couple of spots on a luggage rack, but they're really cutting down on luggage on trains. Or you can ship your bags ahead, which we ended up actually a couple of times just shipping our bags ahead. And it only costs $20 a bag. It's waiting for you in the hotel when you get there. It takes 24 hours. So you need to have a small bag with all your stuff for.   [00:22:06.140] - Kim Then one day. Yeah.   [00:22:07.320] - Tamara But we took the bullet train and that worked really well. We saw Mount Fuji because it was a nice day out. So and we ended up like, we got to Kyoto and we just put our bags in a locker and then we took a local train out to Nara, which is about a half hour away or so, maybe 45 minutes. And there's a really beautiful, huge temple out there. But also it's known for their deer park, which Glenn, years ago, because we both work for a Japanese company, so he's been to Japan many times, but 25 years ago. And so he would always tell us about the deer in Nara that bow to you to get fed. Oh, right. And the deer have changed a bit in the last few years.   [00:22:53.320] - Kim Yes. I've heard about this stuff. They have this issue at the monkey place, too.   [00:22:57.310] - Tamara They were so aggressive. That's too bad. They were grabbing my shirt and pulling on my shirt. They nipped my butt. I'm like, Whoa. I feel like all these videos of Glenn and I trying to run away from the deer and we're like, Oh, no. Let's just get away from where the food is so that the deer are calmer. But it's funny because later in the trip, we went to the island of Miyajima, and they have wild deer there also. And one of them followed me into the visitor center, went over to the desk, grabbed a brochure, and then ran out.   [00:23:29.250] - Kim Because they like to get the paper.   [00:23:31.240] - Tamara And so the person comes running out behind the desk, yelling at the deer. And then there's three people in the street trying to wrestle the paper away from the deer.   [00:23:39.390] - Kim Oh, my goodness.   [00:23:40.590] - Tamara And I'm like, You think of deer in the headlights, these gentle creatures.   [00:23:45.240] - Kim Yeah, exactly. It's sad when humanity is like, Yeah, I won't get there.   [00:23:51.560] - Tamara No, it's definitely because there's too many tourists now. They're being fed. Definitely not a great situation. But we did enjoy the day trip out there. Yeah, for sure. I love everything about Japan. It's just so clean and orderly and polite and easy to figure out. My type A personality just really appreciates the order of things. I would like that too. The fact that everybody stands in a line and waits and then you get on when you get on. I love that because in a society where everyone's pushing or whatever, I get.   [00:24:27.400] - Kim Super stressed out. Oh, my gosh, I hated it. We were on a cruise, a European cruise, and that attracts a lot of Europeans. I thought, Oh, you wait in line for your turn to go get your food that you want served. But no, people just come up from other directions and just walk right up. There's no line concept. I'm like, Oh, I like lines. What am I supposed to do? So sorry.   [00:24:49.240] - Tamara I get that. You would love Japan. I think it's such a wonderful place to visit. I think there must be challenges if you live there within the culture. I recognize that I used to work for a Japanese company. I'm aware of many of those issues, but as a visitor, it makes it so pleasant. But anyway, I was going to say that they have lockers where you can store things. Everything is just easy. The trains, everything is in Japanese and English.   [00:25:19.260] - Kim I know they did a big push with that before the Olympics were going to be there. They were trying to...   [00:25:25.180] - Tamara And all of the trains have signs that say what the next stop is. Because sometimes you're on a subway and you're trying to look and you're like, Oh, yeah. They might not answer, but you're like, What was that?   [00:25:36.320] - Kim What did they say?   [00:25:37.460] - Tamara That's Charlie Brown's.   [00:25:38.740] - Kim Teacher talking to you. Exactly. I've had that happen so many times.   [00:25:43.040] - Tamara So that part was great. And Kyoto is just very different. So it is more traditional in the architecture. They preserved a lot of the traditional architecture. There's tons of shrines and temple s o that's the thing is that you could get a little shrine and templed out, but the architecture is so beautiful. There is a downtown center city that's more city like, but it's nothing like Tokyo.   [00:26:09.310] - Kim Or Nagasaki. I remember when we were looking to stay in Kyoto, I seem to recall because we were going to go during... We were hoping for cherry blossom season, but I seem to recall there it's still pretty spread out and there's little neighborhoods in Kyoto even. It's like, okay, this one has more of this vibe and this one I can't remember where we were staying, but I was looking at the different things and getting the bamboo forest, like, oh, well, I'd have to leave here and we want to be near a train station.   [00:26:32.970] - Tamara All those plans. Yeah, you do want to be near a train station because the metro system is not as well developed there. So we took a mix of busses, GR trains, private trains that you paid for the same way you'd pay for a subway. But when we stayed at the Hyatt Regency, which was probably about a 10 minute walk to one of the train stations, but there was a bus that stopped right outside that then went to the main Kyoto station, which is where we would get on to go to the bamboo forest. And then, yeah, so it was conveniently located, but you definitely needed to plan your travel because some of those destinations, especially many of them were taking slower local trains, and they could still take 45 minutes to.   [00:27:26.150] - Kim An hour. That was one of the things in my planning that was the hardest is recognizing that there are so many different train lines, like brands, and you might have a pass with one, but it doesn't necessarily mean you can go on every train that's coming in. So it's an interesting thing that I've never... I'm sure maybe it's in other places around the world, but it's not something we think about in the states at all.   [00:27:49.420] - Tamara The nice thing, though, is that we had our JR pass, which, by the way, I don't even know if they're going to be that useful after this fall because the price is almost doubling. It's going up. It's having some. Unless ticket prices are going up a lot also, you might just want to buy individual tickets.   [00:28:04.190] - Kim Individual.   [00:28:04.600] - Tamara Ticket, yeah. But we bought, as soon as we got, we had ordered the JR passes ahead, so we had our voucher that we had to turn in to get the actual pass. Then we went to an ATM because you needed cash for a lot of things. We have to also use cash to get an IC card. So this is the rechargeable card that you would use to get on the metro or the bus or something like that. But the nice thing is that unlike, Oh, I'm going to New York, I need a metro card. I'm going to this place, I need that card for their.   [00:28:32.660] - Kim Subway system. Yeah, like Long Island Railroad and Metro card.   [00:28:35.370] - Tamara Yeah, exactly. This card worked for all of them. And it also works for a lot of vending machines.   [00:28:41.990] - Kim Some convenient stores.   [00:28:42.850] - Tamara Yeah, the vending machine.   [00:28:43.690] - Kim I forgot. And you reload it always with cash, though? You always have to reload it only cash. You can't reload it with cash.   [00:28:48.300] - Tamara Yeah, which is so bizarre. It's like this is a digital payment system and I'm loading it with cash.   [00:28:53.590] - Kim I wonder if it's because they want to make sure that you're actually paying for it. They don't want you to just be able to dispute it and have gotten the ride for free or gotten the food for free. You know what I mean? I wonder if it's a culture thing.   [00:29:04.840] - Tamara I do know that it used to be, before COVID, a very cash based society. Now more and more places will take a credit card. And if you have, there's a lot of... Not many places take Apple Pay, but a lot of them do take a tap payment system, but more one that they have in Asia. I don't know if it's really worth signing up and trying to figure that out. Got you. I just basically used my.   [00:29:28.420] - Kim Chip credit card. The IC card and.   [00:29:30.030] - Tamara The card anytime for that. And the IC card for the metro, the bus, some vending machines, some required cash still. But yeah, it's just super convenient. So even though there are different trains, so yeah, maybe you can't use your free pass, not for you because you.   [00:29:44.710] - Kim Paid a lot for it.   [00:29:45.480] - Tamara But it's still pretty easy to get around.   [00:29:49.930] - Kim Yeah, it's good. That's great. And I do want to quickly, before we jump over to finishing up Kyoto and going to Asaka, I did want to mention something that you did that I think was brilliant because I even had looked into doing it when we were planning our trip. And that was you had someone meet you at the airport, right?   [00:30:05.450] - Tamara Yeah, I did. And don't do it. At least not for the company that I did. Okay, here we go. You and I had talked about it. I think it was about $75 to $100. It was the company that I bought the JR Pass from. I also arranged to rent a mobile hotspot, so that was taken care of ahead of time to pick up at the airport. And I arranged to have a greeter meet us after customs. And then what I was told was that that greeter would then take me to do the things I need to do at the airport, which would be pick up my mobile hotspot, exchange my JR Pass, get my IC card, find where I need to go to get my transfer.   [00:30:45.390] - Kim Get the train.   [00:30:46.220] - Tamara I figured, hey, it's not a lot of money in the grand scheme of things.   [00:30:51.800] - Kim And especially.   [00:30:52.310] - Tamara After traveling.   [00:30:52.820] - Kim For 20 hours.   [00:30:53.250] - Tamara And I want to be jet lived. Yeah, exactly. This will be useful. It was such a waste of money because first I'm trying to talk to the guy, I'm like, okay, we need to go to an ATM, and he's not even understanding what I'm saying. I'm like, You're a greeter. I'm not coming in there with like, everyone should speak English, but his job is.   [00:31:11.680] - Kim To meet people. When you pay people. Yeah, exactly. I know a lot of times they'll have if you want to in English or if you want to in... You can specify a language, but.   [00:31:20.330] - Tamara It seems like it's... Yeah. So one person had my name up and then she called this guy over. So it's like a service they do for multiple people. They had multiple greeters there. I don't know if I just got an inexperienced person, but I went to the counter of the mobile WiFi hotspot place and that person spoke perfect English, no trouble communicating at all.   [00:31:40.320] - Kim And it was easy to find. And you were able to easily find everything.   [00:31:42.690] - Tamara Yeah. I mean, he led me there, but I could have found it on my own, no problem. And then I was trying to explain that I wanted to go to the JR ticket office to get our pass, but also see if he could help us make reservations. Yeah, exactly. Because I wanted to make the reservations as soon as I had my pass because I wanted to try to get the luggage reservations. And he was just like, Oh, no, they don't do reservations here. And I'm like, Oh, well, that's part of why I wanted to pay for this service because I wanted somebody to help me translate what my need was. And meanwhile, we were back and forth, just not understanding each other. So then I get in line at the JR ticket office. I get up there, perfect English from the person that's behind the desk, completely easy to talk to. They didn't make the reservations there. They told me where to go in the Tokyo station or Shinchu station, whatever, which I did the next day. That person also spoke really good English, was able to communicate no problem. And then I was trying to explain that I want to get an IC card.   [00:32:38.620] - Tamara And he was like, Well, you can get the one that requires a deposit or not a deposit. I'm like, I don't care? Can you just tell me where? And he didn't know where to go. Finally, the guy that was behind me in line at the JR ticket office was like, Oh, you want this line right here. And I'm like, Thank you. Then I'm like, What? Then I had arranged for an airport limo bus to take us from the airport directly to our hotel. I just thought first day, and it's really, it's inexpensive. Taxis there are very expensive, but this is inexpensive. And instead of having to drag some bags on multiple trains and subways, I thought it's easy. And so I was like, I thought all that would take us an hour and a half, maybe, from the time we arrived. So I had booked a later bus, but it was really quick to do all of it. So I was like, Oh, maybe we can get an earlier bus. So I was trying to get him to help us with that. No. So I ended up just doing it on my phone. But then he had to come down and he was like, No, I have to wait.   [00:33:42.890] - Tamara Because I was like, Okay, we're all set. Thank you. Bye. And he's like, No, I have to wait till you get on the bus. I'm like, All right, well, can you just stand over there? Because I'm like, I'm done.   [00:33:52.120] - Kim Yeah, exactly. You did not help me. Wow. Okay, well, that's good tip. Good to know.   [00:33:56.970] - Tamara What not to.   [00:33:58.150] - Kim Do, I guess. What not, yeah. No, I mean, it's good because I had considered that too because I was thinking the same thing like, Oh, my gosh, how am I going to get my pass? I was thinking all that same stuff.   [00:34:07.930] - Tamara Cool. I think a lot of things with travel, it feels so overwhelming. But once you're there, you're like, Oh, this is not as bad as I.   [00:34:13.260] - Kim Thought it was going to be. Well, especially in a country that you can't even get around with. It's like, Oh, I speak a little Spanish. I speak a little French. It's just like, None of that's going to help you. You don't want to go in being a ignorant traveler who's just like, Oh, why don't you speak my language in your country? Exactly. I can't stand people like that. But anyways, okay, good to know. Anything else about Kyoto you wanted to mention? I did think it was awesome, your little tip about the bamboo forest. It wasn't really a tip, but I was so happy that you had that experience because I heard the same thing.   [00:34:44.990] - Tamara When I was there, even, I saw some people on Instagram that seem to be there at the same time, but a couple of days before me. And they showed just this mass of people walking through. Because the word is out that for many of these things, you need to get there early. And so even if you show up at 7 AM, there's still this massive crowd of people funneling through this little area. And I don't want to do that. It was an hour away. No one's getting up at 5 AM to get to a place by 7 or whatever just to take a photo. My family doesn't roll like that. They're like, I don't really care about your photo. We just want to see it. And so we decided to sleep in a little bit. We went, we had lunch, then we went to the monkey forest. And I will say the whole Arashima area is, for a touristy area, so much nicer than I expected. It was really lovely. And there's a really pretty river that runs along that on some days you can run boats. It was really nice. Anyway, so we went to the monkey park first because Glenn loves monkeys, although it's such a steep climb up there, he was like, This better be worth it.   [00:35:53.700] - Tamara Actually, there was a fan of it that was like, This better be worth it for your monkeys. But it was cool. We saw a lot of baby monkeys. The monkeys were not aggressive at all. They just hung out as long as you followed the rules. You weren't staring at them in the eyes to challenge them or something. Then we went to a temple, then we went to the forest. So we got to the Grove, not really a forest. It's much smaller than you think it's going to be. We got there maybe like 2.30, 3 o'clock, and it was fine. There was people there, but no crush of crowd and plenty of space to have a photo. Yeah, there's people in the background, but that's fine. Honestly, we just wanted a couple of family photos. I'm not going to win an Instagram competition over it, but it was nice. And it's really beautiful. It's really pretty. But sometimes I think doing the opposite of what everyone says.   [00:36:47.700] - Kim You should do and work out. Especially when it's been around for so long, people are saying do that because it's very much like, oh, the gates open at seven. And so everyone who's built up, it's just like Disneyland. People say, oh, rope drop, rope drop. And you get there. And if you get there late, there's such a long line to get in. And then people come 30 minutes after opening and they walked right up to the turnstiles. There's something about that.   [00:37:10.900] - Tamara Yeah. And I looked at Google Maps is wonderful. It was so helpful for the travel, figuring out the trains because it would say what platform, but also what car to get on if you were transferring. And then when you were leaving the station, what exit to take because those train stations are huge. So you're like, you don't know where you are when you come out. So it was really, really helpful. And it would tell you like eight minutes, 3 stops, here's the name of your stop. This is how much it's going to cost. It was really very helpful. But you can also look for attractions, and it'll show you the busiest times, like a little graph.   [00:37:47.100] - Kim Yes, for sure.   [00:37:47.990] - Tamara I was like, Okay, it looks like 10 to 2 is super busy. Who knows how accurate it is, but let's go.   [00:37:53.690] - Kim After it. I have a good article about how I use Google Maps and you can make a custom and saver on map to help you with your planning to help see stuff for not just road trips, but also when you're planning a city vacation. But that's a good thing. I always forget about how they have that busy season section. I should add that to my post because.   [00:38:11.540] - Tamara That's a.   [00:38:12.160] - Kim Useful thing.   [00:38:13.300] - Tamara When you're trying to figure out, especially for public transportation, many times the night before, I would look like, Oh, how long is it going to take? Because we need to know what time should we be done breakfast? What time do we need to leave? I like that there's a little drop down where you can say when you're departing or when you want to arrive because it changes. Especially public transportation may not have as many trains when you're looking late at night versus when you're going in the morning.   [00:38:42.000] - Kim Totally. That's awesome. I always worry about the train, the car thing, because even in New York, sometimes I've been like... Because I'm not used to using trains often. When I first started going to New York and doing that, the Long Island Rail Railroad and stuff, they have certain cars they don't open the doors to all the time. During different hours of the day. I'm always like, Oh, how do I know what car I'm in? It's definitely one of those Charlie Brown teacher's voices. Sometimes I'm like, I have no idea where I'm at.   [00:39:10.980] - Tamara That's the other great thing. In Japan, it's like, on the avement on the platform, it has numbers. So it's like, you know exactly what car that's going to be. Oh, man. And then everyone lines up single file behind those on either side of the.   [00:39:26.830] - Kim Door for.   [00:39:27.350] - Tamara Everyone to come out and then they go on.   [00:39:29.780] - Kim It's lovely. Lovely. Nice. Okay, so then your last little stop was OSAKA. So why don't you tell us a little bit about that? Because I had planned that we were going to fly into Tokyo and out of OSAKA, but you ended up going back to Tokyo to go home. But what did you do in Osaka?   [00:39:45.130] - Tamara Yeah, flying out of OSAKA would be ideal, but for us, Delta doesn't do that. So we had to go back to Tokyo. So OSAKA is known as the Japan's Kitchen, so it's known for its street food. So I knew I wanted to take a food tour when we were there because it's just that's really one of the things it's well known for. So I ended up... We actually got there, we explored a little bit. We did the... You made a sky building, which actually Glenn did not do. No surprise that when we went up high, especially there's these glass enclosed elevators that go between two towers on the 39th floor. And he was like, Are you kidding me? No way am I doing that. So Hannah and I did that. And then that night we actually went to a baseball game, which was really fun because Japanese culture is really into baseball. And it was like being at a college game in a way because they were playing Hiroshima, so that's not far away. Half the stadium were Buffalo fans and half the stadium were carp fans and they all sat on the right side.   [00:40:49.140] - Tamara So it's like one half was red, one half was white. And they each had a cheering section in a band. And so you felt like you were a little bit at a college game with the marching band thing. It was a lot of fun. But then the next day we took a food tour with Arrogato Travel, and they have food tours in multiple cities. If you want to do a food tour in any of the cities, I would definitely recommend them. The guide was amazing.   [00:41:13.870] - Kim It seemed like you had a really good time.   [00:41:15.920] - Tamara Yeah, she was really wonderful. She had lived in the US for a little bit. I think she went to the University of Wisconsin. She lived somewhere else in the Midwest, too, but it's just such a funky, fun city. We toured this area called Shenzakai. It was built after World War II to attract Westerners and has more of a Coney Island vibe is what they were going for. It has carnival games and all these street food things. It's just so funky and retro. I think anywhere else I would have been like, Oh, this is cheesy. But it was actually really cool. And all throughout that area and the Dontambury area of Osaka, all of the food places, it's like Vegas for food places because they all have these three-dimensional facades with a giant octopus or a giant crab, and they're moving and lit up, and it's just so funky. There was one place where you could fish for your own fish, and then they cook it for you. It's almost hard to describe, but it is just bright lights, really funky, interesting, but lots of street food, lots of fried food on a stick, or like.   [00:42:30.660] - Kim A fair.   [00:42:31.420] - Tamara No, I'm just kidding. And the takeyaki octopus balls is like, that's where that's from. So that's like really huge. Afterwards, we went to the Don Donburi and we had Okonomiyaki. My family always laughs at me because for some reason I could never get this out. And Hannah and Glenn are like, Why can you not say this word? But Okonomiyaki, so it's like the Pancake type of thing with egg and cabbage and other things thrown in that they make on a griddle in front of you. So they have it in Kyoto and other places, but it's really known there. And in Hiroshima also, they have slightly different versions. That was just fun. So to do all the street food stuff, to have the good food tour, we really loved that. And then on our last, what was supposed to be our last day, we went to Hiroshima and we did a tour. I have a whole itinerary where it has a link to the tour company that I booked. Our guide was really sweet. He was wonderful. I highly recommend that. So we did the whole atomic bomb dome and museum, which was really heavy, obviously.   [00:43:36.130] - Tamara And you have very confused feelings.   [00:43:39.080] - Kim About it. Yeah, being.   [00:43:40.620] - Tamara A member. Our role in that. But then we went to Miyajima Island, which is just a short, like, ferry ride. And it is just beautiful. We were there, it was raining. So there was all these mist and clouds on the mountains. And it just had this magical feel to it. But it was such a... I would love to spend a night there. It wasn't overcrowded, but when the people left, have.   [00:44:07.840] - Kim It more to.   [00:44:08.650] - Tamara Yourself type of thing. But there's a really famous Tori Gate that's in the water that looks high tide like it's floating, or when we were there during low tide, so you can walk out to it. And just a shrine. It's just a really pretty lush... That's one thing that really, I don't know why it surprised me, but Japan, outside the cities, it's so lush. You're like, Oh, right. These are islands.   [00:44:34.300] - Kim Yeah.   [00:44:35.380] - Tamara And that's why I liked about Kyoto too, because it's like a city that's nestled in a valley surrounded by these lush mountains. Not like towering.   [00:44:43.150] - Kim Mountains, but these really lush. And it has a nice little river or stream or something through it too.   [00:44:47.450] - Tamara So that was how we finished. I loved that. And then unfortunately, then we got stuck in a delay on a train coming back because there was a lot of rain. And then we found out our train for the next day to get back to Tokyo in time for our plane was canceled and we were hoping it was going to be all fixed by the morning. But Glenn woke up at five and he said it wasn't. And so then we were up for a couple of hours trying to figure out, what are we going to do? Because we were like, oh, we'll fly up to Tokyo. And by then, all the planes were booked until 3 PM. But we had a 625 flight and we would have had to get our luggage, get to another terminal, recheck it. We're like, that's never going to work. If we get there at 415 or I don't know, it was 435 o'clock or something is when we would have arrived. Never would have worked. So we're like, all right, let's see if we can stay an extra night here and let's book stuff for tomorrow. And let's call Delta and see if they can switch us.   [00:45:40.700] - Tamara So then we had such a long travel day home because we flew from Osaka to Tokyo. And then we had to do Tokyo to LAX instead of Tokyo. We were booked on a Tokyo to Atlanta. So then at least the last little leg is short. Then we're in LAX for four hours.   [00:46:00.110] - Kim Then you had a six hour flight.   [00:46:02.380] - Tamara Well, and then it ended up being delayed. So we came out, we were luckily at the lounge and we actually went on the patio. The Delta Lounge in LAX has a patio, so it's loud but it was really good. It was just nice to get fresh air.   [00:46:16.400] - Kim After all.   [00:46:16.980] - Tamara That time. I actually went and I took a shower. I didn't even have any clothes. We had even checked everything, so I didn't even have any clothes to change into. But I'm like, I'm just taking a shower anyway. Yeah, for sure. And so then we came out of the lounge. We're like, Go to the gate. They're like, Oh, we're waiting on a crew member still. We're going to wait to board you. And then they started boarding us. We're like, Okay, I guess everything's all set. And then we're sitting on the plane and an hour later, they're like, Okay, the pilot's now in the parking lot.   [00:46:42.550] - Kim And we're like.   [00:46:43.320] - Tamara Oh, my gosh. Seriously? It was the pilot. They weren't even on premises when you boarded us. So we were delayed a couple hours. So we ended up... We got home at 315 in the morning. We'd been going for 30 hours, I think, or more, like 33 hours maybe.   [00:47:02.380] - Kim That one did you have? Did you have any of the upgraded seating for any of those legs?   [00:47:06.890] - Tamara Luckily, because we had booked our tickets in premium select, which if you know Delta, there's like Delta 1, which is like the nice pod lay flat thing. Then there's premium select, which has like a footrest that comes out and it reclines, but not like all the way, but it reclines some. Then there's comfort plus, which is basically like a regular seat with a little.   [00:47:26.290] - Kim More leg room. Like me coming.   [00:47:28.590] - Tamara So the reason we went through LAX is that's what we could get for premium economy. Oh, good. Okay. I mean, premium select on that, the longest leg from Tokyo to LAX. Then LAX to Boston doesn't have that. So I think we were in, I think, we were in Comfort Plus. I don't even know at that point. I was uncomfortable, that's for sure. But yeah. And then we flew into Boston, which we had flown out of Providence. So my car is still in Providence. So I had to get a car service to pick us up, bring us back. T he next day I'm like, Hannah, can you drive me down to get my car? Whatever. That's a.   [00:48:03.840] - Kim Whole long story. It worked out. It sounds like you guys had an amazing trip and it was awesome. I know, like I said already and mentioned, Tamara has quite a few blog posts and she'll link them in the show notes, but you can also just go to Wee 3 Travel. I'm sure it's pretty easy to find them, but I know she has all of her itineraries that are if you guys know Tamara, they're very in-depth with a lot of detail. So super helpful if you're thinking of planning a trip. I think it was great. I'm glad you guys had a good time and glad I got to hear about it a little more.   [00:48:31.780] - Tamara Yeah, it was definitely a bucket list trip. I think being there and being together as a family was wonderful. I think we all acknowledged, we don't know when we're going to have that opportunity again. Just know Hannah is going to be very busy the next few years. S he's going to be more than happy to take a trip with us when she can. We might just know when that will be.   [00:48:52.240] - Kim Exactly.   [00:48:52.840] - Tamara I'm glad.   [00:48:53.360] - Kim We got to do it. Yeah, that's awesome. Perfect.   [00:48:56.710] - Tamara What's next?   [00:48:58.290] - Kim I don't even know. You're like, What day is it? What month is it? Exactly. The big thing on my agenda, I'm trying to take the summer off a little bit. We do have a trip up to Canada to visit family coming right up for Canada Day. Happy Canada Day to those of you Canadians that might be listening. Then happy fourth of July to the US Americans that are listening. We are doing that. Then I have a fun trip. You'll be moving Hannah back to school, but I am going to be flying to Kenya and doing a Simara J. W. Marriott stay, which I just got a steal on points for. I'm using points to fly some nice flights as well. That's what's coming up for me. My fall is going to be crazy and booked again, but at least I have. It looks like I'm trying to keep my summer a little more calm. Although that Africa trip, I cannot wait. It's during the Wilder Beast migration. That's a pretty big trip to be. I'm really excited. It's going to be during the Wilder Beast migration, too. So hopefully we'll get some amazing pictures. I got to rent a lens, it reminds me.   [00:50:04.360] - Tamara I was telling somebody about the points deal that you got on that. Everyone just can't even believe it. What a lucky straw.   [00:50:11.400] - Kim That was. Oh, my gosh, it was amazing. I don't know if this would work always, but I'm just a little tip for you guys, if you guys are points people. If you know of any future opening hotels that haven't opened yet, that are opening in the future, just maybe keep an eye on their points rates because that's what happened. This hotel hadn't opened yet. It was opening in April, and in February or something, I saw someone mentioned, Oh, my goodness, they've got nights for 20,000, 20 ish thousand points a night. With Marriott, if you book five nights with points, you only pay for four nights. So it's like book five nights, get one free thing. I don't know how to.   [00:50:49.500] - Tamara Explain it, but you get it. And it's an all inclusive property.   [00:50:51.920] - Kim It's all inclusive property. So all the game drives are included, all the meals are included, everything. I'm paying 93,000 points total for five nights for two people.   [00:51:00.640] - Tamara That's like one night at a nice city hotel.   [00:51:04.320] - Kim Yeah, I know. I was looking at a Fairfield Inn in New York in January, and there were like 65,000 points. So it gives you a little idea there. But anyways, so that's what's up for me. But what about you?   [00:51:14.810] - Tamara As you hear this, I will probably either be in Scotland or Wales, depends on how quickly I get this out. So I leave shortly for a week with a couple of other travel writers, a week in Scotland, a week in Wales, and then I'm going to be home for a couple of weeks. And then I'm actually going to have two weeks in France, which I don't think I've even had a chance to tell you about. But I'm going to do... Glenn and I are going to go to France. We're doing the Taste of Bordeaux River cruise on Amman Waterways. Oh, nice. And then something else that came up. I was invited to do a press trip on European Waterways, which does hotel barge cruises. And I was trying to look at dates in the fall, but they didn't have any availability. But they're like, Well, how about this one on August sixth, which would have been the day I was flying back from France. I was like, Well, I will already be in France. It's to an area that I've been to before. So I was hoping to see something new, but I think it just works out for me to do this back to back, a more traditional river cruise versus a hotel barge cruise just to have these new experiences because I'm not a big ship person, but I'm definitely been wanting to try some of these other types of things.   [00:52:28.570] - Tamara And my friend Michelle is going to come join me for that one because Glenn can't stay for the two weeks.   [00:52:33.830] - Kim Take off that whole time.   [00:52:34.800] - Tamara That's awesome. And then as soon as I get back, Hannah will come back and we have one day at home and then we fly her to Arizona.   [00:52:43.570] - Kim Okie dokey. Well, thank you guys for tuning in again. If you're still with us and still listening, as you can see, we have a few trips on the agenda, so we're not quite sure when we'll make another episode. But as always, we always appreciate you guys tuning in and we'll try to share again soon.   [00:52:58.280] - Tamara Yeah, hopefully, maybe the end of the summer.   [00:53:00.250] - Kim Talk to you later.   [00:53:01.640] - Tamara All right, bye bye.

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Kris welcomes very special guest Kim Walsh Phillips, founder of the business coaching and education company Powerful Professionals, best-selling author, and MBA-free self-made millionaire. Kim is the behind-the-scenes secret weapon of some of the biggest names in business, including Kevin O'Leary from Shark Tank and Dan Kennedy, and went from 32 clients to over 11,000 clients in less than a year. Kim shares some six- and seven-figure tips for social media marketing, automation, and email copy. She and Kris discuss how to make sure your message goes out to the right people, and that it keeps them entertained and engaged throughout the whole process. Kim shares a great tool for creating weekly videos, and how you can both have a beautiful family that you spend time with and a highly successful career.   Key Takeaways: [10:16] Kim talks about starting a coaching business and finding a way to scale it so that she can still get her kids off the bus each day. [12:38] Kim shares great advice from a former Surgeon General to never tell your children you have to go to work but to instead frame it in a way that you get to go make an impact. [19:30] There are certain brands that do a great job of email marketing, such as Disney. [20:58] What is the difference between direct response and regular brand advertising? [22:29] You can pull engaging and entertaining content, even into a sales pitch. [23:21] A Dan Kennedyism: the number-one sin of marketing is being boring. Remember to bring forth your personality and fun, and get creative on how you can charm parents. [24:40] Kim names some great tools to get inspiration: Swipe File and theSkimm. [28:02] Kim discusses how her journey and relationship with social media have changed. [29:41] Kim shares how to note what you don't like, what you do, and the story to create a 10-video plan all at once, that will go out once a week. [40:19] Kim explains the success she and her team has had hiring people based on personality type rather than just skill. This way, everyone can get to work in their zone of genius.   Quotes: “We can have both a lifestyle business and an empire business at the same time, meaning we can multiply our impact and our income and have a life that we truly love.” — Kim “You can pull engaging and entertaining content, even into a sales pitch.” — Kim “When you have a random thought, write it down because chances are it's a thought that somebody else has had that no one admits.” — Kim “I hire people based on their personality type, and have them in a role that makes sense for the job we want them to do.” — Kim “Everybody in my firm gets to work in their zone of genius, which means we all get to do what we love.” — Kim   Sponsored By: ChildCare Education Institute (CCEI) Use code CCSC5 to claim a free course!   Mentioned in This Episode: Kris Murray The Child Care Success Company The Child Care Success Academy The Child Care Success Summit Audience Builder Blueprint  Kim Walsh Phillips Dan Kennedy StreamYard No B.S. Guide to Direct Response Social Media Marketing: The Ultimate No Holds Barred Guide to Producing Measurable, Monetizable Results with Social Media Marketing

Three teenage man friends gather around to bump into women Discord server - https://discord.gg/X94h4XWKMQ Timestamps 00:00:00 Intro 00:00:20 Apurbo tries to fix some previous mistakes 00:04:35 Apurbo'r bandhubi'r update 00:08:15 Rishat'er coaching'er important kahini 00:10:50 Rishat ajkal eka eka basha theke ver hoi 00:13:50 Apurbo and Ishmum Tomodachi Game (Spoilers) 00:54:05 Rafayat Rakib and Bangladeshi football fans attack each other 00:55:45 Apurbo's Cox Bazar review 01:20:15 Rishat ajkal eka eka basha theke ver hoi 2 01:27:15 Things we hate corner 01:37:45 Outro Things mentioned- Tomodachi Game (Anime) - https://myanimelist.net/anime/50273/Tomodachi_Game The Punisher (TV series) - https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Punisher_(TV_series) Kaiji: Ultimate Survivor (Anime) - https://myanimelist.net/anime/3002/Gyakkyou_Burai_Kaiji__Ultimate_Survivor Persona (Video game series) - https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Persona_(series) Danganronpa (Video game series) - https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Danganronpa Dead or Alive (Video game series) - https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dead_or_Alive_(franchise) Inazuma Eleven (Anime) - https://myanimelist.net/anime/5231/Inazuma_Eleven Captain Tsubasa (Anime) - https://myanimelist.net/anime/36934/Captain_Tsubasa_2018 JoJo's Bizarre Adventure (Anime) - https://myanimelist.net/anime/14719/JoJo_no_Kimyou_na_Bouken_TV?cat=anime Fist of the North Star (Anime) - https://myanimelist.net/anime/967/Hokuto_no_Ken The Elder Scrolls IV: Oblivion (Video game) - https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Elder_Scrolls_IV:_Oblivion The Elder Scrolls III: Morrowind (Video game) - https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Elder_Scrolls_III:_Morrowind Rafayat Rakib (YouTube channel) - https://youtube.com/c/RafayatRakib Listening to the show on iTunes/Spotify/Google Podcasts/YouTube really helps the podcast gain exposure iTunes - http://bit.ly/DUHonApplePodcasts Spotify - http://bit.ly/DUHonSpotify Google Podcasts - http://bit.ly/DUHonGooglePodcasts Saavn - https://bit.ly/DUHonSaavn YouTube - http://bit.ly/DUHonYouTube 2nd channel - http://bit.ly/DUHBoysOnYouTube Support the podcast through Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/duhabp DUH on social medias: Facebook page - https://bit.ly/DUHonFacebook Instagram - https://bit.ly/DUHonInstagram Twitter - https://bit.ly/DUHonTwitter TikTok - http://bit.ly/DUHonTikTok Apurbo YouTube - http://bit.ly/ApurbosYouTube Facebook profile - http://bit.ly/ApurbosFBprofile Instagram - http://bit.ly/ApurbosInstagram Twitter - http://bit.ly/ApurbosTwitter MyAnimeList - https://myanimelist.net/profile/ApurboTheA1 Grouvee - https://www.grouvee.com/user/105735-ApurboTheA1/ Rishat YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFwHfBWsOZEW3cKFh_BWZaw Ishmum Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCssbWLyz9JYIbGGGxxknnOg Instagram - https://instagram.com/kuddus.mia.42069?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y= MyAnimeList - https://myanimelist.net/profile/BeegNontu Grouvee - https://www.grouvee.com/user/123182-Dipjolfan42069/ Bangladesh, Bangladeshi, Bangladeshi podcasts, Podcasts in Bangladesh, Bangla podcast, Bengali podcast, Podcast Bangla, Podcast, Bengal podcast, What is podcast Bangla, DUHABP, Ashrafuzzaman Apurbo, eatabrick, Some retard, duhabp #DUHABP #BengaliPodcast #BangladeshiPodcast #BanglaPodcast --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/duhabp/message

INTRODUCTION:BIOWriter, Speaker, World Changer Kim Sorrelle is a writer, speaker, entrepreneur, the director of a humanitarian organization, activist, mother, grandmother, lover of all people, and black licorice.​Kim's entrepreneurial journey included commercial real estate, a golf course, event facilities, catering, a grocery store, and more. Besides building businesses into multi-million dollar companies, Kim is proud to have weathered the pandemic storm in the food industry, pivoting, keeping staff employed, and seeing the company's sales grow beyond pre-pandemic numbers.​Kim is the director of Rays of Hope International, a partnering organization working with people in their own country who have a passion, a vision, a mission to help people in their own country and just need someone to walk alongside. Through business plans, fundraising, sustainability planning, supplies, building, Working in countries like Haiti, Dominican Republic, and Burkina Faso, Rays of Hope has enjoyed relationships with hundreds of organizations that are working hard to help the underserved and vulnerable population.​As an athlete and sports fan, Kim coached basketball for 25 years and high school varsity volleyball for 17 and her team was ranked in the top ten in the state for 16 of the 17 years.​Kim met tall, dark, and handsome Steve Sorrelle, the man of her dreams, and proposed ten days later. Two years later, their only daughter, Amanda, arrived full of spunk and sweetness. Three brothers, Paul, Luke, and Noah, quickly followed, A few years later their Dominican son, Cristian, joined the family.  Now all grown with families of their own, Kim is happy to report that they are all gainfully employed, contributing positively to the world, and have the most incredible children who call her "Uma." (Like Uma Thurman, not Oma like a German grandma, the name given to her by her oldest granddaughter and it stuck.)​In 2009, while battling breast cancer, Kim's love, Steve, received a pancreatic cancer diagnosis. After six great weeks together, Kim held Steve as he took his last breath. Her first book, Cry Until You Laugh, chronicles that journey through laughter and tears and laughter again.​The back to back cancer diagnosis led her youngest son, Noah, to change trigectories and earn a PHD as a cancer researcher. With a focus on breast cancer, Noah has made significant discoveries that have already helped with other research and continue to move the needle on the survivor rate.​Kim's second book, Love Is, came from a desire to know the true meaning of love.  Love Is,chronicles her year long quest to discover the true meaning of love, a sometimes funny, sometimes scary, always enlightening journey that led to life-changing discoveries found mostly on the streets of Haiti.​Today, Kim lives in her hometown of Grand Rapids, Michigan, USA, a regular radio, television, and podcast guest, Kim speaks to audiences all over the world. Inspirational and educational, Kim entertains CEO's, industry leaders, company staff members, educators, parents, women's groups, and more. With first hand experience, Kim also speaks for The American Cancer Society and Susan G. Koman. ​A coach is always a coach and Kim is no different. Working with individuals and teams, Kim helps people succeed not only in business and family life but in every aspect of life, leading to greater fulfillment, happiness, while teaching the secrets to working less and playing more.​When she is not writing, broadcasting, coaching, speaking, or serving, Kim enjoys her life-long and newer friendships, hanging out with the grandkids, reading, playing tennis and pickleball, painting (she's no Bob Ross!), traveling, meeting new people, and an occasional stick of black licorice.   INCLUDED IN THIS EPISODE (But not limited to): ·      An Inside Look At Publishing /Authorship ·      Preachers Regurgitate Sermons Into Books·      Start Your Book With An Outline·      Formatting Suggestions ·      Cover Design: https://www.99Designs.com/·      Ghostwriter Information·      Copywriting ·      “Show, Not Tell”·      ISBN'S: https://www.Bowker.com + https://bit.ly/3zykLe1·      Publishing Option (D2D): https://www.Draft2Digital.com·      Publishing Option (Amazon/KDP): https://kdp.amazon.com/en_US/ CONNECT WITH KIM: Website & Books: https://www.KimSorrelle.comYouTube: https://bit.ly/3vRFWXfFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/loveisbykim/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kimsorrelle/?hl=enTwitter: https://twitter.com/Kim_SorrelleLinkedIn: https://bit.ly/3tEzK24Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/ksorrelle/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@livelove_outloud  KIM'S RECOMMENDATIONS: ·      All You Need Is Love (The Beatles): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_7xMfIp-irg CONNECT WITH DE'VANNON: Website: https://www.SexDrugsAndJesus.comYouTube: https://bit.ly/3daTqCMFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/SexDrugsAndJesus/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexdrugsandjesuspodcast/Twitter: https://twitter.com/TabooTopixLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/devannonPinterest: https://www.pinterest.es/SexDrugsAndJesus/_saved/Email: DeVannon@SexDrugsAndJesus.com  DE'VANNON'S RECOMMENDATIONS: ·      Pray Away Documentary (NETFLIX)o  https://www.netflix.com/title/81040370o  TRAILER: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tk_CqGVfxEs ·      OverviewBibleo  https://overviewbible.como  https://www.youtube.com/c/OverviewBible ·      Hillsong: A Megachurch Exposed (Documentary)o  https://press.discoveryplus.com/lifestyle/discovery-announces-key-participants-featured-in-upcoming-expose-of-the-hillsong-church-controversy-hillsong-a-megachurch-exposed/ ·      Leaving Hillsong Podcast With Tanya Levino  https://leavinghillsong.podbean.com  ·      Upwork: https://www.upwork.com·      FreeUp: https://freeup.netVETERAN'S SERVICE ORGANIZATIONS ·      Disabled American Veterans (DAV): https://www.dav.org·      American Legion: https://www.legion.org ·      Black Licorice (consult your doctor): https://www.webmd.com/diet/black-licorice-health-benefits#1 ·      VooDoo Explained: https://bit.ly/36SBA83·      What The World Needs Now (Dionne Warwick): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FfHAs9cdTqg INTERESTED IN PODCASTING OR BEING A GUEST?: ·      PodMatch is awesome! This application streamlines the process of finding guests for your show and also helps you find shows to be a guest on. The PodMatch Community is a part of this and that is where you can ask questions and get help from an entire network of people so that you save both money and time on your podcasting journey.https://podmatch.com/signup/devannon  TRANSCRIPT: [00:00:00]You're listening to the sex drugs and Jesus podcast, where we discuss whatever the fuck we want to! And yes, we can put sex and drugs and Jesus all in the same bed and still be all right at the end of the day. My name is De'Vannon and I'll be interviewing guests from every corner of this world as we dig into topics that are too risqué for the morning show, as we strive to help you understand what's really going on in your life.There is nothing off the table and we've got a lot to talk about. So let's dive right into this episode.De'Vannon: Hello? Hello? Hello? Are you beautiful souls?My sister Kim Sorell is back with me for the third time.And I'm so excited to have her with me and Kim and I thought it would be so great to give back to everyone in the way of sharing our knowledge and experiences from writing books and podcasting so in this episode, we're gonna take a look inside the world of publishing and authorship. And we're gonna give you some useful tips on [00:01:00] the book writing process, from the outline to publishing, Listing lots of great websites for you to use and so much more information. And of course you can always reach out to both of us as well.We love you. God, bless you. Enjoy the show. Hello, my dear sister. And welcome back for the third damn time to the sex drugs in Jesus podcast. Hello? Hello. Hello, Kim.Kim: Hello. I'm so happy to be back for the third time to the greatest podcast. I love it.De'Vannon: Thank you so much. Now, Kim sore is the author of two books. One is called love is, and the other one is cry until you laugh. sometimes you just gotta get a good laugh in and in the Hebrew Bible, it says that a laughter, you know, it's good for the soul. [00:02:00] You know, it's a medicine that you can administer to yourself.Energetically speaking. It raises your vibration. Although I don't really need to add anything to what Jesus said. I'm just saying that to help people understand that a little laughter goes a long way.Kim: Mm-hmm yes, for sure. For sure. Yeah. It's. It is healing for the soul, for sure. For sure.De'Vannon: Now Kim's an entrepreneur. She speaks, she has a deep love in our heart for the people of Haiti. And she also has a deep love in our heart for black liquorish. Now, in our previous episodes, we've talked about the health benefits of black liquorish, what it was like when she lived and worked in Haiti with her.Non-profit we talked about voodoo and witchcraft and cast and spells and all of that stuff. And she, we also talked about how this woman was able to survive cancer. And I think your nonprofit is raised of hope international.Kim: It is. Yes.De'Vannon: Yeah. And so all of that [00:03:00] information will again be in the showy notes as it always is.And so this is a very diverse and dynamic woman here, and I'm just thrilled to have, hadn't met her in my lifetime.Kim: Well right back at you. I feel like we are kindred spirits. We are connected forever and I, I love it. I love it.De'Vannon: Endeavor you stay in my heart and oh, really love you.Kim: And that's right.De'Vannon: So today's conversation will be like, kind of off the cuff. You know, Kim's written two books, I'm just getting wrapped up with my first one. And I have to say the process is a bitch. It's it is bittersweet. And I find that it is a masochistic thing to want to be an author. It sounds glamorous and all glorious.And we do give people who have successfully written books, a lot of prompts in society. Now I know why [00:04:00] this is some painful shit to put yourself through, but if you've really got something worth saying that, I also want to say it's worth doing so you wanna be talking about book publishing and just kind of giving an inside look to what it means to be an author.So what you got to say about a girl.Kim: Yeah, you are so spot on. You know, I think there are so many people that talk about writing a book. Everybody has a story to tell, you know, everybody's got a book in 'em I think, but getting it on paper is a painful process. It is not all sugars and cream and black licorice. It is you know, some, I don't know, whatever trash and garbage and craziness that goes into actually getting it down for sure.De'Vannon: Right. And then I think the main thing to do is to be praying about whether or not you should just like with podcasting, a lot of people get [00:05:00] into it because it looks glamorous and it looks easy, but you have to, you have to be called to that thing. Excuse me. You've got to You gotta, that's gotta really, really be like a part of your purpose in life.You can't do it for money cuz you don't know how long it's gonna take the money to follow this sort of thing. You can't do it for, you have to do it because it, you know, you wanna help people, you know, for something other than yourself. And so I think that that's, I think that that's the beginning of it is to do some real soul searching and some meditation and to find out the why, you know, why are you doing this?Why are you here? And that's what you're gonna be able to pull on in those long nights when you're uplifting at the manuscript for the 15th time and you're still finding fucking mistakes, you know, you wanna pull your hair out, so you're gonna remember why you're doing it and that's, what's going to motivate you to finally get it fucking done.Kim: Yeah. You know, I think that's so true. And I think that you hit it right on [00:06:00] about motivation, because if you're in it for the money you are in it for the wrong reason. There are very few authors that actually make any money on a book of all the books that are written. There are only so many Stephen Kings out there.There are only so many John Grham, you know, people that are making good money with books. It is so much more work than you realize nobody is gonna publicize it for you. You've gotta be your own publicist. You've gotta be your own feet. You, you have to go after it. It doesn't matter if you've got a traditional publisher or you're self-publishing, it is on you.Every, everything is on you and the average. That sells, I think less than a hundred copies. And so nobody makes money on a hundred copies. So it's you, you gotta know that you can't be in it for the money. It's gotta be a different motivation.De'Vannon: So, but if someone's done this soul searching and this praying and everything like [00:07:00] that, and they decided they wanna write it, I'm gonna add to this timing too. Not just if you should, but when you should, years and years ago, maybe like 10, 15 years ago, when I first started thinking, you're not sure what, like to write a book.I don't think my motives were right. You know, at this time I was, you know, attending churches, you know, like, you know, churches and shit. And you know, every, every damn, every damn pastor is a, is a, is a, is an author, you know? And so I was around a whole lot of. Preachers writing books and they made it look really good.And every time they write, wrote a book, it's a huge thing. And so that affected me. And I was like, I wanna be like that. I don't, I wanna be one of those glamorous people who writes books and I didn't get past like page one because there was really nothing for me to say now that you know, but in that time I never thought in a million years I'd be going to jail, getting HIV or being homeless, you know?So now I actually [00:08:00] have some shit to talk about. And now that I've paid my dues, I have, I have like a justifiable reason to say the things I can say and do the things that I can do now, as opposed to before, where I just wanted it for the glitz and the GL, you see.Kim: Yeah, I think, I think you're, you're spot on with that too. I mean, if, if I think you did have something to say 10 or 15 years ago, because I've been reading your book and your home life wasn't necessarily all what everybody else experiences. Like you've got plenty to share and relationships growing up and whatever, but certainly the longer you live, the more you have to share, but You, you do need to do it for the right reasons and the right timing.And you kind of know when the timing is right. If you're gonna actually do it.De'Vannon: Mm-hmm now having said that when it comes to breaking the law. So all of my felonies I got in the year 2012 and about year [00:09:00] 2013, I started taking notes on the book. I was ready to release it within like that year, but it never worked out that way. I couldn't get my thoughts so organized and I didn't really have anyone to help me with it until about two years ago.What I also found out there's this little thing called statute of limitations, where, you know, if I don't want criminal fucking make myself, you know, criminalize myself. You know, confess the guilt that they can prosecute me with. I have to, you have to wait a certain amount of years after the crime has been done before you Blab about it in a book.So I didn't know that back when I was trying to force the thing to happen a year or two, after my fall felonies, I needed more time. So see everything happens when it's supposed to. And so it's been about 10 years since all the shit went down. And so we're well past the statutes of limitations. I can talk about all the drugs I sold.[00:10:00]Can we consider the legal implications too?Kim: I guess so, you know, I don't write about any felonies, so that never occurred to me. But there you are sharing some great wisdom. I'm sure with a lot of people, so that's awesome.De'Vannon: And so I wanna throw some shade at the, at the preachers that I was just talking about, who write all these books. Okay. Usually from my experience, they're a bunch of regurgitated sermons because preachers, these days tend to write out their sermons each Sunday. So each Sunday they're writing a little mini book and then what they do each year is they go back and they compile all their sermons into a new book, give it a new cover and a new title, throw in a few little weak ass, personal stories, and then put a different name to it.And then all the people are going to eat it up. Usually those books are not very complex. They're not, they're about surface level, but [00:11:00] Christians are an easy sell and church people are gonna buy any fucking thing. And I can say that because I used to be one of those church, people at the conferences buying all the tapes and the books and the CDs and every fucking thing, because I was starstruck by who was writing them.And, but I'm reading through it. And I like, I know they say at this, in one of those services before, it's the same shit. And so I'm not mad at the, I'm not mad at the preachers. You know, they, they play in the game very well, but you know it, but I have observed that these mainstream preachers do not talk a lot about themselves.Now. I haven't read everyone's books, but the, the ones that I did, their personal stories, don't go into like gritty, painful detail about the shit they've been through about all I've ever gotten from like a preacher. They might get a little upset from time to time or what do they say, or, or they'll generalize it like, you know, sometimes I just don't live [00:12:00] up to my best.They're not gonna tell me about that time. They were sucking Dick in the alley for cocaine and crack, you know, or, or when they slap the bitch across the face or got into a fight on the golf course, they don't, they don't really put themselves out there like that. And I don't really appreciate.Kim: you know, I think you're so right. You know, there's something that we said for transparency and, and vulnerability. Right. And the, the best books that I've written and, or read, not written, but read you see those things, you know, when, when people dive a little bit deeper and expose themselves, and then you can relate, cuz how do you relate to somebody who the worst thing that they ever do is get a little angry sometimes that, you know, holy cow, if that's the worst thing you've ever done, you can skip, you don't have to go to confession.You don't have to do anything. You can just whatever, go straight to heaven and enjoy your life. I guess. I [00:13:00] don't know what, what, what that kind of life is like, because I think we all live a little bit deeper than that. So it's, but I'll tell you too, that the reason those preachers do well with their books is they've got a built in.So they've, they've got their platform, they've got their following and everybody's gonna buy their book. And that's why they can sell a book after book, after book. And even though they're not big differences, one book from the next they'll sell 'em all because they've got their base of people that will all buy them.De'Vannon: Yeah, I, I would dare say the people have been brainwashed into it. I was once one of those people, and I'm not necessarily saying that's a negative thing. If you've got some pastor who who's ass, you kiss, like I used to kiss them, you know before I was pulled out of the matrix you know what, that's where you're at right now, then.Great. And if you were [00:14:00] some, I mean, if somebody listening to this is my, a light bulb may go on, they're like, Hey, I could go in there and sell shit to those fucking Christian folk they'll buy anything. You would be right. you would be right. it, it still, it felt kind of clickish to me, cuz like when I would, when I would be like at Lakewood and shit like that, and you know, Joe's writing a different book a year. Then his wife wrote run. I really enjoyed her book, you know? And now I think she has several, and I noticed like other members of like the een family that were not that, that, that were not necessarily at Lakewood also wrote books. And I was like, wait a minute. Seems like they've got a formula for this.Like a, a plan, a process. A ghost writer might be lurking in the back somewhere because okay. If people are not just naturally gifted authors, okay. Maybe your family just happens to be that everyone can write a, write a book. No bitch. You have a formula in place from the sermons on down. Some sort of sequence is being [00:15:00] followed so that you can, that all of y'all can stay on a writing schedule like this.And I'm not saying it's a bad thing, but I'm just saying, I wish that they would share that with everyone else too.Kim: Yeah, well, it's that? You're at. On and, and their name, you know, you put Olstein on a book and it's going to attract attention right away. You know, you put Crell on a book, you know, if somebody's not heard of SRE before, you know, no, one's gonna take a second look necessarily. You gotta come up with a way to get somebody to take a second look, but forget the name.It sure helps.De'Vannon: And there are ways to do it. And I feel like you were way more transparent in your book than any preacher I've ever heard. So, you know, in both of your books and everything like that, you know, I remember sitting in church, listening to those people, thinking like, wow, I, and this is pretty much any church I've been in.Like, you know, I really cannot relate with the people who are preaching to me yet. I'm listening to them and taking. I'm like, it doesn't sound like they've been [00:16:00] through, even before my felonies and everything, you know, it doesn't sound like they've been through half the shit I've been through in terms of the darker side of living.Why the fuck am I even listening to this person? Like what gives them the right to tell me anything? And so if you don't have een behind your name or some other big name, preacher out there, then here's what you can do. And this should not discourage you. Cause one thing I do know is that successes of the Lord and the Bible says the Hebrew Bible says that he will crown our efforts with success.And since you're writing this book, not for yourself, but other people, it should be enough if only a handful of people get a hold of it because that's somebody's life you help to change. And so if it sells a million copies all the better, but if it doesn't well, then you, you should be fulfilled because your reasons were right. And so you should not feel cheated. So we're not trying to be like. You know anybody, but who God wants us to [00:17:00] be or whatever it is you believe in or whatever it is, your spiritual angle is at this, or or, or your, your spiritual motivation is a better way to phrase that. But we don't self-publishing is a huge thing.Now, not, you know, being published is not like you don't have to be published to sell books or to be well known. I don't think that girl who wrote 50 shades of gray, I think she was self-published when she started. And then look at how long it took JK rolling to get to where she is. So publishing houses, don't always pin people accurately.Sometimes they get it wrong. So it's not all about knocking on publishing house. You don't really have to do that anymore. You can, if you want to, but some people have had really bad experiences with publishers.Kim: For sure, for sure. And self-publishing is bigger and bigger and bigger all the time. And and you can actually make more money self-publishing because you make more money per book. So there's pros [00:18:00] and cons to both to publishing and self-publishing, but Amazon in particular has made it so easy to self-publish and they're the biggest book seller in the world.And so to self-publish through Amazon and just follow their program is is really a great way to go. And it's a way a lot of authors get out there.De'Vannon: So we'll, we'll start at the beginning and Amazon is good for those of you who are anti Amazon, you think they're the devil and you don't wanna fuck with them. There are other ways, the, the people who I use was called draft to digital, and this is gonna be in the show notes, but that's a draft D R a F T the number two, and then digital.com.And what happens is you can upload your electronic book through them, and then they will distribute it to like a shitload of places, maybe like eight or 10 places you can select Amazon or not. And my audio book is also. May being made available [00:19:00] through them to about like 30 or 40 different places, including Amazon and audible. Some people don't like the complexity of like the audiobook world when it comes to like audibles and their ACX standards. But there's different ways. So you can go directly through Amazon Kindle, direct publishing. And all of that, like with Kim is talking about, or you can use like draft digital.There used to be a company called smash words, which also was a conglomerate place to publish, but draft to digital just bought out smash words. So we're just gonna focus on draft digital. So when you wanna start writing a book, the first thing you always want that you have something to say at that pointKim: No, no, but you're absolutely right. There are so many companies, there are companies that, that it is strictly self-publishing that they get it into the format for you. Help you get your ISBN number. They, you know, do the things that fill the blanks for you and, and how to get your book put together in a digital form.And then they, you know, get it to [00:20:00] whatever distributors there's hybrid places that actually do some editing and do some stuff. But aren't a full on publisher that don't do everything for you that a publisher would do. And that usually costs you money to have done. So there's options, lots of options.De'Vannon: Okay. So when we get started, we always wanna start our book with an outline. This is no different than writing a research paper, turn paper, whatever the fuck you want to call it. Those annoying ass fucking shits that they made us do in high school and in college. And if you never went to high school or in college, well, then we're gonna explain.It simply, cuz you do not have to have a specific education to be an author. You just have to know why you want to talk about what you wanna talk about. But an outline is simply a roadmap. If you're gonna write anything, you need to have a structure to it. An outline is your skeleton. You gotta hang some meat and muscles on the, on the bounds in a minute, but first you gotta have a direction.[00:21:00] You know what a, B, C, D. Now the outline for my book ended up being about like 10,000 words. Okay. When it was finalized. But I wrote about two books worth than one book because I didn't wanna divide the story up. So my book's about 121,000 words finished. We cut it down from about 130,000 words. But it seems like in the industry people, the 50,000 is the minimum they say from what I've come across.What have you, what have you heard about the minimum word count for books?Kim: Yeah. 50,000 is kind of on the low end and right, right. You wanna it's for nonfiction in particular the 200 page mark is, is sort of a special mark in the industry to be right around to 200 pages. So yeah, and, and some are certainly gonna go longer than that. Your story is, is longer than that.You, you got a lot more content, so [00:22:00] there's, there's rules that and guidelines, but they're all made to be broken.De'Vannon: Hell yeah. Rules are made to be broken. Fuck. Yes. on a Tuesday morning. Fuck. Yes. So when it comes to what she's saying, And I encountered this a lot and it really just fucking made my head hurting. I just threw all the fucking rules out of the window. You have these parameters and maybe that might matter more to a publisher, but when you're, self-publishing, you're free to do what the fuck you want, which is beautiful.So when your book is done, you're gonna have to do with something called formatting. So you're gonna, you, you're gonna outline the book, write the bitch, then you gotta format it. Which means getting exactly the sizes, the margins, the fonts, the letters, okay. Then you publish it. So the formatting is where you can play with things like the font size and the page.Cuz if you notice on Amazon, some books might be like six inches by nine inches. Like my book is another [00:23:00] one might be. Four inches by like, it's like some small shit. So what you do is you have a lot of content. Like I did, you put it on larger pages to try to make the book not be so many pages. If you don't have a lot of content, then you want to make the book a smaller format to stretch it out, to make it seem like you have more pages than you do.Kim: Yeah,De'Vannon: so and so,Kim: games you can play for sure. Yeah.De'Vannon: so, so now a good format will know how to do all of those tricks. If anybody needs a ref reference for a good format, I got you. I got you cuz writing. You know, was my thing, the formatting and all the numbers and shit. I was like, oh, hell no. You know, so I hired a formatter for my book. Now only like $50 to have it.Four minute 30, $50. We're not talking about a Garganto and amount of money here. You can certainly save $50. If you think that this is your life's work. And then [00:24:00] even if you don't want to go in fool with mashing, the publishing buttons and stuff like that, then people will do that for you too, for a small amount of money.Kim: Right. Yeah. I love the resource fiber. I don't know if you've used fiber, but you can get anything done on fiber, including book formatting book cover the back of the book, the fine, you know, you can get anything done and prices can start at $10, $15, you know, for somebody in some other country to do the work for you.And your time is more valuable than that. So , it's definitely worthwhile to spend the 50 bucks or whatever to get your book formatted.De'Vannon: And she said fiver, and of course I'm gonna put all this in the showy note, just like I always do. I used a website called 99 designs.com for the cover for my podcast and for all of my books. And I met a guy in Greece who I now use exclusively for all of my design work, because we're just [00:25:00] so on the same page, but it's that same sort of concept.It's a website that brings a bunch of creatives together with people who need creatives. And then you can just get an all under one roof. So five 99 designs.com and then upwork.com is another one that you can use as well. So we've got, so we're gonna do the outline, you know, our ABC small, a little, a number one all the way over.You'll start your outline with broad strokes. You wanna come up with your chapter titles, which you can change them anytime, but you need to kind of know what you're gonna be talking about. And And then from there, you build it out. Each chapter's gonna have this and each bullet point can be like really thick.It could be a paragraph. And then when you go back to write the book, you're just going to take and really make the story come alive with all the sense and the flavors and the, and all the words and the metaphors and all the nice verbiage to help it become alive to the reader. Now, if you're not good at this, [00:26:00] then you can hire, what's called a ghost writer to either write it for you or to help you write it.And so when I was working with someone at the beginning of, well, during my process, You know, until I decided to take it over for myself because they got on my nerves. You know, we met and did like a zoom meeting, like every day for like two or three weeks for an hour. At least sometimes it was two hours or maybe three.I did go through since I was doing a memoir. I just went back from the time I was born to the present day and just wrote everything out that I could think of. And it was about 50,000 words when I was done. And then I went and put that into a chronological outline and that's what I submitted to him.He didn't require it. Cuz some ghost writers can just listen to you talk and then turn into a book. But I wanted to be really thorough and detailed. And so I submitted that along with court documents and everything like that because I really wanted my book to come alive. I was extra. You don't have to do all of that, [00:27:00] but there's a website called read C.R E E D S y.com that it's like dedicated to ghostwriters and the whole writing thing. But you can also find ghostwriters on like Upwork than probably five or two. You have a lot of options. So if you wanna write a book and you're like, fuck, I don't know about if I can handle this outline shit, or if I don't have the time for it.And you know, I've got this story, but I, I don't wanna write it. Okay. Half the authors with their name on the front book, didn't write the shit. someone else wrote it for them. SoKim: Yeah. Yep. That's so true. That's so true. And, and if you, if there's a book that you really like that you've really enjoyed that style of writing, find out if a ghost writer has done it, find out you a lot of times it will say like for instance Don Piper's story, 90 minutes in heaven was written by Cecil McKay.So it says Don Piper with Cecil McKay. And so if you see that, then, you know, Cecil's done the writing. [00:28:00] And, and so if you see a book that you really enjoy that style, you think it fits with what you've got. You can look into it and see who actually wrote the book. And maybe that's somebody to tap into.De'Vannon: Mm-hmm now the high end ones, you know, sometimes they may be hard to reach, you know, so, and then sometimes, you know, they're gonna cost more, you know, ghost writers. The highest that I came across in my research was around like maybe 70 to 90,000. You. But you know, you have, like, I think on Upwork, I was looking at 'em where they may be charged from like more hourly, like 10 to 50 an hour.I think I saw was breezing over it briefly before we got on this call this morning. You know, the, the prices are all over the place. It just depends on what you can afford and what you want to pay and how serious you're taking your story. But more to the point how you connect with the person who's gonna be writing for you.Cause you're getting ready to spill all kinds of tea with this bitch. You gotta feel like you can trust them because you're gonna tell that ghost writer hell of a lot [00:29:00] more than gets released to the public.Kim: Yeah, absolutely. And I would say too, interview people. You don't have to go with somebody just because you go on one of these websites and that's the name that comes up, interview them. You're gonna be paying them. So take the time to get to know them, let them get to know you and see if it's a fit. If it's not a fit, walk away, you know, no harm and find somebody else.There's plenty of people out.De'Vannon: There are. And, but through, through these websites, also, they monitor the work that's being done. And so, and you don't pay them until the work, you know, until portions of the work are done, like with the guy who who's, who did my audio book formatting through up work, you know, I could go in there and see like his computer screen, what he was doing the time it was taking, like their screenshots and files and stuff like that, you know?So they act as a good mediator. So you don't have to worry about somebody running off with your money, you know,Kim: Right, right, right. It's a good thing. [00:30:00] Yes,De'Vannon: But if you choose to, to go off the, off the grid and not use one of these websites, sometimes people will meet people on these websites and then start paying them separately. That's fine too, but pay them through PayPal or through some sort of way that you're paying for goods and services so that some shit goes down.You still have some insurance,Kim: mm-hmm right. Great advice. Yes.De'Vannon: but that's a, but that's a super relief. So now, if you feel like you don't, you can't do the outline and you can't really write it, but you've got something you wanna say, well, that's what ghost writers are for. And it happens more often than you think, and you don't have to put their name on the front cover of your book.That's not what their job is. Their job is to write, not to do the face of it, but if you like them and you want to, then you can, that's up to you. You're the author. You own the work when it's all said and done. And so so now you've got your, your book. Britain, you can go to 99 [00:31:00] designs that you a cover done.They they'll do the inside flaps, the spine, all of that. Or you can go to fiber wherever you may know your own graphic person. These people know that books have to be formatted through certain sizing and everything like that. They got you. You don't have to try to do this all at once. You will do this one step at a time.You will not get ahead of yourself. so you won't worry about how this, you know, how the story ends before it begins. I'll say it like that, generally speaking, although there can be exceptions. So that depends on how you're gonna write it. If you're not doing a memoir, you know, my knowledge is kind of, you know, it's a little bit different if you're gonna go like more Scholastic or something like that, but you know, people, you know, can write just about whatever you want.I say, it's at least worth looking into once you have the book written. Now we need to get us a copyright. You don't have to get a copyright. The moment you open up a [00:32:00] document and I don't know, maybe use something other than Microsoft word. That's what I use. That, that Microsoft word doesn't really translate well to formatting, but my formatters we're able to figure it out, but it's a bitch.If you, if you do it in word, don't go in there and try to fuck with page numbers and the headings and stuff like that. Just let it be a plain fucking document with just the typing. Cause if you try to format it and make it all book, like word is just gonna fuck it up. Just don'tKim: Right. That's.De'Vannon: a formatter so they can open up them swanky ass apps.They have that you probably won't. Cause I don't have those apps, but my four matters do and they can Shaza me. That shit, you know, like real quickKim: Yeah, for sure. For sure. You know, a couple things I'd like to throw in one is. It's all well and great. Like what you're saying, an outline is can be everything because it can make writing the actual book so much easier [00:33:00] when you know, this is what your chapter one's gonna be about. This is what your chapter two's gonna be about.When you have the ideas, then you can just put it on paper. But the motivation to actually write can be difficult for people. And so everybody has a different formula for that. You know, some people are early morning writers and will get up in the morning and five days a week, or they'll commit whatever time and an hour a day or.Whatever, like, I think it can seem so overwhelming when you're thinking, oh my gosh, I'm gonna write a 200 page book. How am I gonna do that? It can seem like this great big mountain, but it's sort of like the analogy of the had eat Eden elephant one bite at a time. Right. And so commit to a half an hour, you know, commit to so many words a day. Figure out when your best time to write. Is, are you, are you better at night? Like, is that when things come into focus for you, are you better first thing in the morning? You know, [00:34:00] what is your schedule? Like, what is your time like? And put it on the calendar. If that's what you need to do and commit to the time, that's how you're gonna actually get it from idea to book.Is is making sure that happens. And there's a, something that all writers know, all, all authors who are doing this know, but a good thing to know is show not tell. So in a movie script you tell, but in a book you show, you let people see the picture for themselves. You, you don't have to tell them every intimate detail you describe things.You know, the, you don't have to say somebody was nervous. You say something more like and the sweat started, you know, coming on his upper lip and brow and, you know, whatever. And then, you know, he was nervous, right? So it's show at tell is a big, big thing with books.De'Vannon: Right. [00:35:00] That was a warning that I came across early in my writing is to not to get caught up on being overly detailed which is why I decided to go with the ghost riders because I was too, at least at first, as I was too attached to my story, you know, I knew I was way too emotional about it to give it a true objective look, you know, I was going@ittryingtogetdowntolikeeverylikelittlepolka.in the room, you know, at really unnecessary.So I needed, I needed somebody to help me with that. So, so I'm gonna tell you why I had. Well, part of the reason why I had the falling out was my ghost writer. And then I just took over the writing for myself and kind of, you know, finished it because okay. So I had paid him like $40,000 cash to, to do my book. I wanted a, a good writer. I didn't want someone who was just beginning. He wasn't actually on the highest end. Like I said, I came across 70 to 90,000 out [00:36:00] there. You, he wasn't on the highest end. He wasn't on the lowest end, so, okay. Let me go do what I gotta do to make this money. I won't tell you what I did to come up with that money.All you need to know is that I acquired it all we gonna say about that.Kim: That's that's.De'Vannon: after my statues of limitations passed so, but what I didn't think to do. Now, this person wasn't very clear. We didn't really necessarily have an official contract. And, but there was some guidelines laid out. I got upset because we were in about the third revision and he was telling me, well, that's it that's as that's as much for, as your money's gonna take you.I'm now gonna charge you. Well, something like the 150 or $200 an hour to continue. I ended up having to revise the book, like maybe two or three more times. But, but from my [00:37:00]perspective, and everyone's got their own perspective. I'm like, if, if I bitch, if I paid you $40,000, not to mention, I flew this individual down here to Louisiana.And then we spent like a month traveling to Texas, Mississippi, new Orleans, seeing places and everything like that, all on my dime, you know, you know, You know, so by the time's done with him, it's like a good $50,000 project. I think that you should do full service and see the thing through to the end.Don't cut me off at two or three revisions cuz anybody who's written a book knows damn well, you're gonna have to review that. And I didn't know this at the beginning, you know, I didn't, I, I know it now. I didn't know this at first. You're going to have to go through that motherfucker time and time and time again.And you're still gonna miss shit. So this, so we've all read books where we've seen a word misspelled or some spacing or a quote missing and great authors too. It could, there comes a point where your head is just going to crack the fuck [00:38:00] open. If you look at that shit again, I think I did mine like 10, 12 times, and I there's still shit that I find I'm the most detailed person.I know I could have hired an editor, but I knew that if I hired then paid them, they would miss shit too. And then I would be pissed. So, and then there may be some editors that are that good that they don't miss anything. But so far, my experience has been with paying people to do a job that they always make mistakes so, so I'm saying all that to say, if you go with a ghost writer or format or anything, be sure that it, it is in the contract that whatever the, the, the rate is includes unlimited revisions until the shit is done.That way you don't fall into the trap that I did because cuz now I'm thinking, okay, have you intentionally given me subpar riding on these first three revisions so that you can turn around and charge me $200 an hour because you knew the shit wasn't really as good as it was supposed to be, you [00:39:00] know?Kim: Right, right. Yeah. Yeah. And you paid a lot of money. That, that is a lot of money. I know some excellent ghostwriter, excellent ghost riders that are best sellers, you know, that put out best sellers and charge a lot less money than that and, and see the job true till the end. So yes, finding the right one is that's very important, the right one with the right contract.De'Vannon: Right. That, that shit pissed me off. Cause at first his name was on the front of my book with me, but that pissed me off so bad. Well actually I had already, he did something else that pissed me off that and I snatched his name off the front cover of my book because of that. I was like, oh hell no, this is not gonna work.You know, and and so some some people just think a little bit more themselves I think, than they should, you know? And so so yeah, you know, just.Kim: Yeah, I, I was just gonna say that, and it's not just working with a ghost writer and self-publishing that you run into [00:40:00] that. My second book love is is traditionally published. And so they hire an editor or they'll have an editor of like a content editor, you know, not a periods and, you know, punctuation and spelling kind of editor, but a content editor, creative editor they'll have them in house.Sometimes they hire them from outside depending on your project and, and who they think you'll fit with. And the editor that my publisher hired. I picture her in little house on the Prairie. And I think she's got, you know, six or seven friends that goes to a super small church that saw I picture her.I don't know if it's true, but she wears long skirts with little tiny flower prints. And all of her friends look exactly like her. And so everything that I said that didn't fit into her little Christian box, she wanted out of my book and she w actually argued with me about my content. [00:41:00] And I got to the point where I was just done with her.We were a horrible fit. She's probably really good with some people, not with me at all. I thought, man, my publisher doesn't even know me if they think that this woman is gonna work with me because it did not work. She made me think about a couple things, but honestly I hope I made her think about a couple things, but in the end I just kind of threw out most of anything she had to say and, and did it myself. So it can, it can happen with the publisher or you're doing it yourself. So make sure, you know, it's a, it's okay to let somebody go. If it's not work and let, 'em go kind of loads.De'Vannon: And look you Like you don't, you can publish a book at any time in terms of traditional publishing. Like what Kim is talking about, going through a, a publishing house. You, you could create your own fucking publishing house, which technically is what you have if you self publish, but like [00:42:00] say, okay, so with sex, drugs and jeans is my memoir.I'm gonna give myself three to five years. Okay. To see how the sales go and what I can do, marketing it myself. If I don't feel like it has enough momentum, then I'll start to pitch the book to, to publishers at that time. So you don't have to, it's not like you have an ultimatum either self-publish or do traditional the moment you write the book, you can, you can change that later on.Kim: Mm, right, right. At any time. Yeah, for sure.De'Vannon: Now, can you go from being published traditionally? Like you are take it from the publisher and go back to self-publishing.Kim: You kind of can't cuz you sign a contract with them that, that they kind of own own your book at that point. And so you, you really can't go back the other way. You'd have to be let outta the contract. A whole lot of things would have to happen. You'd have to change your book a bit to put it out there on your own.So once you're with your a publisher, you're pretty locked in, but like you [00:43:00] said, you can go my first book I went from self-publishing and then I was picked up by a publisher. So you can go the other way, but not, not once you start with a publisher you're you're you're all theirs.De'Vannon: I want you to say you were picked up by a publisher and I've heard other authors say that before that they find you and make you an offer. Did you find them?Kim: I actually, I was at a writer's conference and the keynote speaker gave him a copy of my book. And then he contacted me and hooked me up with a publisher cuz. He liked it and thought that it should be out there more. And that that's the one advantage or, or one there's several advantages either way.But one advantage of a publisher is that they have a network. And so they're getting your book, not out to eight places, but to, you know, a couple hundred places, they can get it into book and mortar stores. It's hard to get a self-published book into [00:44:00] Barnes, noble, you know, to put on the bookshelf of different bookstores, but a publisher can do that.A publisher has those connections and they've got the network to get your book into every platform and, and everywhere, online and in stores and whatever. So your distribution right away with publisher is gonna be different than with self-publish.De'Vannon: Okay. So the trade off is you make less per book with the publisher, but you get wider distribution. So that's the balancing act, as opposed to, as opposed to making more per book with less distribution, doing it on your own.Kim: That that and money, like when you publish through a publisher, it doesn't cost you a dime. They pay you money up front for the book. And so you are making money. Whereas if you self-publish, you're paying for your cover and you're paying for the formatting, you might be paying for a ghostwriter. You know, you've got some [00:45:00] out of pocket money, but in the end it can really pay off for you.So. And it's very difficult though, too, to get published by a publisher. It's not the same book world that it used to be. You have to have a platform. You've gotta have so many people on your Facebook. So many people on, on Instagram, you've gotta have a, an email list of thousands. You have to, there has to be something about you.That's going to be able to get into the hands of people right away that you've got connections out there. If you are a movie star, you know, or a singer or, you know, somebody famous publisher's gonna look at you if you're. Just a regular person. Like we are, you know, whatever. It's hard to be noticed by a publisher and hard for publisher to have motivation to because they take a risk cuz it's, they're gonna be laying out money right away.They're giving you money and then they're investing in you. They're paying for the editor, [00:46:00]they're paying for all that stuff. So they've got an investment and they are only gonna take so much risk. They wanna know that you're gonna sell the number of copies to not just recoup their investment, but make them money.So it's it's not easy to be traditionally published. It's not easy to find a publish.De'Vannon: Now that they give you an advance. Cause I know with some people they'll like, say give them an advance advance of advance of money. So many hundred thousand dollars or millions or whatever. And the thing is the benefit of that for the author is so if they give you a cash advance, however much it is, you do not have to pay that back.So if. If the book ever sells enough to compensate the publishing house for that or not, you know, they're taking a risk cuz they can't come back to you and be like, oh, well you didn't sell a million dollars worth of books. Can we have the 275,000 left or whatever? No, it doesn't work that way, but you won't get any more money until you sell enough books to meet that, that, that threshold to cover the advance.[00:47:00]So, and how.Kim: exactly. And a $275,000 advance would be a rare, rare advance. That would be a bill Clinton advance. You know, that would be a somebody advance. An advance can be anywhere from a couple thousand dollars. $20,000 is, is a, a decent advance for somebody. I, I know people that I've got a good friend who has, I think, 17 published books and she's been on the New York times bestseller list.And, and depending on the book, she will get anywhere from 15 to $30,000 for an advance. And she's a writer. I mean, this is what she does. And, and she also always for her next book, it's a struggle to find the right publisher and to get a publisher to say yes, so you can be published and you, can you have your name out there?And, you know, like we started out with, if you're not Steven King or John Grham, or, you know, whoever, you know, Joel [00:48:00] Olstein than than getting a big advance and getting publishers is not, not the easiest road.De'Vannon: Right. And so, like I was talking earlier about like copyrights and stuff like that. copyright.gov is where I go to, to get like all the music I write copyrighted. I, I did get my book copyrighted and everything like that. It's not necessary. I've been told the moment you started working on it. You automatically own the rights to it, but we're talking about maybe 50 or $60 or something like that, just to have that extra layer protection.So yeah, I yanked the bitch, you know, I think if you go through a publishing house it's different. I'm not sure who owns it. It may different, depending on the contract, it may differ. How does that work? Who actually, well, you said you signed the rights to them, so.Kim: Right. We're right. But there's the ISB N number. So every book is assigned an ISB N number. And I think you do want that for sure. If you're gonna write a book, get one. And like you said, they're 50 bucks or whatever. You can buy packages of them. Like you can get [00:49:00] 10 numbers for a hundred and dollars or I, and out exactly how much, but they're easy to get.And then the book automatically goes into the library of Congress. It is forever your name on the book. Nobody can steal your content. It is it makes it an official book. It makes it a real book. And so that's something you wanna do is get that number.De'Vannon: And I think boer.com I'll research it before I put, put it in the showy notes, but BW K E r.com I think is where I went to get my ISBNs and, and they have like book ISBNs. Now I use, I had used like a different website when I designed my underwear line for down under apparel to get like clothing. But this Bo one seems to be like, let's say like the draft.Website recognizes. So, so, so we gotta be careful where we get our ISBs from there. There's a lot of shit being sold in this world. And I don't think you can just get random mass ISBs and [00:50:00] just slap 'em on whatever it has to be specific from what I'm from, what I'm learning so far. Seems like it's kind of specific to what you're trying to sell.Kim: Exactly. Exactly. You do need one for a book for sure. Yep. Yeah.De'Vannon: So, oh, go ahead where you wanna say something, dear?Kim: Nope. You go right ahead.De'Vannon: So we've talked about outlining the book writing. It could be any sort of book, how to get help for that. If you're not good with that sort of thing, the websites you can go to. So we've established the fact that you're not really some lonely alone author sitting somewhere in front of a laptop, trying to figure it out.You got all the fucking help you need. And of course you can email Kim or me, and then we'll be happy to tell you what we can, you are so not alone. So once you have this book out, and even if you are a pub publish through a publishing house, that doesn't mean that you have to set back and let them do all the work.You can still pub, you know, market yourself if you want to. So most of what I'm [00:51:00] saying, or pretty much all of what I'm saying has to do with self-publishing because I ain't selling my shit to nobody until I have a chance, you know, to do with myself. If I could sell drugs and sell the military as a recruiter, I'm gonna see what I can do with my own book first, before I let somebody buy my shit.And so. So, so now we're gonna talk about how can we get the word out or your social media making like a Facebook author page I've been told is a really good idea. I didn't do that because I have a podcast page on Facebook and the book is the same name as the podcast. So it was kind of like a redundant thing for me, at least at this point, , you know, you know, now once I release my next two books this year, the Navy I'll set up an author page, but I ain't got time to work with all that shit.I need to hire an assistant to do that. I'm running too many businesses, like I'm at my breaking point, but,Kim: that's another thing you can use five or in places like that for is some of that kind of stuff that, that is sort of [00:52:00] the, the busy work of, of marketing that you can get somebody to do it for you for not a ton of money. So you don't have to stay up at night. Wondering why haven't I gotten it done or, you know, feeling overwhelmed with stuff.There are people out there, there are sources that you can tap into that will help you with stuff like that, too.De'Vannon: Yeah. So that's a good idea. So maybe once I so I'm working on a book called don't call me a Christian, which is gonna be a free book, but still it's a book. There's gonna be a free ebook on my website. And then I'm writing a book of poetry too. That will not be a free book, but so then I might go on five or somewhere like that and be like, Hey, I need someone to just run this author page on Facebook post.And cause I look at your author page on Facebook and you've got all the pictures going on and you're engaging with the audience and everything like that. And I'm all like that is such a great idea. Who has the time isKim: Oh, my gosh, I hear you. It is it, yeah, I, I get [00:53:00] overwhelmed. You know, my, my book was my latest book. Love is, was published on December 7th. And I have to keep telling myself it is a marathon, not a sprint. Like I want the book to sell thousands today. I want it in people's hands. I believe in the message, just like you do your book, but you gotta realize it's one person at a time.And then hopefully that person will tell somebody, you gotta buy this book. It's a great book. And I think statistically too, every one book that's actually out there, five people or seven people will read that book because people will share a book. And so, you know, the numbers that you sell aren't necessarily the numbers of people that are reading it.And if you really wanna monetize things, you've gotta figure out ways to do it. Like I think you do such a great job of like I love your book. Cover is amazing and would be, and makes an amazing t-shirt makes an amazing. Journal [00:54:00] cover, right? Makes an amazing, a lot of other things that then you can use Shopify or whoever to print full, you know, to do those things for you and you don't even have to touch it, but figuring out other ways to monetize your product, not just the book itself, but what else can you do with that?What other programs can you do? Is there coaching that you can do along with it? Is there you know, webinars that you can hold or whatever that you can help promote the book, but, but also monetize it in another way.De'Vannon: that's pretty badass. I had not thought of that.Kim: Well, that's why we're friends cuz what I don't think of you do and what you don't think of. I do.De'Vannon: Yeah. I thought that sister, so and so in terms of marketing, also, there is a website called pod match.com and podcasting is huge. I have heard it said that it's a good idea. If [00:55:00]someone's gonna be an author, if they feel like they have the skill and they would care to do it. And if they feel called to it to start a podcast, because the two can balance, the two can benefit each other.And so that was, that was, that was why the idea first came to my, came to me to start a podcast because people were telling me, Hey, start a podcast. If you're gonna write a book, so you can start to get that audience building up. And so that's something to think about. So if you ever think you wanna start a podcast, I recommend pod match.com.My affiliate link will be in the show notes. You can sign up and so I can get paid. But it's a way that makes podcasting easy. You can go on. This is website. It's like Tinder. But for podcasting and you can be a podcast, host a podcast guest on this website. You can sign up to find people to come on your show, or if you have a book and you don't wanna do a podcast, or you can use other people's podcasts and their Audi audiences, as they've already established to market your book for [00:56:00] you, you don't have to pay to go on someone's podcast.Now through pod match, it's a free service. If you wanna upgrade like me and pay the $39 a month, then you can have more access. But when it comes to to, to, to book promotions going on people's podcast is a huge thing that's trending right now in podcasts. The industry is just growing and growing and growing and you don't even have to pay for that.That's free fucking money, you know, it's, it's just free. And so now, so we wanna avoid way websites out there who are gonna try to charge you ridiculous amounts of money, like hundreds of dollars to go on. Like people shows saying this person's this great. They've got all this going on, but there are no guarantees.You know, you may spend all that money and not get shit from that interview. And cuz you're gonna have to grow your skills as a podcast guest and everything like that. And so through pod matches either free or you can pay 39 a month for more access to it. But it's a good service either way. There's just too many vultures [00:57:00] out there looking to take advantage of artists and people who are just trying to express themselves.Kim: Yeah, it's so true. It's so true. There's you, you do have to be on the lookout, just like you do with everything else. You've gotta be, be aware and, and be careful. And if something looks too good to be true, you gotta know that it is too good to be true. Somebody promises you that they're gonna sell so many of your books.It's not gonna happen. Like, unless they're personally gonna buy a thousand books, you, there is no guarantee that that a thousand books are gonna be sold. So you gotta ignore those things and do the hard work yourself.De'Vannon: Yeah. Cause before I fired the production team that I had previously, who I met through the same person who was the ghost writer, who I also fired they were charging me like a hundred dollars per person to find someone to come on my show for me to interview.Kim: Oh, my word.De'Vannon: Now, these are people that they already knew usually.So it's not like they [00:58:00] had to do any kind of work, but send a few emails. And so, but that's, this sort of thing is common. It happens through pod match. I was able to stop paying them like $1,500 a month to, to work with my show and everything. And I learned how to do this shit myself. It's easy. I don't even have to actually go and look for people because they find me on pod match and ask me to come on my show.So I don't even have to. So I went from paying a hundred dollars a person to have someone come on my show to $39 a month to have unlimited amounts of people, you know, trying to come on my show.Kim: Right, right. Well, and they do have a free choice too. So you can even just do it for free. You're not gonna necessarily get as many matches, but but there are free things that you can do as well, but definitely worth it with pod match to pay the $39 a month. Absolutely.De'Vannon: But it's also a community. Kim. I learned Alex and FETO is the genius that is behind what is pod [00:59:00] match? They have like over 20,000, 25,000 people on pod match now, and it's always growing and they've bought out other pod, other similar companies before, because nobody's doing it better than they are. I learned where to get the, the equipment set up for my podcast and everything through pod match.You know, you have a community there, so you're not alone. Cause a lot of people wanna start a podcast and they're sitting there alone in their room. Like where the fuck do I begin? And then you go on the internet and you have all these people trying to sell you all this bullshit that you don't need. But through pod, through, through the pod match community, which is a different website, but you access it through pod match.com.You can post a question. Hey, where do I start? You can just message Alex and Filippo the found it directly. Then he will tell you I would just throw it out there. I currently use a road eroded mic and a NGO camera. They just plug into my mic and they just plug into my MacBook. There's no switchboards and switchy that needs to happen.You know, some people like to get complex with it. [01:00:00] That's fine if you wanna hold mixing sound board, but I just plug this bitch in and go. And I use the same mic

The Chaos of Being a Mom – Interview with Kimberly Keane Kim Keane is a certified life coach, Reiki and IET practitioner, and podcaster. Kim has addressed community organizations, schools and colleges, such as Boys' and Girls' Club and Purdue University as well as women's groups, such as Polka Dot Powerhouse and Moms Who Dare. She strives to empower women to embrace who they are so they can be and do all that they aspire to. Kim is here on Calming the Chaos podcast to talk about specific challenges and chaos of being a Mom in today's world, and offer Moms some ways to become empowered, embrace who they are and be and do all that they aspire to do in their lives. Let's honor our Moms on Mother's Day! Notable Timestamps: 2:25 to 4:42 - Introduction to Kim You can do energy healing, including Reiki ONLINE! 6:09 – Addressing the most common concerns Moms have in today's world Mom Guilt – The expectation that we have to “do it all” and “to the highest standards” Unrealistic expectations, perfectionism, comparing yourself with others How Moms experience both guilt and shame Guilt – “I've done something wrong” Shame – “I am something wrong” 8:30 – How do we help Moms get through “Mom Guilt” • Find out where the guilt comes from – “Who is telling me that I'm not doing Motherhood right?” • Identifying the “made-up stories” you tell yourself about how good of a Mom you are • Noticing how you compare yourself to other Moms, and finding yourself lacking • Letting go of comparisons with realistic thinking – you never know what is happening in other families • Therapy can help you learn to notice what your body feels like when you feel the guilt • Notice and identify the triggers, perceptions in your mind • Checking the facts – separating the truth from the “made up stories.” Putting your Guilt on Trial • Identify your values and separate them from other Mom's values – Live in alignment with YOUR values 15:00 – The working Moms and the Stay-at-home Mom have the same struggle • Setting up a routine is important – plan out your time and set boundaries with family members • “I need your help, children / partner” • Relinquish control • The whole family gets used to a new routine 17:19 – 19:00 Kim's routine she set for herself and how her family has cooperated with her! 19:18 – Kim answers Tracy's follow up questions: 1. How do you get your kids / partner to understand why a plan is so important? 2. How do you convince them to cooperate with you? Time Management 23:00 - How did Kim become so good at time management? www.flylady.net • Focus on fewer tasks in a bullet journal (she found them on Pinterest) • Finding pockets of time during the day for tasks The Pandemic 26:00 As we're shifting out of it, some Moms are getting judged and / or criticized others or self 29:30 – Dealing with ALL of the critics (others and self) and remembering your values, using intuition School Violence / Bullying / The School System / Conflict 32:36 – Understanding all of the possible reasons why a person might bully others, all the dynamics, and understanding who they are individually, what values they stand for, so that they don't become bullies 34:47 – Identify feelings and asking adults and others for help 35:00 – 38:30 What if YOUR kid is the bully? (Discipline and communication tips from Kim) – Getting to the root and both parents and kids make adjustments. Divorce 39:04 - How Kim works with Moms who are considering divorce or who are divorced “What's the motivation for leaving or staying?” “Is it a healthy motivation?” Social Media 40:42 – Kim's suggestions to Moms who are struggling with their kids' use of social media “It's not about not trusting you….it's about ensuring that you are safe.” Setting standards in accordance with your values, using a timer and time limits 43:43 – Kim's website tour, talking about her podcast, her...

Hear how to build a culture that values men and women  There are times when you are fortunate to meet exceptional women. Kim Graham Lee is one wonderful woman who is moving in a very important direction — how to build allyship for men and women. Kim is the CEO of Integrating Women Leaders (IWL) which is joining with Women Business Collaborative, of which I am a member, to conduct the first nationally-focused study to measure the practice of allyship with women in corporate America today. The primary focus of IWL's 2022 benchmark study is to take stock of where we are in building better cultures where men and women can support each other. This is truly groundbreaking...please plan to listen. Watch and listen to our conversation here When women are in leadership roles, companies do better Yet for women to move into corporate leadership roles is often a challenge. Women do not need to be “fixed.” Rather, they need business environments where they can bring their “whole selves” into the workplace, and find a culture where they are respected, heard and followed. This podcast will tell you more about the research that's underway and how you can join in the project. If you want your company to participate, that's fantastic. You just need to provide a sample of 100 people (50 men and 50 women). To start the survey, click on the image below. You'll find that you can learn a great deal about your organization and how your culture is fostering a place where men and women work together to build better, or not. How are you creating a place for men to be allies of women? You can also take the survey as an individual.  The results will be made available June 9, 2022 at the 2022 IWL Women's Leadership Conference. For more information, check out IWL's website: www.iwlfoundation.org. To take the IWL survey, click below Get in touch with Kim You can contact Kim via LinkedIn,Twitter and her website iwlfoundation.org, or email her at kgrahamlee@iwlfoundation.org.  Is your culture working or broken? Do you even know? Here's a place to start: Blog: How's Your Culture? Doing Fine Or In Drastic Need Of An Overhaul? Blog: Need To Change Your Organization's Culture? 6 Best Ways To Do It. Podcast: Tristan White—A Great Place To Work Starts With A Great Culture Additional resources for you My best-selling second book: Rethink: Smashing The Myths of Women in Business My award-winning first book: On the Brink: A Fresh Lens to Take Your Business to New Heights Simon Associates Management Consultants    

HIGHLIGHTSKim and her courage to face lifeKim's background as a business coachFrom working to starting a business, to coaching businessesWhy Kim chose her current pathDealing with the mindset of hesitationDealing with clients who look down on themselvesDealing with your ego and moving forwardQUOTESKim: “And I think being a woman and being a lesbian, and coming out and living my life out loud, as I like to say, and I want my clients to live their life out loud, that you have to have the courage to face the shit that most people don't want to face. And that's whatever it is in your life. It's whatever it is in my life.”Kim: “So again, this is the courage piece that comes up of the willingness to change, the willingness to pivot, the willingness to say, this is no longer suiting me, and changing gears.”Scott: “Over the past however many years, there has been a secret plague, making Western society sick and it isn't the Coronavirus. Actually, many people say there's a lot of plagues, but the one I'm talking about that is a secret one is a plague of alienation, and disconnect, people feeling disconnected from each other people feeling disconnected from themselves, particularly with regards to a lot of issues like purpose and spirituality, which are which historically, there were institutions that help them find that those institutions are still there. But a lot of people are in those circumstances and life changes occurred, people might need something a little bit may still find themselves lost.”Scott: “Because achievement orientation, particularly in arenas, like sports, academics, titled degrees, can take us exactly where you're going. At the expense of purpose.”Kim: “At the end of the day, it doesn't matter how well I work in that environment for someone else's success, the success of each person is up to them with the tools that they have. So forgetting the process. Life is about living. It's not about the destination. And we do this thing called life with connection with others.”Kim: “The mindset that you have is in your control, if you consistently and it's not, you know, funky positive psychology, whatever “do do” stuff. If you don't believe that you're going to do something you won't.”Kim: “You know, life is a marathon. And so you don't have to find your purpose tomorrow. You don't have to find what that is. I think it's bullshit to search for just a purpose. I think my purpose is just to exist and be the best I know how to be.”Kim: “God gave you a brain in two feet, gave you hands if you know, that kind of thing. So it really is doing the work. But it starts with how you talk with yourself and how you say things to yourself. No one's gonna dangle a million dollars in front of you just because you're cute. You have to do the work.”Scott: “I needed to adapt to the circumstances to what I was given and then succeed on the terms that I had.”Kim: “It really is tapping into the strengths of a person and paying attention to who they are as people.”Kim: “If you want to stay miserable, you will stay miserable. I was choosing to stay miserable in certain periods of my life because I thought I needed to settle for that shit. You know whether I stayed in an abusive relationship, whether I stayed with an abusive boss and a company that I worked in for too long, you know things like that, like we have a choice.”Kim: “We are collective and need to be connected.”Kim: “Once you stop learning, you're dead. So being willing to say, hmm, I have some skill sets. I don't know how to do this, I can learn how to do this. And that will get me out of where I am. That's this shift. That's the mindset shift that I talk about a lot.”To find out more about Kim, please see the links below.Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kimbrady/Website: http://www.kimbradybusinesscoaching.com/To hear more of Scott Mason and the Purpose HighwayⓇ podcast, join our community at https://purposehighway.com/ and subscribe to get notified when new episodes go live.

This week Matthew and Kim examine the second pillar, communication. As one of our core qualities, communication is key to building a durable and prosperous relationship. It's not always easy, but Matthew and Kim are here to teach you how to express yourself in a more effective way. Tune in for hilarious anecdotes, honest advice, and exercises that can bring you and your partner closer every day. Key topics-Practicing active listening -Love mapping -How to avoid your partner's ‘hot buttons' during an argument -Using a ‘soft start up' during a confrontation  -Validating your partner's emotionsQuotes“Being a good listener means you have to seek first to understand… then be understood.” -Matthew “Love mapping is really knowing each other, and really making a point to periodically update each other on what's going on in our lives and asking really great open-ended questions of each other.” - Kim“I have not always been a great communicator. I have been that person that can go from zero to sixty really quickly, and all of a sudden my heart rate is up and I'm jumping in, and I go down that rabbit hole and tend to be critical.” -Kim “You really want to make sure you are making ‘I' statements not ‘you' statements... If you instead turn around and say ‘I feel this' or ‘when we had that conversation I felt this'... It's really a great way to communicate without being condemning.” -Matthew “When you're pointing at someone and saying ‘you.' You've got one finger going at someone, and three going back at you… Anytime you're accusing somebody you're forgetting that the lion share of responsibility probably lies on your shoulders.” - Matthew “When somebody says something that can be hurtful or damaging, or disrespectful and they tag on ‘hey just kidding;' just kidding is not a get out of jail free card because it doesn't take away the sting... If you have to say that after something, you probably shouldn't have made the statement.” -Matthew“You've got to create a culture of appreciation, and keeping an emotional contact with your spouse.”- Kim “What can you say to your spouse to plant a rose in their garden; something that you appreciate about what they just did, or that they always do, or that you remember one of the reasons why you fell in love with them.”- MatthewFor access to workshops with professional therapists, keynote speakers, hot seat training and more exclusive content join our online learning community at: https://matthewphoffman.comFollow us:Instagram: @kickasscouplesnationFacebook: @KickasscouplesnationTwitter: @kickasscouplesPre-Order Kickass Husband Kickass Husband: Winning at Life, Marriage, and Sex by Matthew Hoffmanhttps://matthewphoffman.comLeave a review to show your support! 

In today's episode Jason and Kim are going to talk on a topic that has been in the news recently the Bill C-208. It is a private member's bill that amends the Income Tax Act (Canada) (ITA) in an attempt to alleviate the financial disadvantage that typically arises for taxpayers who sell their business, family farm or fishing corporation to their children or grandchildren, as compared to selling to an arm's length third party. This disadvantage is caused by certain tax rules, specifically an anti-avoidance rule in section 84.1 of the ITA. Despite Bill C-208's best efforts to "fix" this problem, the language used in the legislation does not appear to work as intended. It raises many concerns that will likely need to be addressed by the government through further amendments to the legislation. Kim is here to talk about what the heck this thing is and how it affects business owners in general.Episode Highlights:01.14 Kim talks about Bill C-208 that has been in the news recently. He explains what it is, what it is trying to fix, and how this has gotten so twisted? 01.40 Kim: In 1985, the Government of Canada introduced the capital gains deduction, and most business owners know the capital gains deduction. It started off with $500,000 if you own shares of a qualified small business corporation, which generally means active business, not a lot of passive assets, or qualified farm property, and you disposed of that, then you would be able to claim the 1st $500,000 of gains tax-free so, that first came in 1985. Back then government was smart enough and introduced some anti surplus tripping rules around capital gain deductions.02.25 Kim says that to understand surplus tripping, you first need to understand the only way you can remove after-tax corporate retained earnings or what we call surplus? So, it's after-tax surplus in a corporation and remove it to its shareholders. What is the only way by definition?03.31 Jason says he is a big believer in Charlie Munger's saying – "Show me the incentive, and I'll show you the outcome." He says, "If I could find a way to be creative and find a way to have money recharacterized as a capital gain instead of a dividend, and then by nature, I am going to find a way to do it." 05.50 Kim affirms the government who has been concerned about surplus stripping they have always been concerned about that because capital gains were not taxable in Canada until 1972. So, prior to that, capital gains were without tax. 06.30: Kim asks in 1985 when they introduced the capital gains deduction. They introduced the anti-surplus stripping rule to prevent the withdrawal of surplus in conjunction with the capital gains deduction, and how did they do that? 09.00 Kim says in 2017, during the private corporation tax battle, the government introduced these anti surplus stripping rules. Do they finally had enough? The courts have been sympathetic to surplus tripping over the year because there's no provision that outright prohibited. There are anti-avoidance abuse rules like 84 sub two and the journal entry orders rule that the government can invoke, but they've never been really that successful in recharacterizing a capital gain as surplus as a dividend. 09.52 Jason reiterates it wasn't such a scattered piece of legislation across the city in this country's history, at least when it comes to tax that's refer. 10.38 Kim says fast forward to August, September and there the government was just getting beaten up hard and finally the press somewhat understood the issues and so they're becoming a little more sympathetic rather than just saying, "Hey, this is great and buying into the government line, and so they abandoned in October of 2017 these crazy circle stripping proposals." 12.30 Kim recalls somewhere around 2013 a private member's bill was introduced to try and solve the above-mentioned issue, but it was quickly shut down and killed like most private members' bill.14.40 Kim explains the governing for 18 or 19 liberals that studied this issue and voted against party lines finally have enough because this issue has been around for a long time and so knowing full well that it got passed or that it's imperfectly. They thought we are going to squeeze the department of finance into a corner here and force them to deal with this issue. So, today we have the legislation in place.16.10: Jason agrees that they have now set a new precedent that a bill can reach low assent. If it does not specifically state the date at which it starts, the President can kick it down the road as smart as far as they want. 16.30: Kim clarifies that the interpretation Act specifically deals with this, and it's quite clear that if there's no effective date or coming into force provision, it is effective law on the date that it receives oral assent. 17.52: Kim says in an unprecedented news release that came out on 19th July from the Department of Finance, they clarified that it is actually Krista Freeland, so the Minister of Finance, who confirmed that Bill C208 is effective law. 19.40: Kim points out that if it is any government that comes out and recognizes that this piece of legislation that has passed is imperfect and allows for abuse; because let's be serious, should surplus that is removed from a corporation be taxed as a capital gain? In my opinion, generally, No.20.03: Should surplus remove from a corporation be taxed as a capital gain? Kim generally thinks the answers should be consistent with accounting 101, which is No. It should be taxed as a dividend. There are exceptions to that general rule, and so he blames the government for being concerned about abuse and surplus surfing. 22.40: Kim is not sympathetic to the government. He says that the Department of Finance has other priorities, and COVID certainly shifted a lot of those priorities. They have had 36 years to deal with this issue. Instead, they decided to play politics with it and go on a listening tour instead of actually having the bureaucrats, you know, roll their sleeves up and come up with some solutions.24.00: Kim inquires How many clients do you deal with on a year-to-year basis that are transferring their business to the next generation? He further says, "Certainly some, but as a great is it one month, two months, three months, 10 months? I would say it's probably on average for me, and I have been doing this a long time, maybe once a year."3 Key Points:Bill C-208 was granted Royal Assent on Tuesday, 29th June. It amended the Income Tax Act (ITA) to provide tax relief to families who wish to transfer shares of small businesses or family farms and fishing corporations to their children.Kim explains how the private member's bill, which is now passed into law as Bill C208, is imperfect and is very poorly drafted. There is no legitimate or illegitimate test for intergenerational transfer. Jason says Canadians like to believe and assume that their government does not purposely pass crappy legislation. This is something he has encountered multiple times.Tweetable Quotes:"If a non-arms link corporation decides to buy your shares using money that is within their holding companies, the same kind of surplus, same kind of tax rate and then buys your shares it does qualify for the capital gains exemption." - Jason In the abandonment, they promised to fix the intergenerational transfer issue, and that was good. – Kim"You are indifferent to how you take money." – Jason"We have a flat piece of legislation, there are opportunists, who will try to take advantage of it. We know that this is going to get corrected because they've been eyeing this thing for a while and now, they have created a created a demon they got to slay." - JasonResources MentionedFacebook – Jason Pereira's FacebookLinkedIn – Jason Pereira's LinkedInWoodgate.com – SponsorLinkedIn – Jason Pereira's LinkedInKim Moody - https://www.moodystax.com/team/moody-kim/Podcast EditingFull Transcript See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

【今日紹介(きょうしょうかい)したアニメ"Anime Titles we mentioned in this program"】 - 桜蘭高校ホスト部(Ouran Koukou Host Club) https://myanimelist.net/anime/853/Ouran_Koukou_Host_Club - 鋼の錬金術師(Fullmetal Alchemist : Brotherhood) https://myanimelist.net/anime/5114/Fullmetal_Alchemist__Brotherhood?q=fullmetal&cat=anime - 犬夜叉(InuYasha) https://myanimelist.net/anime/249/InuYasha?q=%E7%8A%AC%E5%A4%9C%E5%8F%89&cat=anime - デスノート(Death Note) https://myanimelist.net/anime/1535/Death_Note?q=%E3%83%87%E3%82%B9%E3%83%8E%E3%83%BC%E3%83%88&cat=anime - ジョジョの奇妙な冒険(Jojo's Bizarre Adventure) https://myanimelist.net/anime/14719/JoJo_no_Kimyou_na_Bouken_TV?q=%E3%82%B8%E3%83%A7%E3%82%B8%E3%83%A7&cat=anime - ワンパンマン(One Punch Man) https://myanimelist.net/anime/30276/One_Punch_Man?q=%E3%83%AF%E3%83%B3%E3%83%91%E3%83%B3%E3%83%9E%E3%83%B3&cat=anime - もののけ姫(Princess Mononoke) https://myanimelist.net/anime/164/Mononoke_Hime?q=%E3%82%82%E3%81%AE%E3%81%AE%E3%81%91&cat=anime - 風立ちぬ(The Wind Rises) https://myanimelist.net/anime/16662/Kaze_Tachinu?q=wind%20arises&cat=anime - おおかみこどもの雨と雪(Wolf Children) https://myanimelist.net/anime/12355/Ookami_Kodomo_no_Ame_to_Yuki?q=%E9%9B%A8%E3%81%A8%E9%9B%AA&cat=anime - 聲の形(A Silent Voice) https://myanimelist.net/anime/28851/Koe_no_Katachi?q=%E5%A3%B0%E3%81%AE%E5%BD%A2&cat=anime - ばらかもん(Barakamon) https://myanimelist.net/anime/22789/Barakamon?q=Barakamon.&cat=anime - ゆるキャン(Yuru Camp) https://myanimelist.net/anime/34798/Yuru_Camp%E2%96%B3?q=%E3%82%86%E3%82%8B%E3%82%AD%E3%83%A3%E3%83%B3&cat=anime - 食戟のソーマ(Food Wars) https://myanimelist.net/anime/28171/Shokugeki_no_Souma - D4DJ https://myanimelist.net/anime/39681/D4DJ__First_Mix - Hunter x Hunter https://myanimelist.net/anime/11061/Hunter_x_Hunter_2011?q=hunter%20x%20hunter&cat=anime === This program is recorded in my Discord group "NihonGO Japanese Language School", we offer group lessons for free, almost every day! Feel free to join the server and our lesson anytime ;) "NihonGO Japanese Language School" https://discord.gg/WEMKCAGhxA === #nihongopodcast #japanese #日本語 #giapponese #日文 #日语 #일본어 #ญี่ปุ่น #japonais #japonés #japonês #nihongo #hiragana #katakana #studyjapanese #learnjapanese #japanesephrases #japantrip #japantravel #jlpt #日本語能力試験 #kanji #japaneselanguage #japanesepodcast #にほんご #ひらがな #カタカナ #japan

Sejam muito bem vindos para mais um bizarro episódio da nossa saga JoJo! Dessa vez, André, Dudi, Helena e Hugo recebem um novo convidado, o Pedrão, para falar sobre a parte 3 dessa aventura, o arco Stardust Crusaders. Será que o Pedrão chegou para atacar ou defender essa obra que cativa tanta gente por aí? Só ouvindo para descobrir... Este episódio tratou sobre JoJo's Bizarre Adventure: Stardust Crusaders, ou JoJo no Kimyou na Bouken: Stardust Crusaders, que é a parte 3 dessa história, mas é a 2ª temporada. Você pode assistir tanto na Crunchyroll, quanto na Netflix!

When people think about today’s guest, tenacity is probably the first word that comes to mind. Everything she accomplished today stems from her unwavering self-belief and deep understanding that you must also take care of yourself. Through this perspective, she has taught herself and countless others how to overcome challenges. And like her, we’ve encountered countless adversities. We’ve all been in a place of anger, frustration, guilt or sadness. How do we begin to accept and love ourselves and learn to grow from it? In this week’s episode, Kim Morrison joins us to teach us all about self-love. She shares how she questioned human existence and purpose after a life-changing event and what we should be asking ourselves whenever we go through intense emotions. Kim also tells us how to overcome challenges and trauma, and discusses different helpful processes like hypnosis. If you want to find out how to overcome challenges, achieve self-love and accomplish your goals, then tune in to this episode!   Get Customised Guidance for Your Genetic Make-Up For our epigenetics health program all about optimising your fitness, lifestyle, nutrition and mind performance to your particular genes, go to  https://www.lisatamati.com/page/epigenetics-and-health-coaching/.   Customised Online Coaching for Runners CUSTOMISED RUN COACHING PLANS — How to Run Faster, Be Stronger, Run Longer  Without Burnout & Injuries Have you struggled to fit in training in your busy life? Maybe you don't know where to start, or perhaps you have done a few races but keep having motivation or injury troubles? Do you want to beat last year’s time or finish at the front of the pack? 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If you have a big challenge ahead, are dealing with adversity or are wanting to take your performance to the next level and want to learn how to increase your mental toughness, emotional resilience, foundational health and more, then contact us at support@lisatamati.com.   Order My Books My latest book Relentless chronicles the inspiring journey about how my mother and I defied the odds after an aneurysm left my mum Isobel with massive brain damage at age 74. The medical professionals told me there was absolutely no hope of any quality of life again, but I used every mindset tool, years of research and incredible tenacity to prove them wrong and bring my mother back to full health within 3 years. Get your copy here: https://shop.lisatamati.com/collections/books/products/relentless. 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Manufactured in an ISO9001 certified facility Boost Your NAD+ Levels — Healthy Ageing: Redefined Cellular Health Energy & Focus Bone Density Skin Elasticity DNA Repair Cardiovascular Health Brain Health  Metabolic Health   My  ‘Fierce’ Sports Jewellery Collection For my gorgeous and inspiring sports jewellery collection ‘Fierce’, go to https://shop.lisatamati.com/collections/lisa-tamati-bespoke-jewellery-collection.   Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode: Find out how to overcome challenges. Discover the things you need to work on and achieve self-love. Learn about goal setting and the importance of aligning it with your values. Episode Highlights [05:57] A Little Bit About Kim Kim grew up in New Zealand. She’s married to Danny Morrison, a former cricketer and fast-paced bowler. Their world turned upside down when they lost a sister to suicide. They then lost their house and a lot of money that they had invested. Seeing her husband go through a world of emotions made Kim question what makes humans tick and why we struggle and go through such tough times. This led her to write several books around essential oils and started her passion for plants, aromatherapy, and connection to nature.  Lately, she has been interested in mind work like neuro-linguistic programming and hypnosis. [10:09] What She’s Learned in the Past Years You are the result of the five people with whom you spend the most time. We can have a significant event happen in our lives that causes us emotional trauma. Depending on our filter system and body physiology, it then affects our behaviour. A fascinating thing Kim found out is that the meaning we put into our early childhood can then affect what our lives become.  When you have awareness around it, you can undo this. What happens to you does not matter. What matters is your reaction and perception of it. [18:44] How Trauma Affects Us  Humans are made up of 50 trillion cells, and every one of those cells is communicating. Unconsciously, so much is happening in our body because of homeostasis. It takes time, effort, energy and real work on how to overcome challenges presented by trauma. You must seek professional help. There’s also a lot of free services out there.  You need to take the time to take care of yourself. [24:02] How to Overcome Challenges  Most people’s excuses for why they do not work on themselves are time and money, but those are not true. In truth, it is about whether or not you make yourself a priority. Own up to your emotions with power instead of having a victim mentality. To have a friend who is a good listener, or to be that friend, is one of the best fast-track pathways to self-care. Lastly, to learn how to overcome challenges, you need discipline.  Life has its highs and lows, and if we can come to accept that, then that is self-love. To heal, we have to truly feel our emotions. [33:35] The Reticular Activating System and Goal Setting The reticular activating system is a part of our brain that stores memories. It has filters and a whole belief system. We receive 2 million bits of information every day, but we only have access to 136 bits. Sometimes, your goal does not match your value.  You have to have your goal aligned with your top three values. To do this, you need to do some work. What we believe, perceive and focus on is where our energy goes. If our goals aren’t aligned, we look for excuses to not accomplish them.  [43:23] The Hypnosis Process Hypnosis is about tapping directly into the unconscious mind. When someone uses hypnotic language, it puts us into a subconscious trance. Your mind can then go on a journey, and we can tap into the heart space. It allows us to bypass the critical factor and create change. When you come out to the other side, you see possibility and opportunity instead of negativity. Breath is the essence of life. When we go into a state of hypnosis, we are letting go of the breath and accessing our energy. [50:37] Our Perception of the World Everything we have ever experienced is just a belief or a perception; it is never the truth. If we imagine the world from someone else’s perspective, we gain more understanding. Every time you feel yourself going into a place of anger, frustration, guilt, or sadness, ask yourself, ‘For what purpose am I feeling this?’ or simply ask, ‘Why?’ [56:47] On Negative Thoughts As negative thoughts enter your mind, ask seven whys.  We often have two characters in our head, one who is positive and another who is negative.  If you ask the seven why’s to those characters, you will find out that both have the same purpose – to protect you.   Resources Gain exclusive access to premium podcast content and bonuses! Become a Pushing the Limits Patron now! The Art of Self Love by Kim Morrison Self Love Podcast with Kim Morrison Learn with Kim on Kim Morrison Training Join Kim’s Self-Love & Wellness Mentorship program with this special offer! Twenty8 Essentials: Website | Facebook Connect with Kim: Website | Instagram | LinkedIn | Twitter The Hero with a Thousand Faces by Joseph Campbell The Biology of Belief by Bruce Lipton The Wim Hof Method Breath by James Nestor The Oxygen Advantage by Patrick McKeown Change Your Brain, Change Your Life by Dr Daniel G. Amen  The Secret by Rhonda Byrne Pushing the Limits Episode 180 - Breathing as the Key to Better Health with James Nestor Pushing the Limits Episode 182 - Science Behind Nasal Breathing and How to Breathe Better with Patrick McKeown Pushing the Limits Episode 190 - How to Build Resilience and Get Control of Your Biology with Paul Taylor   7 Powerful Quotes from this Episode ‘And the thing I love about it is that when you realise it and have an awareness around who you are and what you've been doing, the world becomes your oyster, and we stop blaming; we stop becoming the victim, we stop being in denial, we stop making excuses for our life. And we actually take accountability, responsibility and ownership for every single thing.’ ‘And I say that with a disclaimer, that it's really important that in these times of worry and fear and stress and overwhelm, that you seek help. If you're feeling like your world is closing in, you're not your own coach; you’re not your own best coach; your partner's not necessarily the best coach or mentor for you through these times, neither are your parents. So sometimes we need professional help.’  ‘Often, as we talk it to someone that's listening, truly listening without trying to fix us. When you're listening, we often talk through the process out loud because I believe all humans have all traits. And all humans have all resources within them to help heal themselves. But sometimes we just need to hear it.’ ‘And if we could just understand that it's at our darkest times, we actually are revealed. Your strength comes through your courage, your determination, your tenacity, your resilience is what shows up.’ ‘So we know that life is ebb and flow, high and low, in and out, dark and light. If we can come to accept that, then that is self-love.’ ‘So the important thing to realise is that you have to have your goal aligned with your top three values. And if it's not aligned with any of your top three values, you're going to need some integration work to bring it up there if it's something you really want. Because otherwise, that's where the excuses come in.’ ‘Just keep your mind stimulated with possibility. Because it's through the possibility we have grown, and through the growth we become way more powerful individuals. And with that, we start to then look at our higher purpose, and what legacy are we going to leave in this life.’    About Kim Kim Morrison is a speaker, author, facilitator, health and lifestyle educator, self-love expert and entrepreneur. She set the world record as the youngest female to run 100 miles in less than 24 hours in 1983. Kim has been an Aromatherapist for 27 years. She has diplomas in Holistic Aromatherapy, Sport and Remedial Therapies, Fitness Leadership and Homeobotanical Therapies in Melbourne and New Zealand. She is also a qualified Personality Trainer and completed studies in nutrition, reflexology and counselling. In 2009, Kim launched her company, Twenty8 Essentials. To learn more about Kim, visit her website. Check out her podcast and connect with her on Instagram as well!   Enjoyed This Podcast? If you did, be sure to subscribe and share it with your friends! Post a review and share it! If you enjoyed tuning in, then leave us a review. You can also share this with your family and friends so they can learn more about how to overcome challenges through self-love. Have any questions? You can contact me through email (support@lisatamati.com) or find me on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and YouTube. For more episode updates, visit my website. You may also tune in on Apple Podcasts.   To pushing the limits, Lisa   Full Transcript Of The Podcast Welcome to Pushing The Limits, the show that helps you reach your full potential, with your host Lisa Tamati, brought to you by lisatamati.com. Lisa Tamati: Welcome back to Pushing The Limits with your host Lisa Tamati. Today I have the lovely, dear friend, Kim Morrison, to guest. Kim is an absolute sweetheart. She's a speaker. She's a six-times author, a facilitator, health and lifestyle educator, podcaster herself. She is a self-love expert. And there's so much more to come than meets the eye. She's an absolute gorgeous woman inside and out. Tenacity is probably the first word that comes to mind. In her journey and all she’s accomplished today have all stemmed from her unwavering self-belief and her deep understanding that you must also take care of yourself first and foremost. She recently wrote a book called The Art of Self-Love, which I encourage you to check out after you've listened to this podcast. Kim is also, she’s an entrepreneur, she owns the company Twenty8 Essentials with essential oils. She does a lot of mentoring, especially with women's empowerment. She has her own podcast. She's also a world record holder as the youngest female to run 100 miles in less than, in 24 hours. So she's a very amazing athlete and mother. She's also the wife of Danny Morrison, the famous cricketer, and she's just an absolute legend. She's been through a lot in her life, and she shares in this episode a lot of her learnings along the way so I do hope you enjoy the episode with Kim.  Before I head over to the show, just want to let you guys know we've just launched our premium membership for the podcast. If you love Pushing the Limits, if you love what we stand for, if you'd like to support the show and get a whole lot of extra benefits as premium members, and the list is long on the extra benefits, then I would love you to hop on over to patron.lisatamati.com. That's patron.lisatamati.com and become one of our VIP members. One of our premium members that supports the podcast and the work that we do, and helps us keep getting this great content out there and get a whole lot of benefits, as you know to be a part of this exclusive club. So we're really, really stoked to get that up off the ground and we really appreciate your support. Of course, if you give us a rating and review for the shows too, that would be absolutely fabulous, and share it with your family and friends. We put a lot of effort into this. Sometimes some of the guests we have, top scientists, top doctors and researchers. 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And my latest book, Relentless: How a Mother and Daughter Defied the Odds is available on my website as well as on Amazon and IngramSpark and all the audiobooks and all of those sorts of places as well as Book Depository. You name it, it's out there. That one’s called Relentless and it's the story of bringing my mum back after a massive aneurysm left her with hardly any higher brain function, in a diagnosis where the medical professionals were telling me there was no way back for her at the age of 74, the brain damage was just too massive. They were wrong. This book is about empowering people. This is what this whole podcast is about. And what my whole life is about is taking control of your health, being preventative, educating yourself, and looking outside the square and connecting with the right people and, doing all that sort of stuff. So I'd love you to go and grab that book. And please share it too with your friends. If you like the book, get them to buy a copy too and help support the book. Getting it out there, and reviews and ratings for the book are really helpful too on either goodreads.com or you can just email me. I'd also love to hear from you if you are enjoying the podcast. Reach out to us if you've got any questions around any of the topics that we've brought up. We'd love to engage with you on support@lisatamati.com. Right well, now we'll go over to the lovely Kim who I absolutely treasure. She's a wonderful woman. I do hope You enjoy this podcast with Kim Morrison. Lisa: Well, hi everyone and welcome back to pushing the limits. Today I have one of my very dear friends Kim Morrison back on the show. Kim, welcome to Pushing the Limits again. Kim Morrison: Such a treat to be with you, my friend.  Lisa: We're just being ravishing. We couldn't stop talking to actually get the recording done, because we just got so much to like, (blah blah noise). Kim: We almost should have recorded what we just created. Lisa: All the cool people we've got to meet. I've got to introduce you to this person and this person. So yeah, we love swapping and collaborating and doing lots of crazy things.  So Kim, for those of you who don't know, you and most people should because you're world-famous and you're the author of six books. You're a mum, you're—you have your own amazing company. But tell us a little bit about Kim Morrison. Who’s Kim Morrison? Where are you sitting at the moment? Kim: On the Sunshine Coast. World-famous and world tellers is what I’d say. I'm here on the Sunshine Coast. Obviously a kiwi, grew up in New Zealand, married Danny Morrison, a former New Zealand cricketer, fast-paced bowler and we had an incredible life. Then our world got turned upside down when sadly we lost a sister to suicide. And then Danny went through his own world of emotions. And as you can imagine being a top international athlete, to now a father of two, a mortgage, losing a sister, and then we lost our house. Then we lost a whole lot of money that we'd invested. All of a sudden, I think Danny started to question who the frick he was.  To watch that as a wife, a partner and someone that you love kept pushing me further down the rabbit hole and understanding what makes us tick. Why do people struggle? Why do people go through tough times? What is the meaning of it? So that took me on a journey after writing a number of books around essential oils.  My passion was plants and aromatherapy and our connection to nature. And I've really, I've dabbled in a whole lot of things like nutrition and home-botanical therapy. And then lately, in the last few years, probably since writing my book, The Art of Self-Love, it's really been a quest, the last, six to ten years on, again, why do we have to go through tough times? And what does it actually mean? So lately, I've been doing a whole lot of mind work around things like neuro-linguistic programming, hypnosis, and really getting to understand how we tick and what makes us put meaning into life situations which then can calibrate into our physiology, which then calibrates into our immunology, which then calibrates into our health and wellness.  It's been a really cool journey. Lots of ups, lots of downs. I'm not sitting here saying my life's been easy. I've been through a lot of downs myself. And knowing that often hitting the rock bottom parts of life, whilst you're in it, the worst thing is to think that there's a lesson in this. ‘Oh, my gosh, I'm going to be coming out so amazing’ when you're in the throes of it. If someone even suggests that you're going to have come out of– Lisa: Both! Kim: Yeah, exactly. But we all know when we look back on our lives, dear Lisa,  there is always a learning, there is always an opportunity for growth. But you can take it one of two ways you can turn it into a power part of your life or a petty part of your life. You can become the victor or the victim. And that's where I love working with people who choose the victor strategy. How do I learn from this? Lisa: Wow, the victor strategy. You either become a victim or a victor. I love it. It's just so beautifully put. We've both been through rocky roads and most people have, if you get to our age. You've had some shit thrown at you. Some of your own doing some not your own doing. And okay, what can we learn out of this? And how can we grow from this so that we just are able to carry on and we were talking before about the journey I've been on with losing my dad six months ago or seven months ago and how, trying to stand back up from that. Trying to make something positive out of the horrific situation which is still too fresh to fully have that formed. But it will be his legacy. He will have a legacy because of this. And I believe that he's helping me on the other side. I'm pretty damn sure of that.  That he's making things happen and the good time. But we all go through these things and we all go through times where we think ‘I can't get up again'.  So you've written a book called The Art of Self-Love. You do a heck of a lot. You have a podcast all around the space of loving yourself. And this isn't just whoo-whoo stuff. This is real stuff. This is like, how do I accept myself? Love myself? Learn from this? Grow from this? You've had some amazing people on your show, some amazing guests. What are some of the things that you've learned just in the last year working on your podcasts and so on? Kim: It's been phenomenal. I think the biggest thing that I love is you are the result of the five people you spend your most time with. So that includes family, and sometimes that can be tough. Therefore, the most important thing of all is—look, we can have a significant event happen in our lives that can bring us to our knees, which causes a whole lot of emotional trauma. Then we perceive that event. Then depending on our upbringing, our circumstances, our values, our beliefs, our meta-programs. How we generalize, distort and delete things. How we actually filter for what we're thinking of that meaning. Then creates a physiology within the body, which then creates a state, and then our emotions come out, which then drives our behaviour.  So it's fascinating, and the way I can explain this is if you grew up with siblings, and you had the privilege of having, say, the same mom and dad the whole way through. If you asked each of the siblings what they thought of their childhood, you may find a very different perception or meaning of what they've put onto that. And that's based on the filter system.  We all know that between the ages of naught and seven is pretty much the imprinting stage. So whatever happens usually in those naught to seven years, we create meaning. We're an absorber of information. So if you grew up with a mom that was frantic and full-on and was doing the best she could. Let's face it, everybody's done the best they could with the resources they have or don't have. But let's say that you heard, as a little four-year-old girl, your mom and dad fighting one night. They were having an argument, and let's say it was about money. Maybe your dad just lost his job. But as a four-year-old, you don't understand all of this. But you come to the door because you're worried you can hear and it doesn't feel real. And then your dad says to you, ‘Go away. This is not to do with you’. Or says something that you've heard it in a way that now means you'd now go into your room, you calibrate that into your physiology, that the next time a male or a man shouts, you've taken it to mean, perhaps you're not good enough, or it's your fault. Now you can imagine throughout your life now, you start building scenarios. Your reticular activation system is now on alert. That now every time you hear a man or a male, argue, or fight, or scream, or yell or have anger, you’re now drawn to it. So you're now filtering for it. Because on the other side of that, because to have a problem, you also have to not have a problem. Or to have heat, you also have to have cold to understand the polarities of that. You now also know that to look for love in your life, you're now going to look for the polarity opposite of that, which is mean yelling. Or maybe it could be in the form of your boss. It could be in the form of a teacher. It could be in the form of a friend.  Lisa: You're going to be a travel expert.  Kim: So it fascinates me, Lisa, that the meaning we put into our early childhood can then become what our life becomes or doesn't become. Now the cool thing about that is when you have awareness around it, you can also undo this. If you've had the physiology or a life of not having great relationships, and you've never. If we could take you back through hypnosis or through different timeline strategies, and we can get you back to the place where you first put meaning and had a limiting belief around that, then we can easily take the lessons from it, learn it, and undo everything. And it's not about unwinding or stopping those memories. It's not about that. It's just realizing why you've created a certain behaviour to have that result. And the thing I love about it is that when you realize it and have an awareness around who you are and what you've been doing, the world becomes your oyster. And we stop blaming, we stop becoming the victim, we stop being in denial, we stop making excuses for our life. And we actually take accountability, responsibility and ownership for every single thing.  Now that means we're things that happened to us like you just said. So again, it doesn't matter what happens to you. It's your reaction to it that matters. It's how you perceive it that matters. Because we can't control their outside world as much as we've tried to change partners and kids and parents and families and friends. As much as we've tried to change people, do any of us want to be changed or told we're doing it wrong? Probably not. So it actually teaches you a way on how to perceive it in a way that you do it with love. And as far as I'm concerned, I can speak to the biggest scientists on the planet. I can speak to the most intelligent humans on this planet. And ultimately it all comes back to us desiring the ability to love and be loved. Lisa: There is a whole purpose of us being here, I'm pretty damn sure of it. But if, without getting into the whole spiritual silence, what I've been looking at—wWhen you lose a loved one, you start looking at what's on the other side, and what is the reason of life. And I do think it is all connected to love. That is so fascinating.  I just met a Dr Don Ward, who I'm going to introduce you to, who works with trauma, and people who have been through trauma. And he said we have this like—talks about the reticular activating system and how we filter for things. I can so relate to that analogy that you gave there. And he gave a story in his life with his wife who'd had a difficult childhood and a dad who would do a lot of yelling. So then he said his wife was hyper-vigilant to that in his voice, even if he just said, ‘Oh, I don't like that’, and she would immediately be filtering for that. ‘What have I doing wrong’? because of that fear response that was already programmed into her.  He talks about taking these memories. It could be a minor trauma, but it ends up being a big thing that you frame yourself for and limit your beliefs. And I think, like, when you're a child, you don't have that understanding of, mum might have been just a bit stressed and told you ‘you're just a naughty little girl', And then you've just taken that away, and I'm a bad person. Forever and a day, now it's in my life. It can be that simple. And yet it was just mum having a bad day and was a bit stressed and yelled at you, which really shouldn't have had that impact. And as an adult, you wouldn't have taken that. But as a child, you've not been able to filter that.  So what he does, and also with big trauma, he's worked with lots of vets and people that have been blown up and bombs and lost legs and horrible things. He says, you have this memory that is in High Definition movie. And it's trauma, right? And it’s so real and vivid in your memory banks. And anything can trigger it. So it might be a song or smell, a person, an event, and it will just, you're immediately back there in that trauma, and you're reliving it. That creates an emotional response in the body. And what he does through his program is similar to what the hypnosis, I imagine, is take that high definition movie and turn it into a black-and-white picture that's still in your brain, but no longer causes a physiological response because we get stuck in this loop. We're looping around those thoughts and that experience and experiencing it in real-time because your brain doesn't differentiate if this was 20 years ago or it's now. If you think back to a horrible event in your life, that was really traumatic feeling for you, you will have all of those physiological responses in real-time right now because the brain doesn't know. You're actually bringing it out into your body. And this is where the whole thing about psycho-neuro-immunology comes into it. Where everything that's going on in our brain is fixed and is stuck in our biology and expresses through our biology. And you've obviously been deeper into this world than I have of late. I'm really just scratching the surface. But how do you think that affects us from a health perspective? Kim: If you think we are made up of 50 trillion cells, and every one of those cells is communicating and it's got a whole incredible unconscious way of sustaining life. And when we think about it consciously, I mean, you're not thinking about your left finger now growing right now, although you might be now because I brought attention to it. But unconsciously so much is happening because of the programming, because of the ability of the body to do what it does and create what we call homeostasis.  So if you have a traumatic experience, and you get triggered by that, let's say, well, I've got a girlfriend who was in—sadly, her story's amazing, I'll get you to get her on your podcast. But basically, she lost her fiance to suicide. She was so traumatized, but within a year, she just couldn't get over it so she decided, on his one year anniversary, she'd go to Bali to take her life.  She had two girl friends who knew that she wasn't right so they went with her. That night, they went out to the Sari Club, and we all may be aware of the Bali bombings that went off. Now, one minute Karen's thinking of going to Bali to take her life. The next minute she is pushed through a burning wall and running for her life. So her physiology—and by the way, she lost her two friends out of that experience so now she feels responsible for three people stiff.  So you can imagine for her what that meant, and her story is phenomenal as she goes into a world of six years of depression. Now what brings her out of it is obviously a lot of self-work. But her dad talking about, his nickname for her as Buffy. And he says to her, he had her on his knee, she's a woman in her late 30s at this point, and he has her sitting on her knee and says ‘Buffy, we've all got to—some time, the caterpillar has got to go through a transformational process to come out the other side and become the butterfly’. And, for some reason, maybe he’s been saying it for those six years, but for some reason, on that day, she heard it. And she has gone on this exploratory path of what is it that has us physiologically turned into this thing called depression. And these are her words, not mine. She believes depression is a choice. So she says you go to sleep every night, you fall asleep, you might be depressed as you fall asleep but as you go to sleep into the unconscious part of sleep, you are no longer depressed. But the minute, not the minute, the moment you wake up, you're not depressed, until the memory kicks in, of who you are, your story in your life, and now all of a sudden, you're living depression.  I'm not undermining depression for anyone listening. And I'm certainly not an expert in that field. But I found it interesting that she feels depression is a choice. So when you think about that, your biology, and what's happening at a physiological level like you say, at a cell level, if you are believing—and by the way, the reason why I said that is if a balloon popped, or champagne cork went off, the explosion of that triggered her exactly into that time and place. So it takes time, effort and energy and real work on self to overcome these traumas. Now we're not born with a rulebook or a guide book. And our parents aren’t born with a book on how to help us psychologically. We're all traversing this pathway with the best that we possibly can. And so I share that in the hope and realisation that for many of us, suicide is not the answer. And I say that with a disclaimer, that it's really important that in these times of worry and fear and stress and overwhelm, that you seek help if you're feeling like your world is closing in. You're not your own coach. You're not your own best coach. Your partner's not necessarily the best coach or mentor for you through these times. Neither are your parents. So sometimes we need professional help.  And what I love about these days is, if you're seeing a psychologist, in my mom's day, you're seen as a little bit weak. Whereas today, I think you're seen as profoundly intelligent, emotionally intelligent to get that support. So whether it's hypnosis, aroma-therapy, psychology, NLP, getting a coach, getting a mentor, it doesn't matter what it is. And there's a lot of free help out there. If you search it in podcasts like this, that really dive into one realm if you go down the science link, but my real passion sits in the heart space. And if you love who you are, then I believe you have awareness when you're not in love with yourself. And if you take care of yourself, then we know that that helps you one step, one moment, one breath at a time. You're better off, doing something nice for yourself making a green smoothie than you are drinking a bottle of wine. I'm not saying that a bottle of wine with a girl friend and pouring your heart out and having a good cry isn't healthy. But it’s not your crutch. Anything can become a crutch too. Lisa: It’s not to become your crutch, right?  Anything can become an addiction. Kim: An addiction is not a great place to be either. So we know that if you can find a way one step, one breath at a time. Whether it's free, or if you have the money to invest. And let's face it, most people's biggest excuses for why they don't work on themselves is time and money. And I'm here to tell you that I think it's absolute bullshit, that it's not time and money. It's about whether or not you make yourself a priority because we all know if you, let me say this to your listeners. If someone that you loved was hanging off a cliff, and that means that in order to save them you had to have a weekly message until the end of this year. To save them you would find the time and the money to do it. Now that might seem a bit extreme. But I promise you when you are faced like you have been with your mum and your dad, everything goes aside until you put that at the forefront. So it's about prioritization and the moment you–. Lisa: And I’m not even feeling guilty for it.  Kim: Except when we look at guilt, sometimes that, even that emotion of guilt is an interesting one. So we feel guilt because we're doing something for ourselves, which is taking away from something else perhaps. And even that's interesting.  So when I look at the emotion of guilt, it's because we're doing something maybe selfishly. Well, what if we could reframe that into investing in ourselves. As a mum, putting a child into daycare, or having a babysitter every now and again so that you can go out or going for a weekly massage? If we look at that as guilt, if you really look at this—this is something interesting and I just want you to think about this. That lot of guilt is it that we're using that as a frame to hide the fact that some days being a mother is fricking hard work. And some days, we actually may hate it. And some days, maybe we are so exhausted, so mentally, physically, emotionally exhausted that we hate it so much. That we then feel bad because we've yelled, we've screamed, we've not been the best version of ourselves. And then we put it into mother guilt. We frame it in that where some days, we just fricking—we don't like it.  I think if we could own those emotions more and own the fact that it doesn't feel great some days, own up but with power, not victim mentality, then I think we would actually be more honest. And we would actually say, that's when I always say, have a bestie that you can call who's not going to go into the gossip-victim mentality, but the ‘I'm hearing you girlfriend’. And then at the end of that, you say, ‘What do you want to do about it? And what's your purpose for this belief, or this feeling right now? And what can you learn from it’? To have a girlfriend or a mate or partner or a friend who says ‘What can we learn from this’? is one of the best friends you could have in your corner. That is psychotherapy and psychology at its best.  What can you learn from this? And sometimes it's very hard to look at the lessons when you're in the throes of it and when emotions are high, intelligence is very low. So that might not be the question that we ask when someone's highly volatile and emotional. But to be a good listener, to hear someone pour their heart out. Often as we talk it to someone that's listening, truly listening without trying to fix us. When you're listening, we often talk through the process out loud, because I believe all humans have all traits and all humans have all resources within them to help heal themselves. But sometimes we just need to hear it. And I don't know about you, Lisa, but sometimes as I'm talking through my problem, I realize how stupid it is, or how benign it sounds. Or how relatively benign it is compared to what someone else is going through. So to have a good listening friend, or to be that listening friend, is sometimes one of the best fast track pathways into self-care which motorizes you right into the heart of self-love. Here's my third thing. I'm gonna put a caveat on that. That takes discipline. Without discipline, you can care for yourself and go on to the airy fairy land of woe and spirituality, and, oh, my gosh, this is all teaching me lots without responsibility, then that is not serving you. The discipline of waking up every day and physically doing something with that beautiful vehicle of yours with 50 trillion cells. Whether it's five minutes of tricep dips and push-ups just in your bedroom before you get dressed. Whether it's going for a 30-minute walk. Whether it's push and pushing yourself. We know the physiology of pushing the body actually puts you out of your comfort zone, which changes your cell structure. And when you change that, you get more clarity. And when you have more clarity, you make better decisions.  As you get to know yourself more and understand the triggers in your life, your responses, the victim mentality, you start to realize that you don't stop having problems, you just have bigger problems, Lisa. So you might be having a problem that's, ‘I'm not sure whether I should run in the Gold Coast hinterland this weekend because I've got the weekend off’ or whether your problem is trying to emotionally deal with the fact that your father never told you he loved you. Well, they're both problems. But I can tell you which problem I'd rather be traversing and working out. Because I've worked out the fact that maybe, and this isn't me personally, but my dad didn't tell me he loved me or maybe I experienced a very significant abuse. Or maybe I had a traumatic experience that now I'm working on to understand what it means to me. I think you'd agree with me. Every person you've had on your podcast or every person you've ever met, the ones we admire and love the most are the ones that have actually gone to hell and back. But they've found a way out. It's the comeback story. Google and The Hero’s Journey by Joseph Campbell. It's a six minute video to watch. We all go through The Hero's Journey where we want adventure, we want to go out on a limb, we want to do things. But then we find dragons and people putting us down or pulling us out. And then we traverse through that hardship, and we come out battered and beaten and torn and spat out.  But as we come through that we realize the adventure becomes amazing treasure. And through the treasures we find, we expand and evolve. And as we expand and evolve, we become a better human. And we then go on a new adventure. There’s more dragons. There's more people spitting on us and things. But that is the circle of life, right. If we could just understand that it's at our darkest times, we actually are revealed. Your strength comes through, your courage, your determination, your tenacity, your resilience is what shows up. Or you have the potential to discover when we go through it. Because when life's great, it's great. We don't tend to push ourselves so much when it's great. And that's the cool thing, we get to have a rest when life's great. Lisa: I always say this to people when I'm speaking.  Kim: I say this with hand on heart, to those of you going through a tough time I have something for you—this too shall pass. Lisa: One of my favourite sayings of the world. Kim: Absolutely. And then I also say to those of you in a really good place in your life, I've got some advice for you—this too shall pass. So we know that life is ebb and flow, high and low, in and out, dark and light. If we could come to accept that, then that is self-love. That is realising that actually when life's good, I'm going to learn more. I'm going to listen to different podcasts. I'm going to maybe study something. I'm going to read something. And I say read, not on a technology thing, I mean read a book. I’m going to immerse myself. I'm going to go to a retreat or a breakthrough. I'm going to take on coaching and mentoring. Because we don't want to just be great versions of ourselves, we want to be exceptional versions of ourselves.  And to do that, it's great to work on ourselves when life's great. Because then when the life hits us or the storm, or I'll say you either get a tap, a whack or a Mack. You'll get a tap when someone taps you or something upsets you. You'll get a whack when maybe you're thrown off guard or you've lost your job or your relationships over. We get a Mack Truck, major illness, losing someone, and it sideswipes you to the point where you're on your knees and you can't breathe. But if you've got those tools of resilience inside of you, or you know where to go as you breathe through each moment.  And let's face it, in order to heal it, you truly have to feel it. So that means we can't hide the emotions from any of these. Or that we say ‘Oh, everything's great’ when it's fricking not. Owning it with power and not telling your story as a victim is painful. But owning it and then saying but you know what I'm seeing someone or I'm doing this or I'm using my oils or listening to this podcast with Lisa Tamati. And I've literally met this amazing supplement that I think is actually going to work for me right now. Whatever you hear, don't take it for granted. And always trust that what you're hearing in the moment is a beautiful sign. There's always signs and opportunity of growth, passion, love and development. It just means that what your reticular activation system is filtering for. And whether you're looking for the good or more of the shit that you've just been through. Lisa: Explain that RAS, Kim. What is it? Kim: Well, we know there's a part of the brain that has memories. It has filters. It has this whole belief system. But let's look at it this way. What's your favourite car? Or what's a car you dream to own if you don't have it right now? Lisa: Probably… Kim: You’re not really probably not that materialistic. Lisa: I drive around in a 20-year-old car. Let's just say a Ferrari just for the sake of… A red Ferrari. Kim: A red Ferrari. Sometimes we could call that a penis extinction or a mid-life crisis awakening. But anyway, what's a nice car you like? Lisa: Oh, I like Jaguars.  Kim: Jaguars. Let’s go with that. And what colour? Lisa: A wine-coloured one. Kim: Ah, wine-coloured. So that beautiful burgundy wine-coloured Jaguar? Lisa: Yeah, not very common, probably. So probably not a good example. But you know what I mean? Kim: However, it's now in your mindset. It's now in your memory. It's now in your reticular activation system. It's now a part—it’s become out of the 2 million bits of information we receive each day, we actually only have access to 136 bits. So I want you to think about that 2 million bits of information that is coming at you. But we are actually only able to process 136 in our consciousness. Because if you think about it, to access and process 2 million bits we'd be in constant burnout and overwhelm. So those 136 bits now we've just been spoken about a burgundy coloured Jaguar. That's come really close into the forefront of your reticular activation system. So you may find over the next 24 - 48 hours, you might just happen to see one. That's because you're now filtering for it.  You've got 136 bits of that seed. And particularly if we put it to the front of our values, and it became a value. Let's say, car’s not necessarily a high value. But being able to transport yourself or take people to and from places or you love adventure, and travelling. You have a real high value for adventure, a car is part of that. And so now, adventure is one of the highest values on your list of life values. Within that, if we dig deeper is the burgundy-coloured Jaguar. Now you're actually going to see it every time you're thinking of adventure. You might think now, actually ‘Bloody dammit, I've worked really hard, I deserve this’. And now all of a sudden, you start seeing ads for Jaguars or you start thinking. That's what we mean about pulling in the 136 bits of information into the reticular activation system. And now you're seeing it, now you're proving it. Lisa: And this is why goal setting works, isn't it. Because you've set a goal. You've made that as a priority. So it's a scary one. And then everything that will help you get towards your goal, your subconscious is picking up those things and then saying, ‘hey, be aware of this’. So if you decide you want to run a marathon, it's probably a good example with us two crazy runners. Or ex-crazy runners. You start seeing articles about running and videos on running. You'll be aware of runners running around your neighbourhood that you might have ignored before because suddenly this has become a goal.  So your brain is going, ‘Oh, you wanted this? Well, I'm just making you aware. Here's some tools to get there’. So that's a really good example of the RAS selection really. Kim: You got to remember too, and I want to make this really clear, it's something that I've learned just lately. If you have a goal to run a marathon, and it's really high in your priorities. You start off in the first week, and you're doing the pro there's maybe a 12-week program. Maybe they're doing one of your the Neal's program. Maybe they've got one of these things. And they’re in week one. They're highly enthusiastic and excited. Week two, they’re a bit sore. It’s hurting a bit, and they have DOMS setting in and now it's like it's not getting easier. In fact, the more you train, the more you realize that even though you don't realize you're getting better and stronger, you're pushing yourself more. And, so you're feeling worse. So by week three, usually within those 21 days, we're starting to go maybe a marathon isn't the goal at all. Or you still keep saying it's a marathon but now you're not going out for the longer run. Now what's happened is your goal is not matching your value.  Now, this is the real essence of the work. How do we make running a marathon one of your highest values? If I listed all your values, you may find health or adventure or pushing the limits or expanding yourself is number 10 on the list. Lisa: And therefore won't get– Kim: It's not gonna get done. Which is why so many of us, we set New Year's goals.  We join a gym, we go along. And then we basically make a donation to that gym for the rest of the year. So the important thing to realize is that you have to have your goal aligned with your top three values. And if it's not aligned with any of your top three values, you're going to need some integration work to bring it up there if it's something you really want. Because otherwise, that's where the excuses come in or you get an injury. Was it an injury? Or was your subconscious mind delivering you the possibilities that you didn't have to do it? I find health and injuries and disease, and all of those things.  I think if you've read Bruce Lipton's book, The Biology of Belief, you'll know that what we believe we perceive. Where focus goes, energy flows. So if you have all of these things in your mind, if your focus is now on all sore and injury and it's too hard, I don't want to do it. Bang! You're going to find your energy goes that way. It flows that way. And hello, now you've got a reason, an excuse to physically pull out of the marathon. So you know, people would say ‘oh, no, I didn't mean to trip over the washing basket'. Well, how come for the last 365 days, the washing basket could have been there but you never– The unconscious mind is one of the most powerful places to work, which is why I love hypnosis. Which is why I love timeline therapy. Which is why I love getting into. If you look at a mountain, the snow part on the top is your conscious mind. But in fact, everything underneath which is driving your behaviour, is driving your feelings, your beliefs and your values is actually the tip of the iceberg.  That's right 95% of it is definitely coming from the unconscious mind. Lisa: Yeah, and this is why we need to do the deep work. You just reminded me of a couple of things. Everytime that I do a big mess of a race in the past, I would get sick, or I'd have an injury or something would happen. And usually in the week or two weeks before the actual event. It was like my body's going, ‘I'm gonna stop you because I want you’... A part of me doesn't want to do it’. So you’re going to chuck a few obstacles.   You have to understand that when you override that, and you keep going, often that injure or that niggle, whatever that was, disappears. I saw that, firsthand, time and time again. And even when I was running through New Zealand, and I was doing 70Ks a day, and I was getting weaker and sicker and really, just absolutely blown apart after two weeks. And I didn't stop though, because I had an amazing team and I had a big why. Why I was doing this: charities and big responsibilities, so I keep going despite horrific pain and all the rest of it. Then my body went, ‘Oh, it's just not stopping, we better get on board with this’. And it got stronger and stronger. From the two-week point up until the six-week point, I actually got stronger and stronger. And I thought that it's all over. I could have a walking stick. I was walking, I wasn't running. I was having to go down sideways downhills, because my shins were so bad. And when I still kept going, then the brain went, ‘Well, we better get on with it because she's not going to stop, obviously’. And that's a really good example.  One of the other things I wanted to bring up because motivation follows action, not the other way around. So like when you don't feel like going training today, which is pretty much me every day. I don't feel like it, but I take action, I do something I might be just putting on my gym gear. And I've said this before, put on your gear, walk out the door, go to the letterbox and then see. Often, when you've just taken that couple of steps of action, then you're in the movement and you're like, ‘Oh, well, I'm out here, now muscle go’. Then it gets easier and easier and then you're in the flow of it. It's the anticipation, sometimes, that stops you. And when you just get up, doing the press-ups in the morning, before I do anything else. I go and have a cold shower or do my heart rate monitoring my HRV. All the breath-hold techniques, and then I come out of the shower. Then I often do like my press-ups and stuff before I sit down at the computer. Because I've done it and if you have little tiny habits that you build in. It might be just teeny press-ups or teeny sit-ups. Every time you go to the loo. Whatever the case maybe you set these little wee micro-goals that you can't fail it. And that action creates motivation. Because you've actually done a little bit and you're pleased with yourself and that creates its own reward loop type of thing. A lot of what you were saying was just lots. That's exactly what Paul Taylor, I've just had on my show. I'm gonna do Dr Don, would you know. All of this is very, very similar.  So, Kim, I want to go now into hypnosis because this is something that fascinates me. I haven't studied it. I want to, it's on my to-do list at some point in time. Tell me how the heck does that work and what's involved with the hypnosis process?  Kim: It's pretty cool. It's tapping directly into the unconscious mind. And I could use language with us right here and now where I could get us all into a very relaxed state. And every breath that you're taking, we're getting more and more relaxed. And as we relax more, we learn more. And the more we learn, the more we hear. And as we’re hearing new thoughts and opportunities, the more we realize we're capable of everything and anything. That's because we're extraordinary. So as I talk like that, and as I speak to you like that, it's almost putting you into a subconscious trance, which is kind of has your mind scrambling and not having to consciously think. Your mind kind of goes on this beautiful journey. It's in that space, where you, I believe, we tap into the heart space. And when we tap into the heart or the unconscious space, we can put new meanings past the critical factor, past that critical person who knocks you or puts you down all the time. Here’s another question. If you hear yourself knocking yourself, who's talking? If you're listening, who's talking? And if it's you're saying it, who's listening? So I love the rabbit hole of the unconscious mind because it gets you realizing that everything is about programming. Everything is programmed. And so we want to program excellent computers.  Which is why when we watch people who do amazing things, we want to model ourselves off them or we want to learn how they did it. Which is why I love NLP and hypnosis together. But hypnosis really is the ability to tap into the unconscious mind, bypassing the critical factor so that we can get to the heart, the juice, the unconscious mind to create change. So that when you come out the other side, you see possibility and opportunity. Not all the negative shite that you were saying before, we may have had the session.  And I think it's just accessing it. We spend most of our time consciously thinking. Yet as I said at the beginning when was the last time you gave thanks to your fingernail for growing or your digestive juices for doing what they're doing or your hair growing or those bald maybe not growing, but it's a really beautiful thing. And I think things like flotation tank massage. Times when you get to deeply truly relax, when we let go of the physiology of tension around us actually allows the cells to almost breathe. If we breathe, if you followed Wim Hof or any of the amazing work with breath or James Nestor whose book I just—I love James Nestor’s book. Lisa: I’ll introduce you. Kim: Who, James or Wim? Lisa: James. And Patrick McKeown as well. Kim: I love that book Breathe, changed the way I looked at my breathing. I’ve been taping my mouth at night because we can go without food for a month. I've heard of people go a year without food. We can go weeks without water. But we can't go many seconds or many minutes without breath. Breath is the essence of life. And when we go into a state of hypnosis, we are really letting go of the breath. And as we let go of the breath, we actually are able to access the intelligence of the cells. Intelligence of the higher vibration. Without going too wacky, I guess the other way to look at it is that we operate, we're aware that we can measure the speed of light. And I can't remember the exact measurement of it right now but it's bloody fast. But everything below that is all measurable. And from a conscious level, we understand it, you know, we've got vibrational frequency of plants, of oils, of food. We understand that there's a vibrational frequency to all things. But above the speed of light, where we go into the zero point field of quantum physics and true possibility and infinity. That's where the mind just– . It's so big and so bizarre, that you actually can't do anything but surrender to it and feel all possibility.  I guess the way to look at that, to try and bring it into some realm, is if we put one of our blood cells, if we put blood under a microscope, we would go down, and we'd see there's a whole lot of cells. Then we'd go further into the cell and then we'd see a whole cell and within the cell is a whole lot of stuff and life. Proteins and cytoplasm, DNA and RNA. But then if we go right into the DNA and RNA, we go further into that you'll see there's even more microcosms of cells and systems and structure. And if you keep going, the more you go, the more you see. There is nothing but space. Lisa: There is only vibration. Kim: And space. And then there's just the vibration. Lisa: And this is science. There is nothing there. They’re just energy. Kim: And we could do it to the chair you're sitting on. We could slice through a piece of that. And when the more we go into each of the wooden chairs, or this chair that you're sitting on structure, you'll see that that becomes nothing. And we can go the other way where we go up into us, here right now. From our cells into our blood systems, to our body, to our human system, to our environment, to our community, the place we live, into the planet, then we go beyond the planet into the galaxy, and then we realize the galaxies beyond the galaxies, all of a sudden, we're back to nothing. So we can go macro or micro. but the joy of this ride into quantum physics is that it means that everything means nothing, and nothing is no thing and no thing is everything and everything is something.  When I start doing that with my mind, it makes you realize that actually, if I bring it right back into that significant emotional event that occurred when I was a five-year-old girl. I just, through my own filter systems, through my own values, beliefs and upbringing, my personality, all of those meta-programs going on, I made it mean something. And I love this idea. What if life had no meaning? And it had no meaning that it had no meaning. What if we could actually realize that everything we think is true is actually just a limiting belief of perception of our idea of reality. That in fact, the only reality, the only truth I could actually give you right here right now, is that you and I both know, there's two truths, probably. One truth is that the sun will come up tomorrow. Whether we see it or not is another thing but we do know it’s the truth, the sun will come up tomorrow. And the other truth is we will all die at some point. But even that's up for debate because do we die? Or do we go to another realm in which we didn’t have past and future lives and soul journey? So I don't know. Lisa: We could go like a huge, and I’ll be– no, I'm fascinated by quantum physics. And most of it, to be honest, is beyond my grasp, it’s a little brainy. But I know that there’s these bigger things out there and I'd love to riff with you for a couple hours on this subject. But we'd probably, people will be getting ‘what the hell are they talking about’? Kim: What I'd love to say though, is just to finish off there, is just to realize that everything you've ever experienced is just a belief. It's not truth, it's just your perception. So it's never the truth. It's always up for bid, based on how you believe and see and perceive the world. Which is why there's conflict, which is why we have arguments. But wouldn't it be beautiful, if I could just for a minute, put my shoe, try because I never could. But if I put my shoes and feet into your shoes just for a moment, and imagine it from your perception, your beliefs and your reality, I actually have more understanding. Lisa: And more empathy. Kim: I may not agree with it, I may not like it. But, my gosh, it's interesting that it's from your perspective. So every time we feel ourselves triggered, or every time we feel ourselves going into a place of anger or frustration or guilt or sadness or whatever that driving emotion is. Rather than sitting in the whirlpool of mud pit of it, ask yourself this question: For what purpose am I feeling this? Why? Or even just the question why? Why am I sad? Well, I'm sad, because he said that. Why does what he says make you sad? Well, because it's not fear? Why is not fear, not fear? Well, because I don't feel like I'm listened to. Why is it important that you're listened to? Because I feel so alone. Why are you feeling alone? Because I don't love myself.  If you really go to the core of all of it, I promise you, it almost gets back to the fear of not being loved or the fear of not being accepted. That's what everything that drives these emotions in our behaviours comes from. Lisa: Wow, that is just absolutely amazing. And it's all automatic. Like we had these, Dr Daniel Amen talks about these automatic negative thoughts that just pop up all the time. And if we can separate ourselves out from our own brain, our own subconscious, our own programming, and just observe how these automatic thoughts just keep coming at you all the time. And then if you let them go, they'll go again. Kim: Or know that those negative thoughts are part of the human experience. They are actually from an evolutionary, anthropological development point of view. We had to be on alert for the sabre-toothed tiger, we had to be watching our tribe or our kids, we had to be there. But we actually spiked ourselves into sympathetic dominants very quickly with that. Years gone by we also pushed ourselves very quickly back down into parasympathetic place. We had peace just to digest. Years today, we're living in the sympathetic dominant’s world.  So I just say with you, as the negative thought comes in, even ask that question, why am I thinking that and keep doing that? I always say our seven why's, and b

Women supporting women. Small business love. Creating community. These are just a few of the things that have been happening in the latest season of Two Kids and A Career. In Episode 53: Organization Should Be An Official Love Language, Kelly Johnson joined Jill Devine to talk about Kelly’s shift from the corporate world to entrepreneurship, women supporting women, adapting her business to meet safety protocols during a pandemic, having a 2-year-old, and so much more. Kelly’s business, Organized Interiors LLC, offers home organization, move management, home styling and personal assistant services. Kelly introduced Morgan Clark to Jill. Morgan is the Founder of STL Sitter and Operating Partner of SmartSitter. In the email introduction, here’s what Morgan said: In 2015 I launched a babysitting side hustle called STL Sitter. I spent the last five years overseeing operations. I took a little break to have a baby, and right as I was coming back, Covid-19 hit us in March 2020. As a double whammy, it was at this time that the technology service we were using abruptly discontinued their service contract. With no other scheduling software available on the market, we were forced to create our own if we wanted to continue to function normally.  Nine months, twelve people, and half a million dollars later, we have launched a technology service company called SmartSitter. This spring, I will be launching a certification program that coincides with the technology to educate industry hopefuls on the process for starting their business, scaling it, and learning to manage it. To accompany the course, I will be publishing my first e-book, Side Hustle to Success, SmartSitter Blueprint.  My goal is to break down the barrier to entry in our industry, build a supportive community, and help others experience more time freedom.  In this episode, Jill and Morgan discussed mom life, biz life, and so much more! Instagram: @stl_sitter Facebook: STL Sitter Jill would like to acknowledge and recognize the hard work moms put in on the daily. It can be a thankless job at times, and Jill wants these moms to know their worth, so she created the Supermom Shoutout. This week’s Supermom Shoutout goes to Kim of Columbus, Ohio. Marcy nominated her and said: You’d never know her life had so many moving pieces because Kim shows up present wherever she goes in person and online. She runs a photography business, an Etsy shop, and is a copy writer for a magazine while raising three children under the age of 7 and juggling the demands of single parenting when her husband is at the fire station.  As I was making final preparations the night before my two (now adopted) children moved in, night owl Kim asked if there was anything we didn’t think about that we still needed. I replied, “A wall coat rack for backpacks.” She told me not to do any research but to tell her width and color. She presented options and my husband and I got to pick the one we liked best. Six years later those same hooks continue to be a daily part of my family’s lives.  I hope you’ll look favorable in shining a spotlight on Kim’s caring heart. Kim - YOU are seen and YOU are supported! To nominate a Supermom (or you can nominate yourself) email hello@jilldevine.com. Submit the name of the Supermom, where they're from, and a brief description as to why Jill should shout out this particular Supermom. Two Kids and A Career Website: https://www.jilldevine.com/ Two Kids and A Career Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jilldevine/?hl=en Two Kids and A Career Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JillDevineMedia/ Thank you to our sponsor: Blondin Professional Real Estate

Like everything, skiing is going to look a little different this year. This week on the podcast, Kim and Tamara talk about what to expect if you are planning a day trip or ski vacation this winter. Be prepared to make reservations, limited capacity, longer lift lines, and new lodge and shuttle procedures. Get the scoop! What to Expect at a Ski Resort in 2020-2021 Due to Covid, most resorts will ask you to book reservations in advance, which will make going for a last minute weekend trips harder. Priority for reservations has been given to season or EPIC pass holders. You are really going to have to do your research for the resorts you will want to go and find out what the rules and regulations are for booking your trip. You will also need to look into how you are going to get there. If you are going into a different state for your ski vacation you will also need to look into what that state's rules are for coming and going. Many ski resorts will not be running parking shuttles and/or mountain shuttles. If they are running, it will be at lower capacity and the wait times might be longer. A lot of Ski lodge eateries are going to require reservations. So you will need to plan out your runs more so that you don’t miss your reservation. Some places will also have a time limit that you will even be able to spend at your table. So no relaxing with a drink while you wait for your family to be done with a lesson or run. It will be easiest to stay in a ski in/ski out condo where you can make your own meals. If you or your child are going to need lessons, you will need to make reservations in advance. There likely will not be any full day ski programs for kids. Social distancing is a challenge in ski rental shops. It may be easier to arrange for ski rentals from a local ski shop and bring them with you. Alternatively, you can rent from someone that will deliver to your accommodations. You should look at your local state park websites and see if they offer any other winter activities like snowshoeing, sledding or even just playing in the snow. Mentioned on the Podcast Ski.com Episode 117 - Ski Resorts in the US for Family Travel Episode 37 - Planning a Family Ski Trip Read the Full Transcript [00:00:00.090] - Kim What to know before hitting the slopes this winter. [00:00:15.130] - Announcer Welcome to Vacation Mavens. A family travel podcast with ideas for your next vacation and tips to get you out the door. Here are your hosts, Kim from Stuffed Suitcase and Tamara from We3Travel. [00:00:30.340] - Tamara So Kim, winter is here and we are starting to think about what we're going to do outside since we know there's not a lot to do inside besides stay in our home. And I think you guys have really started to enjoy skiing a lot. Do you have plans to go skiing this winter? [00:00:47.160] - Kim Yeah, so we well, we had originally been thinking of going to Jackson Hole and that trip has been canceled, obviously. And so we are definitely sticking close to home. Thankfully, we have a local ski resort that's only about an hour and 15 minutes away that we like to go to. And it is an Epic Pass resort. [00:01:06.090] - Kim So we every year we kind of buy a four pack of passes for this resort and we go, you know, about once a month, sometimes twice. And so, yeah, we're planning on doing that again. It was a little different this year than what we've done in the past. So that was kind of the biggest change for us. But we're still planning on, you know, going skiing. We just know because of the changes, we're not able to just go, hey, do you guys want to go skiing this weekend? [00:01:30.360] - Kim Because, and that's what I'll go into I guess, is we bought our Epic Pass, which we normally end up buying them in October, that is when they start going on sale for the cheapest prices. [00:01:40.620] - Kim So it's kind of weird to be thinking that far ahead. But they start promoting and telling you to like buy in I think even August and September, they start selling the passes and by October they're giving you like, OK, it's the final day. You know, you need to get this purchased right away. And you can buy an Epic Pass that covers like a whole bunch of the Vail Resorts across the West Coast and even a lot of resorts in the East Coast also. [00:02:04.020] - Kim Or we buy just a four pack to our local resort that's close by and it's a little bit cheaper because it's a smaller resort. So we did that this year and got that purchase in advance. But then we got a notice that we had to make reservations for what days we want to go skiing this year, which is the big change, I think, that people might not be prepared for. [00:02:24.570] - Tamara Yeah, I've noticed that too. I've seen you know, I've kind of been tracking what's going on, even though I don't think we're going to be going skiing because there is actually one ski hill in Rhode Island, which is where you go to learn to ski, you know, initially. [00:02:39.510] - Tamara And I think Hannah did the black diamond after like six lessons, you know, so it's it's not much of a of a ski experience unless you're a little tiny kid learning to ski. [00:02:50.610] - Tamara But I've been listening to what's going on. And definitely it seems like many of the mountains are moving to this reservation system. I listened to a whole session from Ski Vermont, with all the different ski resorts kind of talking about their changes for this year. And it seems like some of the smaller mountains are not requiring reservations, but definitely all the bigger ones are. [00:03:14.930] - Tamara Not only that, but they're giving priority to reservations for pass holders. I think some of them are opening up for reservations on like December 8th. But the pass holders have already made all their reservations. So you're basically left with the leftovers at that point. [00:03:32.550] - Kim Yeah, that's been the biggest thing that the emails were suggesting and that I've seen is that pass holders have priority. So people who have like Epic Pass and Icon Pass and stuff like that. [00:03:41.820] - Kim And even, you know, if you have a season pass for that ski resort, they're giving those pass holders first option to book their their days. [00:03:52.050] - Kim So if you're planning on just buying a, you know, regular ski pass, you might have some trouble on the weekends getting a date. So it's definitely something you need to look into and be prepared for. [00:04:03.630] - Tamara Yeah, I know that in the past we've mostly done ski weekends when we go to Maine or Vermont and those you book in advance anyway because of your accommodations and you kind of hope for the best weather. But for more local things, sometimes I've been tempted to like go on Lifttopia and buy some passes in advance. [00:04:21.510] - Tamara But then I'm like, well, suppose like the weather isn't great, you know, because it varies so much and I've always like held off and now it's like, well, you're really locked in, especially, you know, it's one thing if you're making it like a weekend and it's if you if it isn't a great ski day, maybe the resort has like other things to do. [00:04:39.180] - Tamara But for you guys, where it's just like, OK, we're driving an hour and 15 minutes, we're going to ski this day, you know what? If the snow is terrible, what if it rains? There's like a lot more risk involved. [00:04:54.210] - Kim There's definitely a lot more risk because we've had those days where it's like, oh, it's you know, especially later in the spring here, out here by us, we they have something called Cascade Concrete. And as it gets towards, you know, February, March, the snow gets really wet and the way it falls really heavy and fast and wet, it's it's just like you get locked into place, like you can't even move. One time in March, our in-laws are visiting and they actually know where they had to carry like Lizzie and Mia down the hill because they couldn't even ski or move. [00:05:26.940] - Kim And their body weight isn't enough to break through the the thickness of the snow. So, yeah, I mean, if you pick a day and it's snowing heavy like that and you've got that really wet snow, you're kind of just wasted your pass day and you don't have as much freedom to go, oh, let's not go today because, you know, it's a lot of wet snow. So that's kind of a bummer. [00:05:45.740] - Tamara Yeah, we have that issue a little bit differently, but we get a lot of, ice and,  things like that or, sometimes like last winter, there wasn't a lot of snow,  so you could get up there and it's only the snow that they've made and that might be really icy. And I don't I don't really like skiing when it's only the snow that they've made because it's bare next to where your are skiing. [00:06:07.730] - Tamara And I know one time we were up in Okemo in Vermont, like one of the first weekends that they were open and they had such a base built up on the trails. But if you went off the edge of the trail, it was like you were just dropping down a few feet onto the ground. And it was also a weekend. It was like the first weekend ski racing was open and they were one of the first ones open in the state. [00:06:31.050] - Tamara So like all the ski racers in the in the whole state were there on the slopes, meanwhile, we're not confident skiers. And you got ski racers, zooming by you and. Yeah, this drop off the edge. We're like, oh, this is not an ideal experience. We're used to going in January, February like that. Not early in the season. [00:06:50.000] - Tamara Yeah. So I think that that's definitely an issue and it's but there's no way around it, you know, unless you are going to one of the smaller ski mountains, that doesn't require a reservation. [00:06:58.280] - Tamara I think really as with everything when it comes to covid and travel right now, it's doing your research during your research, not being a last minute planner and making sure that you're really reading through the website and the protocols and you're planning in advance and which, again, planning in advance a little bit difficult these days when you're like, I don't know what travel restrictions will change or will I be healthy and, you know, all those kind of things. [00:07:25.880] - Tamara So it's definitely it's a challenge. But hopefully, when people are out there, you'll feel like normal and you can enjoy the outdoors, the views, the exercise. [00:07:38.450] - Kim I think skiing would be the perfect kind of vacation getaway for 2020 or even, you know, winter 2021. Seems like it would be perfect. So we'll see. I think, though, if you're a first time skier and or if you're not really confident or if you're not into stresses and stuff like that, I probably would say this might be the winter to hold off and, you know, plan for that next ski vacation next winter, because I think there are going to be a lot of a lot of extra hiccups and things to think through. [00:08:13.310] - Kim So just now we've talked about the reservations and getting on the hill. But just getting to the hill is going to be another consideration people have to take into account. I've heard that some places are reserving parking lot reservations to be able to actually drive and park and other resorts are not running the mountain shuttles that normally would pick up in the town and drive you up to the mountain. [00:08:37.340] - Kim I think that some of those shuttles are either not being run at all or if they are, they're being run at a very low capacity, which is going to affect wait times and things. [00:08:45.830] - Tamara And there's nothing I hate more than having to schlep all my stuff and standing around and waiting for a shuttle. It's so irritating and frustrating. My biggest recommendation for this year would be splurge for the ski in, ski out like condo or hotel. [00:09:06.800] - Tamara I remember one year we were up at Mount Snow and Hannah had a fever, which, you know, thinking back like that would been a whole different thing now. [00:09:16.040] - Tamara But  she really wanted to try to ski and we didn't realize how sick she was. So we were on the lift and her head whent down an clunked against the bar and I was like, oh my God, she is going to pass out on the lift. So I got her down and we went and we had to wait for a shuttle to get back to our condo. And I'm holding both of our stuff because she's too sick and I'm like propping her up and trying to get us on. [00:09:45.410] - Tamara I think our listeners might know that one of my favorite places to ski is Sun River in Maine. And there we usually do a ski in ski out condo. But there have been times where we might be staying off property and Glenn might drop us off at the front and then he would go park. [00:10:03.380] - Tamara And of course unless you're there really early, you have to park pretty far away and hope that there's a shuttle, but you can always walk it. In a lot of places, it's just too far to walk. Also at Sunday River and a lot of mountains, there are multiple mountains on the resort. So you can ski, take one lift up and you're skiing around and you kind of ski down  another side. And then to get back to your original lodge, you have to take a shuttle if you don't want to go back up another trail. [00:10:34.820] - Tamara I definitely think, like every step of the experience, you have to think about what that's going to look like. If you are there for the day, a lot of times you just shove your bag either in a locker or just in the lodge somewhere and hope nobody takes it and you just leave there and you go back whenever you need to get it, that's going to look different this year. [00:10:53.620] - Kim Yeah, definitely. Everything you're saying is exactly what I think some of the things are that people have to consider. And I know that the other thing we should talk about is renting gear as its going to be another huge factor because people are cannot be crammed in a line and at the rental store waiting for their gear, it's going to have to be spread out. [00:11:17.230] - Kim And there's really going to be longer waits because they're not going to be able to cram in. I'm sure you've had this. I don't know how often you've rented, but there's like ten people on a bench and you're all getting fitted with your boots and all that stuff. [00:11:28.480] - Tamara We almost always rent because Hannah had some when she was younger, but she doesn't anymore. And Glenn has boots but not skis. So, yeah, we're always renting something. I think rentals are going to look totally different. Yeah. What we've done a lot of times is rent locally at a local ski shop and then bring it up with us. [00:11:47.380] - Kim Yeah, I agree. We have all of our own gear and so when we go locally we just take our gear, of course. And but when we've gone on trips we've always rented. But I do know something that people will want to look into is a lot of rentals will actually deliver your rentals if you're staying on property. And so if you have that option, if you are going somewhere, you're going to need rent. Try and find an outfitter that will deliver to your condo or whatever, because I think that's going to be that's always better anyways, because you waiting in those lines on their first morning is brutal. [00:12:21.310] - Tamara oh, I hate that. I always try if we can get in like the night before, before it closes,  to pick up then. But sometimes you have only a certain number of hours or days. When I was booking travel for people I used ski.com and they did a lot of total packages where it was the accommodations, the lift tickets, and the rentals that were delivered to your accommodations. And that was a really nice one stop shop, so it might be something that people would look into. [00:12:52.960] - Kim Yeah, I think that's a good thing. So we've talked about reservations. We've talked about rentals. We've talked about shuttles and parking. What else do you think we should talk about? Probably eating. I think that's going to be another big thing. And the lodges. [00:13:05.860] - Tamara Yeah, definitely. I've looked at a couple of the mountains that we've typically gone to, and  they're all doing reduced capacity when it comes to how many people can be in either a restaurant or even the kind of the more self serve type of things. So that's good. And that, to me, is always such a pain, my preference, and I think you're this way, too, is to ski as long as I can. And go inside after the main lunch crowd has eaten. And then I'm basically done for the day. Once I warm up and I loosen my boots and all of that and I've had my my beer I'm about done. [00:13:48.850] - Tamara But right now it looks like a lot of them are going to require a reservation for any of the sit down dining. And that impacts where you are on the mountain, how many more runs are you going to do, to get there in time for this reservation. [00:14:07.210] - Tamara You can't always plan it out quite so perfectly, not like when you are in the lodge and walking down to the restaurant. And then also they're going to have a cap of the time that you spend there. So my whole thing of like, oh, let's have my ramen soup and my beer and just hang out until Hannah's done her lesson, maybe can't do that anymore. [00:14:28.960] - Tamara I definitely think the ski in ski out would be so much easier. You can just go back to the condo and have your lunch there whenever you need to. [00:14:40.360] - Kim I think this is the year to, like you said, splurge for the ski and ski out condo and do your grocery shopping and all that. Because I know we stayed. Was it last year? Was that two years ago now? Now I can't even remember at Keystone. And it was an amazing time. We loved that. And we stayed in there in Riverrun Village and it was a condo and we were in walking distance. [00:15:02.170] - Kim I mean, it was a little bit of a walk, so you had to carry your gear and a lot of people had little wagons they would just pull behind them and carry their skis and boots and all that. But I think that it's definitely the year to do that because otherwise, your options are to packing lunch and snacks and all of that in the car. [00:15:27.460] - Kim And so then when everybody's ready for lunch, we'll be coming back to the parking lot, sitting in the car, eating our lunch and stuff, and then gearing back up and going back to finish out the day skiing. Normally in our family, the girls get lunch in the lodge and they eat macaroni and cheese or whatever they want, and then head back out on the mountain and then on their way home, they grab an early dinner. And normally, I know this sounds crazy about McDonald's, but that's kind of their tradition. [00:16:06.610] - Kim But I think your car is going to be your home base if you do not have a ski in ski out situation. I think that's what people should count on. And like I don't know how bathrooms are going to be handled because they're always so crazy and dirty. [00:16:22.960] - Tamara  I was just thinking about that. I wonder if they will put in porta potties. Can you imagine trying to go in a porta potty in a snowstorm? Oh my goodness. [00:16:37.930] - Kim You know, this would be the year to make sure you have the pants and not the bibs with the suspenders because they're going to be hanging down on who knows what. [00:16:45.670] - Tamara Yes. It's so funny because obviously we're middle aged women and our listeners know bathrooms are something we think about. [00:16:54.220] - Tamara  I was listening to this ski Vermont call and they were talking about lessons and, so we'll talk about lessons in a second. But one of the thing with lessons with little kids is some of them need some help, like you said, with all that gear, going to the bathroom. And so they were saying,  we're not going to be able to do that. So you can only have a lesson if your child can, you know, go to the bathroom ourselves and all that. [00:17:18.530] - Tamara For lessons I used to sign her up for a full day lesson and they would all go and eat lunch together in their own little space. But that's not going to be allowed anymore. [00:17:28.660] - Tamara Obviously the size of lessons is going to be reduced. I think it's only going to be a half day or shorter lessons and then you can have a family lunch in between or something. [00:17:40.630] - Kim There's going to be a lot of differences and reservations, of course. [00:17:43.630] - Tamara Yeah. That's the one thing I've seen is that if you do want ski lessons, you need to make a reservation in advance. I'm curious how they'll do it. I don't know. I wonder if pricing will be higher because it's going to be semiprivate versus, you know, a big group of kids. So I don't know what that's going to look like because normally it's two kind of instructors and then like a class of like ten to twelve kids. [00:18:22.690] - Tamara I know some of the resorts were debating whether or not they should even open because even just hiring, I'm thinking in Vermont, a lot of resorts might hire from out of state and you can't do that now. [00:18:33.640] - Kim And so, yeah, I guess that they're living there. [00:18:36.490] - Tamara You can, but you don't know like what capacity you're actually going to have. [00:18:43.600] - Kim It's just really a huge task. And I really feel for the ski resorts trying to do their best. But there's so many contact points, you know, there's so many things to to think through for sure. And we didn't even talk about the lifts. [00:18:59.230] - Tamara Oh, yeah, exactly. Yeah, that's going to be that's going to be interesting because obviously you can't travel up with someone that is not in your party. So lift lines might move a little slower. And I know in the past well, because I love the part of the mountain that's, you know, not the blacks. So I go I tend to ski near where the ski school is. And so often the kids will be coming up and they'll be like, can you take one? Can you take one? Which always stressed me out anyway. Like, I don't want to be responsible for my own. [00:19:32.450] - Tamara I think I've talked about this before, but when you're already not a fully confident skier, especially, a few years ago before I had the experience that I do now, I was worried about getting myself off the lift, I didn't want to worry about a little kid. [00:19:46.510] - Tamara And then the few times we brought up a little kid, they're fearless and they're just kicking their feet and they're leaning down. They're sliding down. I'm like, oh, my God, they're going to go under. [00:19:54.540] - Kim Yeah. Yeah, exactly. [00:19:57.540] - Tamara And sometimes I would just be like, I'm really sorry, but I'm not comfortable because I don't want my kid with somebody that's not like fully comfortable. [00:20:06.960] - Tamara Yeah. So it'll definitely be a little bit slower on the lines. And then I have a feeling though, more people, more resorts might be moving to the scanners or the RFID where you don't have to get close to scan somebody. So maybe that can go like a little faster. [00:20:37.360] - Kim I think that it's going to be interesting also because I mean I'm thinking in those lines, like even when we talked to Rob with the Disneyland. Or I mean, Disney World and Universal, and he was talking about the switchbacks are skipped even, and I hadn't even considered that, like I was only thinking of the people, like in front of you being six feet apart. [00:20:55.810] - Tamara But, yeah, when you have, like, a normal like a snake line formation where you're backtracking back and forth and zigzagging you, I mean, you got to skip six feet there, too. [00:21:06.760] - Kim And so I don't know how the lines will work. I mean, I think in some ways it seems like it's going to be better because they're limiting the amount of people they're going to give passes to each day. But when you think of the limitations of, you know, only your party can go on the up the chairlift and things like that, it's going to look very different. And then I was even thinking like Keystone, they have a big tubing hill that's really fun and awesome. [00:21:33.340] - Kim And I'm thinking of that because when we were there, you know, everyone's just grabbing their tube and rushing over to get back up the because you get to be there for like an hour. [00:21:41.730] - Kim So the faster you are, getting off the hill and up back up the little conveyor belt that takes you up the mountain, the more rides you can get in. But that's just packed person to person to person. And so even that's going to be have to be spread out. So that's going to be a lot slower. And then you're not going to be waiting back to back with these people to go for your turn to go down the hill. [00:22:04.240] - Kim So that's going to all just look very different. So I don't know what what's going to happen with some of those extracurricular things, too. But, yeah, I think the the lines on the chairlifts are going to be are going to move slower and they're probably going to be a lot more spread out than you're used to. [00:22:18.760] - Tamara Yeah, because I'm thinking of different ones that I'm familiar with. And it's not necessarily the zigzag, but there might be three lines, coming in and then you alternate, when you get up to the front. [00:22:40.480] - Tamara One thing that we haven't talked about yet, too, is just,  travel restrictions. Yeah. I know that, you know, we we've been dealing with travel restrictions here for many months, but places like California and even Washington, you know, like you, you guys have started to implement at least recommendations or some restrictions. And, I think about Vermont was saying that they are usually so busy with people from New York and New Jersey that come up because they're one of the closest resorts for that. [00:23:09.160] - Tamara And they don't anticipate that that would happen this year because they have a 14 day quarantine requirement or can do like seven days plus a test. [00:23:20.020] - Tamara But you're certainly not going to have weekend people that are coming up. And I did ask because everyone's like, well, are they really checking? I asked a couple of the different major resorts and hotels and they actually said that they reach out to everyone that they see from out of state with an out-of-state reservation. [00:23:38.620] - Tamara So this wouldn't probably be the same for some rentals, you know, but for at least hotels, if they see you're coming from a state that would require a quarantine, which is pretty much everyone, they reach out to you and they ask you like, what's your plan? And you have to submit something that says I'm quarantined at home or this is where I'm quarantining before I arrive. [00:23:56.630] - Tamara So they are being proactive with it. So it's not like I'll just ignore that guideline. [00:24:03.730] - Kim Yeah, I think that's one of the big reasons Washington and I think California is a recommended as well. I can't remember California, but they're not able to enforce it. And I think it's because you get to a certain level of people and they just can't follow up with every reservation in person. But that's good that it's being I mean, it's kind of like, again, going back to that idea of the theme parks you can have rules, but enforcing them is what's going to actually provide the the feeling of safety. [00:24:33.700] - Tamara So definitely and honestly, I mean, we should just talk about the elephant that's in the room, which is we all know that right now there's not many places where cases aren't on the rise. [00:24:44.770] - Tamara You know, things aren't looking good. So I think what you are planning is is good, right? You're local. You're just going to drive there and follow the protocols and enjoy your day. But in terms of, like ski travel, I think people really need to think about what that really would entail and whether or not that is something that they should really be taking part of right now. [00:25:09.850] - Kim Well, I know this is kind of getting a little macabre, but even looking at if something does happen to you on a ski hill and you have a catastrophic accident or whatever, like, you know, ICU room beds and hospitals near some of these ski resorts and what are their what are their abilities to take care of you at that point? [00:25:38.380] - Kim I know that Idaho is very popular ski resort, but I know last month they were asking Washington State whether they could take some patients and staff possible, they're trying to set up things to possibly take some patients because of the covid numbers on the rise there and the hospitals being full. [00:25:56.660] - Kim So that's definitely another aspect, like you said, to keep in mind and whether people should be traveling or feel comfortable traveling right now and doing something that is kind of a, you know, not high risk sport, but it is a sport that comes with possible consequences. [00:26:11.800] - Tamara It does. I know a number of people that have broken things. You know, I mean, it doesn't have to be completely catastrophic, but even that is exactly not ideal for sure. I mean, even here in Rhode Island, they opened field hospitals yesterday. [00:26:31.360] - Kim So I think that's just something for everyone to keep in mind. We're not trying to be a Debbie Downer, but definitely something to consider. And and all of this information hopefully won't even be a problem. And if you just think, you know, try and maybe stay close to home and then look ahead to next winter might be a fabulous time. And you can really relax and enjoy it. [00:26:55.480] - Tamara And for the people that don't live near a ski resort, it's definitely a good time to start thinking about next year. If you wanted to go back and listen to a couple of our previous episodes, I know we did Episode 117, which was 2019. We did an episode on the best ski resorts for families. And so that would give people a lot of ideas. [00:27:17.680] - Tamara We tried to cover both the East Coast, West Coast, Colorado, Utah area. So we've got a lot that we covered in that one that would be good to go back and listen to. And then we did a previous episode. I can't remember the number of that one, but it was just kind of about planning your first ski trip for a family and things to keep in mind. So some good episodes to go back to two really good ones. [00:27:39.190] - Kim I think skiing is a fun sport. It's expensive also. And I think that's another thing for people to just keep in mind is the the cost of lift tickets and everything, make sure you're looking into that in advance and rentals and getting that all figured out, you know, so you're not surprised by anything. [00:27:54.730] - Tamara Yeah. And in the meantime, I think that there's also other ways to get outside this winter. I know that snowshoeing is going to be really popular as well as Nordic skiing, because there you don't have to deal with some of the same issues in terms of the lines and things like that. And and many times, if a resort offers Nordic or snowshoeing, many times it's out of a separate lodge or soopers facility, you know, so you're not always dealing with the the main crowd. [00:28:23.770] - Tamara It's funny, there have been so many different things where I've predicted like, oh, there's going to be a run on that. I'm like there's going to be a run on snow shoes by that. It's funny though because I forget we were watching, but it was like a commercial or something. And they're like, this is hard to find. And Hannah looked at me and she was like, you just said, that was going to be hard to find like a month ago. And I'm like, I should go play the lottery. [00:28:46.570] - Kim Yeah, exactly. You should be in marketing. So that makes sense. [00:28:53.050] - Kim Well, and that was what I was going to say, is I actually and I feel kind of stupid for not realizing this, but I actually recently looked up because I was trying to figure out if I could find snow anywhere near as that has like an easy parking lot for like from some photos I wanted to get. And I realized that in our state if  youlook up your state park system, so for me, Washington state parks, and you can find that they actually have snow parks. And these are parks that are specifically designed for people to just go play in the snow. So you can do you can park at a trailhead and you can go snowshoeing or you can, you know, build a snowman or you can go sledding and things like that. And some have there's also some winter recreation parks specifically for like snowmobiles. [00:29:35.950] - Kim And then they'll have like non motorized that are specifically, again, for people to be able to go snowshoeing and play in the snow and sledding. So if you're curious and you want to get out and enjoy the winter, look up your state park system and see what they have listed for like winter recreation, because you might be surprised and find that there's some, you know, parks specifically for snow play and or trails specifically for, you know, like you said, snowshoeing and Nordic skiing. [00:30:00.310] - Kim So don't be scared to look on your local state park website. [00:30:04.420] - Tamara That's a great recommendation. Definitely not something that I think I have here. But, you know, many places that would have larger state park systems or more opportunity for snow probably would. So it's great. [00:30:16.690] - Kim Yeah, well, you just go in your backyard, right? [00:30:18.970] - Tamara Well, hopefully not too much. I mean, we did have that one snow in October, but last year we didn't get very much. I really enjoy snowshoeing. You know, I've done it a couple of times. I've always surprised by what hard work it is, you know. But I would like to get snow shoes. But they're  a little pricey. I mean, you can get them for like one hundred and fifty or so. [00:30:42.580] Yeah. Good ones. Because if you're going to buy some, you want to splurge a little because you want the lightweight ones, because it is hard work and lifting your feet up and stuff, you definitely want the you want the titanium ones, not the stainless steel or whatever. [00:30:57.440] - Tamara And then I'm like, do I really want to get them now when I don't really want to spend money and who knows if it'll snow or not. And you know, it's one of those things. [00:31:13.590] - Kim  Yeah, well, it might be a time to look also on your local Craigslist or Facebook marketplace, because people might be upgrading their snowshoes this year and getting rid of older ones. [00:31:23.490] - Tamara You know, you never know. It's funny. Right before the pandemic, I've had my basement for years. Hannah's old skis and and ski boots, like from when she was really little that I have never bothered to bring to a place to sell. [00:31:35.280] - Tamara And I keep thinking, should I donate it or should I sell it? So I had that for a while. And then I had a chest freezer that we just hadn't used in years. And before the pandemic, I sold both of them. But I sold both of them. And I'm like, well, that was bad timing. Like, I could have gotten so much more. So much more. And it's funny, I guess I'm good with some timing and bad with others. [00:32:04.110] But hopefully we'll all find some ways to get outdoors this winter because we'll need we'll need it. We'll need the fresh air. We'll need the change of scenery. I know there used to be so many places that we would go in the winter to, you know, be entertained even when it's freezing out. And those are not places that I feel comfortable going right now. [00:32:24.120] - Kim Well, most of them are not open anyway. Yeah, I was going to say I feel like for us, it's  cruising is always a very popular thing for people to go down to the Caribbean and take a cruise. And I don't know where people are going to escape to this winter. [00:32:36.960] - Tamara Well, I know that we will be inside a bit more this winter and not really going to many places. But do you have any holiday plans? Do you have any special traditions or things that you're going to put in place for the girls to try to make it as festive as you can? [00:32:52.900] - Kim I think it's probably going to be a pretty standard holiday for us. We already if some people follow me on Instagram, they already maybe saw that one of our biggest traditions because we live in Washington state is that we we go and pick out our Christmas tree at a local Christmas tree farm in advance. [00:33:08.830] - Kim And so we you know, at the beginning of November, we go and you walk around their farm and you pick the tree you want and you wrap it up and you take off a little tag and they write it down that this is your tree. And so then we went the weekend of Thanksgiving and we actually cut down our tree and brought it home and then we'll decorate it and everything. So that's kind of one of our big holiday traditions. And it is interesting, though, is that girls have gotten older. [00:33:32.620] - Kim They're less like into it, as we used to be, which is kind of sad. But so we're we're sticking with that. And then we'll just have our standard, you know, holiday. My mom is our she's lives out here and she's alone. And so she part of kind of our bubble unit. And so we'll have her over for Christmas. And that's that's about it. It'll be a pretty easy at home. We had planned to go to Canada like we try and add in Canada a couple every few years. [00:33:59.500] - Kim And we were this was supposed to be a Canada Christmas year. So for us, we are not going to Canada for Christmas, but we will still have a wonderful time at home and just relax. And I know that Paul has a bunch of vacation time, so he's going to be taking off. I think he gets like the two weeks, the last two weeks of the year off. So that'll be a nice little thing to have just some family time at home. [00:34:21.580] - Tamara That's good. Hopefully he can do some skiing. [00:34:24.400] - Kim Yeah, exactly. We've got a couple a few days. We've got four days booked, so. Yeah. So what about you guys? Do you have any holiday plans this month and in the year? [00:34:33.610] - Tamara This will be definitely very different for us because we're never home on Christmas. You know, we always go down to my mom's house and we see my whole family for Christmas and she lives in New Jersey. And it's if we put our whole like my immediate family, my brothers, my sisters, their kids, now, they're kids, kids together. I think we're like twenty six people. So that is not happening. So it'll be sad. [00:34:57.490] - Tamara I'll be the first time ever that we've been home for Christmas. And as you guys know, like we have a Jewish home, so we don't have a Christmas tree and all that kind of stuff. And I've never really thought about it because we're just not here. I don't want to miss the specialness of it, but I don't know quite what to do to create it. You know, it's only it's just the three of us. [00:35:26.080] - Tamara It's always just the three of us, you know, like we don't have anybody nearby. So I'm not sure. But I think what I will enjoy is the fact that this month is going to be quieter. You know, usually it feels like such a rush and so busy and so I don't feel like making Christmas cookies because I always go down to New Jersey and my sister makes like twenty six kinds of cookies and my brother makes like twenty kinds. [00:35:52.630] - Tamara My mom makes like twenty kinds and they all give us like these big tins of cookies and we come back and we have cookies for like months. So I was like OK Hannah like let's make some cookies, like let's pick which ones we want to make. We're going to make cookies and we'll deliver them to like her friends and, you know, we'll deliver them to people. So that'll make us feel like we're doing something special. And then a lot of times, like for Hanukkah, it is like on top of Christmas or it's like too early. [00:36:18.700] - Tamara It's you know, it's like it's never a great time. And we like I like to make potato pancakes and applesauce. [00:36:29.380] - Tamara And when I do it, I make like pounds and pounds of potatoes. So it's like a whole day affair, like I'm frying for hours and then my entire house smells. The kitchen is like coated in grease. So it's basically like my time to deep clean the kitchen. I cook all day and then I clean it all spraying down the cabinets and everything like it, everything really clean, you know. [00:36:53.740] - Tamara  But I don't always have time to do that. So some years I'm like, oh, I'm just not like making them this year because it's not worth the effort to just make a few. It's like you want to make a lot. So I think this year, like that weekend, that Hanukkah falls over, like I'll just make a bunch of latkes and maybe do the same, like give them out to some people and, you know, make it festive. [00:37:14.680] - Tamara We are going to do like a drive through holiday lights thing. [00:37:22.390] - Tamara But you know what to figure out as we go. I mean it in a way it's like nice to not have to travel, but our Christmas is like this Christmas spectacular of you know, we drive down to New Jersey and Christmas Eve is at my brother's house and he has done for thirty years, I think, like where he does appetizers and we look forward to certain appetizers that he does. [00:37:43.120] - Tamara And then Christmas Day, we used to always go to my sister's house and now we go to my nephew's house. And then the day after Christmas, my mom does a whole big dinner and we. Are all at her house, you know, and then we drive home the next day and sometimes we stop at New York, in New York on the way home and we see some family there, or we visit the, you know, the Christmas decorations in New York City, you know, do something like that. [00:38:04.900] - Tamara So it's it's always been like a big thing. So it's going to be like definitely really different. And if anybody wants to send me a little holiday cheer message, I'm sure that I will appreciate it at that time because I'm going to be just, like, bored. [00:38:21.260] - Kim Do you guys do light a menorah? [00:38:23.530] - Tamara We do at home. So, yeah, we'll be at least you'll be home for more of the and we'll all be here, which a lot of years like, you know, Glenn is traveling or something. [00:38:31.870] - Tamara So like I'll do the candles with Hannah, but then we don't always do like I used to always get her eight gifts and she would open one a day. This year she needed a new computer. So she's not getting gifts. [00:38:43.840] - Kim So you're like, here's a monitor, here's a mouse. Here's your cell, you know? [00:38:49.870] - Tamara Yeah, it'll it'll be different. In the New Year's Eve, we always the last quite a few number of years have done with our neighbors that live up the street. And they also love food the way that we do. And so Glenn and Greg just cook this amazing, like multi course, like gourmet food. We have caviar, we have oysters. Like, it's amazing. It's this it's actually my favorite day of the entire year. [00:39:16.090] - Tamara And I don't you know, I don't know if there'll be a way to do that safely or not. I was like, well, maybe we can deliver courses to each other and cook, like, over a face time. I don't know, we have to figure out if there's a way,  we'll be quarantined. [00:39:27.670] - Tamara So if you guys are willing to quarantine ahead of time because we don't we won't be seeing anyone, then we'd be good. But I think they would do it, but I'm not so sure their sons would be willing to do that. [00:39:39.610] - Kim Teenagers make things a little tricky. Well, and we have right now that with Lizzie has a job now outside the home. So that's she's kind of our biggest risk for our family because the rest of us are at home all the time. So yeah, it's definitely gets interesting. It's really hard to find someone that you can, you know, pod up with that. [00:40:23.050] - Kim Yeah, well, hopefully it'll work out and that you guys will have some new memories and discover some fun ways, you know, fun activities together and stuff. I hope it works out. And for all of our listeners, this is going to be our last episode for the year. So we are wrapping up 2020. It was definitely a different year than other years for Vacation Mavens. And hopefully you guys have enjoyed what we've still shared. And we really appreciate you guys coming along during these crazy times. [00:40:50.950] - Kim And, you know, joining us every other week to listen to what we ramble on about. [00:40:57.010] - Tamara Yeah, we definitely really, really appreciate it, especially sticking with us when, you know, we all know we're not traveling as much as possible. And we always love those kind of encouraging messages that listeners send about different episodes or just when when we realize that someone that follows us on Instagram is also a listener, you know, things like that. It's just it's very heartwarming. And we definitely appreciate it. [00:41:21.430] - Kim And we hope that you all have a very safe and wonderful holiday season. We will be back, you know, next year, probably going to stick to our every other week schedule for a while until at least until travel should pick up more. And we actually enjoy having a little extra time in our schedules, too. So definitely. Anyway, wishing everyone a very happy holiday. Yeah. Happy holidays, everyone. Thanks again by.

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Welcome to the recruitment hackers podcast. A show about innovations, technology and leaders in the recruitment industry brought to you by Talkpush, the leading recruitment automation platform.Max: Good morning and welcome back to the Recruitment Hackers podcast with me Max Armbruster, talking to some of the thought leaders and leading executives in the talent acquisition space, looking at how they're leveraging recruitment and talent acquisition to give them an edge for their business.And today I am honored and pleased to welcome on the show Kim Howell Chief People Officer at ERC. Welcome Kim. Thanks for joining. Kim: Thanks for having me, Max. Good to be here. Max: So, Kim, we're going to be talking about how you and ERC have adapted to the new normal and how your organization has responded to the challenges of the pandemic and the transition to work from home.Then we'll see where the conversation takes us. But, before we go into that, perhaps, if you would, give us a brief introduction on what you do and your background and on ERC.Kim: Absolutely. So, yeah, I'm currently with the ERC. I've been in the industry now for 25 years.However, I'm still 21, so don't do the math. Okay. I started years ago in a call center in Buffalo, New York. As an agent on the phones, collecting past due bills and, you know, throughout the years, I attribute a lot of my successes to the fact that I stayed very grounded in where I came from.I think that you can exceed much better in business if you did the work you're supporting now as an executive. So ERC, I've been with them now, gosh, since 2006. It's been a little bit of a blur because it's an excellent and forward moving company. We're a global BPO. We support our clients cradle to grave.Anything from phone work, chat, email,  tech support, you know what I mean, full global provider. We really strive on having the best experience, starting with our applicant experience through to our candidates' experience onto the employees' experience, which we all know deeply impacts the client's experience and our customer's experience.So that's one of the things that we've really held true to. Max: All right. Thank you. And I think collections is indeed a skill that will serve anybody for the long run. I certainly have been doing a lot of collections over the last few weeks. It doesn't matter, you know, where you are, whether it's Chief People Officer or CEO, I think you have to collect sometimes.So, well, that was my experience with the recent few months. We had a bit of a scare on who would be paying the bills on time. Tell us about your scary moments from the last four months at the company level. Kim: Yeah. So first and foremost, biggest scariest moment is how do we protect our staff, right.Clients absolutely being our top priority. And our staff being the top priority to one, keep them healthy and to support the business. And at the end of the day, we wanted to make sure that we could retain the most number of employees because it's a scary time for them, right? Their kids are being sent home from school.Things are getting shut down. You know, they're getting locked away at home to quarantine and not everyone was getting locked away in the best circumstances. So our biggest scary moment is how do we keep our staff to still have the best experience while keeping their jobs? We were very fortunate that we were prepared.You know, outside of your typical disaster recovery plans and what do you do if, and knowing that a lot of our sites are in Hurricane Valley, you know, we're pretty nimble. But that was kind of the scariest moment, will the staff be able to work from home? Will we be able to deploy them quick enough?And then how do we continue our business, in this new norm? We executed very quickly. And I think that's what we are most proud of. Although it might've felt chaotic. Although maybe in the background, there was some chaos. I don't know that we ever let it get out. Max: You, you were telling me earlier, you moved to a work from home in a 48 hour span.And I guess over multiple countries, which geographies do you operate in? Kim: So currently we are in the United States, the Dominican Republic, India and South Africa. Max: Okay. So that's about five or six different time zones. If my math is correct and two and a half languages, or, well, one English.But, what was some of the logistics that you had to deal with that transition? In late March. How did you figure out the move to work from home in such a short timeframe? Kim: Yeah, so domestically, it was a little bit easier. It was a matter of letting our employees know when you go home today unplug everything on your desktop monitor screen, computer units, your headphones, everything that you need, unplug it, put in your car and take it home. Right. And obviously we had inventoried those and done the right signup process. So it was a little bit easier there, weird feeling to watch all of your equipment walking out the door.But it was easier in the Dominican Republic, a little bit differently due to laws there, they couldn't necessarily walk out with stuff. So we had to deploy our transportation team to deliver the desktops, to all of our agents that had the ability to work at home. Right. And there's a lot that goes with that.We were having everyone do their, you know, internet speed tests to find out whether or not they could work from home. If they couldn't we were trying to cure my five devices to support the internet that they would need. And then obviously trying to get more equipment when the entire nation is going work at home at the exact same time you had, a lot of supply versus demand concerns.Can we get enough headsets to continue to support ongoing recruitment efforts? But yet in about 48 hours, we were back up and running very little downtime. Couple little hiccups along the way as we figured out tech solutions or internet concerns. But at the end of the day, you know, very little client impact, nearly no employee impact.There's a few clients that were not comfortable with the work at home or work from home solution. That's really the only place that we saw any employee impact, but anyone that was not working. Max: Those customers will probably be out of business soon enough. I don't wish that of course, but they may sing a different tune today than they did three months ago, of course.Kim: AgreedMax: And so you delivered 800 PCs to people's homes, you have to hire a few trucks to, to run that operation. I presume. Kim: Yeah, within DR, 800 total pieces of equipment, deployed within a matter of days, we used everyone's personal vehicle that could drive. Obviously we had a, there were some deadlines that the government had put into place that you have to have it all done by this day.So it was definitely a scattering of anyone that has a car, or two hands and can drive. Let's go. Because you need to pick up these equipments and you need to get them delivered in. It was a wonderful showing, a force by our employees there, folks that weren't part of the transportation team that became part of it, just to get it deployed.And I think that really speaks volumes, well, not just, you know, of ERC and our culture, but definitely of our folks, down there in the DR, just working together to make sure everyone can stay working. Max: I didn't realize you were present in South Africa and India as well. We also have clients in these geographies at Talkpush. I'm a big traveler. I noticed that these waves did come at a different time and what people don't talk about is the universal kind of nature of this crisis. Almost every country reacted the same way. And every group reacted the same way. We keep talking about our differences, but really those kind of universal responses.One thing that I keep hearing back though, is we didn't think that emerging markets were able to work from home. We didn't think that we had the right internet speed, but these were, you know, these were overcome a little bit easier than people had thought that it would be. Does that reflect your experience?Kim: It does. And for the most part, there were a few folks that we had to furlough because they did not have the internet support that they needed or, and we couldn't, for whatever reason, get them a device or even with the device it wouldn't work and what was most prevalent is their home environment didn't support a work at home situation, right. Five kids, kids screaming and yelling all day, multiple, dogs barking, whatever the case may be. And also, especially when you look at some of our folks in the DR it's kind of a different environment, right? You have multigenerational families. So it's not where you can lock yourself away in a room and get work done. So we had to make sure that they had the opportunity to work from home. Max: Yeah. The sad part is these are the families that probably need the job the most. If you need the income and you need to have the structure in your life where you can get away from that noise. Yeah. All the more, traumatic this crisis would have been.It goes back to your earlier point that, you know, people need a job sometimes even more than they need the income. They just need that structure. Kim: Yeah. And you know, that's one of the things that did work out well for us, both domestically and in our international sites. For the clients that could not do work at home because of whatever security restrictions that they had.We were able to classify some of our staff as essential workers. So we were very selective in who was going to be an essential worker. If you can work at home, work from home. If you can't we're going to find a way to get you right size or rehomed to the projects that's essential so that we can keep you employed or keep you in a safe harbor or whatever the case may be.So there was some shuffling of roles and responsibilities based upon people's abilities. Max: The talent pool that you're picking from now is going to be vastly expanded with your work at home program. And you were telling me before our call that, you've seen a significant increase the applicants from pre-crisis to today's, right now we're at the end of July, almost August. Can you give us the numbers in terms of how much of an increase have you seen over this period? Kim: Yeah, actually, absolutely I can. And we've seen a few shifts over this new norm or the COVID period. So historically when we were hiring for, there are brick and mortar sites, we saw anywhere from 400 to 600 applicants per month, right.Pending on recruitment needs. At the time, once we went to work at home, that volume increased to 3,500 a month. That was fairly significant. And we didn't have the time to double our staff or more appropriately up it by 10 more people to keep up with that volume because it takes time to train a recruiter.It takes time to get them up to speed. Then we really had to find ways to deal with that increase in volume without the candidates experience being monopolized. And that's one of the things that we really. We had to get creative with technology and we had to get creative processes, right? Because the processes of the past to have one on one interviews and one-on-one screens, none of that works unless you want to give yourself three months to reach back to a candidate.And that's a horrible experience, right? Especially in today's environment, when everyone needs that immediate gratification, you need to respond to them within 24 hours or you've lost them. That's no longer a warm lead for our recruiting staff. And, you know, not only that, but the shift in the demographics of people that were applying was also different.So historically work at home, you see about 70% part-time utilization, meaning people looking for part time work, 30% looking for full time. In the  COVID environment so many full time workers were displaced that that completely reversed, where we saw 70% seeking full time employment and only 30 seeking part time.So it changes scheduling. It changes again, the process flow when we recruit fundamentally changed and, and the how .Max: it sounds like it's a better talent pool to choose from, which makes sense. When you go from 3.5% unemployment to whatever it is today, maybe 10 times that yeah. Kim: You know, max, it's funny, it's not necessarily a better candidate. And that's one of the things that has one of the places where we get to change our questioning. And our processes, because if you think about it, historically, the only people that were applying for work from home are folks that had a need to work from home, not a want, a need, right? Because they're differently abled. They are working parents, they are single parents, whatever the case may be. Now it's different. So you have people that have never worked from home and don't understand the discipline it takes to work from home  applying for a job that will have you locked at home all the time. And that's, it's really in the recruitment process.We'd never, before had to explain that because the only people applying for work at home are folks that did it in the past. Now we're having to spend time of our recruitment process explaining what to expect working from home. Because it's easy to get distracted by the load of laundry that needs to get changed out or a TV show that's on during the day that you don't typically get to watch or the doorbell ringing.They're really making sure that we're explaining the expectations of working from home before we even get into whether or not you're a good fit for us. Max: Do you have a dress code for people to work from home? Kim: No, we really don't.Max: The benefits of the new normal Kim: It is, and that's one of the things that, and it was weird that you say that because when we initially moved to work from home, our brick and mortar folks, we saw an immediate uptick in productivity because now they're sleeping a little bit longer because they don't have Jacksonville traffic commute time.So they're getting that extra couple of minutes. It has them more refreshed. They can go get their cup of coffee very quickly versus having to wait for break time and then wait in line to get to the Keurig machine. There's all of these conveniences of home, it was new and fresh and exciting.Everybody was uber productive. Then the challenges became kind of post recruitment. Post-deployment post all of these things. Now it has shifted to engagement because it's very easy to lose your staff at home. Because you don't see them. You don't know when they're having a bad day, cause you can't look at them.So that's really where Zoom and the different technologies that we use for engagement became very necessary just to know if they're having a bad day. Max: Yeah, we do a few of these things ourselves internally. We have a coffee break or a water cooler chat where we're randomly paired with somebody in the company to do a random chat and related things help and create connectivity.Of course, the zoom calls, are a factor, but right now I'm trying to a company, 60 people. Um, I kept not ask all to come together, right. So I have to commit method of thinking.training, classroom, tacticaltraining or onboarding. Kim: Yep. So through training and onboarding, we have a couple different things that we do, um, onboarding right now we do in a group setting and we do a couple sessions throughout the day because we do hire route multiple time zones. So everyone can't always join at the same time. So we'll set up multiple times throughout the day, both with am and PM offerings, but it is a total group session.And what we've learned with that, even in the past,you know, post recruitment or onboarding has always been in a classroom setting. Let's all get together, but now you have even more opportunities to compound factor that in. Classrooms of the past: 20 people. And our classrooms of today are still not much more than that.But you can onboard 50 at one time, as you can fit more people into a classroom, a virtual classroom. You still want to break out for the actual training, because obviously you want to make sure that they're getting the attention that they need, and that you can keep up with the questions that are happening via polling or chat.But from an onboarding experience, you can onboard multiple people at one time. So it really makes the team more efficient because they're not spending as much time on those isolated touch points. Max: You're using that for the, uh, for the interviewing process as well. These group sessions?Kim: Ee are. And that was a very big shift that we had to make.Like I mentioned earlier, application flow went from 400 to 600 to 3,500. It was impossible for our process of the past to keep up with that. Our former process was everybody got a one on one phone interview. And if you were advanced, then you sat down for a face to face interview with the hiring manager.That's not realistic for 3,500 people. And again, there's no brick and mortar to bring them into you for that face to face. So one of the process changes that we did was that first initial phone interview, we'll invite anywhere from 10 to 15 people into that interview. And we'll have one group interview.And this is just the preliminary interview. If you think about recruitment,  it's a joint sales effort as a candidate you need to sell me on why I should hire you. But as an employer, I also need to sell you on why you should want to work for us. So in this setting, I'm able to do that sales pitch one time versus 15 isolated times.And if you think about a normal course of an interview, that phone interview is usually about 15 minutes long, sometimes a little bit longer for supervisory or executive low level roles. Obviously they're significantly longer, but think about 15 minutes over 20 candidates. Versus having those 20 candidates come to one 15 minute interaction so that I can give my sales pitch once, but more importantly, engagement of that team or excuse me of those candidates is so much better because typically these are awkward, right? They don't necessarily want to ask a question because what if it exposes me as having a weakness? Now it's a conversation. Max: Your story made me kind of flashback to when I was a job seeker, myself and I was invited for a group interview.I flew from London to Paris for that interview, I think, or from somewhere to somewhere. And, I put on a suit, I took the train, I went to the office and then I was accepted, you know, welcomed into a conference room with 10 others and I had to do whole thing. And all of this was just like a buildup of tension and anxiety.As I came to present myself, I was very, are you nervous. But if I have to talk about who I am for a couple of minutes, while I'm looking at my computer in the comfort of my home, I'm sure I can knock it out of the park, even 20 year old version of me, you know? Right. So, one of the tricks of recruitment is putting the candidate at ease so you can see really who they are, then you're working from a better place, actually, if you're letting that happen from their home. Kim: Yeah. And I think that putting them at ease is so important, especially in today's environment. It's a great point that you make Max, because if you look at where we are today and in the environment, So many people need a job and they're going to therefore tell you what they think you want to hear to get that job.So it's not just a recruitment to put candidates in the seats of our training class, but recruitment needs to put the right candidates in the seats, in our training classes, ones that are going to have stickiness, and that are going to stick with us for a long period of time. Turnover is expensive.Recruiting is expensive. So the less people you have to introduce into the organization, the better. So you really need that stickiness. Hmm, but then what the recruiters are really tasked with doing now is candidates need to be at ease. It's less about the skills they bring to the table, and it's more about their ability to be taught the skills we need them to have.And that's really what we've changed in our philosophy, because it's not, we want to experience or you have to have X number of years in the industry. It's are you teachable? Because teachable individuals have more loyalty and have more stickiness. If I've taught you a scale. If I've taught you how to be successful.And then more importantly, I've made you successful within the company, based upon the trainings. You're more apt to stick with us versus coming to me with 10 years experience and not necessarily liking the environment and know you can go someplace else. So we like to really have a good mix of tenured people with experience, and then just the teachable individuals go a long way.Max: I don't know where you're going to get the best retention from, from the old timers or from the freshers. Because of courseboth come with a risk, um, going from 400 or 600, hires per month to, or candidates per month to 3,500, almost 10 X in volume. Um, You've been able to perhaps a bit to create a few more filters and what are some of the filters that we can use, that recruiters can use to determine if candidates are teachable or, or to make sure you hire people who are adapted to work at home?Kim: Some of that is done even before we ever talked to them. And that's really where I think employers can leverage whether it's their ATS or just standard processes to have people self select their course, meaning what path are they going to take?Beause we have various different openings, whether it's collections, chat, email, customer service, retention efforts, whatever the case may be. So you want to go through some questioning within the application process. That's going to have them select the right course. That's best for them. Are you looking for a PM shift?Okay. Well, that's going to put you into a different pool than if you're open and can work whenever. So some of the questions that we do even before we talk to them, we have them do their internet speed tests. You know, you have to have proof of a workspace, show us your workspace, submit those pictures to us.All that's done via our ATS portal. So that when we go to sit down with the candidates, we've already done all the checklist work, right. We already know that they pass the sniff test so to speak on a tech solution and an environmental solution. Now we need the teachables. And in that group setting, you'll be very surprised on how much you get from that.Because one of the requirements of the interview is you have to be on camera, right? We need to see you. We need to know the reaction. So as people are asking questions, you can see the folks that have a ton of experience. They're either open to our answer or they're like, oh, I know the answer. Well, I know the answer means, you know, the answer of your past employer.Not that you're going to be open to how we do it at ERC. So we do a lot of profiling in those interviews in just how receptive are you to people's questions, to our feedback, to our responses, and to our environment. So we like to read those facial expressions and you know, one of the problems with zoom is now I talk to my hands a lot.It's the New Yorker in me. I can't help it. I always tell people to keep a distance. So I don't accidentally get to you. But some things you lose in zoom. So we always tell people, you know, we give them a zoom etiquette course before we do the interview. Sit back from your computer, don't have it right up on your face.You know, we want it exactly, but we want it to be a good experience for everybody. We don't want anyone to feel uncomfortable. And that was one of the things and something I definitely recommend for employers to do for your recruiters. Don't assume everyone understands technology. As savvy is I'd like to pretend that I am, I was very new to zoom when we went into COVID. I was very used to, hey, meet me in the conference room. So I had to really educate myself on how to do a good zoom experience for my staff. And that's one of the things that we really had to sit down with the recruiters to say, how do you make it a good zoom experience for your candidates?And, you know, you were talking earlier about some of the engagement activities. And I think so many people look at recruitment as being over once the job starts. And it's not, in my opinion, it's just starting. Our best applicant source are our staff. Refer is the key referrals, stickiness. They know what they're walking into, so you don't have that, or it's not what I expected turnover rate at play for referrals.And it always tell everybody recruitment is a continuous effort. The employee that's been with the company for 20 years should be your best recruiter. They should be out there, you know, handing out cards. Here's, you know, we're hiring whatever the case may be. And we do a ton of engagement efforts.We did a lip sync challenge the other day on zoom. And we brought everybody in and just did some lipsync battles. We've played charades via zoom. We've done impersonations. You have to guess the person there's so many different things that we've been able to do on zoom. And I know that sounds weird.It's used as a recruitment tool, but think about it. How many people get to say, like, I actually had fun at work today and yes, it's a grind and we work hard and it's exhausting. But at the end of the day, I played charades with an executive. That was pretty cool. And I don't know many companies that do that.So you've got to continue to invest in your business to make sure that recruitment stays exciting. Max: That is very creative. And my idea of creativity was we're going to send them sandwiches and beers at home, which probably works too. But this is good stuff. I am not looking forward to it, but I have a feeling that my Head of HR will organize some charades, unfortunately, all that.Kim: It is super fun. Max: Yeah. I can do that. Maybe with a beer ,if I can combine the two. Kim: Yeah. That's what I was going to say. Send yourself, the sandwich and a beer and you're good. Max: All right. Well, you've given a lot of great ideas to our thinkers. To close it out and thinking about that continuous improvement you were talking about I really think that, we're really at the beginning of this transition.Where do you see the next level of automation? What are some of the stuff that your recruiters are still working on that you feel is a little too time consuming and you wish you could take off their desk how are you I'm imagining the next few months or a few years of innovation?Kim: The biggest thing that I see right now is finding a way to capture both the voice component of recruiting and the text or context component. Right? So there's a ton of vendors out there that do a lot with whether it's profiling the video assessment or taking speech and keywords and all of these other things.And we have our Mars application, which is our homegrown application that we use for text analytics or excuse me, speech analytics and the speech analytics are super important in recruiting by listening to the conversation and giving feedback or training opportunities to our recruiters. But more importantly, and what we want to tie together as we continue to evolve, our tech solutions is taking all the texts that happens within the application process, right? The resume.Yeah. If it's required, if not just what they fill in on the app and looking at our success stories internally and tying the two together, you know, putting in that, if this, then that logic, within the entire recruitment process, because what we see when we manually look at it, which is a super time consuming and archaic process is, Hey, this person had all these work gaps.They were not successful. Okay. Well, how do you drop those work gaps or put them into a different bin for a different type of work treatment to find out why are those work gaps? Was it contract work? You know, there's other things where we find a great success rate in our customer service arm of folks that come from Chick-Filet.Everyone that I strictly as a huge customer service backing and, and really invested a ton of time in that. And I know it's weird. Right. Okay. So someone who served fast food is successful at a BPO. Absolutely. Because again, BPO is customer service. Max: Yeah. That doesn't shock me. I'm still trying to think how you can automate this, you know, when you do that group video group interview that you do, and you say you're, you're reading, people's faces to see, see how people react to what. I think the HireVues of the world do analytics around video, but I don't think anybody, maybe the Chinese government has figured out a way to analyze 12 faces set simultaneously and contextually.But that is some next gen stuff should keep us busy for the next appointment.Kim: At least. Right. And, and that's really where, you know, one of our biggest things is finding the right partner. That's trying to figure it out also, and let's build it together. Right. That's because I don't think anyone's figured that out yet.And I know it's coming and my goodness technology is advancing quicker than we can get through R and D with different vendors. So that's really where it's okay. Who's got the bandwidth, the savviness and the patience to deal with us in a partnership to build that. Because it's coming. And I look at the amount of time that my recruiters, I don't want to say waste because it's valuable, but right now, so much of recruitment is processing, not recruiting.Yeah. And if you could find a way to automate those manual touch points, um, that are necessary to decide, do they get an interview or not? Using, you know, a data analytic tool on the resume using that data analytic tool on the conversation, now they can recruit. Max: I cringe at the thought that people are going to take the current crisis as an opportunity to revert back to bad behaviors and treat, you know, stop treating candidates nicely.I get the feeling that is not going to happen at ERC. And, I really want to thank you, Kim, for your inspiring words and sharing the story of the last few months with us. I wish you and  ERC all the best.Kim: Thank you so much. Thanks for your time. Max: Thanks Kim. Talk soon. Max: I had a lot of fun talking with Kim Howell, and you can see from her determination and attitude, how she managed to drive her career from working into collections all the way to Chief People Officer at ERC. That kind of leadership where an opportunity comes in the shape of a crisis to transform and move things around and where you have to start changing hats, putting on your logistics hats in order to facilitate hundreds of people staying at work and being able to continue, have structure in  their lives through this pandemic. So great chat Kim. I hope you stay on for more Recruitment Hackers Podcast.Please follow us and share with your friends so we can get the word out on our new podcast. 

Episode Notes Kim Rentner with Tyler Technologies joins us to talk about Training, Leadership Challenges and how Tyler Technologies is supporting the Student Transportation Industry during our nation's current events. Interested to connect with Kim? You can connect with her directly at Kimberly.Rentner@tylertech.com

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The holidays are almost here. We know the hustle and bustle is not for everyone, so we are sharing Five Self Care Strategies to help get you through the Holidays! We would love for you to share some of your favorite ways to enjoy the holidays without the stress! Happy Holidays from Aimee & Kim You can find us on: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fillyourcupfirstpodcast/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fillyourcupfirstpodcast/ Gmail: fillyourcupfirstpodcast@gmail.com

Nesta semana 'O Som do Cartucho' traz um tema dedicado a esses personagens dos video games que, de tão doces e delicados, arrancam uma lágrima de nossos olhos. SÓ QUE NÃO!! ELES ARRANCAM UMA LÁGRIMA, MAS NÃO É DE EXCESSO DE FOFURA, É DE EXCESSO DE PORRADA!! Eles são brutos, são ignorantes, "delicados" como uma rocha e têm a "suavidade" de um papel de embrulhar prego. Eles são, os Brucutus! Portanto, acompanhem esse episódio 'huge modafoca' ao embalo das melhores trilhas de jogos envolvendo os Brucutus mais carismáticos do universo dos video games. Nos encontramos na próxima semana por aqui, ou num hospital. Porque a paulera vai correr solta. Falow!! Este episódio foi publicado originalmente em 02/04/2018PLAYLIST DESTE EPISÓDIOCOMPOSITOR - JOGO - MÚSICA - CONSOLE - ANODavid Wise - Battletoads/Double Dragon - On da Missile (Stage 5) - MEGA DRIVE - 1993 Brian Schmidt - Toughman Contest - Title - MEGA DRIVE - 1995 Azusa Hara, Hiroaki Yoshida - Bad Dudes Vs DragonNinja - Lightning Speed (Stages 2 & 5) - NES - 1991 Azusa Hara, Hiroaki Yoshida, Tatsuya Kinouchi, Hitoshi Sakimoto - Two Crude Dudes (AKA Crude Buster) - Crude Buster -The Lifeline of New York- - MEGA DRIVE - 1991 Bobby Prince - DOOM - Kitchen Ace (and Taking Names) - SNES - 1995 Mark Miller - Earthworm Jim - New Junk City - MEGA DRIVE - 1994 Tommy Tallarico - Earthworm Jim 2 - Anything But Tangerines - MEGA DRIVE - 1995 Zoso Takashiba, Atsuyoshi Isemura - Rival Turf - Fight to the Finish - SNES - 1992 Noboru Yamane - Jojo no Kimyou na Bouken - Stand Fighter - SUPER FAMICOM - 1993 Zuntata, Katsuhisa Ishikawa - Sonic Blast Man - Space Station - SUPER FAMICOM - 1992 Matt Furniss - The Terminator - In Los Angeles - MEGA DRIVE - 1992 Yuzo Koshiro - Streets of Rage (AKA Bare Knuckle) - Attack the Barbarian - MEGA DRIVE - 1991 Tim Follin - Target: Renegade - Parking Garage (Levels 1-3) - NES - 1990Você encontra o Som do Cartucho nas seguintes plataformas:Twitter, Telegram, Blog, GMail (osomdocartucho@gmail.com)Você ouve O Som do Cartucho também em:iTunes, Google Podcasts, Spotify e DeezerFeed do Som do Cartucho:https://feed.megafono.host/osomdocartucho

For the next few weeks on the podcast we are doing a series on the Top 8 Marriage Issues in 2019. These 8 issues are the top 8 issues that Dr. Kim has seen this year with marriages. We will be breaking them down starting with #8 and working our way towards the #1 marriage issue.  In this episode Dr. Kim & Christina talk about the 7th biggest issue in marriages this year which is: boredom.  With time, some spouse’s become bored with their relationship. Boredom in marriage is a dangerous thing to dwell on and can easily slip into even bigger issues.  It also doesn’t help that our culture is telling us that monogamy and marriage is boring. But marriage does NOT have to be boring. There are real, practical things you can do to keep boredom at bay and protect your marriage from boredom.  NOTEWORTHY QUOTES “Connection = Zero Boredom in marriage.” - Dr. Kim “You don’t have to be screaming and yelling and throwing things at each other for you to go to marriage counseling.” - Christina “Boredom can happen if we’re not intentional about giving to our marriage as much as we’re taking from it.” - Dr. Kim “Be intentional about having fun with each other, even when life gets busy; remember there’s something that got you to the altar in the first place.” - Dr. Kim “Find creative questions to ask each other.” - Christina “There are going to be times you get bored in your marriage, it’s about recognizing when that’s happening and committing to reconnecting so you don’t stay bored and disconnected.” - Dr. Kim SPONSORS Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! Honoring Intimates is a safe place for believers to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code “AWESOMEMARRIAGE” to receive 20% off your entire order.  RESOURCES Plan to spend some quality time with your sweetie by grabbing our FALLing For You Date Design here! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim’s One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!   

For the next few weeks on the podcast we are doing a series on the Top 8 Marriage Issues in 2019. These 8 issues are the top 8 issues that Dr. Kim has seen this year with marriages. We will be breaking them down starting with #8 and working our way towards the #1 marriage issue.  In this episode Dr. Kim & Christina talk about the 7th biggest issue in marriages this year which is: boredom.  With time, some spouse's become bored with their relationship. Boredom in marriage is a dangerous thing to dwell on and can easily slip into even bigger issues.  It also doesn't help that our culture is telling us that monogamy and marriage is boring. But marriage does NOT have to be boring. There are real, practical things you can do to keep boredom at bay and protect your marriage from boredom.  NOTEWORTHY QUOTES “Connection = Zero Boredom in marriage.” - Dr. Kim “You don't have to be screaming and yelling and throwing things at each other for you to go to marriage counseling.” - Christina “Boredom can happen if we're not intentional about giving to our marriage as much as we're taking from it.” - Dr. Kim “Be intentional about having fun with each other, even when life gets busy; remember there's something that got you to the altar in the first place.” - Dr. Kim “Find creative questions to ask each other.” - Christina “There are going to be times you get bored in your marriage, it's about recognizing when that's happening and committing to reconnecting so you don't stay bored and disconnected.” - Dr. Kim SPONSORS Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! Honoring Intimates is a safe place for believers to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code “AWESOMEMARRIAGE” to receive 20% off your entire order.  RESOURCES Plan to spend some quality time with your sweetie by grabbing our FALLing For You Date Design here! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!   

For the next few weeks on the podcast we are doing a series on the Top 8 Marriage Issues in 2019. These 8 issues are the top 8 issues that Dr. Kim has seen this year with marriages in the counseling room. We will be breaking them down starting with number 8 and working our way towards the number 1 marriage issue in 2019.  Today we are kicking off the series with talking about the 8th biggest issue in marriages this year which is: jealousy.  Jealousy puts a real strain on your marriage. When you have jealous feelings it affects you, your spouse, and your marriage. In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk about this issue and how to deal with it in a healthy way.  You may think jealousy isn't a struggle for you, but there are some subtle ways this often plays out that doesn't always get noticed and addressed.  NOTEWORTHY QUOTES “A lot of times jealousy can be tied to insecurity or discontentment.” - Christina “Paul in the Bible is a great example of being content with whatever he had and whatever situation he was in.” - Dr. Kim “You can get so consumed with jealousy that you neglect your marriage.” - Dr. Kim “Jealousy affects your ability to be present in your marriage.” - Christina “If you are willing to be honest with yourself and why you're jealous, these jealous feelings can be an opportunity for God to grow and teach you.” - Christina “You have to run your race, you can't run someone else's race.” - Christina “If your spouse is struggling with jealousy, it gives you an opportunity to come alongside them and help them work through those feelings.” - Dr. Kim   SPONSORS Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! Honoring Intimates is a safe place for believers to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code “AWESOMEMARRIAGE” to receive 20% off your entire order.  RESOURCES Plan to spend some quality time with your sweetie by grabbing our FALLing For You Date Design here! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!   

For the next few weeks on the podcast we are doing a series on the Top 8 Marriage Issues in 2019. These 8 issues are the top 8 issues that Dr. Kim has seen this year with marriages in the counseling room. We will be breaking them down starting with number 8 and working our way towards the number 1 marriage issue in 2019.  Today we are kicking off the series with talking about the 8th biggest issue in marriages this year which is: jealousy.  Jealousy puts a real strain on your marriage. When you have jealous feelings it affects you, your spouse, and your marriage. In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk about this issue and how to deal with it in a healthy way.  You may think jealousy isn’t a struggle for you, but there are some subtle ways this often plays out that doesn’t always get noticed and addressed.  NOTEWORTHY QUOTES “A lot of times jealousy can be tied to insecurity or discontentment.” - Christina “Paul in the Bible is a great example of being content with whatever he had and whatever situation he was in.” - Dr. Kim “You can get so consumed with jealousy that you neglect your marriage.” - Dr. Kim “Jealousy affects your ability to be present in your marriage.” - Christina “If you are willing to be honest with yourself and why you’re jealous, these jealous feelings can be an opportunity for God to grow and teach you.” - Christina “You have to run your race, you can’t run someone else’s race.” - Christina “If your spouse is struggling with jealousy, it gives you an opportunity to come alongside them and help them work through those feelings.” - Dr. Kim   SPONSORS Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! Honoring Intimates is a safe place for believers to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code “AWESOMEMARRIAGE” to receive 20% off your entire order.  RESOURCES Plan to spend some quality time with your sweetie by grabbing our FALLing For You Date Design here! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim’s One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!   

Can we implement boundaries with our spouse? Is it loving? Is it Christ-centered?  Boundaries in marriage may seem counterintuitive to some, but we believe it should be normal and natural in a marriage.  In this episode, Dr. Kim and Christina share about boundaries with your spouse: why you need them, examples of what they might be, and how to implement them. If you have never thought about boundaries with your spouse, we hope this conversation is helpful to you and that it provides you with some great talking points that you and your spouse can explore as you work to have a healthier, happier, holier marriage.  NOTEWORTHY QUOTES “You can help your spouse see that they might need to set a boundary with someone by asking them questions.” - Dr. Kim “You can encourage your spouse to learn about boundaries but also be willing to walk with them through what that will look like.” - Christina “Always offer your thoughts on your spouse’s situation as a suggestion, not as a solution to their problem.” - Dr. Kim “You might need to set a boundary with someone if you’re taking on their consequences.” - Christina “If you’ve never set boundaries before start setting them in safe places first.” - Christina “Remember that if someone doesn’t respond to the boundaries that you set in a healthy way, you can only control yourself, you can’t control how they will react.” - Dr. Kim “It sounds silly but role playing setting boundaries with your spouse can be really helpful for them to prepare for those hard conversations.” - Christina “Let your spouse know that you are not going to stop loving them if they set a healthy boundary with you.” - Christina   SPONSORS Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! Honoring Intimates is a safe place for believers to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code “AWESOMEMARRIAGE” to receive 20% off your entire order.  RESOURCES As we approach the holidays, it’s so important to make time for your spouse. Plan to spend some quality time with your sweetie by grabbing our FALLing For You Date Design here! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim’s One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here! 

Can we implement boundaries with our spouse? Is it loving? Is it Christ-centered?  Boundaries in marriage may seem counterintuitive to some, but we believe it should be normal and natural in a marriage.  In this episode, Dr. Kim and Christina share about boundaries with your spouse: why you need them, examples of what they might be, and how to implement them. If you have never thought about boundaries with your spouse, we hope this conversation is helpful to you and that it provides you with some great talking points that you and your spouse can explore as you work to have a healthier, happier, holier marriage.  NOTEWORTHY QUOTES “You can help your spouse see that they might need to set a boundary with someone by asking them questions.” - Dr. Kim “You can encourage your spouse to learn about boundaries but also be willing to walk with them through what that will look like.” - Christina “Always offer your thoughts on your spouse's situation as a suggestion, not as a solution to their problem.” - Dr. Kim “You might need to set a boundary with someone if you're taking on their consequences.” - Christina “If you've never set boundaries before start setting them in safe places first.” - Christina “Remember that if someone doesn't respond to the boundaries that you set in a healthy way, you can only control yourself, you can't control how they will react.” - Dr. Kim “It sounds silly but role playing setting boundaries with your spouse can be really helpful for them to prepare for those hard conversations.” - Christina “Let your spouse know that you are not going to stop loving them if they set a healthy boundary with you.” - Christina   SPONSORS Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! Honoring Intimates is a safe place for believers to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code “AWESOMEMARRIAGE” to receive 20% off your entire order.  RESOURCES As we approach the holidays, it's so important to make time for your spouse. Plan to spend some quality time with your sweetie by grabbing our FALLing For You Date Design here! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here! 

Everyone has the same amount of time - 24 hours in a day. But so many of us struggle to manage this time well. Some of us say yes to way too many things and then that leaves us burnt out and miserable. Others of us don't use our time wisely enough and don't steward their time well to get done what they need to get done.  In the fast paced, hustle glorified, culture that we live in where everyone has access to you all the time it can be really hard to set limits on our time. But if we don't plan well, our time will just pass us by. But if we do plan well and set up healthy boundaries, we can have healthier relationships, a better marriage, and get off the "hustle til you're burnt out" game that way too many of us are playing.  In this episode, Dr. Kim and Christina share about the importance of setting up time boundaries and how to implement them.  NOTEWORTHY QUOTES “You have to be an example for your kids of what it looks like to prioritize your spouse.” - Dr. Kim “You have to manage your time to plan for the future.” - Christina “Make sure your schedule reflects your priorities.” - Dr. Kim “Make a habit of doing the things that are important to you.” - Dr. Kim “When we feel like we're constantly busy we often don't take the time to do things that are going to have long-term benefits on our marriage.” - Dr. Kim “There's no shortcut to having time with your spouse; you have to make quality time with them happen.” - Dr. Kim “We had to learn to say no, even to good things, if they would get in the way of us spending quality time together and investing in our marriage.” - Dr. Kim “Decide as a couple where you want you want to prioritize your time and then build the rest of the things you do in life around that.” - Dr. Kim “It's a red flag that you're not doing a good job of prioritizing your marriage if you haven't talked to your wife in so long that you forgot what her name is.” - Dr. Kim “Take the time to address red flags in your marriage as soon as you see them; it will save you so much time in the long run.” - Dr. Kim SPONSORS Thank you to Plant Package for sponsoring this podcast episode! With Plant Package, the prep work of gardening is done for you. Plant Package is delivered straight to your door with easy instructions on how to plant your fun new plant that even someone with a black thumb could execute! Plant Package selects durable seasonal plants, an appropriate and stylish container, sends just the right amount of soil and plant food, and includes instructions for assembly and plant care. The Plants can thrive indoors or outdoors – the choice is yours! Use the code “awesome” to receive a FREE Starter Kit with your order. Starter kits include gardening gloves, a gardening shovel, and farm hand's soap. Simply select “ADD STARTER KIT” and enter the code AWESOME on the payment checkout page.  RESOURCES Need help building unity in your marriage? Snag our brand new resource Diary of An Awesome Marriage: The Couple's Unity Building Journal today! This resource is a 23 page PDF, with 9 sections on common areas that marriages. Each section has questions for you to reflect on, pray about, answer, and then discuss with your spouse. Get closer by getting more unified on the things that matter! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!  Dr. Kim's new book, 14 Keys to Lasting Love, came out earlier this year. If you haven't ordered your copy yet, what are you waiting for? Order here now.   

Everyone has the same amount of time - 24 hours in a day. But so many of us struggle to manage this time well. Some of us say yes to way too many things and then that leaves us burnt out and miserable. Others of us don’t use our time wisely enough and don’t steward their time well to get done what they need to get done.  In the fast paced, hustle glorified, culture that we live in where everyone has access to you all the time it can be really hard to set limits on our time. But if we don’t plan well, our time will just pass us by. But if we do plan well and set up healthy boundaries, we can have healthier relationships, a better marriage, and get off the "hustle til you’re burnt out" game that way too many of us are playing.  In this episode, Dr. Kim and Christina share about the importance of setting up time boundaries and how to implement them.  NOTEWORTHY QUOTES “You have to be an example for your kids of what it looks like to prioritize your spouse.” - Dr. Kim “You have to manage your time to plan for the future.” - Christina “Make sure your schedule reflects your priorities.” - Dr. Kim “Make a habit of doing the things that are important to you.” - Dr. Kim “When we feel like we’re constantly busy we often don’t take the time to do things that are going to have long-term benefits on our marriage.” - Dr. Kim “There’s no shortcut to having time with your spouse; you have to make quality time with them happen.” - Dr. Kim “We had to learn to say no, even to good things, if they would get in the way of us spending quality time together and investing in our marriage.” - Dr. Kim “Decide as a couple where you want you want to prioritize your time and then build the rest of the things you do in life around that.” - Dr. Kim “It’s a red flag that you’re not doing a good job of prioritizing your marriage if you haven’t talked to your wife in so long that you forgot what her name is.” - Dr. Kim “Take the time to address red flags in your marriage as soon as you see them; it will save you so much time in the long run.” - Dr. Kim SPONSORS Thank you to Plant Package for sponsoring this podcast episode! With Plant Package, the prep work of gardening is done for you. Plant Package is delivered straight to your door with easy instructions on how to plant your fun new plant that even someone with a black thumb could execute! Plant Package selects durable seasonal plants, an appropriate and stylish container, sends just the right amount of soil and plant food, and includes instructions for assembly and plant care. The Plants can thrive indoors or outdoors – the choice is yours! Use the code “awesome” to receive a FREE Starter Kit with your order. Starter kits include gardening gloves, a gardening shovel, and farm hand’s soap. Simply select “ADD STARTER KIT” and enter the code AWESOME on the payment checkout page.  RESOURCES Need help building unity in your marriage? Snag our brand new resource Diary of An Awesome Marriage: The Couple’s Unity Building Journal today! This resource is a 23 page PDF, with 9 sections on common areas that marriages. Each section has questions for you to reflect on, pray about, answer, and then discuss with your spouse. Get closer by getting more unified on the things that matter! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim’s One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!  Dr. Kim’s new book, 14 Keys to Lasting Love, came out earlier this year. If you haven’t ordered your copy yet, what are you waiting for? Order here now.   

The holidays can highlight grief and loss in our life. It’s a time that is centered around nostalgia, memories, and family. So it’s no surprise that the holidays can bring up a lot of grief for people who have experienced loss.  In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk about grief and how to support each other as a married couple as one or both of you grieve.  NOTEWORTHY QUOTES “During the holidays, set aside time to think about the person you’ve lost. ” - Dr. Kim “Don’t smother your feelings, take time to grieve your lost loved one.” - Dr. Kim “Don’t feel like you have to say the perfect thing to your grieving spouse. Just be there for them.” - Dr. Kim “The way you deal with grief is by going through it.” - Dr. Kim “You can cling to the promises of God found in the Bible when you’re grieving.” - Christina “Jesus shows us that it’s ok to grieve.” - Dr. Kim “God can handle your questions and anger.” - Christina “Everyone experiences grief differently.” - Dr. Kim “Give your spouse lots of grace as they grieve.” - Dr. Kim “You can’t fix the situation for your spouse but you can walk with them through it.” - Dr. Kim SPONSORS Thank you to Plant Package for sponsoring this podcast episode! With Plant Package, the prep work of gardening is done for you. Plant Package is delivered straight to your door with easy instructions on how to plant your fun new plant that even someone with a black thumb could execute! Plant Package selects durable seasonal plants, an appropriate and stylish container, sends just the right amount of soil and plant food, and includes instructions for assembly and plant care. The Plants can thrive indoors or outdoors – the choice is yours! Use the code “awesome” to receive a FREE Starter Kit with your order. Starter kits include gardening gloves, a gardening shovel, and farm hand’s soap. Simply select “ADD STARTER KIT” and enter the code AWESOME on the payment checkout page.  RESOURCES Need help building unity in your marriage? Snag our brand new resource Diary of An Awesome Marriage: The Couple’s Unity Building Journal today! This resource is a 23 page PDF, with 9 sections on common areas that marriages. Each section has questions for you to reflect on, pray about, answer, and then discuss with your spouse. Get closer by getting more unified on the things that matter! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim’s One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!  Dr. Kim’s new book, 14 Keys to Lasting Love, came out earlier this year. If you haven’t ordered your copy yet, what are you waiting for? Order here now. 

The holidays can highlight grief and loss in our life. It's a time that is centered around nostalgia, memories, and family. So it's no surprise that the holidays can bring up a lot of grief for people who have experienced loss.  In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk about grief and how to support each other as a married couple as one or both of you grieve.  NOTEWORTHY QUOTES “During the holidays, set aside time to think about the person you've lost. ” - Dr. Kim “Don't smother your feelings, take time to grieve your lost loved one.” - Dr. Kim “Don't feel like you have to say the perfect thing to your grieving spouse. Just be there for them.” - Dr. Kim “The way you deal with grief is by going through it.” - Dr. Kim “You can cling to the promises of God found in the Bible when you're grieving.” - Christina “Jesus shows us that it's ok to grieve.” - Dr. Kim “God can handle your questions and anger.” - Christina “Everyone experiences grief differently.” - Dr. Kim “Give your spouse lots of grace as they grieve.” - Dr. Kim “You can't fix the situation for your spouse but you can walk with them through it.” - Dr. Kim SPONSORS Thank you to Plant Package for sponsoring this podcast episode! With Plant Package, the prep work of gardening is done for you. Plant Package is delivered straight to your door with easy instructions on how to plant your fun new plant that even someone with a black thumb could execute! Plant Package selects durable seasonal plants, an appropriate and stylish container, sends just the right amount of soil and plant food, and includes instructions for assembly and plant care. The Plants can thrive indoors or outdoors – the choice is yours! Use the code “awesome” to receive a FREE Starter Kit with your order. Starter kits include gardening gloves, a gardening shovel, and farm hand's soap. Simply select “ADD STARTER KIT” and enter the code AWESOME on the payment checkout page.  RESOURCES Need help building unity in your marriage? Snag our brand new resource Diary of An Awesome Marriage: The Couple's Unity Building Journal today! This resource is a 23 page PDF, with 9 sections on common areas that marriages. Each section has questions for you to reflect on, pray about, answer, and then discuss with your spouse. Get closer by getting more unified on the things that matter! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!  Dr. Kim's new book, 14 Keys to Lasting Love, came out earlier this year. If you haven't ordered your copy yet, what are you waiting for? Order here now. 

What does it mean to be a husband and how can Christian men prepare well to become godly husbands? There are a lot of messages out there today about men and what it looks like to a husband, but what does God say about being a husband? How can modern men prepare to be Godly leaders in their home?  In this episode Colby Taylor joins Dr. Kim to talk about that. Colby is a Pastor at Life.Church and good friend of mine. Together Colby and his wife, who you heard from on Tuesday, lead the Engaged Events we put on to help couples prepare for a marriage that's even more beautiful than the wedding. The next Engaged Event in OK is THIS month so be sure to grab tickets on our website before they sell out.  Tune in to learn how to prepare to be a husband!    NOTEWORTHY QUOTES “There's a lot more sacrificing in being a husband than I ever anticipated.” - Colby Taylor “As long as you're married you're always learning things about each other.” - Dr. Kim “You can't give yourself to your wife if you don't give yourself to Jesus first.” - Colby Taylor “Seek out someone you see as a Godly man and ask them to mentor you.” - Dr. Kim “Don't be afraid to be honest and vulnerable about your feelings.” - Colby Taylor SPONSORS Thank you to Plant Package for sponsoring this podcast episode! With Plant Package, the prep work of gardening is done for you. Plant Package is delivered straight to your door with easy instructions on how to plant your fun new plant that even someone with a black thumb could execute! Plant Package selects durable seasonal plants, an appropriate and stylish container, sends just the right amount of soil and plant food, and includes instructions for assembly and plant care. The Plants can thrive indoors or outdoors – the choice is yours! Use the code “awesome” to receive a FREE Starter Kit with your order. Starter kits include gardening gloves, a gardening shovel, and farm hand's soap. Simply select “ADD STARTER KIT” and enter the code AWESOME on the payment checkout page.  RESOURCES You can snag our FREE Weekly Engaged Check Up Guide to help you practically keep the peace and keep your relationship good during your wedding planning.  Register and attend the Engaged Event in Oklahoma.  Need help building unity in your marriage? Snag our brand new resource Diary of An Awesome Marriage: The Couple's Unity Building Journal today! This resource is a 23 page PDF, with 9 sections on common areas that marriages. Each section has questions for you to reflect on, pray about, answer, and then discuss with your spouse. Get closer by getting more unified on the things that matter! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!  Dr. Kim's new book, 14 Keys to Lasting Love, came out earlier this year. If you haven't ordered your copy yet, what are you waiting for? Order here now.   

What does it mean to be a husband and how can Christian men prepare well to become godly husbands? There are a lot of messages out there today about men and what it looks like to a husband, but what does God say about being a husband? How can modern men prepare to be Godly leaders in their home?  In this episode Colby Taylor joins Dr. Kim to talk about that. Colby is a Pastor at Life.Church and good friend of mine. Together Colby and his wife, who you heard from on Tuesday, lead the Engaged Events we put on to help couples prepare for a marriage that’s even more beautiful than the wedding. The next Engaged Event in OK is THIS month so be sure to grab tickets on our website before they sell out.  Tune in to learn how to prepare to be a husband!    NOTEWORTHY QUOTES “There’s a lot more sacrificing in being a husband than I ever anticipated.” - Colby Taylor “As long as you’re married you’re always learning things about each other.” - Dr. Kim “You can’t give yourself to your wife if you don’t give yourself to Jesus first.” - Colby Taylor “Seek out someone you see as a Godly man and ask them to mentor you.” - Dr. Kim “Don’t be afraid to be honest and vulnerable about your feelings.” - Colby Taylor SPONSORS Thank you to Plant Package for sponsoring this podcast episode! With Plant Package, the prep work of gardening is done for you. Plant Package is delivered straight to your door with easy instructions on how to plant your fun new plant that even someone with a black thumb could execute! Plant Package selects durable seasonal plants, an appropriate and stylish container, sends just the right amount of soil and plant food, and includes instructions for assembly and plant care. The Plants can thrive indoors or outdoors – the choice is yours! Use the code “awesome” to receive a FREE Starter Kit with your order. Starter kits include gardening gloves, a gardening shovel, and farm hand’s soap. Simply select “ADD STARTER KIT” and enter the code AWESOME on the payment checkout page.  RESOURCES You can snag our FREE Weekly Engaged Check Up Guide to help you practically keep the peace and keep your relationship good during your wedding planning.  Register and attend the Engaged Event in Oklahoma.  Need help building unity in your marriage? Snag our brand new resource Diary of An Awesome Marriage: The Couple’s Unity Building Journal today! This resource is a 23 page PDF, with 9 sections on common areas that marriages. Each section has questions for you to reflect on, pray about, answer, and then discuss with your spouse. Get closer by getting more unified on the things that matter! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim’s One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!  Dr. Kim’s new book, 14 Keys to Lasting Love, came out earlier this year. If you haven’t ordered your copy yet, what are you waiting for? Order here now.   

What does it mean to be a wife? How can we prepare well to be good wives? In a world where the world “wife” is displayed so differently depending on where we are turning to, it can be really confusing. Christian women who are planning to get married have desires to be a godly wife. But most of us don’t know how to prepare for that.  In this episode Amanda Taylor joins Dr. Kim to talk about preparing to be a wife. Tune in to learn how to prepare to be a wife!  NOTEWORTHY QUOTES “When you prioritize your spouse over your children, you are modeling a healthy marriage for your kids.” - Dr. Kim “You have to depend on Jesus in order for your marriage to work.” - Amanda Taylor “Selfishness can wreak havoc on a marriage.” - Amanda Taylor “I think selfishness is the biggest problem we struggle with in life.” - Dr. Kim “Ask women whose marriages you admire for advice and wisdom.” - Amanda Taylor “The couples that I see that are doing well in their marriage are always working on their marriage.” - Dr. Kim “You can avoid a lot of potential trouble when you’re married if you lay a strong foundation when you’re engaged.” - Amanda Taylor “Putting your husband’s needs above your own can be so hard but it’s worth it.” - Amanda Taylor “Really think through your marriage vows and what they mean before you say them on your wedding day.” - Amanda Taylor SPONSORS Thank you to Plant Package for sponsoring this podcast episode! With Plant Package, the prep work of gardening is done for you. Plant Package is delivered straight to your door with easy instructions on how to plant your fun new plant that even someone with a black thumb could execute! Plant Package selects durable seasonal plants, an appropriate and stylish container, sends just the right amount of soil and plant food, and includes instructions for assembly and plant care. The Plants can thrive indoors or outdoors – the choice is yours! Use the code “awesome” to receive a FREE Starter Kit with your order. Starter kits include gardening gloves, a gardening shovel, and farm hand’s soap. Simply select “ADD STARTER KIT” and enter the code AWESOME on the payment checkout page.  RESOURCES You can snag our FREE Weekly Engaged Check Up Guide to help you practically keep the peace and keep your relationship good during your wedding planning.  Register and attend the Engaged Event in Oklahoma.  Need help building unity in your marriage? Snag our brand new resource Diary of An Awesome Marriage: The Couple’s Unity Building Journal today! This resource is a 23 page PDF, with 9 sections on common areas that marriages. Each section has questions for you to reflect on, pray about, answer, and then discuss with your spouse. Get closer by getting more unified on the things that matter! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim’s One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!  Dr. Kim’s new book, 14 Keys to Lasting Love, came out earlier this year. If you haven’t ordered your copy yet, what are you waiting for? Order here now.   

What does it mean to be a wife? How can we prepare well to be good wives? In a world where the world “wife” is displayed so differently depending on where we are turning to, it can be really confusing. Christian women who are planning to get married have desires to be a godly wife. But most of us don't know how to prepare for that.  In this episode Amanda Taylor joins Dr. Kim to talk about preparing to be a wife. Tune in to learn how to prepare to be a wife!  NOTEWORTHY QUOTES “When you prioritize your spouse over your children, you are modeling a healthy marriage for your kids.” - Dr. Kim “You have to depend on Jesus in order for your marriage to work.” - Amanda Taylor “Selfishness can wreak havoc on a marriage.” - Amanda Taylor “I think selfishness is the biggest problem we struggle with in life.” - Dr. Kim “Ask women whose marriages you admire for advice and wisdom.” - Amanda Taylor “The couples that I see that are doing well in their marriage are always working on their marriage.” - Dr. Kim “You can avoid a lot of potential trouble when you're married if you lay a strong foundation when you're engaged.” - Amanda Taylor “Putting your husband's needs above your own can be so hard but it's worth it.” - Amanda Taylor “Really think through your marriage vows and what they mean before you say them on your wedding day.” - Amanda Taylor SPONSORS Thank you to Plant Package for sponsoring this podcast episode! With Plant Package, the prep work of gardening is done for you. Plant Package is delivered straight to your door with easy instructions on how to plant your fun new plant that even someone with a black thumb could execute! Plant Package selects durable seasonal plants, an appropriate and stylish container, sends just the right amount of soil and plant food, and includes instructions for assembly and plant care. The Plants can thrive indoors or outdoors – the choice is yours! Use the code “awesome” to receive a FREE Starter Kit with your order. Starter kits include gardening gloves, a gardening shovel, and farm hand's soap. Simply select “ADD STARTER KIT” and enter the code AWESOME on the payment checkout page.  RESOURCES You can snag our FREE Weekly Engaged Check Up Guide to help you practically keep the peace and keep your relationship good during your wedding planning.  Register and attend the Engaged Event in Oklahoma.  Need help building unity in your marriage? Snag our brand new resource Diary of An Awesome Marriage: The Couple's Unity Building Journal today! This resource is a 23 page PDF, with 9 sections on common areas that marriages. Each section has questions for you to reflect on, pray about, answer, and then discuss with your spouse. Get closer by getting more unified on the things that matter! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!  Dr. Kim's new book, 14 Keys to Lasting Love, came out earlier this year. If you haven't ordered your copy yet, what are you waiting for? Order here now.   

Build a website in just 5 days (even if you're not techie) at www.free5daywebsitechallenge.com Already have a website? Take the Free "Jumpstart Your Website Traffic" marketing mini-course at www.jumpstartyourwebsitetraffic.com Leave a Review! My guest today is Kim Wensel from the Pattern of Purpose Podcast. Kim is a brand strategist who helps entrepreneurs and small businesses learn to speak their clients’ language so that they can connect with their ideal audience. So funny story - Kim and I had an interview scheduled a week before this one - and I was having one of those weeks… You know, where everything that can go wrong does? It was just that kind of a week.  So Kim and I get on our call and I can see her but I can’t hear her so after a bunch of troubleshooting, I restart Zoom, and we get it working, and we dive into one of the most compelling and inspiring interviews I’ve done… and then…. I realize that I didn’t hit record. Ugh. My heart sank and at that point, we decided to just reschedule instead of starting over.  So what you’re hearing today is interview #2 with Kim Wensel, which lucky for me, we got to spend even more time getting to know each other and I’m super excited to introduce to Kim. Her journey to self-employment is super inspiring! Today we’re talking about: Kim’s side hustle journey and her quest to find work that lights her up (instead of burning her out). Why your first side hustle doesn’t have to be your last, and how to pivot when things don’t feel right. Why it’s important not to try to avoid the messy middle. How to set yourself and your business apart in a saturated market Three key things to practice to set yourself up for side hustle success. Why money is the least important factor in how you design your business (and what to focus on instead). How to effectively speak to your ideal client. Why having a solid vision in your business is critical to your success (and how to start crafting one). The one belief Kim had to change about herself to get where she is today. My favorite quotes from Kim: “You really can’t compare where you are in your business to others.” “You can have some patience while still having drive.” “Set yourself apart by providing an absolutely mind blowing experience for your clients.” “It’s better to have a no than to have a yes and feel like you are being taken advantage of at every turn.” On not charging enough: “I thought that if people paid me more, they would have exponentially higher expectations of me.” “Nobody is going to see your genius if you can’t talk about it.” Resources mentioned in this episode: Kim’s website - https://www.patternofpurpose.com/ The 4 Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss Pattern of Purpose Podcast Bio: Kim Wensel is a brand strategist for entrepreneurs who want to position their business as the go-to in their industry. She helps them move from guessing what their audience is looking for to having a deep understanding of their needs, resulting in polished, powerful brand messaging. In a world with a template for everything, Kim focuses on immersive engagements with her clients, drawing out their voice and highlighting what makes their brand truly unique. When she’s not wordsmithing, she can be found playing the 3-marker challenge with her two kids or planning her next adults-only getaway with her husband. Connect with Kim: Website: https://www.patternofpurpose.com/ Instagram: @pattern_ofpurpose and @kimwensel Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/patternofpurpose/

Sign up to HIDIVE's streaming service using the following code for 50% your first month of streaming! That's $2.49 for unlimited streaming of a wide variety of anime series, including Ao-chan Can't Study and Senryu Girl! HIDIVE Code: tap2019-548-3348 ➤ Link to the Discord server - https://discord.gg/vrzhhjA ➤ Sign-up to be a possible guest - https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSeJHzP64sJPTpz-o3aWvdl1c4yhX-y27RVB4-yS8DplafA-fQ/viewform ➤ Follow us on twitter! - https://twitter.com/tokyopodfathers ➤ Past Episode Mp3s - https://tokyopodfathers.simplecast.fm/ Hosts: /u/FateSteelTaylor - https://myanimelist.net/animelist/FateSteelTaylor /u/Sinrus - https://myanimelist.net/profile/MetalRain /u/smhmines - https://myanimelist.net/profile/smhmines Timestamps: 0:00 - Introductions & The Crowning of King Normie 3:04 - Midara na Ao-chan wa Benkyou ga Dekinai (Ao-chan Can't Study!) (Spoilers) 15:22 - One Punch Man 2nd Season 26:23 - Isekai Quartet (Spoilers??) 33:47 - Shingeki no Kyojin Season 3 Part 2 (Attack on Titan) (MAJOR SPOILERS) 53:05 - Hitoribocchi no Marumaru Seikatsu 1:00:49 - Senryu Shoujo 1:04:54 - Dororo (MAJOR SPOILERS) 1:16:05 - Sarazanmai (Spoilers) 1:34:07 - Kenja no Mago (Wise Man's Grandchild) 1:36:39 - Nande Koko ni Sensei ga!? (Why the hell are you here, Teacher!?) 1:38:47 - Bokutachi wa Benkyou ga Dekinai (We Never Learn) 1:44:19 - Sewayaki Kitsune no Senko-san (The Helpful Fox Senko-san) (Spoilers) 1:53:53 - JoJo no Kimyou na Bouken Part 5: Ougon no Kaze (JoJo`s Bizarre Adventure: Golden Wind) 1:55:50 - Fruits Basket 2:01:04 - Carole & Tuesday 2:06:48 - Kimetsu no Yaiba (Demon Slayer) 2:15:05 - Kono Yo no Hate de Koi wo Utau Shoujo YU-NO (YU-NO: A girl who chants love at the bound of this world.) Edited by Mozilla Fennekin

Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world. —Harriet Tubman   The craziest dream is happening for me this week. There's no way I could've planned or orchestrated how it would unfold. When we dream or set big goals, it's easy to get caught up in the how.?? This can definitely keep us stuck. (most in our head.) This week, inspo to connect to your heart's desire, your dream...write it down and consider your next step forward and toward. Who knows what might unfold. TODAY'S RESOURCES Listen or re-listen to the WRITE as if podcast episode. Grab all the WRITE life 10 & 1 resources including access to the full guided 'me in three' visualization and the companion pages HERE.  If you decide you'd like to experience the full class for FREE, I've got you covered too.  (this is a limited time offer.) Click HERE to join the WRITE life 10 & 1 Self-study class for FREE. Today's Resources Listen or re-listen to the WRITE as if podcast episode. Grab all the WRITE life 10 & 1 resources including access to the full guided 'me in three' visualization and the companion pages HERE.  If you decide you'd like to experience the full class for FREE, I've got you covered too. (this is a limited time offer.) Click HERE to join the WRITE life 10 & 1 Self-study class for FREE.   Let's check in Dreaming can be amazing. Getting stuck in the how or 'it's impossible' can be heart-sinking. Check in with your dreams, lean into thoughts that feel good... and be open to the next steps. Remember life can unfold in the most mysterious ways. xx Kim You owe it to yourself to become everything you've ever dreamed of being.  

Sign up to HIDIVE's streaming service using the following code for 50% your first month of streaming! That's $2.49 for unlimited streaming of a wide variety of anime series, including Ao-chan Can't Study and Senryu Girl! HIDIVE Code: tap2019-548-3348 ➤ Link to the Discord server - https://discord.gg/vrzhhjA ➤ Sign-up to be a possible guest - https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSeJHzP64sJPTpz-o3aWvdl1c4yhX-y27RVB4-yS8DplafA-fQ/viewform ➤ Follow us on twitter! - https://twitter.com/tokyopodfathers ➤ Past Episode Mp3s - https://tokyopodfathers.simplecast.fm/ Hosts: /u/FateSteelTaylor - https://myanimelist.net/animelist/FateSteelTaylor /u/7TeenWriters - https://myanimelist.net/animelist/7TeenWriters /u/Sinrus - https://myanimelist.net/profile/MetalRain /u/smhmines - https://myanimelist.net/profile/smhmines Timestamps: 0:00 - Introductions 4:00 - One Punch Man 2nd Season 21:00 - Kimetsu no Yaiba 29:39 - Isekai Quartet 43:38 - Carole & Tuesday 56:36 - Sarazanmai 1:10:56 - Fruits Basket (2019) 1:24:01 - Kenja no Mago (Wise Man's Grandchild) 1:27:56 - Nande Koko ni Sensei ga!? (Why the hell are you here, Teacher!?) 1:32:46 - Bokutachi wa Benkyou ga Dekinai (We Never Learn) 1:35:20 - Midara na Ao-chan wa Benkyou ga Dekinai (Ao-chan Can't Study!) 1:39:58 - Sewayaki Kitsune no Senko-san (The Helpful Fox Senko-san) 1:44:42 - Senryuu Shoujo 1:49:01 - Hitoribocchi no Marumaru Seikatsu 1:55:40 - Dororo 1:58:49 - JoJo no Kimyou na Bouken Part 5: Ougon no Kaze (JoJo`s Bizarre Adventure: Golden Wind) 2:01:18 - Shingeki no Kyojin Season 3 Part 2 (Attack on Titan) Edited by Mozilla Fennekin

Tras finalizar el primer trimestre de 2019 (Q1) y con un poco de tiempo más para analizar con calma todo lo que hemos visto en estos meses, finalmente nos hemos lanzado con el primer podcast recopilatorio trimestral, donde hablaremos de muchos títulos, con análisis técnicos e impresiones personales, para acabar con un pequeño vistazo a lo que viene en el próximo Q2. En este caso, seguimos la lista de MyAnimeList sobre las series de anime que han salido en estos meses, como han sido Yakusoku no Neverland, Tate no Yuusha no Nariagari, Dororo, Doukyonin wa Hiza, Tokidoki, Atama no Ue, o JoJo no Kimyou na Bouken Part 5: Ougon no Kaze, entre muchos otros. ¿Cuáles has visto? ¿Cuáles no? ¿Qué opiniones te han generado? ¿Concuerdas con nuestros foreros charlando en este podcast? ¡Nos vemos en el foro! https://pacot.es/ Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/pacotes Twitter: https://twitter.com/Pacot_es Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/PacotesWeb/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pacot.es/ Música de la intro y la outro: Verse One - Real Game https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zFVQS1voS88 https://soundcloud.com/verse-1-344696463

1:38 Mookie JohnsonIn an Avengers rewatch, I noticed that Hawkeye missed a few times shortly after Loki took over his mind. He shot Fury in the chest when he had to know he had a vest on. Also, when shooting at Maria Hill,  I don't think he hit her or anyone around her. Do you think this is a sign that Hawkeye was resisting the mind stone?4:15 Mookie JohnsonGiven the intel Black Widow and Hawkeye had on the other Avengers, do you think Fury always wanted them to be Avengers or did he just plan for them to be recruiting agents?5:47 Mookie JohnsonIn Captian America: Winter Soldier, do you think the attempt on Fury's life should have killed him as a story choice? I personally prefer what they did in the movie, but a Fury death would have given Maria Hill more to do from that point forward.8:16 Michael ChavezHey Sean! It's so cool to hear everyone doing their own Endgame prep by rewatching all the MCU movies and I am no different. I was watching Age of Ultron and like some, I've come to appreciate it a little more with each viewing given the grand scope of the Infinity Saga. Watching the Vision scene brought up a question I wanted to ask. When Wanda says that she looked inside Vision and saw Annihilation, it was assumed it was Vision if Ultron transferred himself fully. What if she wasn't sure what she saw? What if the destruction she saw was as a result of Thanos getting the mind stone? Vision's stone was the last one Thanos took, which directly led to the snap. This could be interpreted as Wanda being correct in that Vision would ultimately lead to annihilation, but not from Ultron. Thoughts or am I just reaching?11:15 AlexSean, arguably the biggest cinematic event in history will  be out in theaters  but I want to ask you would you be personally disappointed if no one ends up dying?17:09 Alex KleinI know we are all waiting with bated breath for the reunion of Cap and Steve, but are there any other scenes are you are hoping will be in the movie that may tie up loose threads from prior movies?20:03 Tim CallahanHey Sean .... Probably can't answer this question this week, but I wanted it in your head. My wife is very pregnant. Not going to the bathroom for 3 hours is a tall order. Hoping for next weeks Q&A (I will ask again) you can think of a non-spoilery way to say this is a good time to go. Something like "when Cap & Black Widow go to Starbucks" or "Iron Man reunites with Pepper".  I'm sure those without pregnant wives would also appreciate the answer.22:53 brentacPrimeDo you think that Endgame will set up any of the Disney plus shows we have now been officially told about?24:40 Jeremy WatsonHey Sean and fellow Patrons. There is plenty of speculation that this is the endgame for Cap. Do you think we will finally hear him say those two words he was so close to saying at the end of Age of Ultron....”Avengers A...”? Thanks and enjoy these last few days!26:54 AlexDo you think Reed and Sue should  already have children when the first MCU FF film comes out or would you prefer that to be a gradual thing that's built up to? 28:21 AlexDo you think it's possible  Feige will retool the Doom film the Fox has been developing into a 8-episode Disney Plus series and have Noah Hawley be the showrunner? And would you prefer either a tv show or a movie?30:13 Giuseppe VicarettiHey Sean and fellow Patrons. If you could choose one infinity stone to guard as your own, the way Vision does, or Doctor Strange does, which one would you choose to guard, if you had the option to choose?33:40 Garrett AtwellSimple question; who do you think is the strongest avenger? Personally, I think with Stormbreaker Thor is, but without probably captain marvel.34:20 AlexSean, what're your thoughts on the new Hellboy's failure? I'm sure you know already that the movie has a 15% Rotten Tomatoes score, and a ‘C' on Cinemascore and had a really abysmal opening weekend of only 12 million- opening third behind Shazam and a comedy.  And if you have seen it, what's your thoughts on the movie itself?40:47 Derek BeebeHey Sean, why are the ratings for Agents of SHIELD so abysmal?  The pilot did amazing numbers and everything dropped precipitously from there.  Why aren't more MCU fans wanting a weekly installment of their favorite franchise?  I've never missed an episode, though I will admit the show did not turn out to be what I had originally hoped for with costumed superheroes and villains guest-starring every week.50:45 Woo S! KimSean, do you consider Stan Lee's photos showing up in the Marvel Netflix's shows as cameos or Easter Eggs, I am more inclined to call them Easter Eggs, along this subject now that Mr. Lieber is dead would you like after “Avengers: Endgame” Mr. Lieber's photo to pop up in all Marvel media going forward not just in Marvel Television and or MCU related properties but in video games and comics as well, why or why not?54:40 Woo S! KimYou touched on this subject about two weeks ago on “The Daily Bugle” has your opening weekend viewing schedule been set or are you still attempting to work out the kinks in your schedule Sean?  Related to this, what format are you going to see first IMAX, IMAX 3-D, Dolby and how many times?57:00 Michael WeaselboyHey Sean you might have answered this already at one point but how different would the MCU be right now if Edward Norton and Terrance Howard were never recast?? I know one side effect is Norton would not have done as much indie movies as he does now, maybe Terrance Howard would not be in Empire as well. Thoughts??1:01:14 Jak SherlockHey Sean, I was watching Age of Ultron and realised Thor, Steve, Natasha and Tony all see their fears realised or memories that haunt them when they are manipulated by Scarlett Witch. However, we never get to see what Banner was seeing during his rampage. What do you think he was seeing or do you think Scarlett Witch only tapped into his rage?Thanks as always!1:03:38 Jeremy WatsonDo you think Scott Lang survived the snap because he was in the Quantum Realm or that he was just part of the half that survived? Maybe the Quantum Realm isn't affected by stones? Thanks1:04:58 AdamHey Sean. New to being a patreon and first time writing in. I have a couple of questions. First I don't know if you have already talked about this or thought about it but what are the chances of ultron showing up in endgame? Personally I would love it and think it would be really shocking if he did. We never did see what happened with him. Maybe he is in the mind stone. Second question do you know if it has been announced how many post credit scenes we are getting? Thanks for all your doing and cannot wait for the next episode and endgame #whateverittakes1:10:18 Chris CascioHi y'all. I was wanting to a simple behind the scenes question about how to review new upcoming movies and the planning process of from notes(how do you even take notes while watching) to podcast and about how much time that normally takes.1:23:59 Zachary KleinsasserHey Sean!! Hope all is well in your world! I was so happy to hear that the Marvel Disney+ Series will probably release one episode a week rather then a binge format! Between my wife, who has no interest in anything Marvel, and my 2 young children, I never have time to sit and watch an entire series all at once.  By the time I am able to finish a binge series season and discuss it, everyone has moved on.  I am very excited that I can, potentially, be in the conversations as they are happening.  Do you think you and Paul will do podcasts dedicated to each episode every week? I know you guys have pretty full schedules, but I would love to watch an episode and then hear your guy's thoughts the next day.  Thanks for everything you do!1:27:59 Alex WardHi Sean! This is just a meta question about spoiler culture in general--I have NOT seen the spoilers from Monday night. In light of the massive apparent leak from Endgame, do you believe in "controlled leaks", meaning Disney/Marvel Studios purposely leak stuff to the press or the internet-at-large to gauge audience interest or to build hype? If so, what are some examples of studios doing this in the past?1:31:00 AlexWhat do you make of Feige's comments regarding the Disney-Fox deal from that recent Variety article saying: "Imagine if Donald Duck was at another studio. Imagine if Goofy or Moana were someplace else and you didn't have access to them even though they are yours.”  What does that particular quote tell you about  Feige's feelings on  not having access to all the Marvel characters? I must admit I was a bit stunned that he phrased it that way. Particularly when he said when the character licensed  by other characters are truly his.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

0:34 Alex WardHey Sean! What a big week for Marvel and Disney news. Here's my first question: Ever since Age of Ultron, there have been theories and assumptions that Captain America will use Mjolnir. Since Mjolnir is gone, and the Infinity Gauntlet is in play, which Epic Weapon would you most enjoy seeing Cap wield in Avengers: Endgame? Mjolnir (since anything is possible in Endgame), Stormbreaker, the Infinity Gauntlet, or maybe something else?2:46 Alex WardI don't mean this in a negative or critical way, but I can't help but think that in an effort to prolong the MCU as much as possible, Marvel Studios will put off X-Men and maybe the FF even longer than this next phase (or whatever they will call it from this point forward). Why blow their load on all these surefire properties when they've already proven they can turn any lesser known characters into gold? Just wondering your thoughts on this!8:49 Alex WardOkay, just one more, I promise. Have you seen the new Twilight Zone series yet? It not only stars Kumail Nanjani, an upcoming addition to the MCU, but it also stars Tracy Morgan in a more serious role. In light of this episode showing Morgan's ability to perfectly portray sad and "grim" aspects of otherwise comedic characters, I was wondering if you have given any consideration as to whether Tracy Morgan would make a good Ben Grimm? (I think I brought it up in Discord once, and I of course know you like Nick Offerman for the role, but just an alternative suggestion!)10:22 Hector Giovanni NavarreteHey Sean! Haven't had a question to ask in a while, just haven't come up with any. But today I have one. So with the Disney + Investor Day MCU Series announcements being more of a confirmation of news we have been hearing from the trades, is there potential that whatever MS announces at SDCC/D23 will be a bit underwhelming if it's just news we have also heard previously by the trades? (Ex: Eternals/BW/BP2/etc). I'm not saying that I wasn't excited for the D+ series announcements but, as you said in a recent DB, they didn't announce anything we didn't already know. Even RDJ joked in an interview about BW and how everyone knew they are going to make that film but that KF was like we haven't announced that. So what's your take on if the secrecy strategy might be a detriment to those potential announcements post AE/FFH?20:06 Woo S! KimWhat do you believe the legacy of the Marvel/Netflix shows will be, do you think that they will be a footnote in Marvel's TV history not so much Marvel Television's history, but Marvel's history with the medium of TV?22:18 Woo S! KimYou are much more in tuned with what is going on in Hollywood more than most people I know Sean, I am of the belief because of the Box Office success of “Crazy Rich Asians” that is one of perhaps not the main reasons why “Shang-Chi” was put into production so soon, do you concur with this Sean?  Also, who if any do you think from “Crazy Rich Asians” could be cast in “Shang-Chi?”26:30 Michael WeaselboyHey Sean I just wanted to ask a hypothetical question today. How do you think Hugh Jackman's Wolverine would have interacted with the mcu avengers in particular Tony Stark??27:20 Zachary KleinsasserHey Sean and Patreons!! Hope everyone is doing well and getting pumped for End Game!! The last Q&A you discussed at length the time frame of the X-Men joining the MCU and I had some thoughts. I 100% believe Fiege when he says it will be 5 years before we see X-Men in the MCU. I do think we will start seeing Easter eggs within the 5 year time period of mutants and x-men and I don't know about everyone else but I will lose it when those Easter eggs appear! Just the thought of the word Mutants being stated in the Eternals for example has my brain spiraling! I am almost as excited for the potential X-Men Easter eggs as I am for the X-Men movie! Marvel Studios knows what they have with the X-Men and I think they are gonna take there time and build to it so when we finally do get the X-Men in the MCU it will be epic. Sorry there isn't really a question in there, just my random nerd thoughts!32:40 brentacPrimeSean, no question but I just want to say thanks to you, and Paul, and all the patrons for helping to build my own hype for Endgame. For many of us, I imagine this movie is THE cinematic event of our lives, and I'm really thankful to be apart of this community that love and appreciates what Marvel has done. By the time you're reading this we have less than two weeks to go, and I'm trying to heed your words of enjoying the journey on the way to this event. Thanks. #WhateverItTakes.  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Sean talks answers your Marvel questions!0:35 Paul ShearmanHey Sean and everyone, hope you're all well and looking forward to the weekend. Great pictures from the Endgame event Sean, I'm not jealous. Not jealous at all...!Now you've seen some footage from the movie, and you've already put a very good policy in place for this community on how we regulate spoilers, I'm keen to find out how you protect yourself personally from finding out too much about what might happen in Avengers Endgame before you see the whole movie. I'm about to go on almost total blackout across social media so I can avoid spoilers or anything that I may accidentally come across that potentially ruins my enjoyment going into this movie, but it has to be so much harder for you given your line of work. How do you moderate the balance of staying across what's happening in the industry and not ruining your own personal enjoyment of going into the movie unspoiled?Thanks for your time as always, and have a great weekend8:25 Woo S! KimSomething that I find kind of ironic in the second to last scene in “Avengers: Infinity War” right before Captain Rogers says “Oh God” the look everyone has on their face is almost the same look Iron Man had on his face in “Iron Man 3” during his panic attacks and in that fever dream in “Avengers: Age of Ultron” that Scarlett Witch gives him when he sees Thanos' army heading towards Earth and all of The Avengers dead.  My point to all of this, this perhaps is the only time Iron Man did not want to be correct about something, because everything Iron Man did from “Iron Man 3” to “Avengers: Infinity War” was right on, sure Ultron did not turn out the way Iron Man intended Ultron to turn out and I realize I am not the first to say this, but for goodness sake everything Iron Man feared with few things differences, sure, but almost everything he feared came to pass.  Could this be a motivation and or a reason if Iron Man survives “Avengers: End Game” if he suggests to Doctor Strange to begin an Illuminati do you think concept will not be dismissed out right why or why not?11:04 Woo S! KimYou said that James Gunn originally wanted the Badoon in the first “Guardians of The Galaxy” correct?  If that is the case, why do you believe James Gunn would want to choose The Badoon? Other than the history with The Guardians of The Galaxy there is no reason to use The Badoon in the first Guardians of The Galaxy“ unless James Gunn wanted to set up something with The Badoon for a future Guardians film because in the comics The Badoon don't strike me as “the for hire” type?13:11 Woo S! KimYou and I are both avid cinema goers and fans of Alamo Drafthouse's polices.  Do you think you will add this subscription on top of AMC List, I myself am considering getting both well at least when I am move back to Los Angeles, what about you?14:56 Moonie HassanHey Sean, we're so close to Endgame and it's getting more exciting by the day, and I'm loving the discord, having fun talking with all you guys. After seeing those 2 scenes from Endgame how much more excited are you then you already were?17:07 Robert KlauserWhat's up Sean? How cool was that to meet Joe Russo? I know that they're going off to do their own thing after Endgame. But I think they'll come back to the MCU to direct another big crossover event film not a solo project, seeing as how they've managed to become the gold standard for those types of films. What are your thoughts?21:27 Alex WardIf you could take a trip through the Quantum Realm to talk to 2008 Sean, what facts (both story-wise and in the grand scheme of things) about the current MCU would be the mostly likely to blow his mind?26:09 Alex WardI love the Discord because a lot of my in-person friends are not into nerdy stuff at all, and while they also used to love the MCU, they're very down on it now. My two best friends told me they were excited for Endgame because they "can't wait for it to all be over." While this sounds very negative and pessimistic, I can kind of see how some folks might feel that way: the MCU has a lot of content, and while I love the backlog of story and all the continuity, I can see why a "fresh start" is appealing. Do you also see the post-Endgame MCU as a re-numbering, or a sort of "new #1", as comic fans would say? Is there any cause for concern for fans like me, who love the way all these stories have built on and complemented each other over the years?35:34 Bill Van NormanI've been thinking about the Inhumans lately with the return of Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D. in the summer etc. There was talk some time back about Marvel Television and Marvel Studios using the Inhumans as a substitute for Mutants since that was held by Fox. Then there was the trainwreck of the TV show and now the completion of the Fox merger. There is no "need" to use Inhumans as a substitute . . .  As we all know the MCU has fully introduced the Kree so fleshing out the origins of the Inhumans would be fairly easy at this point. My question then is: do you think the Inhumans have been irreparably damaged by the Inhumans TV show? and if the MCU might still use them in the future? I like the way Agents of  S.H.I.E.L.D. have used Inhumans and then there is also the case of Kamala Khan/Ms. Marvel being Inhuman. I know there are so many characters that Marvel Studios can use but it seems to me like there is still a place for the Inhumans.40:10 Alex WardWhat are the odds of Thanos getting defeated in the first act of Endgame, only for the rest of the film to be something completely unexpected? I can't help but think something huge is going to happen that'll catch us completely off guard.42:34 Alex WardWhat are the odds that the Fallen appear for more than just final act/battle? Part of me wants to see them as much as possible, but I understand that it's probably better to focus on the original Avengers.43:53 Alex WardOne more quick one, do you think part of the supposed misleading in the Endgame marketing includes any of the Fallen that were officially designated as alive or dead based on the posters that came out? For example, Shuri is alive, etc.44:32 AlexWhat's your thoughts on the recent Joker trailer? And do you think Marvel would be open to making a Doctor Doom film set outside the MCU or any other elseworlds MCU movies or do you expect the Doctor Doom film(if Marvel ever greenlights it) will be set in the MCU  proper?47:54 brentacPrimeUnless I'm mistaken the Russo's are the only MCU directors  to switch franchises, going from Captain America to the Avengers. Are there any other directors in the MCU you would like to see tackle a different MCU franchise?50:45 MayaHey Sean! I really appreciated the question in the past Q&A about what project would you place Jordan Peele on the MCU. As a huge Christopher Nolan fan, I am patiently waiting for him to release the title of his new film which will release summer 2020. Elizabeth Debicki (Ayesha from Guardians Vol. 2) will be in this film which got me so excited. I know Christopher Nolan has spoken out against the heavy usage of green screens and some other film elements used in the MCU, but if you could place Christopher Nolan on an MCU project, which would it be? I would personally love to see him work on a project with a female lead because we have not seen that from him yet.54:05 Kerry VanderbergI have to admit, that I recoiled pretty strongly when you said that the “90's weren't that cool.” I'll fully admit my bias, as I graduated from high school in 2000, so I'm culturally a product of the 90's. Pierce Brosnan made Bond cool again with Goldeneye, Schwarzenegger's movies were beloved (loved seeing the True Lies standee in the Blockbuster!), The Matrix made a lasting impression, and Tom Cruise kicked off the Mission Impossible film franchise which is still going! And the X-Files! An obscure Friday night sci-fi show ended up becoming a hit TV show that last 9 seasons!56:35 Kerry VanderbergWhat the heck happened with AMC for the Avengers Endgame tickets?!? Do you think that they just did not plan enough in advance to be ready for this? I saw John Campea's tweet, that they had a full year to get themselves ready for this. Fortunately, the friends I will be seeing the movie with were able to score a 10:45 Thursday night showing at an AMC Dine-in theatre in Fullerton.1:00:53 BrentacPrimeThere has been some debate on the shot of the MCU trinity walking towards Thanos being a homage to BvS when the DC trinity prepare to face off with doomsday. To me it seems like just a standard shot of a really cool moment, the heroes getting ready for  what is potentially the final face-off with the villain. I've been informed that on my podcast That I'm going to record Sunday morning I will have to talk about this. I'm curious what your take is on it. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

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Sean answers your Marvel questions!Discord Announcement - Don't Skip This!9:09 Woo S! KimHey Sean, something that I wanted to run by you, I was watching “Ghostbusters II” on New Year's Eve and I remembered something director Ivan Reitman said about the origins for the premise of that film, is that The Ghostbusters saved New York City and the aftermath is NYC wants nothing to do with them, any longer and The Ghostbusters have little to no success adjusting to life after saving the city.  My point to this, I thought in Phase II, in “Iron Man 3,” “Thor: The Dark World” and certainly in “Captain America: The Winter Soldier” there was this vibe of “All right, we saved Earth, now what?” Do you concur? Do you think that theme will be expanded more after “Avengers: End Game regardless of who survives that film, also do you think the potential resentment of The Avengers from the people of Earth if they remember “The Decimation” is going to be more gasoline on the fire of hatred when Mutants and potentially Inhumans are introduced in the MCU proper going forward and some people will share Helmut Zemo's views on “Enhanced Individuals?” Or is that too similar to The Accords?  Thanks Sean.14:06 Woo S! KimYou have said this many times, that you don't think “Avengers: End Game” will feature the First Family of Marvel and or Mutants, and you prefer they aren't in there, to each his own on that one.  My question is, from what we True Believers know there isn't going to be an Avengers film for awhile after “Avengers: End Game” where would you introduced the First Family of Marvel and or Mutants, if not in “Avengers: End Game?”17:03 Brett HeierHey Sean! I'm the comic books, Thanos is a recurring villain, do you think this could happen in the movies? Also, are you gonna talk about runaways? I just finished season 2 and it was AWESOME! Do you think Nico is using power from the dark dimension? As always, thanks for having an awesome podcast!21:15 Brett HeierAnother thing, lots of people think that Bobbi Morse's cancelled spin-off will be revived by Disney Plus. Would you like to see this happen? What do you think of Bobbi Morse as a character? Does she have anywhere else to go in the MCU? I loved Adrianne Palicki's performance and I hope she comes back. 22:44 Cory KostiukHey Sean Happy New year to you and your family. Who's the most powerful creature in all of comics?23:23 Michael bradleyHappy new year Sean! Looking back at the lead up to IW , what is one theory you thought wouldn't happen that did.  And one theory you spot on. 27:03 Michael bradleyAlso leading up to End Game. How about having a place where everyone could put there 1 theory they think will happen. It would have to be secure so no one could see them until after the movie opens. Then they could be a special episode to see who guessed right. Thanks again.27:51 AlexHappy New Year Sean!! My question is how would  you react to MCU Reed Richards turning evil and becoming the ‘Maker'  like he did in the Ultimate comics? And how likely do you think Marvel will go that route?29:22 Alex WardHey Sean, happy new year to you and all the patrons! Since we're about to be inundated with excitement around Captain Marvel, Avengers Endgame, and Spider-Man Far from Home, I was hoping maybe you wouldn't mind answering a couple quick non-MCU questions?Since it's been back in the spotlight around its 1-year anniversary, I've always wondered what you made of The Last Jedi; I know this question might be opening a can of worms due to the passion on both sides of the fandom, but I'd love to hear your thoughts. Personally, I loved it, but I can understand the criticisms.32:08 Alex WardHave you tried DC Universe yet? I recently got it and I'm happy to finally have easy access to DC comics, but I'm disappointed at the limited offering and with the comic-reading interface. And if you do have the app, have you checked out Titans yet? I found it to be, for better and for worse, sort of like a CW show dialed up to 11.32:53  Alex WardDo you think Goose the cat is gonna be a Flerken in the movie? Or is that maybe too zany for the tone they're going for?34:02 Mookie JohnsonIf you had to guess, what do you think in the Avengers:Endgame trailer is there just to throw us nerds off a bit?36:12 David RosenHey Everyone and Happy New Year! Here's to a bigger and better year for Marvel and Marvel Studios News in 2019! So when the x-men eventually come to the mcu, depending on how they chose to explain there absence from the MCU so far, would you be in favor of adding small little retcons here and there to make it seem like maybe they weren't as absent as we thought. For example, let's say they go down the road of there being a very small group of mutants that just kept themselves and/or their powers well hidden from the public. If Wolverine happens to be apart of that group, or even just as someone who kept himself hidden on his own, would you be ok with a flashback from his point of view of say a time during WW2, when he fought alongside Steve Rogers? Or maybe part of Erskine's backstory involves fleeing from a Nazi Germany program that involved experimenting on mutants, and instead of hurting people, he used him expertise in the US to eventually develop the super soldier serum (which maybe also has roots with a mutant with healing powers). I know you're not too much of a fan of making everything connected in the MCU, but if not used for major plot points, would you be ok with using the mutants' backstory to color in some of the MCU's minor history we've already been introduced to? It appears they might be doing with the Skrulls, so why couldn't they also do it sparingly with mutants?39:17 David RosenRegarding the discussion involving why Nick Fury didn't reach out to Carol during the events of Avengers, what if the reason is because creating the Avengers was actually her idea in the first place? For argument's sake, let's say before she goes back off into space at the end of her movie, she tells him that she feels it is necessary for earth to not rely solely on her and instead, “assemble” it's own Star Force-like super team (minus their possible betrayal) who can help save the world from another space invasion one day (as this would likely occur after Carol defeats the Kree invasion in her movie). In Avengers, Fury talked about how “there was an idea,” but never really says where that idea came from. So how would it make you feel to possibly learn in Captain Marvel that the idea for the Avengers actually came from Carol herself? If it comes to pass, it would also give her some claim to eventually lead them in Avengers: Endgame. Personally, I would really to hear Carol telling Fury that he needs “to bring together a group of remarkable people to see if they can become something more, and to work together to fight the battles” that SHIELD can't. (maybe the “something more” and “work together” in this context also alludes to a failure by Star Force to do so). Personally I would love all of that. What about you?43:39 Hector Giovanni NavarreteHi Sean! Do you think the great critical reception of Spider-Man Into the Spiderverse can negatively affect the reception of Spider-Man FFH when that is released?45:10 Alex WardOkay, I do have two more! Similar to David Rosen's question, I was wondering about the in-universe concept of the Avengers, particular as it concerns the name itself. Do you think Endgame is when the Avengers will finally earn their name, as they're actually going to be avenging Earth on a grand scale? What do you think made Nick Fury decide on titling the idea "the Avengers initiative"? Do you think Fury himself had some sort of vengeance in mind, perhaps in response to something that will be revealed in Captain Marvel? Maybe after Captain Marvel, Fury knows the Earth is screwed no matter what, and it's going to take some remarkable people not to save it, but to avenge it. Otherwise, I'm also happy with the idea that "The Avengers" is moreso a "band name" of sorts, in that it just sounds cool.47:18  Alex WardI think you may have covered this way back when, but why do you think Thanos spared the original Avengers? We know he knew Tony Stark, and it's safe to assume that he therefore knows about all of the Avengers. Did he intentionally spare the others (Cap, Black Widow, Hawkeye, Hulk, Thor) as a sort of "reward," like did for Iron Man, or was it just his own bad luck that the OG Avengers all survived the snap?48:28 Hector Giovanni NavarreteBarring wanting to see Steve and Tony's eventual encounter in AE, post CW; which other encounter/conversation are you most looking forward to in AE?51:09 Alex WardThis might be a really obvious question, but who was Captain America talking about when he told Secretary Ross that Earth just lost its best defender in Infinity War?52:07 Mark LeakHello, Sean...Happy New Year!  I have a few questions, and I apologize in advance for being long winded.I think most people expect Black Panther 2 to land on the February 12, 2021 slot, and I understand why, given what the first film just did in February (not to mention being able to tie it into Black History Month).  But do you think the May 7th slot is a possibility?  As you yourself have said, the May slot is usually reserved for Marvel Studios' biggest film of the year.  Given the financial and cultural success of the first film, I think the Black Panther franchise has earned that distinction in any year that there isn't an Avengers film.55:51 Mark LeakAdditionally, what films do you think Marvel will release in the previously announced 2021 and 2022 slots?  Truthfully, I'm still among those who hope that Marvel Studios will go to four films per year (one per quarter) even with the Disney Plus series as a new option.  If Marvel just did sequels to Black Panther, Captain Marvel, Doctor Strange, Guardians, Ant-Man & The Wasp and the Avengers, that would take up the six announced 2021/22 slots, without including Shang-Chi or any other potential new franchise.  Even with the added option of doing limited series on Disney Plus, there are just too many characters that Marvel has on its roster (and more that they will be gaining access to once the Fox deal is complete) to remain at three films per year, while also giving timely sequels to current franchises and introducing newer ones, in my opinion.1:03:10  Mark LeakLastly, one of the things I'm most looking forward to in Captain Marvel is the reimagining of Maria Rambeau.  Her daughter Monica has been one of my personal favorites since I first saw her in an Avengers comic back in the 80s (yes, I'm old).  I believe I recall you saying you were hoping DeWanda Wise would be available for the role.  Is she still your choice, or do you have any other actresses in mind for Monica?  DeWanda is definitely on my list, but Nicole Beharie (Sleepy Hollow), has always been my first choice.  Teyonah Paris (Survivor's Remorse) and Sonequa Martin-Green (Star Trek: Discovery) are also on my list.Thanks for your time, and please keep up the marvelous work (pun intended)! 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Does your spouse trust you? In this episode Dr. Kim & Christina talk about when your spouse doesn't trust you even when you are truly being honest. It's hard and disappointing when your spouse doesn't trust you even when you know you are being honest and trustworthy. There are a lot of reasons people have trust issues, but there are real solutions that can help if this is your story.   Tune in to learn how to cope with this issue in marriage!   RESOURCES Cindy Beall's Book Rebuilding a Marriage Better Than New Cindy Beall Podcast Episodes Healing Your Marriage When Trust is Broken Rebuilding A Marriage Better Than New   NOTEWORTHY QUOTES “When you see their heart and that they are really trying to do their best really love Jesus and pursuing him. Then I think it is a lot easier and there is a security to say OK I will trust.” -Dr. Kim “You can tell somebody, ‘trust me trust me trust me', but if they have not worked through the issues that are causing them not to trust you, and you know in your heart that you are being trustworthy-then I think you are going to need a third party in there. So Christian Counseling is the next big step in there.” -Dr. Kim “We don't value trust until it's broken” -Dr. Kim “You just can't keep having a marriage when there is not trust. Because you are going to live separate lives and not going to be connected where you should be connected. There will always be a missing piece there if you are not trusting in a certain area.” -Dr. Kim   SPONSORS Thank you to Doug Hacking with Relationship Resonance for sponsoring this podcast episode! The Relationship Resonance system gives you 5 powerful relationship enhancers that will help to bring out the best in you and your spouse. If that resonates with you then visit relationshipresonance.com today to learn more. Also check out their Instagram page @doughacking for some fun quick tips on how to unleash the power of relationship driven success! You'll be glad you did!   LEAVE A REVIEW ON iTUNES Not sure how to leave an iTunes review? Check out these super simple and super short tutorial videos that we've made here.

Does your spouse trust you? In this episode Dr. Kim & Christina talk about when your spouse doesn’t trust you even when you are truly being honest. It’s hard and disappointing when your spouse doesn’t trust you even when you know you are being honest and trustworthy. There are a lot of reasons people have trust issues, but there are real solutions that can help if this is your story.   Tune in to learn how to cope with this issue in marriage!   RESOURCES Cindy Beall’s Book Rebuilding a Marriage Better Than New Cindy Beall Podcast Episodes Healing Your Marriage When Trust is Broken Rebuilding A Marriage Better Than New   NOTEWORTHY QUOTES “When you see their heart and that they are really trying to do their best really love Jesus and pursuing him. Then I think it is a lot easier and there is a security to say OK I will trust.” -Dr. Kim “You can tell somebody, ‘trust me trust me trust me’, but if they have not worked through the issues that are causing them not to trust you, and you know in your heart that you are being trustworthy-then I think you are going to need a third party in there. So Christian Counseling is the next big step in there.” -Dr. Kim “We don’t value trust until it’s broken” -Dr. Kim “You just can’t keep having a marriage when there is not trust. Because you are going to live separate lives and not going to be connected where you should be connected. There will always be a missing piece there if you are not trusting in a certain area.” -Dr. Kim   SPONSORS Thank you to Doug Hacking with Relationship Resonance for sponsoring this podcast episode! The Relationship Resonance system gives you 5 powerful relationship enhancers that will help to bring out the best in you and your spouse. If that resonates with you then visit relationshipresonance.com today to learn more. Also check out their Instagram page @doughacking for some fun quick tips on how to unleash the power of relationship driven success! You’ll be glad you did!   LEAVE A REVIEW ON iTUNES Not sure how to leave an iTunes review? Check out these super simple and super short tutorial videos that we’ve made here.

It’s time to put up the swimsuits and beach episodes as the summer anime season comes to a close. Join the hosts of the Otaku Spirit Animecast as they take a look forward to the coming Fall 2018 season and give their take on the offering. Anime Discussed In This Preview: Goblin Slayer, That Time I Got Reincarnated As A Slime, Bloom Into You, SSSS GRIDMAN, So Many Colors In The Future, Bunny Girl Senpai, Boarding School Juliet, The One I Love Is My Little Sister, Radiant, Ulysses Jeanne d’Arc, Tsurune, Release The Spyce, RErideD, Ingress, Double Decker Doug and Kirill, Uchi no Maid ga Uzasugiru, Tonari no Kyuuketsuki-san, CONCEPTION, Hinomaru-Zumou, Sora to Umi no Aida, As Miss Beelzebub Likes, Gaikotsu Shotenin Honda-san, Karakuri Circus, Anima Yell, Run with the Wind, Dakaretai Otoko, Gakuen Basara, Hangyaku-sei Million Arthur, Girls Glowing Red, Merc Storia, Zombieland Saga, Bakumatsu, Kitsune No Koe, Himote House, Uchuu Senkan Tiramisu 2, Non-Human Creature Wife, Idolmaster Side M Wake Atte Mini, Sword Art Online Alicization, Fairy Tail 2018, Toaru Majutsu no Index 2, Tokyo Ghoul Re2, Jojo no Kimyou na Bouken, Golden Kamuy 2, Gyakuten Saiban 2, Senran Kagura Shinovi Master Tokyo Youma-hen, Souten no Ken Regenesis 2, Thunderbolt Fantasy 2, Gurazeni 2, Zoku Owarimonogatari, Continuing Series, and some random ONA/Movie/OVAs! The intro for this episode is from the PV for Thunderbolt Fantasy 2. The outro for this episode is from the PV for Release the Spyce.

Welcome to Beyond Prisons: a new podcast examining incarceration in America through an abolitionist lens.  In our first episode, hosts Kim Wilson and Brian Sonenstein introduce the idea behind the podcast, dissect and critique the current conversation around prison reform, and discuss the need for a broader vision for justice that should guide those efforts. What is prison abolition and what would it mean to live in a world without prisons? What's missing from current efforts to reform the criminal justice system? What kind of topics will this podcast cover? We tackle these questions and more in our first episode. Going forward, we will conduct interviews and delve much deeper into the various issues we touch upon in this first episode. So, stay tuned! -- Follow us on Twitter: @Beyond_Prison @phillyprof03 @bsonenstein Music & Production: Jared Ware -- Transcript Brian: Hello everybody and welcome to the first episode of Beyond Prisons. I am one of your hosts Brian Sonenstein and I’m joined by my co-host Kim Wilson. How ya doing, Kim? Kim: I’m doing well. Hi Brian, how’s it going? Brian: It’s going alright. I’m excited to be here. I’m glad we’re getting this off the ground. Kim: Yeah, me too. Brian: So what Kim and I are trying to do is something a little bit different. Oh, my dogs are barking in the background. (laughs) Kim: We’re gonna have dogs, we’re gonna have cats. We might have you know, who knows what else is going to show up so I say let’s just roll with it. Brian: I know, it’s fine. Kim and I decided to start this podcast to talk about the issue of prison reform and mass incarceration, and offer some different perspectives than a lot of the things you hear going on in the news right now. So I thought we could introduce ourselves a little bit. Kim, why don’t you go first? Kim: Ok, well, I’ll tell you a little bit about what my motivations were, and I think that will be a nice segway into my intro. But the motivating factor behind me getting on board with this podcast really stems from a place of frustration. I’m frustrated with the policy choices around mass incarceration, around prison specifically, and I’m seeing so many things that are impacting communities that I care about and that many people that I know live in, and I feel like we could be doing something better and so I’m coming at it from that perspective. That said, on a personal level, I’m the mother of two incarcerated men who are serving life in prison without the possibility of parole or at least that was their sentence. My professional and academic interests in incarceration began long before either of them had any encounter with the criminal justice system and I’m thinking of that in a broad sense particularly when we talk about schools and school to prison pipeline, which I’m sure we’re gonna spend quite a bit of time talking about in later episodes. And then I’m also coming at this as an activist who started out very much on board with prison reform and the prison reform movement if you want to call it that, and quickly evolved from that perspective to one of being strongly committed to prison abolition. So that’s a little bit about me, where I’m coming from, and what I’m hoping that this podcast is going to be about. What about you, Brian? Brian: Well, so I am a journalist. I’ve been writing about incarceration and the criminal justice system for about five years now. My work has primarily been to address these issues from the perspective of the people who are most directly impacted by it and that’s how I actually got to know you Kim. I’m also deeply interested in the issue of prison abolition after having been an activist myself for a number of years on a number of issues from drug policy to whistleblowing. I’ve seen a lot of people have interactions with the system and none of them have been good, including friends of mine. I grew up in sort of a blue collar, very small town in New England and saw a lot of people who fell into drugs and other problems, wind up in the system and it just destroyed not only their lives but the lives of their families and friends, and so I just had a growing interest in this. I’m very interested in the topic of reform, I’m also interested in critiquing reform, which is something we talk a lot about here. And we’re also going to try to break away from sort of this large statistical view of incarceration where we’re focusing on numbers. What we’re gonna try to do is bring perspectives from the people who are involved and use those to sort of guide our arguments about what the criminal justice system should be like. So why don’t we talk about like the major narrative around mass incarceration, you know maybe we can start by just critiquing that there. So I don’t know, when you think about mass incarceration , what are some things that jump out to you, like what are the things you know about it? Kim: You know, coming at this from several different points of view and those things have deeply informed where I am today regarding mass incarceration. I think that’s an important thing to talk about because, again, as someone who was trained as a policy analyst, the policy perspective or that school of thought can really be distilled in terms of cost-benefit analysis and I want, as you pointed out, for us to move beyond statistics and to think about the real issues, to dig down deep into the racialized nature of mass incarceration, which is one of the things that jumps out to me. I mean, I think it’s important to address the numbers and to account for those and also to explain what those numbers mean in the context of people’s lives in the context of communities. How do those numbers translate into problems for the people who are behind the numbers, right? So I think that first and foremost addressing the racialized nature of mass incarceration and more broadly what we refer to as the prison industrial complex. That’s one of the main things that I want to talk about and I don’t feel is actually discussed enough in public policy circles. Now, that said, I think that there are public policy institutions that are doing this kind of research and that are publishing reports and white papers and what have you that do address the racialized nature of mass incarceration. But this doesn’t actually seem to make it into the spaces where policy makers are making decisions and that gap right there really frustrates me and it’s something that has frustrated me for a really long time. We know, for example, that Black people are disproportionately represented in the system and what does that mean?  You know, what does that mean in terms of communities? And I want to talk about that and to explore that. We know, for example, that in terms of placing this in a global context that the U.S. has one of the largest prison populations in the world. So what does that mean you know and what does that look like on the ground and what does that mean in the context of the politics of today? Because I don’t think that we can really launch a podcast in 2017 and not talk about the current (laughs) political situation in this country. Brian: Right. Kim: If that’s not a source of frustration for people, I don’t know what is and it’s certainly a major source of frustration for me. Then there is the gender component of mass incarceration. We tend to talk about men who are incarcerated and particularly black men. To neglect an oversight of talking about women and how those numbers have grown exponentially over the last decade and a half, and I think that’s an important piece that needs to be addressed as well. So there’s a lot of stuff that I’m thinking about when I’m thinking about mass incarceration. I think that that this is a good place to start. I’m also thinking about mass incarceration in broader terms and this goes to the title of our podcast as well, Beyond Prisons. I want us to imagine what that means. What does it mean to see something beyond prisons? Can we imagine a world not only without prisons but what are some of the creative solutions that we can come up with through these conversations that are going to be I would say not only realistic but that are necessary in light of the fact that we have, what, over six million people under correctional supervision in this country with about two million of those incarcerated? So when we think about, when I’m thinking about incarceration in this country, I’m thinking about it in really broad terms. I’m thinking of policing. I’m thinking of surveillance. I’m thinking of all the various ways, the mechanisms that are used to control certain populations in this country particularly marginalized groups in this country. What about you? Brian: Yeah, absolutely, and I think that on a very basic level, one of the things that I want to do is talk about what we as Americans by and large think prisons do, who goes there, what happens there, and this includes even through the lens of the reform movement. But as activists, when we’re thinking about policy that we could be implementing and if we’re thinking about what comes next after prison, I think one of the most important things that we can do is have conversations that could lead to a cultural shift among people that will lay a stronger foundation for these policies, and I think we can get there. As we know, prisons and the system in general are largely out of the public view. Attempts to, I know this as a journalist and you know this as both a scholar and a parent, but any attempts to get more information about the system or to question actions by officials, you get the silent treatment or worse. I think in order to really lay the groundwork for a lot of this policy, we need to have conversations and clear some things out about punishment, and about crime, and about safety and the role of prisons in all of this, right? And I think that there is this idea that people are criminals instead of people that do things that are against the law or maybe have low moments. I think there’s this idea that when you go away to prison,  you deserve harsh treatment and certain things as punishment and there’s no thought that these people are eventually going to get out. They’re going to have to reintegrate into society under even more difficult situations than the average person trying to get a job out there today, when you have this scarlet letter of a conviction hanging over you. What I hope that we can do in addition to all the things that you said that I totally agree with. In addition to getting into the various issues that go on in prison, and at the front end and back end, before people go in and after, I just really want to challenge our assumptions, and I want us to really think about the myriad costs that are associated with decisions that we make with punishment. And even on just a basic and theoretical level, we talk about prison sentences, right. We talk about sentencing reform, but we attach arbitrary years on prison sentences because I mean there really is no science behind a lot of this and it’s just interesting to think a lot of times—I hear people on the left and liberals are always talking about how oh, the Republicans are so anti-science. Well, the truth is that as a society, we have this looming system that is very pseudo-scientific and very anti-scientific in a lot of ways. And so these are the ideas and little things that we want to chip away at. We’re gonna bring guests on to talk about these things and a lot of the things that you and I are going to chat about today. We’re gonna gloss over a lot of things, we’re gonna mention a lot of things, but trust that in coming episodes, we will dig into these issues deeper. So, what else? What else should we talk about here? Kim: Yeah, I mean playing off of those points that you just made about prison, one of the things that I’ve been thinking about as I was preparing for this episode today was something that Angela Davis writes about in ‘Are Prisons Obsolete?’  And she says, ‘stop thinking of prisons as inevitable, ‘ right? We think of the prison as this natural thing, and that we can’t imagine life without it. And I think that our name again captures that, but our approach to what we’re attempting to do with these conversations is to think about what is life without a prison. It’s not some Utopian ideal. It’s not politically naïve to talk about a world without prisons, a society without prisons, and the difficulty that I’ve encountered in my work with people, including a lot of liberals. It’s mostly liberals who I’ve been working with around issues of prison abolition, that any time I say, ‘Ok, imagine a world without prisons? What does that society look like?’ The first thing I hear is, no, no, no, you can’t possibly mean you want to get rid of prisons. And again, this really is super, super frustrating because it’s not even... I’m giving you a magic wand. You can make the world whatever you want it to be, right? It’s like, it’s a theoretical exercise in a lot of ways. And people don’t even want to imagine that world. Brian: Why do you think that is? Like why do you think people—I have my own thoughts on this, obviously, but I’m curious of your thoughts on why people are resistant to the idea of having that radical imagination. Kim: Well I think a lot of people are afraid, right. I think that there’s a lot of fear that they watch these television shows, they see things depicted in the media and presented a certain way, and their fantasy about what someone in prison looks like or is capable of is informed by these things. They don’t necessarily—even if they have an experience with someone who’s been to prison, they tend to have this wall up, like okay, I like the idea of improving conditions for people in prison, but what are you talking about? This is going a little too far. You can’t really be talking about getting rid of prisons. And, I’m like actually I am. So institutions where we put people in cages for long periods of time without any consideration as to what that is doing to someone. It’s a problem. It’s problematic. We need to have, I’m fond of saying, the courage, the backbone, like we need strong backs to be able to say this is wrong, right? And how do we disrupt this system? How do we change this system? How can we make something that is different from what we have now, right? Not just substituting and moving this around or you know they say rearranging the deck chairs on the Titanic, right? You know, just a couple of days ago, de Blasio, Mayor de Blasio of New York, announced that they’re closing down Rikers and that’s great, and I’m cheering for the fact because Rikers was a really shitty place. It was a horrible place by all accounts and it needed to be closed. However, what he’s proposing is setting up new prisons. So for me, and this is where I have to depart with the reform movement: Substitutes for prison, including other prisons, doesn’t really help the issue. It doesn’t address the social, the economic, the political problems that have created the issues that we have regarding mass incarceration, and I think until we get to that, until we get to that point where we can, I mean, good grief, have a conversation about what a world without prisons could look like. And to move people just a tiny little bit to say ‘ok, what does transforming this society mean? How do we deal with really scary things? Okay, so someone’s committed murder or someone’s being raped. These are horrible things and how do we address the victim’s legitimate concerns here while also addressing what is happening in terms of incarceration that we know doesn’t actually act as a deterrent, right? It doesn’t work, so what do we do about this? We need a better way to approach this and I’m thinking of this podcast and our conversations as a way to explore various approaches to what that landscape would look like. I’m looking at it also in terms of how do we challenge white supremacy as part of this project? I see a lot of talk about prisons and carcerality that want to leave out the race component. And that’s one of the hang-ups I think that we have and that we confront, particularly in the terms of policy making and policy choices that are being made because these policies around prison are meant to appear race neutral, and they’re not. We need to have not only a language but a process by which we can assess, analyze, and understand what racialized carceral system is, and what do we do about that. Brian: I agree. I completely agree. And I think that there is a lot of danger in compartmentalizing reform efforts instead of taking these broader approaches like abolition. My head is spinning. There’s so many things I want to say in response to what you just said. I mean one thing I want to say is that I think that for people who don’t really know what prison abolition is, they’ve never heard of it, or maybe they have somewhat of an idea. I think that one of the helpful ways to think about this too is that there is not going to be a one-size-fits-all solution to prisons, much the same way that much the one-size-fits-all of prisons doesn’t work for the justice system. I think when we’re talking about getting rid of prisons, like you said, we’re not talking about replacing it with a different kind of prison. I really resent a lot of this talk about looking over to Sweden and see how awesome it is to be a prisoner in Sweden. I think that’s totally the wrong way to look at prisons. It’s also a hard conversation, I think, and I wonder if you ever butt up against this, Kim. The needs and the problems are so bad for people who are incarcerated that the needs are very immediate, right? So I’m not sitting here saying we shouldn’t support these reform efforts that look to increase the quality of life of prisoners, because we need to help people right now. But we can’t do that at the expense of a broader vision. I see a lot in these reform efforts of reducing or showing greater leniency toward low level non-violent offenders, but at the same time, we are going to increase penalties and introduce new penalties for violent offenders or for other drug crimes. They talked about introducing a new Fentanyl mandatory minimum sentence in the last criminal justice reform bill. It probably will be added to this one, I assume, with Republicans being in control of legislature. Another thing that I want to say and I’m jumping around a little bit here, but I’m just thinking about your comments, is a lot of times what we see in reform is euphemism, to make it look like things are changing or to modestly or slightly tweak a prisoner’s experience. But the abuse and the fundamental issue of why a certain thing in prison is bad remains the same. So, for example, with solitary confinement, we say that solitary confinement is torture and I think that it is pretty widely accepted now that solitary confinement is torture. And at the same time, the reforms that we get are two extra hours out of your cell per week, and reformers call that a victory. Or only certain groups of people are not allowed to go into solitary confinement, or they opened a new housing unit that is basically solitary confinement in everything but name. So it’s really tricky and that’s another reason why I think it’s important to consider abolition and to take it seriously because a lot of these problems. We are at where we are today because a lot of these politicians have been kicking the can on these issues ever since we had prisons. I mean, Attica, the reform efforts followed Attica. Rebellions have been going on for years and years and years. Things haven’t gotten materially better. I think when we think about abolition, another thing to think about like you were saying, is how do we think about somebody who’s committed an act of murder, an act of rape? How do we think about justice? But it’s also that the prison and the system that we have set up does nothing to sort of head off these things from happening by changing the material conditions and environments, social contexts and racial contexts like you were talking about, that people live in, that limit their options and push them in or silo their paths in life. So it’s not just what can we do differently when someone commits a crime but it’s like how can we invest in communities. All the money we spend on federal, state, and local jails, all that money could be so much better put to use with education, jobs, healthcare in society in ways that would reduce the number of people winding up behind bars. Kim: Absolutely! And I think to your first point regarding reforms and changing things in the immediate and looking to European models of prisons and what not. I think that there is a space for having a comparative analysis as to what other countries are doing that are better than what is happening here in the U.S. and if it improves the conditions of people on the inside, then Ok, great. However, what an abolitionist’s perspective actually does is that it provides a framework for understanding and placing that conditions have to be improved right now, however, the long term goal is not to just sit back and say, yeah, we improved conditions, but how do we not use prisons as an anchor for the problems that are happening in society? How do we or what other things can we use? And you mentioned some of those things: investing in communities, providing healthcare, mental health. Mental health is such a big part of this problem, not criminalizing drugs and seeing that these things don’t actually improve safety or security, but are used as the pretext for increasing the carceral state. I think that one of the things that we’re going to do in upcoming episodes is really delve into what do we mean by prison abolition. Today, I think that we can just give a quick definition of that, a working definition so people have that and to talk a little bit about what we mean when we say prison industrial complex so that we understand the language that’s being used here. Because I think particularly in this day and age, particularly in this political climate that our words matter and our words matter more than they have in the past. So providing clear definitions gives us a place to begin. It may not improve or increase understanding very much, but at least it gives us a place to begin so that we know that we’re talking about this thing over here, and not that thing over there. That said, one of the things I talk about when I talk about prison abolition and again using a lot of Angela Davis’ work, using the work of people from Critical Resistance, as well as Insight, and a number of other groups is to really think about it as a political vision. To think about how prison abolition constitutes a set of long term goals. There are things that we are doing right now, however, the goal is to eliminate and get rid of imprisonment, to get rid of policing and surveillance as the mechanisms that we use to address social problems. I think that’s really the most concrete way of putting it in really simple terms. It sounds easy but once we start unpacking that, I think there is just so much happening in that. So that framework include, for me at least, that framework of abolition is also anti-racist. It is when we talk about gender disparities. We’re including trans’ rights. We’re talking about immigration policy. We’re talking about all of these things that are happening right now and the kinds of policies that are being implemented by this administration that work against an abolitionist framework. I feel a sense of urgency now more than I have I think before. And I think I’ve had a sense of urgency for a long time. I don’t know. What do you think about that? Brian: I totally agree, and I think that we really need to have goals. And I think a lot of what’s happening in the prison reform movement and even just sort of larger on the left, I think you see that it’s a little different when you talk about when you talk about something like single-payer healthcare, for instance. I think we need to have these goals that even if they seem politically unfeasible in this moment, we have to have something to work toward. Like you said, provide a framework for what we’re doing, not only so that we don’t shut off any avenues to fully realize reform or anything like that, but just so that we’re going somewhere with this. This is the work of movements. You know, we might not see this in our lifetime. A lot of people that I talk to about abolition for their first time kind of scoff at you. They’re like, yeah right, there’s no way that would ever happen. The prison is such a fundamental institution in our society that obviously it’s much bigger than any one issue. I think that something that you were touching on or something that it made me think about when you were talking is that if you bring an abolitionist framework to this, it does inform the way you look at other policies and other areas of government and society instead of just sort of being content to fiddle with whatever problems are going on. It makes you want to investigate the root causes more, to question the system more. It also sort of gives you more empathy in a way. I feel like even the worst political foes that I could imagine, I definitely would like to understand more about why they are the way they are. That doesn’t mean I’d excuse their behavior, but just sort of a strategy. I feel so much that political fighting and everything today is like very in the moment and lacks a broader context. So, anyway, I think abolition is something that if there were ever a good time to talk about it, it would be now with things as awful as they are. I feel like we almost have more space to talk about abolition than we might have had a few years ago. Kim: Absolutely! Absolutely! Yeah, I think that one of the things that I wrote down in my notes in my preparation for today had to do with reforms, and one of the things that Angela Davis says is that the idea of reforms doesn’t go beyond the prison. So if all of your solutions begin and end with prisons, then there is really no room for alternatives in that reform model, and that’s the problem that I have as an abolitionist with the reform movement – that all of the solutions maintain these carceral institutions, so whether we’re talking about house arrest or surveillance, parole, probations, what have you, then it’s not really an alternative. You’re trying to give something a different look without doing much about the actual problem and this resonates with people. This is very appealing and again, this is extremely frustrating for me because again, as someone who was trained in policy and public policy research and what have you, the literature really approaches mass incarceration from those perspectives. So when we’re writing policy documents, when they’re doing evaluations of re-entry programs, for example, there are really no alternatives that are being presented that are not carceral alternatives. And that, for me, has been part of the problem for years. That, for me, the ‘Aha’ moment or the lead-up to the ‘Aha’ moment if we can even call it that, came a number of years ago, where it was evident that the further I dug down into re-entry and what was happening in communities was people returning from prison to certain communities. There’s a pattern there and that pattern is repeated over, over and over again across communities in this country. So the policies weren’t working. But it wasn’t enough to just say the policies aren’t working. What is actually happening here? What is informing these policies, and I think that was where I really started to go into the abolitionist literature because the public policy literature doesn’t discuss abolition. It completely neglects it. Abolition is something that, if you’re a political theorist that was talking about abolition from that perspective, and people are writing brilliant things about Foucault and what have you. But that information, that knowledge doesn’t transfer over to the public policy space. So how do we bring these things together? It’s not just political theorists, but philosophers and other people who are doing work on prison abolition, not just theoretical but practical work as well. How do we bring that knowledge to bear on policy choices so that in the choosing because people talk about public policy in sort of a disconnected way in this thing that’s happening somewhere in Washington and in the halls of the State Capitals and what have you, it’s some kind of mysterious process. No. People are making decisions, and those decisions are informed by people’s values, people’s understanding of the problem, etc., etc. And if we’re not attempting to understand that part of it in terms of what’s happening with so many people and disproportionately, black and brown people in this country going to prison, then we’re actually not being honest about trying to address what is happening here. What we’re doing is something else, but it’s not rooted in an honest, intellectual project that is going to give us public policies that improve the conditions for communities and the people that live in those communities. I think that, for me, that’s one of the strengths of an abolitionist’s perspective, and one of the things in my activism and in my scholarship and in my personal life that I have really committed to understanding in a lot of different ways. And I think that it presents a lot of challenges. It’s a difficult task to be an abolitionist. It’s not an easy thing to say that publicly and it’s even more difficult thing if you write about these issues, or facilitating workshops and conversations with people around these things. They always want to talk down to you and tell you that you’re misinformed somehow and that letting people out of prison is just going to run society. I’m like, have you read the paper? I mean, have you looked around? Angela Davis says this all the time: not having any prisons would actually improve things. No alternative would be better than having prisons and that really gets people’s backs up. They can’t handle that. I think to your point earlier about trying to understand where people are coming from with that, I think that’s an important piece of the overall puzzle in conversation here, and I’m looking forward to these conversations as the podcast unfolds and as we get deeper into these things. Brian: Yeah, and I just think one last thing I’ll say on your discussion of policy-making and peoples’, like you were saying, sort of arching their back and a lot of this stuff. I think it speaks to a lot of political incentives that end up shaping reform and that need to change, and hopefully conversations like the ones we’re going to have on this podcast can help change. Because it’s really hard, you have to admit on a certain level that it’s hard for policymakers to go out and maybe put out a reform that would reduce the number of violent offenders in prison because all it takes is one violent offender to make the news to cause a political backlash to that. I think because of that the incentives are so stacked to be harsher, whereas the political gain for showing leniency is so unfortunately low, and I think we need to completely invert that and sort of show politicians and these political figures, including prosecutors. To a certain degree, they’re followers. They’re going to take certain cues from the public in terms of what the public will support and what the public won’t support. So I do see the tide changing a little bit in terms of how people view ‘offenders.’ Obviously, it’s like a very niche group of offenders are given leniency right now, but it’s hopeful in the sense that it could–if we could have these conversations to get people to think differently, we could change those political incentives so that there is less of a risk for a politician to craft a policy or sign on to a policy that would decarcerate and that politicians won’t so strongly overreact to rises in crime and the public doesn’t prioritize the safety of some communities at the expense of others. Kim: Absolutely! And I think that this whole thing about who we let out of prison, and what is an acceptable kind of level of criminality–if we’re aiming for zero crime in society, we’re neglecting the fact that we’re dealing with human beings. So we need to talk about that. We need to address that on the front end and I don’t see where politicians do this very effectively, and I’m sure we’ll certainly critique the politician’s approach to public policy around incarceration and what have you. But we don’t have a world where we will be crime free. That world actually doesn’t exist. So a world without prisons is possible; a world without crime I’m not so sure. So I think that, how would we handle that crime? What constitutes a crime? So we have all sorts of examples currently in the news: defending yourself against a domestic abuser is considered a crime. So that’s a problem. What do we want to do with that? I mean, what we’re really saying to victims of violence is well we don’t care about you if you tried to defend yourself, then you are really the problem. How has that changed anything for that community, for that person, for their family or anything like that? So I think we need to move beyond the surface level analysis that is really popular and talk about the complexities involved with letting people, not just opening the doors and letting people run out of prison. We’re talking about a more thoughtful approach to decarceration, getting rid of cages. We’re talking about, as you mentioned earlier, providing people with healthcare and for me, particularly mental health, and what that would do. We know that there is a large proportion of the incarcerated population that has a documented mental illness. That’s a problem. And if our approach to these issues is basically to just lock them up for some indefinite amount of time, don’t provide them with any kind of counseling or support while they’re incarcerated, that somehow through the isolation and solitary monastic existence that these people are going to have some kind of ‘Aha’ moment, and magically come out being okay. Brian: That’s what I mean. Yeah, when I was saying earlier that I just feel like incarceration is so anti-science. I mean listening to the way you just described it, it sounds ridiculous! And we have at this point mountains of evidence showing how incarceration harms, and I would argue that we have very little evidence suggesting that incarceration as an end in itself works to do anything other than perpetuate misery. So, yeah, sorry I just wanted to chime in here. Kim: No, Absolutely! Brian: Because it always baffles me that we cling to this institution so strongly, but it’s complete pseudo-science the more that you dig into it. Kim:  Uh-huh, Absolutely! Absolutely! And I think that’s a valid point and that we need to talk about that more not just on here, but in the context of public policy choices that are being made. Targeting specific groups of people or to put people in prison who have drug problems makes no sense. It makes absolutely no sense. You don’t actually change the conditions for that individual by putting them in prison. Not just putting them in prison, but putting them in a cage and not giving them any kind of assistance. These things don’t happen, like they don’t just fall out of the sky and all of a sudden they walk out of prison and they’re going to magically never use again. And that seems to be the sort of approach towards carcerality here, why reforms are a huge problem because it relies on this notion that if you lock someone up and you take away everything that is meaningful to them, that is of value to them, their ties to the community no matter how strained those are, their ties to their family no matter how difficult that family might be, those are still ties that we are basically cutting off and say, Ok, we’re going to remove you from society, from everything that is near and dear to you, and now we’re expecting you to be ok. So when you come out, you should be ready to conquer the world. And then we set up this system of obstacles for a person who’s returning from prison and into the community, and we say, well you need to follow all these rules. Okay, so you go to prison from a community where most of the people that you know have also gone to prison, but we have laws in this country that prevent the association of people with a felony conviction from associating, so that can get you back into prison. That’s just so ridiculous! Who else would you know? It’s like if your parent went to prison and you’re their child and you also went to prison, we’re basically saying, well mom, dad, aunt, uncle, cousin, whatever the ties are, you can’t be around each other. So now we’re undermining the support system that would be there by making the association a criminal act. It’s like, God! How is this supposed to work? Brian:  Yeah, and I think one of the things that we all are going to need to talk about, and it’s going to be hard given just American culture in general, are these limits of individual responsibility. I think, as you were talking about earlier, that a lot of the way carcerality bleeds in, and the punitive structure bleeds into post-release and things like that, and you were talking about drug treatment programs and things like that. You know, even in that situation- let’s take drug treatment programs for instance. A lot of these programs are 12-step programs that are built around the individual basically accepting full responsibility for their actions, making no excuses outside of themselves, and supposedly being able to stay sober with that as their backing. And the truth of it is that there are limits to personal responsibility for somebody like that. I mean, if you live in a context in which drugs are always around, or maybe you have a chronic health issue and that’s how you became addicted to opiods. I mean, taking responsibility like that is just another, it’s like another one of these examples of sort of puritanical anti-science approach. It’s like disproved by incredible amounts of evidence. But we’re going to need to really as Americans dial back our desire to pin 100% total responsibility on people who commit crimes. And I just want to…I think this is a good time to talk about in terms of abolition too, Kim and I’m wondering what your thoughts are on this. When we talk about prison abolition and you said this earlier in a way, we’re not just talking about letting people out of prison. We need to… there still will be accountability after prison, right. There still will be justice. And hopefully, it won’t look like this. So, yeah, I don’t know if you have any thoughts on that. Kim: Yeah, I mean we need to talk about and explore new forms of justice. So the whole theatre that’s associated when someone gets sentenced to a long prison term is one of the problems. I obviously experienced that with my sons and this idea that somehow justice was being served within that context felt so…it’s painful and it’s still painful today. To think back on this and part of what that does is it creates further divisions within communities because we’re all in this together. We’re all in this together, and like you said, the American ethos of individual responsibility and resiliency and this kind of ‘you can do it, and I built it myself…and I didn’t need any help, and it’s not my responsibility to take care of you, etc., etc.,’ which is at the core of American society. People really really believe that, uncritically believe that. They don’t examine what they say around resiliency and individual responsibility at all, and we have medical models that are informed by this perspective. A lot of this probation and parole are informed by this perspective. A lot of re-entry programs are based on these perspectives, and the need to rely on personal transformation strategies as the preferred approach to dealing with crime and to dealing with people’s problems. Because I think we conflate that. We make people their problems. We don’t separate the two. We don’t say, Ok this person has a problem…we say, these people are a problem. So drug users are a problem, not wait a minute, let’s think about what is actually happening here. And as you pointed out, we’re living in a really un-scientific time. The lack of critical thinking around these things or the willingness to approach this from a scientifically informed perspective is another huge issue that we’re probably going to talk about in one way or another throughout every conversation that we have because it’s there. It’s part of every single issue, and to lay blame at an individual’s feet is…one of the things that I say quite a bit is that when we individualize, we moralize. It makes it really easy to moralize. We do a lot of finger wagging and we can say, oh you need to get your act together, you need to stop doing drugs, you need to stop doing this, and we’re very much invested in this notion of choice; that an individual chose this path as opposed to this other path. And when we do that, what we’re doing is obscuring the fact that there are conditions and that there is a system in place that perpetuates these conditions that can strain your choices. So if you can’t eat because you don’t have a job and because you can’t go to your mama’s house because of whatever reason or because there are federal policies that prevent you from crashing on her couch because she lives in HUD housing or something ridiculous like that. And you’re back on the street. I mean, what would you do? Because I think about that quite often and I would do whatever I need to do to eat. I would do whatever I needed to do to survive, and I live in L.A. I have been in supermarkets out here where I’ve seen people arrested who are hungry. They’re coming in and they’re stealing a loaf of bread or something small like that, and the police are called because that is the system that we have. Instead of the manager just giving them the damn loaf of bread and keeping it moving, it’s like…No, we have to call the police. Now you have another set of problems there. I think that part of our…part of what I’m hoping we’ll do is to unpack that a little bit more in a more critical way, and bring people on as guests who can discuss these issues in a really well informed way to get us to think about this stuff beyond the superficial, beyond this sort of knee-jerk reaction to petty crime. But, that said, I also feel that we need to talk about violent crime, and that without the conversation or a set of conversations about violent criminals that we would be doing a disservice to what we’re saying we want to do with this podcast. I think that we need to address what happens when the unthinkable happens, and how do we deal with that and how do we address that? How can communities come together and what does a justice model look like that says, ok, well we need to talk about that more… We need to address the fears that people have and discuss ways that someone who has committed a really horrific crime can be held accountable. It doesn’t produce more harm. It doesn’t perpetuate the pain that already exists because I don’t think, in speaking from my own experience…the pain doesn’t go away. The pain when something horrible happens in your family with crime …that pain doesn’t leave. It doesn’t get better with time. It is just as fresh today as it was the day that it happened, and I think that is something that for me, on a personal level, that I want to talk about more and to bring in families that have been impacted in these ways by crime on both sides. I think that’s an important conversation to have, and something that in transformative justice circles and restorative justice circles has been happening for a lot of years, and there are ways to approach those conversations. But we can’t do that until we talk about accountability. But if accountability is happening in very narrow terms of ‘lock them up and throw away the key’, that doesn’t cohere with an abolitionist perspective, and as you can see, there is a lot to talk about. Brian: There is. Kim: There is no shortage of topics here. I think we barely scratched the surface today. I’m excited about what we can do with this podcast. I don’t know. Do you have any additional thoughts? Brian: There’s just one more thing that I wanted to bring up, and I am curious what you think about this, too. I think a lot of times when people bring up these arguments somebody might say to you, Well, Kim, what about the victims? What about the people who the crimes are perpetrated against? Don’t you think that deserve our empathy too? I don’t know what you would say. I would say our system is not designed at all right now to really empower victims in any meaningful way outside of punishment. I think prosecutors by and large aren’t really interested in what a victim would like to do. I wrote about earlier this year that the vast majority of crime victims, including violent crime victims would prefer rehabilitation over incarceration. There’s a lot of myths that, I would also say that maybe people wouldn’t be victims if we didn’t have incarceration and were addressing these root causes. That was really the last thing that I want to bring up. I’m just thinking about some of the things that might come to your mind when you’re thinking about prison abolition for the first time, sort of these ingrained defenses that we have as Americans against imagining a world without prisons. Like you said, a lot of this, we will be digging in very deeply on all these subjects with guests, and I’m very, very excited. So, yeah, we want to know what questions you have. You can email me at brian@shadowproof.com. We would be happy to take tips from people and hear how people react to the show and a lot of ideas that we have. Honestly, I want to hear what sort of problems people have with a lot of these ideas because I think that a lot of these conversations are going to be really uncomfortable for a lot of people. They’re gonna be really difficult. We’re going to be talking about violence, and sexual offenses and things like this that we react to in a certain way. But we need to have these conversations if we’re really going to make a meaningful impact on this issue. What about you, Kim? Do you have any final thoughts? Kim: Yeah, I think that there are a number of victims groups around the country that have been very outspoken against things like the death penalty, and I’ve been working with some groups, some people in Delaware around this as well, whose families have been the victims of violent crimes. And it’s a difficult conversation, but I can tell you that from my own experience, talking with these families, they have been out front of the death penalty abolition movement, and they have said things not in their name, like you can’t kill someone because you lost someone in their name. And this notion of state sanctioned violence as a way to mete out justice is deeply problematic for a lot of people, not just on a moral level because they do think that it’s wrong, but in terms of what this actually does. What does this actually do? It doesn’t feel good, but then again, I think that the people who are best able to talk about this issue are the victims. I don’t want to speak for anyone. If anything, another goal that I have for this podcast is really to amplify and marginalize people’s voices, and to let people speak for themselves rather than talking over them or for them. You’ll hear me say a lot, I’m speaking for myself, because I think that needs to be clear that I’m not talking for other folks here. I think that in general, I look forward to hearing what people have to say. I think that these are courageous conversations that we need to have, that they’re going to require us to have really strong backs to address. We’ll certainly give people trigger warnings around certain issues. There might be a trigger warning around the entire podcast. I mean, I don’t even know. That includes just as much for my own benefit as for anybody else’s because this isn’t easy. I’m on board with this project because it gives me a way to sort of channel this energy that I have and to bring this work to a much bigger audience, and to include a lot more people in this conversation. Before I forget, if people want to contact me, I’m at wilsonk68@gmail.com and I look forward to hearing about what people have to say and if they want to chime in, and if they want to have ideas for future topics. Certainly, I’m open to these things. Hate mail you can send somewhere else. I’m not interested in the hate mail and the abusive nonsense that I’m sure we’re going to get as a result of putting ourselves out there on these issues. It’s been, this has been great. I enjoyed this conversation. I think it was a lot easier than I thought, huh. Brian: Yeah, I know seriously. I’m really glad to be doing this with you Kim so thank you very much and thank you everybody for listening. We will have another episode out soon. You can subscribe to us on Itunes Beyond Prisons and stay tuned for our next episode. Thank you so much.

The Weeb-team featuring Beej, Heather, Ian and Cori round up their anime picks from the Summer season and outline what they're looking forward to in Fall of 2016. - Summer 2016 - Beej's Picks: - Amaama to Inazuma - Cheer Danshi!! - Fukigen na Mononokean Heather's Picks: - Handa-kun - Orange Ian's Picks: - JoJo no Kimyou na Bouken: Diamond wa Kudakenai - Mob Psycho 100 - Sakamoto Deus Ga? The Movie Cori's Picks: - Mahoutsukai no Yome: Hoshi Matsu Hito - Big Fish & Begonia - Fall 2016 - Beej's Picks: - Kiitarou Shounen no Youkai Enikki - Nobunaga no Shinobi - Udon no Kuni no Kiniro Kemari Heather's Picks: - ClassicaLoid - Mahou Shoujo Ikusei Keikaku - Natsume Yuujinchou Go Ian's Picks: - 3-gatsu no Lion - Yuri!!! On ICE - Gakuen Handsome Cori's Picks: - CHEATING CRAFT - Drifters - Fune wo Amu The Great Passage

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Der erste Teil der Springseason 2016 Animes in dieser Folge: Mayoiga / Uchuu Patrol Luluco / Gyakuten Saiban: Sono "Shinjitsu", Igi Ari! / JoJo no Kimyou na Bouken: Diamond wa Kudakenai

Der erste Teil der Springseason 2016 Animes in dieser Folge: Mayoiga / Uchuu Patrol Luluco / Gyakuten Saiban: Sono "Shinjitsu", Igi Ari! / JoJo no Kimyou na Bouken: Diamond wa Kudakenai

Kim and her sister Amy are the Red Tent Sisters! The Sisters have created a family business that not only helps women learn holistically (nonhormonal) birth control using the Fertility Awareness Method, but have also been raising awareness about healthy sexuality, and providing women with healthy, environmentally-friendly sex products through their website ecosex.ca. I had Amy on the show a few months ago and we talked all about the Fertility Awareness Method and the effects of long-term birth control use. If you haven't had a chance you can tune into my interview with Amy here. Kim specializes in the area of healthy sexuality and she has been educating women and men for years on all things sex from gaining confidence in the bedroom to sex toys and everything in between! In today's show, we talk about sexuality, orgasms, female pleasure, and we get into some of the reasons that prevent women from having a truly satisfying sex life. Topics discussed in today's episode How we are all impacted by the stereotypical portrayal of sexual activity in the media and in mainstream pornography Why the missionary position alone doesn't cut it for 70% of women Why the concept of "normal" sexual activity can be limiting and less pleasurable particularly for heterosexual couples Why focusing on sexual intercourse exclusively as the "main event" can be problematic especially when it comes to female pleasure How having a period of "abstinence" from unprotected sexual intercourse during a woman's fertile window can actually improve a couple's sexual relationship by encouraging increased communication, and allowing the couple to experiment with a variety of sexual activities instead of focusing primarily on intercourse Why women are often hesitant to ask for what we want sexually How to discover what you want sexually if you have never had an orgasm or if you are not fully satisfied sexually The problem with "faking it" Why orgasms and female sexual pleasure are important What to do when partners are mismatched sexually either in their sexual preferences or in their libido and desired frequency of sexual activity What couples who are struggling with fertility challenges can do to improve their sexual experiences so sex doesn't feel like a chore Should couples have sex in a certain position when they are trying to conceive? Why should we care about the materials that are used in sex toys? What lubricants are sperm friendly for couples who are trying to conceive? What ingredients should you avoid in spermicides Why asking for what you want sexually is such an important step towards actually getting it Connect with Kim You can connect with Kim on the Red Tent Sister's Website, on ecosex.ca, and on Facebook, Twitter, and Youtube! Resources mentioned Red Tent Sisters | Kim Sedgwick Ecosex.ca | Red Tent Sisters Red Tent Sisters Podcast on iTunes Red Tent Sisters YouTube channel Confidence-Building Secrets for Pleasuring Him (Home Study Program) | Kim Sedgwick Confidence-Building Secrets for Pleasuring Her (Home Study Program) | Kim Sedgwick Petals: Fine Art Photography of Vulvas | Nick Karras The Vagina Monologues | Eve Ensler Talk Sex with Sue | Sue Johanson Caya Gel | Eco-friendly Contraceptive Gel | Ecosex.ca Yes Baby | Sperm Friendly Lubricant | Ecosex.ca FFP 008 | Trying to conceive after long-term birth control use | Fertility Awareness | Amy Sedgwick Join the community! Find us on the Fertility Friday Facebook Fan Page Music Credit: Intro/Outro music Produced by Sirc of (The Nock)

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Buy Seth's book, "Marriage Isn't For You" here: http://goo.gl/wFSZlR Buy the full interview here, and support the Anasazi Foundation and The Loveumentary: http://goo.gl/XopAZ2 "When you're looking for solutions, they have odd ways of making themselves appear.” -Seth "You never lose by loving. You never lose out by choosing to love somebody else." -Kim "You live when you give.” -Seth "To love is always going to be the right decision.” -Seth “The more you understand someone, the more you love them.” -Seth